Why You're AFRAID of Intimacy (Not Just Being Picky)
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Date: 2023-12-30
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ryanricks318
Tally tick err doth register sum measures much kinda feels at ood moment the more intense one is meh n so unsures bouts dat synchronization process o the effects o mine affections whrrrs on others kinda rubs em rong sways so don't wanna become a bringer o pain afflictions on another err so often tis mine natures so loopy this doon baddy spiral o lonesome really idfk hows to shares sensations properly too wilds mine impulses instincts adverse reactive materia being o minezelf err but true wot sensation relief is letting tension freely thnx furs bravely sharing atmospheric conditionings conducive environmental steady pace ugh dat professional rate u favors itty wears so wells so cute when exhausted meh so feeling spent n pent up yikes dat fomo stuff so needy wits de takings cares don't wanna takes furs granted better laters the learning than nevers so nows to b done dat stubborn streak gives gud greef itty gud rest but dat road o recovery ahead dares we finds ours pitys togetherness yet sharing shadows n limelights starshine kinda in the makings curiousity to finds dat oot growth potential inevitably due spimes pardona meh mine intrusion those crowds n theys meanys hads at sucha loss furs most o alls I've known jus hows to considerations us wanna ago discovery dat wits ya zounds so phenomenonal tlc plz b gentle err wot kinda in d moody o appreciation any ya gots nya sojourneys
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Tally tick err doth register sum measures much kinda feels at ood moment the more intense one is meh n so unsures bouts dat synchronization process o the effects o mine affections whrrrs on others kinda rubs em rong sways so don't wanna become a bringer o pain afflictions on another err so often tis mine natures so loopy this doon baddy spiral o lonesome really idfk hows to shares sensations properly too wilds mine impulses instincts adverse reactive materia being o minezelf err but true wot sensation relief is letting tension freely thnx furs bravely sharing atmospheric conditionings conducive environmental steady pace ugh dat professional rate u favors itty wears so wells so cute when exhausted meh so feeling spent n pent up yikes dat fomo stuff so needy wits de takings cares don't wanna takes furs granted better laters the learning than nevers so nows to b done dat stubborn streak gives gud greef itty gud rest but dat road o recovery ahead dares we finds ours pitys togetherness yet sharing shadows n limelights starshine kinda in the makings curiousity to finds dat oot growth potential inevitably due spimes pardona meh mine intrusion those crowds n theys meanys hads at sucha loss furs most o alls I've known jus hows to considerations us wanna ago discovery dat wits ya zounds so phenomenonal tlc plz b gentle err wot kinda in d moody o appreciation any ya gots nya sojourneys
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psych2go
I was betrayed by my 1st long term relationship, disabled on top of that, I m my own support system unfortunately. I have very little family that would go that extra mile if I was careless with a relationship.
I feel like I want to pursue a relationship again but i have to be extra cautious compared to an able body
I somewhat envy that my roommate finally found love, and he has the same disability I do but he has a family that will enable his screw ups, already have with his ex who he has a child with. I can see it happening with the new girlfriend too.
I ve been betrayed so much I don t even have wiggle room to let loose.
And with the state of the world these last few years. I find it harder to trust people.
I m going to try my best to work on me next year and hopefully someday I ll be ready again.
The vid really helped weed out the root of my issues or at least acknowledge them.
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I was betrayed by my 1st long term relationship, disabled on top of that, I m my own support system unfortunately. I have very little family that would go that extra mile if I was careless with a relationship.
I feel like I want to pursue a relationship again but i have to be extra cautious compared to an able body
I somewhat envy that my roommate finally found love, and he has the same disability I do but he has a family that will enable his screw ups, already have with his ex who he has a child with. I can see it happening with the new girlfriend too.
I ve been betrayed so much I don t even have wiggle room to let loose.
And with the state of the world these last few years. I find it harder to trust people.
I m going to try my best to work on me next year and hopefully someday I ll be ready again.
The vid really helped weed out the root of my issues or at least acknowledge them.
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BirdieSenpai
John Lennon said it well in Take 1 of the Beatles' performance of Don't Let Me Down in their famous rooftop performance:
I know re reshi ga blee blue gee go.
In other words, don't deny your own needs if they aren't unhealthy and aren't wrong for the sake of fear or pride, but don't feel that you must go out of your way to satisfy them as quickly as possible or to your own detriment. In seeking to fulfill your healthy, good needs, you may end up making bad decisions or doing things that are unhealthy or wrong if you don't go about it in the right way. Pace yourself, know your limitations, set healthy expectations of yourself, and don't be too afraid or prideful to ask for help.
There will be failures, but we must get back up again and move forward after each one, and, often, there will be someone there to help us get to our feet; we just don't always realize or accept it.
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John Lennon said it well in Take 1 of the Beatles' performance of Don't Let Me Down in their famous rooftop performance:
I know re reshi ga blee blue gee go.
