6 Signs You're Dealing with Energy Vampires
video description
Date: 2023-08-20
Related videos
Comments and reviews: 25
TheBumbleBeeMovie
I dont know if my friend is an energy vamp or if things are just hard for her right now
This girl (call her Anne) and we were kinda close since high school. We had to go to different places because we grew up and life changes but we were in touch, talking about our lives, new things both good and bad, prayer requests and praise reports, etc. a few years ago, Annes life started spiraling down into depression, anxiety, and hopelessness due to losing loved ones and people hurting her (badly. She would come to me about her experiences and her situations and I would listen. Now my heart gets easily pulled when it comes to others and I get an urge to help fix problems that go on in others lives (I know I know its not realistic or feasible) and so I would help brainstorm ways to help her get better. She became very pessimistic and felt like life wasnt worth living or God had abandoned her. She kept talking about suicide and things she wanted to do to herself and it would scare me out of my mind. I love her (like a sister) but my biggest mistake in this was I would drop everything just to listen to her. Sometimes I would set boundaries (can only call or text at certain times) but not always. My family doesnt think too highly of her because of her choices and how her problems and telling me how she wants to commit suicide would negatively affect me. Anytime she contacted me it was to tell me about some terrible stuff in her life (sometimes good stuff but mostly bad. Lately though since school started up (college and whatnot, weve kinda been quiet (me because of business. Then recently she messaged me about some horrific stuff that happened to her. The thing is a bunch of stuff she told me going on in her life I had NO IDEA about (new place, new faces, new people, even a new family) she told me nothing of anything new in her life until something horrible happened to her. I asked her some questions about the changes in her new life but she dismissed them as life goes on. I love her but Im starting to think Im only an emotional crutch for her, not a friend: a shoulder to cry on or someone who will give her attention before she goes off to do some other things that I wont hear about until it all goes wrong
I dont want to cut ties with her (she was one of my closest friends and she lost a lot of people she thought she could trust already, I just dont know what to do with her. I try to be vague in my responses now or at least wait til I finish assignments a projects before giving her my time. Any advice would be appreciated.
reply
I dont know if my friend is an energy vamp or if things are just hard for her right now
This girl (call her Anne) and we were kinda close since high school. We had to go to different places because we grew up and life changes but we were in touch, talking about our lives, new things both good and bad, prayer requests and praise reports, etc. a few years ago, Annes life started spiraling down into depression, anxiety, and hopelessness due to losing loved ones and people hurting her (badly. She would come to me about her experiences and her situations and I would listen. Now my heart gets easily pulled when it comes to others and I get an urge to help fix problems that go on in others lives (I know I know its not realistic or feasible) and so I would help brainstorm ways to help her get better. She became very pessimistic and felt like life wasnt worth living or God had abandoned her. She kept talking about suicide and things she wanted to do to herself and it would scare me out of my mind. I love her (like a sister) but my biggest mistake in this was I would drop everything just to listen to her. Sometimes I would set boundaries (can only call or text at certain times) but not always. My family doesnt think too highly of her because of her choices and how her problems and telling me how she wants to commit suicide would negatively affect me. Anytime she contacted me it was to tell me about some terrible stuff in her life (sometimes good stuff but mostly bad. Lately though since school started up (college and whatnot, weve kinda been quiet (me because of business. Then recently she messaged me about some horrific stuff that happened to her. The thing is a bunch of stuff she told me going on in her life I had NO IDEA about (new place, new faces, new people, even a new family) she told me nothing of anything new in her life until something horrible happened to her. I asked her some questions about the changes in her new life but she dismissed them as life goes on. I love her but Im starting to think Im only an emotional crutch for her, not a friend: a shoulder to cry on or someone who will give her attention before she goes off to do some other things that I wont hear about until it all goes wrong
I dont want to cut ties with her (she was one of my closest friends and she lost a lot of people she thought she could trust already, I just dont know what to do with her. I try to be vague in my responses now or at least wait til I finish assignments a projects before giving her my time. Any advice would be appreciated.
reply
plumeria66
I stopped communicating with a long distance friend who wouldnt stop sending long texts complaining about all sorts of trivial things that supposedly upset him. He was on three meds for depression and anxiety. When I told him I was busy with my new job and would text when I could, he sent me a long email asking me if I wanted to end the friendship because he felt I was pulling away. I then sent him an email explaining I was stressed and going thru a tough time in my life. He replied by gaslighting me minimizing my situation and didnt sympathize with me at all. I realized it was a chore to constantly having to validate him and hearing about his annoyances about life. Every time I said anything, he would question it and try to bait me into an argument. I found myself becoming defensive all the time whenever I engaged with him because he couldnt accept what I said. It was maddening.
