5 Signs You're Love Bombing Without Realizing It
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Date: 2024-06-27
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seltascare4713
I need some help. I'm in a difficult situation where I truly wanted and want to make her happy, and maybe it was too much. It all started when She tried to stop loving me because she thought it would be healthier for both of us. When I asked why she thought it was unhealthy, she mostly said she wouldn't be good for me. Yet, when I asked if she wanted to be in a relationship with me, she almost always said yes or even begged me not to leave her.
She started judging me for almost everything I did. When I wasn't around, she treated me coldly and looked at me with expressions like. _. or -. -. Later, she realized this behaviour was damaging both of us, and we got back together, even better than before. However, I told her it still hurt, and she promised to heal it. But sometimes, her cold and teasing behaviour continued, which made me doubt if she actually loved me. She often didn't respond to my questions, making me constantly fear abandonment because I couldn't figure out where we stood.
This led me to constantly ask if she loved me. Sometimes I got a loving response, other times I was ignored, causing me significant stress. I told her about this and finally got something I could hold onto, only to be ignored a few days later, even though I knew she had time to respond. When I asked her the next day why she didn't respond, she said, You had chess. This confused me because I missed her and got no reply.
Maybe she felt pressured to answer me, but I just needed to know if she would provide the promised support or not. I was trying to build a healthy relationship, but perhaps she didn't realize that I'm not needy, I just need time to heal.
So my question is: Was this love bombing
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I need some help. I'm in a difficult situation where I truly wanted and want to make her happy, and maybe it was too much. It all started when She tried to stop loving me because she thought it would be healthier for both of us. When I asked why she thought it was unhealthy, she mostly said she wouldn't be good for me. Yet, when I asked if she wanted to be in a relationship with me, she almost always said yes or even begged me not to leave her.
She started judging me for almost everything I did. When I wasn't around, she treated me coldly and looked at me with expressions like. _. or -. -. Later, she realized this behaviour was damaging both of us, and we got back together, even better than before. However, I told her it still hurt, and she promised to heal it. But sometimes, her cold and teasing behaviour continued, which made me doubt if she actually loved me. She often didn't respond to my questions, making me constantly fear abandonment because I couldn't figure out where we stood.
This led me to constantly ask if she loved me. Sometimes I got a loving response, other times I was ignored, causing me significant stress. I told her about this and finally got something I could hold onto, only to be ignored a few days later, even though I knew she had time to respond. When I asked her the next day why she didn't respond, she said, You had chess. This confused me because I missed her and got no reply.
Maybe she felt pressured to answer me, but I just needed to know if she would provide the promised support or not. I was trying to build a healthy relationship, but perhaps she didn't realize that I'm not needy, I just need time to heal.
So my question is: Was this love bombing
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elinope4745
Damn, this used to be a useful term for me. But not anymore. I don't have evil intentions when I flood people with attention early in the relationship. They just are covered in a shiny layer of new, and my attention is effortless. It won't be like that in a year, I actually need a lot of space. I just don't during the first few months. I don't have bad intentions, and what I did used to be called love bombing, but back then it was more of a self realization, not a complaint made by someone else. Heck, most girls love it. I am the one who gets the problem, I accidently attract women who need less space then I do, and they will crowd me later when I go back to normal, so I get myself into incompatible relationships. But I was never doing it to be mean or manipulate people. It didn't ignore their boundaries, it just gave a false impression that I would be like that later.
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Damn, this used to be a useful term for me. But not anymore. I don't have evil intentions when I flood people with attention early in the relationship. They just are covered in a shiny layer of new, and my attention is effortless. It won't be like that in a year, I actually need a lot of space. I just don't during the first few months. I don't have bad intentions, and what I did used to be called love bombing, but back then it was more of a self realization, not a complaint made by someone else. Heck, most girls love it. I am the one who gets the problem, I accidently attract women who need less space then I do, and they will crowd me later when I go back to normal, so I get myself into incompatible relationships. But I was never doing it to be mean or manipulate people. It didn't ignore their boundaries, it just gave a false impression that I would be like that later.
