THIS Is What Trauma Bonding With A Narcissist Does To You
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Date: 2024-09-11
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ApaTuna
Whenever I was 19, I ended up dating a wonderful person (they were non-binary, and I'll respect that regardless of how little they respected me. They'd take me out to food, drive anywhere I'd want, bring their little brother along and we'd act like a big nice happy family with how happy their little brother was. They were absolutely wonderful until one day where they felt a bit colder than usual, we were getting romantic, and they attacked me as we were done. One punch to the back of the head, and I should have broken up with them then and there.
Instead, I felt the need to consult my friends, and they told me to ignore it. It happened again, and I thought it was okay because I ignored it the first time. They overestimated themselves, and by all accounts they were a loser and through and through. They worked a fast food job yet I was a complete piece of sht because I wasn't struggling or working such a tough job. I was nothing and I was turned into nothing by them. I had no friends, no goals, nothing because I let them control my life because I bonded with them and because I trusted my former friends.
Today, I'm in a happy relationship with a girl who genuinely loves me for who I am. Not a person who pretends to be better than everyone else around them because they're narcissistic.
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Whenever I was 19, I ended up dating a wonderful person (they were non-binary, and I'll respect that regardless of how little they respected me. They'd take me out to food, drive anywhere I'd want, bring their little brother along and we'd act like a big nice happy family with how happy their little brother was. They were absolutely wonderful until one day where they felt a bit colder than usual, we were getting romantic, and they attacked me as we were done. One punch to the back of the head, and I should have broken up with them then and there.
Instead, I felt the need to consult my friends, and they told me to ignore it. It happened again, and I thought it was okay because I ignored it the first time. They overestimated themselves, and by all accounts they were a loser and through and through. They worked a fast food job yet I was a complete piece of sht because I wasn't struggling or working such a tough job. I was nothing and I was turned into nothing by them. I had no friends, no goals, nothing because I let them control my life because I bonded with them and because I trusted my former friends.
Today, I'm in a happy relationship with a girl who genuinely loves me for who I am. Not a person who pretends to be better than everyone else around them because they're narcissistic.
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psych2go
To be honest, I've been gaslighted, manipulated, bullied but none in the society outside wanted to have the urge of making me a friend. I guess they're Sadistic than Narcissistic. Psych2go, as long as you carry your educational videos about Narcissism this way it's really good but may I suggest something. I also request you to make more videos about Sadistic Personality Disorder as well because even though it was officially removed from the DSM-5, I think it's rather common and all should know about it for their safety as well as to convince these Sadistic individuals that they're suffering from a disorder to take appropriate treatments. I tried to be Sadistic in a conversation with ChatGPT and I saw what it would say. They honestly flag. Despite that they always recommend consulting a professional. So, I guess still they treat these kinds of traits. So, it's better to educate people about this as well.
Saying sorry to a Narcissist. I'm often the victim but there's no Narcissist but I can't prove it to anyone as I can't show him.
Basing this, honestly I'm scared to marry. I mean, I'm saying this in addition to all the negative attitudes that I've about married life.
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To be honest, I've been gaslighted, manipulated, bullied but none in the society outside wanted to have the urge of making me a friend. I guess they're Sadistic than Narcissistic. Psych2go, as long as you carry your educational videos about Narcissism this way it's really good but may I suggest something. I also request you to make more videos about Sadistic Personality Disorder as well because even though it was officially removed from the DSM-5, I think it's rather common and all should know about it for their safety as well as to convince these Sadistic individuals that they're suffering from a disorder to take appropriate treatments. I tried to be Sadistic in a conversation with ChatGPT and I saw what it would say. They honestly flag. Despite that they always recommend consulting a professional. So, I guess still they treat these kinds of traits. So, it's better to educate people about this as well.
Saying sorry to a Narcissist. I'm often the victim but there's no Narcissist but I can't prove it to anyone as I can't show him.
Basing this, honestly I'm scared to marry. I mean, I'm saying this in addition to all the negative attitudes that I've about married life.
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ArtairMcKinley
2 years ago, August 17th, 2022 I met and unknowingly developed a trauma bond with a covert narcissist. While we dated a little over a month before I ended things and took legal action, surviving everything he put me through still impacts me in little ways to this day.
This video was uploaded in good timing because according to Snapchat, 2 years ago today (September 10th, 2022) I was hospitalised as a result of the abuse my assailant inflicted upon me. Now, 2 years later today, I’m celebrating 22 months sobriety (he’d use alcohol as a means to intoxicate and assault me, have boundaries, a healthy support system and am in a healthy relationship.
