Narcissists Think You Owe Them These Things
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Tierra_fertil
For a long time I thought that my wife was only suffering a severe degree of BPD, but the videos about NPD made me see that there's happening much more. I can mostly see when she's about to start a discussion that, no matter what I do, will end up in her throwing the most humiliating insults at me. The look in her eyes, tone of her voice, tension in her body. the usual signals. Or just count a maximum of 6 to 8 days since the last fight. The only reply she'd accept would be: Yes dear, you're totally right in everything you say and all the bad stuff that has happened is my fault. If I don't say that, things get out of hand quickly. And she knows I just tell her that such conversations aren't based on truth and are therefore useless, so I preferably walk out of them, blessing her (she'll send tons of ugly messages demanding divorce because we can never talk. She also knows that when we're in the car, not close to home, I'm trapped in her discussion.
She has lost, no, she has binned a lot of friends over the years, making new ones she can manipulate to think I'm treating her badly, until at some point they realise she's the one that screws things up. She'd insult them thouroughly, block them and tell me to block them too because they were talking bad things about me too. There are so many things I found out that she lied about, that I had to get to know her again later on in the relationship. Now, I know that behind that huge wall of humiliating insults, screaming, lies and manipulation and sometimes physical violence there's a frightened little girl that thinks she isn't important enough, that thinks she isn't loved enough, but is blind for all the love that's here for her. I have talked with her brothers and sister, ex husband, her (adult) children, former friends and made the puzzle over the years. She also said, and that is heartbreaking, that since she were 16 years old, people are trying to do her harm. It's paranoia like this that's haunting her, and made her believe tons of things that are far beside the truth, and do harm to herself.
I have had my hands full with defending her towards many people, trying to explain that she's not a bad person, but struggling deeply with her own emotions that she just can't understand. Stange thing, also is that she said her mother had a very bad character and her mother's sister could start fights randomly, and the daughter of that aunt too. But she either is blind for the heritage she's carrying with her, or is too afraid to acknowledge it.
These videos help me understand her more, and make me more decisive to find a way to help her some way. But sometimes, when she's calling me ugly things it seems so totally hopeless.
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For a long time I thought that my wife was only suffering a severe degree of BPD, but the videos about NPD made me see that there's happening much more. I can mostly see when she's about to start a discussion that, no matter what I do, will end up in her throwing the most humiliating insults at me. The look in her eyes, tone of her voice, tension in her body. the usual signals. Or just count a maximum of 6 to 8 days since the last fight. The only reply she'd accept would be: Yes dear, you're totally right in everything you say and all the bad stuff that has happened is my fault. If I don't say that, things get out of hand quickly. And she knows I just tell her that such conversations aren't based on truth and are therefore useless, so I preferably walk out of them, blessing her (she'll send tons of ugly messages demanding divorce because we can never talk. She also knows that when we're in the car, not close to home, I'm trapped in her discussion.
She has lost, no, she has binned a lot of friends over the years, making new ones she can manipulate to think I'm treating her badly, until at some point they realise she's the one that screws things up. She'd insult them thouroughly, block them and tell me to block them too because they were talking bad things about me too. There are so many things I found out that she lied about, that I had to get to know her again later on in the relationship. Now, I know that behind that huge wall of humiliating insults, screaming, lies and manipulation and sometimes physical violence there's a frightened little girl that thinks she isn't important enough, that thinks she isn't loved enough, but is blind for all the love that's here for her. I have talked with her brothers and sister, ex husband, her (adult) children, former friends and made the puzzle over the years. She also said, and that is heartbreaking, that since she were 16 years old, people are trying to do her harm. It's paranoia like this that's haunting her, and made her believe tons of things that are far beside the truth, and do harm to herself.
I have had my hands full with defending her towards many people, trying to explain that she's not a bad person, but struggling deeply with her own emotions that she just can't understand. Stange thing, also is that she said her mother had a very bad character and her mother's sister could start fights randomly, and the daughter of that aunt too. But she either is blind for the heritage she's carrying with her, or is too afraid to acknowledge it.
These videos help me understand her more, and make me more decisive to find a way to help her some way. But sometimes, when she's calling me ugly things it seems so totally hopeless.
