8 Signs You Are Dealing with Narcissistic Abuse
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Date: 2023-08-20
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psych2go
I couple of months ago I told my partner I thought he was a narcissist and shared him a picture with the following writing on it: Narcissists. You cant talk to them about your feelings because they find a way to turn the tables on you. This is not someone who is truly for you. Real people will listen and try to understand where you are coming from, while helping find a solution. The narcs just listen to find loopholes to place blame on anything other than themselves.
To what he immediately responded: but that is exactly what you do to me every single time. And Ive been researching ever since that day and questioning myself whether or not it is true what he said. I went to a psychologist and she said he is one indeed and he was heavily gaslighting me and Ive been aware of this now. I notice every time he accuses me of doing something to him it is the exacto thing I now he is doing to me. Like this one time he said I was psychologically hurting him when Im the one whos been paying a psychologist to be able to deal with the way he mistreated me thru out my whole pregnancy. Now we have a beautiful baby girl and Im afraid staying w him will only damage her on the long run.
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I couple of months ago I told my partner I thought he was a narcissist and shared him a picture with the following writing on it: Narcissists. You cant talk to them about your feelings because they find a way to turn the tables on you. This is not someone who is truly for you. Real people will listen and try to understand where you are coming from, while helping find a solution. The narcs just listen to find loopholes to place blame on anything other than themselves.
To what he immediately responded: but that is exactly what you do to me every single time. And Ive been researching ever since that day and questioning myself whether or not it is true what he said. I went to a psychologist and she said he is one indeed and he was heavily gaslighting me and Ive been aware of this now. I notice every time he accuses me of doing something to him it is the exacto thing I now he is doing to me. Like this one time he said I was psychologically hurting him when Im the one whos been paying a psychologist to be able to deal with the way he mistreated me thru out my whole pregnancy. Now we have a beautiful baby girl and Im afraid staying w him will only damage her on the long run.
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Cindy
I sat and sobbed after watching this video because Im at the stage at the end. And the narcissist in my life if my adult daughter who lives with me, along with my 2 year old grandson, my one and only grandchild. Shes mentally, emotionally, physically, and financially abusive to me. I hate who Ive become. She will work me to death and she takes my full pay. I cant go to the dentist anymore because I owe them money and she controls the money so my bill doesnt get paid, but I have to drive her to HER dentist appointments. My psoriasis has come back full force because she wont pay for the medication I was taking that keeps from flaring. She tells me we cant afford my meds. But I see her getting things delivered from shoes, etc, bought online, and she gets cases of beer every week at $40 each. Ive developed pain everywhere and I think now that its from the abuse and not a new medical condition. Thank you so much for this video. Im terrified to grow old with her. How bad will it get when I can no longer defend myself?
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I sat and sobbed after watching this video because Im at the stage at the end. And the narcissist in my life if my adult daughter who lives with me, along with my 2 year old grandson, my one and only grandchild. Shes mentally, emotionally, physically, and financially abusive to me. I hate who Ive become. She will work me to death and she takes my full pay. I cant go to the dentist anymore because I owe them money and she controls the money so my bill doesnt get paid, but I have to drive her to HER dentist appointments. My psoriasis has come back full force because she wont pay for the medication I was taking that keeps from flaring. She tells me we cant afford my meds. But I see her getting things delivered from shoes, etc, bought online, and she gets cases of beer every week at $40 each. Ive developed pain everywhere and I think now that its from the abuse and not a new medical condition. Thank you so much for this video. Im terrified to grow old with her. How bad will it get when I can no longer defend myself?
