4 Differences Between Good Friends and Toxic Friends
video description
Date: 2023-08-20
Related videos
Comments and reviews: 25
Madhatter
What happens when my friend is in a tough situation and you help and love them as much as you can but then when Im in a tough situation they basically say so sorry and turns the conversation to themselves. But I feel as though they have made me into a bad person since the only way I can say these feelings isn't to them but to other people. If I actually confronted them theyll make it seem as if I havent tried so hard to talk to them about it. My friend tends to lie to make the situation seem worse then it is and as soon as I say taht i was trying to protect them from other people, they just say dont feel bad Ill do it myself. They always make sure anyone I wanna talk or make friends with seem like the worst person ever and then I have to talk to that person in secret. They also Have a favorite friend and they are always with eachother, I dont mind that personally. However they always tell eachother the rest of the friendgroups secrets, so when I tell them a secret I have theyll almost always tell their favorite friend. Theyll always make things about themselves, I know It seems like jealousy but when It comes to my problems they gloss over it and make it quick so they can talk about their problems and not doing a thing to help. I understand That Im not the best friend at times but i work so hard to be better. Over the years I lied and was jealous alot, Now it isnt much of a problem. However they tend to only say sorry abd not try to inprove after breaking my trust, boundrys, and etc. They always know when Im akward or uncomfortable with a topic but dont do anything to change it. I just wanna know If I should do anything, say anything to make them better.
reply
What happens when my friend is in a tough situation and you help and love them as much as you can but then when Im in a tough situation they basically say so sorry and turns the conversation to themselves. But I feel as though they have made me into a bad person since the only way I can say these feelings isn't to them but to other people. If I actually confronted them theyll make it seem as if I havent tried so hard to talk to them about it. My friend tends to lie to make the situation seem worse then it is and as soon as I say taht i was trying to protect them from other people, they just say dont feel bad Ill do it myself. They always make sure anyone I wanna talk or make friends with seem like the worst person ever and then I have to talk to that person in secret. They also Have a favorite friend and they are always with eachother, I dont mind that personally. However they always tell eachother the rest of the friendgroups secrets, so when I tell them a secret I have theyll almost always tell their favorite friend. Theyll always make things about themselves, I know It seems like jealousy but when It comes to my problems they gloss over it and make it quick so they can talk about their problems and not doing a thing to help. I understand That Im not the best friend at times but i work so hard to be better. Over the years I lied and was jealous alot, Now it isnt much of a problem. However they tend to only say sorry abd not try to inprove after breaking my trust, boundrys, and etc. They always know when Im akward or uncomfortable with a topic but dont do anything to change it. I just wanna know If I should do anything, say anything to make them better.
reply
Dabbler
Flaky people suck. WATCH for these, when you meet some new friend:
1. Call-before you come over un-announced. Show up on time.
2. Dont block my car in the driveway
3. When you come in, don't walk in with a half-eaten Burger and fries and the sack they were in and continue at my place. I didnt invite you over to dump your garbage here.
4. When you call and I tell you to come on over, I meant just you, NOT ALSO yer buddy from work, kids in diapers or your dog.
5. No smoking.
6. Dont ask me to lend you money. I wont, either.
7. Dont bring over some bunch of papers and ask me to help you fill them out.
8. No, you cant borrow my laptop, tablet, phone, computer, camera, saw, axe, wrenches, blender or lawn-mower. BUY your own.
9. Dont bring over any Gifts (translation: junk items you no longer want. I dont want them either) Especially, half-spoiled fruits or veggies, or old gift shop knick-knacks or trinkets. (yes, some people do that.
10. Don't bring over any small appliances or gadgets and want me to repair/fix them.
11. Don't come over and give me some sales-pitch or try to get me to JOIN anything, or sign up for anything. Not to join the Rotarty club, or the Elks lodge, or attend a PTA meeting, or donate money to any cause, or buy anything, or become a member of anything.
