14 Subtle Things Abusive Parents Do
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Pullipe
As a senior, 17, and taking psychology, I have been telling myself for the past couple of years that my thoughts and ideas of my parents, especially my mother, being emotionally abusive or manipulative. I've even called myself selfish and cruel for thinking such things because she brought me into the world and I should be forever grateful for her even though she isnt always as grateful seeming over me.
And it makes me wonder how much of this can rub off onto the victims themselves. Because I realize now, sometimes I've done these things to people I know, such as guilt tripping or silence, I especially used to do this as an early teen.
I'm wondering if my parents are actually bad or if my mind is just trying to trick me into something entirely false. I'm scared of getting legal authorities involved, I dont know who to seek for help, and I feel like if there is damage it's irreversible and I hate that it has to be this way. i feel like my life would be ten times better if I were the child to one of my mom's siblings rather than her, one of thems only been mom for four years and the other isnt even a parent which says a lot I feel like. it's like my parents forgot how to parent
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As a senior, 17, and taking psychology, I have been telling myself for the past couple of years that my thoughts and ideas of my parents, especially my mother, being emotionally abusive or manipulative. I've even called myself selfish and cruel for thinking such things because she brought me into the world and I should be forever grateful for her even though she isnt always as grateful seeming over me.
And it makes me wonder how much of this can rub off onto the victims themselves. Because I realize now, sometimes I've done these things to people I know, such as guilt tripping or silence, I especially used to do this as an early teen.
I'm wondering if my parents are actually bad or if my mind is just trying to trick me into something entirely false. I'm scared of getting legal authorities involved, I dont know who to seek for help, and I feel like if there is damage it's irreversible and I hate that it has to be this way. i feel like my life would be ten times better if I were the child to one of my mom's siblings rather than her, one of thems only been mom for four years and the other isnt even a parent which says a lot I feel like. it's like my parents forgot how to parent
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_elxhop_
Ik this is random but I just thought I would share. A while ago I was hanging out with my little sister and her friend (weird ik) but we were just dancing having a good time when all of a sudden I heard these booming footsteps up from the basement and then my dad came up and absolutely blew up at the three of us and yelled and us for being loud when my mom was in a call in the basement even tho we didnt know. I was so scared in that moment cause it wasnt even like a normal yell it was like he was the maddest ever and the worst part was the biggest feeling a had right then was fear and guilt. Because I felt so bad for my sisters freind like imagine being a little 9 year old facing and having fun at a friends house and then being yelled at and punished by someone elses parent. I felt so embarrassed after that I just told the girls he was joking and we spent the rest of the night upstairs hiding in my sisters room coloring quietly.
Idk if this would classify as abuse but either way hes done stuff like this before and I always find myself terrified of him
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Ik this is random but I just thought I would share. A while ago I was hanging out with my little sister and her friend (weird ik) but we were just dancing having a good time when all of a sudden I heard these booming footsteps up from the basement and then my dad came up and absolutely blew up at the three of us and yelled and us for being loud when my mom was in a call in the basement even tho we didnt know. I was so scared in that moment cause it wasnt even like a normal yell it was like he was the maddest ever and the worst part was the biggest feeling a had right then was fear and guilt. Because I felt so bad for my sisters freind like imagine being a little 9 year old facing and having fun at a friends house and then being yelled at and punished by someone elses parent. I felt so embarrassed after that I just told the girls he was joking and we spent the rest of the night upstairs hiding in my sisters room coloring quietly.
