8 Signs Your Trauma Is Still Haunting Your Life
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How do we think and feel about ourselves and what we think we deserve, to be drawn to same kind of ppl that will def, Be bad to you, no, we don't draw, we don't want, we just cave in because we think things will turn out better, we are lonely, and the old saying, take in good with the bad, no we aren't looking for those types. We rather have, someone who can be not that way at all, don't start up anything, don't go crazy off of pettey crap, dealing with ppl that surrounds us outside, difficult, rather come home to a women that won't be difficult, those are the types that would help out a lot, but too bad because it only sounds like a fairy tale, or catering to the person, just lots of ppl don't want to do that, chaos must be, but I wouldn't want to be mixed up with someone that will create chaos, but oh well.
If I were to let go of old trauma, how would I get a better person? The old saying, not everyone is like that, no. We don't want that in our lives, we can't be like ha ha ha, it's nothing, the older u get, you know, some maybe feeling like they are too old to feel like yelling at a person, nor do they want to, some like me, don't want it at all, but again, trouble comes about and dealing with a person calmly, isn't going to work for so long. Aslo with the whole ppl just either realize things, but they either do and don't care, or they don't see their own wrong, that's the type of ppl to stay far from. Can't change a person, Etc, well then rather have stood away, the person is too harsh and will show the whole, hey things are ok but not ok again, don't want that neither, oh well the person isn't going to grow out of this stage, then oh well too bad? Some of the other things that were mentioned like physical intimacy, and such, we want, but some are too afraid. Rather bad timing, not good to do it and such at times, we say screw that and go for it. It's not so much of a problem for me, but eh, can't. Has nothing to do with not being man enough, too shy, just, it doesn't feel right. Maybe if we are bf or gf to one another then sure, but hey we can't, the we can't. I've also noticed that respect plays a huge part so that's another thing. Others think and believe in one way, I have my way, at the core, respect is earned, not minipulating or try to over through it, just respect, can't to it then early it's a this person will not respect u at all, so the whole look for signs, Damn right better look for signs because ppl hide there signs and rather push over there ways with u and they won't believe there the ones causing problems, so it has to be easy, most likely, when it's easy, this person u told no to because this and that and the person keeps over stepping, u know, the person has no respect so most likely will keep on hurting u so bye to the person.
Date: 2023-08-20
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Kumoneko
I didnt even realize what I went through traumatized me until this year. I thought if I called it trauma Id be over exaggerating it. Im still young, but Im scarred. I had little to no social life, I didnt fit in with the strict Christian/Mormon environment, and was homeschooled. I became obsessed with online games to socialize, and my mother took them away because we didnt clean up after ourselves. I was severely depressed as we would get grounded randomly for months and months at a time. I resorted to sneaking onto said games, and got caught. When I got caught my mom would scream and yell like she did when we didnt clean up the house well enough. But I was desperate and depressed so I kept sneaking on and kept getting caught. She had us putting all our bedroom fun things into bags to put in the shed. I think that was the worst one. Im tearing up just thinking about it now, so I wont go further. My dad got her to stop. But he got a head injury and cant work still to this day. Its been years. Now that Im in public school (came out to her as trans, thats a whole other experience itself. A bad one) and have friends its getting much better and now that Ive realized Im hurt this way Im learning how to fix it. These videos help a lot. I had a therapist but she left the company so im taking a bit of a break. Ill get a new one soon. Its super hard to me to open up to people and I dont trust people with that information, especially face-to-face or on video. Thank you for the content it really helps me feel known.
