12 Early Signs A Relationship Won't Last
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Date: 2023-08-20
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bananaman22
1) i dont think we have many shared hobbies, although i ahve taken up all her hobbies because i enjoy doing stuff with her. she doesnt really do stuff with me
2) my partner is my best friend, but she hates my friends and she hangs out wiht people i dont think are so good.
3) i do spend almost all ym time with partner, and i agree my world revolves around her, and i wish we can be together forever, but she doesnt plan doesnt start conversation usually ignores me, so i dont think she cares about me
4) i always give in and gie as much as i can
5) everything that isnt her cup of tea is breakup time i always let her plan in our trips. i always aks for her opinion no matter what
6) yeah i have to filter for her. compared to the people around me where i just no filter and keep whoever that stays. im happy no matter what she wears or anything.
7) i agree this may be my fault, but i wish she can become a better person. i am so rpoud of her but there are things everyone can improve on. and i can take criticism on and change
8) she has hit me, and thrown stuff at me, and stabbed at me. i try not to scream but shes always trying to find something to fight about
9) i dont really trust her with alot of things, sometimes i dont even know when she might walk out and leave. and sometimes i think she might hit me or something.
10) oh lol. i dont min dat all, if she treate others bad and me good. rather than the other way around lol
11) just last night we had some arguemnt over i dont know what anymore. i woke up and didnt hold any grudge. but she was still mad
12) i guess the timing is wrong because she salways blaming something that happened 2 years ago despite all the promises she made
i thought i had found perfection but i guess slowly i realized the very minium where i wanted to find someone whom i can share my life with i cant even say because anything i talk about she might get mad at me for. i agree that any relationship takes compromise. but i dont know how more to compromise when she blames me for not putting in effort and treating her like a friend on the same day that i travelled an extra 1. 5hr just to wave hi to her at her workplace before leaving and just a few days after planning an overseas trip. what more am i supposed to do. and this is where im feeling really anxious at work, looking to go to a new job, and having severe back pain.
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1) i dont think we have many shared hobbies, although i ahve taken up all her hobbies because i enjoy doing stuff with her. she doesnt really do stuff with me
2) my partner is my best friend, but she hates my friends and she hangs out wiht people i dont think are so good.
3) i do spend almost all ym time with partner, and i agree my world revolves around her, and i wish we can be together forever, but she doesnt plan doesnt start conversation usually ignores me, so i dont think she cares about me
4) i always give in and gie as much as i can
5) everything that isnt her cup of tea is breakup time i always let her plan in our trips. i always aks for her opinion no matter what
6) yeah i have to filter for her. compared to the people around me where i just no filter and keep whoever that stays. im happy no matter what she wears or anything.
7) i agree this may be my fault, but i wish she can become a better person. i am so rpoud of her but there are things everyone can improve on. and i can take criticism on and change
8) she has hit me, and thrown stuff at me, and stabbed at me. i try not to scream but shes always trying to find something to fight about
9) i dont really trust her with alot of things, sometimes i dont even know when she might walk out and leave. and sometimes i think she might hit me or something.
10) oh lol. i dont min dat all, if she treate others bad and me good. rather than the other way around lol
11) just last night we had some arguemnt over i dont know what anymore. i woke up and didnt hold any grudge. but she was still mad
12) i guess the timing is wrong because she salways blaming something that happened 2 years ago despite all the promises she made
i thought i had found perfection but i guess slowly i realized the very minium where i wanted to find someone whom i can share my life with i cant even say because anything i talk about she might get mad at me for. i agree that any relationship takes compromise. but i dont know how more to compromise when she blames me for not putting in effort and treating her like a friend on the same day that i travelled an extra 1. 5hr just to wave hi to her at her workplace before leaving and just a few days after planning an overseas trip. what more am i supposed to do. and this is where im feeling really anxious at work, looking to go to a new job, and having severe back pain.
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Kirin
1. Your Relationship is Solely About the Romantic Pull: a relationship solely based on romantic attraction will not last as a strong and healthy relationship needs a common interest to build upon.
