Sadness: Let's Talk About It (World Mental Health Day)
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Date: 2024-10-11
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Wendylirious
There's a person in my life who's my ex-bestfriend and my ex-situationship. She's also sliiiigghhtly a psychopath who takes advantage of all those titles I mentioned above, and takes advantage of how quiet I am because no one else knows me as well as she does, enough to tell her off when she's obviously lying about me and how I am
It got so bad that when I finally started talking and opening up to other people, her friends said That's not Wendy, She's faking, She doesn't even know who she is, AS IF any of them has EVERRRR known me outside of her narrative, or talked to me directly
When she does show proof, she's able to twist my words and change the context, she does it all so well that sometimes I just wake up and suddenly everyone is telling me I'm a horrible person, when all I've been doing is exist and write down negative feelings instead of actively ruining anyone with it, but plottwist, secrets got leaked by people I trusted
I try to speak up for myself and show my perspective, but it's gone to the point where the truth doesn't matter anymore, instead, who's easier to believe
Sometimes I don't have the energy to fight a war I'm forced to participate in. A war where no one cares about my side, because the other is more fun anyway
I gave up and I've accepted that I'll either be an evil person or a good person, depending on her mood and not my actions. Sometimes I regret ever being nice in the first place, because then we would've never been close. I've been avoiding her because she keeps testing me, experimenting with situations to put me in, brings some friends of hers to disrespect me for her sake, and she just watches back and enjoys. I thought I could tank it and riSe aBoVe tHe Tests wiTh fLyiNg cOLors, but no, I could'nt do it anymore, so instead of being angry, I told her she deserves better and I'll be off to focus on my studies. I've been waiting for her to get bored and find someone else, and she did, so I thought that if she's happy, I can also be happy too. But no, she's still haunting me. I'm going through new rounds of allegations, how I abandoned her, when WE've been considering stopping this for months. Also, she's the one that left, I thought she finally understood that this isn't an obstacle to get past, it's a sign to stop, but she still wants me to stay miserable
I gave up
So I write poems, lyrics, and listen to meme'd exaggeratedly emo playlists in an attempt to make my situation lighter than it is
The point is, romanticizing doesn't necessarily mean there's nothing going on. It can be a coping mechanism so that life isn't so dull to the point where all you can talk about is how miserable you are. Atleast, romanticizing problems turns your debby downer dialogues. funnier A little bit, it's a good mix of not bottling it all up while also not bringing others down with you
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There's a person in my life who's my ex-bestfriend and my ex-situationship. She's also sliiiigghhtly a psychopath who takes advantage of all those titles I mentioned above, and takes advantage of how quiet I am because no one else knows me as well as she does, enough to tell her off when she's obviously lying about me and how I am
It got so bad that when I finally started talking and opening up to other people, her friends said That's not Wendy, She's faking, She doesn't even know who she is, AS IF any of them has EVERRRR known me outside of her narrative, or talked to me directly
When she does show proof, she's able to twist my words and change the context, she does it all so well that sometimes I just wake up and suddenly everyone is telling me I'm a horrible person, when all I've been doing is exist and write down negative feelings instead of actively ruining anyone with it, but plottwist, secrets got leaked by people I trusted
I try to speak up for myself and show my perspective, but it's gone to the point where the truth doesn't matter anymore, instead, who's easier to believe
Sometimes I don't have the energy to fight a war I'm forced to participate in. A war where no one cares about my side, because the other is more fun anyway
I gave up and I've accepted that I'll either be an evil person or a good person, depending on her mood and not my actions. Sometimes I regret ever being nice in the first place, because then we would've never been close. I've been avoiding her because she keeps testing me, experimenting with situations to put me in, brings some friends of hers to disrespect me for her sake, and she just watches back and enjoys. I thought I could tank it and riSe aBoVe tHe Tests wiTh fLyiNg cOLors, but no, I could'nt do it anymore, so instead of being angry, I told her she deserves better and I'll be off to focus on my studies. I've been waiting for her to get bored and find someone else, and she did, so I thought that if she's happy, I can also be happy too. But no, she's still haunting me. I'm going through new rounds of allegations, how I abandoned her, when WE've been considering stopping this for months. Also, she's the one that left, I thought she finally understood that this isn't an obstacle to get past, it's a sign to stop, but she still wants me to stay miserable
I gave up
So I write poems, lyrics, and listen to meme'd exaggeratedly emo playlists in an attempt to make my situation lighter than it is
The point is, romanticizing doesn't necessarily mean there's nothing going on. It can be a coping mechanism so that life isn't so dull to the point where all you can talk about is how miserable you are. Atleast, romanticizing problems turns your debby downer dialogues. funnier A little bit, it's a good mix of not bottling it all up while also not bringing others down with you
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DollnAbox
I don't know what they mean by sadness being enticing, because I'm damn sure not enjoying my crippling depression, exacerbated by external factors. I'm really struggling right now, and there's nothing enticing, alluring, romantic, or cute about feeling like shit, hating everything and everyone, and wanting to die. I want to be happy, or at least not feel like every breath is a burden. I feel horrible, and it's not fun at all. Happy people make me angry. Other sad people make me angry. When bad things happen to others, I'm almost glad, and I'm an INFJ, so that's not even like me to feel that way. INFJs usually don't enjoy schadenfreude. I'm lonely and isolated, but I don't want to be bothered. I drag myself through the day, and cry myself to sleep (when I do sleep. I want to laugh. I want a supportive partner. I want to go out and go on trips. I see horrible people living happy lives, and it's not fair. I want to be happy. That's what's enticing to me. It's always just out of reach.
