How To Stop Obsessing Over Someone
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Date: 2024-11-25
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chaskanawi4309
Something that helped me is to be honest with myself. After countless talks with friends I trusted and who showed maturity, one day while taking a walk with a friend and my mum, it clicked. The day of the breakthrough I thought: I think so much about him but he does not think one day about me. He's living his life and I'm here suffering alone. I should continue my life too! After that I also thought: He's not perfect and if I am really honest with myself, there are some things I didn't really like about him and that's fine. So stop thinking he's so perfect because nobody is. I felt like I needed his validation, his attention but I don't. He's a human I'm a human.
I felt a, sensation of liberation that day. Like I was finally free.
Some days I still think about him but it got soo much better. It's important to not give up. Delete the messages, delete the pictures. step by step. Whoever is going through this you got this. Don't give up
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Something that helped me is to be honest with myself. After countless talks with friends I trusted and who showed maturity, one day while taking a walk with a friend and my mum, it clicked. The day of the breakthrough I thought: I think so much about him but he does not think one day about me. He's living his life and I'm here suffering alone. I should continue my life too! After that I also thought: He's not perfect and if I am really honest with myself, there are some things I didn't really like about him and that's fine. So stop thinking he's so perfect because nobody is. I felt like I needed his validation, his attention but I don't. He's a human I'm a human.
I felt a, sensation of liberation that day. Like I was finally free.
Some days I still think about him but it got soo much better. It's important to not give up. Delete the messages, delete the pictures. step by step. Whoever is going through this you got this. Don't give up
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AlexanderDRamos
idk
every time i was next to her i felt seen, heard and understood, every time i see her again i feel in love again like the first time, it's been more than 4 months now and i feel the same, a constant wish to belong to her, i closed by social media and barely see her photos like twice a month, on those nights where i want to kill my self
I've been training and keep going to classes and doing what i like, but just because it supposed to help
in reality, nothing helps and i can't keep thinking about her and wanting a life where she is still there and i can be again by her side
i promised her to never speak her and i haven't, she told me she couldn't be my friend and i accept it, i told her everything i feel and she responded to me so honest and true, we were mutual, i expressed by feelings and it was all ruined
i miss her more than anything and now it's just me and her memories
that's life i guess
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idk
every time i was next to her i felt seen, heard and understood, every time i see her again i feel in love again like the first time, it's been more than 4 months now and i feel the same, a constant wish to belong to her, i closed by social media and barely see her photos like twice a month, on those nights where i want to kill my self
I've been training and keep going to classes and doing what i like, but just because it supposed to help
in reality, nothing helps and i can't keep thinking about her and wanting a life where she is still there and i can be again by her side
i promised her to never speak her and i haven't, she told me she couldn't be my friend and i accept it, i told her everything i feel and she responded to me so honest and true, we were mutual, i expressed by feelings and it was all ruined
i miss her more than anything and now it's just me and her memories
that's life i guess
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BillysFingers
I'm 62 and haven't been obsessed with anyone since i was 22. I felt that i was so emotionally strong that any such uncontrolled feelings were years in my past. Honestly i don't even get attracted to looks these days, i thought that was all behind me until a year ago i started a new part time job and the girl half my age who i work with instantly took my breath away. It's not just her gorgeous looks but she has an emotional depth that just makes me ache to be close to her. which is just a fantasy of course. I just can't understand it, i feel embarrassed and can't comprehend how i could even end up in this situation. But it's turned me back into a teenager. I can't stop thinking about her. We talk on social media which isn't helping as it gives me access to her photo's. Thank you for this video, i need help moving on. I think i'm going to have to quit my job. The feelings are a nightmare and not healthy.
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I'm 62 and haven't been obsessed with anyone since i was 22. I felt that i was so emotionally strong that any such uncontrolled feelings were years in my past. Honestly i don't even get attracted to looks these days, i thought that was all behind me until a year ago i started a new part time job and the girl half my age who i work with instantly took my breath away. It's not just her gorgeous looks but she has an emotional depth that just makes me ache to be close to her. which is just a fantasy of course. I just can't understand it, i feel embarrassed and can't comprehend how i could even end up in this situation. But it's turned me back into a teenager. I can't stop thinking about her. We talk on social media which isn't helping as it gives me access to her photo's. Thank you for this video, i need help moving on. I think i'm going to have to quit my job. The feelings are a nightmare and not healthy.
