How To Stop Obsessing Over Someone
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Date: 2024-09-07
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clampity
I had gotten bullied in school which affected me as a person and made me really unlikeable. The trauma from that experience made me completely non trusting, severely affected my social, mental and emotional wellness, and I would often experience very vocal panic attacks in class that made me a total embarrassment. I did things people would consider utterly insane.
this one kid however, accepted me without judgement. Despite not knowing him that long or knowing much about him, I grew quite fond of him platonically.
As someone who had just transferred schools that year it meant a lot. On my first day he actually went up to me and introduced himself outside of those silly icebreaker games they make us do. He immediately struck me as a good person. I remember him as the first person at my new school to be nice to me.
he of all people, though, left the school. i heard he had some struggles of his own and i’ve been thinking repeatedly about if he’s doing okay. i’ve been lonely since and replaying interactions in my head over and over again and imagining obsessive fantasies that won’t happen, since hes gone from my life now. This video helps and gives me the encouragement to move on, I miss him and hope he’s doing well, wherever he is. I have friends now and am slowly healing from the bullying experience, but I’m still working on being in a more stable place mentally and opening my circle of trust: ’)
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I had gotten bullied in school which affected me as a person and made me really unlikeable. The trauma from that experience made me completely non trusting, severely affected my social, mental and emotional wellness, and I would often experience very vocal panic attacks in class that made me a total embarrassment. I did things people would consider utterly insane.
this one kid however, accepted me without judgement. Despite not knowing him that long or knowing much about him, I grew quite fond of him platonically.
As someone who had just transferred schools that year it meant a lot. On my first day he actually went up to me and introduced himself outside of those silly icebreaker games they make us do. He immediately struck me as a good person. I remember him as the first person at my new school to be nice to me.
he of all people, though, left the school. i heard he had some struggles of his own and i’ve been thinking repeatedly about if he’s doing okay. i’ve been lonely since and replaying interactions in my head over and over again and imagining obsessive fantasies that won’t happen, since hes gone from my life now. This video helps and gives me the encouragement to move on, I miss him and hope he’s doing well, wherever he is. I have friends now and am slowly healing from the bullying experience, but I’m still working on being in a more stable place mentally and opening my circle of trust: ’)
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Deadmeat10000
I think this video has helped me in a slightly different way than most of the others commenting. I've been reconnecting with a friend (a girl) recently after years of not seeing each other. Despite that, we've managed to keep in touch over text. In our time apart, I slowly started developing feelings for her, but I never wanted to jeopardize our friendship. But after seeing her for the first time in years, I quickly realized that my feelings for her were stronger than I realized. We have plans to see each other again next weekend, and I plan to tell her how I feel so I can finally know if she feels the same. I'm excited and nervous, and I've been thinking endlessly about her the past few days. After watching this video, I believe it's become a bit of an obsession. This will potentially be my first real relationship, so this is also the first time I've felt this strongly about anyone before. All that being said, I know I must calm down and stop overthinking about it and let whatever happens happen. At the end of the day, she's still my friend, and I'll finally have closure.
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I think this video has helped me in a slightly different way than most of the others commenting. I've been reconnecting with a friend (a girl) recently after years of not seeing each other. Despite that, we've managed to keep in touch over text. In our time apart, I slowly started developing feelings for her, but I never wanted to jeopardize our friendship. But after seeing her for the first time in years, I quickly realized that my feelings for her were stronger than I realized. We have plans to see each other again next weekend, and I plan to tell her how I feel so I can finally know if she feels the same. I'm excited and nervous, and I've been thinking endlessly about her the past few days. After watching this video, I believe it's become a bit of an obsession. This will potentially be my first real relationship, so this is also the first time I've felt this strongly about anyone before. All that being said, I know I must calm down and stop overthinking about it and let whatever happens happen. At the end of the day, she's still my friend, and I'll finally have closure.
