5 Signs You're Unmotivated, Not Lazy
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Dani
In summer 2013, I had THE WORST mental block in my life. It was the worse burnout I ever experienced: at the time I wrote fanfiction and film blogs, but due to personal conflicts (mainly an internship gone wrong) I was completely unable to put my hands on the keyboard and just write. Even when I knew exactly what I wanted to write, I just couldn't. It was like Kiki from Kiki's Delivery Service unable to fly.
The worst part is that I was accused by family members of being lazy, even someone saying what are you achieving with your life! as if my depression was an actual choice.
Obviously when it comes to mental health, we forget our agency and there are things we can do to overcome those mental struggles, but at the same time we can't just turn it off that easily like a switch, so for someone to just reduce ALL of that emptiness, that confusion, that anxiety over losing oneself, into you're lazy, you're not trying hard enough, it sucked hard.
It was only until I went back to my final year of university that I was able to write again, but that was an experience I never ever want to go through again.
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In summer 2013, I had THE WORST mental block in my life. It was the worse burnout I ever experienced: at the time I wrote fanfiction and film blogs, but due to personal conflicts (mainly an internship gone wrong) I was completely unable to put my hands on the keyboard and just write. Even when I knew exactly what I wanted to write, I just couldn't. It was like Kiki from Kiki's Delivery Service unable to fly.
The worst part is that I was accused by family members of being lazy, even someone saying what are you achieving with your life! as if my depression was an actual choice.
Obviously when it comes to mental health, we forget our agency and there are things we can do to overcome those mental struggles, but at the same time we can't just turn it off that easily like a switch, so for someone to just reduce ALL of that emptiness, that confusion, that anxiety over losing oneself, into you're lazy, you're not trying hard enough, it sucked hard.
It was only until I went back to my final year of university that I was able to write again, but that was an experience I never ever want to go through again.
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nunoepedro
Honestly I do believe that I've been feeling purposeless, I managed to enter a four year course I wanted.
In my first year of university I'll admit that I was being lazy, and as a result I ended up having to repeat one class in my second year (which I passed and was also the year we started having to do everything from home.
On my second year in the first semester I actually started taking my own notes (ended up making notes of over 50 maybe 60 pages for each discipline. Now my course has changed to 3 years right in the middle of the course, and the university is saying that I won't be having my fourth year anymore and I'm barely even making my own notes (last semester last semester I made pretty much no annotations what so ever.
As of now it's my second semester and I'm struggling to make just to two classes. I have no idea what I'm going to be doing next year with my half-assed graduation and I'm feeling motivated for little, even just one hour of study gets me tired and wanting to take a break
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Honestly I do believe that I've been feeling purposeless, I managed to enter a four year course I wanted.
In my first year of university I'll admit that I was being lazy, and as a result I ended up having to repeat one class in my second year (which I passed and was also the year we started having to do everything from home.
On my second year in the first semester I actually started taking my own notes (ended up making notes of over 50 maybe 60 pages for each discipline. Now my course has changed to 3 years right in the middle of the course, and the university is saying that I won't be having my fourth year anymore and I'm barely even making my own notes (last semester last semester I made pretty much no annotations what so ever.
As of now it's my second semester and I'm struggling to make just to two classes. I have no idea what I'm going to be doing next year with my half-assed graduation and I'm feeling motivated for little, even just one hour of study gets me tired and wanting to take a break
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Hanami
Hi, I don't know if the admins will read this because there are a lot of comments, but I would thanks you for all these vids because not everybody has the opportunity money to go to psychologist/therapy, I cant for some reasons. I would like to ask for a video of how to do well boundaries and take care of emotional bonds. Because I have a best friend (X, but X goes to parties every week and barely has time to meet me, also X has a lot of other friends, but X always tells me that I'm irreplaceable and very important (to X. But I don't know what should I do, I don't have many friends and I know thats not X's fault or responsability, but I think that I would like/ I need more time with X, because we only meet each other like two hours in a couple of months. Other best friends do all kind of activities together. I'm sorry, I can't avoid feeling a bit jealous. I would like to spend more time with X and make more good memories.
