How to Respond to Emotional Blackmail
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Maria
I suffer from a few emotionally manipulative people.
My dad has cancer and his wife (I dont consider her my stepmom) tends to emotionally manipulate me by saying hes your father. Its your responsibility to visit him. Hes deteriorating.
Heres the issue I KNOW hes my dad. Hes been in my life longer than hers so, Im aware. I know its my responsibility to visit. But he lives more than 3 hours away from me (I dont have a car. Blind in one eye. And I dont expect them to meet me half way, due to his fragile condition and with Rona still being very much around) so the journey is ALL mine to take. Over AND back! I also lost a friend to the similar cancer to what he has, so Im aware of what the treatments are doing to him.
Yet, she thinks that its okay to use this in a way to guilt me
Into visiting(and it wouldnt be the first time shes used this tactic on me. Its not right and its emotionally manipulative. And I told her it stops today!
I told her I have a life and she needs to respect that. That I am doing my best to do better (sober and smoke free) I also had to move back in my mams (whos also not well. Therefore I try to make my stay not a hinderance by basically being the hired help/handy woman) so adjustments to new changes everywhere! I cant just drop everything to come and see him when hes living 100s of miles away just cause she wants me to. Its not as easy as she thinks. I have a travel card that allows me to public transport, hence why she seems to think that my journey is easier. Its still not.
It takes 29 mins to walk from my mothers place to the local train station. 56 mins from the local station to the citys station. 17mins (tramline) from the station to; thats right! You guessed it! ANOTHER station AND then 1 hour from that station to their destination and if she is able to, she will give me a short lift from their station to their house, If not I have to take the bus. So! All in all, its trek and then some to get to my dad. And she wonders why I havent visited in the past few weeks.
I explained all this. Which I shouldnt have to do. And Im at a point now where I dont even wanna visit him, if shes there.
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I suffer from a few emotionally manipulative people.
My dad has cancer and his wife (I dont consider her my stepmom) tends to emotionally manipulate me by saying hes your father. Its your responsibility to visit him. Hes deteriorating.
Heres the issue I KNOW hes my dad. Hes been in my life longer than hers so, Im aware. I know its my responsibility to visit. But he lives more than 3 hours away from me (I dont have a car. Blind in one eye. And I dont expect them to meet me half way, due to his fragile condition and with Rona still being very much around) so the journey is ALL mine to take. Over AND back! I also lost a friend to the similar cancer to what he has, so Im aware of what the treatments are doing to him.
Yet, she thinks that its okay to use this in a way to guilt me
Into visiting(and it wouldnt be the first time shes used this tactic on me. Its not right and its emotionally manipulative. And I told her it stops today!
I told her I have a life and she needs to respect that. That I am doing my best to do better (sober and smoke free) I also had to move back in my mams (whos also not well. Therefore I try to make my stay not a hinderance by basically being the hired help/handy woman) so adjustments to new changes everywhere! I cant just drop everything to come and see him when hes living 100s of miles away just cause she wants me to. Its not as easy as she thinks. I have a travel card that allows me to public transport, hence why she seems to think that my journey is easier. Its still not.
It takes 29 mins to walk from my mothers place to the local train station. 56 mins from the local station to the citys station. 17mins (tramline) from the station to; thats right! You guessed it! ANOTHER station AND then 1 hour from that station to their destination and if she is able to, she will give me a short lift from their station to their house, If not I have to take the bus. So! All in all, its trek and then some to get to my dad. And she wonders why I havent visited in the past few weeks.
I explained all this. Which I shouldnt have to do. And Im at a point now where I dont even wanna visit him, if shes there.
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RoboCario
Im apparently emotionally blackmailing my friend.
Thats what they said.
But like im not doing it on purpose.
They also mentioned gaslighting.
And.
Well, I suppose I often turn to them for a lot of my problems. But it must of gotta too much.