Idk if this would classify as abuse but either way hes done stuff like this before and I always find myself terrified of him
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just
Yall idk if I have abusive parents budt are these rings abuse I think not budt if they are I would like to hear it: letting their anger out on you, saying you need to sport more or you are gonne be fat, if my grades are not good taking away my electronic, if i ask for something and they say no and me being sad them challing me a spoiled brat, letting me walk in the dark(1 day) bc they were thired, compering me whit other kids, saying I am lazy when I rest after school, them not caring if I didn't eat at school or if I did, when I asked if they could give me 1 hour extra on my electronics and me exidently waking up my baby brother them taking my electronics and if I ask why they sometimes give me a clap on my head, them not picking me up bc my brother fell asleep, idk if these tings are normal budt most of the time they are nice it's just that idk they might me abusive parents budt let me know if these are abusive tings or not lol.
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Yall idk if I have abusive parents budt are these rings abuse I think not budt if they are I would like to hear it: letting their anger out on you, saying you need to sport more or you are gonne be fat, if my grades are not good taking away my electronic, if i ask for something and they say no and me being sad them challing me a spoiled brat, letting me walk in the dark(1 day) bc they were thired, compering me whit other kids, saying I am lazy when I rest after school, them not caring if I didn't eat at school or if I did, when I asked if they could give me 1 hour extra on my electronics and me exidently waking up my baby brother them taking my electronics and if I ask why they sometimes give me a clap on my head, them not picking me up bc my brother fell asleep, idk if these tings are normal budt most of the time they are nice it's just that idk they might me abusive parents budt let me know if these are abusive tings or not lol.
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education
My mum was using my EFTPOS card when I got my first job at 16. I was super naive and didn't realise for weeks as I was trying to save rather than spend. When my card declined the first time I tried to use it, I was totally shocked and embarrassed. These were the days before internet banking. I had to print a statement via an ATM machine and saw that she'd been using my card for weeks and weeks. Used every cent. When I confronted her privately she was stunned but then tried to flip it on me by making up a total lie 'well I noticed someone's been taking 20's from my purse''. Such a lie. Such a bad performance. But she's so dumb, she thought she'd won. Lol how did she actually think she could sell that lie to the only person who knows the truth? Pathetic woman. That's just the tip of the iceberg. I wish I had a different mother in this life.
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My mum was using my EFTPOS card when I got my first job at 16. I was super naive and didn't realise for weeks as I was trying to save rather than spend. When my card declined the first time I tried to use it, I was totally shocked and embarrassed. These were the days before internet banking. I had to print a statement via an ATM machine and saw that she'd been using my card for weeks and weeks. Used every cent. When I confronted her privately she was stunned but then tried to flip it on me by making up a total lie 'well I noticed someone's been taking 20's from my purse''. Such a lie. Such a bad performance. But she's so dumb, she thought she'd won. Lol how did she actually think she could sell that lie to the only person who knows the truth? Pathetic woman. That's just the tip of the iceberg. I wish I had a different mother in this life.
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Presidents
Some parents are very abusive! I always told my parents life is difficult and I never wished to be born just to suffer! Now that I am already grown up, I chose to forgive them. It is very true right? Before you decide to become a parents you must have a vision of the future. Yes, there are some parents who were uneducated! They never have a family planning! Why some parents are very irresponsible? If you planned to raise a child then better prepare financially!
I always remember this Josef Fritzl in Austria who raped her own daughter! Parents must take responsibility of their own consequences for having children! Parents must be prepared to educate their children, feed them, and give them a good life!
Why raise children when you cannot afford to take care of them?
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Some parents are very abusive! I always told my parents life is difficult and I never wished to be born just to suffer! Now that I am already grown up, I chose to forgive them. It is very true right? Before you decide to become a parents you must have a vision of the future. Yes, there are some parents who were uneducated! They never have a family planning! Why some parents are very irresponsible? If you planned to raise a child then better prepare financially!
I always remember this Josef Fritzl in Austria who raped her own daughter! Parents must take responsibility of their own consequences for having children! Parents must be prepared to educate their children, feed them, and give them a good life!
Why raise children when you cannot afford to take care of them?
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Avion
Am i the wrong?