Sending all my love and light to other survivors and victims of narcissistic abuse or anyone struggling to break free from a trauma bond. Please give yourself the same grace and kindness you give others and remember you are loved.
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2 years ago, August 17th, 2022 I met and unknowingly developed a trauma bond with a covert narcissist. While we dated a little over a month before I ended things and took legal action, surviving everything he put me through still impacts me in little ways to this day.
This video was uploaded in good timing because according to Snapchat, 2 years ago today (September 10th, 2022) I was hospitalised as a result of the abuse my assailant inflicted upon me. Now, 2 years later today, I’m celebrating 22 months sobriety (he’d use alcohol as a means to intoxicate and assault me, have boundaries, a healthy support system and am in a healthy relationship.
Sending all my love and light to other survivors and victims of narcissistic abuse or anyone struggling to break free from a trauma bond. Please give yourself the same grace and kindness you give others and remember you are loved.
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Ruffdrummr
I know I’ve commented on a lot of these videos recently but when I tell you getting out of a narcissistic relationship is the greatest feeling ever, it really is. Mine ended in July of this year and honestly I’ve never felt happier, I feel lighter, I’ve lost about 30-40 pounds, my body was PHYSICALLY loosening from the stress release, I met the actual Disney Story Type soulmate love of my life who I can’t imagine life without now it takes a lot of strength to leave a relationship of this caliber but when you do, it will be the best feeling you will ever physically and emotionally feel. One way to truly defeat a narcissist (because this is how I did it) is to not talk to them or cater to their needs. Isolate yourself and be silent. Once they feel that you are walking on eggshells with them, they’ll no longer see the value of the relationship and you will be free.
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I know I’ve commented on a lot of these videos recently but when I tell you getting out of a narcissistic relationship is the greatest feeling ever, it really is. Mine ended in July of this year and honestly I’ve never felt happier, I feel lighter, I’ve lost about 30-40 pounds, my body was PHYSICALLY loosening from the stress release, I met the actual Disney Story Type soulmate love of my life who I can’t imagine life without now it takes a lot of strength to leave a relationship of this caliber but when you do, it will be the best feeling you will ever physically and emotionally feel. One way to truly defeat a narcissist (because this is how I did it) is to not talk to them or cater to their needs. Isolate yourself and be silent. Once they feel that you are walking on eggshells with them, they’ll no longer see the value of the relationship and you will be free.
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xFabbyCatx
I was stuck in a relationship like that but far worse for 7 years, I desperately wanted a way out but nobody wanted to help me no how many people I tried to reach out to for help, which wasnt easy because my ex kept an eye on all my messages and never let me meet up with people alone. Even though I couldn't reach out to some people out right, they still all could see how miserable I was and how much control he had over me in public. The only way I saw out of that situation was death but could never bring myself to actaully do it. I only manged to finally escape that situation during the pandemic because he got stuck on the other side of the country when he took a trip. I have been free for almost 3 years now and I am in a much better relationship but I am still very damaged and I carry a lot of anger and resentment towords all the people who stood back and did nothing.
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I was stuck in a relationship like that but far worse for 7 years, I desperately wanted a way out but nobody wanted to help me no how many people I tried to reach out to for help, which wasnt easy because my ex kept an eye on all my messages and never let me meet up with people alone. Even though I couldn't reach out to some people out right, they still all could see how miserable I was and how much control he had over me in public. The only way I saw out of that situation was death but could never bring myself to actaully do it. I only manged to finally escape that situation during the pandemic because he got stuck on the other side of the country when he took a trip. I have been free for almost 3 years now and I am in a much better relationship but I am still very damaged and I carry a lot of anger and resentment towords all the people who stood back and did nothing.
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aurorag1710
I'm right in the middle of this. I can't seem to find the way out.
My ex partner is a Covert Narcissist. even though I'm trying No Contact and he went back to his (almost) ex-wife, I'm still bound to him mentally.
The last thing he said to me was: we're gonna get back together anyway but I do NOT want him back. We got back twice after the first break up, and none of these times went good.
I'm seeing a psychologist but she's not really helping me with this situation. I don't know if I should keep doing this. I cannot afford another doctor and share my story all over again to someone else.
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I'm right in the middle of this. I can't seem to find the way out.
My ex partner is a Covert Narcissist. even though I'm trying No Contact and he went back to his (almost) ex-wife, I'm still bound to him mentally.
The last thing he said to me was: we're gonna get back together anyway but I do NOT want him back. We got back twice after the first break up, and none of these times went good.
