5 Types of People You Shouldn't Date
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Date: 2023-08-20
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God
I'm going to shower me with attention and my awareness. I'm going to give me a lot of my time. I'm going to be in physical proximity to me. I'm going to touch me, hold me, cuddle me. I'm going to try to connect with me physically, emotionally, intellectually, spiritually. I'm going to take good care of me. I'm going to care about my needs. I'm going to help me to meet my needs. I'm going to help me to survive. I'm going to shelter me from excessive suffering, fear and trauma. I'm going to have my back. I'm going to defend me and be loyal to me. I'm going to take on my agenda as my own. I'm going to make me an extension of you. I'm going to treat me as well as i would treat myself. I'm going to be happy for me when I succeed. I'm going to want for me what me most want for myself. I'm going to sacrifice for me and work on my behalf. I'm going to support me nurture me and encourage me. I'm going to cheerlead me. I'm going to encourage my self-exploration, self-expression and self-actualization. I'm going to respect my sovereignty as a consciousness. I'm not going to try to manipulate me, control me, dominate me or exploit me. I'm going to totally accept me and never judge me. I'm going to value me for my sake and appreciate me and see my intrinsic beauty. I'm not going to need anything from me and I'm not going to make me a tool to satisfy my own needs. I'm going to respect my point of view, wanting to understand my point of view, wanting to understand me, my uniqueness, taking the time to deeply get to know me. I'm not going to force your agenda or point of view on me. I'm going to listen to me and care about my interests and share similar interests with me. I'm going to develop togetherness with me and collaborate with me. I'm going to be there for me when i'm down and hopeless. I'm going to be there for me when I'm lonely. I'm going to validate my feelings, sharing my emotions with me, empathizing with me. My pain is going to be my pain. I'm going to meet me where I'm at, at my developmental level. I'm going to forgive me for my mistakes.
I'm going to be patient with me. I'm going to see the good in me even when I don't see the good in myself. I'm going to be generous and kind. I'm going to give myself verbal approval and praise. I'm going to compliment me on my uniqueness. I'm going to keep my promises to me. I'm going to keep my peace with me, avoid conflict with me. I'm going to tell the truth to me. I'm going to be able to fully trust me and I'm never going to cash in on that trust. I'm going to see my realness, warts and shadow and all as I truly are. I'm going to deeply appreciate the finite portion of consciousness that me are and I'm going to accept my selfishness whenever me have the urge to be selfish. Now ask myself on a scale of 0 to 10 how loved do me feel? Open Your Eyes.
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I'm going to shower me with attention and my awareness. I'm going to give me a lot of my time. I'm going to be in physical proximity to me. I'm going to touch me, hold me, cuddle me. I'm going to try to connect with me physically, emotionally, intellectually, spiritually. I'm going to take good care of me. I'm going to care about my needs. I'm going to help me to meet my needs. I'm going to help me to survive. I'm going to shelter me from excessive suffering, fear and trauma. I'm going to have my back. I'm going to defend me and be loyal to me. I'm going to take on my agenda as my own. I'm going to make me an extension of you. I'm going to treat me as well as i would treat myself. I'm going to be happy for me when I succeed. I'm going to want for me what me most want for myself. I'm going to sacrifice for me and work on my behalf. I'm going to support me nurture me and encourage me. I'm going to cheerlead me. I'm going to encourage my self-exploration, self-expression and self-actualization. I'm going to respect my sovereignty as a consciousness. I'm not going to try to manipulate me, control me, dominate me or exploit me. I'm going to totally accept me and never judge me. I'm going to value me for my sake and appreciate me and see my intrinsic beauty. I'm not going to need anything from me and I'm not going to make me a tool to satisfy my own needs. I'm going to respect my point of view, wanting to understand my point of view, wanting to understand me, my uniqueness, taking the time to deeply get to know me. I'm not going to force your agenda or point of view on me. I'm going to listen to me and care about my interests and share similar interests with me. I'm going to develop togetherness with me and collaborate with me. I'm going to be there for me when i'm down and hopeless. I'm going to be there for me when I'm lonely. I'm going to validate my feelings, sharing my emotions with me, empathizing with me. My pain is going to be my pain. I'm going to meet me where I'm at, at my developmental level. I'm going to forgive me for my mistakes.
