How You're Raised Affects Your Life Later On
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Date: 2024-06-28
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DreameRides1221
Ok so, novel warning:
My mom was an alcoholic. When she was sober she was the best mom ever, but when she was drinking, well
She would constantly complain and make me do stuff. She would fall asleep from like, 12: 00-5: 00, when dinner was. I would come out of my room and tell her that it was time for dinner (I just recently learned how to cook. She would yell at me and tell me for half an hour more rest. When I would ask why, she would tell me that she only got 2 hours of sleep (she had severe insomnia and anorexia) and to leave her alone for half an hour. When 5: 30 came, I would tell her to make dinner. Her response was Go find some snacks. I can’t make dinner right now. When I asked why she yelled at me. Usually then I would call my dad. I’m an only child and they got divorced when I was 4. He lives across the street from my mom’s house. I can just remember so many nights where I would get the phone and she would scream at me to put it down. I can still picture her lunging (not really more like running but it felt like lunging to me) towards me. I would hold the phone high over my head and she would scream as a pushed her out of my room and closed the door. My room also had no locks. I can remember me rushing to punch the numbers in to call my dad. So many nights were like that. I developed a fear of sleeping in my mom’s bed because she would yell at me when I was trying to sleep. I also have a fear of change, because so much of my life is uncertainty. I can’t even change the layout of my room, it’s that bad. Although when my mom was sober she would take me shopping and cook some of the best meals, she had a talent for cooking. My mom really did shape me. I feel like I got some discipline from her drinking. In most ways, it ruined my life, but in others, it made me stronger and not as afraid (or more afraid, when you think about it) Yes I have a really bad temper, but I’m working on it, and it’s improved a lot. And I have the best friend ever, shes like a therapist to me. She really understands. Sometimes I’ll explain that I will constantly do something and say I don’t know why I do and she is always right there with an explanation. Sadly, 1 month ago my mom passed due to her anorexia and alcoholism.
Thats all! Just explaining how it shaped me! (Who’s not even an adult yet)
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Ok so, novel warning:
My mom was an alcoholic. When she was sober she was the best mom ever, but when she was drinking, well
She would constantly complain and make me do stuff. She would fall asleep from like, 12: 00-5: 00, when dinner was. I would come out of my room and tell her that it was time for dinner (I just recently learned how to cook. She would yell at me and tell me for half an hour more rest. When I would ask why, she would tell me that she only got 2 hours of sleep (she had severe insomnia and anorexia) and to leave her alone for half an hour. When 5: 30 came, I would tell her to make dinner. Her response was Go find some snacks. I can’t make dinner right now. When I asked why she yelled at me. Usually then I would call my dad. I’m an only child and they got divorced when I was 4. He lives across the street from my mom’s house. I can just remember so many nights where I would get the phone and she would scream at me to put it down. I can still picture her lunging (not really more like running but it felt like lunging to me) towards me. I would hold the phone high over my head and she would scream as a pushed her out of my room and closed the door. My room also had no locks. I can remember me rushing to punch the numbers in to call my dad. So many nights were like that. I developed a fear of sleeping in my mom’s bed because she would yell at me when I was trying to sleep. I also have a fear of change, because so much of my life is uncertainty. I can’t even change the layout of my room, it’s that bad. Although when my mom was sober she would take me shopping and cook some of the best meals, she had a talent for cooking. My mom really did shape me. I feel like I got some discipline from her drinking. In most ways, it ruined my life, but in others, it made me stronger and not as afraid (or more afraid, when you think about it) Yes I have a really bad temper, but I’m working on it, and it’s improved a lot. And I have the best friend ever, shes like a therapist to me. She really understands. Sometimes I’ll explain that I will constantly do something and say I don’t know why I do and she is always right there with an explanation. Sadly, 1 month ago my mom passed due to her anorexia and alcoholism.
Thats all! Just explaining how it shaped me! (Who’s not even an adult yet)
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sarahn. h355
It’s strange, I suppose. I grew up in a household of a single working mom and a dad I didn’t really want to be around. (I hated that I was scared of him because his emotions were ever changing) I didn’t feel looked after because my parents were technically not around and I was always in a daycare. I justgrew up. It doesn’t bother me, but it does make things different with my child as I raise them.