If you've made it this far, Congratulations, on being a responsible and non-needy Adult. Maybe there's hope. Now, let's go do something FUN!
reply
Flaky people suck. WATCH for these, when you meet some new friend:
1. Call-before you come over un-announced. Show up on time.
2. Dont block my car in the driveway
3. When you come in, don't walk in with a half-eaten Burger and fries and the sack they were in and continue at my place. I didnt invite you over to dump your garbage here.
4. When you call and I tell you to come on over, I meant just you, NOT ALSO yer buddy from work, kids in diapers or your dog.
5. No smoking.
6. Dont ask me to lend you money. I wont, either.
7. Dont bring over some bunch of papers and ask me to help you fill them out.
8. No, you cant borrow my laptop, tablet, phone, computer, camera, saw, axe, wrenches, blender or lawn-mower. BUY your own.
9. Dont bring over any Gifts (translation: junk items you no longer want. I dont want them either) Especially, half-spoiled fruits or veggies, or old gift shop knick-knacks or trinkets. (yes, some people do that.
10. Don't bring over any small appliances or gadgets and want me to repair/fix them.
11. Don't come over and give me some sales-pitch or try to get me to JOIN anything, or sign up for anything. Not to join the Rotarty club, or the Elks lodge, or attend a PTA meeting, or donate money to any cause, or buy anything, or become a member of anything.
If you've made it this far, Congratulations, on being a responsible and non-needy Adult. Maybe there's hope. Now, let's go do something FUN!
reply
Kixzu
Note: I don't really view them as toxic or too manipulative? idk: C
Right now, I have a really close and smart friend who is really fun to hangout with, and easy to make conversation with. Sometimes, we'll hangout on the streets during family gatherings (their uncle/aunt and my parents are close friends, but she'll often pressure me into buying things I don't want to buy. I recognize this a lot, but don't do anything because I don't know how to react, and I don't want to come off as selfish.
They'll be really polite, enthusiastic, and say things like I'm really sure everyone will appreciate it! You should get it! I know they (our parents) will like it a lot! and when I begin to go I don't think that's a great idea since there already is food, etc, they'll say If you don't want to pay, I'll pay for it! and it ends up making me feel sort of guilty? So I comply and go ahead.
Can anyone give me advice on how to react and what to say should I encounter this again?
reply
Note: I don't really view them as toxic or too manipulative? idk: C
Right now, I have a really close and smart friend who is really fun to hangout with, and easy to make conversation with. Sometimes, we'll hangout on the streets during family gatherings (their uncle/aunt and my parents are close friends, but she'll often pressure me into buying things I don't want to buy. I recognize this a lot, but don't do anything because I don't know how to react, and I don't want to come off as selfish.
They'll be really polite, enthusiastic, and say things like I'm really sure everyone will appreciate it! You should get it! I know they (our parents) will like it a lot! and when I begin to go I don't think that's a great idea since there already is food, etc, they'll say If you don't want to pay, I'll pay for it! and it ends up making me feel sort of guilty? So I comply and go ahead.
Can anyone give me advice on how to react and what to say should I encounter this again?