I'm going to be patient with me. I'm going to see the good in me even when I don't see the good in myself. I'm going to be generous and kind. I'm going to give myself verbal approval and praise. I'm going to compliment me on my uniqueness. I'm going to keep my promises to me. I'm going to keep my peace with me, avoid conflict with me. I'm going to tell the truth to me. I'm going to be able to fully trust me and I'm never going to cash in on that trust. I'm going to see my realness, warts and shadow and all as I truly are. I'm going to deeply appreciate the finite portion of consciousness that me are and I'm going to accept my selfishness whenever me have the urge to be selfish. Now ask myself on a scale of 0 to 10 how loved do me feel? Open Your Eyes.
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guess
People you should avoid dating:
1. Emotional dumpers
2. The Clingy one
3. The perfectionist
4. The narcissist (they do not take accountability for anything and will not be past gaslighting and manipulating.
5. The toxic communicator
6. The avoidant (if you put clingyness as a problem, I say the extremely avoidant types should be avoided as well. Their go-to coping mechanism is to escape from the situation instead of facing their problems straight on. It can look like vanishing after an argument for a week and stuff like that. It can be very taxing to try to be with someone who's almost never there.
7. The older man/woman (they'll dump you when you start aging. This is a very specific one bc I believe in love. But. Some really are like Leo DiCaprio.
8. The sadistic manipulator. (They enjoy psychologically tormenting you. If you are Italian you will typically want this in a relationship)
9. The womanizer/manizer. (Kind of people that get some kind of validation from male/female attention)
I could probably think of more. But I think as long as you two have a goal in mind as a couple, if you want to work together and not against each other, if you truly care about each other, if you have good communication, respect, trust, attraction, and fun in a relationship; you're set! The thing is with the types described in the video and the ones I added here. A stable and healthy relationship with all the things I described is imo impossible to achieve.
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People you should avoid dating:
1. Emotional dumpers
2. The Clingy one
3. The perfectionist
4. The narcissist (they do not take accountability for anything and will not be past gaslighting and manipulating.
5. The toxic communicator
6. The avoidant (if you put clingyness as a problem, I say the extremely avoidant types should be avoided as well. Their go-to coping mechanism is to escape from the situation instead of facing their problems straight on. It can look like vanishing after an argument for a week and stuff like that. It can be very taxing to try to be with someone who's almost never there.
7. The older man/woman (they'll dump you when you start aging. This is a very specific one bc I believe in love. But. Some really are like Leo DiCaprio.
8. The sadistic manipulator. (They enjoy psychologically tormenting you. If you are Italian you will typically want this in a relationship)
9. The womanizer/manizer. (Kind of people that get some kind of validation from male/female attention)
I could probably think of more. But I think as long as you two have a goal in mind as a couple, if you want to work together and not against each other, if you truly care about each other, if you have good communication, respect, trust, attraction, and fun in a relationship; you're set! The thing is with the types described in the video and the ones I added here. A stable and healthy relationship with all the things I described is imo impossible to achieve.
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Rostiel
Someone once gave me a couple of pieces of advice regarding picking a partner.
1- While you're dating, don't compare them to previous relationships you've had. They are not the same person. They are bound to have different character traits and their own set of personal problems and demons that they are fighting. So treat every relationship like a brand new experience and try to see the person in front of you.
2- Don't forget your boundaries. At some point, after the initial rush of a new relationship dies down a bit, sit down and assess. By this point you probably learned a few things about your partner. Things you like and things you dislike. One thing my boyfriend's mother advised me on was: if you can find 5 things that you do not like in your partner, things you can not accept, things that you don't objectively see yourself being able to live with. then it's best for both of you to just stop to avoid heartache and senseless fighting. A conversation is obviously necessary.
