5 Warning Signs Someone is Not Fine
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Date: 2023-08-20
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1dude02
Whats sad is that I had this happening to me, but I denied these signs in myself even with friends and family. My ex said it was because of stress for me trying to change for her and that it was part of the challenge of changing. She was the only one encouraging me when everyone told me she was manipulating me.
I told her I needed space and alone time to fix myself but she said I was being selfish and pushing her away, hurting her. I was confused how me wanting to take care of myself was selfish when I knew I had problems. She told me that she also was struggling and sacrificing too and that I wasnt doing enough as she was, thus that my effort was not enough and that me stopping to try to fix things was selfish.
I walked away from the relationship, now about 12 days out of it. I feel a lot better, have noticed my studying habits return, exercise and diet feel normal again, socializing feels safe again when back then I felt bad to socialize without her because she said I was choosing others over her and making her my hobby at my convenience.
Its hard bc she was my first relationship and my first love, really my first everything. My friends told me she was toxic, manipulative, narcissistic, etc, and regardless if she is or isnt, I still hope she can get better. I think she wasnt fine and ended up draining me to the point where I became not fine myself, finally stepping away from the good and bad to return to a fine state again. Sometimes others opinions dont matter but remember who is actually looking out for your well being and who is just looking at your life drama as entertainment.
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Whats sad is that I had this happening to me, but I denied these signs in myself even with friends and family. My ex said it was because of stress for me trying to change for her and that it was part of the challenge of changing. She was the only one encouraging me when everyone told me she was manipulating me.
I told her I needed space and alone time to fix myself but she said I was being selfish and pushing her away, hurting her. I was confused how me wanting to take care of myself was selfish when I knew I had problems. She told me that she also was struggling and sacrificing too and that I wasnt doing enough as she was, thus that my effort was not enough and that me stopping to try to fix things was selfish.
I walked away from the relationship, now about 12 days out of it. I feel a lot better, have noticed my studying habits return, exercise and diet feel normal again, socializing feels safe again when back then I felt bad to socialize without her because she said I was choosing others over her and making her my hobby at my convenience.
Its hard bc she was my first relationship and my first love, really my first everything. My friends told me she was toxic, manipulative, narcissistic, etc, and regardless if she is or isnt, I still hope she can get better. I think she wasnt fine and ended up draining me to the point where I became not fine myself, finally stepping away from the good and bad to return to a fine state again. Sometimes others opinions dont matter but remember who is actually looking out for your well being and who is just looking at your life drama as entertainment.
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Madeline
I'm pretty good, how are you? Is a lot easier to say when somebody asks me how I'm doing.
Oh I have a piles of failure on my kitchen sink and a sea of depression in the laundry room, can't brush the knot out of my hair that's been up in a bun for 5 days and I haven't showered in two weeks, how are you?
I don't ever want to get into it, mostly. Of course I want SOMEONE to know I'm not okay, but I hardly think it's worth the hassle to talk about it because i know that no one can really help me anyway. The way I'm wired, Im just not convinced of anything ever, though. I'd like to ask for help, but I will probably keep pushing it down and go it alone for the foreseeable future. I hope to change that one day, but in all honesty, I'm either too intelligent or too ignorant to function properly in this world and most likely can't change my mind to make it so. I'ma grin and bear it, giving myself away to every deserving person I encounter, lifting other's spirits at least a bit higher and helping out where I can. How I live with my struggles is not advice that I would give anyone. I was thinking about deleting this comment before posting for fear of discouraging someone reading it, but I want someone to know. Even if they're millions of miles away. I just want someone to know. I'm not okay.
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I'm pretty good, how are you? Is a lot easier to say when somebody asks me how I'm doing.
Oh I have a piles of failure on my kitchen sink and a sea of depression in the laundry room, can't brush the knot out of my hair that's been up in a bun for 5 days and I haven't showered in two weeks, how are you?