I'm not very open with my mom cause of how she handled my sister and i's punishments growing up so now I'm kinda stand off-ish when it comes to opening up to her about my emotions. She always says stuff like u never talk to me anymore or why don't you talk to ME I'm ur mom and then when she forces me to talk to her by keeping me in her room and prying it out of me she calls me overly dramatic for expressing myself and then makes me feel like an idiot for feeling the way i do, and as a result of that I kinda shut down even more. I've not been hit by my mother in a long time but everytime she forces to talk to her i mostly say what she wants to hear while trying to end the conversation. So is it bad that I react this way?
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Am i the wrong?
I'm not very open with my mom cause of how she handled my sister and i's punishments growing up so now I'm kinda stand off-ish when it comes to opening up to her about my emotions. She always says stuff like u never talk to me anymore or why don't you talk to ME I'm ur mom and then when she forces me to talk to her by keeping me in her room and prying it out of me she calls me overly dramatic for expressing myself and then makes me feel like an idiot for feeling the way i do, and as a result of that I kinda shut down even more. I've not been hit by my mother in a long time but everytime she forces to talk to her i mostly say what she wants to hear while trying to end the conversation. So is it bad that I react this way?
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Mrjamjam
Just a friendly reminder that you aren't the reason why these things happened to you, its not your fault and never was.
It is unfortunately your responsibility to heal but you can only heal when you remove the object of injury from the wound.
Healing is possible and it won't be easy but it is the only way to know peace.
The parent bird says to its young come on its time to go, you must learn to fly
The young bird replies what if I fall?
The parent bird tells the young bird what if you soar?
Healing isn't easy, it's the hardest thing you'll ever do and it's a process, don't be so hard on yourself and don't compare yourself to others.
You'll be alright just have faith in yourself
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Just a friendly reminder that you aren't the reason why these things happened to you, its not your fault and never was.
It is unfortunately your responsibility to heal but you can only heal when you remove the object of injury from the wound.
Healing is possible and it won't be easy but it is the only way to know peace.
The parent bird says to its young come on its time to go, you must learn to fly
The young bird replies what if I fall?
The parent bird tells the young bird what if you soar?
Healing isn't easy, it's the hardest thing you'll ever do and it's a process, don't be so hard on yourself and don't compare yourself to others.
You'll be alright just have faith in yourself
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Labelladriver
all my life my mother accused me of sleeping with my dad, I was so young she would yelled at him about taking his daughters virginity, I know see my mother was jealous of me because she was not a virgin when he met her she had kids with other men and had stretch marks in her fat ass, I never got angry at my mom for saying those things, because she said worse like she wished his daughter would become a prostitute because he was such a cheater lol my dad cheated on my mom way before I was Born. She used me and he used me to keep their secrets hidden that both were abusive and like hitting their kids and go to bed together and make more kids
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all my life my mother accused me of sleeping with my dad, I was so young she would yelled at him about taking his daughters virginity, I know see my mother was jealous of me because she was not a virgin when he met her she had kids with other men and had stretch marks in her fat ass, I never got angry at my mom for saying those things, because she said worse like she wished his daughter would become a prostitute because he was such a cheater lol my dad cheated on my mom way before I was Born. She used me and he used me to keep their secrets hidden that both were abusive and like hitting their kids and go to bed together and make more kids
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Android!
This makes me realize that my own mom has mentally and emotionally abused me until I moved out the day after Christmas many years ago and called the fact that I'm bi an abomination when I came out a few months ago. We got into an argument earlier a few days ago cause she was advising me not to go on a Christmas trip this year and rn she's giving me the silent treatment. This really opened my eyes, so I'm cutting her off completely. Hope things get better for me soon.
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This makes me realize that my own mom has mentally and emotionally abused me until I moved out the day after Christmas many years ago and called the fact that I'm bi an abomination when I came out a few months ago. We got into an argument earlier a few days ago cause she was advising me not to go on a Christmas trip this year and rn she's giving me the silent treatment. This really opened my eyes, so I'm cutting her off completely. Hope things get better for me soon.