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I don't know what they mean by sadness being enticing, because I'm damn sure not enjoying my crippling depression, exacerbated by external factors. I'm really struggling right now, and there's nothing enticing, alluring, romantic, or cute about feeling like shit, hating everything and everyone, and wanting to die. I want to be happy, or at least not feel like every breath is a burden. I feel horrible, and it's not fun at all. Happy people make me angry. Other sad people make me angry. When bad things happen to others, I'm almost glad, and I'm an INFJ, so that's not even like me to feel that way. INFJs usually don't enjoy schadenfreude. I'm lonely and isolated, but I don't want to be bothered. I drag myself through the day, and cry myself to sleep (when I do sleep. I want to laugh. I want a supportive partner. I want to go out and go on trips. I see horrible people living happy lives, and it's not fair. I want to be happy. That's what's enticing to me. It's always just out of reach.
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russdavis71
I’ve observed that we spend too much time in the past instead of moving on to the future. If you always fall back on past relationships, past experiences but don’t learn from them and instead keep reliving those moments you deprive yourself of a future free from those moments. Yes those parts of your past will always be there but it’s the relevance that you give those moments that dictate how you go forward. I have things that I sometimes visit but I remind myself that I can do better, I can be better and what happened then will not dictate what happens now unless I let those memories do that. I hate to say this but unless you’re willing to learn from the past and take those lessons forward you will always be stuck there. Stop clinging on to those emotions and find a better way because if you don’t you’re only limiting yourself to those moments instead of creating new ones.
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I’ve observed that we spend too much time in the past instead of moving on to the future. If you always fall back on past relationships, past experiences but don’t learn from them and instead keep reliving those moments you deprive yourself of a future free from those moments. Yes those parts of your past will always be there but it’s the relevance that you give those moments that dictate how you go forward. I have things that I sometimes visit but I remind myself that I can do better, I can be better and what happened then will not dictate what happens now unless I let those memories do that. I hate to say this but unless you’re willing to learn from the past and take those lessons forward you will always be stuck there. Stop clinging on to those emotions and find a better way because if you don’t you’re only limiting yourself to those moments instead of creating new ones.
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Psych2go
Today is World Mental Health Day, a time to raise awareness about the diverse mental health experiences that often go unnoticed. In this video, we explore a lesser-discussed topic: Why is Sadness So Addicting
Sometimes when we feel sad, it can be hard to muster the energy to do anything. This pattern of lethargy can actually start to feel comfortable, even exhilarating for some. While it is perfectly normal to want to stay in that moment, it becomes a concern when other areas of life, like your relationships, health, or career, begin to suffer.
We hope this video brings a deeper personal understanding of this experience. By reflecting on these emotions, we aim to spark conversations that help us make changes for a healthier mental outlook in the future. Let’s continue to break the stigma around mental health, today and every day.
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Today is World Mental Health Day, a time to raise awareness about the diverse mental health experiences that often go unnoticed. In this video, we explore a lesser-discussed topic: Why is Sadness So Addicting
Sometimes when we feel sad, it can be hard to muster the energy to do anything. This pattern of lethargy can actually start to feel comfortable, even exhilarating for some. While it is perfectly normal to want to stay in that moment, it becomes a concern when other areas of life, like your relationships, health, or career, begin to suffer.
We hope this video brings a deeper personal understanding of this experience. By reflecting on these emotions, we aim to spark conversations that help us make changes for a healthier mental outlook in the future. Let’s continue to break the stigma around mental health, today and every day.
