8 Signs You Have Relationship Anxiety
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Ryan
What if I was in a relationship and I was insecure due to her behavior changing around a guy who she spent Iiteral hours talking with every couple of days who wasn't a part of her life until 18 mo into our relationship, but they did grow up together, and then when our relationship ended due to my impatience for her progress and her lack of communication and upon that relationship ending, he is conviently the one who spent the most time with her, practically all in two weeks. And I gave her until the end of the month to leave and the literal day of my birthday I see him (security camera) trying to piss in my closet, out of his mind drunk after Being brought over already drunk, then puking in my home, then mysteriously getting naked down to his underwear, creeping on her while she sleeping, and I'm the crazy one for kicking her out the next day? She's the one who made the choice to bring him into what was once our home but is technically my home. She's the one who couldn't see it because he's just a friend. I feel there is something more there and I cut her off completely. I have been cheated on. I have made mistakes in that relationship. In many, but as soon as the relationship ended. I was magically taking care of myself. I wasn't stressed due to her depression, her lack of a job, her lack of motivation. I didn't want to be single, I had tried to deeply very hard to make it work. I vocalize my insecurities, many times. I spoke about her need to seek help for mental health. To reach out to family and friends. I even pushed past my insecurities about underwear drunk and said she should have friends. I genuinely liked him, but he reminded me of a very good friend who is very damaged and almost sociopathic. I pushed for us to excersize. Her cycle of not keeping a job. Had begun and again and i had seen it previously and i knew it was just going to happen again. It was something that i did to spite my mom. Getting deeper in debt and using that as another problem that was self created was almost self sabotage. I had said so what, you will be in debt but we will still be here. And i meant it, but she didn't tell me about a debt that affected both of us. I wanted to excersize. just go for walks. I wanted her to reach out to her family. I deeply loved her. I still do. it's been almost 3 months since we split up. I tried everything. She suddenly got very motivated for him. She suddenly was able to get up and go for him. She laughed for hours for him and said I could join. When I did. the mood changed. She talked to him for 5-8 hours when they hung out. In our home. Laughing. Talking. reminiscing. when we hardly spoke anymore. But I'm the insecure one? I guess I had no reason to be.
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What if I was in a relationship and I was insecure due to her behavior changing around a guy who she spent Iiteral hours talking with every couple of days who wasn't a part of her life until 18 mo into our relationship, but they did grow up together, and then when our relationship ended due to my impatience for her progress and her lack of communication and upon that relationship ending, he is conviently the one who spent the most time with her, practically all in two weeks. And I gave her until the end of the month to leave and the literal day of my birthday I see him (security camera) trying to piss in my closet, out of his mind drunk after Being brought over already drunk, then puking in my home, then mysteriously getting naked down to his underwear, creeping on her while she sleeping, and I'm the crazy one for kicking her out the next day? She's the one who made the choice to bring him into what was once our home but is technically my home. She's the one who couldn't see it because he's just a friend. I feel there is something more there and I cut her off completely. I have been cheated on. I have made mistakes in that relationship. In many, but as soon as the relationship ended. I was magically taking care of myself. I wasn't stressed due to her depression, her lack of a job, her lack of motivation. I didn't want to be single, I had tried to deeply very hard to make it work. I vocalize my insecurities, many times. I spoke about her need to seek help for mental health. To reach out to family and friends. I even pushed past my insecurities about underwear drunk and said she should have friends. I genuinely liked him, but he reminded me of a very good friend who is very damaged and almost sociopathic. I pushed for us to excersize. Her cycle of not keeping a job. Had begun and again and i had seen it previously and i knew it was just going to happen again. It was something that i did to spite my mom. Getting deeper in debt and using that as another problem that was self created was almost self sabotage. I had said so what, you will be in debt but we will still be here. And i meant it, but she didn't tell me about a debt that affected both of us. I wanted to excersize. just go for walks. I wanted her to reach out to her family. I deeply loved her. I still do. it's been almost 3 months since we split up. I tried everything. She suddenly got very motivated for him. She suddenly was able to get up and go for him. She laughed for hours for him and said I could join. When I did. the mood changed. She talked to him for 5-8 hours when they hung out. In our home. Laughing. Talking. reminiscing. when we hardly spoke anymore. But I'm the insecure one? I guess I had no reason to be.