They also said I should be more open amd honest wuth my feelings and stuff. But then I did it too muvh cos, I did it at bad times. Not because im manipulating them. Because I feel bad hiding my feelings. I could of just, left them alone and talked about it later.
Like idk why I was feeling these things. Ik they weren't very good feelings and I was feeling guiltily about feeling them. Cos ik they just wanted alone time. And I said thats ok. But I don't think I said it in the best way. Perhaps being interprteded as me being sacarstic, because im talking about how I feel lonley and left out. But that I'd probably calm down.
I wasn't saying that to manipulate them, was just being open about my feelings. But.
Now. They just want space and. Its possible I may loose them forever.
Ive been trying to get in touch with a doctor but there so busy and are taking a while to get back in touch.
So im just sort of left in the dark not knowing what to do or how to respond to this.
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Im apparently emotionally blackmailing my friend.
Thats what they said.
But like im not doing it on purpose.
They also mentioned gaslighting.
And.
Well, I suppose I often turn to them for a lot of my problems. But it must of gotta too much.
They also said I should be more open amd honest wuth my feelings and stuff. But then I did it too muvh cos, I did it at bad times. Not because im manipulating them. Because I feel bad hiding my feelings. I could of just, left them alone and talked about it later.
Like idk why I was feeling these things. Ik they weren't very good feelings and I was feeling guiltily about feeling them. Cos ik they just wanted alone time. And I said thats ok. But I don't think I said it in the best way. Perhaps being interprteded as me being sacarstic, because im talking about how I feel lonley and left out. But that I'd probably calm down.
I wasn't saying that to manipulate them, was just being open about my feelings. But.
Now. They just want space and. Its possible I may loose them forever.
Ive been trying to get in touch with a doctor but there so busy and are taking a while to get back in touch.
So im just sort of left in the dark not knowing what to do or how to respond to this.
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Tezz
Honestly ever since i got cancer and i havent been workin as I'm not allowed too( studying for a more suitable job so i don't make my condition worse. She would always threaten to kick me out knowing i have no where to go or enough money to fully support myself everytime i refuse to help her at her job (she works as a cleaner) its really tiring and after helping her for months and me losing motivation and also feeling trapped I've come to the point where i don't see a way out anymore. Everyone is like why don't just not go? Simply because she'll take my car since i had it under her name since i was too young when i had the car. Honestly things feel hopeless at this point i don't really wanna do treatment r chemotherapy. I told my doctors and specials to just let me go
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Honestly ever since i got cancer and i havent been workin as I'm not allowed too( studying for a more suitable job so i don't make my condition worse. She would always threaten to kick me out knowing i have no where to go or enough money to fully support myself everytime i refuse to help her at her job (she works as a cleaner) its really tiring and after helping her for months and me losing motivation and also feeling trapped I've come to the point where i don't see a way out anymore. Everyone is like why don't just not go? Simply because she'll take my car since i had it under her name since i was too young when i had the car. Honestly things feel hopeless at this point i don't really wanna do treatment r chemotherapy. I told my doctors and specials to just let me go
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Nash
I know my wife is doing all these, but she has mental health ( high/low manic episodes) and i been her caretaker for last 9 years. On top she has substance abuse problem because of her munchausen mom who got her on pills since she was a kid. She got clean couple years ago but recent miscarriage triggered her to go back to weed/alcohol.
With alcohol lines were crossed and mental abuse is getting worse. Last 6 months have been very hard. But she has no place to go. We are trying to get to therapy but am not sure I can go through this for next 60 years.
How do i handle this as if I leave i have to leave with knowing she may OD, if I don't I have to live like prisoner and lot more dramas. We are planning to do therapies which she is okay with.
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I know my wife is doing all these, but she has mental health ( high/low manic episodes) and i been her caretaker for last 9 years. On top she has substance abuse problem because of her munchausen mom who got her on pills since she was a kid. She got clean couple years ago but recent miscarriage triggered her to go back to weed/alcohol.
