7 Things You Should NEVER Say to an INFJ
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Feza
The here's some advice and you're too sensitive hits me way too hard. Because of the pandemic, it was hard for me to find someone to vent to since my family wasn't the listening type, to begin with. I have very few friends and those friends of mine were the ones I considered my best friends. I love them, but they hurt me too much without them noticing it.
I have Scoliosis and I wear a brace for almost 4 years. All those years, I never broke down in front of anyone aside from the day that I first wore it. I cried in front of my friends because I was overwhelmed. But after that, I never did again. I pretended to be strong but that all changed when I got diagnosed with PCOS exactly at lockdown. It was also followed by my Sinusitis which just showed up one day. I know all of them are common to people, but having them all at once is tiring. I tried to vent to my friends but they just told me I'm being sensitive and gave some advice they thought I haven't tried already. All I wanted is someone who could lend an ear to me sometimes without saying anything like I always do. It repeated for two years, and it made me hide all my feelings and emotions in fear that I'll be judged again.
It's been months now since I last messaged them. I feel guilty for not even seeing their messages but I had enough. I'm too tired to repeat it all over again.
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The here's some advice and you're too sensitive hits me way too hard. Because of the pandemic, it was hard for me to find someone to vent to since my family wasn't the listening type, to begin with. I have very few friends and those friends of mine were the ones I considered my best friends. I love them, but they hurt me too much without them noticing it.
I have Scoliosis and I wear a brace for almost 4 years. All those years, I never broke down in front of anyone aside from the day that I first wore it. I cried in front of my friends because I was overwhelmed. But after that, I never did again. I pretended to be strong but that all changed when I got diagnosed with PCOS exactly at lockdown. It was also followed by my Sinusitis which just showed up one day. I know all of them are common to people, but having them all at once is tiring. I tried to vent to my friends but they just told me I'm being sensitive and gave some advice they thought I haven't tried already. All I wanted is someone who could lend an ear to me sometimes without saying anything like I always do. It repeated for two years, and it made me hide all my feelings and emotions in fear that I'll be judged again.
It's been months now since I last messaged them. I feel guilty for not even seeing their messages but I had enough. I'm too tired to repeat it all over again.
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Amlia
Once something very bad happened to me and I needed to speak it with sb, leting it out for some reason. After a long period of overthinking I decided to talk to some of my closest friends. I remember that at first they seemed interested, but in a matter of seconds one cut me out and after talking themselves they asked me about the problem as if I didn't say anything. I felt so left out that I just kept my mouth shut and wait until I could get home. I only wished for some zoning out with headphones.
Like they are always saying I should open up more but when I do they don't listen, so that's why I can never talk about serious topics or my deep thoughts or traumatising experiences. Because what seems very important to me it doesn't seem for them. Idk but I think this is why I prefer loneliness than trying to interact with other people
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Once something very bad happened to me and I needed to speak it with sb, leting it out for some reason. After a long period of overthinking I decided to talk to some of my closest friends. I remember that at first they seemed interested, but in a matter of seconds one cut me out and after talking themselves they asked me about the problem as if I didn't say anything. I felt so left out that I just kept my mouth shut and wait until I could get home. I only wished for some zoning out with headphones.
Like they are always saying I should open up more but when I do they don't listen, so that's why I can never talk about serious topics or my deep thoughts or traumatising experiences. Because what seems very important to me it doesn't seem for them. Idk but I think this is why I prefer loneliness than trying to interact with other people
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line
- To be honest, I like having 'wing it' in my timetable. What i hate is having to wing it everytime. I realise that when you don't set expectations for yourself and others, shit hits the fan cuz of PERSONAL expectations and unspoken rules.
- 'you're too sensitive' OK time to cut someone out for 1 hour. 'X has it worse than you' YES I KNOW. I came to you to talk about my feelings. Maybe I should spend less time listening to you when you complain.
- 'you should be more practical' is the most impractical advice for myself. Sometimes being a day dreamer is being practical. Also, let me dream big please?
idk man, i relate more to INFP than INFJ, but this is what i got.
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- To be honest, I like having 'wing it' in my timetable. What i hate is having to wing it everytime. I realise that when you don't set expectations for yourself and others, shit hits the fan cuz of PERSONAL expectations and unspoken rules.
- 'you're too sensitive' OK time to cut someone out for 1 hour. 'X has it worse than you' YES I KNOW. I came to you to talk about my feelings. Maybe I should spend less time listening to you when you complain.