2. You Dont Like Their Friends: an aversion to your partner's social circle may imply that you don't like the person you are with and may be an early sign that the two of you are not well-matched.
3. You Spend Too Much Time Together: spending too much time with your partner may erode your sense of self, it is important to have a balanced social life and not be solely dependent on your partner for social interactions.
4. It Feels One-Sided: feeling that your partner is not contributing equally or not emotionally invested in the relationship, it is essential for both partners to be present and equally committed to the relationship.
5. You Feel Controlled: feeling controlled will negatively affect the relationship as it leads to a lack of trust and the feeling of not being valued as an equal partner.
6. You Can't Be Yourself Around Them: not being able to be yourself around your partner will ultimately cause frustration and stress in the relationship.
7. A Lack of Communication: communication issues can cause frustration and a lack of understanding between partners, it is important to communicate your feelings and needs in the relationship.
8. Fundamental Differences in Viewpoints: if you have opposing views regarding fundamental issues such as family, children, or values, it can potentially lead to a relationship breakdown if these differing views are not resolved.
9. Disrespectful Behavior: disrespectful behavior towards your partner or a lack of respect towards each other's boundaries is a clear indication that the relationship may not be sustainable.
10. Cheating or Infidelity: cheating or infidelity breaks a fundamental trust in the relationship and is a severe indication that the relationship may not last.
11. Lack of Effort or Interest: if one partner is not making an effort to maintain the relationship, or there is a lack of interest, it is a clear sign that the relationship may not last.
12. A Future that Doesn't Align: if you are beginning to envision a future that doesn't align with your partner's goals or vice versa, it may be an early sign that the relationship may not last.
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1. Your Relationship is Solely About the Romantic Pull: a relationship solely based on romantic attraction will not last as a strong and healthy relationship needs a common interest to build upon.
2. You Dont Like Their Friends: an aversion to your partner's social circle may imply that you don't like the person you are with and may be an early sign that the two of you are not well-matched.
3. You Spend Too Much Time Together: spending too much time with your partner may erode your sense of self, it is important to have a balanced social life and not be solely dependent on your partner for social interactions.
4. It Feels One-Sided: feeling that your partner is not contributing equally or not emotionally invested in the relationship, it is essential for both partners to be present and equally committed to the relationship.
5. You Feel Controlled: feeling controlled will negatively affect the relationship as it leads to a lack of trust and the feeling of not being valued as an equal partner.
6. You Can't Be Yourself Around Them: not being able to be yourself around your partner will ultimately cause frustration and stress in the relationship.
7. A Lack of Communication: communication issues can cause frustration and a lack of understanding between partners, it is important to communicate your feelings and needs in the relationship.
8. Fundamental Differences in Viewpoints: if you have opposing views regarding fundamental issues such as family, children, or values, it can potentially lead to a relationship breakdown if these differing views are not resolved.
9. Disrespectful Behavior: disrespectful behavior towards your partner or a lack of respect towards each other's boundaries is a clear indication that the relationship may not be sustainable.
10. Cheating or Infidelity: cheating or infidelity breaks a fundamental trust in the relationship and is a severe indication that the relationship may not last.
11. Lack of Effort or Interest: if one partner is not making an effort to maintain the relationship, or there is a lack of interest, it is a clear sign that the relationship may not last.
12. A Future that Doesn't Align: if you are beginning to envision a future that doesn't align with your partner's goals or vice versa, it may be an early sign that the relationship may not last.
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Pedram
Been single for 1. 5 years now, so I had some time to reflect upon why my previous relationship didn't work, even though we liked each other a lot. This video really helped me understand that a breakup was inevitable. He was trying to change me, didn't trust me and I couldn't feel like myself around him. It was like walking on eggshells. And I was often passive aggressive towards him. Moreover, the timing wasn't right; he didn't want to move to the big city where I live, and I didn't want to move to him to the countryside. And yet, I was devastated for weeks after the breakup.
I think my biggest takeaway is to actually love myself more. To admit when things don't work out, instead of covering my eyes and constantly telling myself ok, next time we meet will be better cause of x.
