5 Signs You're Gaslighting Yourself
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Date: 2023-08-20
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It's funny as all this time I been saying I'm gaslighting myself without realizing it's an actual term. All this time the answer was just in front of me.
I have a friend that made a joke that I didn't like. I called her out on it and she apologize but all I'm seeing is just justification and excuses and so I also confront her that, yet instead of getting a genuine apology all I got was 2 days of silence and then another insincere apology filled mostly of her being hurt from how I accuse it of being insincere when she took a long time making it and how my words just hurts her. Then when she show remorse it would always ends with an excuse. And foolish me started believing her that maybe I am just too sensitive and maybe there's a reason why I don't have much friends and I been bully. Maybe it was wrong for me to confront her about it, maybe she was really sincere and just had hard time showing it.
It took me only now when I saw the article and think it through that I realize it's not at all me that's wrong and that my feelings are valid and even if she's not being intentional her poorly executed words just sent me in the loop of gaslighting and she never fully considered how her insincere apology could affect me.
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It's funny as all this time I been saying I'm gaslighting myself without realizing it's an actual term. All this time the answer was just in front of me.
I have a friend that made a joke that I didn't like. I called her out on it and she apologize but all I'm seeing is just justification and excuses and so I also confront her that, yet instead of getting a genuine apology all I got was 2 days of silence and then another insincere apology filled mostly of her being hurt from how I accuse it of being insincere when she took a long time making it and how my words just hurts her. Then when she show remorse it would always ends with an excuse. And foolish me started believing her that maybe I am just too sensitive and maybe there's a reason why I don't have much friends and I been bully. Maybe it was wrong for me to confront her about it, maybe she was really sincere and just had hard time showing it.
It took me only now when I saw the article and think it through that I realize it's not at all me that's wrong and that my feelings are valid and even if she's not being intentional her poorly executed words just sent me in the loop of gaslighting and she never fully considered how her insincere apology could affect me.
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Ferall
Often times I experience self gaslighting by portraying myself as being the mean one or the aggressor. As that has been the ways in which people have gaslighted or manipulated me. As oppose to being accused of being too sensitive (which I have gotten from my NPD family as well) I have also had my feelings dismissed by people attaching labels to me that made me appear to be the abuser, aggressor, and/or angry. This in turns makes the actual abuser look like a weak little thing that is just trying their best with me or in need of my constant attention(which is never enough. And when I ask to be left alone and that they are draining me, they gaslight me by pretending to be victims of selfishness and anger.
I wish more people discussed this kind of abuse. People who weaponize their perceived fragility against others to control and manipulate.
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Often times I experience self gaslighting by portraying myself as being the mean one or the aggressor. As that has been the ways in which people have gaslighted or manipulated me. As oppose to being accused of being too sensitive (which I have gotten from my NPD family as well) I have also had my feelings dismissed by people attaching labels to me that made me appear to be the abuser, aggressor, and/or angry. This in turns makes the actual abuser look like a weak little thing that is just trying their best with me or in need of my constant attention(which is never enough. And when I ask to be left alone and that they are draining me, they gaslight me by pretending to be victims of selfishness and anger.
I wish more people discussed this kind of abuse. People who weaponize their perceived fragility against others to control and manipulate.
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Stick
Damn that second point (the one about minimizing) hit unexpectedly close to home.
Since I have no trauma and have a lot of good quality of life things, a lot of expensive things that I have access to I consider myself as privileged and I feel like my problems aren't that important because there's people out there with such hellish past experiences and bad living conditions, if they were there to listen to someone like me complain about the things that stress me out they'd be offended.
A big part of my problems come from how I act too, so I'm complaining about things that I caused -myself. Since it's my own fault, it's only fair I suck it up and deal with it best I can.
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Damn that second point (the one about minimizing) hit unexpectedly close to home.
Since I have no trauma and have a lot of good quality of life things, a lot of expensive things that I have access to I consider myself as privileged and I feel like my problems aren't that important because there's people out there with such hellish past experiences and bad living conditions, if they were there to listen to someone like me complain about the things that stress me out they'd be offended.
A big part of my problems come from how I act too, so I'm complaining about things that I caused -myself. Since it's my own fault, it's only fair I suck it up and deal with it best I can.