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Hi, I don't know if the admins will read this because there are a lot of comments, but I would thanks you for all these vids because not everybody has the opportunity money to go to psychologist/therapy, I cant for some reasons. I would like to ask for a video of how to do well boundaries and take care of emotional bonds. Because I have a best friend (X, but X goes to parties every week and barely has time to meet me, also X has a lot of other friends, but X always tells me that I'm irreplaceable and very important (to X. But I don't know what should I do, I don't have many friends and I know thats not X's fault or responsability, but I think that I would like/ I need more time with X, because we only meet each other like two hours in a couple of months. Other best friends do all kind of activities together. I'm sorry, I can't avoid feeling a bit jealous. I would like to spend more time with X and make more good memories.
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Jakub
Hmmmm, don't want to go dark with this, but sometimes I think this is just my brain looking for reasons to use as a way of making me feel better about my negative traits like bein' lazy and so on. Some books related to stuff like this gave me advice to just, stop looking at stuff like you are the most important thing on this planet and realize how normal your problems are and so on, you get the point. And ironically, this seems like it makes life much more easier. I don't mean to say that now everyone is lazy and their problems aren't important, that's not true. It just made my mind sleep better. I could write every single thing about this down and so on but that would be too much of not really interesting stuff so I'm gonna skip them. Anyway, if you feel bad, do something about it, find a way to make yourself feel better and be it something healthy as well. Just, try to live your best life. :)
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Hmmmm, don't want to go dark with this, but sometimes I think this is just my brain looking for reasons to use as a way of making me feel better about my negative traits like bein' lazy and so on. Some books related to stuff like this gave me advice to just, stop looking at stuff like you are the most important thing on this planet and realize how normal your problems are and so on, you get the point. And ironically, this seems like it makes life much more easier. I don't mean to say that now everyone is lazy and their problems aren't important, that's not true. It just made my mind sleep better. I could write every single thing about this down and so on but that would be too much of not really interesting stuff so I'm gonna skip them. Anyway, if you feel bad, do something about it, find a way to make yourself feel better and be it something healthy as well. Just, try to live your best life. :)
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Tactical
Ive lost all motivation to do anything really, Im constantly thinking of dropping out of high school and leaving my house without telling anyone whats happening or where Im going because all I feel like is I disappoint my parents and get ignored by everyone around me I have loads of schoolwork piled on me that I want to do but I just cant all I know now is Im gonna fail school again and I dont want to deal with the pain knowing that Im gonna fail instead I just want to leave it all and restart my life. Possibly either fake my own death or just make it real in the end I know Im not gonna go far in life but being stuck in an area that I dont want to be in isnt somewhere I want to be for the end
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Ive lost all motivation to do anything really, Im constantly thinking of dropping out of high school and leaving my house without telling anyone whats happening or where Im going because all I feel like is I disappoint my parents and get ignored by everyone around me I have loads of schoolwork piled on me that I want to do but I just cant all I know now is Im gonna fail school again and I dont want to deal with the pain knowing that Im gonna fail instead I just want to leave it all and restart my life. Possibly either fake my own death or just make it real in the end I know Im not gonna go far in life but being stuck in an area that I dont want to be in isnt somewhere I want to be for the end
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psych2go
Sign 4 for me, it's more of my parents goals for me. They want me to get exceptional grades, get into a great college, then become a millionaire and live in a mansion with my parents and siblings. The thing is, the school system is to much. I dread school, because I know I'm going to get verbally bullied, and have so much work, that I either have to lie, or do work until the end of the day. The only time I get to relax is 2 hours before school, but my sister get the first hour to whatever she wants, because she leaves an hour before me, and I still need to get ready to go to school. Then, I still get bad grades because I couldn't find the motivation to do any work. How do I move forward?