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Been single for 1. 5 years now, so I had some time to reflect upon why my previous relationship didn't work, even though we liked each other a lot. This video really helped me understand that a breakup was inevitable. He was trying to change me, didn't trust me and I couldn't feel like myself around him. It was like walking on eggshells. And I was often passive aggressive towards him. Moreover, the timing wasn't right; he didn't want to move to the big city where I live, and I didn't want to move to him to the countryside. And yet, I was devastated for weeks after the breakup.
I think my biggest takeaway is to actually love myself more. To admit when things don't work out, instead of covering my eyes and constantly telling myself ok, next time we meet will be better cause of x.
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JM
If you feel scared to watch this video because by watching this, you may confirm that your relationship is on the brink, please don't be. That is not true.
For me, I was too. I was feeling down before watching it because I was not sure if my partner put equal effort into our relationship as I do. I was hesitant but out of curious, I clicked it.
And I found out not my partner's, but rather, my flaws and mistakes I made all along. So I made up my mind and swore myself to trust my partner more. And this is way better in many ways.
Please don't blind yourself and ruin your relationship out of misunderstanding. I almost screwed up mine. This video helped me not to prepare for the break up but rather how to strengthen it. I hope you all have healthy relationship!
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If you feel scared to watch this video because by watching this, you may confirm that your relationship is on the brink, please don't be. That is not true.
For me, I was too. I was feeling down before watching it because I was not sure if my partner put equal effort into our relationship as I do. I was hesitant but out of curious, I clicked it.
And I found out not my partner's, but rather, my flaws and mistakes I made all along. So I made up my mind and swore myself to trust my partner more. And this is way better in many ways.
Please don't blind yourself and ruin your relationship out of misunderstanding. I almost screwed up mine. This video helped me not to prepare for the break up but rather how to strengthen it. I hope you all have healthy relationship!
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ionasan
I'm not sure how I feel about the spending too much time together point. My fiance and I have been in a long distance relationship since 2018 (we met in 2016. We'd spend literally all day calling and texting each other. He proposed in 2021 and the following year I moved across the world to live with him. I have no friends in this new country, so he really is all I have. It hasn't pulled us apart, if anything, we just have gotten closer. We aren't just lovers, but best friends as well, which maybe helps with my situation. Hopefully as I learn the language, I'll be able to make new friends here, but until then, my fiance is all I have.
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I'm not sure how I feel about the spending too much time together point. My fiance and I have been in a long distance relationship since 2018 (we met in 2016. We'd spend literally all day calling and texting each other. He proposed in 2021 and the following year I moved across the world to live with him. I have no friends in this new country, so he really is all I have. It hasn't pulled us apart, if anything, we just have gotten closer. We aren't just lovers, but best friends as well, which maybe helps with my situation. Hopefully as I learn the language, I'll be able to make new friends here, but until then, my fiance is all I have.
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Jenesis
We texted a lot. I detected something from his text in the back of my head. I couldnt put my finger on it. As precaution I kept this person at arms length, not jumping in. A couple of months of communication revealed that hes set in his thinking and way of life (old fashioned and old school, repeated texts word for word overtime. I am not much younger than him but I am still all about challenging myself and exploring different subjects. He may be a decent person but this fundamental difference will irritate me in no time. I am glad I followed my intuition to not rush into a relationship.
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We texted a lot. I detected something from his text in the back of my head. I couldnt put my finger on it. As precaution I kept this person at arms length, not jumping in. A couple of months of communication revealed that hes set in his thinking and way of life (old fashioned and old school, repeated texts word for word overtime. I am not much younger than him but I am still all about challenging myself and exploring different subjects. He may be a decent person but this fundamental difference will irritate me in no time. I am glad I followed my intuition to not rush into a relationship.
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EatJin
I feel like the no 1, 2, 12 are just what problem i have
. my boyfriend isnt bad. Hes great. Hes sweet and caring and takes care of me very much.
But Im a teen. I dont know what to do. I cant even take care of myself. Im too i dont know how to put it.
Not the person to handle relationships. Its my first relation. We have been together for an year
I think our time isnt right.
I want to focus on my studies and life a free life.