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igi-risu
As someone who’s spent most of their life depressed and struggling, with me being in therapy and trying to my better situation I have little to no tolerance to surround myself with anyone who romanticises hardships.
Edit: I do believe there’s some truth in meaning being found in pain but not to the extent it’s being pushed. In the past, bonding with others experiencing similar struggles helped me find community. But a someone who’s trying to change their life, this community no longer aligns with what I’m seeking because a lot of them are complacent or want to remain in that misery. I hate how people can rarely share goodness with someone coming and being negative.
It’s okay to acknowledge negativity because you’d be insane to deny its existence but making it a vocal point of everything gets tiresome after a while
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As someone who’s spent most of their life depressed and struggling, with me being in therapy and trying to my better situation I have little to no tolerance to surround myself with anyone who romanticises hardships.
Edit: I do believe there’s some truth in meaning being found in pain but not to the extent it’s being pushed. In the past, bonding with others experiencing similar struggles helped me find community. But a someone who’s trying to change their life, this community no longer aligns with what I’m seeking because a lot of them are complacent or want to remain in that misery. I hate how people can rarely share goodness with someone coming and being negative.
It’s okay to acknowledge negativity because you’d be insane to deny its existence but making it a vocal point of everything gets tiresome after a while
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psych2go
This melancholie is a deep part of my life.
I wrote poethic stuff when I flow with melancholie.
I stayed in this feeling for a long time, 2 years ago.
For me, sadness was a way to just be me, be poethic and see the calmness in it. It felt like I didn't have to do anything or feel anything. I could just let go.
But you showed, and also I noticed, that you don't have to be sad to let go.
Also the point where you romanticise bad memories was a thing where I didn't understand myself.
I really thank you for this video. Because you are showing that good and bad feelings both have a worth and a place. And that this thing also is because of society and influences. It was really relieving to hear this.
Because now I know that I have the force to free myself.
Thank you
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This melancholie is a deep part of my life.
I wrote poethic stuff when I flow with melancholie.
I stayed in this feeling for a long time, 2 years ago.
For me, sadness was a way to just be me, be poethic and see the calmness in it. It felt like I didn't have to do anything or feel anything. I could just let go.
But you showed, and also I noticed, that you don't have to be sad to let go.
Also the point where you romanticise bad memories was a thing where I didn't understand myself.
I really thank you for this video. Because you are showing that good and bad feelings both have a worth and a place. And that this thing also is because of society and influences. It was really relieving to hear this.
Because now I know that I have the force to free myself.
Thank you
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bioboygamer
Personally, when I’m feeling sad, I feel the urge to continue being sad. Trying to cheer myself up when I’m sad feels uncomfortable or fake, and it feels natural to just wallow in that sadness rather than trying to escape it. Unfortunately, it’s very easy for even a single bad thing to make me spiral into being sad no matter how good a mood I was in before, so when I do feel okay, I’m extremely averse to any sort of discomfort or stress because I worry that it’ll make me spiral and not be able to - or even WANT to - recover. As a result, my ability to handle even basic everyday tasks is negligible, although there are other disabilities and mental health issues involved with that too.
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Personally, when I’m feeling sad, I feel the urge to continue being sad. Trying to cheer myself up when I’m sad feels uncomfortable or fake, and it feels natural to just wallow in that sadness rather than trying to escape it. Unfortunately, it’s very easy for even a single bad thing to make me spiral into being sad no matter how good a mood I was in before, so when I do feel okay, I’m extremely averse to any sort of discomfort or stress because I worry that it’ll make me spiral and not be able to - or even WANT to - recover. As a result, my ability to handle even basic everyday tasks is negligible, although there are other disabilities and mental health issues involved with that too.
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DollnAbox
Also, I hate when people say spend time with friends and family as a way to beat sadness and depression. This usually makes me feel worse because I literally don't have any friends, my family is dysfunctional AF, and I don't want to be bothered anyway. Some people are depressed precisely because they have no meaningful interpersonal connections, or because their family/home/social life is a mess, or nonexistent -- it's a trigger to tell them to do the very thing that they can't do, and is making them sad in the first place -- as an antidote. It's like telling a person who's depressed from having no legs to just take a nice walk.
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Also, I hate when people say spend time with friends and family as a way to beat sadness and depression. This usually makes me feel worse because I literally don't have any friends, my family is dysfunctional AF, and I don't want to be bothered anyway. Some people are depressed precisely because they have no meaningful interpersonal connections, or because their family/home/social life is a mess, or nonexistent -- it's a trigger to tell them to do the very thing that they can't do, and is making them sad in the first place -- as an antidote. It's like telling a person who's depressed from having no legs to just take a nice walk.