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Less
I understand the disclaimer of this video but it makes no sense to say its not made to claim someone has narcissistic traits when I grew up with someone who did many of these things. ! I grew up with a younger sibling who was JUST like this! And he victimized himself when I didnt want to be around him. He takes no accountability for his actions. Yah he really thinks hes that perfect. He grew up getting little correction for ANY behavior so it makes sense. One time he kept complaining about how I never congratulated him for any achievement he did which is disagree with. But even if I never did, he gaslights me by assuming I had bad intentions if I did things he didnt understand. Like he couldnt freaking ASK first? Sheesh. Just because Im related to him gives him NO right ti pressure me to do things. It sucks cuz he wouldnt do this to one of his friends. Yes its natural to desire certain things from family, but He exploits family members. I do NOT owe him any compliments for things hes done. EVERYONE in my family has accomplished things but hes the ONLY one who feels entitled to compliments. Not only is that arrogant but its narcissistic. Its unbelievable he would sink THAT low and take no accountability. Its sucks being related to someone like this. He even pressured me by bringing up things he did for me in the past. Another low move. Now I cant even view his past actions as kind, because he later used them to manipulate me to give him what he wanted. What a spoiled brat. Im definitely telling my parents
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I understand the disclaimer of this video but it makes no sense to say its not made to claim someone has narcissistic traits when I grew up with someone who did many of these things. ! I grew up with a younger sibling who was JUST like this! And he victimized himself when I didnt want to be around him. He takes no accountability for his actions. Yah he really thinks hes that perfect. He grew up getting little correction for ANY behavior so it makes sense. One time he kept complaining about how I never congratulated him for any achievement he did which is disagree with. But even if I never did, he gaslights me by assuming I had bad intentions if I did things he didnt understand. Like he couldnt freaking ASK first? Sheesh. Just because Im related to him gives him NO right ti pressure me to do things. It sucks cuz he wouldnt do this to one of his friends. Yes its natural to desire certain things from family, but He exploits family members. I do NOT owe him any compliments for things hes done. EVERYONE in my family has accomplished things but hes the ONLY one who feels entitled to compliments. Not only is that arrogant but its narcissistic. Its unbelievable he would sink THAT low and take no accountability. Its sucks being related to someone like this. He even pressured me by bringing up things he did for me in the past. Another low move. Now I cant even view his past actions as kind, because he later used them to manipulate me to give him what he wanted. What a spoiled brat. Im definitely telling my parents
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education
On this first one, I have a sibling in law that gets mad when you have time to do something for yourself. Like if my wife goes to workout she gets a comment like must be nice to have the time to do that. It then always goes back to her. You can do nothing nice or accomplish anything without her either putting you down, or saying how she or someone she knows does or has something way better. Its weird too when you look back and realize they only did nice things to hold it over you, things we even thought at the time were way over the top (large wedding gifts, or large gifts for our kids, paying for expensive dinners and picking up large tabs when we would go out. Once we cut them off because of their behavior, they brought up all these times they paid for things (completely leaving out when we paid for things as well) even going back 20 years to things she paid for when my wife was a teenager. We then realized ohh you just gave us a generous gift years ago to hold it over us, because no sane person would ever throw that in your face over something totally unrelated. Not to mention she then went around to other family members bragging about how generous she has been to us to try to put us down, like we were these poor things that depended on her and her husband. Even when I called her out on it, she never apologized just justified it, it was at that moment I realized there was no helping her and the only answer was not to engage.
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On this first one, I have a sibling in law that gets mad when you have time to do something for yourself. Like if my wife goes to workout she gets a comment like must be nice to have the time to do that. It then always goes back to her. You can do nothing nice or accomplish anything without her either putting you down, or saying how she or someone she knows does or has something way better. Its weird too when you look back and realize they only did nice things to hold it over you, things we even thought at the time were way over the top (large wedding gifts, or large gifts for our kids, paying for expensive dinners and picking up large tabs when we would go out. Once we cut them off because of their behavior, they brought up all these times they paid for things (completely leaving out when we paid for things as well) even going back 20 years to things she paid for when my wife was a teenager. We then realized ohh you just gave us a generous gift years ago to hold it over us, because no sane person would ever throw that in your face over something totally unrelated. Not to mention she then went around to other family members bragging about how generous she has been to us to try to put us down, like we were these poor things that depended on her and her husband. Even when I called her out on it, she never apologized just justified it, it was at that moment I realized there was no helping her and the only answer was not to engage.