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education
Im 36 now, as a young boy
I told my mum in secret in the kitchen that my step dad had touched my Willy, she started shouting and screaming at me and saying that I was lieing and then so did my step dad!
This is the same mother who threw me down the stairs and i to this day remember being kneed in the face from! I feel each and every kick even now
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Im 36 now, as a young boy
I told my mum in secret in the kitchen that my step dad had touched my Willy, she started shouting and screaming at me and saying that I was lieing and then so did my step dad!
This is the same mother who threw me down the stairs and i to this day remember being kneed in the face from! I feel each and every kick even now
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ArashiSocreress
Agin my mom played the victim card after ignoring my little sister of crying to my dad my dad would say you talk over her you dont listen to her she would pity herself. I see she tells me not to play victim yet Ive seen her do it with my dad countless times even hears him tell her your playing the victim her ass would just extra on it so pathetic
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Agin my mom played the victim card after ignoring my little sister of crying to my dad my dad would say you talk over her you dont listen to her she would pity herself. I see she tells me not to play victim yet Ive seen her do it with my dad countless times even hears him tell her your playing the victim her ass would just extra on it so pathetic
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Needmy
House of 9 kids and Im the one who gets told kill your self idc go stand infront of a moving truck & gets physically beating on while my order siblings dont say nothing doesnt even speak up for me they continue smiling as if they havent heard my cries Im the little sister & once I actually listen and does them things I want her to feel all of my pain.
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House of 9 kids and Im the one who gets told kill your self idc go stand infront of a moving truck & gets physically beating on while my order siblings dont say nothing doesnt even speak up for me they continue smiling as if they havent heard my cries Im the little sister & once I actually listen and does them things I want her to feel all of my pain.
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Crio. a
1: 01 I tried to tell my mom that I may have deppresion and that I don't feel comfortable completely in life. She refused to help me instead she told me that my brother is already deppresed so I'm not deppresed. it doesn't makes sense at all but at least I will go to psychologists soon. I hope opening up to her can help me in my situation.
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1: 01 I tried to tell my mom that I may have deppresion and that I don't feel comfortable completely in life. She refused to help me instead she told me that my brother is already deppresed so I'm not deppresed. it doesn't makes sense at all but at least I will go to psychologists soon. I hope opening up to her can help me in my situation.
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happiness
Dear stranger,
I know you are here because you were raised by mentally unhealthy parents, so was I.
I hope that you find healing, I hope that you become a better parent to your children, I hope that you never break your children.
I hope that you understand that you're good enough, that nothing is wrong with you.
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Dear stranger,
I know you are here because you were raised by mentally unhealthy parents, so was I.
I hope that you find healing, I hope that you become a better parent to your children, I hope that you never break your children.
I hope that you understand that you're good enough, that nothing is wrong with you.
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Lizziesworld
People who is lucky have a good parents
My parents was being mean to me sad every single day my parents yelled at me for the silliest thing like getting a B me to have a pluses and we have a deal still be disappointed and also, do you want me to do all the work for them like play with my sister or just cook for them
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People who is lucky have a good parents
My parents was being mean to me sad every single day my parents yelled at me for the silliest thing like getting a B me to have a pluses and we have a deal still be disappointed and also, do you want me to do all the work for them like play with my sister or just cook for them
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Umeainx
When I was in 8th(which I'm still am) I wanted to confront my parent on how the always talk over me(interrupting) but when I confronted them about it, my parents mostly my dad ended up calling me a drama queen and how I always cause drama over my family, and they even sent me to my room, it made me even more depressed.
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When I was in 8th(which I'm still am) I wanted to confront my parent on how the always talk over me(interrupting) but when I confronted them about it, my parents mostly my dad ended up calling me a drama queen and how I always cause drama over my family, and they even sent me to my room, it made me even more depressed.
