7 Signs You're Ready for a Closure From a Relationship
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Date: 2023-08-20
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GloriaC333
I dated this guy for over a year. It was my first long term relationship and I had broke it off despite not wanting to. I just didnt feel like what he said and what he did were matching up and he also had a drinking issue that I just couldnt stand to be second place to. Of course for the next six months after we lived in the limbo of the afterlife of our relationship. We hung out, went out together, we still slept together but we werent together. I remember feeling like it was living a lie and of course there were fights that stemmed from my conflicting emotions that I didnt let myself deal with. Fast forward to a year later and I feel like Im in a better place. My ex and I are just friends and Im at peace with our failed relationship. The only thing that bothers me that to this day we never had the closure conversation face to face. He doesnt like when I bring up anything from the past relationship even in an objective way or joking way. It only bugs me because yes we have a past but I dont want to pretend it never happened. He started to become defensive and I told him that I didnt bring the conversation up to point out his faults and that we are adults and should be able to be objective when speaking about it. I dont think Ill ever get the talk from him. Last night was the last time Ill tried but I only brought it up because he keeps disclosing to me information that caused a lot of miscommunication. Things that would have helped me understand him and adapt to his needs but its not the case now. Today was the first morning in a while that I feel like Im opening to meeting someone new whenever that will be and that I have truly let go of a lot that I absolutely do not want to carry into a new relationship.
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I dated this guy for over a year. It was my first long term relationship and I had broke it off despite not wanting to. I just didnt feel like what he said and what he did were matching up and he also had a drinking issue that I just couldnt stand to be second place to. Of course for the next six months after we lived in the limbo of the afterlife of our relationship. We hung out, went out together, we still slept together but we werent together. I remember feeling like it was living a lie and of course there were fights that stemmed from my conflicting emotions that I didnt let myself deal with. Fast forward to a year later and I feel like Im in a better place. My ex and I are just friends and Im at peace with our failed relationship. The only thing that bothers me that to this day we never had the closure conversation face to face. He doesnt like when I bring up anything from the past relationship even in an objective way or joking way. It only bugs me because yes we have a past but I dont want to pretend it never happened. He started to become defensive and I told him that I didnt bring the conversation up to point out his faults and that we are adults and should be able to be objective when speaking about it. I dont think Ill ever get the talk from him. Last night was the last time Ill tried but I only brought it up because he keeps disclosing to me information that caused a lot of miscommunication. Things that would have helped me understand him and adapt to his needs but its not the case now. Today was the first morning in a while that I feel like Im opening to meeting someone new whenever that will be and that I have truly let go of a lot that I absolutely do not want to carry into a new relationship.
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Tracy
I made a mistake thinking I was ready for closure. I really thought I was. I felt better but it didn't mean I was completely healed at the time. However, I felt the urge and the need to call my ex and give our relationship a closure, just for myself to realize I was the one who needed closure and he did not. It was embarrassing because the moment I heard his voice, I started getting nervous and shaking. I could hold my tears but my voice could literally tell him I was almost about to burst out crying. And the moment we spoke, it made me feel even worse. He did not insult or say anything mean to me but it was not easy for me to handle those words he said to me and his sighing. Always make sure, you are ready. I know you could want closure so bad, you want your questions answered to the point that you can't stop thinking about calling or texting them. But trust me, I got this same advice before I called them but still chose to do so and regret. I know it's hard because I thought I couldn't move on without closure but after the call, I think it might take even longer to heal because I was not ready. I said I was not gonna blame him for anything but yet I still did.
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I made a mistake thinking I was ready for closure. I really thought I was. I felt better but it didn't mean I was completely healed at the time. However, I felt the urge and the need to call my ex and give our relationship a closure, just for myself to realize I was the one who needed closure and he did not. It was embarrassing because the moment I heard his voice, I started getting nervous and shaking. I could hold my tears but my voice could literally tell him I was almost about to burst out crying. And the moment we spoke, it made me feel even worse. He did not insult or say anything mean to me but it was not easy for me to handle those words he said to me and his sighing. Always make sure, you are ready. I know you could want closure so bad, you want your questions answered to the point that you can't stop thinking about calling or texting them. But trust me, I got this same advice before I called them but still chose to do so and regret. I know it's hard because I thought I couldn't move on without closure but after the call, I think it might take even longer to heal because I was not ready. I said I was not gonna blame him for anything but yet I still did.