He refuses to get a therapist. He is married to a wonderful woman and has a good high paying job WFM. In good health. And he cant stop bashing his life and the world. I dont think the world is a paradise either but it was too much for me to continue. I had nothing left in the tank for him as I had already helped him with so much in the last two years. Asking me if I wanted to end the friendship because I was not immediately replying to him anymore was the last straw. I actually enabled him come to think of it. He got so addicted to me being responsive to him that when I got my new job and had less time, he couldnt handle it.
If youre needy and complaining and refuse to allow me my space when I am asking for it, you will drive good friends like me away. I told him I care about him but I must take care of me and when I am ready, I will contact him. I dont plan to ever. While the meds work, I dont think they will forever. They will eventually lose their effect as his body gets used to them, and he will spiral downward yet again. I have no interest in being there for him. Im not his solution. He refuses to see a therapist about coping skills and is counting on the meds to keep him sane.
reply
I stopped communicating with a long distance friend who wouldnt stop sending long texts complaining about all sorts of trivial things that supposedly upset him. He was on three meds for depression and anxiety. When I told him I was busy with my new job and would text when I could, he sent me a long email asking me if I wanted to end the friendship because he felt I was pulling away. I then sent him an email explaining I was stressed and going thru a tough time in my life. He replied by gaslighting me minimizing my situation and didnt sympathize with me at all. I realized it was a chore to constantly having to validate him and hearing about his annoyances about life. Every time I said anything, he would question it and try to bait me into an argument. I found myself becoming defensive all the time whenever I engaged with him because he couldnt accept what I said. It was maddening.
He refuses to get a therapist. He is married to a wonderful woman and has a good high paying job WFM. In good health. And he cant stop bashing his life and the world. I dont think the world is a paradise either but it was too much for me to continue. I had nothing left in the tank for him as I had already helped him with so much in the last two years. Asking me if I wanted to end the friendship because I was not immediately replying to him anymore was the last straw. I actually enabled him come to think of it. He got so addicted to me being responsive to him that when I got my new job and had less time, he couldnt handle it.
If youre needy and complaining and refuse to allow me my space when I am asking for it, you will drive good friends like me away. I told him I care about him but I must take care of me and when I am ready, I will contact him. I dont plan to ever. While the meds work, I dont think they will forever. They will eventually lose their effect as his body gets used to them, and he will spiral downward yet again. I have no interest in being there for him. Im not his solution. He refuses to see a therapist about coping skills and is counting on the meds to keep him sane.
reply
Lauren
My sister is an energy vampire and has been for years. Her an I have been having a rocky time lately with our relationship. About 7 months ago, me and my boyfriend got together. And since then she has constantly criticized me and my relationship. And outside of that, even before my relationship began, she would take any chance she could get to tell me what I'm doing wrong. Her and I are in band in high school, and both had top leadership positions - when someone would complain or she found something wrong with what I was doing, she would give me long speeches about what I do wrong. Even if we only had time for a small talk. Everywhere I go to pass by her room I'll say hello, and more times than not she would ask me to do favors around the room so she didn't have to get up. There are times where I would say no and she would get upset or beg and be clingy over it, like it's the worst thing if I don't. There are many other things that have happened for me to believe this, and it breaks my heart to feel this way about my sister. But I need it to stop soon, it's bad for my mental health and emotions.