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justmoch8985
i was carried away by my feelings towards someone who just trying to be polite. our relationship up and down, now hes trying to set the boundaries that i respect with. and he wants to move on with his life for marriage and having a family on his own. i just want him know, that i wish nothing but the successful future for him.
funny enough whenever i’m asking some plain questions that caught him red-handed to avoiding me, he immediately try to fix it. nor he denied it. this type of communication is so hard to fix, because i just know him for his alter ego, and not his true personality. while all i want to know him better, he seems my kind of action is like a threat for him to open up himself more to others. so i will let him to find a way to heal himself first, forgive himself and accepting what’s already there.
if you read it. good luck for your journey, Yahamad.
you know my love is unconditionally,
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i was carried away by my feelings towards someone who just trying to be polite. our relationship up and down, now hes trying to set the boundaries that i respect with. and he wants to move on with his life for marriage and having a family on his own. i just want him know, that i wish nothing but the successful future for him.
funny enough whenever i’m asking some plain questions that caught him red-handed to avoiding me, he immediately try to fix it. nor he denied it. this type of communication is so hard to fix, because i just know him for his alter ego, and not his true personality. while all i want to know him better, he seems my kind of action is like a threat for him to open up himself more to others. so i will let him to find a way to heal himself first, forgive himself and accepting what’s already there.
if you read it. good luck for your journey, Yahamad.
you know my love is unconditionally,
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amyisrael7718
Journaling is a good way to reinforce cognitive behavior. I am a very obsessive person, and very possessive. I have been in therapy for years. I actually consider myself graduated from therapy. Growth isn’t a straight line. It’s more like a spiral. Each turn around, I can see new things. I learn and expand. I need a journal to go over this emotional and behavioral progress. Learning how to talk to yourself or treat yourself is the number one skill to start with. Your journal will help you to see the good in yourself. The hard work you’ve done. I hope that maybe my sharing what works for me might help others. Don’t count the years. Count how many ways you’ve been there for yourself as u go along. I could go on and on. The rest is up to anyone else if they need it.
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Journaling is a good way to reinforce cognitive behavior. I am a very obsessive person, and very possessive. I have been in therapy for years. I actually consider myself graduated from therapy. Growth isn’t a straight line. It’s more like a spiral. Each turn around, I can see new things. I learn and expand. I need a journal to go over this emotional and behavioral progress. Learning how to talk to yourself or treat yourself is the number one skill to start with. Your journal will help you to see the good in yourself. The hard work you’ve done. I hope that maybe my sharing what works for me might help others. Don’t count the years. Count how many ways you’ve been there for yourself as u go along. I could go on and on. The rest is up to anyone else if they need it.
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lindaalvarez8855
I was in Love with someone who said they Loved me, too, but was not in Love with me. Those words hurt me so much & still do to this day. It has been since 2020 since I saw this person last & unfortunately cannot get that person out of my head & wish I knew what they were doing now. I even sent 2 letters to that person & they sent them back to me unopened. I had a picture of us together, after getting my unopened letters back, I destroyed the picture of us with tears in my eyes. Yet, to this day, I still Obsess about that person. I want to move on with my life, but I'm really having a difficult time. This person was the only person who really knew me well, emotionally speaking & I'm still feeling the pain.
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I was in Love with someone who said they Loved me, too, but was not in Love with me. Those words hurt me so much & still do to this day. It has been since 2020 since I saw this person last & unfortunately cannot get that person out of my head & wish I knew what they were doing now. I even sent 2 letters to that person & they sent them back to me unopened. I had a picture of us together, after getting my unopened letters back, I destroyed the picture of us with tears in my eyes. Yet, to this day, I still Obsess about that person. I want to move on with my life, but I'm really having a difficult time. This person was the only person who really knew me well, emotionally speaking & I'm still feeling the pain.
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psych2go
Yeah, i talk to someone, it's all good nd fun, nd we have an amazing time together in the beginning, nd then i get too emotionally attached, i start to obsess over them thinking about them, day dreaming, waiting for a text for them nd then I feel like I'm clinging too much to them nd i distance myself for a bit
. So that it doesn't looks like I'm obsessed with them but the outcomes are always negative instead of the other way. what do i do
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Yeah, i talk to someone, it's all good nd fun, nd we have an amazing time together in the beginning, nd then i get too emotionally attached, i start to obsess over them thinking about them, day dreaming, waiting for a text for them nd then I feel like I'm clinging too much to them nd i distance myself for a bit
. So that it doesn't looks like I'm obsessed with them but the outcomes are always negative instead of the other way. what do i do
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arthurpenfield8229
I can't get over this person because we used our minds to talk and that experience, I'll never have again. I lost the only person that truly loved and cared about me because someone else had to sabotage my relationship. When you're not physically attractive and you don't have many options and you lose your true love, you'll never bounce back to where you were before. Let alone find anyone else to love. Makes me very sad.