But I dont want to upset him. Or maybe Ill be upset if I break up with him. He loves me too much. I think I do too.
I dont know
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I feel like the no 1, 2, 12 are just what problem i have
. my boyfriend isnt bad. Hes great. Hes sweet and caring and takes care of me very much.
But Im a teen. I dont know what to do. I cant even take care of myself. Im too i dont know how to put it.
Not the person to handle relationships. Its my first relation. We have been together for an year
I think our time isnt right.
I want to focus on my studies and life a free life.
But I dont want to upset him. Or maybe Ill be upset if I break up with him. He loves me too much. I think I do too.
I dont know
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That
I didn't like his friends because. they were all very manipulative. hooker kind. fwbs. yes he was a part of them. He opened up to me about it too. So i honestly can out my life on the line and say he is one of the most loyal guys rn. But i still don't like his previous friends. He rn has a different group. But he is still in touch with his previous friends, because they spent their whole childhood together. But that doesn't make me like them even if they are a changed person today. Does it still mean that we're having an issue in our relationship?
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I didn't like his friends because. they were all very manipulative. hooker kind. fwbs. yes he was a part of them. He opened up to me about it too. So i honestly can out my life on the line and say he is one of the most loyal guys rn. But i still don't like his previous friends. He rn has a different group. But he is still in touch with his previous friends, because they spent their whole childhood together. But that doesn't make me like them even if they are a changed person today. Does it still mean that we're having an issue in our relationship?
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Sarita
Im currently in a new relationship, but Im so convinced the timing isnt it right because of my own personal issues. theyve been getting worse lately and even when we finally made the decision to be together I felt so unsure. We are having some issues rn because I think I might need a break to think but Im so worried about how that will affect our connection and if that will automatically ruin it. However I also need to take care of myself and my well being and I also understand that I need to better myself individually.
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Im currently in a new relationship, but Im so convinced the timing isnt it right because of my own personal issues. theyve been getting worse lately and even when we finally made the decision to be together I felt so unsure. We are having some issues rn because I think I might need a break to think but Im so worried about how that will affect our connection and if that will automatically ruin it. However I also need to take care of myself and my well being and I also understand that I need to better myself individually.
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V.
I am watching this 6 months out of my last relationship. I have never seen the signs. Maybe because I ignored them or simply didn't want them to be true. However watching this now, only shows that it was a right decision to break up with my ex boyfriend. It is not like he was the only one who made the relationship being so difficult. It was me too who e. g. was the passive aggressive one in the relationship. Almost every aspect was applicable on my relationship back then. Better late than never I guess.
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I am watching this 6 months out of my last relationship. I have never seen the signs. Maybe because I ignored them or simply didn't want them to be true. However watching this now, only shows that it was a right decision to break up with my ex boyfriend. It is not like he was the only one who made the relationship being so difficult. It was me too who e. g. was the passive aggressive one in the relationship. Almost every aspect was applicable on my relationship back then. Better late than never I guess.
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The
Well, guess mine won't last, wasn't for lack of trying on my part for sure. I did absolutely everything, and what I got was an I don't trust people, even you even though she's hurt from the past, so am I, and it doesn't feel fair to give a world and receive a little town (so to speak. It seems like the one and only thing that has followed me is sadness, where ever I go, whoever I'm with, it always ends up showing up out of nowhere, I'm so sick and tired of this, I don't know what to do anymore
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Well, guess mine won't last, wasn't for lack of trying on my part for sure. I did absolutely everything, and what I got was an I don't trust people, even you even though she's hurt from the past, so am I, and it doesn't feel fair to give a world and receive a little town (so to speak. It seems like the one and only thing that has followed me is sadness, where ever I go, whoever I'm with, it always ends up showing up out of nowhere, I'm so sick and tired of this, I don't know what to do anymore
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QueenJae
i can only say me and my boyfriend do spend a lot of time together. i mean hes over before work and he comes over after, sometimes i even see him on his break. and whenever hes off we spend the day together. but i like it. i mean i enjoy his company. but both of our families think we are too clingy to each otheri dont really know what i think about that. i mean i have friends and so does he and we see them when we want to. we would just rather be with each other. is that so wrong?