reply
My sister is an energy vampire and has been for years. Her an I have been having a rocky time lately with our relationship. About 7 months ago, me and my boyfriend got together. And since then she has constantly criticized me and my relationship. And outside of that, even before my relationship began, she would take any chance she could get to tell me what I'm doing wrong. Her and I are in band in high school, and both had top leadership positions - when someone would complain or she found something wrong with what I was doing, she would give me long speeches about what I do wrong. Even if we only had time for a small talk. Everywhere I go to pass by her room I'll say hello, and more times than not she would ask me to do favors around the room so she didn't have to get up. There are times where I would say no and she would get upset or beg and be clingy over it, like it's the worst thing if I don't. There are many other things that have happened for me to believe this, and it breaks my heart to feel this way about my sister. But I need it to stop soon, it's bad for my mental health and emotions.
reply
Adi
Back when I had first watched this video I was in denial that 'this person' could actually be playing such tricks on me.
Now watching this again makes me realise how they bring out the worst in me.
It has gotten to the point that whenever they're near I lose my appetite. It's also not possible for me to have my meals without them being there. I'm becoming underweight and have lower energy level than usual. My sleep schedule is messed up, I'm mentally drained. I can't focus as well as I used to, 'have lost my cheerfulness' according to my friends.
It's almost as if I'm being forced to change which feels, and /is/ unhealthy. The worst part is it's not possible for me to entirely avoid them as they're a family member. I can't do anything.
reply
Back when I had first watched this video I was in denial that 'this person' could actually be playing such tricks on me.
Now watching this again makes me realise how they bring out the worst in me.
It has gotten to the point that whenever they're near I lose my appetite. It's also not possible for me to have my meals without them being there. I'm becoming underweight and have lower energy level than usual. My sleep schedule is messed up, I'm mentally drained. I can't focus as well as I used to, 'have lost my cheerfulness' according to my friends.
It's almost as if I'm being forced to change which feels, and /is/ unhealthy. The worst part is it's not possible for me to entirely avoid them as they're a family member. I can't do anything.
reply
Christina
For the people who feel like theyre energy vampires. Youre not alone. Nobody is perfect. We all have work to do and I guarantee EVERYONE has traits of being an energy vampire or at some point in their lives have.
At least youre now becoming self aware, accepting that, holding yourself accountable. Acknowledging those youve hurt. That means youre healing. Congratulations
I will also say that I dont think anyone else should have to do this work for energy vampires or people who have some of those traits. Or that its ok that theyve done those things. No one is obligated to help other people heal but I know it can be hard and lonely for both parties involved. Everyone deserves love and some compassion.
reply
For the people who feel like theyre energy vampires. Youre not alone. Nobody is perfect. We all have work to do and I guarantee EVERYONE has traits of being an energy vampire or at some point in their lives have.
At least youre now becoming self aware, accepting that, holding yourself accountable. Acknowledging those youve hurt. That means youre healing. Congratulations
I will also say that I dont think anyone else should have to do this work for energy vampires or people who have some of those traits. Or that its ok that theyve done those things. No one is obligated to help other people heal but I know it can be hard and lonely for both parties involved. Everyone deserves love and some compassion.
reply
Mel
I think there is another kind of energy vampire with an even more covert style, they will pay for dinners and stuff. You will find yourself sharing stories and they will share a little about themselves. Everything seems to be too good to be true, but as time goes on, they tend to find the drama in your life entertaining and you will start to notice that they only want to do what they want to do, any suggestions you make for activities to do together. either they ignore or cancel last minute; .even when you want to pay or treat them. They can be quite controlling and thrive on your drama or since of lack.
reply
I think there is another kind of energy vampire with an even more covert style, they will pay for dinners and stuff. You will find yourself sharing stories and they will share a little about themselves. Everything seems to be too good to be true, but as time goes on, they tend to find the drama in your life entertaining and you will start to notice that they only want to do what they want to do, any suggestions you make for activities to do together. either they ignore or cancel last minute; .even when you want to pay or treat them. They can be quite controlling and thrive on your drama or since of lack.
reply
rayva1
Theyve both been gone from my life for the last 2 years. Suddenly, both abruptly stopped communicating with me from out of the blue as soon as I told them they were no longer receiving anymore financial support from me. Thankfully, it was a distance relationship, but it was a connivance between two friends. All the signs listed in this video pretty much said it all. The sad part about both of them is that one was my childhood friend and the other was supposedly my TF.
