5 Things You Should Never Say To Someone With Depression
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Rika
You made a huge point about depression, but I feel that there should be more included about what things someone could say or suggest or do with the depressed person. I for one Isolate as 1 of my signs. When I do this I struggle so hard with even being comfortable with myself. It is hard for people to help when they don't understand how someone with depression tends to think. The thought patterns are completely different when we(depression afflicted) feel our rare ups and the void inducing your needle is stuck. episodes that we flitter between(like the persons mind is the record and the body is the player) Honestly, for me personally it sucks a LOT, just trying to keep my Society functioning filters up.
I would come up with challenges that train your mind in the moment, for an easier time pulling ones self back to center the next time. I like doing art challenges like slipping a page between us and the many kinds of colored utensils like pens, water color pencils, markers, pencils ect. Each turn you pick only one to draw what you will add to the picture, once that turn is done, the other person does the same. You can use the same color as many times as you like but build a picture together. No words need said, just a moment of company.
Or Invite them to a GIANT marshmallow war. just no freezing or adding things to the marshmallows, ITS NOT NICE & could potentially brake or hurt something. In the end frustrations are over and a moment of special just you two has been shared.
Or try to invent/ design something together. real or not. I call it Ponder the thought.
What kind of Rainbow would you get if you shinned x light threw x material.
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You made a huge point about depression, but I feel that there should be more included about what things someone could say or suggest or do with the depressed person. I for one Isolate as 1 of my signs. When I do this I struggle so hard with even being comfortable with myself. It is hard for people to help when they don't understand how someone with depression tends to think. The thought patterns are completely different when we(depression afflicted) feel our rare ups and the void inducing your needle is stuck. episodes that we flitter between(like the persons mind is the record and the body is the player) Honestly, for me personally it sucks a LOT, just trying to keep my Society functioning filters up.
I would come up with challenges that train your mind in the moment, for an easier time pulling ones self back to center the next time. I like doing art challenges like slipping a page between us and the many kinds of colored utensils like pens, water color pencils, markers, pencils ect. Each turn you pick only one to draw what you will add to the picture, once that turn is done, the other person does the same. You can use the same color as many times as you like but build a picture together. No words need said, just a moment of company.
Or Invite them to a GIANT marshmallow war. just no freezing or adding things to the marshmallows, ITS NOT NICE & could potentially brake or hurt something. In the end frustrations are over and a moment of special just you two has been shared.
Or try to invent/ design something together. real or not. I call it Ponder the thought.
What kind of Rainbow would you get if you shinned x light threw x material.
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Richard
Add to this list you are depressed because there are advantages in being depressed and the clanger other people have problems too There is a common conception that depressed people are a load of self indulgent moody naval gazers and as soon as they did something for a charity or for the local community they would get their issues in perpective and the depression would vanish. The truth is there is often the situation where the depressed person is working too hard for other people - listening to other people's problems a lot and doing a lot of stuff for worthy causes. What they actually need to do is cut down on some of the stuff that they do for other people and spend more time loving and taking care of themselves and having reasonable breaks and holidays. The conscientious depressed person if they hear implications that they are lazy and selfish (and many depressed people are very conscientious) will think Oh dear! I am still not doing enough for local causes and I am still not loving enough to everyone. They will take more on and this will furtherly compound the issue. I am not saying this is the case with every depressed person but it is a scenario to be aware of and why the poisonous jibe that the depressed person is selfish and self indulgent can cause horrendous damage,
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Add to this list you are depressed because there are advantages in being depressed and the clanger other people have problems too There is a common conception that depressed people are a load of self indulgent moody naval gazers and as soon as they did something for a charity or for the local community they would get their issues in perpective and the depression would vanish. The truth is there is often the situation where the depressed person is working too hard for other people - listening to other people's problems a lot and doing a lot of stuff for worthy causes. What they actually need to do is cut down on some of the stuff that they do for other people and spend more time loving and taking care of themselves and having reasonable breaks and holidays. The conscientious depressed person if they hear implications that they are lazy and selfish (and many depressed people are very conscientious) will think Oh dear! I am still not doing enough for local causes and I am still not loving enough to everyone. They will take more on and this will furtherly compound the issue. I am not saying this is the case with every depressed person but it is a scenario to be aware of and why the poisonous jibe that the depressed person is selfish and self indulgent can cause horrendous damage,
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Sunny
My teacher usually tells me I'm not trying hard enough. Once during dodgeball I was really thirsty and tired so I asked her if I could go to the water fountain and she said that I should be trying harder. I was upset so I just threw a ball out of stress and hit 2 people at once. She also encouraged us to start catching the balls instead of dodging, so I caught them instead. She still wasn't satisfied. Around the end I was thirsty tired upset sad angry and really tired. All the things I have to be depressed about just fell onto my shoulders, so I just sorta gave up. After in class one of my classmates told me I shouldve tried harder, I told her I tried so hard but I was a bit rude to her, then she said geez I was just saaaying. I told my bestie after then she just said: You couldnt wait to the end of gym? She said it like I was overeacting. Like gym was just 1 minute. There was a basket ball game during recess so I couldnt stop then the bell rang and I have a responsibility about leading the line so I couldnt leave the line and didnt have time to get water. So I hadnt had water for about 2 hours and I was using a lot of energy. I tried telling some people but they didnt care.