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Son
6) The comment about I am depressed etc etc from blanc hurt a lot and makes me still upset. I didnt get it at first. I thought u said that about yourself and that is why i also thought u scammed me. But then i realized u try to force a version of me on me that u guys made up in your head to avoid self-accountability. After all, u hacked me and exposed my loved ones in that moment i lost it. And u folks had the audacity to type that to me and make nasty online comments while hiding behind your screens. Mindgames. If that ainy bullyin and sorta coward behaviour, then please explain it to me. This is one of the red flags i talked about. I never wanna see you do that ever again. It' below you and also below me. I told one of my buddies aside mom and it is not lookin good. They dont understand why i dont turn around cuz i gotta agree with them: What kinda people would do this to someone else? All while hiding in their rooms behind their screen?
I hope u can reflect on my honest comments. I am not here to argue. But i dont want the future affected. So this is my way of mitigating it. You said always i could trust you. But i got hacked. If i had known that would happen, things would have gone differently. it is a nightmare for me and gives me major anxiety. Please cease it.
You know. I miss those times where we would just cuddle up for the night. Felt like havin a cuddle buddy. When others didnt intervene or try be noisy. I miss those sincere times from the bottom of my heart and hope you can consider. I just wanna fall asleep next to you. It was you that held me when i couldnt sleep anymore during rona. And it was you that made me choose my good sides. And it was also you that showed me many new perspectives. I really like you and dont wanna destroy sth that could be sth beautiful. And this is why i talk honestly now. It's really important to communicate such things or resentment will start to grow. Please dont read it angrily or sth. I am here to communicate and make sure this doesnt end in confrontation. Maybe i got some stuffs wrong too and misunderstand. Cuz i have insecurities as well. So i apologize. But i want us to respect each other's basic boundaries.
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6) The comment about I am depressed etc etc from blanc hurt a lot and makes me still upset. I didnt get it at first. I thought u said that about yourself and that is why i also thought u scammed me. But then i realized u try to force a version of me on me that u guys made up in your head to avoid self-accountability. After all, u hacked me and exposed my loved ones in that moment i lost it. And u folks had the audacity to type that to me and make nasty online comments while hiding behind your screens. Mindgames. If that ainy bullyin and sorta coward behaviour, then please explain it to me. This is one of the red flags i talked about. I never wanna see you do that ever again. It' below you and also below me. I told one of my buddies aside mom and it is not lookin good. They dont understand why i dont turn around cuz i gotta agree with them: What kinda people would do this to someone else? All while hiding in their rooms behind their screen?
I hope u can reflect on my honest comments. I am not here to argue. But i dont want the future affected. So this is my way of mitigating it. You said always i could trust you. But i got hacked. If i had known that would happen, things would have gone differently. it is a nightmare for me and gives me major anxiety. Please cease it.
You know. I miss those times where we would just cuddle up for the night. Felt like havin a cuddle buddy. When others didnt intervene or try be noisy. I miss those sincere times from the bottom of my heart and hope you can consider. I just wanna fall asleep next to you. It was you that held me when i couldnt sleep anymore during rona. And it was you that made me choose my good sides. And it was also you that showed me many new perspectives. I really like you and dont wanna destroy sth that could be sth beautiful. And this is why i talk honestly now. It's really important to communicate such things or resentment will start to grow. Please dont read it angrily or sth. I am here to communicate and make sure this doesnt end in confrontation. Maybe i got some stuffs wrong too and misunderstand. Cuz i have insecurities as well. So i apologize. But i want us to respect each other's basic boundaries.
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OneDay
I know not everyone believes this but I've dated over 40 people both women and men, women just typically cheat on me or leave me with no reason at all, I've been trying to be the best but no one would be my home.
I've dated about 2-3 men because thats how they have affected me so much.