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Mari
My mother is a malignant narcissist. She loves hurting people including her grandchildren, children and my father. I could write a book.
Unfortunately I grew up thinking it was normal for people to be like that so I found myself dating people who were narcissists. A lot of my friendships were with narcissistic people.
Worse friend case was one where if I had the nerve to spend time with my kids, she would blow up my cell. I would tell her, Hey I am in a family thing. She would demand I drop what I was doing and pay attention to her.
She would tell me stories about her life, years before I met her and expect me to memorize every detail. When she couldn't even tell me what my favorite color was. Anytime I would go to her with my issues, I could tell she wasn't listening. She would find way to scam me for money. Tell me she was inviting me out to eat. For her to order expensive food and then ask me to split the bill in half. I started to cut her off little by little.
When she went off on me for spending time with my kids, that was my wake up call. My kids always come first and she was mad they were. I was done with that friendship.
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My mother is a malignant narcissist. She loves hurting people including her grandchildren, children and my father. I could write a book.
Unfortunately I grew up thinking it was normal for people to be like that so I found myself dating people who were narcissists. A lot of my friendships were with narcissistic people.
Worse friend case was one where if I had the nerve to spend time with my kids, she would blow up my cell. I would tell her, Hey I am in a family thing. She would demand I drop what I was doing and pay attention to her.
She would tell me stories about her life, years before I met her and expect me to memorize every detail. When she couldn't even tell me what my favorite color was. Anytime I would go to her with my issues, I could tell she wasn't listening. She would find way to scam me for money. Tell me she was inviting me out to eat. For her to order expensive food and then ask me to split the bill in half. I started to cut her off little by little.
When she went off on me for spending time with my kids, that was my wake up call. My kids always come first and she was mad they were. I was done with that friendship.
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Beth
My best friend of 13 years has a narcissistic mom who quite literally controls her every move. It has led her to depression and desperate attempts at finding ways to escape, all of them leading to nowhere. I've always tried to be someone who is there for her and listens to her fears, but I'm starting to worry that she'll be beyond help before long. It hurts me to know that she is always saying I'm the only person that cares enough to be there for her, but I can't even do anything to save her. Is there a video that tells someone how to help another dealing with a narcissistic person in their life?
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My best friend of 13 years has a narcissistic mom who quite literally controls her every move. It has led her to depression and desperate attempts at finding ways to escape, all of them leading to nowhere. I've always tried to be someone who is there for her and listens to her fears, but I'm starting to worry that she'll be beyond help before long. It hurts me to know that she is always saying I'm the only person that cares enough to be there for her, but I can't even do anything to save her. Is there a video that tells someone how to help another dealing with a narcissistic person in their life?
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Jwan
I have narcissistic parents I live with. They take the food and keep it to themselves and always put the blame on you instead of the siblings who done wrong. My Stepfather is the worst nothing is good enough for him. You wash dishes and he add dishes to the dishes you try to wash he complains about he ain't getting enough help around the house when you trying to have time to yourself and they guilt trap you when you don't give them what you want. He has done so many bad things to me and I forgave him when he didn't deserve it and still treats me bad. He will regret it when I leave them.
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I have narcissistic parents I live with. They take the food and keep it to themselves and always put the blame on you instead of the siblings who done wrong. My Stepfather is the worst nothing is good enough for him. You wash dishes and he add dishes to the dishes you try to wash he complains about he ain't getting enough help around the house when you trying to have time to yourself and they guilt trap you when you don't give them what you want. He has done so many bad things to me and I forgave him when he didn't deserve it and still treats me bad. He will regret it when I leave them.
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JoeysWorld1977
My dad was a narcissist. Everything revolved around him, and he didn't care about my feelings at all. He had a bad temper, too, and was sometimes physically abusive, so I was also afraid of him. And when you combine being molested and having autism on top of having a narcissistic father, plus you have a mother who suffers from a mental illness, you can only imagine what it must've been like for me growing up. How I managed to survive is anyone's guess, but it unfortunately left me with lasting mental, emotional, and psychological scars that will stay with me for life.