In other words, don't deny your own needs if they aren't unhealthy and aren't wrong for the sake of fear or pride, but don't feel that you must go out of your way to satisfy them as quickly as possible or to your own detriment. In seeking to fulfill your healthy, good needs, you may end up making bad decisions or doing things that are unhealthy or wrong if you don't go about it in the right way. Pace yourself, know your limitations, set healthy expectations of yourself, and don't be too afraid or prideful to ask for help.
There will be failures, but we must get back up again and move forward after each one, and, often, there will be someone there to help us get to our feet; we just don't always realize or accept it.
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MerihemXx
I'm an Old Soul. I can't really connect with my own generation and I find that a lot of girls who're in my age group are actually really immature, egotistical, and haven't grown out of that phase where they just want Bad Boys' who exhibit Dark Triad traits. Maybe because they're exciting or because of low self-esteem, they think they can't do better than those guys. I don't get out much, just because I prefer to just web-surf and learn new things instead of going out somewhere. I just don't know of many interesting places to go anywhere where I live. Just restaurants, bars, and a cider mill every here or there. How do I connect with other people who share the same love of knowledge and intrigue as I do? Libraries, maybe?
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I'm an Old Soul. I can't really connect with my own generation and I find that a lot of girls who're in my age group are actually really immature, egotistical, and haven't grown out of that phase where they just want Bad Boys' who exhibit Dark Triad traits. Maybe because they're exciting or because of low self-esteem, they think they can't do better than those guys. I don't get out much, just because I prefer to just web-surf and learn new things instead of going out somewhere. I just don't know of many interesting places to go anywhere where I live. Just restaurants, bars, and a cider mill every here or there. How do I connect with other people who share the same love of knowledge and intrigue as I do? Libraries, maybe?
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jemynix8160
I feel like I was always reluctant for intimacy or just reluctant to any type of chance for hanging out one-on-one with a male friend. Thus I've turned many invites down in that scenario because it just doesn't feel right to me- I prefer hanging out with a group of friends instead of being on one-on-one hangouts- or dates. The idea just doesn't sit right with me so I feel like I'm always pushing guys away if they get too close. I don't really understand why but I talked about it with my female friends and it could just be that aromantic? But I'm not sure.
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I feel like I was always reluctant for intimacy or just reluctant to any type of chance for hanging out one-on-one with a male friend. Thus I've turned many invites down in that scenario because it just doesn't feel right to me- I prefer hanging out with a group of friends instead of being on one-on-one hangouts- or dates. The idea just doesn't sit right with me so I feel like I'm always pushing guys away if they get too close. I don't really understand why but I talked about it with my female friends and it could just be that aromantic? But I'm not sure.
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fasher_oblivion
I was eager to talk to my crush, but at the same time I was afraid to open up about certain things and just happened to always get shy and butterflies in my stomach around her. I wanted things to work out between us, but they didn't because I was immature and just not ready for a relationship. Some of my actions were in lieu of symptoms of BPD, indicating that I may have a strong fear of abandonment but didn't fully realize it at the time. So yeah, I was in love or at least I thought I was, but was afraid to take it further/I just didn't know how.
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I was eager to talk to my crush, but at the same time I was afraid to open up about certain things and just happened to always get shy and butterflies in my stomach around her. I wanted things to work out between us, but they didn't because I was immature and just not ready for a relationship. Some of my actions were in lieu of symptoms of BPD, indicating that I may have a strong fear of abandonment but didn't fully realize it at the time. So yeah, I was in love or at least I thought I was, but was afraid to take it further/I just didn't know how.
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RingKing-0
Hard to be afraid of something nobody wants to give you.
Seriously though, I wish I had someone to be intimate with. I have been betrayed a lot, but after a year of loneliness and self-reflection. I discovered that intimacy is something I really want. I want to be loved. Sadly looks are everything and hook up culture is rampant. Very hard to find someone who actually wants to commit. When you look like me it's even harder.
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Hard to be afraid of something nobody wants to give you.
Seriously though, I wish I had someone to be intimate with. I have been betrayed a lot, but after a year of loneliness and self-reflection. I discovered that intimacy is something I really want. I want to be loved. Sadly looks are everything and hook up culture is rampant. Very hard to find someone who actually wants to commit. When you look like me it's even harder.
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Tank_Destroyer_135
Im 14 and from turkey, i got rejected 3 times in a row, and i started to hate girls and also started to believe that i dont need a gf or love. honeslty i never been really happy in my life cuz of family problems and other things like that. i always see people in my age having girlfriends for like a week and leaving, cuz of fun or to show off, but i sometimes just want a special person and want to be loved once.
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Im 14 and from turkey, i got rejected 3 times in a row, and i started to hate girls and also started to believe that i dont need a gf or love. honeslty i never been really happy in my life cuz of family problems and other things like that. i always see people in my age having girlfriends for like a week and leaving, cuz of fun or to show off, but i sometimes just want a special person and want to be loved once.