- 'you should be more practical' is the most impractical advice for myself. Sometimes being a day dreamer is being practical. Also, let me dream big please?
idk man, i relate more to INFP than INFJ, but this is what i got.
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Lily
i took a quiz that said im an ifnj, i don't know intierly how accuret it is, though they had a hole document about it after i resived my results so at the very least they seemed well informed. when you said your too sensitive. and i have it worse then you i genuenly got angry sence thoughes two things ive been told, my friend one time said i have it worse then you and it dammeged our friendship for a while, though that was partly because i didn't tell them it made me angry, and was holding on to that anger over one sentence for like months. don't worry we did work out our issues but ya ( geez my spelling is awfull so sorry im dislexic)
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i took a quiz that said im an ifnj, i don't know intierly how accuret it is, though they had a hole document about it after i resived my results so at the very least they seemed well informed. when you said your too sensitive. and i have it worse then you i genuenly got angry sence thoughes two things ive been told, my friend one time said i have it worse then you and it dammeged our friendship for a while, though that was partly because i didn't tell them it made me angry, and was holding on to that anger over one sentence for like months. don't worry we did work out our issues but ya ( geez my spelling is awfull so sorry im dislexic)
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YT
similar to the let's wing it I've grown to hate we'll figure it out because there is no WE in this, it's often the person who knows what he or she is doing over the other individual.
7 over all mainly pisses me off because I KNOW that's not true, when I was working in food service I was told to do the dishes a certain way and I complied even though my hands were burning. Then later on I was told the way I was doing it was wrong and this is the way it has always been done. Moving the goal post several times ticks me off and it's more common in politics.
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similar to the let's wing it I've grown to hate we'll figure it out because there is no WE in this, it's often the person who knows what he or she is doing over the other individual.
7 over all mainly pisses me off because I KNOW that's not true, when I was working in food service I was told to do the dishes a certain way and I complied even though my hands were burning. Then later on I was told the way I was doing it was wrong and this is the way it has always been done. Moving the goal post several times ticks me off and it's more common in politics.
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HazaHyperion
2: 25 is spurring up anger in me just talking about it. It's not only that said person thinks they might have it worse than me because small amounts of stress for one person might actually be more damaging than large amounts of stress for another person, because the second person could be well adapted and content with high levels of stress, but the first person is mildly new to stress and does not cope well with it, but also that they even have to audacity to put someone else down just so they have a one up one up
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2: 25 is spurring up anger in me just talking about it. It's not only that said person thinks they might have it worse than me because small amounts of stress for one person might actually be more damaging than large amounts of stress for another person, because the second person could be well adapted and content with high levels of stress, but the first person is mildly new to stress and does not cope well with it, but also that they even have to audacity to put someone else down just so they have a one up one up
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Vintage_kitchen
As an ENTJ. I Will say truth. INFJ always feeling special with her/his self to narcisism, and burden human. INFJ always want feeling accepting, but they never accept people. INFJs are not looking for someone to solve their problems. but looking for someone to be an outlet for their emotions, and can lead to abuse of others. Do you wanna proof. This Account always have content about INFJ but not others MBTI. even the difference about INFJ dan INFP. You must change theme to be = INFJ more better than INFP.
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As an ENTJ. I Will say truth. INFJ always feeling special with her/his self to narcisism, and burden human. INFJ always want feeling accepting, but they never accept people. INFJs are not looking for someone to solve their problems. but looking for someone to be an outlet for their emotions, and can lead to abuse of others. Do you wanna proof. This Account always have content about INFJ but not others MBTI. even the difference about INFJ dan INFP. You must change theme to be = INFJ more better than INFP.
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skaylar
People who assume my whole mindset based on a silly observation they made is my worst nightmare. I don't know what type of people do this but they're surely incompatible with the INFJ type, and any person should run away from them, because hearing they're just jealous they're mad because they didn't get what they wanted the other day they're lying (talking about you) oooh so you're just choleric when expressing your true feelings is horrible.
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People who assume my whole mindset based on a silly observation they made is my worst nightmare. I don't know what type of people do this but they're surely incompatible with the INFJ type, and any person should run away from them, because hearing they're just jealous they're mad because they didn't get what they wanted the other day they're lying (talking about you) oooh so you're just choleric when expressing your true feelings is horrible.