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I didnt even realize what I went through traumatized me until this year. I thought if I called it trauma Id be over exaggerating it. Im still young, but Im scarred. I had little to no social life, I didnt fit in with the strict Christian/Mormon environment, and was homeschooled. I became obsessed with online games to socialize, and my mother took them away because we didnt clean up after ourselves. I was severely depressed as we would get grounded randomly for months and months at a time. I resorted to sneaking onto said games, and got caught. When I got caught my mom would scream and yell like she did when we didnt clean up the house well enough. But I was desperate and depressed so I kept sneaking on and kept getting caught. She had us putting all our bedroom fun things into bags to put in the shed. I think that was the worst one. Im tearing up just thinking about it now, so I wont go further. My dad got her to stop. But he got a head injury and cant work still to this day. Its been years. Now that Im in public school (came out to her as trans, thats a whole other experience itself. A bad one) and have friends its getting much better and now that Ive realized Im hurt this way Im learning how to fix it. These videos help a lot. I had a therapist but she left the company so im taking a bit of a break. Ill get a new one soon. Its super hard to me to open up to people and I dont trust people with that information, especially face-to-face or on video. Thank you for the content it really helps me feel known.
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iiANTIXSOCIAL
Number 2 and 3 go hand in hand for me. When my trauma first struck, I was so bloody paranoid that everyone around me was gonna treat me just as bad as my ex-best friend (I'll call her Maple. Idk if I had a panic attack or simply just an anxiety attack, but I couldn't breathe, I was so paranoid. I read too much into every action someone did for me, like be nice to me for example. Maple was always nice to me, but then stabbed me in the back terribly, even though I didn't know it was her (literally. I'm quite closed off, and only really tell personal things to one of my close irl friends, and my boyfriend because I told Maple something really personal, and I fear that she told people about it. I have a hard time trusting others because my friends haven't really done things for me to show that I can trust them. 99% of my friends aren't really open about themselves, and we usually keep to ourselves aside from vent in the server from time to time. We don't really do things for each other either. All we do is hang out. My parents have told me that instance with Maple will likely be a one time thing, and that not everyone is like her. While I've healed quite a lot thanks to my boyfriend and some friends who've supported me after I told them about what Maple did, I believe I still have things to deal with. The things I've done for myself are: set boundaries, communicate, stand up for myself if I see any clear negative signs, and not take shit from anyone. Not all nice people are bad after all.
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Number 2 and 3 go hand in hand for me. When my trauma first struck, I was so bloody paranoid that everyone around me was gonna treat me just as bad as my ex-best friend (I'll call her Maple. Idk if I had a panic attack or simply just an anxiety attack, but I couldn't breathe, I was so paranoid. I read too much into every action someone did for me, like be nice to me for example. Maple was always nice to me, but then stabbed me in the back terribly, even though I didn't know it was her (literally. I'm quite closed off, and only really tell personal things to one of my close irl friends, and my boyfriend because I told Maple something really personal, and I fear that she told people about it. I have a hard time trusting others because my friends haven't really done things for me to show that I can trust them. 99% of my friends aren't really open about themselves, and we usually keep to ourselves aside from vent in the server from time to time. We don't really do things for each other either. All we do is hang out. My parents have told me that instance with Maple will likely be a one time thing, and that not everyone is like her. While I've healed quite a lot thanks to my boyfriend and some friends who've supported me after I told them about what Maple did, I believe I still have things to deal with. The things I've done for myself are: set boundaries, communicate, stand up for myself if I see any clear negative signs, and not take shit from anyone. Not all nice people are bad after all.
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education
Well. I used to consider myself as the happiest person with no stress and anxiety but something was off but I didn't knew it. Unfortunately since last year I get to know what's wrong with me. When I was 5 or 6 y/o a senior who used to call himself my brother's friend used to play with me & my elder brother after our school used to get off. He used to harras me or touch me inappropriately in my brother's absence. I was too young to know what was happening. Even after many years I didn't realised it. After 12 years when I was thinking about my school life (cuz it's my last year in school) I remembered that incident and realised that I was assaulted. I've really been scared, seriously scared from boys since childhood and now I realised why. I'm not too much affected by it now. but some bad effects are still there, like how I cannot trust any guy easily even when I know him since many years and how an unknown guy scares the heck out of me. I've started to accept it and I'm trying to move on as well.
