5 Signs It's Chemistry, But Not Compatibility
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Jildert
To be honest, a bit of compatibility might be of use, but there are not a lot of people who are fully compatible at first, especially at a younger age. If you are open, curious and truly interested in the other you might grow more compatible. What I'm trying to say is that compatibility isn't the key, it's the reward. Some fundamentals have to align yes, but love is much more than chemistry, compatibility, lust or romantics. You won't be the same 5 years from now as you weren't the same 5 years ago.
Consider yourself blessed to have found someone who you can fall in love with all over again because you both stayed interested and curious. You both grew closer, went through better and worse and became better people because of it.
Compatibility comes in many different subfactors, just because you aren't compatible religiously doesn't mean you aren't compatible by other factors. It just requires more effort. Loving is and always has been a verb. It's the personal development you have as a human being that is the most valuable you can share with someone.
Love is a verb, it requires effort. It's only when it requires more than it gains you should ring the alarm bell.
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To be honest, a bit of compatibility might be of use, but there are not a lot of people who are fully compatible at first, especially at a younger age. If you are open, curious and truly interested in the other you might grow more compatible. What I'm trying to say is that compatibility isn't the key, it's the reward. Some fundamentals have to align yes, but love is much more than chemistry, compatibility, lust or romantics. You won't be the same 5 years from now as you weren't the same 5 years ago.
Consider yourself blessed to have found someone who you can fall in love with all over again because you both stayed interested and curious. You both grew closer, went through better and worse and became better people because of it.
Compatibility comes in many different subfactors, just because you aren't compatible religiously doesn't mean you aren't compatible by other factors. It just requires more effort. Loving is and always has been a verb. It's the personal development you have as a human being that is the most valuable you can share with someone.
Love is a verb, it requires effort. It's only when it requires more than it gains you should ring the alarm bell.
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education
My friend and I are insanely compatible. We have the same values, outlook on life, ironic humor - we even have the same personality type. We're equals in every way, intellectually and otherwise. And, to be frank, he ticks all my boxes. It's very easy to be together: we don't get bored or confused talking to each other, nor do we feel uncomfortable at any point being in each other's presence. When we're together I also find us slipping into too-comfortable-with-each-other territory: leaning on each other, speaking with our faces too close, ignoring most other people etc. It would be very easy to be in a relationship with him. But the thing is we just don't have chemistry. I can't feel the butterflies in my stomach when I'm with him. I don't think about holding and hugging him all the time. And touching him doesn't make my heart go a million miles a minute. In fact, I like someone else: a guy just as smart as the both of us, but less sarcastic and chatty, more quiet and focused. Seeing him smile makes my heart jump. No matter how compatible my friend and I are, after all, I just can't see him in a romantic light.
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My friend and I are insanely compatible. We have the same values, outlook on life, ironic humor - we even have the same personality type. We're equals in every way, intellectually and otherwise. And, to be frank, he ticks all my boxes. It's very easy to be together: we don't get bored or confused talking to each other, nor do we feel uncomfortable at any point being in each other's presence. When we're together I also find us slipping into too-comfortable-with-each-other territory: leaning on each other, speaking with our faces too close, ignoring most other people etc. It would be very easy to be in a relationship with him. But the thing is we just don't have chemistry. I can't feel the butterflies in my stomach when I'm with him. I don't think about holding and hugging him all the time. And touching him doesn't make my heart go a million miles a minute. In fact, I like someone else: a guy just as smart as the both of us, but less sarcastic and chatty, more quiet and focused. Seeing him smile makes my heart jump. No matter how compatible my friend and I are, after all, I just can't see him in a romantic light.