I dont know what to do about this.
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My teacher usually tells me I'm not trying hard enough. Once during dodgeball I was really thirsty and tired so I asked her if I could go to the water fountain and she said that I should be trying harder. I was upset so I just threw a ball out of stress and hit 2 people at once. She also encouraged us to start catching the balls instead of dodging, so I caught them instead. She still wasn't satisfied. Around the end I was thirsty tired upset sad angry and really tired. All the things I have to be depressed about just fell onto my shoulders, so I just sorta gave up. After in class one of my classmates told me I shouldve tried harder, I told her I tried so hard but I was a bit rude to her, then she said geez I was just saaaying. I told my bestie after then she just said: You couldnt wait to the end of gym? She said it like I was overeacting. Like gym was just 1 minute. There was a basket ball game during recess so I couldnt stop then the bell rang and I have a responsibility about leading the line so I couldnt leave the line and didnt have time to get water. So I hadnt had water for about 2 hours and I was using a lot of energy. I tried telling some people but they didnt care.
I dont know what to do about this.
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Karman
Man. even with the financial support discount I still can't afford therapy. I hate being poor and disabled at the same time. Get a job so you get more money they say. I've tried. many times. my body and mind can't keep up(plus they won't give me more than 8hrs a week at most. I can't really work. My SSI money covers my bills, my dog, and some random important purchases (like finally getting a new pair of shoes so I don't walk in slippers forever, or sudden purchases like a new dog harness because my dog has chewing problems) I can't live on my own or save up for anything (technically I can but it will take years for something like a used car. So getting therapy that's over $200 a month isn't doable.
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Man. even with the financial support discount I still can't afford therapy. I hate being poor and disabled at the same time. Get a job so you get more money they say. I've tried. many times. my body and mind can't keep up(plus they won't give me more than 8hrs a week at most. I can't really work. My SSI money covers my bills, my dog, and some random important purchases (like finally getting a new pair of shoes so I don't walk in slippers forever, or sudden purchases like a new dog harness because my dog has chewing problems) I can't live on my own or save up for anything (technically I can but it will take years for something like a used car. So getting therapy that's over $200 a month isn't doable.
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David
I was depressed and heart
broken when my wife left me for another
Man, she left I and my kids for some months
until my friend introduced me to this powerful
man called #drazuka at first
I was scared to trust #drazuk but
I gave him
a try cause I didn't have a choice anyway. He
worked on my case, after some days later, my
Wife called and she came back to me loving
me more than I could ever imagine. Once again
thank you so much #drazuka keep
helping
the broken hearted one you're a blessing!
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I was depressed and heart
broken when my wife left me for another
Man, she left I and my kids for some months
until my friend introduced me to this powerful
man called #drazuka at first
I was scared to trust #drazuk but
I gave him
a try cause I didn't have a choice anyway. He
worked on my case, after some days later, my
Wife called and she came back to me loving
me more than I could ever imagine. Once again
thank you so much #drazuka keep
helping
the broken hearted one you're a blessing!