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Sign 4 for me, it's more of my parents goals for me. They want me to get exceptional grades, get into a great college, then become a millionaire and live in a mansion with my parents and siblings. The thing is, the school system is to much. I dread school, because I know I'm going to get verbally bullied, and have so much work, that I either have to lie, or do work until the end of the day. The only time I get to relax is 2 hours before school, but my sister get the first hour to whatever she wants, because she leaves an hour before me, and I still need to get ready to go to school. Then, I still get bad grades because I couldn't find the motivation to do any work. How do I move forward?
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HelloVanniHere
man this. i relate so much to this, especially to point 1, 4 & 5, its like. i wanna get to a point at something where none have ever gotten, or at least get to a decent point where i can say: im satisfied with this, but its like. the feeling described in the first point, plus the feeling of. lets just say satisfied or not, you're not gonna be the best with your current skill + others want more from you, even if you were satisfied of what you got it wouldn't be enough to get a decent job or pay, smt like that at least.
man life really do be like that tho
Btw good video! It was really helpful and useful!
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man this. i relate so much to this, especially to point 1, 4 & 5, its like. i wanna get to a point at something where none have ever gotten, or at least get to a decent point where i can say: im satisfied with this, but its like. the feeling described in the first point, plus the feeling of. lets just say satisfied or not, you're not gonna be the best with your current skill + others want more from you, even if you were satisfied of what you got it wouldn't be enough to get a decent job or pay, smt like that at least.
man life really do be like that tho
Btw good video! It was really helpful and useful!
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Coffeebattery
Yep, last 2020, i had a breakup before graduating senior high past year i have stressful college with toxic teachers who think themselves as gods(i know its hard, its pandemic after all, yet no need to go that far) i dropped out of college, my mind is kinda peaceful, her name doesnt affect me much anymore, i dont even see her and im trying to learn programming myself and focus on my family a little but i feel im still unmotivated and losing way so much i cant even focus on a single task at all like every minute i wanna do something different. Bored maybe?
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Yep, last 2020, i had a breakup before graduating senior high past year i have stressful college with toxic teachers who think themselves as gods(i know its hard, its pandemic after all, yet no need to go that far) i dropped out of college, my mind is kinda peaceful, her name doesnt affect me much anymore, i dont even see her and im trying to learn programming myself and focus on my family a little but i feel im still unmotivated and losing way so much i cant even focus on a single task at all like every minute i wanna do something different. Bored maybe?
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Mate
I mean at the end of everything life is being happy or having a good time.
But at the end of time there is nothing to create. It will end at some point so why care about it. If I became homeless and just died, what does anyone care about that. Like 2 people would care. No reason to do anything if it means nothing. I want to help but my help is going to mean nothing at some point so I dont see any reason to do anything. There is no drive to do anything if I means nothing. Nothing is all there is. Something is nothing at a time.
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I mean at the end of everything life is being happy or having a good time.
But at the end of time there is nothing to create. It will end at some point so why care about it. If I became homeless and just died, what does anyone care about that. Like 2 people would care. No reason to do anything if it means nothing. I want to help but my help is going to mean nothing at some point so I dont see any reason to do anything. There is no drive to do anything if I means nothing. Nothing is all there is. Something is nothing at a time.
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Reyn
For me is being overwhelmed by stress: family problems, college problems, personal problems, decision making problems, past regret problems, etc.
Like, I used to open my laptop and do some personal projects, or do some drawings, or even just try record some singing. overall enjoying my lone time.
But these few years, i got less and less motivated with the uprising of problems here and there. Im not even involved in certain problems, but always got dragged by it, and eventually forced into the problems.
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For me is being overwhelmed by stress: family problems, college problems, personal problems, decision making problems, past regret problems, etc.
Like, I used to open my laptop and do some personal projects, or do some drawings, or even just try record some singing. overall enjoying my lone time.