I'm seeing a psychologist but she's not really helping me with this situation. I don't know if I should keep doing this. I cannot afford another doctor and share my story all over again to someone else.
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eugenekrabs3837
They're not devoid of empathy and why does this happen because most people are too easy to manipulate if you're not then none of these behaviors have an effect and once that's understood then open dialogue can occur helping an unaware narcissist to become aware is possible and worth doing because it gives them a chance to change even if it's only a little bit at a time it may take years but that's where love comes in if the person is trying to change then why not stay yeah it'll be difficult but if you say you love someone then you need to show it
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They're not devoid of empathy and why does this happen because most people are too easy to manipulate if you're not then none of these behaviors have an effect and once that's understood then open dialogue can occur helping an unaware narcissist to become aware is possible and worth doing because it gives them a chance to change even if it's only a little bit at a time it may take years but that's where love comes in if the person is trying to change then why not stay yeah it'll be difficult but if you say you love someone then you need to show it
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psych2go
The biggest thing that helped me get out of that relationship with that piece of garbage was all the resentment that was slowly building up. Feeling repeatedly like that relationship wasn't fair to me and building up hatred saved me. It felt like revenge when his tactics stopped working because I stopped reacting to them, and then no amount of his whining or trying to pretend things were fine made me want to stay.
Also, I was lucky he was incapable of physically hurting me so there's that too. Don't so this with an able-bodied narc.
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The biggest thing that helped me get out of that relationship with that piece of garbage was all the resentment that was slowly building up. Feeling repeatedly like that relationship wasn't fair to me and building up hatred saved me. It felt like revenge when his tactics stopped working because I stopped reacting to them, and then no amount of his whining or trying to pretend things were fine made me want to stay.
Also, I was lucky he was incapable of physically hurting me so there's that too. Don't so this with an able-bodied narc.
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dalaikulai2743
I used to be in that trauma bond with all the signs for 2 years without even realizing it. For me it felt like love, but I eventually got tired for this stringing on so long, that I decided to distance myself. I can say Ive lost myself and been trying to find out who I was without the person again. This video is a nice reminder on why I should continue doing what Im doing! These trauma bonds can happen so subtly, you'll realize once it's too late and you're fully wrapped in. Thank you for your amazing content,
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I used to be in that trauma bond with all the signs for 2 years without even realizing it. For me it felt like love, but I eventually got tired for this stringing on so long, that I decided to distance myself. I can say Ive lost myself and been trying to find out who I was without the person again. This video is a nice reminder on why I should continue doing what Im doing! These trauma bonds can happen so subtly, you'll realize once it's too late and you're fully wrapped in. Thank you for your amazing content,
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starluna8407
How do I identify if it is a true trauma bond or he is a narcissist I want to be happy and feel like I used to be the person I used to and sadly I do think I’m not because of his influence but I love and care about him probably more than I care about myself. I’ve begun to kinda just float and make myself go with whatever he wants. Idk if I’m just overreacting and everyone feels like this sometimes. If anyone in the comments has advice I’m always welcome to listen. I just want to find me again
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How do I identify if it is a true trauma bond or he is a narcissist I want to be happy and feel like I used to be the person I used to and sadly I do think I’m not because of his influence but I love and care about him probably more than I care about myself. I’ve begun to kinda just float and make myself go with whatever he wants. Idk if I’m just overreacting and everyone feels like this sometimes. If anyone in the comments has advice I’m always welcome to listen. I just want to find me again
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PrettyTasha-k8q
Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of him. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for him, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.
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Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of him. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for him, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.
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PomForCalm
When you're no longer with that person but still in that trauma bond, it feels like they're still a part of your life. Like a phantom feeling as if they’re still with you, but they’re not. You constantly hope they'll come back, even though it's highly unlikely that they will. You don’t know where they are, have no way to contact them, and they can’t reach you either. Despite this, you keep giving yourself false hope that one day they'll magically show up and take you back.
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When you're no longer with that person but still in that trauma bond, it feels like they're still a part of your life. Like a phantom feeling as if they’re still with you, but they’re not. You constantly hope they'll come back, even though it's highly unlikely that they will. You don’t know where they are, have no way to contact them, and they can’t reach you either. Despite this, you keep giving yourself false hope that one day they'll magically show up and take you back.