Because of how things work, I’m a stay at home mom. I upkeep the house and of course, take care of my child. I try to encourage creative play with their stuffed animals, make sure they don’t watch too much tv and I firmly believe in consequences to poorly taken actions. I’m not horribly harsh and I have succeeded in making sure that my child knows that you NEVER speak or act out of anger. My husband and I try to make sure we talk things out. But they’re still young and the repetition is annoying. But we keep trying.
I just want my child to know that I will always be there for them. And I sometimes feel I don’t do enough. But I know, factually, that I do.
It’s weird and it’s hard sometimes. But I love every moment.
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It’s strange, I suppose. I grew up in a household of a single working mom and a dad I didn’t really want to be around. (I hated that I was scared of him because his emotions were ever changing) I didn’t feel looked after because my parents were technically not around and I was always in a daycare. I justgrew up. It doesn’t bother me, but it does make things different with my child as I raise them.
Because of how things work, I’m a stay at home mom. I upkeep the house and of course, take care of my child. I try to encourage creative play with their stuffed animals, make sure they don’t watch too much tv and I firmly believe in consequences to poorly taken actions. I’m not horribly harsh and I have succeeded in making sure that my child knows that you NEVER speak or act out of anger. My husband and I try to make sure we talk things out. But they’re still young and the repetition is annoying. But we keep trying.
I just want my child to know that I will always be there for them. And I sometimes feel I don’t do enough. But I know, factually, that I do.
It’s weird and it’s hard sometimes. But I love every moment.
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CReeseMLP_YT
My dad always Used to whoop me Daily after school for no reason even if i didn't do anything wrong, even when my mom wasn't home. Then after he was kicked out we moved out. My mom started yelling and arguing with my stepdad afterwards and turned cold, i was picked on at school by other boys and yelled at during school. Than at age 16 my dad teied to come back into my life making things worse, he whooped me at 16 and Than Threatened me with his weapon, explaining i somehow have to face reality by force and That I'm a Coward. I was than harassed at school in the bathroom and i wanted to Game Over myself. I now realize that ALL Men are Evil until there's none left. I believe that women want Males To Be Fit Ripped 6ft/6 figure and that They Must be Packing Down under Or else.
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My dad always Used to whoop me Daily after school for no reason even if i didn't do anything wrong, even when my mom wasn't home. Then after he was kicked out we moved out. My mom started yelling and arguing with my stepdad afterwards and turned cold, i was picked on at school by other boys and yelled at during school. Than at age 16 my dad teied to come back into my life making things worse, he whooped me at 16 and Than Threatened me with his weapon, explaining i somehow have to face reality by force and That I'm a Coward. I was than harassed at school in the bathroom and i wanted to Game Over myself. I now realize that ALL Men are Evil until there's none left. I believe that women want Males To Be Fit Ripped 6ft/6 figure and that They Must be Packing Down under Or else.
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forgotmyname4807
Any kids whose parents are emotionally um. not the most pleasant but then they sacrifice literally everything to give you a comfortable life. Like if i say some of the things my parents said separately they sound like the most loving n hardworking parents n in another context you wanna scream with anger with the things they do- like in a context where you have a chance to hate them but then you never can because of every other thing they have done for you- literally their whole life was to cater us children n make sure we live a good life- the only thing is that they dk abt the emotional aspect n how it effects- cus cycle of abuse so like idk i can never hate them even though they're so soo flawed in this one aspect.
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Any kids whose parents are emotionally um. not the most pleasant but then they sacrifice literally everything to give you a comfortable life. Like if i say some of the things my parents said separately they sound like the most loving n hardworking parents n in another context you wanna scream with anger with the things they do- like in a context where you have a chance to hate them but then you never can because of every other thing they have done for you- literally their whole life was to cater us children n make sure we live a good life- the only thing is that they dk abt the emotional aspect n how it effects- cus cycle of abuse so like idk i can never hate them even though they're so soo flawed in this one aspect.