I don't ever want to get into it, mostly. Of course I want SOMEONE to know I'm not okay, but I hardly think it's worth the hassle to talk about it because i know that no one can really help me anyway. The way I'm wired, Im just not convinced of anything ever, though. I'd like to ask for help, but I will probably keep pushing it down and go it alone for the foreseeable future. I hope to change that one day, but in all honesty, I'm either too intelligent or too ignorant to function properly in this world and most likely can't change my mind to make it so. I'ma grin and bear it, giving myself away to every deserving person I encounter, lifting other's spirits at least a bit higher and helping out where I can. How I live with my struggles is not advice that I would give anyone. I was thinking about deleting this comment before posting for fear of discouraging someone reading it, but I want someone to know. Even if they're millions of miles away. I just want someone to know. I'm not okay.
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Luciferishere
I have never shared this with anybody but this video makes me just want to say something!
I myself am that negative / Down / unfocused / uninterested / stressed out / and I just can't seem to find any motivation to find the sunlight In everyday, instead it's always dark, and lonely, I push everything close to me, but once they go, I cry to myself and ask why do I do this! I cannot want something but not try for it, Its like wanting to live rich but not try to work a day in your life! It doesn't work that way. So I don't know what's wrong with me, but I am very not okay, MENTAL HEALTH is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT. I didn't understand that until I got the first hand understanding of what it is like, and it's really scary especially when you have nothing and nobody anymore, and when you barely have a phone, when you sleep half your days on the streets.
I don't understand how people can say, get a job, or work on yourself, and just so many different things when they don't know what I am going through and the struggles I face to even get the simplest of things, for them it may be simple for me it's like Going to hell and back. I just wish I had some help and maybe food more often than I have today. And more water. Thank you for your videos I love each and all I love it
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I have never shared this with anybody but this video makes me just want to say something!
I myself am that negative / Down / unfocused / uninterested / stressed out / and I just can't seem to find any motivation to find the sunlight In everyday, instead it's always dark, and lonely, I push everything close to me, but once they go, I cry to myself and ask why do I do this! I cannot want something but not try for it, Its like wanting to live rich but not try to work a day in your life! It doesn't work that way. So I don't know what's wrong with me, but I am very not okay, MENTAL HEALTH is EXTREMELY IMPORTANT. I didn't understand that until I got the first hand understanding of what it is like, and it's really scary especially when you have nothing and nobody anymore, and when you barely have a phone, when you sleep half your days on the streets.
I don't understand how people can say, get a job, or work on yourself, and just so many different things when they don't know what I am going through and the struggles I face to even get the simplest of things, for them it may be simple for me it's like Going to hell and back. I just wish I had some help and maybe food more often than I have today. And more water. Thank you for your videos I love each and all I love it
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RialVestro
I can relate to ALL OF THESE. And I'm going to add, someone once asked me when I was younger How are you? and I started to give an honest answer but the person then said something that has always stuck with me ever since. That was a rhetorical question. You're just suppose to say fine and then we both move on with our lives. No one actually wants to hear your struggles, it's just something people say. So yeah ever since then whenever someone asks me How are you? I respond Fine. even when I fell like shit cause I suspect they don't actually care and just want to hear the generic response. I don't know why that's a standard greeting if most people don't want or expect an honest answer. I feel like I'm lying every time I say Fine and I just feel worse then I already did and even resent that you even asked the question in the first place.
I don't know if it's like that for everyone, that's just my personal experience. Maybe you should do a part 2 of how to tell when someone is actually showing genuine concern for your well being or just asking How are you? rhetorically so they can pretend to care without actually doing anything.
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I can relate to ALL OF THESE. And I'm going to add, someone once asked me when I was younger How are you? and I started to give an honest answer but the person then said something that has always stuck with me ever since. That was a rhetorical question. You're just suppose to say fine and then we both move on with our lives. No one actually wants to hear your struggles, it's just something people say. So yeah ever since then whenever someone asks me How are you? I respond Fine. even when I fell like shit cause I suspect they don't actually care and just want to hear the generic response. I don't know why that's a standard greeting if most people don't want or expect an honest answer. I feel like I'm lying every time I say Fine and I just feel worse then I already did and even resent that you even asked the question in the first place.