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YoutubeHome
Self blame, shame, Depression. The outcomes of self gaslighting are such overthinking spirals.
It's not a nice truth but I learned the hardships under a medical lense is my failure to thrive diagnosis case in 2020. I see a family that hindered and neglected children. All my cousins had the same outcomes. We are comparing notes. Per the genogram it's clear my family system was not available to me after I ceased being cute or more well behaved. Robot Life.
I listen at Jessica Heslop reparenting inner child work.
Can you researxh heart based therapy studies? I'm on that path of research
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Self blame, shame, Depression. The outcomes of self gaslighting are such overthinking spirals.
It's not a nice truth but I learned the hardships under a medical lense is my failure to thrive diagnosis case in 2020. I see a family that hindered and neglected children. All my cousins had the same outcomes. We are comparing notes. Per the genogram it's clear my family system was not available to me after I ceased being cute or more well behaved. Robot Life.
I listen at Jessica Heslop reparenting inner child work.
Can you researxh heart based therapy studies? I'm on that path of research
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Invader
I only discovered I gaslight myself because of a car accident. I got a severe injury, and with severe injury comes severe pain. I found myself restricting myself from my pain medication, telling myself I can't be hurting THAT bad. I'm being dramatic. I don't need my pain meds. I'd tell myself my level 8 pain is a level 3, and I finally reached a breaking point where I HAD to tell myself that I'm in severe pain, and I NEED my meds. It's hard to teach myself to take care of myself, but the accident has forced me to take care of myself. I'm finally learning to tell myself I'm in pain, and I need help.
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I only discovered I gaslight myself because of a car accident. I got a severe injury, and with severe injury comes severe pain. I found myself restricting myself from my pain medication, telling myself I can't be hurting THAT bad. I'm being dramatic. I don't need my pain meds. I'd tell myself my level 8 pain is a level 3, and I finally reached a breaking point where I HAD to tell myself that I'm in severe pain, and I NEED my meds. It's hard to teach myself to take care of myself, but the accident has forced me to take care of myself. I'm finally learning to tell myself I'm in pain, and I need help.
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psych2go
I remember one time I was so upset at myself I basically just repeated some extremely negative things over and over again. I said things like, I dont deserve my mom, I dont deserve my brother, I don't deserve my step dad, I don't deserve my bio dad, I don't deserve anybody. I don't deserve to live. I should go kms deep in the forest where no one will find me, where no one will have to pay for funeral, where no one will have to cry over my dead body, where nobody will notice I'm gone. I should apologize for not dying sooner
That was a rough time. I'm better now, at least a little better.
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I remember one time I was so upset at myself I basically just repeated some extremely negative things over and over again. I said things like, I dont deserve my mom, I dont deserve my brother, I don't deserve my step dad, I don't deserve my bio dad, I don't deserve anybody. I don't deserve to live. I should go kms deep in the forest where no one will find me, where no one will have to pay for funeral, where no one will have to cry over my dead body, where nobody will notice I'm gone. I should apologize for not dying sooner
That was a rough time. I'm better now, at least a little better.
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RubyRose78
I believe I am gaslighting myself. I think it probably started because of how my family treated me. I love them, but they weren't always the best family. They all have anger issues in my opinion and because of that, just one thing I did that wasn't to their liking would set off a war lol. I'm only finally starting to understand why I am afraid of humans and always expect them to yell at me even if I did something right lol. Trying to heal myself so I can be free and finally become independent. Also, stop blaming myself for everything lol.
Thank you so much for this video!
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I believe I am gaslighting myself. I think it probably started because of how my family treated me. I love them, but they weren't always the best family. They all have anger issues in my opinion and because of that, just one thing I did that wasn't to their liking would set off a war lol. I'm only finally starting to understand why I am afraid of humans and always expect them to yell at me even if I did something right lol. Trying to heal myself so I can be free and finally become independent. Also, stop blaming myself for everything lol.
Thank you so much for this video!
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RappMDTV
I see too often on public platforms that those who are mistreated are BLAMED for the mistreatment, be it for not expecting it, for giving a person another chance, etc. whereas the ABUSERs fault is minimized because, Yeah what they did was wrong but, thats how they behave and people should know better, etc. I believe that this, blaming the victim, mentality is a dangerous form of group gaslighting that is spreading that mentality on a larger scale.