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kandoozi9341
My mom cheated on my dad. After she won custody of me and my siblings she lied to us and told us that it was actually my dad who cheated on her and forbid us from having a relationship with her. She then abused her position as the only parent I had in my life to use my desire for love and support against me to bully me. I've been recovering in therapy and my life is much better now that I am free of her but I cannot help but grieve at the years of my life I will never get back because I had a warped perception of life and other people because of the abuse I suffered. Thank you for reading and I hope whoever you are you are healing too.
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My mom cheated on my dad. After she won custody of me and my siblings she lied to us and told us that it was actually my dad who cheated on her and forbid us from having a relationship with her. She then abused her position as the only parent I had in my life to use my desire for love and support against me to bully me. I've been recovering in therapy and my life is much better now that I am free of her but I cannot help but grieve at the years of my life I will never get back because I had a warped perception of life and other people because of the abuse I suffered. Thank you for reading and I hope whoever you are you are healing too.
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tommynotinnit9231
I've been told I have very narcissistic traits that I've been getting over but I've experienced 3 out of 4 of those and it was the first three but all equal amounts of it, sometimes my parents were too busy, they're really strict, I didn't get many compliments as a child so I seek for attention alot and I've been controlling it, I've seen a lot of aggression as a child and I was bullied in school so I've gotten used to yelling at people when I slightly get angry and I've had therapy but I've actually been getting better.
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I've been told I have very narcissistic traits that I've been getting over but I've experienced 3 out of 4 of those and it was the first three but all equal amounts of it, sometimes my parents were too busy, they're really strict, I didn't get many compliments as a child so I seek for attention alot and I've been controlling it, I've seen a lot of aggression as a child and I was bullied in school so I've gotten used to yelling at people when I slightly get angry and I've had therapy but I've actually been getting better.
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Hammylover-xm9ty
Hi physc2go my parents where barely even home beacause of work they wanted us to happy and have money but all i wanted was them to be homelike basically my whole life they werent there all the time they would only go home wen they dont have work but there were barely times like that and i had a nanny who would take care of us and the house im also the youngest by the way and to be honest im more close to our nanny than my own parents well physc2go can i ask What adult am i going to be I’ll be fine with any answer
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Hi physc2go my parents where barely even home beacause of work they wanted us to happy and have money but all i wanted was them to be homelike basically my whole life they werent there all the time they would only go home wen they dont have work but there were barely times like that and i had a nanny who would take care of us and the house im also the youngest by the way and to be honest im more close to our nanny than my own parents well physc2go can i ask What adult am i going to be I’ll be fine with any answer
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Anonym-yr4qn
Oddly enough.
I don't really recognize myself there. (anymore)
But me and my relatives have always been just people who happen share a house. Not an actual Family.
Everybody is doing his own thing, no meaningful connection whatsoever, and i mostly learned how to articulate from RPGs and Animated Shows.
(Things such as; vocabulary)
(Also got my values from shows like Avatar: The last Airbender)
. And only recently realized that this is actually quite sad.
. After a Therapy Session.
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Oddly enough.
I don't really recognize myself there. (anymore)
But me and my relatives have always been just people who happen share a house. Not an actual Family.
Everybody is doing his own thing, no meaningful connection whatsoever, and i mostly learned how to articulate from RPGs and Animated Shows.
(Things such as; vocabulary)
(Also got my values from shows like Avatar: The last Airbender)
. And only recently realized that this is actually quite sad.
. After a Therapy Session.
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danielmeuler2877
I am now dealing with parents that need quite a bit of help from in their advanced age. My father had little patients when dealing with me as a small child but now fully expects MAX patients when I interact with him. Often I struggle with not tearing into him like he did me when I was little and made a mistake. Constantly called a Retard when I made a mistake or just did something dumb. He complains who young people treat older people, I shake my head and try to be better than what was afforded to me.