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HolyGrail-jx6km
okay so most of this seems wrapped around the idea that you’ve only been seeing this person for a small amount of time. i’m not with this guy anymore, but i dated him on an off for two years and i never felt like i got enough attention, waiting hours for a response i could probably count on my hands the number of times i received phone calls from him and i work two jobs on top of school so i know it’s not like he didn’t have enough time to speak to me he does less than i do and i’m always quick to respond, was i love bombing him like a little before 3: 44 in the vid it says demanding attention and not giving them any time to be an individual is love bombing
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okay so most of this seems wrapped around the idea that you’ve only been seeing this person for a small amount of time. i’m not with this guy anymore, but i dated him on an off for two years and i never felt like i got enough attention, waiting hours for a response i could probably count on my hands the number of times i received phone calls from him and i work two jobs on top of school so i know it’s not like he didn’t have enough time to speak to me he does less than i do and i’m always quick to respond, was i love bombing him like a little before 3: 44 in the vid it says demanding attention and not giving them any time to be an individual is love bombing
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noiZtheartist
I learned a several years ago that I have a tendency to do this in my friendships since I have an anxious attachment style
but I've been deliberately working on this since learning it and it's helped prevent me from scaring people off somewhat
Though this refresher is helpful
It's important for me to continue being mindful and check myself
Even though it's not intentional manipulation
I am aware that people can feel pressured to entertain me and I've been working on my communication to make things clear to others that there is no obligation to reciprocate or want the things I do
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I learned a several years ago that I have a tendency to do this in my friendships since I have an anxious attachment style
but I've been deliberately working on this since learning it and it's helped prevent me from scaring people off somewhat
Though this refresher is helpful
It's important for me to continue being mindful and check myself
Even though it's not intentional manipulation
I am aware that people can feel pressured to entertain me and I've been working on my communication to make things clear to others that there is no obligation to reciprocate or want the things I do
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xstarryxnight
I am always worried that I am being a toxic person towards others but my counselor told me I am to supportive and sympathetic. Thus, I am more likely to attract toxic people and be taken advantage of The struggle of find a healthy balance with people and not wanting to hurt feelings
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I am always worried that I am being a toxic person towards others but my counselor told me I am to supportive and sympathetic. Thus, I am more likely to attract toxic people and be taken advantage of The struggle of find a healthy balance with people and not wanting to hurt feelings
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mistag42698
I once had a girlfriend who loved bombed the crap out of me. And I didn’t have enough guts to break up with her because I I didn’t want to be single. But I learned that I’m not alone, and I have to keep my mental health in check after watching this. thank you, psych2go.
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I once had a girlfriend who loved bombed the crap out of me. And I didn’t have enough guts to break up with her because I I didn’t want to be single. But I learned that I’m not alone, and I have to keep my mental health in check after watching this. thank you, psych2go.
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howdyworld
Love bombing is such an energy vampire to the person on the receiving end. It can make them lose their individuality and leads to being trapped and controlled, especially if the person is an empath who struggle to say no. It can be dangerous.
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Love bombing is such an energy vampire to the person on the receiving end. It can make them lose their individuality and leads to being trapped and controlled, especially if the person is an empath who struggle to say no. It can be dangerous.
