9 Signs Youre a Pleaser Love Style
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Johnny
I find it disheartening that in this love type Im not reading many stories here, people still feel inclined to hide themselves being called out with this kind of thing because it resonates a lot with how Ive handled my past relationships. Just recently broke up with my ex and felt like everything in this video is what made him so anxious and exhausted to be with me. It sucks to feel like even though you were trying your best you probably made things worse with the best intentions at heart. There were other issues than I wont go into length here but I sincerely cared so much for him and wanted to be his rock, his best friend. When we first met we connected on such a deep level and he shared things with me even if they were uncomfortable but claimed that I made him feel comfortable. And that honestly gave me so much joy and pride in myself that I could be that person for him so I tried to be like that ALL the time. I tried to make myself available to him and did the constant texting and check ups like I was some kind of doctor. I quickly realized later with his personality and way of being I kept feeling hurt that he would play with his friends and not be as available to me as much as I was. I kept feeling hurt that he no longer shared his thoughts or even his worries anymore. Suddenly we didnt feel as close as we once were and I was hurting inside but also blinded by love and hope. I try to tell me self that being this way wasnt a problem that its not a weakness being so empathetic, but I also wasnt really prioritizing myself at this point of the relationship. I just wanted to make him happy because he didnt seem to be happy - or to put it simply he probably wasnt happy with me. Trying to make myself perfect for him so he wouldnt find a reason to leave me. But it still happened. Sometimes we set ourselves up for a self-fulfilling prophecy, I often wondered if he loved me and wondered if he still was interested and it compelled me to act in all those ways. Please to anyone reading, you all have wonderful hearts and souls. You owe it to yourselves to invest in yourself as much as you invest in others, we need to be able to tell ourselves we deserve more than what were getting. Love should be unconditional, not a reward for our efforts. Please everyone, take care
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I find it disheartening that in this love type Im not reading many stories here, people still feel inclined to hide themselves being called out with this kind of thing because it resonates a lot with how Ive handled my past relationships. Just recently broke up with my ex and felt like everything in this video is what made him so anxious and exhausted to be with me. It sucks to feel like even though you were trying your best you probably made things worse with the best intentions at heart. There were other issues than I wont go into length here but I sincerely cared so much for him and wanted to be his rock, his best friend. When we first met we connected on such a deep level and he shared things with me even if they were uncomfortable but claimed that I made him feel comfortable. And that honestly gave me so much joy and pride in myself that I could be that person for him so I tried to be like that ALL the time. I tried to make myself available to him and did the constant texting and check ups like I was some kind of doctor. I quickly realized later with his personality and way of being I kept feeling hurt that he would play with his friends and not be as available to me as much as I was. I kept feeling hurt that he no longer shared his thoughts or even his worries anymore. Suddenly we didnt feel as close as we once were and I was hurting inside but also blinded by love and hope. I try to tell me self that being this way wasnt a problem that its not a weakness being so empathetic, but I also wasnt really prioritizing myself at this point of the relationship. I just wanted to make him happy because he didnt seem to be happy - or to put it simply he probably wasnt happy with me. Trying to make myself perfect for him so he wouldnt find a reason to leave me. But it still happened. Sometimes we set ourselves up for a self-fulfilling prophecy, I often wondered if he loved me and wondered if he still was interested and it compelled me to act in all those ways. Please to anyone reading, you all have wonderful hearts and souls. You owe it to yourselves to invest in yourself as much as you invest in others, we need to be able to tell ourselves we deserve more than what were getting. Love should be unconditional, not a reward for our efforts. Please everyone, take care
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Tara
I have seperation anxiety because of trauma which makes me scared of being rejected or left alone, which also makes me a pleaser. I already knew I was, got better at it and choose me more often now. but damn. hearing these points. it really shows me that I am still a pleaser. More than I thought I was.
This is me for 6 or 7 (depends on how I am doing) out of 9 points. And in my case 9 should be 8 because I never had broken up before.
It really sucks to be pleaser and insecure but if you are working on it to become a better version of yourself, for example going to a psychologist you do great. It is a long process but it has effect. As long as you are open help and change you will become less of a pleaser or something and also can think more about yourself.
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I have seperation anxiety because of trauma which makes me scared of being rejected or left alone, which also makes me a pleaser. I already knew I was, got better at it and choose me more often now. but damn. hearing these points. it really shows me that I am still a pleaser. More than I thought I was.
This is me for 6 or 7 (depends on how I am doing) out of 9 points. And in my case 9 should be 8 because I never had broken up before.
It really sucks to be pleaser and insecure but if you are working on it to become a better version of yourself, for example going to a psychologist you do great. It is a long process but it has effect. As long as you are open help and change you will become less of a pleaser or something and also can think more about yourself.
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Kennedy
My bf tries to plan things for us to do as a couple and I want to do them too but I always had to ask my parents. I fear rejection so asking them to go out is really hard for me. I didn't want to seem as though I was asking for too much and I conditioned myself to be the good child in the family in order to cause more problems bc my parents divorced when I was young. I had to go back and forth between houses so I rarely went out with my bf. I don't have a license either since my mom would've taken advantage of me still even if I did have the freedom to go wherever I please. I feel like I trapped myself and didn't put enough into my relationship bc of my circumstance and it makes me feel like a horrible gf.