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Batsch
my exgirlfriend, the most beautiful woman ive ever seen in my life. on the outside. but. inside, a whole different story. u want to discuss something u dont like? -> stopped talking to me for hours or days. hitting me, biting me. we broke up 3months ago(again. it was on and off) i still miss her, i miss the old one, i fell so hard for. ive never asked a girl out or for her number. she was the first one i did that in my life. i miss her so much, i cant understand how she turned into that person. i feel so ashamed by even bringing up that i got hit by a woman. as a man, u feel like trash. i often said to her how beautiful she looks right now, on random occasion at home or wherever. her respons was always: i know. that was so. idk how to describe it. i ment it from the bottom of my heart and she just said i know. like. i dont care what u said. ah well. i guess ill stay alone from now on, im now 32. and i feel like i will never ever meet someone again
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my exgirlfriend, the most beautiful woman ive ever seen in my life. on the outside. but. inside, a whole different story. u want to discuss something u dont like? -> stopped talking to me for hours or days. hitting me, biting me. we broke up 3months ago(again. it was on and off) i still miss her, i miss the old one, i fell so hard for. ive never asked a girl out or for her number. she was the first one i did that in my life. i miss her so much, i cant understand how she turned into that person. i feel so ashamed by even bringing up that i got hit by a woman. as a man, u feel like trash. i often said to her how beautiful she looks right now, on random occasion at home or wherever. her respons was always: i know. that was so. idk how to describe it. i ment it from the bottom of my heart and she just said i know. like. i dont care what u said. ah well. i guess ill stay alone from now on, im now 32. and i feel like i will never ever meet someone again
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Joel
I was in a marriage with a narcissistic woman that I grew up with and was best friends with for 14 years. She tore me down but eventually said I should see a counselor to get help. That was when I got mentally and emotionally healthy to the point that I started resisting and ignoring her attacks. We have a daughter and I was still in college so I didn't have a career to take her with me. I have since finished college, gotten a career going in the Army (I was previously in the Marines) and am working to rebuild my life. I am not being mean or saying anything poorly to my ex, so her lawyer can't use anything in the custody. My daughter unfortunately has to deal with the narcissism, so I've set up an email for her and email her everyday that I love her and will always work to be the best father I can be. I am on the long road to recovery, I hope you all are also able to recover.
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I was in a marriage with a narcissistic woman that I grew up with and was best friends with for 14 years. She tore me down but eventually said I should see a counselor to get help. That was when I got mentally and emotionally healthy to the point that I started resisting and ignoring her attacks. We have a daughter and I was still in college so I didn't have a career to take her with me. I have since finished college, gotten a career going in the Army (I was previously in the Marines) and am working to rebuild my life. I am not being mean or saying anything poorly to my ex, so her lawyer can't use anything in the custody. My daughter unfortunately has to deal with the narcissism, so I've set up an email for her and email her everyday that I love her and will always work to be the best father I can be. I am on the long road to recovery, I hope you all are also able to recover.
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Mariah
Thank you for this video. I found out through therapy, I'm a people pleaser. I have a hard time saying no, sticking up for myself and drawing and keeping boundaries. I think a lot of this stems from my childhood, specifically the relationship I had with my mom. As long as i can remember, I've always sought out validation from anyone, but specifically men. I found myself in an abusive relationship beginning at age 21. It was an 11 year ordeal, with a now 4 year old involved. Just 2 days ago, I had to call the police on him for DV, after he intentionally injured me by launching my own cell phone at my face, after he got mad that I told him to get out of my car, due to him disrespecting me. We haven't even been in a relationship since 2019. I'm hoping to get back into therapy and I'm sure I'm gonna need it, especially after being physically assaulted recently.
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Thank you for this video. I found out through therapy, I'm a people pleaser. I have a hard time saying no, sticking up for myself and drawing and keeping boundaries. I think a lot of this stems from my childhood, specifically the relationship I had with my mom. As long as i can remember, I've always sought out validation from anyone, but specifically men. I found myself in an abusive relationship beginning at age 21. It was an 11 year ordeal, with a now 4 year old involved. Just 2 days ago, I had to call the police on him for DV, after he intentionally injured me by launching my own cell phone at my face, after he got mad that I told him to get out of my car, due to him disrespecting me. We haven't even been in a relationship since 2019. I'm hoping to get back into therapy and I'm sure I'm gonna need it, especially after being physically assaulted recently.
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Bilge
What destroys my soul is knowing that these behaviors are exactly what my dad uses on me and my family. He actually thinks the whole world is against him and refuses to confront his emotional problems and the emotional damage he commits to other people. I want to so badly help him see the error of his ways, but it may actually end our relationship if I do. I've never felt so sick to my stomach and unsure about anything in my life. I know that he knows he's lost his grip on me and he treats me like a different person. I've seen the man behind the curtain and I've lost access to the wizard. I hope other parents out there don't put their kids through what my dad is doing to me, it's actually evil. The kicker is that he's generally a good person, so the guilt I feel from desiring to confront him is only magnified and he uses that greatly to his advantage.