I don't know if it's like that for everyone, that's just my personal experience. Maybe you should do a part 2 of how to tell when someone is actually showing genuine concern for your well being or just asking How are you? rhetorically so they can pretend to care without actually doing anything.
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Gaston
I recently had to deal with a lot of trauma. Im 19 and I was friends with someone online for 5 years. He was being toxic, so I blocked him on Discord. He apologized and I appreciated it, but I didnt want to unblock, so I didnt and when I didnt want to he turned on me and started telling everyone lies about me like being a pedophile because I chat with younger people on Discord and Roblox: . Im just playing though and he knows that, but the messages hes sending everyone has given me trauma: . Im not ok. He even got one of my other online friends to turn on me easily. I hate him so much. I feel so used because I helped him study and do his homework.
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I recently had to deal with a lot of trauma. Im 19 and I was friends with someone online for 5 years. He was being toxic, so I blocked him on Discord. He apologized and I appreciated it, but I didnt want to unblock, so I didnt and when I didnt want to he turned on me and started telling everyone lies about me like being a pedophile because I chat with younger people on Discord and Roblox: . Im just playing though and he knows that, but the messages hes sending everyone has given me trauma: . Im not ok. He even got one of my other online friends to turn on me easily. I hate him so much. I feel so used because I helped him study and do his homework.
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Blackmagik
2021-2022 is by far my worst year
Here's why:
I have so much problems about my life dat I cannot control, for example, my crush dat we're liked eachother got into a hospital. She got hit in her head but she didn't feel pain. But hours later, she got dizzy n passed out. I was rlly worrying about her cuz we're at Long Distance Relationship. I did so so much to her to make her happy n feel better to her childhood memories. My mind just Can't process normally, I jst tell myself dat why her, not me? and I'm Depressed, Loneliness, and Worrying dat I'm not ready for highschool life. So I talked to others dat can make me better.
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2021-2022 is by far my worst year
Here's why:
I have so much problems about my life dat I cannot control, for example, my crush dat we're liked eachother got into a hospital. She got hit in her head but she didn't feel pain. But hours later, she got dizzy n passed out. I was rlly worrying about her cuz we're at Long Distance Relationship. I did so so much to her to make her happy n feel better to her childhood memories. My mind just Can't process normally, I jst tell myself dat why her, not me? and I'm Depressed, Loneliness, and Worrying dat I'm not ready for highschool life. So I talked to others dat can make me better.
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Mental
Im dealing with crippling depression & apathy. Being 22, Im stressed out about being in this crazy world. I quit my job this morning bc Im having nocturnal anxiety attacks. A lot of the things Ive wanted for myself are now inaccessible. My environment gives me anxiety so Im never at ease im always on edge. Im at the point where I dont care about my livelihood anymore. Its too much. If you feel like this video, you are not alone. I dont want to live for everyone else anymore. This world is crap & I refuse to live in it any further.
(Just noticing my name is the complete opposite of where I am now from when I created it)
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Im dealing with crippling depression & apathy. Being 22, Im stressed out about being in this crazy world. I quit my job this morning bc Im having nocturnal anxiety attacks. A lot of the things Ive wanted for myself are now inaccessible. My environment gives me anxiety so Im never at ease im always on edge. Im at the point where I dont care about my livelihood anymore. Its too much. If you feel like this video, you are not alone. I dont want to live for everyone else anymore. This world is crap & I refuse to live in it any further.