With alcohol lines were crossed and mental abuse is getting worse. Last 6 months have been very hard. But she has no place to go. We are trying to get to therapy but am not sure I can go through this for next 60 years.
How do i handle this as if I leave i have to leave with knowing she may OD, if I don't I have to live like prisoner and lot more dramas. We are planning to do therapies which she is okay with.
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kendall
im being blackmailed by my mom. she saw some things on my phone that were my privacy and that no one else should see, she told me today to get her pills, (shes paralyzed and she normally almost overdoses if shes not allowed to have them, because one time she used 9 pills at the same time, they were all the same pill too) at the moment im typing this, im 10 years old, im trying to be a good kid for my grandparents because i live with my grandparents and mother and aunt, if my grandma saw my privacy i would be kicked out n dead, i didnt give her the pills but then she just said, oh so you don't like me now eh? i dont know what that would be described as, but i really need help and i dont wanna get in trouble.
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im being blackmailed by my mom. she saw some things on my phone that were my privacy and that no one else should see, she told me today to get her pills, (shes paralyzed and she normally almost overdoses if shes not allowed to have them, because one time she used 9 pills at the same time, they were all the same pill too) at the moment im typing this, im 10 years old, im trying to be a good kid for my grandparents because i live with my grandparents and mother and aunt, if my grandma saw my privacy i would be kicked out n dead, i didnt give her the pills but then she just said, oh so you don't like me now eh? i dont know what that would be described as, but i really need help and i dont wanna get in trouble.
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Gregory
If someone has a pattern of continually misunderstanding you, theres a good chance youre getting manipulated. You could end up talking yourself in circles which will be draining, harm your mental health, and make you too emotional so that you cant think clearly. Many people like this are no different at their core than people who are OPENLY verbally and physically abusive, theyre just more sneaky about it, and theres a good chance that the physical and/or verbal (aka overt) abuse is on its way. Covert abuse is very hard to spot
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If someone has a pattern of continually misunderstanding you, theres a good chance youre getting manipulated. You could end up talking yourself in circles which will be draining, harm your mental health, and make you too emotional so that you cant think clearly. Many people like this are no different at their core than people who are OPENLY verbally and physically abusive, theyre just more sneaky about it, and theres a good chance that the physical and/or verbal (aka overt) abuse is on its way. Covert abuse is very hard to spot
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MARYHAM
I trusted my friend and i vented to him once, and he used is against me in an argument we were having because he was losing. I told him i was upset with him for circulating something i told him to keep between the two of us, then he told me, well, i know you dont like so and so, and Im PERFECTLY capable of telling them but i don't. do I? Lol, man thought he was slick, i called the girl over who he told me, i didnt like i communicated with her, told her the issue, and told her i loved her, haha he was silent after that.
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I trusted my friend and i vented to him once, and he used is against me in an argument we were having because he was losing. I told him i was upset with him for circulating something i told him to keep between the two of us, then he told me, well, i know you dont like so and so, and Im PERFECTLY capable of telling them but i don't. do I? Lol, man thought he was slick, i called the girl over who he told me, i didnt like i communicated with her, told her the issue, and told her i loved her, haha he was silent after that.
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Jonathan
Blackmail can occur whether online or in person. The reason being is that the person who would blackmail you has a nude picture of you and is using it to embarrass you on social media or in person around your friends, family members and the people you care about. You should always be careful and aware of what you send to someone on social media because that person who you are dating could be a manipulative narcissistic psychopath.
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Blackmail can occur whether online or in person. The reason being is that the person who would blackmail you has a nude picture of you and is using it to embarrass you on social media or in person around your friends, family members and the people you care about. You should always be careful and aware of what you send to someone on social media because that person who you are dating could be a manipulative narcissistic psychopath.
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Sehrish
I once found a creep on a social media. He offered me friendship & insisted me to talk to him. when I refused. he got furious & threatened me that he would come at my place & would ruin my life & would kidnap me.