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randomguy2565
I've been obsessed with a guy a couple years ago and I can totally understand the struggle. I honestly tried everything said in this video during that time because I recognised that my behaviour wasn't okay, but nothing helped. My intrusive thoughts kept winning and I started hating that person with all my heart because in my head he wasn't letting me live normally. The only way at least for me was to completely stop all the contact with him (it was difficult because he literally was my classmate. So, yeah, if someone out there is like me, having a very bad case of obsession and you feel like you can't do anything - try to limit contact as much as possible. Yeah, I know it was mentioned in the video, but very briefly, so I decided I'd encourage anyone who wants to read. Thank you for your attention. I hope everyone will be fine.
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I've been obsessed with a guy a couple years ago and I can totally understand the struggle. I honestly tried everything said in this video during that time because I recognised that my behaviour wasn't okay, but nothing helped. My intrusive thoughts kept winning and I started hating that person with all my heart because in my head he wasn't letting me live normally. The only way at least for me was to completely stop all the contact with him (it was difficult because he literally was my classmate. So, yeah, if someone out there is like me, having a very bad case of obsession and you feel like you can't do anything - try to limit contact as much as possible. Yeah, I know it was mentioned in the video, but very briefly, so I decided I'd encourage anyone who wants to read. Thank you for your attention. I hope everyone will be fine.
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05d1ya
i went to nationals and this guy was there as well. he actually looked pretty cool and stuff and i did find him attractive. whenever i used to look at him, his eyes were already on me and that made me think if he feels the same way or not. in the last day, i was sitting with my friends and he and his friends were a few chairs above us in stadium's gallery. i went with my friend to fill water and when i came back, he shifted his place right next to us, only separated by the stairs. it made me wonder again. during the closing ceremony, he sat next to me. while leaving, he continuously looked at me and so did i. the next day my friend from my insta acc texted him and confessed my feelings for him and he said that he has a girlfriend and that is what shook me. ever since, ive been crazy and obsessed and i wanna be out of this
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i went to nationals and this guy was there as well. he actually looked pretty cool and stuff and i did find him attractive. whenever i used to look at him, his eyes were already on me and that made me think if he feels the same way or not. in the last day, i was sitting with my friends and he and his friends were a few chairs above us in stadium's gallery. i went with my friend to fill water and when i came back, he shifted his place right next to us, only separated by the stairs. it made me wonder again. during the closing ceremony, he sat next to me. while leaving, he continuously looked at me and so did i. the next day my friend from my insta acc texted him and confessed my feelings for him and he said that he has a girlfriend and that is what shook me. ever since, ive been crazy and obsessed and i wanna be out of this
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cathoffmann9353
I was obsessed with a guy for a year. He seemed like the perfect guy for me, like everything I ever wanted in a guy. But he grew distant over time and I was waiting for the moment he would talk to me again and the hope that he would have feelings for me back.
Just like step one, I just realized two weeks ago I only knew a handful of things about him and I was projecting this fantasy onto him.
After that, I was able to break free from my obsession and make peace with my unrequited crush. It felt extremely freeing!
Now I have been in a process of self-improvement and building my confidence!
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I was obsessed with a guy for a year. He seemed like the perfect guy for me, like everything I ever wanted in a guy. But he grew distant over time and I was waiting for the moment he would talk to me again and the hope that he would have feelings for me back.
Just like step one, I just realized two weeks ago I only knew a handful of things about him and I was projecting this fantasy onto him.
After that, I was able to break free from my obsession and make peace with my unrequited crush. It felt extremely freeing!
Now I have been in a process of self-improvement and building my confidence!
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thedausthed
I have very strong feelings for someone and think about them a lot, too much, but this person has a very similar personality to me, the same core values and has suffered a lot of the same things I have, so I relate to them deeply. They are the only person that I have ever met that does not feel somewhat alien to me. But I don't know if they are still in a relationship (it's really complex) and I can not ask then because I don't want to ruin what we currently have I am being trying to be very kind and sweet to them though, hoping beyond hope that they see me in the same way, before it's too late.