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Gold
my bf has actually said you have nothing to be sad about and it did hurt. he didnt mean it to be mean, he just wanted me to look on the bright side but its not that easy and i dont know how to help him better understand depression and how it effects me. i sent him this, hopefully this will help. he tries but it is hard for me to explain it to him, so hopefully this will better our communication. thank you for making this video: )
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my bf has actually said you have nothing to be sad about and it did hurt. he didnt mean it to be mean, he just wanted me to look on the bright side but its not that easy and i dont know how to help him better understand depression and how it effects me. i sent him this, hopefully this will help. he tries but it is hard for me to explain it to him, so hopefully this will better our communication. thank you for making this video: )
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Idk.
Some things I have been told.
Be happy.
Think positively.
It's just because you're a teenager.
There is nothing to be upset about.
You don't know what it's like to be treated like shit.
Sleep, it should help.
You shouldn't joke about suicide.
I know how you feel.
I understand you.
Some people have it worse than you.
You should be happy for your life.
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Some things I have been told.
Be happy.
Think positively.
It's just because you're a teenager.
There is nothing to be upset about.
You don't know what it's like to be treated like shit.
Sleep, it should help.
You shouldn't joke about suicide.
I know how you feel.
I understand you.
Some people have it worse than you.
You should be happy for your life.
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Michelle
One more thing. Never say Omg same, that happened to me as well. It's kind of similar to the I know how it feels. It really crushes them, even if you're trying to say it to make them feel less alone, they're going to feel more alone. As if no one understands them. They're going to stop opening up to you, and will eventually be less inclined to confide to someone.
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One more thing. Never say Omg same, that happened to me as well. It's kind of similar to the I know how it feels. It really crushes them, even if you're trying to say it to make them feel less alone, they're going to feel more alone. As if no one understands them. They're going to stop opening up to you, and will eventually be less inclined to confide to someone.
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EnbyStorms
You're not trying hard enough. You're just sitting there. The reason you don't have inspiration is because you aren't searching for it Was said to me when I complained about having no inspiration, despite looking for it (This was for a project at school. It was soo crushing.
I haven't gotten diagnosed with depression, but I suspect I have it.
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You're not trying hard enough. You're just sitting there. The reason you don't have inspiration is because you aren't searching for it Was said to me when I complained about having no inspiration, despite looking for it (This was for a project at school. It was soo crushing.
I haven't gotten diagnosed with depression, but I suspect I have it.
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Mini
I don't understand why you feel that way or I dont know why you're acting that way
No one's doing anything to you
Well I feel like that too
Then whenever i'm upset or stressed out about something and then ask what's wrong?
Oh, nothing, just gonna hide my emotions because mine doesn't count: ' )
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I don't understand why you feel that way or I dont know why you're acting that way
No one's doing anything to you
Well I feel like that too
Then whenever i'm upset or stressed out about something and then ask what's wrong?
Oh, nothing, just gonna hide my emotions because mine doesn't count: ' )
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xero
honestly most of these things make me feel better and forget that Im fcked up in the head especially You seem fine to me. What I hate is when I feel like im burdening others and making others worry for me. Other than that, the last one I know you feel is insensitive, like you dont know hard it really is
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honestly most of these things make me feel better and forget that Im fcked up in the head especially You seem fine to me. What I hate is when I feel like im burdening others and making others worry for me. Other than that, the last one I know you feel is insensitive, like you dont know hard it really is
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TheScribeInYellow
One thing that was said to me where I used to work:
Everyone has problems
Hearing that from your boss, especially if you've been struggling with depression for years. well, just feels like there's no faster way to encourage someone to increment the Workplace Suicide counter by 1.
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One thing that was said to me where I used to work:
Everyone has problems
Hearing that from your boss, especially if you've been struggling with depression for years. well, just feels like there's no faster way to encourage someone to increment the Workplace Suicide counter by 1.
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Manya
. i got sick of listening to this.
I stopped talking to people for a while
. it's like people just keep putting more work on me thinking I'll be distracted and won't feel sad anymore
. i just want to sit quietly in a dark room in silence, so that i can just. exist for a while
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. i got sick of listening to this.
I stopped talking to people for a while
. it's like people just keep putting more work on me thinking I'll be distracted and won't feel sad anymore
. i just want to sit quietly in a dark room in silence, so that i can just. exist for a while
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Rogue
Two people total that I know online contemplated suicide. One I didnt know well, cut himself and I helped him with the bleeding and talked him down. Now he has a boyfriend. The other one Im talking to right now is my best friend and Im struggling with them. I dont want them to leave.