But from this, I have experience and major trauma at the same time.
I now have a happy relationship that is now 1 year and 1 month.
I've never dated for so long and yet be so happy with them, but we sometimes have fights and they can be fixed but it just gives trauma and its just making me worry all the time.
Because I've dated 40 people I now have anxiety over everything She does, if shes out and didnt update me I would think that shes cheating, when most of the time she isnt and has never been cheating nor doing anything bad. I know shes the true one for me but, I cant help but always be having trust issues when I miss her or I dont get any updates from her, yes we are LDR.
This is what I hate about my experience, I wish I've never dated 40 people, but at the same time it wouldnt give me the experience nor the route to meet my own Soulmate.
I just wish things were easier.
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I know not everyone believes this but I've dated over 40 people both women and men, women just typically cheat on me or leave me with no reason at all, I've been trying to be the best but no one would be my home.
I've dated about 2-3 men because thats how they have affected me so much.
But from this, I have experience and major trauma at the same time.
I now have a happy relationship that is now 1 year and 1 month.
I've never dated for so long and yet be so happy with them, but we sometimes have fights and they can be fixed but it just gives trauma and its just making me worry all the time.
Because I've dated 40 people I now have anxiety over everything She does, if shes out and didnt update me I would think that shes cheating, when most of the time she isnt and has never been cheating nor doing anything bad. I know shes the true one for me but, I cant help but always be having trust issues when I miss her or I dont get any updates from her, yes we are LDR.
This is what I hate about my experience, I wish I've never dated 40 people, but at the same time it wouldnt give me the experience nor the route to meet my own Soulmate.
I just wish things were easier.
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cworpses
oh my god, this is exactly how I am, I think my past relationship caused me to be like this. He never reassured me, or did anything for me, which made me go even more insane. he couldn't even do the bare minimum. He tends to avoid serious talk and always say sorry but never change, he's so dry, leave me on delivered or seen whenever I vent to him, I was typing essays just to comfort him that he's the only one I like, but he never did the same. I gave him gifts, wrote him letters, painted, and drew for him, but he never appreciated it. It made me overly-anxious about everything, gaslighted me that it was normal for him to be like that. to be what? an assh0le to me? now i'm suffering because of him. I developed a relationship anxiety, and made my trust issues worse. I'm scared of liking other people again, I'm scared that I'll get hurt again.
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oh my god, this is exactly how I am, I think my past relationship caused me to be like this. He never reassured me, or did anything for me, which made me go even more insane. he couldn't even do the bare minimum. He tends to avoid serious talk and always say sorry but never change, he's so dry, leave me on delivered or seen whenever I vent to him, I was typing essays just to comfort him that he's the only one I like, but he never did the same. I gave him gifts, wrote him letters, painted, and drew for him, but he never appreciated it. It made me overly-anxious about everything, gaslighted me that it was normal for him to be like that. to be what? an assh0le to me? now i'm suffering because of him. I developed a relationship anxiety, and made my trust issues worse. I'm scared of liking other people again, I'm scared that I'll get hurt again.
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Ari
I showed every sign in this video, in my previous relationships, I went through so much, every relationship I was in I got cheated on and I kept blaming myself that it was me (I'm not sure why i thought that way) it really broke my heart and I was sick of starting over but when I met my current girlfriend, I just thought I give it a shot since it's been almost a year. as of right now I still go through relationship anxiety and I feel bad about it because I would always need reassurance from her and I felt like I was draining her emotionally and mentally so I tried to find ways to cope with it on my own but I couldn't so I just had to deal with it. Today I felt like enough is enough.
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I showed every sign in this video, in my previous relationships, I went through so much, every relationship I was in I got cheated on and I kept blaming myself that it was me (I'm not sure why i thought that way) it really broke my heart and I was sick of starting over but when I met my current girlfriend, I just thought I give it a shot since it's been almost a year. as of right now I still go through relationship anxiety and I feel bad about it because I would always need reassurance from her and I felt like I was draining her emotionally and mentally so I tried to find ways to cope with it on my own but I couldn't so I just had to deal with it. Today I felt like enough is enough.