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I am now dealing with parents that need quite a bit of help from in their advanced age. My father had little patients when dealing with me as a small child but now fully expects MAX patients when I interact with him. Often I struggle with not tearing into him like he did me when I was little and made a mistake. Constantly called a Retard when I made a mistake or just did something dumb. He complains who young people treat older people, I shake my head and try to be better than what was afforded to me.
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htxdy
hm. I find this is untrue, I felt my parents raised me in a very strict way, they scream, shout and go crazy with things.
But I feel that isnt the case with me. Im really good realizing and controlling my emotions, and once I was angry, my friends told me I had a really nice session of anger, conveying proper messages and solving the problems instead. So id say not all what we experienced during childhood could shape ourselves in a one on one or similar manner. Maybe some of us just good enough to not do that
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hm. I find this is untrue, I felt my parents raised me in a very strict way, they scream, shout and go crazy with things.
But I feel that isnt the case with me. Im really good realizing and controlling my emotions, and once I was angry, my friends told me I had a really nice session of anger, conveying proper messages and solving the problems instead. So id say not all what we experienced during childhood could shape ourselves in a one on one or similar manner. Maybe some of us just good enough to not do that
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psych2go
My mother did everything she could to raise us properly. My father always had a bad temper, always quick to anger at the smallest inconvenience. Make a mistake and he either hits us, shakes us by the hair or use the leather belt on us. I seek a loving relationship with a person who shares all of my passions and interests but I don't want to have kids. I fear I would end up treating them the way my father did us. No such a person exists for me. Perhaps I'm better off staying single the rest of my life.
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My mother did everything she could to raise us properly. My father always had a bad temper, always quick to anger at the smallest inconvenience. Make a mistake and he either hits us, shakes us by the hair or use the leather belt on us. I seek a loving relationship with a person who shares all of my passions and interests but I don't want to have kids. I fear I would end up treating them the way my father did us. No such a person exists for me. Perhaps I'm better off staying single the rest of my life.
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Straycat29
This actually happened to me. Unconsciously, I copied my parents' aggressive behavior and perfectionism. As a teen, I thought it was normal, but as I grew older and became more conscious, I realized that something was wrong with me. That's why I avoided looking in the mirror as much as possible for a long time. Whenever I saw myself in the mirror, I didn't see myself, I only saw the reflection of my parents' angry expressions. It was like a nightmare, but I was awake.
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This actually happened to me. Unconsciously, I copied my parents' aggressive behavior and perfectionism. As a teen, I thought it was normal, but as I grew older and became more conscious, I realized that something was wrong with me. That's why I avoided looking in the mirror as much as possible for a long time. Whenever I saw myself in the mirror, I didn't see myself, I only saw the reflection of my parents' angry expressions. It was like a nightmare, but I was awake.
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Psyque-ok6vq
But why are there psychopath while they were raised and loved by their parents. But I do agree that some people who are rude were the one less given attention when they were young or those that projects good in public but literally mean and evil to others were somewhat exposed on the same way when they were young. It's how they were raised. But not all people are bad especially those who fear God, somewhat has this conscience of not doing bad in any forms.
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But why are there psychopath while they were raised and loved by their parents. But I do agree that some people who are rude were the one less given attention when they were young or those that projects good in public but literally mean and evil to others were somewhat exposed on the same way when they were young. It's how they were raised. But not all people are bad especially those who fear God, somewhat has this conscience of not doing bad in any forms.