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My dad was a narcissist. Everything revolved around him, and he didn't care about my feelings at all. He had a bad temper, too, and was sometimes physically abusive, so I was also afraid of him. And when you combine being molested and having autism on top of having a narcissistic father, plus you have a mother who suffers from a mental illness, you can only imagine what it must've been like for me growing up. How I managed to survive is anyone's guess, but it unfortunately left me with lasting mental, emotional, and psychological scars that will stay with me for life.
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Betsy
they aso think u owe them your boundaries; they think u owe them your reputation dignity royal treatment &whatnot; they enjoy watchin u suffer every minute but forbid u in order to ever express any feelings at all whether positive or negative or anything in the middle. they hate u for leaving them even for few minutes &even more for going to different school without them; graduating vefore them; getting more time off &for bein honor student. they always take answers likewell see; maybe another time; not at this timeoridkas always meaningno.
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they aso think u owe them your boundaries; they think u owe them your reputation dignity royal treatment &whatnot; they enjoy watchin u suffer every minute but forbid u in order to ever express any feelings at all whether positive or negative or anything in the middle. they hate u for leaving them even for few minutes &even more for going to different school without them; graduating vefore them; getting more time off &for bein honor student. they always take answers likewell see; maybe another time; not at this timeoridkas always meaningno.
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Kellie
I've been with a narcissist for about 9 years now and this video right here described him entirely he tries to make me pay attention to him and only him he doesn't want me talking to anyone else but him or making plans with anyone else but him and he wants full attention all the time he gets angry easily he wants to control me from everything to the way I acted the way I think to the way I dress and this video is entirely 100% on point
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I've been with a narcissist for about 9 years now and this video right here described him entirely he tries to make me pay attention to him and only him he doesn't want me talking to anyone else but him or making plans with anyone else but him and he wants full attention all the time he gets angry easily he wants to control me from everything to the way I acted the way I think to the way I dress and this video is entirely 100% on point
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Shqiponja
Basically, all they feel from the beginning but hide from you, they want you to feel later the same as well; like:
- They are superior and entitled
- They know everything, can everything about you (this they manage to convince you later by controlling you)
- They are the only ones
- You owe them every bit of your life
- Everything is because of you what they do to you, etc.
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Basically, all they feel from the beginning but hide from you, they want you to feel later the same as well; like:
- They are superior and entitled
- They know everything, can everything about you (this they manage to convince you later by controlling you)
- They are the only ones
- You owe them every bit of your life
- Everything is because of you what they do to you, etc.
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Psych2Go
Disclaimer: This video is designed for educational purposes and is not to be used as a diagnostic tool for narcissism, narcissistic traits, and narcissistic personality disorder. This video is not made to attack anyone who may display these signs or anyone diagnosed with NPD, but rather to understand them and bring more awareness to the topic!
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Disclaimer: This video is designed for educational purposes and is not to be used as a diagnostic tool for narcissism, narcissistic traits, and narcissistic personality disorder. This video is not made to attack anyone who may display these signs or anyone diagnosed with NPD, but rather to understand them and bring more awareness to the topic!
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Nonny
Videos like this have really helped me figure out how to deal with my sister, who rates very high in narcissism. I have disengaged with her as much as possible, dealing only with facts regarding important family business and not a word more. Word is it's driving her batsht crazy. Meanwhile I sit back and cackle. Don't feed the vampires!
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Videos like this have really helped me figure out how to deal with my sister, who rates very high in narcissism. I have disengaged with her as much as possible, dealing only with facts regarding important family business and not a word more. Word is it's driving her batsht crazy. Meanwhile I sit back and cackle. Don't feed the vampires!
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James
My soon to be ex wife is a narcissist and i couldn't talk to my family and friends. My soon to be ex wife is our one month old son as a weapon. She also cheated on me several times and saying its her conversions disorder. Now since i left her she is playing the victim and still mentally abusing me.