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Arsh_10
1. Don't really know
2. Do share a lot of the same values
3. We are not opposites, we are pretty similar
4. And we are never bored of each other
5. We have some similar goals for the future
When I saw my partner again for the first time in a few years this year I wasn't that excited but I was stunned by how much she had grown and how beautiful she is now, and then at some point we talked to each other after she came to my house for dinner once on my birthday I think and I started the conversation in the most unusual way lol by saying your almost as tall as me and she said I will grow taller than this and maybe who knows even as tall as you, and then at school every time she sees me she would actually say hello or hi like if she sees me she wouldn't pass by without talking to me about something
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1. Don't really know
2. Do share a lot of the same values
3. We are not opposites, we are pretty similar
4. And we are never bored of each other
5. We have some similar goals for the future
When I saw my partner again for the first time in a few years this year I wasn't that excited but I was stunned by how much she had grown and how beautiful she is now, and then at some point we talked to each other after she came to my house for dinner once on my birthday I think and I started the conversation in the most unusual way lol by saying your almost as tall as me and she said I will grow taller than this and maybe who knows even as tall as you, and then at school every time she sees me she would actually say hello or hi like if she sees me she wouldn't pass by without talking to me about something
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zakosist
I think those are good advice. But one should remember that no relationship or partner is perfect. Even people who stay together for many years and are generally happy, tend to have some different interests from each others, have occasional disputes and things that annoy them about their partner, and aren't having fun every moment they are together. But I still think you need to have some shared interest, mostly shared values and life goals, compatible plans for the future and at least sometimes enjoy the time spent together. Just that those things will never be an absolute. And if you dont keep that in mind too, you could also give up potential relationships that actually would be good.
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I think those are good advice. But one should remember that no relationship or partner is perfect. Even people who stay together for many years and are generally happy, tend to have some different interests from each others, have occasional disputes and things that annoy them about their partner, and aren't having fun every moment they are together. But I still think you need to have some shared interest, mostly shared values and life goals, compatible plans for the future and at least sometimes enjoy the time spent together. Just that those things will never be an absolute. And if you dont keep that in mind too, you could also give up potential relationships that actually would be good.
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gANN
Ironically, the people I had the biggest chemistry with never worked out as a relationship. However the one who I developed feelings for slower and more careful, I have now feelings for like for no other. We were curious about each other but very careful and started out as friends but the more I got to know him, the more I was falling for him and it keeps me more curious about him every day, even after years of knowing him. So yeah, be careful, chemistry is all nice and good but for me it was never enough. Strong fast feelings like that can fade pretty fast. Take your time to get to know a person, you have time.
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Ironically, the people I had the biggest chemistry with never worked out as a relationship. However the one who I developed feelings for slower and more careful, I have now feelings for like for no other. We were curious about each other but very careful and started out as friends but the more I got to know him, the more I was falling for him and it keeps me more curious about him every day, even after years of knowing him. So yeah, be careful, chemistry is all nice and good but for me it was never enough. Strong fast feelings like that can fade pretty fast. Take your time to get to know a person, you have time.
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TSVH
I wont get into it but this stuff has left me feeling very hurt. The whole situation has been very complicated for other reasons also but regardless of that i like her so much. Things didnt go well because of bad communication and i ended up blocking her today because with how things went i couldnt stay being friends with them. I knew we wouldnt work out for the long term but that doesnt mean i wasnt absolutely crazy about her. This is the first time ive had anything even close to possibly being a relationship and it just hurts so much right now and i dont know how to deal with it. I feel so alone right now.
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I wont get into it but this stuff has left me feeling very hurt. The whole situation has been very complicated for other reasons also but regardless of that i like her so much. Things didnt go well because of bad communication and i ended up blocking her today because with how things went i couldnt stay being friends with them. I knew we wouldnt work out for the long term but that doesnt mean i wasnt absolutely crazy about her. This is the first time ive had anything even close to possibly being a relationship and it just hurts so much right now and i dont know how to deal with it. I feel so alone right now.
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V.
Chemistry, when you're not used to having it with anyone before, can feel like you did find the one. Sometimes opposites can compromise and feel compatible over time. Regardless of how magnetic the feelings are our core values will leave us questioning things more often than not.
When they also say you can do better take it. I always gave benefit of the doubt and believed in the best of people, especially if they were sabotaging themselves. My feelings were crushed again because I didn't heed their warnings at face value. Just a rule of thumb if anyone needs it.
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Chemistry, when you're not used to having it with anyone before, can feel like you did find the one. Sometimes opposites can compromise and feel compatible over time. Regardless of how magnetic the feelings are our core values will leave us questioning things more often than not.