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Someone once gave me a couple of pieces of advice regarding picking a partner.
1- While you're dating, don't compare them to previous relationships you've had. They are not the same person. They are bound to have different character traits and their own set of personal problems and demons that they are fighting. So treat every relationship like a brand new experience and try to see the person in front of you.
2- Don't forget your boundaries. At some point, after the initial rush of a new relationship dies down a bit, sit down and assess. By this point you probably learned a few things about your partner. Things you like and things you dislike. One thing my boyfriend's mother advised me on was: if you can find 5 things that you do not like in your partner, things you can not accept, things that you don't objectively see yourself being able to live with. then it's best for both of you to just stop to avoid heartache and senseless fighting. A conversation is obviously necessary.
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Gabriel
I am on a relatioship, and I think that I AM a Emotional Dumper and a Clingy person, I always like to talk with my partner and tell her how much I love her, sometimes out of nowhere without any reason, just because a felt like I needed so, I tell her my problems and she tells me solutions that I just dont follow, I look my discord often to talk with her, and I usually see her talking with a friend of mine, and I see that she speaks with him a lot more joyfull than with me, I see that with him, she is able to talk a lot more without getting sleepy late in the night (Somedays I go to work on some projects of mine and see that is 4AM and she is still talking with him, when with me she usually gets sleppy around midnight. I dont know why but I feel that she would be better of without me, and I am just annoying her, sometimes I think I should just go away of her life. and that makes me feel so guilty.
sorry for any english error, I am not a native
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I am on a relatioship, and I think that I AM a Emotional Dumper and a Clingy person, I always like to talk with my partner and tell her how much I love her, sometimes out of nowhere without any reason, just because a felt like I needed so, I tell her my problems and she tells me solutions that I just dont follow, I look my discord often to talk with her, and I usually see her talking with a friend of mine, and I see that she speaks with him a lot more joyfull than with me, I see that with him, she is able to talk a lot more without getting sleepy late in the night (Somedays I go to work on some projects of mine and see that is 4AM and she is still talking with him, when with me she usually gets sleppy around midnight. I dont know why but I feel that she would be better of without me, and I am just annoying her, sometimes I think I should just go away of her life. and that makes me feel so guilty.
sorry for any english error, I am not a native
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Manson
I want to tell my story similar to this video. More than 1 year. I meet a girl named Isa, she used to be the person that actually does good things for herself and myself. Most of us are all on games because Me and Isa are not in the same country and we always miss each other. She has said countless nice things to me and always knows when to text me at the perfect time. She always sends emojis full of happiness. but after one mistake from myself, she has left me: (. I will never try and date this type of person again, it had broken my heart very harshly. I couldn't even forgive what she said back a few days ago. I was soo disappointed from her. Every sadness and depression was all from her. After thinking for quite some time, I have finally let her go and become the real me but one part of my mind and heart still thinks about her.
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I want to tell my story similar to this video. More than 1 year. I meet a girl named Isa, she used to be the person that actually does good things for herself and myself. Most of us are all on games because Me and Isa are not in the same country and we always miss each other. She has said countless nice things to me and always knows when to text me at the perfect time. She always sends emojis full of happiness. but after one mistake from myself, she has left me: (. I will never try and date this type of person again, it had broken my heart very harshly. I couldn't even forgive what she said back a few days ago. I was soo disappointed from her. Every sadness and depression was all from her. After thinking for quite some time, I have finally let her go and become the real me but one part of my mind and heart still thinks about her.
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lux.
My first boyfriend was an emotional dumper and a toxic communicator, and I tried to be supportive and help him, but in the end all I got was a You don't get me at all how would you know? I was going through a hard time too, because I had to spend almost 24/7 with him and couldn't catch up with my social life with my friends. My work and dating balance was absolutely ruined and I seemed to be doing unwell mentally at the time. He said that he loved me and that's why he's saying all these things, and also why it's MY JOB to help him. So I was there to support him. But later on it got harder and harder for me to keep up with him for 2 years straight, and at that point I gave up and broke up with him.