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Well. I used to consider myself as the happiest person with no stress and anxiety but something was off but I didn't knew it. Unfortunately since last year I get to know what's wrong with me. When I was 5 or 6 y/o a senior who used to call himself my brother's friend used to play with me & my elder brother after our school used to get off. He used to harras me or touch me inappropriately in my brother's absence. I was too young to know what was happening. Even after many years I didn't realised it. After 12 years when I was thinking about my school life (cuz it's my last year in school) I remembered that incident and realised that I was assaulted. I've really been scared, seriously scared from boys since childhood and now I realised why. I'm not too much affected by it now. but some bad effects are still there, like how I cannot trust any guy easily even when I know him since many years and how an unknown guy scares the heck out of me. I've started to accept it and I'm trying to move on as well.
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Brittany
Idk if identifying a problem alone is gunna help be get over the issues I have.
I dont trust anyone anymore and am always waiting for the other shoe to drop. Ive ghosted 4 people this year including my case manager for counseling because of this
When someone has done such an amazing job at pretending to be a positive person and helped build you up only to tear you down months later its hard to not question everything going forward
How am I supposed to know if if someone is toxic or not? Thats why Ive been struggling with.
When someone can be very positive for 3 months straight, until a flip goes off and the mask is permanently gone one day how do you learn to trust again after that? I feel like I cant tell whos good or not anymore because it all feels like a bunch of lies
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Idk if identifying a problem alone is gunna help be get over the issues I have.
I dont trust anyone anymore and am always waiting for the other shoe to drop. Ive ghosted 4 people this year including my case manager for counseling because of this
When someone has done such an amazing job at pretending to be a positive person and helped build you up only to tear you down months later its hard to not question everything going forward
How am I supposed to know if if someone is toxic or not? Thats why Ive been struggling with.
When someone can be very positive for 3 months straight, until a flip goes off and the mask is permanently gone one day how do you learn to trust again after that? I feel like I cant tell whos good or not anymore because it all feels like a bunch of lies
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Video
I did something regretful, I hurt someone who's been hurt in the passed, which made them led to what this video is about (more or less, and I tried to apologize and try calming them down, but I think they expect me to be like the people who hurt them.
I talked to other people about what happened, and it seems to be miss communicates and assumptions.
I want to try getting a mediator after explaining everything, and try to make amends, cause they haven't truly done anything to deserve it, but there needs to be establishment to keep it from happening again.
(Keeping them from feeling like they deserve to be chastised, but also trying to talk it out before making assumptions and getting the wrong idea, and also breaking habits and keeping a cool head (last parts me)
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I did something regretful, I hurt someone who's been hurt in the passed, which made them led to what this video is about (more or less, and I tried to apologize and try calming them down, but I think they expect me to be like the people who hurt them.
I talked to other people about what happened, and it seems to be miss communicates and assumptions.
I want to try getting a mediator after explaining everything, and try to make amends, cause they haven't truly done anything to deserve it, but there needs to be establishment to keep it from happening again.
(Keeping them from feeling like they deserve to be chastised, but also trying to talk it out before making assumptions and getting the wrong idea, and also breaking habits and keeping a cool head (last parts me)
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gnarth
What if you don't think it exists? Love with the capital L. Happiness. A genuine sense of well being.
What if you just don't believe any of those things exist? They simply have a temporary placeholder emotional state until that next shoe drops. AND you're only the hero of your story until you've lived long enough to become the villain.
Maybe I'm just overthinking everything. Maybe I'm just so screwed up that I'll never really heal from it. Maybe there's only so far I can go. and maybe, I can commiserate with others like me.
Maybe that's about all any of us can really do. ;o)
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What if you don't think it exists? Love with the capital L. Happiness. A genuine sense of well being.
What if you just don't believe any of those things exist? They simply have a temporary placeholder emotional state until that next shoe drops. AND you're only the hero of your story until you've lived long enough to become the villain.
Maybe I'm just overthinking everything. Maybe I'm just so screwed up that I'll never really heal from it. Maybe there's only so far I can go. and maybe, I can commiserate with others like me.