reply
mcboingboing
I have adhd and there are days where i get really tired from masking and do whatever i can to avoid people when getting on the train. so, whenever my bff spots one of our classmates at the station, i tell her to not go talk to them or invite them to go home together. but she keeps on going Why? Do you just not like them? and puts me on the spot, and it pretty much forces me to bust out the last ounce of my social battery to talk to people for 30 more minutes. I would cut her off if i could. but shes a very persuasive person and the popular girl. everyone believes everything she says. shes already spread a rumor about me and my real bff dating. besides, all throughout 7th grade, she was the only person in my social circle, meaning other than her, I don't have much. (im in 8th grade rn)
reply
I have adhd and there are days where i get really tired from masking and do whatever i can to avoid people when getting on the train. so, whenever my bff spots one of our classmates at the station, i tell her to not go talk to them or invite them to go home together. but she keeps on going Why? Do you just not like them? and puts me on the spot, and it pretty much forces me to bust out the last ounce of my social battery to talk to people for 30 more minutes. I would cut her off if i could. but shes a very persuasive person and the popular girl. everyone believes everything she says. shes already spread a rumor about me and my real bff dating. besides, all throughout 7th grade, she was the only person in my social circle, meaning other than her, I don't have much. (im in 8th grade rn)
reply
Anrup
Decided to end a friendship today for various reasons related to her being unwilling to explain why she didnt communicate with me about a few things about our friendship, and says she feels pressure to promise open communication with me moving forward. Add to that bending the truth about things we had agreed on. I had to pull the plug when I myself am giving 100% with honest communication about hurt feelings and discussion from a place of love and trying to understand them. Not toxic, but also not able to meet basic friendship requirements. If that feels like pressure, they have some inner reflection and inner work to do, and I hope they take this as an opportunity to do so for their own relationships. Maybe theyre not used to such transparency but hey, it should be the norm!
reply
Decided to end a friendship today for various reasons related to her being unwilling to explain why she didnt communicate with me about a few things about our friendship, and says she feels pressure to promise open communication with me moving forward. Add to that bending the truth about things we had agreed on. I had to pull the plug when I myself am giving 100% with honest communication about hurt feelings and discussion from a place of love and trying to understand them. Not toxic, but also not able to meet basic friendship requirements. If that feels like pressure, they have some inner reflection and inner work to do, and I hope they take this as an opportunity to do so for their own relationships. Maybe theyre not used to such transparency but hey, it should be the norm!
reply
Ron
I've been in a lonely place and I needed some company. I came off needy. My brother called me toxic. So I did a lot of growing, changing, and putting in the work. I started to see this was necessary so I could date and be happy. A friend from my teens was never there for me while I was lonely and depressed. Even after I shown him I changed he still couldn't be bothered. I came out on top I see clearly. In the end I didn't know my friend at all. I tried to keep a friend ship together but you can't stop some one from breaking your heart. As a HSP it F, 'n hurts.
reply
I've been in a lonely place and I needed some company. I came off needy. My brother called me toxic. So I did a lot of growing, changing, and putting in the work. I started to see this was necessary so I could date and be happy. A friend from my teens was never there for me while I was lonely and depressed. Even after I shown him I changed he still couldn't be bothered. I came out on top I see clearly. In the end I didn't know my friend at all. I tried to keep a friend ship together but you can't stop some one from breaking your heart. As a HSP it F, 'n hurts.
reply
Landon
Ive always worried about how everyone at my school has so many friends, but I have few. Then, one of my friends said Would you rather have a ton of people listen to you, but not really care, or would you rather have a few people who have your back no matter what? and right then I realized that with my friends and family, I have one of the strongest support systems of anyone I know. I might not be rich when it comes to acquaintances, but I sure have an impenetrable fortress surrounding me.
reply
Ive always worried about how everyone at my school has so many friends, but I have few. Then, one of my friends said Would you rather have a ton of people listen to you, but not really care, or would you rather have a few people who have your back no matter what? and right then I realized that with my friends and family, I have one of the strongest support systems of anyone I know. I might not be rich when it comes to acquaintances, but I sure have an impenetrable fortress surrounding me.