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Two people total that I know online contemplated suicide. One I didnt know well, cut himself and I helped him with the bleeding and talked him down. Now he has a boyfriend. The other one Im talking to right now is my best friend and Im struggling with them. I dont want them to leave.
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daisuke910
Sometimes, the people get depressed because they are going through trauma that they do not want to share with the world even thoigh they look happy. They are just masking it with bravery as that is what they know to do and dont want others to be worry (personality. So, be kind.
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Sometimes, the people get depressed because they are going through trauma that they do not want to share with the world even thoigh they look happy. They are just masking it with bravery as that is what they know to do and dont want others to be worry (personality. So, be kind.
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Sloth
My friend hey dumbass just stop it makes me work out uses tough love now that is 100% my friend and he is the best for it obviously dont do this to depressed people or any people with anything wrong but to me its funny and since he is a really good friend its fine
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My friend hey dumbass just stop it makes me work out uses tough love now that is 100% my friend and he is the best for it obviously dont do this to depressed people or any people with anything wrong but to me its funny and since he is a really good friend its fine
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Leyon
Just get over it
You're too young to have depression
My childhood was a lot worse than yours
You're just sad, not depressed
Stop being so dramatic
A few quotes from my parents. They're the main reason I dont open up about things anymore.
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Just get over it
You're too young to have depression
My childhood was a lot worse than yours
You're just sad, not depressed
Stop being so dramatic
A few quotes from my parents. They're the main reason I dont open up about things anymore.
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Khloe
My friend and I got into an argument and he said how I dont care about anyone. I said how I try to care about others but right now I need to focus on myself. And he told me well I try really hard and you need to try harder and kept saying that.
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My friend and I got into an argument and he said how I dont care about anyone. I said how I try to care about others but right now I need to focus on myself. And he told me well I try really hard and you need to try harder and kept saying that.
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Joseph
I am here asking for help. How do I communicate with someone who is going through this? Can I ask how are you feeling throughout the day or is this a no no? I want to help this person get through this what can I do? How can I help?
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I am here asking for help. How do I communicate with someone who is going through this? Can I ask how are you feeling throughout the day or is this a no no? I want to help this person get through this what can I do? How can I help?
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Landon
Just get over it.
I REALLY hate hearing that sentence. Especially when the depression is both trauma-based and (apparently) genetically-inherited. (And the former essentially kickstarting the latter. Which explains A LOT)
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Just get over it.
I REALLY hate hearing that sentence. Especially when the depression is both trauma-based and (apparently) genetically-inherited. (And the former essentially kickstarting the latter. Which explains A LOT)
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psych2go
Even if you have been diagnosed with depression by a profession
You still wouldnt know what another person with depression is going through
After all it can be different from person to person
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Even if you have been diagnosed with depression by a profession
You still wouldnt know what another person with depression is going through
After all it can be different from person to person
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CryptoVince
These videos make me sad. They just list everytime the symptoms of depression. No tips or advices. Like we know how shit we feel there's no reason to list the symptoms everytime.
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These videos make me sad. They just list everytime the symptoms of depression. No tips or advices. Like we know how shit we feel there's no reason to list the symptoms everytime.
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Squeaker
Why are you sad?
Stfu pleeeeeaaaaaassssseeeeeee
Edit: 2: 53 is the question I always ask myself
I would have no reason to be depressed, so why do i feel like i am
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Why are you sad?
Stfu pleeeeeaaaaaassssseeeeeee
Edit: 2: 53 is the question I always ask myself
I would have no reason to be depressed, so why do i feel like i am
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TheFreaker86
In my opinion the only people who to some degree can legitimately say I know how you feel to someone depressed are those who have experienced depression themselves.
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In my opinion the only people who to some degree can legitimately say I know how you feel to someone depressed are those who have experienced depression themselves.
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Asther
Things Ive been told:
What do you have to be sad about?
Quit complaining about life if youre not gonna Kill yourself
Why are you so Lazy?
Be more Positive
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Things Ive been told:
What do you have to be sad about?
Quit complaining about life if youre not gonna Kill yourself
Why are you so Lazy?
Be more Positive
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