When they also say you can do better take it. I always gave benefit of the doubt and believed in the best of people, especially if they were sabotaging themselves. My feelings were crushed again because I didn't heed their warnings at face value. Just a rule of thumb if anyone needs it.
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Gisselle
Im glad we were friends for a while before we started dating. We figured each other out and got along so well as best friends but once we put the romantic stuff in there it was even better I think we go together really we love the same things and have the same humor bum just worried because he doesnt know what he wants his future to be and I dont either we both want the same amount of kids and I would love to marry him but what if our future goals are way to different
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Im glad we were friends for a while before we started dating. We figured each other out and got along so well as best friends but once we put the romantic stuff in there it was even better I think we go together really we love the same things and have the same humor bum just worried because he doesnt know what he wants his future to be and I dont either we both want the same amount of kids and I would love to marry him but what if our future goals are way to different
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Steve
I know a woman I think I have great chemistry with, but I realize a relationship with her could never work out because there are many areas where we aren't compatible. For instance, she likes country music, I don't. She's neat and tidy, but I'm not. She is more active and athletic than I am, while I'm more of a couch potato. Violent movies don't bother me, but she doesn't like them. We don't have similar hobbies or the same, or even similar outlook on life.
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I know a woman I think I have great chemistry with, but I realize a relationship with her could never work out because there are many areas where we aren't compatible. For instance, she likes country music, I don't. She's neat and tidy, but I'm not. She is more active and athletic than I am, while I'm more of a couch potato. Violent movies don't bother me, but she doesn't like them. We don't have similar hobbies or the same, or even similar outlook on life.
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-_Froxt_-
I Just wish i could at least talk to them without being akward and weird there was this one time that i spoke with her over text but the thing is it wasnt even me it was my friend and tbh she didn't like the convo and as im wrighting this i Just realized that i should have apologised but its too late for that now i Just wish i knew how to talk yo her without being akward and weird, got any tips?
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I Just wish i could at least talk to them without being akward and weird there was this one time that i spoke with her over text but the thing is it wasnt even me it was my friend and tbh she didn't like the convo and as im wrighting this i Just realized that i should have apologised but its too late for that now i Just wish i knew how to talk yo her without being akward and weird, got any tips?
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NotKing
Im in a very annoying situation because I know my crush has a crush on me (there are a lot of signs and two of her absolute best friends told me so) we talked multiple times each time it was amazing and ends in both of us laughing and having a good time, I want to ask her out but I cant because I dont have money which really sucks because thats the only thing thats stopping me from doing so.
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Im in a very annoying situation because I know my crush has a crush on me (there are a lot of signs and two of her absolute best friends told me so) we talked multiple times each time it was amazing and ends in both of us laughing and having a good time, I want to ask her out but I cant because I dont have money which really sucks because thats the only thing thats stopping me from doing so.
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education
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1- enjoy their company, serious enough for a long term relationship.
2- beliefs religion politics parenting style
3- opposite interest ideas and opinions
4- bored of each other do you still feel the same or are you bored. ( Could be blinded with chemistry but not compatible with each other ) future goals places to live
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1- enjoy their company, serious enough for a long term relationship.
2- beliefs religion politics parenting style
3- opposite interest ideas and opinions
4- bored of each other do you still feel the same or are you bored. ( Could be blinded with chemistry but not compatible with each other ) future goals places to live
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terra
We just met and there's this instant click in my heart like I have known this person for years. We end up talking for like one hour, it's just flowing so freely. There's even one time that I knew instinctively what this person was about to say and it exactly right word per word! Was that chemistry or compatibility? Or some say soulmate?
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We just met and there's this instant click in my heart like I have known this person for years. We end up talking for like one hour, it's just flowing so freely. There's even one time that I knew instinctively what this person was about to say and it exactly right word per word! Was that chemistry or compatibility? Or some say soulmate?
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YT
I've seen several girls that I knew I wouldn't be compatible with for the very reason that either they: don't share similar values, don't share similar future interests, and or few things in common.
I didn't even need to go on a date with any of them to realize what their stance was on values or beliefs were.