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What destroys my soul is knowing that these behaviors are exactly what my dad uses on me and my family. He actually thinks the whole world is against him and refuses to confront his emotional problems and the emotional damage he commits to other people. I want to so badly help him see the error of his ways, but it may actually end our relationship if I do. I've never felt so sick to my stomach and unsure about anything in my life. I know that he knows he's lost his grip on me and he treats me like a different person. I've seen the man behind the curtain and I've lost access to the wizard. I hope other parents out there don't put their kids through what my dad is doing to me, it's actually evil. The kicker is that he's generally a good person, so the guilt I feel from desiring to confront him is only magnified and he uses that greatly to his advantage.
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Jeff
I used to sing all the time but since I've been with her I don't sing anymore. Instead I find myself upset and yelling because she can be so entitled. My emotions have been put through the ringer and honestly I am spent. I miss myself. I miss who I was and what made me happy. I feel I am catering to a person. Who is not only ocd, but Also controlling. She's argumentative for dumb things. things that are not worth arguing over and what's worse is she does it with no tact. She's just dismissive and then discards. I'm sure she'll read this post. But my emotions have been so beat down I find myself coming back to these videos all the time now because I don't think I ever fully recovered full all the arguments and dumb things because she is unable to show real empathy. And real compassion.
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I used to sing all the time but since I've been with her I don't sing anymore. Instead I find myself upset and yelling because she can be so entitled. My emotions have been put through the ringer and honestly I am spent. I miss myself. I miss who I was and what made me happy. I feel I am catering to a person. Who is not only ocd, but Also controlling. She's argumentative for dumb things. things that are not worth arguing over and what's worse is she does it with no tact. She's just dismissive and then discards. I'm sure she'll read this post. But my emotions have been so beat down I find myself coming back to these videos all the time now because I don't think I ever fully recovered full all the arguments and dumb things because she is unable to show real empathy. And real compassion.
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Merry
I need help and to talk to someone to help me to be in common sense steps. I only have medicare. where could I get someone who could keep me true to my christianity and self integrity as a mother to adult children without being in quick sand and without losing my entire history as an identity ( tho I must walk from that for my sake and I guess for theirs ) mind boggling. And they cannot be totally avoided. How much can be done while still keeping the hurt about their lack of real empathy and respect keep that like a dog chained so I can just have n ice tea activities with them without anger or grief. Wow. my health is at risk as I am 77 with previous PTSD.
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I need help and to talk to someone to help me to be in common sense steps. I only have medicare. where could I get someone who could keep me true to my christianity and self integrity as a mother to adult children without being in quick sand and without losing my entire history as an identity ( tho I must walk from that for my sake and I guess for theirs ) mind boggling. And they cannot be totally avoided. How much can be done while still keeping the hurt about their lack of real empathy and respect keep that like a dog chained so I can just have n ice tea activities with them without anger or grief. Wow. my health is at risk as I am 77 with previous PTSD.
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Capernia7
I have a cousin that does this to me my husband and I have tried confronting her but she turns it all back on us. Its hard especially when you cant avoid the person and its a relationship you cant leave behind. At least she lives far away and I only see her a small portion of the year, but it makes the short time with other normal family members very difficult for me. She stalks me, cuts into my conversation, tries to find out whats in any mail I get, hounds me with questions, evades my personal space, etc. There is a lot to the story that I cant all type out here but seriously. Wish there was a better way to handle a family member like that.
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I have a cousin that does this to me my husband and I have tried confronting her but she turns it all back on us. Its hard especially when you cant avoid the person and its a relationship you cant leave behind. At least she lives far away and I only see her a small portion of the year, but it makes the short time with other normal family members very difficult for me. She stalks me, cuts into my conversation, tries to find out whats in any mail I get, hounds me with questions, evades my personal space, etc. There is a lot to the story that I cant all type out here but seriously. Wish there was a better way to handle a family member like that.
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Capernia7
I have a cousin that does this to me my husband and I have tried confronting her but she turns it all back on us. Its hard especially when you cant avoid the person and its a relationship you cant leave behind. At least she lives far away and I only see her a small portion of the year, but it makes the short time with other normal family members very difficult for me. She stalks me, cuts into my conversation, tries to find out whats in any mail I get, hounds me with questions, evades my personal space, etc. There is a lot to the story that I cant all type out here but seriously. Wish there was a better way to handle a family member like that.