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Danielle
Wow this is for anybody who is under 22 years old and does not share kids with their partner and now must split everything in life that every ment anything including your precious babies who now has another woman smirking as she's giving your 3 year old bye bye loves in front of you like she's won and you lost some competition for the life and family you've spent building 1/2 your life together with a man who started having a midlife crisis who decided family life doesn't suit him anymore right now wife kids held him back from doing excatly what hes returned to and still is doing living in the same town and getting back in touch with old relationships he's once had before except we all come out of it a little more broken and little more sadder. and destroyed any possibility of reconciliation from the damage he went to far with or kids having both parents together family back together. Marriage family and your children are thrown carelessly around as much as divorce is. Like it's something you tried and didn't like. Things like virtues and integrity are words to be practiced not be forgotten.
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Wow this is for anybody who is under 22 years old and does not share kids with their partner and now must split everything in life that every ment anything including your precious babies who now has another woman smirking as she's giving your 3 year old bye bye loves in front of you like she's won and you lost some competition for the life and family you've spent building 1/2 your life together with a man who started having a midlife crisis who decided family life doesn't suit him anymore right now wife kids held him back from doing excatly what hes returned to and still is doing living in the same town and getting back in touch with old relationships he's once had before except we all come out of it a little more broken and little more sadder. and destroyed any possibility of reconciliation from the damage he went to far with or kids having both parents together family back together. Marriage family and your children are thrown carelessly around as much as divorce is. Like it's something you tried and didn't like. Things like virtues and integrity are words to be practiced not be forgotten.
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Pepper
Even though my relationship fell apart and it ended the way it did. I'm not sad the relationship ended because honestly, I felt trapped in it. However, I still cannot grasp the idea that my ex partner will never change and he will never grow up and change his child-like mentality and it hurts that I have to accept this fact. I thought I had found everything I wanted in this person, nobody's perfect and I loved all his imperfections, however i couldn't handle his problematic drinking he refuses to take accountability for and also the lack of accountability for his poor lifestyle and decisions. I want him to change but I don't think that will happen with me in his life, that has to happen in his own terms and that's the worst feeling in the world and i can't get over it and still currently grieving.
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Even though my relationship fell apart and it ended the way it did. I'm not sad the relationship ended because honestly, I felt trapped in it. However, I still cannot grasp the idea that my ex partner will never change and he will never grow up and change his child-like mentality and it hurts that I have to accept this fact. I thought I had found everything I wanted in this person, nobody's perfect and I loved all his imperfections, however i couldn't handle his problematic drinking he refuses to take accountability for and also the lack of accountability for his poor lifestyle and decisions. I want him to change but I don't think that will happen with me in his life, that has to happen in his own terms and that's the worst feeling in the world and i can't get over it and still currently grieving.
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zlxs
the love of my life is my ex and weve been on and of and on again and now were off she always the one who comeback and she is also the one who ends it and I feel tired but I really love her but I'm not here to say all that one of my friend asked me if we ever have gotten a closure and I actually never ever thought of that and I started to feel like I need a closure and I sent her that msg saying how I truly feel about her and how much I loved her but im not ready to hurt myself again maybe shes the love of my life but im a normal guy and simple i only need love and itll mean the world to me anyways she didnt reply and after a while she sent me a video about how to stop ( j e r k i n g ) the biggest problem is i still love her bottom line i need someone to slap me or even kill me
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the love of my life is my ex and weve been on and of and on again and now were off she always the one who comeback and she is also the one who ends it and I feel tired but I really love her but I'm not here to say all that one of my friend asked me if we ever have gotten a closure and I actually never ever thought of that and I started to feel like I need a closure and I sent her that msg saying how I truly feel about her and how much I loved her but im not ready to hurt myself again maybe shes the love of my life but im a normal guy and simple i only need love and itll mean the world to me anyways she didnt reply and after a while she sent me a video about how to stop ( j e r k i n g ) the biggest problem is i still love her bottom line i need someone to slap me or even kill me
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The_Titan_
I sadly never got my closure but found out later on through some close friends that she has been hitting on my multiple friends but they said she made it seem that she loved/cared for my friend's but to later on backstab them and she said that she felt nothing for them and had just played and toyed with their emotions and before she said this to them she kissed one of my friends and my other friend found that his relationship to her was shady and he left her but my other friend had fell for her and then that day was told that she played him from the start and just lead him on and then just be backstabbed and told she never liked him. The word on the street today is that she is still doing this to other guys and even girls to this day.
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I sadly never got my closure but found out later on through some close friends that she has been hitting on my multiple friends but they said she made it seem that she loved/cared for my friend's but to later on backstab them and she said that she felt nothing for them and had just played and toyed with their emotions and before she said this to them she kissed one of my friends and my other friend found that his relationship to her was shady and he left her but my other friend had fell for her and then that day was told that she played him from the start and just lead him on and then just be backstabbed and told she never liked him. The word on the street today is that she is still doing this to other guys and even girls to this day.