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i can only say me and my boyfriend do spend a lot of time together. i mean hes over before work and he comes over after, sometimes i even see him on his break. and whenever hes off we spend the day together. but i like it. i mean i enjoy his company. but both of our families think we are too clingy to each otheri dont really know what i think about that. i mean i have friends and so does he and we see them when we want to. we would just rather be with each other. is that so wrong?
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Ei
1. No
2. Unsure but possibly untrue because not sure if they are actually friends or just roommates. (Are roommates considered friends when they use you for money, take advantage of your kindness, steal your things, waste money, make constant excuses about how it's not their fault)
3. No, we have our own lives.
4. Sometimes on my end
5. Untrue
6. Untrue
7. Untrue
8. Untrue
9. Untrue
10. Untrue
11. Untrue
12. Unsure on their part
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1. No
2. Unsure but possibly untrue because not sure if they are actually friends or just roommates. (Are roommates considered friends when they use you for money, take advantage of your kindness, steal your things, waste money, make constant excuses about how it's not their fault)
3. No, we have our own lives.
4. Sometimes on my end
5. Untrue
6. Untrue
7. Untrue
8. Untrue
9. Untrue
10. Untrue
11. Untrue
12. Unsure on their part
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Stuart
My gf is like that there was a spark and the relationship was strong but when time went by she became toxic and the spark has died, she is always starting fights, she wants me me to read her mind all the time, thinks I'm a joke, never respect me, and doesn't allow me to be me for the person I am. She always wants me to change my personality all the time, I'm always helping out, and trying to making her happy when she don't even notice that I'm there.
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My gf is like that there was a spark and the relationship was strong but when time went by she became toxic and the spark has died, she is always starting fights, she wants me me to read her mind all the time, thinks I'm a joke, never respect me, and doesn't allow me to be me for the person I am. She always wants me to change my personality all the time, I'm always helping out, and trying to making her happy when she don't even notice that I'm there.
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Dy
This video has truly made me realize how problematic I've been with my partner. I'd oftenly cause conflicts over such petty reasons. He has his flaws too and so do I. I've been reflecting on myself lately. We're currently on a break from each other and both agreed on working on ourselves for the mean time. I've been doing a good job on improving myself, I used to be so defensive and immature. I just wanna be the partner he deserves.
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This video has truly made me realize how problematic I've been with my partner. I'd oftenly cause conflicts over such petty reasons. He has his flaws too and so do I. I've been reflecting on myself lately. We're currently on a break from each other and both agreed on working on ourselves for the mean time. I've been doing a good job on improving myself, I used to be so defensive and immature. I just wanna be the partner he deserves.
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education
VENT!
Yesterday my girlfriend broke up with me and left me because I was doing the wrong thing accidentally and she said that I ruin all her friendships which is victim blaming because I never did that. She also made me cry in the middle of a conversation just of that break up, and I was begging her to become with me again, but now I understood that shes not the one, shes a toxic person who only wants attention from me.
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VENT!
Yesterday my girlfriend broke up with me and left me because I was doing the wrong thing accidentally and she said that I ruin all her friendships which is victim blaming because I never did that. She also made me cry in the middle of a conversation just of that break up, and I was begging her to become with me again, but now I understood that shes not the one, shes a toxic person who only wants attention from me.
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SoundsSilver
I was controlling and failed to make her feel accepted, mostly at the very end of the relationship. I realize now this was a symptom of my lack of trust in her due to her lies and other violations. I should have taken a step back and reevaluated the relationship. Now that it's over, my doubts have all been validated: she went right back to her ex even though she said she had no feelings for him anymore.
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I was controlling and failed to make her feel accepted, mostly at the very end of the relationship. I realize now this was a symptom of my lack of trust in her due to her lies and other violations. I should have taken a step back and reevaluated the relationship. Now that it's over, my doubts have all been validated: she went right back to her ex even though she said she had no feelings for him anymore.