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My first boyfriend was an emotional dumper and a toxic communicator, and I tried to be supportive and help him, but in the end all I got was a You don't get me at all how would you know? I was going through a hard time too, because I had to spend almost 24/7 with him and couldn't catch up with my social life with my friends. My work and dating balance was absolutely ruined and I seemed to be doing unwell mentally at the time. He said that he loved me and that's why he's saying all these things, and also why it's MY JOB to help him. So I was there to support him. But later on it got harder and harder for me to keep up with him for 2 years straight, and at that point I gave up and broke up with him.
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SubCloud
I was in a relationshio with an emotional dumper, they showered all their problems on me, i tried helping them, one time i didnt talk to them because i was busy helping my grandparents, and a couple of weeks later they broke up with me because of that. Before i didnt talk to them, i let them know i was busy, and there was a chance i wouldn't be able to talk, but all they did everyday, was make me feel bad for them, and get me to stay because they did stuff that made me happy, or so i thought. I found out they were manipularive after the relationship. I still miss them, but i know i dont deserve to be treated like that, and have others play with my emotions.
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I was in a relationshio with an emotional dumper, they showered all their problems on me, i tried helping them, one time i didnt talk to them because i was busy helping my grandparents, and a couple of weeks later they broke up with me because of that. Before i didnt talk to them, i let them know i was busy, and there was a chance i wouldn't be able to talk, but all they did everyday, was make me feel bad for them, and get me to stay because they did stuff that made me happy, or so i thought. I found out they were manipularive after the relationship. I still miss them, but i know i dont deserve to be treated like that, and have others play with my emotions.
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education
my past relationship was with an emotional dumper but i genuinely tried to be there for them- it didnt really work out and we broke up because they wanted to focus on themselves and i support that 100% but i sometimes wonder if it was because it seem like i didnt care because i never knew what to say- and they also called and texted me so often it got overwhelming and i didnt know what to do and i could never be myself around them- i had to mask and pretend to not be drained- im glad were still friends but idk
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my past relationship was with an emotional dumper but i genuinely tried to be there for them- it didnt really work out and we broke up because they wanted to focus on themselves and i support that 100% but i sometimes wonder if it was because it seem like i didnt care because i never knew what to say- and they also called and texted me so often it got overwhelming and i didnt know what to do and i could never be myself around them- i had to mask and pretend to not be drained- im glad were still friends but idk
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Fobo
Also be sure to talk to the person and communicate to them if youre concerned they're one of these, some people are pretty flexible and dont mind venting less or texting less or whatever, ive been abandoned by friends before who just didn't communicate to me that there was issues in the relationship that i'd have been fine with compromising on and sorting out but just never got the chance to cuz they didn't talk to me and just let their emotions blow up to the point talking about it wasn't an option to them
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Also be sure to talk to the person and communicate to them if youre concerned they're one of these, some people are pretty flexible and dont mind venting less or texting less or whatever, ive been abandoned by friends before who just didn't communicate to me that there was issues in the relationship that i'd have been fine with compromising on and sorting out but just never got the chance to cuz they didn't talk to me and just let their emotions blow up to the point talking about it wasn't an option to them
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Ilia
This video could be detrimental to your relationships. It teaches you, that not only people fall in some categories and types (which is untrue for the most part, but also they show the extremes, like it's the norm.
Most people are definitely not like that. So, don't buy this crap. There is a path to every hearth, don't be pre-judgmental when you interact with others.
And don't forget we're all humans, and nobody is perfect. Including the people, who create those videos.
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This video could be detrimental to your relationships. It teaches you, that not only people fall in some categories and types (which is untrue for the most part, but also they show the extremes, like it's the norm.
Most people are definitely not like that. So, don't buy this crap. There is a path to every hearth, don't be pre-judgmental when you interact with others.
And don't forget we're all humans, and nobody is perfect. Including the people, who create those videos.