But these few years, i got less and less motivated with the uprising of problems here and there. Im not even involved in certain problems, but always got dragged by it, and eventually forced into the problems.
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Maytrisha03
I'm experiencing this right now. I'm always thinking about my future (I'm still finding for a job) but I can't figure what I want to be, but I feel like I am not motivated or maybe because I don't have inspiration to think of, in my mind I want to do something but I don't know how to start. I don't, I'm frustrated. Ugh! I hate this feeling. Can someone tell me what needs to be done to get out of this nightmare?
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I'm experiencing this right now. I'm always thinking about my future (I'm still finding for a job) but I can't figure what I want to be, but I feel like I am not motivated or maybe because I don't have inspiration to think of, in my mind I want to do something but I don't know how to start. I don't, I'm frustrated. Ugh! I hate this feeling. Can someone tell me what needs to be done to get out of this nightmare?
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Corn
I feel like most people their safe/happy places would be their house or bedroom and the place they would feel stressed around is work or school, its the opposite for me I feel way happier in school because I have great friends who help me with anything I need but at home there is problems with my parents and sometimes my sisters can be really mean. Just wanted to say for any one else who can relate (:
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I feel like most people their safe/happy places would be their house or bedroom and the place they would feel stressed around is work or school, its the opposite for me I feel way happier in school because I have great friends who help me with anything I need but at home there is problems with my parents and sometimes my sisters can be really mean. Just wanted to say for any one else who can relate (:
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Rainbow
Structure and tasks is my weakness I have awful lack motivation especially as getting older this video highlights a area but not ability structure and task and not able stick to task pretty difficult although a idea small tasks building structure and with a plan if relapse with its ok to have a off day its not failure its a moment need TLC maybe take a break holiday moment a spar pampering etc
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Structure and tasks is my weakness I have awful lack motivation especially as getting older this video highlights a area but not ability structure and task and not able stick to task pretty difficult although a idea small tasks building structure and with a plan if relapse with its ok to have a off day its not failure its a moment need TLC maybe take a break holiday moment a spar pampering etc
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Blood
Number three is my unmotivated area, I don't work, not yet, but I make small goals and ny surroundings (people around me) say such negative things, I have little goals planned during the day to start a routine, that I don't have, but it's hard.
I love watching your guys videos btw! - been watching them since around Halloween of last year: 3
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Number three is my unmotivated area, I don't work, not yet, but I make small goals and ny surroundings (people around me) say such negative things, I have little goals planned during the day to start a routine, that I don't have, but it's hard.
I love watching your guys videos btw! - been watching them since around Halloween of last year: 3
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Mostritoz
Im so unmotivated, the future scares me knowing ill be left with responsibility. The older I get the expectation of me having to do things on my own is scary. I don't know what to do after college and my motivation to finishing college dosent want to. I feel if i finished college i will face the world and not know where to go or do.
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Im so unmotivated, the future scares me knowing ill be left with responsibility. The older I get the expectation of me having to do things on my own is scary. I don't know what to do after college and my motivation to finishing college dosent want to. I feel if i finished college i will face the world and not know where to go or do.
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Cheryl
All of your points describe my issues getting accomplished too a tee. Mine is not work but home. I've lived outside for the last two years and now i have a house. Moved in with my boyfriend and been given free reign to clean and organize. I got started and have nothing but a giant tornado. I'm overwhelmed and lost and miss the woods
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All of your points describe my issues getting accomplished too a tee. Mine is not work but home. I've lived outside for the last two years and now i have a house. Moved in with my boyfriend and been given free reign to clean and organize. I got started and have nothing but a giant tornado. I'm overwhelmed and lost and miss the woods
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education
I can definitely say that environment, from my understanding, controls a majority of how i experience things. Constantly being in bad environments seem to shut down any desire to improve. I used to be highly functional and well routined. Now everything is chaotic and it's hard to see things ever returning to a higher function.