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psych2go
It wasn't too much later I realised I have my mum and dad's temper and impatience they would shout and hit me. I don't blame them though there parents were probably the same. I didn't hit my kids through my two grown up kids found support as young adults and are both thriving now we stay in touch I do wish that I had the skills to be a more able parent don't let your parents be the making of you if it's not positive is my message seek guidance elsewhere
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It wasn't too much later I realised I have my mum and dad's temper and impatience they would shout and hit me. I don't blame them though there parents were probably the same. I didn't hit my kids through my two grown up kids found support as young adults and are both thriving now we stay in touch I do wish that I had the skills to be a more able parent don't let your parents be the making of you if it's not positive is my message seek guidance elsewhere
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bastionsea2829
I feel I dealt with the 'trauma' of how I was raised before I left school (having my dad be supportive helped) but I fear that it wormed it's way into my head and I could use that as a pattern for how I treat my kid in the future
I mitigate the fear by realizing that my wife will also have input and at least counter anything negative I carry through. I'm also raising a kitten and nothing of my past has surfaced, so I might just be over fearful
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I feel I dealt with the 'trauma' of how I was raised before I left school (having my dad be supportive helped) but I fear that it wormed it's way into my head and I could use that as a pattern for how I treat my kid in the future
I mitigate the fear by realizing that my wife will also have input and at least counter anything negative I carry through. I'm also raising a kitten and nothing of my past has surfaced, so I might just be over fearful
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psych2go
This is huge. You're raised by at least 5 main parties, ideally. Your caregiver/s, your peers, society and teachers, your mentors who can relate to you perhaps better than your parents can, and very importantly, yourself. I love the topic of this video because no one is an island. Behind most success stories is often an army of people playing a role at different times. And what makes every ongoing relationship impactful is the space that was held.
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This is huge. You're raised by at least 5 main parties, ideally. Your caregiver/s, your peers, society and teachers, your mentors who can relate to you perhaps better than your parents can, and very importantly, yourself. I love the topic of this video because no one is an island. Behind most success stories is often an army of people playing a role at different times. And what makes every ongoing relationship impactful is the space that was held.
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melnior
It's hard to raise a child when you are so sure you are doing everything wrong and aren't deserving love.
I know.
I try my best and even with a psychological help I am so scare of messing up my little angel.
The worst part. i am not even a parent: only the parental figure at best. I took her off a very dark situation and now i try to take care of her and to protect her the best i can.
Theses videos help me as much as they scare me.
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It's hard to raise a child when you are so sure you are doing everything wrong and aren't deserving love.
I know.
I try my best and even with a psychological help I am so scare of messing up my little angel.
The worst part. i am not even a parent: only the parental figure at best. I took her off a very dark situation and now i try to take care of her and to protect her the best i can.
Theses videos help me as much as they scare me.
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neon_212
Hey, psych2go, I'm here now to thank you for your help, your videos REALLY helped me understand myself, now i know im not this much of a weirdo I thought I was I have like 30 of your videos still unwatched in mybplaylist but imbsure they will help me too, thank you again edit: this video is one of the most important i saw, and almost all of those i do feel unfortunately. My parents are pretty bad at being parents and they did argue A LOT
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Hey, psych2go, I'm here now to thank you for your help, your videos REALLY helped me understand myself, now i know im not this much of a weirdo I thought I was I have like 30 of your videos still unwatched in mybplaylist but imbsure they will help me too, thank you again edit: this video is one of the most important i saw, and almost all of those i do feel unfortunately. My parents are pretty bad at being parents and they did argue A LOT
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sarab. 2873
The Ax forgets but, the Tree remembers. That is quite interesting. Never heard that and learned something new from this video. These videos seem to make me sad. perhaps because my parents divorced when I was young. They weren't emotionally there, neither one. As I'm older now, I am healing childhood wounds and becoming the best version of myself possible. I try to take one day at a time Also Love myself.
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The Ax forgets but, the Tree remembers. That is quite interesting. Never heard that and learned something new from this video. These videos seem to make me sad. perhaps because my parents divorced when I was young. They weren't emotionally there, neither one. As I'm older now, I am healing childhood wounds and becoming the best version of myself possible. I try to take one day at a time Also Love myself.
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joeyRaven201
I'm raised really badly. I never feel connected with my family. I don't feel safe at home. 2 and 3 are so real I have a lot of problems with friends and relations I always feel cold and alone I am really mentally ill and I told my parents that u can't keep up with school because of it wat did you geas they said a just do it you only have a month of school left this year and neglected my mental health
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I'm raised really badly. I never feel connected with my family. I don't feel safe at home. 2 and 3 are so real I have a lot of problems with friends and relations I always feel cold and alone I am really mentally ill and I told my parents that u can't keep up with school because of it wat did you geas they said a just do it you only have a month of school left this year and neglected my mental health
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