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SweetPea
I do experience 1 or 2 of these signs. Im in a long distance relationship and Ive been cheated on in the past so that is where the anxiety comes from. Ive been with my current boyfriend for almost two years. I use to be afraid to share this with my partner. Especially in the beginning just because I didnt know how he would react. So I would go MIA for a few hours or even a day. Which was really horrible especially for him. Ive learned that communicating this to my partner does help. My partner has told me numerous times that I need to tell him when I feel this way. Another thing that really helps is crying, letting it all out and sleeping.
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I do experience 1 or 2 of these signs. Im in a long distance relationship and Ive been cheated on in the past so that is where the anxiety comes from. Ive been with my current boyfriend for almost two years. I use to be afraid to share this with my partner. Especially in the beginning just because I didnt know how he would react. So I would go MIA for a few hours or even a day. Which was really horrible especially for him. Ive learned that communicating this to my partner does help. My partner has told me numerous times that I need to tell him when I feel this way. Another thing that really helps is crying, letting it all out and sleeping.
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breci
Ik I'm late, but I need help, me and my girlfriend of a month have been doing great, but the other night we got a little spicy over ft talking about intimacy ect ect and when I woke up the next morning I had a sense of inpending doom like deep down I lost feelings for her. That can't be true she's beautiful one of the nicest people I've ever met, I'm half concerned I'm falling in love with her, I don't know what to do if my feeling are true or not, I don't want to leave her, I want to have a future with her as naive as it is to say this early on. Can anyone give me some sort of advice
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Ik I'm late, but I need help, me and my girlfriend of a month have been doing great, but the other night we got a little spicy over ft talking about intimacy ect ect and when I woke up the next morning I had a sense of inpending doom like deep down I lost feelings for her. That can't be true she's beautiful one of the nicest people I've ever met, I'm half concerned I'm falling in love with her, I don't know what to do if my feeling are true or not, I don't want to leave her, I want to have a future with her as naive as it is to say this early on. Can anyone give me some sort of advice
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Chocogibby
I think I have relationship anxiety but - it's all the opposite things this video has said? Let me explain. I dout they like me - even if they reassure me, I don't believe them and distance myself. I think they're better of with out me and end the relationship in they behalf, thinking it's for the best. I want to depend on them but stop myself from doing so - thinking I'm over bear or desperate to fit in. I want to please them but I think all my gestures are annoying and cringe so I don't do any nice gestures for them. How do I fix this? ;;
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I think I have relationship anxiety but - it's all the opposite things this video has said? Let me explain. I dout they like me - even if they reassure me, I don't believe them and distance myself. I think they're better of with out me and end the relationship in they behalf, thinking it's for the best. I want to depend on them but stop myself from doing so - thinking I'm over bear or desperate to fit in. I want to please them but I think all my gestures are annoying and cringe so I don't do any nice gestures for them. How do I fix this? ;;
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education
So i have suffered from social anxiety for a long time and i also had depression. It was and still is hard for me to get into relationships and meet new people especially guys. I feel so insecure about myself. Insecure about my appearance but I also have the idea that people will not find me interesting and fun.
And that after a while they don't want me anymore. Because of this fear I don't manage to have contact with boys.
And when I try I suffer from panic attacks.
could someone help me
Or do you have any tips
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So i have suffered from social anxiety for a long time and i also had depression. It was and still is hard for me to get into relationships and meet new people especially guys. I feel so insecure about myself. Insecure about my appearance but I also have the idea that people will not find me interesting and fun.
And that after a while they don't want me anymore. Because of this fear I don't manage to have contact with boys.
And when I try I suffer from panic attacks.
could someone help me
Or do you have any tips
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Blue
I found out how bad my Relationship Anxiety is when I started dating again after 3 years of being single. A lot of the signs in this video hits hard.
Also, did you guys know that ROCD (Relationship OCD) exists aswell? I just now found out about it. I've been suspecting having OCD for a while now because of having uncontrollable unwanted thoughts constantly, and HECK knows if it is OCD or not. However, with the chance of me having OCD and experiencing ROCD symptoms, I'm really not surprised at this point.