reply
Theyve both been gone from my life for the last 2 years. Suddenly, both abruptly stopped communicating with me from out of the blue as soon as I told them they were no longer receiving anymore financial support from me. Thankfully, it was a distance relationship, but it was a connivance between two friends. All the signs listed in this video pretty much said it all. The sad part about both of them is that one was my childhood friend and the other was supposedly my TF.
reply
Queer
I deal with those all of the time. I deal with them by paying attention to objects tht r infront of me, and I keep myself distant from mental chatter tht is emotionally draining me. Also I tend to not be friends with ppl who hve bones to pick with me and I prefer to only live in the present moment. Also I keep in mind tht more thn half the time they accuse me of things tht they r guilty of instead of me.
reply
I deal with those all of the time. I deal with them by paying attention to objects tht r infront of me, and I keep myself distant from mental chatter tht is emotionally draining me. Also I tend to not be friends with ppl who hve bones to pick with me and I prefer to only live in the present moment. Also I keep in mind tht more thn half the time they accuse me of things tht they r guilty of instead of me.
reply
Unrel8able
I let an overwhelming number of these type of people into my life over the years. But not any more. I value myself more than I value their needs. I'm just growing to hate people anymore. It seems like anytime I try to make new friends, they're ALWAYS the wrong people. So, I have vowed to isolate myself for the rest of my life and never have to worry about wasting my life on crap poeple again.
reply
I let an overwhelming number of these type of people into my life over the years. But not any more. I value myself more than I value their needs. I'm just growing to hate people anymore. It seems like anytime I try to make new friends, they're ALWAYS the wrong people. So, I have vowed to isolate myself for the rest of my life and never have to worry about wasting my life on crap poeple again.
reply
shanjida
Plzeee help me. How can i get away from them cus they r my close friend. At first i thought she was going Through rough time that's why she argue with me and my other friends. But now things are going worse. She creates chaos on silly things, wants to dominate hurts us and end of the day play the victim card. i and my friends are very stressed cus of her plzee tell me what to do
reply
Plzeee help me. How can i get away from them cus they r my close friend. At first i thought she was going Through rough time that's why she argue with me and my other friends. But now things are going worse. She creates chaos on silly things, wants to dominate hurts us and end of the day play the victim card. i and my friends are very stressed cus of her plzee tell me what to do
reply
Dila
Well thats literally my so called best friend. She is such a drama queen and always starts pointless dramas. She always want to talk about herself, her problems and the things she likes. She hates it when I talk about myself for once. She always plays the victim and expects me to apologize which is annoying. (By the way those jojo drawings are awesome lmao I love jojo)
reply
Well thats literally my so called best friend. She is such a drama queen and always starts pointless dramas. She always want to talk about herself, her problems and the things she likes. She hates it when I talk about myself for once. She always plays the victim and expects me to apologize which is annoying. (By the way those jojo drawings are awesome lmao I love jojo)
reply
Ewok
Energy vampire. What about those vampires that are always wanting what you have, even though you may not have much to begin with? Those too can be family, friends, loved ones or a random stranger. You're better off standing up for yourself and just saying NO, no more to many kinds of people, even empathic people.
reply
Energy vampire. What about those vampires that are always wanting what you have, even though you may not have much to begin with? Those too can be family, friends, loved ones or a random stranger. You're better off standing up for yourself and just saying NO, no more to many kinds of people, even empathic people.
reply
MLP
I started handling an energy vampire in my family by writing things down in private places about behaviors I experienced, for healing and closure. It also helped me to consider my other relationships, and to stop overly seeking validation by finding a sense of worth in my relationship with God as a Christian.
reply
I started handling an energy vampire in my family by writing things down in private places about behaviors I experienced, for healing and closure. It also helped me to consider my other relationships, and to stop overly seeking validation by finding a sense of worth in my relationship with God as a Christian.
reply
education
All Energy vampires are better to watch out, Shhhh. Secret There are Sigmamale monsters found around in this world. Ha. Ha I just realize that im one of sigma. now i know well how to pull their Energy sucking tooth. lol. Secret so simple just Logic, reality and mirroring their attitude back.