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Akiko
This is a question from a person who is trying to show a friend of mine that theses things she went through arent normal so my question is. Is it normal for a parent to not let a child speak about an injury they caused to a doctor when it is asked if someone has done something to them which caused the injury?
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This is a question from a person who is trying to show a friend of mine that theses things she went through arent normal so my question is. Is it normal for a parent to not let a child speak about an injury they caused to a doctor when it is asked if someone has done something to them which caused the injury?
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education
My parents used to scare the crap out of me, but like the second I hit 13-14 everything they did just made me equally angry. I dont show my anger the way they do, I keep a calm attitude no matter what they do. But its no longer JUST fear, its exhaustion and frustration with a mix of idc anymore.
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My parents used to scare the crap out of me, but like the second I hit 13-14 everything they did just made me equally angry. I dont show my anger the way they do, I keep a calm attitude no matter what they do. But its no longer JUST fear, its exhaustion and frustration with a mix of idc anymore.
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TheTeoB
another one is inconstant parenting: when they're basically neglecting until they think they need to intervene and become micromanagers until they're taken by something else and they're back disappearing at a distance for an unspecified length of time.
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another one is inconstant parenting: when they're basically neglecting until they think they need to intervene and become micromanagers until they're taken by something else and they're back disappearing at a distance for an unspecified length of time.
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Savannah
Imagine letting your children make small decisions without consulting you first. I'm still trying to trust my own judgement for my decisions, after having been not allowed to make them alone and then suddenly being an adult, paralyzed by indecision
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Imagine letting your children make small decisions without consulting you first. I'm still trying to trust my own judgement for my decisions, after having been not allowed to make them alone and then suddenly being an adult, paralyzed by indecision
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thisismalvar
My Dad:
1 yes
2 yes
3 yes
4 yes
5 yes
6 yes
7 yes
8 yes
9 yes
10 yes
11 yes
12 yes
13 yes
14 no, I think not.
So, that's 13/14. I guess this explains what he did to me at least enough of it.
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My Dad:
1 yes
2 yes
3 yes
4 yes
5 yes
6 yes
7 yes
8 yes
9 yes
10 yes
11 yes
12 yes
13 yes
14 no, I think not.
So, that's 13/14. I guess this explains what he did to me at least enough of it.
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Clementine
Wait, how do you know what my father is like? My father has been almost all the things listed and my mother some of them. I used to feel grateful for my harsh upbringing, but more and more I have realised that I was traumatised.
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Wait, how do you know what my father is like? My father has been almost all the things listed and my mother some of them. I used to feel grateful for my harsh upbringing, but more and more I have realised that I was traumatised.
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RestingQuill
I pay for your car, your phone, I give you a house to live in, I buy you clothes, I feed you
If you didnt give me shelter, clothes, or food, youd be in jail
SEE THERE YOU GO AGAIN MAKING YOURSELF THE VICTIM
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I pay for your car, your phone, I give you a house to live in, I buy you clothes, I feed you
If you didnt give me shelter, clothes, or food, youd be in jail
SEE THERE YOU GO AGAIN MAKING YOURSELF THE VICTIM
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AudrEYheart21
Little pig, little pig wont you let me come in?
No, no, no, by the hair on my chinny, chin, chin.
Then Ill huff and Ill puff and Ill blow your house in.
No, no, no, Mr. Wolf I will not let you in.
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Little pig, little pig wont you let me come in?
No, no, no, by the hair on my chinny, chin, chin.
Then Ill huff and Ill puff and Ill blow your house in.
No, no, no, Mr. Wolf I will not let you in.
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ArashiSocreress
My mom has done this to me my whole life thinking its normal till o started watching videos. Being ignored is a form of abuse mentally and emotionally as you get older you feel like your not worthy
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My mom has done this to me my whole life thinking its normal till o started watching videos. Being ignored is a form of abuse mentally and emotionally as you get older you feel like your not worthy
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