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cafcreme1
i had a recent breakup (long distant relationship)
then my ex said she will come back and she's actually waiting for me and won't be dating anyone
we broke up some weeks prior because she said she didn't loved me
then, friday, she said a boy asked to date her- and now, TODAY she said she actually accepted without thinking and now she regrets it, she told him and the boy started crying. what do i do?
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i had a recent breakup (long distant relationship)
then my ex said she will come back and she's actually waiting for me and won't be dating anyone
we broke up some weeks prior because she said she didn't loved me
then, friday, she said a boy asked to date her- and now, TODAY she said she actually accepted without thinking and now she regrets it, she told him and the boy started crying. what do i do?
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Jazz
I'm clingy as hell, and so is my boyfriend, & I'm constantly going on about my problems. Even though based off this video, we shouldn't be dating each other, we. are doing just fine, 8 years later. We're able to work through our problems together.
Remember, even if someone is struggling with an issue, it doesn't mean they aren't fixable. Work through it together, not alone, and you'll persevere.
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I'm clingy as hell, and so is my boyfriend, & I'm constantly going on about my problems. Even though based off this video, we shouldn't be dating each other, we. are doing just fine, 8 years later. We're able to work through our problems together.
Remember, even if someone is struggling with an issue, it doesn't mean they aren't fixable. Work through it together, not alone, and you'll persevere.
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Nightmare
Should I go to therapy i like watching things that make me sad/cry like i watch sad relatable videos for fun or like when im feeling meh and i have adhd autism anxiety and im scared to ask my parents for therapy cause they might be like why your fine or whats wrong you can tell me you don't need therapy and i have social anxiety so ya psych2go what should I do and do i need therapy
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Should I go to therapy i like watching things that make me sad/cry like i watch sad relatable videos for fun or like when im feeling meh and i have adhd autism anxiety and im scared to ask my parents for therapy cause they might be like why your fine or whats wrong you can tell me you don't need therapy and i have social anxiety so ya psych2go what should I do and do i need therapy
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Roberta
Is all confiding considered emotional dumping? I think it can be possible to overcorrect to the point that you fail to get close to each other because you dont know each other deeply. I think Ive kept friendships and other relationships too shallow due to not wanting to be a burden and being too cautious and circumspect in what I discuss with others of my own emotions.
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Is all confiding considered emotional dumping? I think it can be possible to overcorrect to the point that you fail to get close to each other because you dont know each other deeply. I think Ive kept friendships and other relationships too shallow due to not wanting to be a burden and being too cautious and circumspect in what I discuss with others of my own emotions.
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Sir
The spotlight All they do is project.
The amateur psychiatrist They did a semester of intro to psychology and now they will analyze everything you say or do so they can heal you.
The amateur psychic She knows your every thought and action before you do. She's already pinpointed the exact moment that you're going to dump her or cheat on her and she will remind you.
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The spotlight All they do is project.
The amateur psychiatrist They did a semester of intro to psychology and now they will analyze everything you say or do so they can heal you.
The amateur psychic She knows your every thought and action before you do. She's already pinpointed the exact moment that you're going to dump her or cheat on her and she will remind you.
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Adliyana
Dang! I think I am 1, 2, 3 and 5 in my relationship. I realize it sometimes and I am trying to improve myself alot. Can I give a suggestion if you could please make a video on how people dealing with these each 5 issues to improve themselves? Sometimes, we had developed ourselves this way because of the upbringing and environment that we are living. Thank you!
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Dang! I think I am 1, 2, 3 and 5 in my relationship. I realize it sometimes and I am trying to improve myself alot. Can I give a suggestion if you could please make a video on how people dealing with these each 5 issues to improve themselves? Sometimes, we had developed ourselves this way because of the upbringing and environment that we are living. Thank you!
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Tam
I think the most type of people we should never ever ever ever ever ever dateeeee is someone who like acting in life so much that they cannot be their true self and cannot be real to others in term of honesty and yet, I see a lot of this type out there but well, they are some get dated, married, anddddd divorcessss. Congrats to generations!