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My soon to be ex wife is a narcissist and i couldn't talk to my family and friends. My soon to be ex wife is our one month old son as a weapon. She also cheated on me several times and saying its her conversions disorder. Now since i left her she is playing the victim and still mentally abusing me.
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vaughn
Someone I thought was a friend over the years felt that I didn't know how to be a friend. I showed them love, shared with them etc etc. I don't know what happened. When he came back from bootcamp, over some time, he started to feel as though I owed him something. I still dont know till this day.
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Someone I thought was a friend over the years felt that I didn't know how to be a friend. I showed them love, shared with them etc etc. I don't know what happened. When he came back from bootcamp, over some time, he started to feel as though I owed him something. I still dont know till this day.
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Dianne
I came out from a narcissistic family. Spent my life being around them, I am the black sheep of the family, as I am poor and not into being the center of the world. I don't look for someone to take care of me, just share our lives together.
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I came out from a narcissistic family. Spent my life being around them, I am the black sheep of the family, as I am poor and not into being the center of the world. I don't look for someone to take care of me, just share our lives together.
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H45
I currently live with a narcissist. I was too naive at the beginning because I thought she was really just kind and generous. I also thought that as a Christian, she was a good person. But, boy oh boy! I'm moving out soon though.
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I currently live with a narcissist. I was too naive at the beginning because I thought she was really just kind and generous. I also thought that as a Christian, she was a good person. But, boy oh boy! I'm moving out soon though.
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Emily
On a side note, the narcissist can use this list to label you. They won't give you their time or kindness or attention or friendship and if you speak up they will think, Do you think I owe you? Sorry, you are not my priority.
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On a side note, the narcissist can use this list to label you. They won't give you their time or kindness or attention or friendship and if you speak up they will think, Do you think I owe you? Sorry, you are not my priority.
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Darren
This video is not meant to make narcissists seem like bad people it doesn't have to they do that to themselves every single trait of a narcissist is a negative trait. These are some of the worst people alive on planet Earth
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This video is not meant to make narcissists seem like bad people it doesn't have to they do that to themselves every single trait of a narcissist is a negative trait. These are some of the worst people alive on planet Earth
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cmontygman
This has been one of my issues, my gf is demanding we get married. I've told her nearly everytime that I feel more like an object to her and that it seems she only wants to get married for attention.
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This has been one of my issues, my gf is demanding we get married. I've told her nearly everytime that I feel more like an object to her and that it seems she only wants to get married for attention.
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Swahili
The worst thing is when narcissists realize you're completely desperate without them they increase their narcissistic dose on you so they can paralyse and corrupt your entire mindset for good
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The worst thing is when narcissists realize you're completely desperate without them they increase their narcissistic dose on you so they can paralyse and corrupt your entire mindset for good
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education
i remember it was MY fault that his book in the mail got bended by the MAILMAN. it was my fault that i didnt grab it before it got in the mailbox. pushed me and kicked me in the crotch.
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i remember it was MY fault that his book in the mail got bended by the MAILMAN. it was my fault that i didnt grab it before it got in the mailbox. pushed me and kicked me in the crotch.
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PussnBoot2516
You forgot one other thing they think you owe them, their money. Your money is their money so they feel like they have a right to as much money as they want whenever they want it
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You forgot one other thing they think you owe them, their money. Your money is their money so they feel like they have a right to as much money as they want whenever they want it
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Acanthaster
I just wanna say, thank you so much for creating these videos. All of these points sound familiar to me, and have helped me to see that I'm not alone. Thank you! Thank you.
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I just wanna say, thank you so much for creating these videos. All of these points sound familiar to me, and have helped me to see that I'm not alone. Thank you! Thank you.
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Debjani
Everything sounds familiar, i watched a lot Psyche2GO videos related to narcissism and now I am soo much resolved that I can surely trust my intuition and experiences rn
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Everything sounds familiar, i watched a lot Psyche2GO videos related to narcissism and now I am soo much resolved that I can surely trust my intuition and experiences rn
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Midnight
The relationships of any kind of a narcissists are all for their own convenience. They don't like others for who they are, they only like the things others do for them.
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The relationships of any kind of a narcissists are all for their own convenience. They don't like others for who they are, they only like the things others do for them.
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