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psych2go
I'm in a relationship with a guy and I'm glad I haven't experienced non of these signs, we care a lot for each other and we constantly remeber that we don't have to change who we are for each other, we always talk about our worries, problems and we always support each other to achieve our goals, celebrating every step we take no matter if they are smaller of bigger.
That's what a relationship is about.
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I'm in a relationship with a guy and I'm glad I haven't experienced non of these signs, we care a lot for each other and we constantly remeber that we don't have to change who we are for each other, we always talk about our worries, problems and we always support each other to achieve our goals, celebrating every step we take no matter if they are smaller of bigger.
That's what a relationship is about.
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Mader
I watched this video as i compared my last ex and current one, i realised all the times i was single by choice have made me become better at choosing my partner and know what i value, because it is yes to everything for my relationship with my ex and no to everything to my current one. I am grateful to have him in my life and i wish it will last till our last breathe because i believe he is the one
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I watched this video as i compared my last ex and current one, i realised all the times i was single by choice have made me become better at choosing my partner and know what i value, because it is yes to everything for my relationship with my ex and no to everything to my current one. I am grateful to have him in my life and i wish it will last till our last breathe because i believe he is the one
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Terezek
Hello, i need to ask about something. My girlfriend kissed two other girls on cheeks cus she got it like a dare, so i asked her, why didnt she called me or texted or declind the dare and she told me that she wanted to kiss them. I still dont like that, she kissed other people. I feel weird, i love her but, i feel so weird about it.
Is it okay that i feel angry about it?
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Hello, i need to ask about something. My girlfriend kissed two other girls on cheeks cus she got it like a dare, so i asked her, why didnt she called me or texted or declind the dare and she told me that she wanted to kiss them. I still dont like that, she kissed other people. I feel weird, i love her but, i feel so weird about it.
Is it okay that i feel angry about it?
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Mees
I want to add another:
13. Your partner is fragile
If someone is hurt in the past, they will see the problem everywhere and blame you while you haven't done anything and also every little thing you do wrong is taken out of porportion and it can be frustrating at times. Those types of people you have to let go because they will suck the life out of you.
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I want to add another:
13. Your partner is fragile
If someone is hurt in the past, they will see the problem everywhere and blame you while you haven't done anything and also every little thing you do wrong is taken out of porportion and it can be frustrating at times. Those types of people you have to let go because they will suck the life out of you.
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Alpha_Jasperflair
1: 58 Also me watching this, while texting my partner, at the same time, closes messenger.
Also my doubt in our relationship is our timing cuz were still students in high school, and we both ave goals in our future, we both know how life is difficult, im just not sure if our relationship lasts forever.
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1: 58 Also me watching this, while texting my partner, at the same time, closes messenger.
Also my doubt in our relationship is our timing cuz were still students in high school, and we both ave goals in our future, we both know how life is difficult, im just not sure if our relationship lasts forever.
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Rami
12 is important. Life is long, and impatiently starting a relationship isn't smart, but I unfortunately find it to be a common occurrence to people around me. On the other hand, I think it's exciting to be friends with someone for months or years before confessing to each other and starting an intimate relationship.
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12 is important. Life is long, and impatiently starting a relationship isn't smart, but I unfortunately find it to be a common occurrence to people around me. On the other hand, I think it's exciting to be friends with someone for months or years before confessing to each other and starting an intimate relationship.
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Mogomotsi
problem though is how do you trust and get vulnerable with her if she doesn't give you a reason to do so? I got played by a girl I was ready to marry and now I can't let it happen twice. With the current one, she always has reasons to not meet up. I honestly cant believe this is happening again
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problem though is how do you trust and get vulnerable with her if she doesn't give you a reason to do so? I got played by a girl I was ready to marry and now I can't let it happen twice. With the current one, she always has reasons to not meet up. I honestly cant believe this is happening again
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Nate
With my parents I feel like I have to live up to their expectations because when I say I want to live differently my mom seems to think Im part of the furniture and I feel like I have to put on a disguise and not be myself because of the way I am treated so annoying
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With my parents I feel like I have to live up to their expectations because when I say I want to live differently my mom seems to think Im part of the furniture and I feel like I have to put on a disguise and not be myself because of the way I am treated so annoying
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