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I think the most type of people we should never ever ever ever ever ever dateeeee is someone who like acting in life so much that they cannot be their true self and cannot be real to others in term of honesty and yet, I see a lot of this type out there but well, they are some get dated, married, anddddd divorcessss. Congrats to generations!
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Alyssa
I was an emotional dumper. I can't stress enough how important it is to set boundaries with people like that. I didn't need a partner then, I needed a therapist. I'm okay now, because I got the help I really needed. Even if the person you like is really cool, maybe try again when they've really worked through stuff for your own sake: ')
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I was an emotional dumper. I can't stress enough how important it is to set boundaries with people like that. I didn't need a partner then, I needed a therapist. I'm okay now, because I got the help I really needed. Even if the person you like is really cool, maybe try again when they've really worked through stuff for your own sake: ')
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GrapeTheFox
Toxic Communicator sounds like my ex, they would hate everything I liked and even if its was a character or movie or anything they previously loved they would start hating it because I liked it. They would also do stuff they knew I disliked, and I would take it all because I just kept reassuring myself it was a joke
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Toxic Communicator sounds like my ex, they would hate everything I liked and even if its was a character or movie or anything they previously loved they would start hating it because I liked it. They would also do stuff they knew I disliked, and I would take it all because I just kept reassuring myself it was a joke
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education
Your 'informations' are always about 'good' and 'bad'. That's not how psychology works. It is about identifying problems and working on them. And your question in the comments 'are you guilty of any of this'. Tell me you are a superficial American without telling me that you are a superficial American.
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Your 'informations' are always about 'good' and 'bad'. That's not how psychology works. It is about identifying problems and working on them. And your question in the comments 'are you guilty of any of this'. Tell me you are a superficial American without telling me that you are a superficial American.
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Faith
So, i kinda like myself the way i am, but for love, you should try to be better, so that means they don't need you, they need someone better or different
Love is way too complicated, but that's the only way to get support that isn't brought by parental duty, it's genuine and noone owns it to you =(
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So, i kinda like myself the way i am, but for love, you should try to be better, so that means they don't need you, they need someone better or different
Love is way too complicated, but that's the only way to get support that isn't brought by parental duty, it's genuine and noone owns it to you =(
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Kate
My ex had all of these to some degree. Refused to give me any kind of space right off the bat, disrespected every boundary I set, lied, gaslit, manipulated, controlled. Then threatened and stalked me after I broke up with him, and still calls me even though he got a new girlfriend who has kids his age.
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My ex had all of these to some degree. Refused to give me any kind of space right off the bat, disrespected every boundary I set, lied, gaslit, manipulated, controlled. Then threatened and stalked me after I broke up with him, and still calls me even though he got a new girlfriend who has kids his age.
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Lion_San
Damn I can be explosive with my emotions and overwhelming my partner, without intention to hurt them and I never realized this, I was just so insecure and clung with low self esteem, Im not sure how to better myself, I dont know how to not be explosive and emotionally healthy alone
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Damn I can be explosive with my emotions and overwhelming my partner, without intention to hurt them and I never realized this, I was just so insecure and clung with low self esteem, Im not sure how to better myself, I dont know how to not be explosive and emotionally healthy alone
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Smooth
I was kinda clingy in a relationship i had back when i was 19. Had been in 2 back-to-back emotionally abusive relationships and got overly attached to someone that was actually sane. Self fulfilling prophecy 101 with that shit but i was young and didn't realize until way after.
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I was kinda clingy in a relationship i had back when i was 19. Had been in 2 back-to-back emotionally abusive relationships and got overly attached to someone that was actually sane. Self fulfilling prophecy 101 with that shit but i was young and didn't realize until way after.
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Jay
Every video that you make sounds as if you're whispering late at night, afraid of anyone hearing you. Speak up and have some conviction in your voice. whining and mumbling aren't projecting confidence in your videos, which is why I can't get past the minute mark on most.
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Every video that you make sounds as if you're whispering late at night, afraid of anyone hearing you. Speak up and have some conviction in your voice. whining and mumbling aren't projecting confidence in your videos, which is why I can't get past the minute mark on most.
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