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My bf tries to plan things for us to do as a couple and I want to do them too but I always had to ask my parents. I fear rejection so asking them to go out is really hard for me. I didn't want to seem as though I was asking for too much and I conditioned myself to be the good child in the family in order to cause more problems bc my parents divorced when I was young. I had to go back and forth between houses so I rarely went out with my bf. I don't have a license either since my mom would've taken advantage of me still even if I did have the freedom to go wherever I please. I feel like I trapped myself and didn't put enough into my relationship bc of my circumstance and it makes me feel like a horrible gf.
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Kahluna
I have this friend that i always listen and help whatever i can and be a pleaser to them since currently she's the only one im close to but and then one day she had a bad day and take it all out to me and i try to apologize and feel like i was the bad guy. We didn't talk for a while and i feel really bad but then i realized that im always the one carry things on with her and she never return the favor equally and i feel dumb to be the one apologizing. Month later she realized and apologize to me and we're back together but im kind of distancing her now after all the things that happened. I think she noticed and i feel really bad but i can't find myself treating her like before
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I have this friend that i always listen and help whatever i can and be a pleaser to them since currently she's the only one im close to but and then one day she had a bad day and take it all out to me and i try to apologize and feel like i was the bad guy. We didn't talk for a while and i feel really bad but then i realized that im always the one carry things on with her and she never return the favor equally and i feel dumb to be the one apologizing. Month later she realized and apologize to me and we're back together but im kind of distancing her now after all the things that happened. I think she noticed and i feel really bad but i can't find myself treating her like before
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Lavishdiva333
I had ALOT of these traits in my last relationship. I would get so upset when my ex needed his me time or to hang out with his friends. I would always call & text etc. I guess now I'm doing better because I'm realizing that no matter the situation I deserve better. I'm tired of everything being one sided. Always asking to hang out, calling or texting first etc. Now I'm learning if they care they will hmu too.
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I had ALOT of these traits in my last relationship. I would get so upset when my ex needed his me time or to hang out with his friends. I would always call & text etc. I guess now I'm doing better because I'm realizing that no matter the situation I deserve better. I'm tired of everything being one sided. Always asking to hang out, calling or texting first etc. Now I'm learning if they care they will hmu too.
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Katie
I have a friend that is like this (not just in romance, in general, and whenever something bad happens that is out of her control, not her fault, or even something that was someone else's fault, she apologizes.
I'm like GURL STOP ITS NOT YOUR FAULT DON'T BE SORRY
I wish she could think about her own needs for once, it makes me so sad to see her like this.
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I have a friend that is like this (not just in romance, in general, and whenever something bad happens that is out of her control, not her fault, or even something that was someone else's fault, she apologizes.
I'm like GURL STOP ITS NOT YOUR FAULT DON'T BE SORRY
I wish she could think about her own needs for once, it makes me so sad to see her like this.
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NinaThePink
Oof, I relate a lot. I feel like I did most of these things. I actually just broke up with my ex partner a week ago today and I was and still am definitely doing most of these things, even after we've broken up. :/ I've also done some of these things with my other exes as well. Kind of a big oof moment for me right now.
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Oof, I relate a lot. I feel like I did most of these things. I actually just broke up with my ex partner a week ago today and I was and still am definitely doing most of these things, even after we've broken up. :/ I've also done some of these things with my other exes as well. Kind of a big oof moment for me right now.
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Mustard
I think im gonna be a pleaser that wants a possessive partner, ik its not healthy and its bad but ive been so lonely and kept longing for a hug or any physical affection (which no-one gave me) that i wanted to assure them that im for them and they decide everything knowing where i am and what i am i just want to be loved
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I think im gonna be a pleaser that wants a possessive partner, ik its not healthy and its bad but ive been so lonely and kept longing for a hug or any physical affection (which no-one gave me) that i wanted to assure them that im for them and they decide everything knowing where i am and what i am i just want to be loved
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Screen
Weird how this dropped right when my girlfriend broke up with me for exactly this. I'm still hanging on, even after shes made it abundantly clear that she doesn't want to see me anymore. Little remnants of her linger around my life, and I'm having a really hard time letting go.
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Weird how this dropped right when my girlfriend broke up with me for exactly this. I'm still hanging on, even after shes made it abundantly clear that she doesn't want to see me anymore. Little remnants of her linger around my life, and I'm having a really hard time letting go.
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Ambitious
Never, just never be like the last one!
I'm lazy, and also a bit krazy!
I need to stop being lazy!
But I don't at all need to stop being crazy!
I don't care, what they're going to say!
I won't stop being crazy!
Cuz being crazy is wut I'm all about!
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Never, just never be like the last one!
I'm lazy, and also a bit krazy!
I need to stop being lazy!
But I don't at all need to stop being crazy!
I don't care, what they're going to say!
I won't stop being crazy!
Cuz being crazy is wut I'm all about!
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aL
I used to be a pleaser, when my husband confesses his love to me, I can't say no so I keep my love secretly till I finally give up and end up marrying him, but give birth to my son, I realise that something being a pleaser is the best decision I ever made, thank you for reading.