reply
Baty
Nah bc i am here to see If i was a bad friend, i like to be alone and my ex-friend wanted ALL the atention on her, i cried the day she was blaming me for abandoning her (she knows i am a introvert, and she said that i was being selfish
I cared too much about her, and then she just hated me
Plus: i was just trying to recover from a grommer, and my boyfriend was helping me, soo i was spending more time with him bc i felt safe
reply
Nah bc i am here to see If i was a bad friend, i like to be alone and my ex-friend wanted ALL the atention on her, i cried the day she was blaming me for abandoning her (she knows i am a introvert, and she said that i was being selfish
I cared too much about her, and then she just hated me
Plus: i was just trying to recover from a grommer, and my boyfriend was helping me, soo i was spending more time with him bc i felt safe
reply
Karicat
When you're at the lowest point in your life they'll ignore you suddenly and say you haven't done anything for them with a snarl. I thought I had one good friend left but I was wrong. Now I have no friends and my family is toxic so I am 100% alone at 57. I'm getting strong AF tho. Maybe by 70 I'll finally get that dream career so I can make up for not being able to succeed yet.
reply
When you're at the lowest point in your life they'll ignore you suddenly and say you haven't done anything for them with a snarl. I thought I had one good friend left but I was wrong. Now I have no friends and my family is toxic so I am 100% alone at 57. I'm getting strong AF tho. Maybe by 70 I'll finally get that dream career so I can make up for not being able to succeed yet.
reply
Kiri
This opened my eyes a lot. I have recently cut off a friend from my life of 8 yrs, and it hurt. And I'd been feeling guilty but they had put me in way too many uncomfortable situations and would belittle me about being too introverted and boring. And although I miss the good times, since graduation they've changed and this made me feel a bit better about my decision
reply
This opened my eyes a lot. I have recently cut off a friend from my life of 8 yrs, and it hurt. And I'd been feeling guilty but they had put me in way too many uncomfortable situations and would belittle me about being too introverted and boring. And although I miss the good times, since graduation they've changed and this made me feel a bit better about my decision
reply
smiley_xox
I remember watching this when I was like 8, leaving a comment smth like
I had not 1 but 2 toxic friends they were brts and MADE ME CRY 24/7
(how did I even get that cringe )
also sry for kinda disrespecting the whole serious vibe of this stuff and I do actually realize that this is a serious topic
reply
I remember watching this when I was like 8, leaving a comment smth like
I had not 1 but 2 toxic friends they were brts and MADE ME CRY 24/7
(how did I even get that cringe )
also sry for kinda disrespecting the whole serious vibe of this stuff and I do actually realize that this is a serious topic
reply
Carleigh
I was trying to find out if my bestie was toxic cause I just spent the last hour sobbing because of her(really it was kind of my fault but Im not getting into details) and it turns out Im the toxic friend(I JUST DONT WANNA PLAY UNDERTALE, thats why I use excuses to get out of playing it)
reply
I was trying to find out if my bestie was toxic cause I just spent the last hour sobbing because of her(really it was kind of my fault but Im not getting into details) and it turns out Im the toxic friend(I JUST DONT WANNA PLAY UNDERTALE, thats why I use excuses to get out of playing it)
reply
Linden
Also, adding to #1: they may not want something in return, but theyre only willing to spend a minimal amount of time helping. Theyll say theyll help and support you, but when you need to vent, or cry, or just need a hug, they hesitate or say they just dont have the time. Every time.
reply
Also, adding to #1: they may not want something in return, but theyre only willing to spend a minimal amount of time helping. Theyll say theyll help and support you, but when you need to vent, or cry, or just need a hug, they hesitate or say they just dont have the time. Every time.
reply
Void
Ok now I wish I didnt watch this, not cuz its a bad video but uh
Before my friend was hitting them self cuz another 1 of there friends was kinda well not exactly being much of a friend,
Then there hand was bleeding cuz they hit there head 2 hard, we just talked then I guess.
reply
Ok now I wish I didnt watch this, not cuz its a bad video but uh
Before my friend was hitting them self cuz another 1 of there friends was kinda well not exactly being much of a friend,
Then there hand was bleeding cuz they hit there head 2 hard, we just talked then I guess.
reply
Derp
According to this Im a good friend compared to by BFF she always talk bad about me to teachers and other classmates. One time she made me the butt of the joke just because I couldnt go home with her even though I was racing back home because my cat was vomiting blood.