reply
All Energy vampires are better to watch out, Shhhh. Secret There are Sigmamale monsters found around in this world. Ha. Ha I just realize that im one of sigma. now i know well how to pull their Energy sucking tooth. lol. Secret so simple just Logic, reality and mirroring their attitude back.
reply
Princess
1) they like to play victim cant be accountable
guilt trip you
2) self absorbed
3) dominate you - put you down / when we broke up
4) unnecessary drama
5) criticize you but he does say to be realistic
6) exploit your kindness - take advantage of you
reply
1) they like to play victim cant be accountable
guilt trip you
2) self absorbed
3) dominate you - put you down / when we broke up
4) unnecessary drama
5) criticize you but he does say to be realistic
6) exploit your kindness - take advantage of you
reply
Mariliya
im watching this since somebody said i was one and i think i come across as one but in reality im not doing it on purpose and idk what to do because when i dont do this and let them talk they dont want to but i dont want to be seen like that is there a way to change?
reply
im watching this since somebody said i was one and i think i come across as one but in reality im not doing it on purpose and idk what to do because when i dont do this and let them talk they dont want to but i dont want to be seen like that is there a way to change?
reply
Jayme
Currently playing this at full volume in the bathroom because my vampire is currently sitting outside waaaaaiting for me to come out so she try to use me. And I simply REFUSE to come out until she goes away. Cause if I come out, shell be talking for hours
reply
Currently playing this at full volume in the bathroom because my vampire is currently sitting outside waaaaaiting for me to come out so she try to use me. And I simply REFUSE to come out until she goes away. Cause if I come out, shell be talking for hours
reply
Tee.
My mother. Been this way all her life and Im 30 still going through this. Idk what to do because shes my mother but i dont want her around at the same time. I feel i have to move really far away for her to not come around
reply
My mother. Been this way all her life and Im 30 still going through this. Idk what to do because shes my mother but i dont want her around at the same time. I feel i have to move really far away for her to not come around
reply
Klavivz
Things in the universe reflect each other and repeat patterns. Narcissists are literally like black holes, portals to hell that break down all cosmos into absurdity. Normal people give energy, narcissists drain energy.
reply
Things in the universe reflect each other and repeat patterns. Narcissists are literally like black holes, portals to hell that break down all cosmos into absurdity. Normal people give energy, narcissists drain energy.
reply
Truth
Like a friend of mine every time I get off the phone with her I have this cluster of a headache that I didn't have I mean she wants to talk for 3 or 4 hours I don't have the time anybody got any suggestions.
reply
Like a friend of mine every time I get off the phone with her I have this cluster of a headache that I didn't have I mean she wants to talk for 3 or 4 hours I don't have the time anybody got any suggestions.
reply
Iamoz
Perfect living situation paid thru Oct except the guy whose house it is energy count Dracula my friends are saying f the money and get out now, he does all 6 signs all the time.
reply
Perfect living situation paid thru Oct except the guy whose house it is energy count Dracula my friends are saying f the money and get out now, he does all 6 signs all the time.
reply
Mindaugas
In my work. One of the bosses is doing with everyone like that. That's why I start looking for advice how to stop that from me. He is to rich. I can't change a job
reply
In my work. One of the bosses is doing with everyone like that. That's why I start looking for advice how to stop that from me. He is to rich. I can't change a job
reply
funny
If you go to sleep around them and you have dreams of a hand traveling through your mind and stealing all of your thoughts, that could also be a sign too
reply
If you go to sleep around them and you have dreams of a hand traveling through your mind and stealing all of your thoughts, that could also be a sign too
reply
bonkers
my bsf is one and idk what to do I desperately need help cause I can't deal with it anymore and I don't wanna lose my only friend I've had for years
reply
my bsf is one and idk what to do I desperately need help cause I can't deal with it anymore and I don't wanna lose my only friend I've had for years
reply
elias
I have a friend like that, that is why I am here. no capacity for empathy, this is exactly what I sayed 20 minutes ago about him. what to do?
reply
I have a friend like that, that is why I am here. no capacity for empathy, this is exactly what I sayed 20 minutes ago about him. what to do?
reply
Add a review, comment
Other channel videos