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Kit
I just got out of a long relationship a few months ago. He was constantly busy since the beginning of the year and started becoming distant. He blamed it on school (MBA, and later work, however he always made time for his best guy friend. The day before he broke up with me he was talking about the future with me. It gave me hope, that things were getting better. He told me that he didn't want a relationship at the time. Two weeks after the final spilt I found out that he was already seeing someone, and that hurt. I know each day will get better, but right now it just hurts.
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I just got out of a long relationship a few months ago. He was constantly busy since the beginning of the year and started becoming distant. He blamed it on school (MBA, and later work, however he always made time for his best guy friend. The day before he broke up with me he was talking about the future with me. It gave me hope, that things were getting better. He told me that he didn't want a relationship at the time. Two weeks after the final spilt I found out that he was already seeing someone, and that hurt. I know each day will get better, but right now it just hurts.
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Mythmaker
I do need need closure. In the form of answers to questions like what did I do wrong, what could I have done better, Why did they give up so quickly despite everything they said beforehand?
Sadly in my case, I was never given answers. My closure was sucking it up and coping in unhealthy ways to force myself to move on. It's been 3 months, and no, I'm no longer attached. But I know that being given answers back then instead of just being ignored and avoided wouldn't put in the mindset I am in now.
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I do need need closure. In the form of answers to questions like what did I do wrong, what could I have done better, Why did they give up so quickly despite everything they said beforehand?
Sadly in my case, I was never given answers. My closure was sucking it up and coping in unhealthy ways to force myself to move on. It's been 3 months, and no, I'm no longer attached. But I know that being given answers back then instead of just being ignored and avoided wouldn't put in the mindset I am in now.
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LaTasha
Closure comes when its time. 1. Take time to ask questions and seek proof. 2. After proof has been obtained confront. 3. Seek out Therapy then re-appoach. 4. Find out whats workable if anything and reexamine Theory. 5. Make arrangements to hangout more, shop, dance party etc. to accept whats to be accepted if anything. 6. Move out and stay together or Move on. After all change has happened. This is more couple/dating related and not Marriage related. Seek Therapy ASAP
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Closure comes when its time. 1. Take time to ask questions and seek proof. 2. After proof has been obtained confront. 3. Seek out Therapy then re-appoach. 4. Find out whats workable if anything and reexamine Theory. 5. Make arrangements to hangout more, shop, dance party etc. to accept whats to be accepted if anything. 6. Move out and stay together or Move on. After all change has happened. This is more couple/dating related and not Marriage related. Seek Therapy ASAP
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Bocchi.
We lasted for more than a year and it was the best relationship I had. After we broke up, we didn't have any communication until december of last year. We actually talked a lot and we finally had our closure. I felt so much relief. The past few years, i've been feeling so much longing for her but when we had our closure, all my longing was just gone. We are good friends now and I know that I fully moved on because I only feel genuine happiness with her.
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We lasted for more than a year and it was the best relationship I had. After we broke up, we didn't have any communication until december of last year. We actually talked a lot and we finally had our closure. I felt so much relief. The past few years, i've been feeling so much longing for her but when we had our closure, all my longing was just gone. We are good friends now and I know that I fully moved on because I only feel genuine happiness with her.
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Misha
Man i got closure but it hurt me bad. Just have a new found trauma now and i feel like i can't trust anyone. Im usually the happy go lucky friend but rn im just dead. Its like. i can move on and im so happy i can. But the truth that he never loved me and only used/abused me to find the standard of a relationship. Lied on my name for a whole year. And we still call each other close friends. Man idk what to do anymore its a win/loose
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Man i got closure but it hurt me bad. Just have a new found trauma now and i feel like i can't trust anyone. Im usually the happy go lucky friend but rn im just dead. Its like. i can move on and im so happy i can. But the truth that he never loved me and only used/abused me to find the standard of a relationship. Lied on my name for a whole year. And we still call each other close friends. Man idk what to do anymore its a win/loose
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dan
One of the most important but hardest things in life is learning to let go no matter if it is about letting a person go that was once really important to you but it did not work out at the end or if it is about letting some of your dream go that did not work out. If you don't getting decently good at this you will waste a lot of your lifetime with casing clouds and hurting yourself while chasing after things that are already gone.
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One of the most important but hardest things in life is learning to let go no matter if it is about letting a person go that was once really important to you but it did not work out at the end or if it is about letting some of your dream go that did not work out. If you don't getting decently good at this you will waste a lot of your lifetime with casing clouds and hurting yourself while chasing after things that are already gone.