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I have a cousin that does this to me my husband and I have tried confronting her but she turns it all back on us. Its hard especially when you cant avoid the person and its a relationship you cant leave behind. At least she lives far away and I only see her a small portion of the year, but it makes the short time with other normal family members very difficult for me. She stalks me, cuts into my conversation, tries to find out whats in any mail I get, hounds me with questions, evades my personal space, etc. There is a lot to the story that I cant all type out here but seriously. Wish there was a better way to handle a family member like that.
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Skedge
I was with a narcissist for 5 years. Had I not shelled my emotions, I would've been completely destroyed. To be with this person, I had to lie to others, to cancel plans, to accept isolation, to break bonds. I dreamt of leaving for years but never had the power to do so. until recently. If you ever find yourself willing to leave for more than a split second, do it and never look back. Just remember that the pain you feel in an instant when leaving will be nothing compared to the pain you'll experience by remaining.
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I was with a narcissist for 5 years. Had I not shelled my emotions, I would've been completely destroyed. To be with this person, I had to lie to others, to cancel plans, to accept isolation, to break bonds. I dreamt of leaving for years but never had the power to do so. until recently. If you ever find yourself willing to leave for more than a split second, do it and never look back. Just remember that the pain you feel in an instant when leaving will be nothing compared to the pain you'll experience by remaining.
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Clean
It seems so easy to just get up and leave. Even after I was forced to leave, 10 months later, I still crave to contact him. Jail is the only reason keeping us apart. I am better, closer to my family, but still suffer from agoraphobia, speaking to people, low confidence, and PTSD. Its hard to grieve yet continue to build a life at the same time. Guilt, shame, nightmares, withdraws could get the best of you but keep going. Time heals very slowly and you just have to learn to live with the scars.
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It seems so easy to just get up and leave. Even after I was forced to leave, 10 months later, I still crave to contact him. Jail is the only reason keeping us apart. I am better, closer to my family, but still suffer from agoraphobia, speaking to people, low confidence, and PTSD. Its hard to grieve yet continue to build a life at the same time. Guilt, shame, nightmares, withdraws could get the best of you but keep going. Time heals very slowly and you just have to learn to live with the scars.
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Glenn
This video completely opened my eyes to the truth. And the comments here opened my eyes even more.
Im living with a roommate that has the same exact abusive narcissism as described here. He doesnt just do this to me but to many others including my true friends who have actually been more there for me than he ever has.
I just need to have the courage to take that step to completely cut him off from my life for good.
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This video completely opened my eyes to the truth. And the comments here opened my eyes even more.
Im living with a roommate that has the same exact abusive narcissism as described here. He doesnt just do this to me but to many others including my true friends who have actually been more there for me than he ever has.
I just need to have the courage to take that step to completely cut him off from my life for good.
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xADK46erx
Just left one today. Devaluing, manipulative, gas lighting, silent treatment, double standards and my god was she in love with herself. I recognized the warning signs and challenged her behavior and trestment of me and pushed back and away at times. But i struggled for over a month to leave until she went away for a phish tour for 2 weeks out of state.
Made me realize how much happier i am away from her.
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Just left one today. Devaluing, manipulative, gas lighting, silent treatment, double standards and my god was she in love with herself. I recognized the warning signs and challenged her behavior and trestment of me and pushed back and away at times. But i struggled for over a month to leave until she went away for a phish tour for 2 weeks out of state.
Made me realize how much happier i am away from her.
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XXXTENTATION
I have a question. What do we call a person who never wants to admit his mistakes and make you feel like you made the mistake and when your trying to show this person you're feeling they act like it's not important for them. You feel manipulated because you can't speak for yourself and you can't be yourself. I have been in that sort of friendship. Is this a narcissist person or something else?
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I have a question. What do we call a person who never wants to admit his mistakes and make you feel like you made the mistake and when your trying to show this person you're feeling they act like it's not important for them. You feel manipulated because you can't speak for yourself and you can't be yourself. I have been in that sort of friendship. Is this a narcissist person or something else?