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I found out how bad my Relationship Anxiety is when I started dating again after 3 years of being single. A lot of the signs in this video hits hard.
Also, did you guys know that ROCD (Relationship OCD) exists aswell? I just now found out about it. I've been suspecting having OCD for a while now because of having uncontrollable unwanted thoughts constantly, and HECK knows if it is OCD or not. However, with the chance of me having OCD and experiencing ROCD symptoms, I'm really not surprised at this point.
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Lalo
Psych2go. You may never read this but, I feel anxious about getting into a relationship that may not work and turn agressive or somehow bad. I see myself as diplomatic, empathic and altruist. But became insecure. I believe seeing My close family members poor experiences in relationships contributed to my doubts and fear in this specific area.
I don't want to keep thinking in something that si not worth it, catastrophic and not related to what si happening in the present. I want to change
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Psych2go. You may never read this but, I feel anxious about getting into a relationship that may not work and turn agressive or somehow bad. I see myself as diplomatic, empathic and altruist. But became insecure. I believe seeing My close family members poor experiences in relationships contributed to my doubts and fear in this specific area.
I don't want to keep thinking in something that si not worth it, catastrophic and not related to what si happening in the present. I want to change
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Lady_of_culture
I've been like this in past relationships and took an year break. I was normal and happy again and I thought that now I wouldn't be anxious. But voila, guess who's back It takes up my mind. I feel so thirsty for being busy so that I won't think about my bf. And always cook ofc various scenarios if he doesn't call back at time and all. I kind of know what's in my mind but I don't know how to solve it
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I've been like this in past relationships and took an year break. I was normal and happy again and I thought that now I wouldn't be anxious. But voila, guess who's back It takes up my mind. I feel so thirsty for being busy so that I won't think about my bf. And always cook ofc various scenarios if he doesn't call back at time and all. I kind of know what's in my mind but I don't know how to solve it
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Reece
Damn it, why do I relate to this so much. She is just busy all the time, and I dont think she will ever have enough time for are relationship to develop into something meaningful. I dont want to end it, since the times we do hang out make up for the countless weeks we dont. However, is it worth my stress and anxiety to have a relationship that functions like this?
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Damn it, why do I relate to this so much. She is just busy all the time, and I dont think she will ever have enough time for are relationship to develop into something meaningful. I dont want to end it, since the times we do hang out make up for the countless weeks we dont. However, is it worth my stress and anxiety to have a relationship that functions like this?
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Space
My gf is probably one of the best girls I've ever met. But yea, I'm always the anxious one in the relationship. And what sucks is is that she seems really happy to see me and she's really into me. And I guess I doubt those moments. We get into these talks where I start to fall apart and I'm always apologizing but it's happening so often now idk what to do.
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My gf is probably one of the best girls I've ever met. But yea, I'm always the anxious one in the relationship. And what sucks is is that she seems really happy to see me and she's really into me. And I guess I doubt those moments. We get into these talks where I start to fall apart and I'm always apologizing but it's happening so often now idk what to do.
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Emma
I have anxiety about leaving all the time while I want such a beautiful future with him and I know I love him so much. But I still get all these triggiring thoughts. Cause I am still healing, my old pattern was to do this alone and now I am in front of this big challenge and my response is to run away while I really want this to work. Can someone relate?
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I have anxiety about leaving all the time while I want such a beautiful future with him and I know I love him so much. But I still get all these triggiring thoughts. Cause I am still healing, my old pattern was to do this alone and now I am in front of this big challenge and my response is to run away while I really want this to work. Can someone relate?
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education
Well, the thing is i feel anxiety just thinking about us together, not because i believe I'm not good enough or will this last? I also feel anxiety at day time but not at night time. I'm very confused why. If anyone can answer why, which i doubt because i don't think someone will actually see this. But i just want to relate or get advice.