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I see too often on public platforms that those who are mistreated are BLAMED for the mistreatment, be it for not expecting it, for giving a person another chance, etc. whereas the ABUSERs fault is minimized because, Yeah what they did was wrong but, thats how they behave and people should know better, etc. I believe that this, blaming the victim, mentality is a dangerous form of group gaslighting that is spreading that mentality on a larger scale.
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Ambivert_
I went to a school trip to New York City at 17, the trip was alot on me mentally. It was the first time I was in another state without my family and I barley had anyone with me. When I tried to tell my mom about how it went my mom told me that You've must've had some fun? I payed alot of money for the trip yknow. I tried to remember what was really fun about the trip but I could only bring up 4 things at most.
Is this a form of gaslighting?
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I went to a school trip to New York City at 17, the trip was alot on me mentally. It was the first time I was in another state without my family and I barley had anyone with me. When I tried to tell my mom about how it went my mom told me that You've must've had some fun? I payed alot of money for the trip yknow. I tried to remember what was really fun about the trip but I could only bring up 4 things at most.
Is this a form of gaslighting?
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sacredweeds
I was hoping to hear why people who are severely depressed tell others they are ok and why they wont get help when they are also destroying the lives of their loved ones. I know their loved ones need to get their own help but we are and well
Is there anything to be done about the depressed person that refuses to get the help they need because they arent that bad or help wont help
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I was hoping to hear why people who are severely depressed tell others they are ok and why they wont get help when they are also destroying the lives of their loved ones. I know their loved ones need to get their own help but we are and well
Is there anything to be done about the depressed person that refuses to get the help they need because they arent that bad or help wont help
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Jessica
It's weird how I'm all good when I'm single I won't blame my current boyfriend for anything I feel like something's wrong with me because I always get paranoid, crazy like I've got all kinds of personality disorders whenever I'm in a relationship with someone. and relationships doesn't works out cos it's hard to handle someone like me I hate myself for this. it's frustrating.
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It's weird how I'm all good when I'm single I won't blame my current boyfriend for anything I feel like something's wrong with me because I always get paranoid, crazy like I've got all kinds of personality disorders whenever I'm in a relationship with someone. and relationships doesn't works out cos it's hard to handle someone like me I hate myself for this. it's frustrating.
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education
This is exactly why I'm depressed no matter how many hard struggles I've overcome. 4 years experience at work and living with people who gaslighted me that now although I keep myself away from people, it's me who gaslights me; maybe I am crazy but I'm functional in society but I don't realize it, even my own family.
I've even hid at work and cried once.
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This is exactly why I'm depressed no matter how many hard struggles I've overcome. 4 years experience at work and living with people who gaslighted me that now although I keep myself away from people, it's me who gaslights me; maybe I am crazy but I'm functional in society but I don't realize it, even my own family.
I've even hid at work and cried once.
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Sandy
Self gaslighting = denying your own reality. For example: When you're feeling sick, but deny your sickness. When you're doing math, but don't trust yourself so you recheck it a thousand times, when you start recording conversations because you don't trust your own memory because you tell yourself you're wrong. been there.
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Self gaslighting = denying your own reality. For example: When you're feeling sick, but deny your sickness. When you're doing math, but don't trust yourself so you recheck it a thousand times, when you start recording conversations because you don't trust your own memory because you tell yourself you're wrong. been there.
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Diana
When I was younger I created a person, smith like a imaginative friend. but without the friend. This person went by telling me all my mistakes like, Oh you shouldnt have said that. You could said that better. Youre dumb, stop trying to act smart idiot. Those words were basically my own. I just gave them its own body.
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When I was younger I created a person, smith like a imaginative friend. but without the friend. This person went by telling me all my mistakes like, Oh you shouldnt have said that. You could said that better. Youre dumb, stop trying to act smart idiot. Those words were basically my own. I just gave them its own body.
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Sadie's
Okay but I feel these, but I haven't been gaslighted before. And so I feel like my feelings aren't valid, and I'm making it up. Then I think that there's nothing to be made up, because there is no issue or reason for me to be sad. And so I dismiss my feelings and think I'm being dramatic and caught up in my head.