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Marie
How did I go from one narcissists to another one. I thought the second one was going to be more peacefull, but he was suttle until we were married. I, m now in a nurrsing home to get peace for the rest of my life. 60ty yrs, I live in this narcissistic life. He come to see me every day & kisses me good bye, and says he loves me. I can tell he, s not happy. But I, m staying here.
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How did I go from one narcissists to another one. I thought the second one was going to be more peacefull, but he was suttle until we were married. I, m now in a nurrsing home to get peace for the rest of my life. 60ty yrs, I live in this narcissistic life. He come to see me every day & kisses me good bye, and says he loves me. I can tell he, s not happy. But I, m staying here.
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abc6271
i think this is what i just went through and the point about the partner bringing out the worst in you makes so much sense. i actually am such a different person when it comes to other ppl and I get along with everyone except when it came to him. i also found myself just telling myself I am a good person over and over to remind myself during those times.
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i think this is what i just went through and the point about the partner bringing out the worst in you makes so much sense. i actually am such a different person when it comes to other ppl and I get along with everyone except when it came to him. i also found myself just telling myself I am a good person over and over to remind myself during those times.
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Tube
I am just realizing now that I am trapped in a highly abusive narcissistic relationship. I hate being stuck in this position. this is the second time in my life I have been here. I hate how everyone is quick to take her side and blame me because I am a man. I am literally constantly defending myself. I do not understand how people can be so evil
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I am just realizing now that I am trapped in a highly abusive narcissistic relationship. I hate being stuck in this position. this is the second time in my life I have been here. I hate how everyone is quick to take her side and blame me because I am a man. I am literally constantly defending myself. I do not understand how people can be so evil
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BurningBridgesss
I realized i had been dealing with this two years ago. The second i left, my life started working again. I have ptsd from all of it, so i have my moments still, but overall? I mean I'm making my dreams in music come true, im in college, im working on healing my trauma. Leaving is worth it. You are worth it. Not them. Don't give in.
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I realized i had been dealing with this two years ago. The second i left, my life started working again. I have ptsd from all of it, so i have my moments still, but overall? I mean I'm making my dreams in music come true, im in college, im working on healing my trauma. Leaving is worth it. You are worth it. Not them. Don't give in.
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Edelgard
I know this video is meant for people in (romantic) relationships. but my relationship with my dad is eerie similar to what this video describes (- the romance part obviously. Unfortunately for me, since he is my dad I can't confront him about his issues since it's disrespectful, but I still care about him. he's my dad. I feel stuck: /
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I know this video is meant for people in (romantic) relationships. but my relationship with my dad is eerie similar to what this video describes (- the romance part obviously. Unfortunately for me, since he is my dad I can't confront him about his issues since it's disrespectful, but I still care about him. he's my dad. I feel stuck: /
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urbanPHX
I just love this video so much.
This video definitely reminds me of my relationship that I have now.
This video gave me the strength to demand to be treated better.
Our relationship seems to be coming to an end because he demands that I accept his abuse and will not lift a finger to make me happy
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I just love this video so much.
This video definitely reminds me of my relationship that I have now.
This video gave me the strength to demand to be treated better.
Our relationship seems to be coming to an end because he demands that I accept his abuse and will not lift a finger to make me happy
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Tiffany
I am definitely experiencing this with my husband and yet its so hard to leave. I feel stuck and like its impossible to go. It also doesn't help that we have kids together. I have suffered from his abuse for a long time. I suffer from depression, anxiety, and PTSD. I dont know how to or what to do.
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I am definitely experiencing this with my husband and yet its so hard to leave. I feel stuck and like its impossible to go. It also doesn't help that we have kids together. I have suffered from his abuse for a long time. I suffer from depression, anxiety, and PTSD. I dont know how to or what to do.
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Melissa
My guy simply says sorry to end a discussion and or fight. Only does it when he's guilty. There's nothing behind the apology. It's cold. Just a word. If I rebuttal he'll just say I said I was sorry and see how I won't let the past go. And it won't be about the past. He's trying to make me crazy!
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My guy simply says sorry to end a discussion and or fight. Only does it when he's guilty. There's nothing behind the apology. It's cold. Just a word. If I rebuttal he'll just say I said I was sorry and see how I won't let the past go. And it won't be about the past. He's trying to make me crazy!
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