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MegaManNeo
I know that feeling sad can establish connections to close ones and trusted people when they can empathize. Actually, I'd even go as far and say this kickstarted the best friendship I now have for almost 20 years
On the Internet however Crazy stuff. Maybe because I was never huge into social media and got kicked out of it really early on for being kinda sad and down myself. Almost makes me want to say in a cynic way that I was too much ahead of our current time.
On a side note since you mentioned Inside Out, I picked up the bluray of its sequel yesterday and am really excited to watch it later on: D
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I know that feeling sad can establish connections to close ones and trusted people when they can empathize. Actually, I'd even go as far and say this kickstarted the best friendship I now have for almost 20 years
On the Internet however Crazy stuff. Maybe because I was never huge into social media and got kicked out of it really early on for being kinda sad and down myself. Almost makes me want to say in a cynic way that I was too much ahead of our current time.
On a side note since you mentioned Inside Out, I picked up the bluray of its sequel yesterday and am really excited to watch it later on: D
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Rafsanul_Haq_96
Many people struggle to share their sadness or depression because of the fear of judgment. I was affected by OCD and ADHD, and felt deep guilt and shame when people didn’t understand the complexity of my emotions and judged me negatively. Over time, I learned self-validation and realized that my self-worth doesn’t depend on others' approval. People often judge from the surface level, and they don't see my efforts to cope with my problems, and don't know my inner achievements, and they focus only on my flaws. While I still fear judgment at times, my self-worth is no longer affected.
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Many people struggle to share their sadness or depression because of the fear of judgment. I was affected by OCD and ADHD, and felt deep guilt and shame when people didn’t understand the complexity of my emotions and judged me negatively. Over time, I learned self-validation and realized that my self-worth doesn’t depend on others' approval. People often judge from the surface level, and they don't see my efforts to cope with my problems, and don't know my inner achievements, and they focus only on my flaws. While I still fear judgment at times, my self-worth is no longer affected.
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evelynarhondi6375
More than romanticising sadness, what makes me more worried is how it seems that people have started treating sadness like it's the norm or, even worse, fashionable (as it was well mentioned in the video.
Of course acceptance from others as well as yourself is important, but it's not enough by itself.
Chronic sadness should not be a state of being. It's a real problem that needs to be acknowledged as one. Acceptance should be the first step towards a healthier, more balanced state of mind, not the end goal.
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More than romanticising sadness, what makes me more worried is how it seems that people have started treating sadness like it's the norm or, even worse, fashionable (as it was well mentioned in the video.
Of course acceptance from others as well as yourself is important, but it's not enough by itself.
Chronic sadness should not be a state of being. It's a real problem that needs to be acknowledged as one. Acceptance should be the first step towards a healthier, more balanced state of mind, not the end goal.
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kony1998
I think its because we have been overflowed by joy and happiness since our child time makes us bored of it and found sadness as a new thing that we felt we need to fill that emptiness.
Not gonna lie i got this mind of thingking because of Cyberpunk Edgerunner anime that literally gives a kick of pain and sadness that people told me just get off with it or dont recall the show anymore. I did.
But everytime i saw clip of it or even hearing the ost. The sadness and pain that comes really making me addicted to it.
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I think its because we have been overflowed by joy and happiness since our child time makes us bored of it and found sadness as a new thing that we felt we need to fill that emptiness.
Not gonna lie i got this mind of thingking because of Cyberpunk Edgerunner anime that literally gives a kick of pain and sadness that people told me just get off with it or dont recall the show anymore. I did.
But everytime i saw clip of it or even hearing the ost. The sadness and pain that comes really making me addicted to it.
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M3mMMriz3
i only feel happy when making others happy, but then i make a mistake and make poeple sad, knowing that im the cause of someones misery makes me feel useless because all i am, all i can do, is try make others happy. I dont care if im happy, i just want to make sure others dont feel what i feel. I augment my personality to what others like most, i recently have been trying to stop it, but its like a bad habit you cant break. All that my mind thinks of me of is That guy who makes others laugh and its all i can be.
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i only feel happy when making others happy, but then i make a mistake and make poeple sad, knowing that im the cause of someones misery makes me feel useless because all i am, all i can do, is try make others happy. I dont care if im happy, i just want to make sure others dont feel what i feel. I augment my personality to what others like most, i recently have been trying to stop it, but its like a bad habit you cant break. All that my mind thinks of me of is That guy who makes others laugh and its all i can be.