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Okay but I feel these, but I haven't been gaslighted before. And so I feel like my feelings aren't valid, and I'm making it up. Then I think that there's nothing to be made up, because there is no issue or reason for me to be sad. And so I dismiss my feelings and think I'm being dramatic and caught up in my head.
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Warren
The 5 Signs You're Gaslighting Yourself:
1. Blaming yourself.
2. Minimizing your own experiences.
3. Excusing others when the don't deserve it.
4. Believing you're too sensitive.
5. Negative beliefs about yourself.
The signs I relate to all of these signs, believe it or not.
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The 5 Signs You're Gaslighting Yourself:
1. Blaming yourself.
2. Minimizing your own experiences.
3. Excusing others when the don't deserve it.
4. Believing you're too sensitive.
5. Negative beliefs about yourself.
The signs I relate to all of these signs, believe it or not.
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Rockzy
This one is a constant thing though when i try to express myself and feelings they get shut down and the process just keeps repeating so how do I escape it all, nothing i do seems to help. If its not me its someone else who is close to me. Oh well.
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This one is a constant thing though when i try to express myself and feelings they get shut down and the process just keeps repeating so how do I escape it all, nothing i do seems to help. If its not me its someone else who is close to me. Oh well.
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Havan
I wept watching this. Every word resonates with me. My counselor and everyone I talk to tells me Im way too hard on myself and that I am easy to give grace to others when they hurt me.
How can I even trust myself, even my own mind is my enemy.
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I wept watching this. Every word resonates with me. My counselor and everyone I talk to tells me Im way too hard on myself and that I am easy to give grace to others when they hurt me.
How can I even trust myself, even my own mind is my enemy.
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Jesus
Im especially guilty about 2 and 4. I used to feel how can I have been so affected by these demons when some people suffer from much worse. And man in a world where everyone seems to be so strong feeling too sensitive is a classic for me.
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Im especially guilty about 2 and 4. I used to feel how can I have been so affected by these demons when some people suffer from much worse. And man in a world where everyone seems to be so strong feeling too sensitive is a classic for me.
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xXthe_
Well am I gaslighting myself or am I just being overly sensitive to my emotions and making it up that I'm gaslighting myself. But that statement sounds like gaslighting. unless I'm misinterpreting my own words? over dramatic much?
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Well am I gaslighting myself or am I just being overly sensitive to my emotions and making it up that I'm gaslighting myself. But that statement sounds like gaslighting. unless I'm misinterpreting my own words? over dramatic much?
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Kendall
I didnt know you could gaslight yourself. Ive been going to therapy for things that happened while I was in school, and the topic of gaslighting came up. I just wasnt aware you could do that to yourself. Thank you for explaining
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I didnt know you could gaslight yourself. Ive been going to therapy for things that happened while I was in school, and the topic of gaslighting came up. I just wasnt aware you could do that to yourself. Thank you for explaining
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Sean
There is actually something wrong with me. But yeah, Ive had a long run of gaslighting, and have adopted shit myself thanks to it. Awesome. I am finally stopping. Im done done done allowing someone else to put me on a pedestal
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There is actually something wrong with me. But yeah, Ive had a long run of gaslighting, and have adopted shit myself thanks to it. Awesome. I am finally stopping. Im done done done allowing someone else to put me on a pedestal
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The
I think my friend is gas lighting themself: ( how do I help a friend that is gas lighting themself? I really want to help but I'm not that good with other people's emotions, but what they told me alligns a lot with this video
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I think my friend is gas lighting themself: ( how do I help a friend that is gas lighting themself? I really want to help but I'm not that good with other people's emotions, but what they told me alligns a lot with this video
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education
I do this a lot. And now I'm realising how I'm running myself into the ground with this belief. Not living in a healthy way mentally and physically as punishment for being bad.
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I do this a lot. And now I'm realising how I'm running myself into the ground with this belief. Not living in a healthy way mentally and physically as punishment for being bad.
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Bella
Tbh Im scared to reach out to a mental health professional because Im scared Im making a big deal out of nothing and just overreacting. Im scared people will judge me for it
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Tbh Im scared to reach out to a mental health professional because Im scared Im making a big deal out of nothing and just overreacting. Im scared people will judge me for it
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