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Well, the thing is i feel anxiety just thinking about us together, not because i believe I'm not good enough or will this last? I also feel anxiety at day time but not at night time. I'm very confused why. If anyone can answer why, which i doubt because i don't think someone will actually see this. But i just want to relate or get advice.
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Shubham
I just dont konw ehats happening to meeee. We both truly love each other but the thing is whenever i confessed. she always starts to worry abt the future and just gets scared and denies always. but her feelings are always there and i notice it all the time. i dunno how yo make her stop worrying abt the future and focus on our present
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I just dont konw ehats happening to meeee. We both truly love each other but the thing is whenever i confessed. she always starts to worry abt the future and just gets scared and denies always. but her feelings are always there and i notice it all the time. i dunno how yo make her stop worrying abt the future and focus on our present
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Its
So whats the more severe case?
Because this is for people in a relationship, but I am not even getting myself to open up to that!
Never dated, never hooked up, never met with a woman in my 26years of life!
Intimicy anxiety? Because I have no problem making friends or talking to people, if there is no further intent!
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So whats the more severe case?
Because this is for people in a relationship, but I am not even getting myself to open up to that!
Never dated, never hooked up, never met with a woman in my 26years of life!
Intimicy anxiety? Because I have no problem making friends or talking to people, if there is no further intent!
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MF
I have been dating my partner for less than a month but we are both very honest with each other. I told him I have relationship anxiety and he told me he has it too. Now this can be a good thing because we can work on it together, or we may both get too anxious and decide to end it, which only makes me more anxious.
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I have been dating my partner for less than a month but we are both very honest with each other. I told him I have relationship anxiety and he told me he has it too. Now this can be a good thing because we can work on it together, or we may both get too anxious and decide to end it, which only makes me more anxious.
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Salty
I don't think I have much relationship anxiety _in_ a relationship. I give my relationships my all, but I do have a lot of anxiety _getting into_ a relationship because I'm worried of ruining my existing (platonic) relationship with them if it doesn't work out and getting hurt again.
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I don't think I have much relationship anxiety _in_ a relationship. I give my relationships my all, but I do have a lot of anxiety _getting into_ a relationship because I'm worried of ruining my existing (platonic) relationship with them if it doesn't work out and getting hurt again.
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Christina
Yes this sounds like me I know the reasons I have relationship anxiety as I was abandoned by my mother and father as a small child. I feel guilty about having these feelings and feel that if I let my partner know he may not want to be with me
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Yes this sounds like me I know the reasons I have relationship anxiety as I was abandoned by my mother and father as a small child. I feel guilty about having these feelings and feel that if I let my partner know he may not want to be with me
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Hershey
I check almost every box here
And yet my mind tells me I need to be better for him
Because Im afraid hell leave me, and when we argue I dont get mad at him but at myself instead, and beat myself up because I couldve avoided the issue
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I check almost every box here
And yet my mind tells me I need to be better for him
Because Im afraid hell leave me, and when we argue I dont get mad at him but at myself instead, and beat myself up because I couldve avoided the issue
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Algie
this relationship anxiety are totally the hardest thing deal. I'm struggling to deal with these things as an introvert huhuhuhuhuh. I'm afraid of losing this person that I love but I didn't realize that I am the one pushing him away from me
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this relationship anxiety are totally the hardest thing deal. I'm struggling to deal with these things as an introvert huhuhuhuhuh. I'm afraid of losing this person that I love but I didn't realize that I am the one pushing him away from me
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Melissa
My bf works out of town and when he leaves I get super anxious and all I do is cry and make myself sick. Im having horrible anxiety right now because hes gone. I cant wait till tomorrow afternoon when he gets home
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My bf works out of town and when he leaves I get super anxious and all I do is cry and make myself sick. Im having horrible anxiety right now because hes gone. I cant wait till tomorrow afternoon when he gets home
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purple
The realization that Im actually in a very healthy relationship leading to marriage is overwhelming methat one day well get married and my life wont be the same. Its a too good to be true kind of worry
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The realization that Im actually in a very healthy relationship leading to marriage is overwhelming methat one day well get married and my life wont be the same. Its a too good to be true kind of worry
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