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I have very strong feelings for someone and think about them a lot, too much, but this person has a very similar personality to me, the same core values and has suffered a lot of the same things I have, so I relate to them deeply. They are the only person that I have ever met that does not feel somewhat alien to me. But I don't know if they are still in a relationship (it's really complex) and I can not ask then because I don't want to ruin what we currently have I am being trying to be very kind and sweet to them though, hoping beyond hope that they see me in the same way, before it's too late.
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lindaalvarez8855
I suffer terribly with severe OCD all my life & I'm now 64. There was a friend who I fell in deep Love with years ago. Because I was married at that time, my friend I became Obsessed about, said that unfortunately, that friend said they could not allow them self to feel the same way I did for that person. I felt like an emotional crash came down on me all at once. Unfortunately, my husband passed away on April 22nd, 2024 & I have no way of letting that person know about my husband's death. I still Obsess about that person eventhough I'll probably never see them again.
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I suffer terribly with severe OCD all my life & I'm now 64. There was a friend who I fell in deep Love with years ago. Because I was married at that time, my friend I became Obsessed about, said that unfortunately, that friend said they could not allow them self to feel the same way I did for that person. I felt like an emotional crash came down on me all at once. Unfortunately, my husband passed away on April 22nd, 2024 & I have no way of letting that person know about my husband's death. I still Obsess about that person eventhough I'll probably never see them again.
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bramble-95
I'm obsessing over my crush, but I'm aware that it is because I'm severely depressed and lonely atm. I'm working on getting better, but it's so hard in the meantime. I'm climbing out of a deep dark pit and it takes time. Even though I'm aware that I'm creating this fantasy version of them in my head, it's really hard not to think like that when I'm feeling this bad. It really sucks. bc I don't want to feel this way. It really messed with my confidence too. but I'm trying my best
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I'm obsessing over my crush, but I'm aware that it is because I'm severely depressed and lonely atm. I'm working on getting better, but it's so hard in the meantime. I'm climbing out of a deep dark pit and it takes time. Even though I'm aware that I'm creating this fantasy version of them in my head, it's really hard not to think like that when I'm feeling this bad. It really sucks. bc I don't want to feel this way. It really messed with my confidence too. but I'm trying my best
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EllySoccerstar
Set ur own cougar and be strict with when ur going don’t find them on a manhunt just go there 4 you and if you DO have something to say make a letter and if you DON’T C THEM when you go wherever you want to say goodbye to the memory about them then when you get home rip it up and after you get back from wherever you gone focus on urself and making friends and before you go wherever ur going to say goodbye go on holiday with a love one
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Set ur own cougar and be strict with when ur going don’t find them on a manhunt just go there 4 you and if you DO have something to say make a letter and if you DON’T C THEM when you go wherever you want to say goodbye to the memory about them then when you get home rip it up and after you get back from wherever you gone focus on urself and making friends and before you go wherever ur going to say goodbye go on holiday with a love one
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psych2go
It's called limerence. Obsessing over someone who is not interested, unavailable, or both. It's related to childhood trauma, especially if we had a neglectful or volatile household. We develop abandonment issues, and create fantasy relationships in our heads, since we fear rejection in the real world. Developing other interests can help, but therapy might be needed for more severe limerence.
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It's called limerence. Obsessing over someone who is not interested, unavailable, or both. It's related to childhood trauma, especially if we had a neglectful or volatile household. We develop abandonment issues, and create fantasy relationships in our heads, since we fear rejection in the real world. Developing other interests can help, but therapy might be needed for more severe limerence.
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shaider1982
Man, I wish this video was made 20 years earlier. Would have saved me a lot of grief in having my love not reciprocated.
But, in my experience, having someone that shares your love (i. e. my girlfriend, now my wife) really blocks out all those past heartbreaks. Though, you'd have to fix yourself first and not rush just to fix your heart but really love the person.
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Man, I wish this video was made 20 years earlier. Would have saved me a lot of grief in having my love not reciprocated.
But, in my experience, having someone that shares your love (i. e. my girlfriend, now my wife) really blocks out all those past heartbreaks. Though, you'd have to fix yourself first and not rush just to fix your heart but really love the person.