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Jo
The you should be ashamed of yourself makes me cry almost instantly. It always makes me feel like Im useless, not worth it and just a waste of space. BUT. Ive learned to live with it. Even if I do vent, its not very often and usually once or twice in a few months. I like keeping to myself to not feel like a burden. All of those are horrible things to say to anyone. Especially a perfectionist personality type. Hope that all of you are begetter now
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The you should be ashamed of yourself makes me cry almost instantly. It always makes me feel like Im useless, not worth it and just a waste of space. BUT. Ive learned to live with it. Even if I do vent, its not very often and usually once or twice in a few months. I like keeping to myself to not feel like a burden. All of those are horrible things to say to anyone. Especially a perfectionist personality type. Hope that all of you are begetter now
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Abbey
I related to everything in this video so much, i've always been told I was stubborn for not always following the traditional way of doing things, i've been told i'm up-tight because I like to have a plan, and recently it seems that whenever i vent to some one they always either bring up something else, their own issues (which i'm not against I just always end up being the listener instead of the venter) or just completely denying my emotions.
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I related to everything in this video so much, i've always been told I was stubborn for not always following the traditional way of doing things, i've been told i'm up-tight because I like to have a plan, and recently it seems that whenever i vent to some one they always either bring up something else, their own issues (which i'm not against I just always end up being the listener instead of the venter) or just completely denying my emotions.
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Rage
TW: talks of depression and attempts at suicide
The line Other people had it worse that my beloved mother likes to tell me everytime backfired after I almost did the deed several times.
And that Be practical always irked me so I did what she didn't want me to do, spend it unwisely (like by buying a dancing cactus.
I know she doesn't understand me and such but I can't really hate her for because she, too, is traumatized.
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TW: talks of depression and attempts at suicide
The line Other people had it worse that my beloved mother likes to tell me everytime backfired after I almost did the deed several times.
And that Be practical always irked me so I did what she didn't want me to do, spend it unwisely (like by buying a dancing cactus.
I know she doesn't understand me and such but I can't really hate her for because she, too, is traumatized.
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Celine
'you're too sensitive'
whenever i vent out something that frustrates me even the smallest ones, i get to hear this. other phrases like 'you're over-reacting', 'you're analyzing it too much', 'just forget about it', 'don't take it too deep' and it hurts me because that's how i naturally react and it was like my fault that i feel that way. they can't even listen cos for them my problems are too petty
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'you're too sensitive'
whenever i vent out something that frustrates me even the smallest ones, i get to hear this. other phrases like 'you're over-reacting', 'you're analyzing it too much', 'just forget about it', 'don't take it too deep' and it hurts me because that's how i naturally react and it was like my fault that i feel that way. they can't even listen cos for them my problems are too petty
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moon
tbh be insensitive to an infj's feeling is the worst, especially when they muster up the courage to tell you that they're hurt.
tbh every time I tell a friend that what you're doing(which he would be doing do ages) is hurting me not only would I step on my pride to tell him that I'll be labeled as sensitive and irrational. he thinks I don't know but that of all things would not escape my sight
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tbh be insensitive to an infj's feeling is the worst, especially when they muster up the courage to tell you that they're hurt.
tbh every time I tell a friend that what you're doing(which he would be doing do ages) is hurting me not only would I step on my pride to tell him that I'll be labeled as sensitive and irrational. he thinks I don't know but that of all things would not escape my sight
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Betsy
8youre lying9thats your problem10youre entitled bratty &snuty11u think youre better me12who do u tgink u r13get over it14u ruin everything14i know everything &u know nothing15im glad youre hated by everyone16i dont want to see u in lala land anymore17u just use people18how dare u19i dont wat to hear it20i dot have to listen to this21youre taking away my rughts22youre back in your dreamworld.
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8youre lying9thats your problem10youre entitled bratty &snuty11u think youre better me12who do u tgink u r13get over it14u ruin everything14i know everything &u know nothing15im glad youre hated by everyone16i dont want to see u in lala land anymore17u just use people18how dare u19i dont wat to hear it20i dot have to listen to this21youre taking away my rughts22youre back in your dreamworld.
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nickookie
I once told my friends about my problem hoping for them to give me some supportive words but they nagged and gave their tips to solve my problem. at some point, I feel so disappointed and mad for some reason. like my pride being stepped on. I feel like I'm so pathetic in front of them. Since then, I never told anyone about my problem and just keep it to myself
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I once told my friends about my problem hoping for them to give me some supportive words but they nagged and gave their tips to solve my problem. at some point, I feel so disappointed and mad for some reason. like my pride being stepped on. I feel like I'm so pathetic in front of them. Since then, I never told anyone about my problem and just keep it to myself
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Hollis
As an INTJ, I don't like all of those stuffs mentioned in this video. I find some lines could provoke my argumentative nature to come out, just like when that's how we do things here is said. I could argue away with if we can do better, why stop at that?