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I can't get over this person because we used our minds to talk and that experience, I'll never have again. I lost the only person that truly loved and cared about me because someone else had to sabotage my relationship. When you're not physically attractive and you don't have many options and you lose your true love, you'll never bounce back to where you were before. Let alone find anyone else to love. Makes me very sad.
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1timothydillon
This happened to me recently, starting at the end of June. Nearly overwhelming anxiety all through July. My imagination really ran away with me. What has gotten me through it is the realization that it is nothing more than a story. It's a movie, or a really good book that has affected me. August has been barely a blip of concern. I'm nearly completely over her, because she isn't really real, just in my imagination.
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This happened to me recently, starting at the end of June. Nearly overwhelming anxiety all through July. My imagination really ran away with me. What has gotten me through it is the realization that it is nothing more than a story. It's a movie, or a really good book that has affected me. August has been barely a blip of concern. I'm nearly completely over her, because she isn't really real, just in my imagination.
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gatubela_nay
This is totally me. I am on the stage of non contact with that person, because I know inmediately when he talks to me the cycle begins. I find myself rereading old texts and living past times we enjoyed each others company. I been trying to break free since 2021 but no matter how long we stop talking when we connect again the cycle repites itself and I end up dissapointed at the end. Hopefully this time is for good.
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This is totally me. I am on the stage of non contact with that person, because I know inmediately when he talks to me the cycle begins. I find myself rereading old texts and living past times we enjoyed each others company. I been trying to break free since 2021 but no matter how long we stop talking when we connect again the cycle repites itself and I end up dissapointed at the end. Hopefully this time is for good.
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vikassahu0422
same with me It's been 2 years. I remember everything like our conversation, her reactions, and where we were standing at that time. But now it would be better if I never met her. I feel goosebumps whenever I think about that moment. I even remember all the chats.
But I don't think she remembers any of these. People are born then Die, I think the only thing we are doing is making memories both good and bad.
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same with me It's been 2 years. I remember everything like our conversation, her reactions, and where we were standing at that time. But now it would be better if I never met her. I feel goosebumps whenever I think about that moment. I even remember all the chats.
But I don't think she remembers any of these. People are born then Die, I think the only thing we are doing is making memories both good and bad.
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nickw6993
This video gave me a lot of important insight on some issues i've been facing and allowed me to think about the objective of my situation rather than only my specific takeaways. This popped up in my recommended at an important time for me if i'm being truthful, and i appreciate that you've taken the time to make something so helpful for others to watch and consider. Thank you: )
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This video gave me a lot of important insight on some issues i've been facing and allowed me to think about the objective of my situation rather than only my specific takeaways. This popped up in my recommended at an important time for me if i'm being truthful, and i appreciate that you've taken the time to make something so helpful for others to watch and consider. Thank you: )
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Jetowl_me
I was crushing people, but the cycle is just like a loop. Loving them - self desperate - feels like not worth it for them - and then i give up. In the end i see them with someone else, well thats not really hurt and not worst too but sometimes. I want to be in there position where my crush love me back. Anyway its always happen just like a time loop when im crushing someone lol
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I was crushing people, but the cycle is just like a loop. Loving them - self desperate - feels like not worth it for them - and then i give up. In the end i see them with someone else, well thats not really hurt and not worst too but sometimes. I want to be in there position where my crush love me back. Anyway its always happen just like a time loop when im crushing someone lol
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ngosamwelwa7643
I've had an on off relationship for years with someone who was emotionally unavailable and i knew this truth but somehow when I was with him everything seemed perfect slowly trying to detach myself from this unhealthy loop and this video is something that's really helping me initiate that process no matter how much it crushes me i wanna feel like me again, thanks Psych2go
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I've had an on off relationship for years with someone who was emotionally unavailable and i knew this truth but somehow when I was with him everything seemed perfect slowly trying to detach myself from this unhealthy loop and this video is something that's really helping me initiate that process no matter how much it crushes me i wanna feel like me again, thanks Psych2go
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LoudelClaveveria
I'm not obsessed with someone I just don't want to be obsessed cause I already know no girl would like an ugly guy like me, I have alot of talent and potential but I'm lazy so I never do it when I want to which is why I think no one will love me so nah.