(Just noticing my name is the complete opposite of where I am now from when I created it)
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AllEnigmas
I have a friend that would hang out with us, and talk about our favorite characters in books along with us, but for some reason near the end of school last year (I cant really talk to her besides at school, she lives all the way across town) she kind of just stopped. She stopped talking with us, hanging out with anyone, or just seeming to have fun. It might be just me who thinks this is happening, but this video does help with trying to figure out if shes okay or not. I hope when school does start again soon I can help her out and see whats the problem if there is a problem
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I have a friend that would hang out with us, and talk about our favorite characters in books along with us, but for some reason near the end of school last year (I cant really talk to her besides at school, she lives all the way across town) she kind of just stopped. She stopped talking with us, hanging out with anyone, or just seeming to have fun. It might be just me who thinks this is happening, but this video does help with trying to figure out if shes okay or not. I hope when school does start again soon I can help her out and see whats the problem if there is a problem
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Li(gh)t
It hurts more when you can't start working on yourself or change things for the better because you know circumstances will be hard on you for a while. As a person struggling everyday just with the hope of things becoming stable enough so that they can take charge of their life again, I wish everyone else in the same position as me all the best for their entire life ahead. Things will be better someday. for you, me and everyone else.
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It hurts more when you can't start working on yourself or change things for the better because you know circumstances will be hard on you for a while. As a person struggling everyday just with the hope of things becoming stable enough so that they can take charge of their life again, I wish everyone else in the same position as me all the best for their entire life ahead. Things will be better someday. for you, me and everyone else.
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education
All these signs resonate with me. I've recently been diagnosed with ADHD and I'm still struggling to find my place. It's so hard to keep up with others and I'm scared of letting people down again like I always had. Even maintaining simple connections with others is difficult and anxiety-inducing I have given up meeting new people. My mind is a mess, literally, and I've been shutting myself out. I don't know what to do
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All these signs resonate with me. I've recently been diagnosed with ADHD and I'm still struggling to find my place. It's so hard to keep up with others and I'm scared of letting people down again like I always had. Even maintaining simple connections with others is difficult and anxiety-inducing I have given up meeting new people. My mind is a mess, literally, and I've been shutting myself out. I don't know what to do
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Morayo
We say fine because if you answer miserable when someone asks how are you their next question is why and im not ready/willing to explain in this moment, so instead I'm fine
In effort to stop lying I have started saying I'm living I'm alive I'm not dead yet.
Usually gets a good laugh from whoever I'm talking to, which is nice.
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We say fine because if you answer miserable when someone asks how are you their next question is why and im not ready/willing to explain in this moment, so instead I'm fine
In effort to stop lying I have started saying I'm living I'm alive I'm not dead yet.
Usually gets a good laugh from whoever I'm talking to, which is nice.
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Christine
This sounds like how most people who know the truth of what is happening in the world. No wonder they are sad. We should all be sad and doing everything we can to stop the ongoing death by medical intervention. It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to A PROFOUNDLY SICK SOCIETY. J. Krishnmurti. How very right he is.
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This sounds like how most people who know the truth of what is happening in the world. No wonder they are sad. We should all be sad and doing everything we can to stop the ongoing death by medical intervention. It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to A PROFOUNDLY SICK SOCIETY. J. Krishnmurti. How very right he is.
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Ruqssss
I just don't want to tell others my problems because they just don't listen and start to brag about their problems and saying your problems are nothing compared to mine. I have a friend I didn't know she was gaslighting and manipulating me until i saw your videos thanks to pysch2go! I would've never knew her true colours
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I just don't want to tell others my problems because they just don't listen and start to brag about their problems and saying your problems are nothing compared to mine. I have a friend I didn't know she was gaslighting and manipulating me until i saw your videos thanks to pysch2go! I would've never knew her true colours
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Nattyloo82
I could relate to a lot of these but what upsets me is Im not sure how to improve on myself, knowing my mental health is bad doesnt help me with anything. How can I improve my lifestyle and get back to being the person the people who care for me the most, knows me to be?
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I could relate to a lot of these but what upsets me is Im not sure how to improve on myself, knowing my mental health is bad doesnt help me with anything. How can I improve my lifestyle and get back to being the person the people who care for me the most, knows me to be?