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hiroshinagoya2469
Great report! This is EXACTLY what I need right now trying to get over someone who broke my heart. I think OBESSION can be confused by determination and a WINNER MENTALITY. The HARD part is to REALIZED human sentimental feelings for someone is NOT like memorizing a textbook and getting A grades in school! Sentimental relationships are about two NOT only ONE.
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Great report! This is EXACTLY what I need right now trying to get over someone who broke my heart. I think OBESSION can be confused by determination and a WINNER MENTALITY. The HARD part is to REALIZED human sentimental feelings for someone is NOT like memorizing a textbook and getting A grades in school! Sentimental relationships are about two NOT only ONE.
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lobafairytail8322
Glad this video popped on my feed. I was friends with a guy for around two years but he was forced to leave me because his roommate was an ass, and I've just been having trouble moving on since he was like a big brother to me. So finding this video helped me realize it's ok to move on and make new friends too, even if it's not easy to do.
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Glad this video popped on my feed. I was friends with a guy for around two years but he was forced to leave me because his roommate was an ass, and I've just been having trouble moving on since he was like a big brother to me. So finding this video helped me realize it's ok to move on and make new friends too, even if it's not easy to do.
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AmanyAhmed210
2: 47 I don't have anyway to stalk them, no conversations, no social media, not even their number! Just there on my mind, and I never could stop this even accepting reality, nothing!
I need to find someone real, so I should break free but I just can't!
Any way What should I do
(if I stopped thinking I start to have dreams of them)
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2: 47 I don't have anyway to stalk them, no conversations, no social media, not even their number! Just there on my mind, and I never could stop this even accepting reality, nothing!
I need to find someone real, so I should break free but I just can't!
Any way What should I do
(if I stopped thinking I start to have dreams of them)
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F4LLEN. LEGEND
This seriously popped up on my reccomended at the perfect time.
I have a what-if scenario. What if I am close friends with somebody, I like them, they like me back, but we both agree not to date, what would you say is a good way to keep the friendship strong and and at the same time, push away from the idea of becoming more than friends
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This seriously popped up on my reccomended at the perfect time.
I have a what-if scenario. What if I am close friends with somebody, I like them, they like me back, but we both agree not to date, what would you say is a good way to keep the friendship strong and and at the same time, push away from the idea of becoming more than friends
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NoahLopez-jo3os
Being on the other side of the spectrum of the person that would rather be by myself and doesn't get attatched or obsessed with someone, I just hope that y'all get the help you need. And it's okay to feel that spark for a while, but clinging onto something/or the idea of someone is so much more harmful than just letting go.
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Being on the other side of the spectrum of the person that would rather be by myself and doesn't get attatched or obsessed with someone, I just hope that y'all get the help you need. And it's okay to feel that spark for a while, but clinging onto something/or the idea of someone is so much more harmful than just letting go.
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necro6728
The timing. This probably is the universe telling me to let go. Unfortunately this is all I'm ever told, so compromise, I'll ease the breaks but not let go. Too many times doing things as others say ended in pain. While i appreciate the heads up to easing up, I'm not backing away, just loosening my grip.
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The timing. This probably is the universe telling me to let go. Unfortunately this is all I'm ever told, so compromise, I'll ease the breaks but not let go. Too many times doing things as others say ended in pain. While i appreciate the heads up to easing up, I'm not backing away, just loosening my grip.
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yk-xc1fn
A very good topic but sometimes it's nothing to do with exactly obsessed, certain belongings you need to give back, for that you have to keep communication only on the text messages, not directly, but yes 100% true should corncertrate on our own family priorities, don't have any time with foolish Coward's
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A very good topic but sometimes it's nothing to do with exactly obsessed, certain belongings you need to give back, for that you have to keep communication only on the text messages, not directly, but yes 100% true should corncertrate on our own family priorities, don't have any time with foolish Coward's
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VenadaVerde
Yesterday I was speaking to an aunt about how I obsessed with an ex coworker and how I saw her as perfect and I was so horrible besides her. Then she made me questions until I realized I was just filling the blanks and I didn't knew her. The fact this video pops into my life rn. Its mind blowing.
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Yesterday I was speaking to an aunt about how I obsessed with an ex coworker and how I saw her as perfect and I was so horrible besides her. Then she made me questions until I realized I was just filling the blanks and I didn't knew her. The fact this video pops into my life rn. Its mind blowing.
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