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alexaistrying
Ik i've said this already on a similar video but this is more fitting for the new year: after all my failed attempts at making relationships (platonic & romantic, i've just giving up on chasing them, which ik is supposed to be good but is it really if you're socially awkward? And if that means shutting out other people who wanna potentially meet me, then so be it i guess. It's for my and the other people's sanity
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Ik i've said this already on a similar video but this is more fitting for the new year: after all my failed attempts at making relationships (platonic & romantic, i've just giving up on chasing them, which ik is supposed to be good but is it really if you're socially awkward? And if that means shutting out other people who wanna potentially meet me, then so be it i guess. It's for my and the other people's sanity
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Moonlava722
I am 51. And I have already come to the fact that I will never be in a relationship or married again. I was married at 19 divorced by 21 with 2 small children under 2. I did not have time for anyone or let alone have some one be another parent. So I focused on my children and so glad I did. So now 51 I am good I see all the crap people put up with. I'm tired and old.
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I am 51. And I have already come to the fact that I will never be in a relationship or married again. I was married at 19 divorced by 21 with 2 small children under 2. I did not have time for anyone or let alone have some one be another parent. So I focused on my children and so glad I did. So now 51 I am good I see all the crap people put up with. I'm tired and old.
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Krish. Sookraj
I had family members who were narcissistic and they ignore my feelings and emotions so growing up I only learned to keep to myself and I'm quite unattractive 4. 5 out of 10
Overweight acne and lack of fashion which can be improved
And one thing I learned from them is money is life it's peace of mind and allows you to get your dreams
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I had family members who were narcissistic and they ignore my feelings and emotions so growing up I only learned to keep to myself and I'm quite unattractive 4. 5 out of 10
Overweight acne and lack of fashion which can be improved
And one thing I learned from them is money is life it's peace of mind and allows you to get your dreams
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psych2go
I'm going to be honest finding love is beyond comprehension the hardest thing in existence and then when you talk about one of the impregnate them get them knocked up and get them pregnant having babies they want to freak out over that stuff that's why I finally in love is hard and finding their true love of your life
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I'm going to be honest finding love is beyond comprehension the hardest thing in existence and then when you talk about one of the impregnate them get them knocked up and get them pregnant having babies they want to freak out over that stuff that's why I finally in love is hard and finding their true love of your life
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psych2go
I do feel all of that as i have a lot of past traumas and bad experiences with ohters that truly let me believe that i don't need anyone anymore. That's just how i grow up with all the bullying and my friends betrayal and so on. I can't even describe my feelings anymore as i just feel empty and that's it.
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I do feel all of that as i have a lot of past traumas and bad experiences with ohters that truly let me believe that i don't need anyone anymore. That's just how i grow up with all the bullying and my friends betrayal and so on. I can't even describe my feelings anymore as i just feel empty and that's it.
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jamisonburton7598
I wonder if it's betrayal trauma with my tween friends that dumped me for a year before I moved. What sucks is I really want to a loving relationship but I get anxious and scared when I start to feel that intimacy. Ugh! But I'm not done yet! I'm going to ask a sweet girl out. I hope she says yes
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I wonder if it's betrayal trauma with my tween friends that dumped me for a year before I moved. What sucks is I really want to a loving relationship but I get anxious and scared when I start to feel that intimacy. Ugh! But I'm not done yet! I'm going to ask a sweet girl out. I hope she says yes
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vanspacerobot87
Even having friends gives me major anxiety. I'm lucky to be very close to my mom and sister though. I really want close intimacy with someone else, since it does get. lonely, but when it actually happens my brain tells me to run for the hills lol. Idk I'm kinda hopeless now.
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Even having friends gives me major anxiety. I'm lucky to be very close to my mom and sister though. I really want close intimacy with someone else, since it does get. lonely, but when it actually happens my brain tells me to run for the hills lol. Idk I'm kinda hopeless now.
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nightfivv4058
I wish i could have some help but it's too much for me to say anything to my parents or anyone, because I don't trust anyone so I would appreciate any kind of help from anyone, and if that seem not enough, I nearly cried when you at the end told that you matter
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I wish i could have some help but it's too much for me to say anything to my parents or anyone, because I don't trust anyone so I would appreciate any kind of help from anyone, and if that seem not enough, I nearly cried when you at the end told that you matter
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snaukball8764
Personally, i don't think I've been betrayed, but I keep my distance from people because I'm a bit too cautious.
Like what if they're just acting like they're telling the truth so they can get on my good side then betray me later sort of thing: /
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Personally, i don't think I've been betrayed, but I keep my distance from people because I'm a bit too cautious.
Like what if they're just acting like they're telling the truth so they can get on my good side then betray me later sort of thing: /
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unicorniodonut1295
When you realize how cruel and mean can people be, you start to be more cautious for your personal health, but it turns out that there are also good people that want something with you and you can't know it because of your distrust
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When you realize how cruel and mean can people be, you start to be more cautious for your personal health, but it turns out that there are also good people that want something with you and you can't know it because of your distrust
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032Glitch
Well
My love life is a paradox in itself.
I'm not even sad about it, I got used to it.
Each person I had crush on didn't feel the same as me.
It might be because most of them were internet friendships.
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Well
My love life is a paradox in itself.
I'm not even sad about it, I got used to it.
Each person I had crush on didn't feel the same as me.
It might be because most of them were internet friendships.
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