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Cutie
I will not ready ever for a closure for it is a fight for my life as a husband who love his wife unconditionally, for God granted me a wife whom i shall aged being with her, i shall fight alongside with God for God thought me to love a wife, i cannot commit to another for that is an adultery, stuborn i can be but i cannot lose my soul for lovin somebody not my wife,
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I will not ready ever for a closure for it is a fight for my life as a husband who love his wife unconditionally, for God granted me a wife whom i shall aged being with her, i shall fight alongside with God for God thought me to love a wife, i cannot commit to another for that is an adultery, stuborn i can be but i cannot lose my soul for lovin somebody not my wife,
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Sabrina
How can i let that person know that i don't hate him but that i am happy for whatever he is in now.
I don't want to ignore him forever but i'm not ready to message him again.
Shit what will i do. I normally don't feel this guilty but i'm scared of what will happen. Damn i'm so confused.
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How can i let that person know that i don't hate him but that i am happy for whatever he is in now.
I don't want to ignore him forever but i'm not ready to message him again.
Shit what will i do. I normally don't feel this guilty but i'm scared of what will happen. Damn i'm so confused.
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archaeil
i dont understand, she says shell give me a chance for me to make her love me for 2 months, i wanted to move on and stop thinking badly about myself but this gave me false hope and more sadness, my state of mind is worse, any opinions on what i should do?
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i dont understand, she says shell give me a chance for me to make her love me for 2 months, i wanted to move on and stop thinking badly about myself but this gave me false hope and more sadness, my state of mind is worse, any opinions on what i should do?
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jade
This shit hurts! I wish i didnt meet her, ive give up all my love for her. Then one day she leave me like i was never a part of her life. The thing that hurts the most is the part that shes okay leaving me. One day i know i will heal to, one day i will!
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This shit hurts! I wish i didnt meet her, ive give up all my love for her. Then one day she leave me like i was never a part of her life. The thing that hurts the most is the part that shes okay leaving me. One day i know i will heal to, one day i will!
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Anilyn
Girls my relationship is coming to an end after 3 years. My first romance and first love. Idk how Im gonna get through this. I cant stop thinking about him. What hes doing. Hoping hes okay. Wondering. Its horrible.
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Girls my relationship is coming to an end after 3 years. My first romance and first love. Idk how Im gonna get through this. I cant stop thinking about him. What hes doing. Hoping hes okay. Wondering. Its horrible.
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Severinsen
I'm just thinking about that person because I never did get to say goodbye.
I'd rather hear things I don't want to hear, so I can be done with it, but I can't bring myself to bother them again.
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I'm just thinking about that person because I never did get to say goodbye.
I'd rather hear things I don't want to hear, so I can be done with it, but I can't bring myself to bother them again.
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Gabby
Aghhhhh! My heart is starting to hurt again! The memories! The kind memories. That i've shared with her. But now. I don't know what to do. Why are my tears falling? I thought that i was now empty. Why.
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Aghhhhh! My heart is starting to hurt again! The memories! The kind memories. That i've shared with her. But now. I don't know what to do. Why are my tears falling? I thought that i was now empty. Why.
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Eugenia
When the motive is simply because we were not enough, and another person much more atractive and in a better life position than we appeared, there's no closure that can compensate that.
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When the motive is simply because we were not enough, and another person much more atractive and in a better life position than we appeared, there's no closure that can compensate that.
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psych2go
I never got closure n she couldnt makr a choice for herself. She needed her brother to make the decision for her but life moves on n gotta be de even better version of myself. Yay. 8D
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I never got closure n she couldnt makr a choice for herself. She needed her brother to make the decision for her but life moves on n gotta be de even better version of myself. Yay. 8D
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rushd
I confessed to my crush about my feeling about 3 monthes ago but she said she want to stay friends but I still had feelings for her but yesterday she blocked me and now I am furious
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I confessed to my crush about my feeling about 3 monthes ago but she said she want to stay friends but I still had feelings for her but yesterday she blocked me and now I am furious
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Mike
that's the things i have no friends im always alone. i know allot people but my ex hangs out with them too so i have to stay away. i don't want to relapse! idk what to do
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that's the things i have no friends im always alone. i know allot people but my ex hangs out with them too so i have to stay away. i don't want to relapse! idk what to do
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Mara
I think is a proccess but I want to achieve this, specially the part when you don't blame yourself or the other person. I still cry at weekends but I decided to move on.
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I think is a proccess but I want to achieve this, specially the part when you don't blame yourself or the other person. I still cry at weekends but I decided to move on.
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Evan
What a simultaneously sad, uplifting, and cute video
Many thanks for the lovely video, all the way from little old Tasmania, Australia
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What a simultaneously sad, uplifting, and cute video
Many thanks for the lovely video, all the way from little old Tasmania, Australia
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