He used telling me that I am creating problems for myself for not being in contact with him.
I was scared as hell. this ruined my mental health.
Then finally I blocked him!
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I once found a creep on a social media. He offered me friendship & insisted me to talk to him. when I refused. he got furious & threatened me that he would come at my place & would ruin my life & would kidnap me.
He used telling me that I am creating problems for myself for not being in contact with him.
I was scared as hell. this ruined my mental health.
Then finally I blocked him!
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astrodumbass
My ex friend is threatening to tell my parents about some very innapropriate, embarrasing, and a bit of bullying I have been doing lately. I am trying to change, but a person can only change so much. I am scared whenever he talks to me and i do not have police as an option as i am 11. I have to survive 2 more years with him and im scared. Please send me tips for this situation.
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My ex friend is threatening to tell my parents about some very innapropriate, embarrasing, and a bit of bullying I have been doing lately. I am trying to change, but a person can only change so much. I am scared whenever he talks to me and i do not have police as an option as i am 11. I have to survive 2 more years with him and im scared. Please send me tips for this situation.
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Candrika
what if i said all of the things i felt (hurt, how his treatment affects me) during the time hes doing the stonewalling/silent treatment unwilling to talk & solve the problem only expecting solutions from my side but never his? because i felt suffocated and walking on an eggshells so i said what i feel to him bcs i had enough. does it also make me The Sufferers type?
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what if i said all of the things i felt (hurt, how his treatment affects me) during the time hes doing the stonewalling/silent treatment unwilling to talk & solve the problem only expecting solutions from my side but never his? because i felt suffocated and walking on an eggshells so i said what i feel to him bcs i had enough. does it also make me The Sufferers type?
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Fredrick
I was battling with this particular thing and I decided to trust my stepmom with it. while we were discussing it, her eldest son overhead the conversation and decided to punish me
He began to trailing me till he finally got pictures of me but hum to cut it short excelutensil was able to get into his phone and helped me delete the pictures
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I was battling with this particular thing and I decided to trust my stepmom with it. while we were discussing it, her eldest son overhead the conversation and decided to punish me
He began to trailing me till he finally got pictures of me but hum to cut it short excelutensil was able to get into his phone and helped me delete the pictures
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Fredrick
I was battling with this particular thing and I decided to trust my stepmom with it. while we were discussing it, her eldest son overhead the conversation and decided to punish me
He began to trailing me till he finally got pictures of me but hum to cut it short excelutensil was able to get into his phone and helped me delete the pictures
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I was battling with this particular thing and I decided to trust my stepmom with it. while we were discussing it, her eldest son overhead the conversation and decided to punish me
He began to trailing me till he finally got pictures of me but hum to cut it short excelutensil was able to get into his phone and helped me delete the pictures
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Hire
I was battling with this particular thing and I decided to trust my stepmom with it. while we were discussing it, her eldest son overhead the conversation and decided to punish me
He began to trailing me till he finally got pictures of me but hum to cut it short excelutensil was able to get into his phone and helped me delete the pictures
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I was battling with this particular thing and I decided to trust my stepmom with it. while we were discussing it, her eldest son overhead the conversation and decided to punish me
He began to trailing me till he finally got pictures of me but hum to cut it short excelutensil was able to get into his phone and helped me delete the pictures
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Aisha
Its clever the amount of bravery this took was INSANE. These people all had their lives in danger, but still decided to go through with the recovery for the sake of busting bad scammers. True respects APEXDEFT If the FBI was half as dedicated and ingenious and honest as you guys are, the USA would be a much safer countrys. Amazing works
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Its clever the amount of bravery this took was INSANE. These people all had their lives in danger, but still decided to go through with the recovery for the sake of busting bad scammers. True respects APEXDEFT If the FBI was half as dedicated and ingenious and honest as you guys are, the USA would be a much safer countrys. Amazing works
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Aisha
Its clever the amount of bravery this took was INSANE. These people all had their lives in danger, but still decided to go through with the recovery for the sake of busting bad scammers. True respects APEXDEFT If the FBI was half as dedicated and ingenious and honest as you guys are, the USA would be a much safer countrys. Amazing works
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Its clever the amount of bravery this took was INSANE. These people all had their lives in danger, but still decided to go through with the recovery for the sake of busting bad scammers. True respects APEXDEFT If the FBI was half as dedicated and ingenious and honest as you guys are, the USA would be a much safer countrys. Amazing works
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Oson
Just say go ahead and do it to them. If they don't do it, you won't have to be manipulated anymore and if they do, well just say no I'll do what you say sorry! Most emotional blackmailers don't even do the things they say and it's funny watching their manipulation tactics fail.