Maybe that's about all any of us can really do. ;o)
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C6
I do feel like all friendships will fail. I feel like im not cool or good enough. This was bcuz i failed at 2 firendships, and both of them didnt give me a reason. I always felt that it my problem. So i tries to fix it on my own but i still could not understand. I tried convincing myself that they are toxic and ican find better friend, but then i still struggled. I dont know what is friends anymore, even im with really positive ppl, i still cannot connect or vibe with them.
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I do feel like all friendships will fail. I feel like im not cool or good enough. This was bcuz i failed at 2 firendships, and both of them didnt give me a reason. I always felt that it my problem. So i tries to fix it on my own but i still could not understand. I tried convincing myself that they are toxic and ican find better friend, but then i still struggled. I dont know what is friends anymore, even im with really positive ppl, i still cannot connect or vibe with them.
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Leo
i was homeless only a mater of months ago. was in hotels for 6 months nearly. i finally got into an appartment with my family. yesterday was my 21st birthday and im horrified we will be evicted tomorrow. i have adhd and only gotten diagnosed after years of work literally last week. i havnt had a job in so long, and the ones i have had i was never the best or most comfortable in. i was just nearly comfortable in my bed again. i dont want to put my cats through that again.
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i was homeless only a mater of months ago. was in hotels for 6 months nearly. i finally got into an appartment with my family. yesterday was my 21st birthday and im horrified we will be evicted tomorrow. i have adhd and only gotten diagnosed after years of work literally last week. i havnt had a job in so long, and the ones i have had i was never the best or most comfortable in. i was just nearly comfortable in my bed again. i dont want to put my cats through that again.
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Jimbissle
It is amazing how deep and strong these wounds/issues can be. And how well they can hide. Waiting. My experience is that the worst of it only showed when I had finally found 'The One'. Suddenly stuff surfaced I had no idea how to deal with. Nor where it came from. My inability to deal made me ruin love. All I can do now is work though it, so if I ever get another chance, I can be a better me. I hope better for all you. It matters.
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It is amazing how deep and strong these wounds/issues can be. And how well they can hide. Waiting. My experience is that the worst of it only showed when I had finally found 'The One'. Suddenly stuff surfaced I had no idea how to deal with. Nor where it came from. My inability to deal made me ruin love. All I can do now is work though it, so if I ever get another chance, I can be a better me. I hope better for all you. It matters.
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aRandomBaguette
Oh boy
looks at list
Yup still have trauma
Unhealthy relationship I should leave but helps me ignore worse things
looking for signs of trouble, still have trouble walking alone outside
Trouble trusting, oh yea 100%
Struggle with physical intimacy, I still twitch when my literal bro touches my shoulder to help me off the ground
I mean the nightmares and flashbacks were prob enough evidence but hey
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Oh boy
looks at list
Yup still have trauma
Unhealthy relationship I should leave but helps me ignore worse things
looking for signs of trouble, still have trouble walking alone outside
Trouble trusting, oh yea 100%
Struggle with physical intimacy, I still twitch when my literal bro touches my shoulder to help me off the ground
I mean the nightmares and flashbacks were prob enough evidence but hey
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Rachel
I thought my emotional trauma from my past has been better or somewhat healed but after watching this video it makes sense why I cant find the right boyfriend or be closer with my friends. Cause I have most of the things in this video. Im not sad or anything its just now I have clarity of why Im feeling like this. Now I can get the right help to make me better
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I thought my emotional trauma from my past has been better or somewhat healed but after watching this video it makes sense why I cant find the right boyfriend or be closer with my friends. Cause I have most of the things in this video. Im not sad or anything its just now I have clarity of why Im feeling like this. Now I can get the right help to make me better
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Patrick
A lot of these things are definitely pathologies however. I wouldn't use these axioms as a way to measure a person's trauma. There's many reasons why people do these things that are based in reason and based in self-love not based in trauma. This video is not as helpful as people may think
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A lot of these things are definitely pathologies however. I wouldn't use these axioms as a way to measure a person's trauma. There's many reasons why people do these things that are based in reason and based in self-love not based in trauma. This video is not as helpful as people may think
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Danilo
How am I supposed to reach out to a health professional today if I don't have money, time nor the support for it? Everybody around me don't take it serious and I feel like a fool. I don't know what to do and feel lost and miserable. How is it I can feel lost and trapped at the same time?