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I've seen several girls that I knew I wouldn't be compatible with for the very reason that either they: don't share similar values, don't share similar future interests, and or few things in common.
I didn't even need to go on a date with any of them to realize what their stance was on values or beliefs were.
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Fh
My parents very clearly have chemistry and no compatability, and they've made it work for the last 22 years- but there's always talk of how they'll divorce once I finally move out: ( I'll be very sad because there is clearly a lot of love between them but also just so much resentment at the same time
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My parents very clearly have chemistry and no compatability, and they've made it work for the last 22 years- but there's always talk of how they'll divorce once I finally move out: ( I'll be very sad because there is clearly a lot of love between them but also just so much resentment at the same time
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N. Y
I just love the references you do!
I'm a miraculous fan, and I'd like to know your opinion about Marinette's and Adrien relationship? Don't you actually think they are made for each other, as many times mentioned in the series?
Thank you for your videos! Your contents are great.
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I just love the references you do!
I'm a miraculous fan, and I'd like to know your opinion about Marinette's and Adrien relationship? Don't you actually think they are made for each other, as many times mentioned in the series?
Thank you for your videos! Your contents are great.
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Arsh_10
My older cousins, friends and family keep telling me that I have chemistry with my partner and I choose to deny the fact that I like her even if we have so much chemistry together because I don't wanna ruin the friendship and we also have most things in common with each other, man
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My older cousins, friends and family keep telling me that I have chemistry with my partner and I choose to deny the fact that I like her even if we have so much chemistry together because I don't wanna ruin the friendship and we also have most things in common with each other, man
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Danny
My gf broke up with me few months ago, we tried to get back but it just wasnt it for me. For her I guess I was the one but for me, this video is exactly what is going on with me I feel bad for her. She deserves better
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My gf broke up with me few months ago, we tried to get back but it just wasnt it for me. For her I guess I was the one but for me, this video is exactly what is going on with me I feel bad for her. She deserves better
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anaymous
I Don t think my friend eljiah lewis is meant for me any more I know hes tired just try be nice but I Don t wanna keep bothering him like that he has everything going for him which is a blessing
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I Don t think my friend eljiah lewis is meant for me any more I know hes tired just try be nice but I Don t wanna keep bothering him like that he has everything going for him which is a blessing
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Sergio
What if. I found both chemistry and compatibility in the same person, but I mean 100% which is so difficult. But she have a boyfriend that leaves away from her thousands of miles?
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What if. I found both chemistry and compatibility in the same person, but I mean 100% which is so difficult. But she have a boyfriend that leaves away from her thousands of miles?
: (: (: (
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Kuitaran(
Well this video was very interesting and learning about compatibility especially from here is very nice and informative, overall good video
Hope y'all can still have a great day
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Well this video was very interesting and learning about compatibility especially from here is very nice and informative, overall good video
Hope y'all can still have a great day
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art
1: 33 The colors that were presented there was like the politician colors here in the Philippines lol. Red/Green for BBM/Sara while Pink for Leni Robredo. Such a coincidence
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1: 33 The colors that were presented there was like the politician colors here in the Philippines lol. Red/Green for BBM/Sara while Pink for Leni Robredo. Such a coincidence
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Calypso
Love all the references in these videos! Ive spotted Solangelo from Percy Jackson at 1: 59, Lumity from The Owl House at 0: 17, and Hans and Anna from Frozen at 4: 04
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Love all the references in these videos! Ive spotted Solangelo from Percy Jackson at 1: 59, Lumity from The Owl House at 0: 17, and Hans and Anna from Frozen at 4: 04
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waaaaaaaahhhhh
Yeah my mom always told me that she would rather date someone new than being in a relationship and risk losing a best friend, guess this explains it well
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Yeah my mom always told me that she would rather date someone new than being in a relationship and risk losing a best friend, guess this explains it well
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Camika
another sign of chemistry is when you go through the door and see multiple images of the periodic table stuck onto the wall aswell as multiple conical flasks
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another sign of chemistry is when you go through the door and see multiple images of the periodic table stuck onto the wall aswell as multiple conical flasks
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