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Just say go ahead and do it to them. If they don't do it, you won't have to be manipulated anymore and if they do, well just say no I'll do what you say sorry! Most emotional blackmailers don't even do the things they say and it's funny watching their manipulation tactics fail.
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Juliet
Thank goodness I came across you, ever since the day you assisted me to get my personal files deleted from the device of the person blackmailing me, my peace has know no bound and for this, I will be eternally grateful to you for this. Thank you kyte
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Thank goodness I came across you, ever since the day you assisted me to get my personal files deleted from the device of the person blackmailing me, my peace has know no bound and for this, I will be eternally grateful to you for this. Thank you kyte
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Juliet
Thank goodness I came across you, ever since the day you assisted me to get my personal files deleted from the device of the person blackmailing me, my peace has know no bound and for this, I will be eternally grateful to you for this. Thank you kyte
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Thank goodness I came across you, ever since the day you assisted me to get my personal files deleted from the device of the person blackmailing me, my peace has know no bound and for this, I will be eternally grateful to you for this. Thank you kyte
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TIERRA:
I let them drain me till I explode and then they suffer and want me to do something about it - which I dont. I just watch a short horror movie: less scary or take my dog for long walks. Dogs: If you want an honoust relationship adopt a dog.
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I let them drain me till I explode and then they suffer and want me to do something about it - which I dont. I just watch a short horror movie: less scary or take my dog for long walks. Dogs: If you want an honoust relationship adopt a dog.
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education
I would like to take this moment to appreciate Kyte who assisted me to get rid of someone who has blackmailed me for over a year, you have really caused me lot of relief and I would be eternally grateful to you for this.
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I would like to take this moment to appreciate Kyte who assisted me to get rid of someone who has blackmailed me for over a year, you have really caused me lot of relief and I would be eternally grateful to you for this.
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Hart4ox_
#Hart4ox_ will help you out, he is the best and amazing cyber professional, he helped me out in hacking the block-mailer device and what ever that was in his laptop/ Mac he did the impossible deletion on hes device.
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#Hart4ox_ will help you out, he is the best and amazing cyber professional, he helped me out in hacking the block-mailer device and what ever that was in his laptop/ Mac he did the impossible deletion on hes device.
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BRIANHACKSONLINE
You will never know how I feel like to work with expert like you, I just want to express how much I appreciate you for your extremely thoughtful working getting my daughter out of blackmailing successfully.
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You will never know how I feel like to work with expert like you, I just want to express how much I appreciate you for your extremely thoughtful working getting my daughter out of blackmailing successfully.
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CharlotteRuth
I know someone who is getting blackmailed right now. And I'm helpless to stop it. If I try to stop it, things will get worse for her and for me and other people. I'm frustrated.
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I know someone who is getting blackmailed right now. And I'm helpless to stop it. If I try to stop it, things will get worse for her and for me and other people. I'm frustrated.
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Mr.
The tactic my gf's ex uses is evidence from her past that could lead her to jail, and that if she stopped doing stuff for them, they'll report her to the police
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The tactic my gf's ex uses is evidence from her past that could lead her to jail, and that if she stopped doing stuff for them, they'll report her to the police
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