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I used to be a pleaser, when my husband confesses his love to me, I can't say no so I keep my love secretly till I finally give up and end up marrying him, but give birth to my son, I realise that something being a pleaser is the best decision I ever made, thank you for reading.
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Jacqueline
Im in every category and Im not in a relationship but I try so so hard to keep my friend feeling loved and cared and happy because if I dont see that they are happy or loved I fear that I will lose them and mostly I do that to everyone I love and care for.
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Im in every category and Im not in a relationship but I try so so hard to keep my friend feeling loved and cared and happy because if I dont see that they are happy or loved I fear that I will lose them and mostly I do that to everyone I love and care for.
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Partha
Hey pshych2go, listen to me.
I am facing a problem since 2 years that I can't cry and can't make a drop fall down from my eyes.
Please make a video on that I will be thanked to you.
Believe on me, it's really creating problems.
I am 16 year old
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Hey pshych2go, listen to me.
I am facing a problem since 2 years that I can't cry and can't make a drop fall down from my eyes.
Please make a video on that I will be thanked to you.
Believe on me, it's really creating problems.
I am 16 year old
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Doug
Thanks so much!
Honestly, I tried this video because I thought I am a pleaser love style. but after watching it. I'm convinced I'm NOT a pleaser!
Yes, I have done a few of these things at times, but my general tendency is not this. very interesting.
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Thanks so much!
Honestly, I tried this video because I thought I am a pleaser love style. but after watching it. I'm convinced I'm NOT a pleaser!
Yes, I have done a few of these things at times, but my general tendency is not this. very interesting.
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IAMASELENATOR92
Thank you for these videos. They are helping me to understand my mental health and ways I can improve it.
Your goal in creating this video is being accomplished. You have been able to make mental health help more accessible to so many people.
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Thank you for these videos. They are helping me to understand my mental health and ways I can improve it.
Your goal in creating this video is being accomplished. You have been able to make mental health help more accessible to so many people.
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Kool_Kid_Yanno
Should I share this video with my partner? I believe I am the pleaser in our relationship, at least, most of these points apply to me. Would sharing it help explain myself or is that the wrong thing to do?
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Should I share this video with my partner? I believe I am the pleaser in our relationship, at least, most of these points apply to me. Would sharing it help explain myself or is that the wrong thing to do?
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avi
I love this aesthetic! And this soft pink and soft blue colour palette! It makes me feel so happy and soothed!
Amazing video, thank you Psych2Go for all through hard work you put into making these videos!
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I love this aesthetic! And this soft pink and soft blue colour palette! It makes me feel so happy and soothed!
Amazing video, thank you Psych2Go for all through hard work you put into making these videos!
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Alka
Always apologize first? For what?
If they are wrong, why should you apologize?
Never sell your self respect and maturity for anyone. Because by doing so you are selling your personality too
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Always apologize first? For what?
If they are wrong, why should you apologize?
Never sell your self respect and maturity for anyone. Because by doing so you are selling your personality too
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Abigail
The first one I was like nah I'd probably be like: I don't wanna be too controlling. They'd end up abandoning me probably because they'd think I'm not attached enough or they'd forget about me.
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The first one I was like nah I'd probably be like: I don't wanna be too controlling. They'd end up abandoning me probably because they'd think I'm not attached enough or they'd forget about me.
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PunkBeluga
I am a pleaser and I met another pleaser that has obviously been through more than me, well he is older, and he said sorry for little things until I even said he didn't need to apologise.
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I am a pleaser and I met another pleaser that has obviously been through more than me, well he is older, and he said sorry for little things until I even said he didn't need to apologise.
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Luke
So. what do I do as a pleaser? Just accept my reality and wait for the absolute perfect moment? I feel like I'm in the way 90% of the time and go the extra mile so often, just to be discarded
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So. what do I do as a pleaser? Just accept my reality and wait for the absolute perfect moment? I feel like I'm in the way 90% of the time and go the extra mile so often, just to be discarded
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Jessica
I was the pleaser in my relationship. Now I only give the same energy that I receive. If I don't see where you are showing that you love me, I won't show you any whatsoever.
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I was the pleaser in my relationship. Now I only give the same energy that I receive. If I don't see where you are showing that you love me, I won't show you any whatsoever.
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DingusDeDuck26
This isnt just in relationships. I am definitely a pleaser but I do these things with everyone Im close to. I just want them to be happy and U dont have to earn love?
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This isnt just in relationships. I am definitely a pleaser but I do these things with everyone Im close to. I just want them to be happy and U dont have to earn love?
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TEREZ1
what if they refuse to choose things/places they like? saying they don't care, but maybe they do. my partner does some of these things and i want to help them
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what if they refuse to choose things/places they like? saying they don't care, but maybe they do. my partner does some of these things and i want to help them
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a tangent: im in love with the animation, so much that i actually looked for the animators name. i wanna follow all their socials and hope they have merch PLS
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a tangent: im in love with the animation, so much that i actually looked for the animators name. i wanna follow all their socials and hope they have merch PLS
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