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RaveGD72
Yeah I enjoy sadness, but not in a bad way I guess I very much want to be happy and enjoy happiness, but it is not sadness directly we enjoy, it is how it magnifies the experience of a good moment. How it puts it into perspective and makes us appreciate the good moments more.
That, I believe, is the sadness most of us like. A necessary and beautiful emotion in correlation to happiness.
Without sadness, we wouldn't appreciate happiness. And I think I want to try and find something enjoyable in any emotion.
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Yeah I enjoy sadness, but not in a bad way I guess I very much want to be happy and enjoy happiness, but it is not sadness directly we enjoy, it is how it magnifies the experience of a good moment. How it puts it into perspective and makes us appreciate the good moments more.
That, I believe, is the sadness most of us like. A necessary and beautiful emotion in correlation to happiness.
Without sadness, we wouldn't appreciate happiness. And I think I want to try and find something enjoyable in any emotion.
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psych2go
I've suffered from moderate to severe chronic depression almost all my life. So when I finally got on antidepressants, and was in therapy, and things finally started to look up, I started panicking, because I was so used to being down in the dump and anxious, that feeling some level of genuine happiness, felt scary. And I was terrified it's only last so long, before I'd be hurt and let down again. Working through this with my trauma therapist, helped me a lot. You deserve to be happy
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I've suffered from moderate to severe chronic depression almost all my life. So when I finally got on antidepressants, and was in therapy, and things finally started to look up, I started panicking, because I was so used to being down in the dump and anxious, that feeling some level of genuine happiness, felt scary. And I was terrified it's only last so long, before I'd be hurt and let down again. Working through this with my trauma therapist, helped me a lot. You deserve to be happy
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_crimson_18
I've romanticized sadness so much that I now find comfort in it, its almost as if I crave it. When I'm happy, I wonder how long it'll take me to get sad again, an hour or two, or a day max. Being sad is a constant for me now and I try to find it in everything. I read sad books, watch heartbreaking movies, even my favourite playlist is full of such songs. I'm miserable but I don't know how to change it.
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I've romanticized sadness so much that I now find comfort in it, its almost as if I crave it. When I'm happy, I wonder how long it'll take me to get sad again, an hour or two, or a day max. Being sad is a constant for me now and I try to find it in everything. I read sad books, watch heartbreaking movies, even my favourite playlist is full of such songs. I'm miserable but I don't know how to change it.
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JasmineHaskins-q2y
I'm a pessimistic person, so this actually might be a reason why I'm always sad all the time, even when I'm happy. I always fearing for the worst everyday. And I really into sadness most of the time, even when I was a kid. So when I feel sad, I have to try looking on the bright side of life. Am I the only one who's like that Reply to this comment if you are.
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I'm a pessimistic person, so this actually might be a reason why I'm always sad all the time, even when I'm happy. I always fearing for the worst everyday. And I really into sadness most of the time, even when I was a kid. So when I feel sad, I have to try looking on the bright side of life. Am I the only one who's like that Reply to this comment if you are.
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dudeguyrockfan
Sadness is addictive and so is happiness the problem is no middle ground of just OK. Ive been through several near death experiences before the age of 7 causing horrible depression as a teen its horrifying why would people even come close the being addicted to that feeling baffles me, I fight to even feel ok not too happy not too sad just chillin.
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Sadness is addictive and so is happiness the problem is no middle ground of just OK. Ive been through several near death experiences before the age of 7 causing horrible depression as a teen its horrifying why would people even come close the being addicted to that feeling baffles me, I fight to even feel ok not too happy not too sad just chillin.
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ogbunno
I can relate to everything and I often settle into a cradle of my own sadness as it is what's familiar and comfortable (coping mechanism. It takes a lot of energy to climb out of it, but therapy and meditation has helped me from jumping head first so often into the cradle again when life gets too much. Thank you
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I can relate to everything and I often settle into a cradle of my own sadness as it is what's familiar and comfortable (coping mechanism. It takes a lot of energy to climb out of it, but therapy and meditation has helped me from jumping head first so often into the cradle again when life gets too much. Thank you
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BEARSshorts114
They notice you when you give up
They botice when you fail.
They notice when your let down
They botice when you are sad/depressed
They dont notice when you achieve
They dont notice when you lead
They dont notice when you win
HOPe THIS HELPS
Today i cryed xuz of math
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They notice you when you give up
They botice when you fail.
They notice when your let down
They botice when you are sad/depressed
They dont notice when you achieve
They dont notice when you lead
They dont notice when you win
HOPe THIS HELPS
Today i cryed xuz of math
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