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How am I supposed to reach out to a health professional today if I don't have money, time nor the support for it? Everybody around me don't take it serious and I feel like a fool. I don't know what to do and feel lost and miserable. How is it I can feel lost and trapped at the same time?
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EnbyStorms
I most definitely have unhealed trama. My current problem is my negative thinking (Pessimistic. It started with my my now ex toxic Pessimistic friend. Their negatively affected me so much that after I was finnaly free (after 2 years) I started being negative.
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I most definitely have unhealed trama. My current problem is my negative thinking (Pessimistic. It started with my my now ex toxic Pessimistic friend. Their negatively affected me so much that after I was finnaly free (after 2 years) I started being negative.
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eiafuawnnz
I have so many signs that I've been through both physical and emotional abuse and I can't remember anything bad happening? could it be possible that those things that I can remember just a little bit but not fully can be affecting me?
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I have so many signs that I've been through both physical and emotional abuse and I can't remember anything bad happening? could it be possible that those things that I can remember just a little bit but not fully can be affecting me?
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David
0: 05 I feel bad that Psi is driving in the rain with broken wipers.
Though I struggle with the happy part because when I get happy something bad usually happens. When I'm Blah everything stays status quo.
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0: 05 I feel bad that Psi is driving in the rain with broken wipers.
Though I struggle with the happy part because when I get happy something bad usually happens. When I'm Blah everything stays status quo.
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NotSunnyNight
I have a question for you, Is it possible for someone to get trama by having constant nightmares? ( Sorry if I have bothered you! Btw the nightmares started happening to me when I was 3 years old )
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I have a question for you, Is it possible for someone to get trama by having constant nightmares? ( Sorry if I have bothered you! Btw the nightmares started happening to me when I was 3 years old )
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Nick
Though its difficult I know but if You feel determined & busy yourself in errands then you'll cope up and keep away from being haunted.
I know it's easy to teach twenty rather than being one of them.
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Though its difficult I know but if You feel determined & busy yourself in errands then you'll cope up and keep away from being haunted.
I know it's easy to teach twenty rather than being one of them.
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AGaming
Im afraid that being happy will be selfish and robbing of the others who cant be happy since theyre suffering way more than me. Am I truly allowed to be happy when not everyone on earth is happy?
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Im afraid that being happy will be selfish and robbing of the others who cant be happy since theyre suffering way more than me. Am I truly allowed to be happy when not everyone on earth is happy?
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Plysdyret1
I have been bullied in school. I did have a husband, but we divorced 18 years ago, and I haven't had anyone since. Maybe I am thinking that I don't deserve it. Maybe it's just too hard work.
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I have been bullied in school. I did have a husband, but we divorced 18 years ago, and I haven't had anyone since. Maybe I am thinking that I don't deserve it. Maybe it's just too hard work.
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the
Ever since my trauma, Ive been always looking out who could be dangerous to me and sometimes their looks even could oppose a threat to me because they look similar to the ones who hurt me
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Ever since my trauma, Ive been always looking out who could be dangerous to me and sometimes their looks even could oppose a threat to me because they look similar to the ones who hurt me
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Nadia
How can I stop identifying with every single word in this video without getting therapy, bc therapists are expensive and usually neglectful in a third-world country like mine?
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How can I stop identifying with every single word in this video without getting therapy, bc therapists are expensive and usually neglectful in a third-world country like mine?
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Nao
I am working on stop having emotions, I don't want to look weak. I just think depression is something unpure. I have a trauma but I think I should just forget that I have one
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I am working on stop having emotions, I don't want to look weak. I just think depression is something unpure. I have a trauma but I think I should just forget that I have one
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HALOFROG
It's crazy that I just watched the video because you uploaded it, only to find myself relating to almost all (for not saying all) of the points.
Being a human is hard
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It's crazy that I just watched the video because you uploaded it, only to find myself relating to almost all (for not saying all) of the points.
Being a human is hard
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