Or if it's here's some advice. I could basically reply with here's a better way of doing it.
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As an INTJ, I don't like all of those stuffs mentioned in this video. I find some lines could provoke my argumentative nature to come out, just like when that's how we do things here is said. I could argue away with if we can do better, why stop at that?
Or if it's here's some advice. I could basically reply with here's a better way of doing it.
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Irene
I know what's best for you
You're too impulsive
First, I reflect everyday. I'm obsessed on knowing myself and self-control; hence, I know myself. Also, I don't ask help from people so I don't need advice from someone who won't help me when I need them. Also, all decisions I make have a reason. I plan them so long before I act on it.
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I know what's best for you
You're too impulsive
First, I reflect everyday. I'm obsessed on knowing myself and self-control; hence, I know myself. Also, I don't ask help from people so I don't need advice from someone who won't help me when I need them. Also, all decisions I make have a reason. I plan them so long before I act on it.
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Tyler
It feels really comforting seeing these videos and feeling understood as an INFJ. Its really Eye-opening and relatable. I can really relate to the perfectionism stuff, especially since its really intensive at times, to the point where a small part of me is stressing over making this comment good.
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It feels really comforting seeing these videos and feeling understood as an INFJ. Its really Eye-opening and relatable. I can really relate to the perfectionism stuff, especially since its really intensive at times, to the point where a small part of me is stressing over making this comment good.
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KuruGDI
Me (INTP) is also seriously pissed by We have always done it this way
Especially when it's against security rules. Eg. not securing goods on a lorry: We have done it this way for 30 years and you think you have the right to change that.
(BTW: It was an ammunition transport )
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Me (INTP) is also seriously pissed by We have always done it this way
Especially when it's against security rules. Eg. not securing goods on a lorry: We have done it this way for 30 years and you think you have the right to change that.
(BTW: It was an ammunition transport )
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strawbe
When I go to people to comfort myself I really don't want them to advice me. It kinda irritates me and seems like they are repeating the same thing I've thought about before. Which really pisses me off. I want them to deeply understand how I'm feeling not to lecture me
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When I go to people to comfort myself I really don't want them to advice me. It kinda irritates me and seems like they are repeating the same thing I've thought about before. Which really pisses me off. I want them to deeply understand how I'm feeling not to lecture me
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Erza
My closest friends don't even try to listen! The thing they say often is your too sensitive.
After that they say it's my fault! It's actually good to know that I'm not the only one who feels like a alien in this world. it's as if I don't belong here. nobody cares!
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My closest friends don't even try to listen! The thing they say often is your too sensitive.
After that they say it's my fault! It's actually good to know that I'm not the only one who feels like a alien in this world. it's as if I don't belong here. nobody cares!
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Cizumerp
I am an INFJ and work in a company as a graphic designer. and i absolutly lose my mind when I cant bring my Ideas in the real world because my boss tells me stuff like no we can do that because everything has to be like 10 years ago. AAAHHH
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I am an INFJ and work in a company as a graphic designer. and i absolutly lose my mind when I cant bring my Ideas in the real world because my boss tells me stuff like no we can do that because everything has to be like 10 years ago. AAAHHH
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artist
i took MBTI Test five times due to curiosity on what is my personality type, I got four results that i am INFJ Personality Type. After a week of bunch research and readings about this type, I am definitely accurate INFJ Person.
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i took MBTI Test five times due to curiosity on what is my personality type, I got four results that i am INFJ Personality Type. After a week of bunch research and readings about this type, I am definitely accurate INFJ Person.
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Rutu
As an INFJ I've experienced people telling me that I am very sensitive, I take everything seriously and overact in some situations, those really hurt and at some point I stopped expressing myself in front of those people
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As an INFJ I've experienced people telling me that I am very sensitive, I take everything seriously and overact in some situations, those really hurt and at some point I stopped expressing myself in front of those people
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Benjamn
I loved the part of the emotional sponge. My best friend used to say that I like to exchange the sadness with my own happiness.
This was years before I even knew about the MBTI (and psychology lol)
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I loved the part of the emotional sponge. My best friend used to say that I like to exchange the sadness with my own happiness.
This was years before I even knew about the MBTI (and psychology lol)
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