reply
According to this Im a good friend compared to by BFF she always talk bad about me to teachers and other classmates. One time she made me the butt of the joke just because I couldnt go home with her even though I was racing back home because my cat was vomiting blood.
reply
JuniorsVlogs
i used to be a really toxic friend because of my own insecurities and trauma and abuse i went threw but i am learning more about myself and starting to do better and healing and tryna look on the positive side that atleast im starting to become aware ofbit
reply
i used to be a really toxic friend because of my own insecurities and trauma and abuse i went threw but i am learning more about myself and starting to do better and healing and tryna look on the positive side that atleast im starting to become aware ofbit
reply
Meera
I came across this video two years ago and thought this is not related to me but now i am watching and realized if i watched earlier. I would have been able to differentiate between a good friend or bad friend because i had toxic friends through out high school.
reply
I came across this video two years ago and thought this is not related to me but now i am watching and realized if i watched earlier. I would have been able to differentiate between a good friend or bad friend because i had toxic friends through out high school.
reply
Way
I literally don't know what happened to me. Many behaviours of mine are like toxic friend. if I'm gonna be like that then I want my friend to leave me have a good life with good friends of her. i don't want to ruin the people I love with my behaviours
reply
I literally don't know what happened to me. Many behaviours of mine are like toxic friend. if I'm gonna be like that then I want my friend to leave me have a good life with good friends of her. i don't want to ruin the people I love with my behaviours
reply
Honestly
I really wish that people would stop trying to control each other. I am sick and tired of people telling me what to do, as if I can't manage my own life. Also, true friends do not use each other, but appreciate each other.
reply
I really wish that people would stop trying to control each other. I am sick and tired of people telling me what to do, as if I can't manage my own life. Also, true friends do not use each other, but appreciate each other.
reply
VicoCorp
you cannot ever say and determine whether youre a good person or not. That is a thing others may judge you for, not you, and you shouldnt care too much about self reflecting, just do more and be the better one out of all
reply
you cannot ever say and determine whether youre a good person or not. That is a thing others may judge you for, not you, and you shouldnt care too much about self reflecting, just do more and be the better one out of all
reply
Tritie
The whole freaking gang who i thought were good friends ARE toxic after all. Thank god i have my bestie. Thank god she always reminds me to keep my limits with them. From all of these informations, she's literally a gem.
reply
The whole freaking gang who i thought were good friends ARE toxic after all. Thank god i have my bestie. Thank god she always reminds me to keep my limits with them. From all of these informations, she's literally a gem.
reply
Raina
I have a good friend and a toxic friend and my toxic friend does not want to be my friend but everyone else thinks we are friends because she is the greatest and nicest person in the world who is friends with everyone.
reply
I have a good friend and a toxic friend and my toxic friend does not want to be my friend but everyone else thinks we are friends because she is the greatest and nicest person in the world who is friends with everyone.
reply
daisyowlgacha
I need help because it's really hard for me to comfort a person who is sad- I thought this was normal until I realized people are able to do it without feeling award like 'what am I supposed to say? '
reply
I need help because it's really hard for me to comfort a person who is sad- I thought this was normal until I realized people are able to do it without feeling award like 'what am I supposed to say? '
reply
Life
Good friends are essential to a successful and happy life. They provide protection, care, and emotional safety. Toxic friends, on the other hand, only take and demand a lot without giving back.
reply
Good friends are essential to a successful and happy life. They provide protection, care, and emotional safety. Toxic friends, on the other hand, only take and demand a lot without giving back.
reply
Kevin
Thanks been a long time since I had true friends they past away. Since then I bout forgot about what a true friends are about. Seems like the meaning of true friends has changed over the years
reply
Thanks been a long time since I had true friends they past away. Since then I bout forgot about what a true friends are about. Seems like the meaning of true friends has changed over the years
reply
Add a review, comment
Other channel videos