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duckyducky2000
I'm pretty sure I do the seek of validation and the gift smothering, but I don't think I expect too much of them, like here, I saw this and thought of you. and the validation thing. I'm pretty sure I'm just that insecure
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I'm pretty sure I do the seek of validation and the gift smothering, but I don't think I expect too much of them, like here, I saw this and thought of you. and the validation thing. I'm pretty sure I'm just that insecure
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i. am. star_82
thank you for putting out this video! i’m not a very materialistic person, so i LOVE to give and give and give. it hadn’t ever crossed my mind that it may be toxic so thank you for enlightening everyone: )
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thank you for putting out this video! i’m not a very materialistic person, so i LOVE to give and give and give. it hadn’t ever crossed my mind that it may be toxic so thank you for enlightening everyone: )
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saffyesperas2278
I can, but people don’t tell me where the boundary is. Then again, I am supposed to figure it out by myself right So they don’t need to tell me because I am supposed to know by the way they act right
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I can, but people don’t tell me where the boundary is. Then again, I am supposed to figure it out by myself right So they don’t need to tell me because I am supposed to know by the way they act right
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hope4fur130
Being the first like is insane
Edit: I’m glad that Love bombing isn’t what I expected it to be, because I’m very affectionate person and was expecting to be like repremanded for being too clingy
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Being the first like is insane
Edit: I’m glad that Love bombing isn’t what I expected it to be, because I’m very affectionate person and was expecting to be like repremanded for being too clingy
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Ventiis_Boredom
1- 0: 46 (Fast move)
2- 1: 57 (Constantly seeking validation)
3- 3: 14 (Not ok with boundaries)
4- 4: 06 (Unconscious smothering them)
5- 4: 52 (Pressuring them into decisions)
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1- 0: 46 (Fast move)
2- 1: 57 (Constantly seeking validation)
3- 3: 14 (Not ok with boundaries)
4- 4: 06 (Unconscious smothering them)
5- 4: 52 (Pressuring them into decisions)
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shttrash
I used to really gift her something from time to time, but I have no intention so whatever to her when giving these gifts. I just love her so much and I want to treat her that much. Am I love bombing
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I used to really gift her something from time to time, but I have no intention so whatever to her when giving these gifts. I just love her so much and I want to treat her that much. Am I love bombing
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rababselouahbi6885
That's exactly how my online boyfriend used to act so i thought he was being manipulative which made me break up with him but after hearing this I'm starting to doubt my decision: (
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That's exactly how my online boyfriend used to act so i thought he was being manipulative which made me break up with him but after hearing this I'm starting to doubt my decision: (
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uifwastaken
Dude that is totally me. But dont all borderlines love bomb Its so natural tho. it might be part of why the relationships tend to last 3-4 months tops: ) thanks this video helps immensely
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Dude that is totally me. But dont all borderlines love bomb Its so natural tho. it might be part of why the relationships tend to last 3-4 months tops: ) thanks this video helps immensely
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okapime
I have someone doing this to me, but is unaware and we're not even in a relationship i wanted to open up to this person of how i was feeling. But i feel this person will take it the wrong way
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I have someone doing this to me, but is unaware and we're not even in a relationship i wanted to open up to this person of how i was feeling. But i feel this person will take it the wrong way
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justalpha9138
It seems like I'm doing a decent job so far at not doing these things! I always try to be respectful and mindful of my friends and their personal space, as well as their lives. :)
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It seems like I'm doing a decent job so far at not doing these things! I always try to be respectful and mindful of my friends and their personal space, as well as their lives. :)
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noobzito2
Timestamp!
-0: 46 Fast move
-1: 56 Constantly seeking validation
-3: 13 not ok with boundaries
-4: 06 Unconcious smothering them
-4: 51 Pressuring them into decisions
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Timestamp!
-0: 46 Fast move
-1: 56 Constantly seeking validation
-3: 13 not ok with boundaries
-4: 06 Unconcious smothering them
-4: 51 Pressuring them into decisions
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AnitaFAKEA
Literally all of my ex’s. Then blamed me for love bombing them because I left. Projection, like I was a magnet for narcissistic abusers. But I’m happily with my true love now
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Literally all of my ex’s. Then blamed me for love bombing them because I left. Projection, like I was a magnet for narcissistic abusers. But I’m happily with my true love now
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ur_bestie_egg
As soon as I saw this video pop up, I clicked. I’ve been worried I’ve been accidentally love bombing for a long time now. Thanks for all you do to educate people
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As soon as I saw this video pop up, I clicked. I’ve been worried I’ve been accidentally love bombing for a long time now. Thanks for all you do to educate people
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