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Tripstudios_
Hi! I'm trip I know it's a pretty big thing but can you put some Spanish captions? I want to help a friend but they can't understand English and I know many people also have this problem, you don't have to so think of this as a suggestion: ) thank you for listening
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Hi! I'm trip I know it's a pretty big thing but can you put some Spanish captions? I want to help a friend but they can't understand English and I know many people also have this problem, you don't have to so think of this as a suggestion: ) thank you for listening
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Lolany
I think I'm the one who is not fine my sister just said something about my crush just asked me do you luv him and I started yelling and got mad but after that a little big she just noticed that I don't talk she asked me what happened I just told her I'm just not in mood
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I think I'm the one who is not fine my sister just said something about my crush just asked me do you luv him and I started yelling and got mad but after that a little big she just noticed that I don't talk she asked me what happened I just told her I'm just not in mood
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AimeeFrizzyAnime
I'm the person who's not fine. I feel like all 5 have been something I've struggled with. The lacking in ability to function properly is something I've been worried about lately. I am seeing a counselor, but have been wondering if I should see a psychiatrist
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I'm the person who's not fine. I feel like all 5 have been something I've struggled with. The lacking in ability to function properly is something I've been worried about lately. I am seeing a counselor, but have been wondering if I should see a psychiatrist
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Eddie
I have all these 5 signs. .but what should i do? no one cares. so i'd decided to stay away from them. its been a week that i haven't to talk to someone. always overthingking. .and the worst part may come again. i want to end this life. to make them happy i guest.
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I have all these 5 signs. .but what should i do? no one cares. so i'd decided to stay away from them. its been a week that i haven't to talk to someone. always overthingking. .and the worst part may come again. i want to end this life. to make them happy i guest.
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PsychToLight
Sudden outbursts of emotion.
Being withdrawn or uninterested.
Disregard to their physical health.
Perfectionism and Guilt.
A negative outlook on life.
Not wanting to talk about themself.
Exaggerated or forced happiness.
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Sudden outbursts of emotion.
Being withdrawn or uninterested.
Disregard to their physical health.
Perfectionism and Guilt.
A negative outlook on life.
Not wanting to talk about themself.
Exaggerated or forced happiness.
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waahime
I need some advice. Im a fresh graduate who started to work half months ago. Everyday I feel unhappy while working there. I wanted to quit my job that was very mentally draining for me.
Do you think that I should continue to work or quit?
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I need some advice. Im a fresh graduate who started to work half months ago. Everyday I feel unhappy while working there. I wanted to quit my job that was very mentally draining for me.
Do you think that I should continue to work or quit?
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Phil
I am rather honest person and if someone ask me how am I and I'm not really good (usually, then I just tell truth. At start. But seeing their reactions to that makes me saying that I'm fine next time when ask, and ofc that's lie: c
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I am rather honest person and if someone ask me how am I and I'm not really good (usually, then I just tell truth. At start. But seeing their reactions to that makes me saying that I'm fine next time when ask, and ofc that's lie: c
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Martyn
I can relate, but not majorly. However, having lost my adorable wife to cancer last year, I know that I am not the man that I once was, and I will need time to get myself back together; quite a lot of time, it seems.
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I can relate, but not majorly. However, having lost my adorable wife to cancer last year, I know that I am not the man that I once was, and I will need time to get myself back together; quite a lot of time, it seems.
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Lukepuke311
I have an issue (started 2020) and until it started getting very bad (start of 2022) I didnt notice but when it started getting terrible (Ive just got past the worst of it) I realised something wasnt right
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I have an issue (started 2020) and until it started getting very bad (start of 2022) I didnt notice but when it started getting terrible (Ive just got past the worst of it) I realised something wasnt right
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adorable
Everything is relatable. Voice is calming and art is amazing. Love all your videos. When you telling people that you are not fine they distance themselves or you are not important for them. Lots of love
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Everything is relatable. Voice is calming and art is amazing. Love all your videos. When you telling people that you are not fine they distance themselves or you are not important for them. Lots of love
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Molly
I never say that I'm fine I used to always just say good because if I say that I'm good people don't ever ask and they don't assume. You won't have to explain to them why you're not good or not fine.
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I never say that I'm fine I used to always just say good because if I say that I'm good people don't ever ask and they don't assume. You won't have to explain to them why you're not good or not fine.
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