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I can definitely say that environment, from my understanding, controls a majority of how i experience things. Constantly being in bad environments seem to shut down any desire to improve. I used to be highly functional and well routined. Now everything is chaotic and it's hard to see things ever returning to a higher function.
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Lari-chan
Relatable. In first class i was always motivated to do my hw and i made them during class and after school also in weekends and vacation. But now i want to do my hw or study but i feel too tired to do it and i gotta do them all at the last moment and during vacation and weekends im just slacking by sleeping a lot: (
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Relatable. In first class i was always motivated to do my hw and i made them during class and after school also in weekends and vacation. But now i want to do my hw or study but i feel too tired to do it and i gotta do them all at the last moment and during vacation and weekends im just slacking by sleeping a lot: (
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Kaito
After hearing the idea of creating unrealistic goals, it makes me wonder. Ive heard many people talk about glorifying things like obesity, overworking, etc. I dont think glorifying either is good. Where is the balance between working hard enough without overworking, and being gentle with oneself without being coddling?
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After hearing the idea of creating unrealistic goals, it makes me wonder. Ive heard many people talk about glorifying things like obesity, overworking, etc. I dont think glorifying either is good. Where is the balance between working hard enough without overworking, and being gentle with oneself without being coddling?
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Tinu
Thanks for the great video. I am currently struggling a lot. I tried to set a small goal like wake up early every day. I even can't do that. When i wake up and feel so unmotivated or stressful that i like to sleep more. I don't know what to do i am trying my best to stay motivated but i just can't seems to do it.
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Thanks for the great video. I am currently struggling a lot. I tried to set a small goal like wake up early every day. I even can't do that. When i wake up and feel so unmotivated or stressful that i like to sleep more. I don't know what to do i am trying my best to stay motivated but i just can't seems to do it.
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vaibhavi
Everyday I am feeling non motivated, burn out, and it also feels like I have no goal. Even though I have exam in few months, I just finished my board exams. Which were really horrible for me. Now I am exhausted pigeon. And my family and teachers are calling me lazy. But this video really helped me. Thank you
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Everyday I am feeling non motivated, burn out, and it also feels like I have no goal. Even though I have exam in few months, I just finished my board exams. Which were really horrible for me. Now I am exhausted pigeon. And my family and teachers are calling me lazy. But this video really helped me. Thank you
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Lexi
I have all of these, the only thing is I am too young to have anything to be depressed about. I sometimes feel so sad, and I dont really have any reason too. But I dont know if its me feeling guilty for being so mean and rude to people. I dont know, I need help
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I have all of these, the only thing is I am too young to have anything to be depressed about. I sometimes feel so sad, and I dont really have any reason too. But I dont know if its me feeling guilty for being so mean and rude to people. I dont know, I need help
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reijen28
The video content is relatable for me at the moment. I feel umotivated because of the surroundings and currently, I am doing my best to move forward and selectively choose my bottle. All mentioned in this video is super informative. Thanks Psych2go!
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The video content is relatable for me at the moment. I feel umotivated because of the surroundings and currently, I am doing my best to move forward and selectively choose my bottle. All mentioned in this video is super informative. Thanks Psych2go!
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Ayush
Well I have been sleeping around 10 to 11 hr per day but still feel tired, feel sluggish and sleepy all the day, lack concentration. And sometimes my breath just stop and I have to take breath through mouth for around 2 to 3 minutes
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Well I have been sleeping around 10 to 11 hr per day but still feel tired, feel sluggish and sleepy all the day, lack concentration. And sometimes my breath just stop and I have to take breath through mouth for around 2 to 3 minutes
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Sooner
1) you can't do 26 miles, just 20 miles. that is something.
2) take a day off from that, and multitask, things that you've been needing to do(i have been so, and doing a little at a time. ) just figure it out something.
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1) you can't do 26 miles, just 20 miles. that is something.
2) take a day off from that, and multitask, things that you've been needing to do(i have been so, and doing a little at a time. ) just figure it out something.
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