I'd rather die a virgin then be obsessed with someone who won't ever like me back
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I'm not obsessed with someone I just don't want to be obsessed cause I already know no girl would like an ugly guy like me, I have alot of talent and potential but I'm lazy so I never do it when I want to which is why I think no one will love me so nah.
I'd rather die a virgin then be obsessed with someone who won't ever like me back
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Lilbro1467
Step 1. Stop begging for their attention.
Step 2: stop relying on craft and tarot cards and astrology hoping they’ll full in love with you out of nowhere like some psycho introverted girl who doesn’t know how to talk to men and can’t control her urges.
Step 3. Move on like a normal person!
Hope this helps: )
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Step 1. Stop begging for their attention.
Step 2: stop relying on craft and tarot cards and astrology hoping they’ll full in love with you out of nowhere like some psycho introverted girl who doesn’t know how to talk to men and can’t control her urges.
Step 3. Move on like a normal person!
Hope this helps: )
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brandonhatter2493
I'm dealing with a type of obsession with a friend rn. I'm not interested in a romantic relationship with them but I trusted them a lot and they broke that trust. They didn't care the same way for me so they walked away and I flipped. It hurt a lot. I'm doing better now but it still hurts from time to time.
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I'm dealing with a type of obsession with a friend rn. I'm not interested in a romantic relationship with them but I trusted them a lot and they broke that trust. They didn't care the same way for me so they walked away and I flipped. It hurt a lot. I'm doing better now but it still hurts from time to time.
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Lilbro1467
Step 1. Stop begging for their attention.
Step 2: stop relying on craft and tarot cards hoping they’ll full in love with you out of nowhere like some psycho introverted girl who doesn’t know how to talk to men and can’t control her urges.
Step 3. Move on like a normal person!
Hope this helps: )
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Step 1. Stop begging for their attention.
Step 2: stop relying on craft and tarot cards hoping they’ll full in love with you out of nowhere like some psycho introverted girl who doesn’t know how to talk to men and can’t control her urges.
Step 3. Move on like a normal person!
Hope this helps: )
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amritpalhh9836
The thing I find is that if you fancy something it’s normal. But if you repeat patterns of liking someone who is emotionally unavailable you need to remember the realistic expectations and pros and cons and try and love yourself for who you are a lot of points in this video are valid asf hit home awesome: )
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The thing I find is that if you fancy something it’s normal. But if you repeat patterns of liking someone who is emotionally unavailable you need to remember the realistic expectations and pros and cons and try and love yourself for who you are a lot of points in this video are valid asf hit home awesome: )
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seth2750
the way I over came my obsession is I looked at the illusion that it was and listened to music that made me think of her till it was nothing but a silhouette of the girl I was thinking of. Factor the fact that the silhouette wasn't in my life and only in my mind the obsession finally melted
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the way I over came my obsession is I looked at the illusion that it was and listened to music that made me think of her till it was nothing but a silhouette of the girl I was thinking of. Factor the fact that the silhouette wasn't in my life and only in my mind the obsession finally melted
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Nihilanth1982
I miss her so much, it’s been a month. I appreciate people come and go but what I experienced with her during our travels, just me and her and no one else, I don’t think I’ll ever experience ever again. And that’s the painful part and why I’m in a depressive state.
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I miss her so much, it’s been a month. I appreciate people come and go but what I experienced with her during our travels, just me and her and no one else, I don’t think I’ll ever experience ever again. And that’s the painful part and why I’m in a depressive state.
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