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Greta-s7u
This video helped so much I had a friend who lost their friend group I felt bad for them so I left mine to be with them over time she made me believe she loved me and I loved her but she would kiss me then completely ignored that it happened while simultaneously making me believe my real friends were jealous and mean she made me leave my relationship because she said they were jealous sorry i had to trauma dump I hope no one has to go through that anymore
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This video helped so much I had a friend who lost their friend group I felt bad for them so I left mine to be with them over time she made me believe she loved me and I loved her but she would kiss me then completely ignored that it happened while simultaneously making me believe my real friends were jealous and mean she made me leave my relationship because she said they were jealous sorry i had to trauma dump I hope no one has to go through that anymore
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Pizzathing
I am glad that I am not a narcisisst
I told my ex to keep talking woth her friends, wushed her fun when she spent time with friends, gabe her love no matter what and wanted to help her during her identity crisis and when we had a Fight in our friendship after our break up because I missunderstood her reasons fir the break up as soon as we talked I realised what I missunderstood and told her that I an sorry
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I am glad that I am not a narcisisst
I told my ex to keep talking woth her friends, wushed her fun when she spent time with friends, gabe her love no matter what and wanted to help her during her identity crisis and when we had a Fight in our friendship after our break up because I missunderstood her reasons fir the break up as soon as we talked I realised what I missunderstood and told her that I an sorry
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Psych2go
Disclaimer: This video is not intended to diagnose or demonize anyone. If you relate to the victim's experience but are struggling, we encourage you to seek professional help. If you find yourself identifying with the narcissist or abuser in this discussion, please also seek professional help. The goal here is not to shame anyone, but to provide understanding and promote healing for all.
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Disclaimer: This video is not intended to diagnose or demonize anyone. If you relate to the victim's experience but are struggling, we encourage you to seek professional help. If you find yourself identifying with the narcissist or abuser in this discussion, please also seek professional help. The goal here is not to shame anyone, but to provide understanding and promote healing for all.
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curiouskitteh8215
Nailed it. I’m so regretful I had to experience this in my very first relationship. And that he assaulted me on top of these other things. I didn’t recover for decades. No one knew what I was going through, and no one talked about narcissism back then. I felt so alone and dissociated. It shaped my life in a way that I am still getting free of
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Nailed it. I’m so regretful I had to experience this in my very first relationship. And that he assaulted me on top of these other things. I didn’t recover for decades. No one knew what I was going through, and no one talked about narcissism back then. I felt so alone and dissociated. It shaped my life in a way that I am still getting free of
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paruljaiswal1
After being in relationship for three years and in love for 7 years with the most narcissistic person. Now he cheated me. After being out of such relationship i found out many impact this leaves on me. Being mentally abuse, low self confidence, full of self doubt and always blaming me for everything feels like i m not worthy of love care and respect!
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After being in relationship for three years and in love for 7 years with the most narcissistic person. Now he cheated me. After being out of such relationship i found out many impact this leaves on me. Being mentally abuse, low self confidence, full of self doubt and always blaming me for everything feels like i m not worthy of love care and respect!
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HeadBro_
make a vid on why your crush doesnt test you first. pls bru, i dont know what to do, idk how to talk to women. we used to play roblox (ik cringe) but she doesnt play anymore and i dont know how to. idk, what should i talk about without it being obv i like her and stuff like that. or can someone just reply and help me out
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make a vid on why your crush doesnt test you first. pls bru, i dont know what to do, idk how to talk to women. we used to play roblox (ik cringe) but she doesnt play anymore and i dont know how to. idk, what should i talk about without it being obv i like her and stuff like that. or can someone just reply and help me out
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Absolhunter251
This is me and I'm glad I'm out of it and the fact I was trauma bonded and used in a way, to just be killing myself over a person
Now that I'm free from it. I still haven't healed to enjoy my drawing and hobby of it with couple pics.
But I'm glad I saw this video, I was just thinking about this! Thank you!
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This is me and I'm glad I'm out of it and the fact I was trauma bonded and used in a way, to just be killing myself over a person
Now that I'm free from it. I still haven't healed to enjoy my drawing and hobby of it with couple pics.
But I'm glad I saw this video, I was just thinking about this! Thank you!
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psych2go
Hey, Im actually experiencing depression at the age of 7 Its going on for 2 years and for the past 2 years i cant stop doing my homework over and over again. Mind if you give me some tips i stay energetic when im around my friends or at school but bad friends and bad parents i do not since its been over 2 years.
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Hey, Im actually experiencing depression at the age of 7 Its going on for 2 years and for the past 2 years i cant stop doing my homework over and over again. Mind if you give me some tips i stay energetic when im around my friends or at school but bad friends and bad parents i do not since its been over 2 years.
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