5 Signs Someone Is TOXIC, Not You
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Date: 2023-08-20
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This helpsa little bit. My ex best friend used to be my best friend, but when she was, she acted like I wasnt her best friend.
It used to be just me and her until she got other friends. All of her friends turned out to be horrible. One of her friends I liked but they betrayed me.
Every time when my best friend said I was being rude shed always tell me I was like her ex-friend. She made more friends too. They rhymed names with us and I started to dislike them but I played along. She made videos with them and played but stopped talking to me. I was already starting to get jealous. But one of those friends when i met them were mean to me for no reason. Her name was Mabel. I started to understand how she acted like me when I was rude and she was better but my ex best friend and her friends yelled at her to stop, she finally did. Then I met addie and evie.
Not knowing that one of them would ruin my life completely and nearly give me depression. Evie ruined it all soon and blamed me, I dont really blame my ex bestie for this, evie and addie just manipulated her into saying that I wasnt her best friend. Now when I look at my besties yt acc (Abadoottle) after when we started talking again I was glad but then we were enemies. And then in her yt acc she put a ghost on my face before that it said Abbie what have u learned? Then the song sang People can go from people u know to people u dont. Luckily I made a new friend she played with her and said I was with a famous ytber! I told her shes bad then the next vid I saw months later said
Bestie: (me)
Enemy: Abadoottle
After I saw that I smiled a big grin.
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This helpsa little bit. My ex best friend used to be my best friend, but when she was, she acted like I wasnt her best friend.
It used to be just me and her until she got other friends. All of her friends turned out to be horrible. One of her friends I liked but they betrayed me.
Every time when my best friend said I was being rude shed always tell me I was like her ex-friend. She made more friends too. They rhymed names with us and I started to dislike them but I played along. She made videos with them and played but stopped talking to me. I was already starting to get jealous. But one of those friends when i met them were mean to me for no reason. Her name was Mabel. I started to understand how she acted like me when I was rude and she was better but my ex best friend and her friends yelled at her to stop, she finally did. Then I met addie and evie.
Not knowing that one of them would ruin my life completely and nearly give me depression. Evie ruined it all soon and blamed me, I dont really blame my ex bestie for this, evie and addie just manipulated her into saying that I wasnt her best friend. Now when I look at my besties yt acc (Abadoottle) after when we started talking again I was glad but then we were enemies. And then in her yt acc she put a ghost on my face before that it said Abbie what have u learned? Then the song sang People can go from people u know to people u dont. Luckily I made a new friend she played with her and said I was with a famous ytber! I told her shes bad then the next vid I saw months later said
Bestie: (me)
Enemy: Abadoottle
After I saw that I smiled a big grin.
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THE
I have an extremely toxic, manipulative, and gaslighting ex-bestie. She does everything on this list and more, and she's literally ruining my life. She's turned everyone against me and just the thought of her makes me want to break a window. Then people say that I'm 'exaggerating' or 'changing the story'.
Once I wrote what was going on down in my vent notebook that I bring everywhere and I accidentally left it out and she and her toxic friends READ THROUGH IT, then got mad at me and said that I was writing sht about her and showing it to people even though I never share my vent notebook with anyone. Plus, even if I was showing it to other people, they have no proof at all.
I try to avoid her but she always comes up to me and starts being rude out of nowhere. She made fun of my mental disorder, threatened to k! ll herself because of me (but never did, and so much more, and now she's got all my friends thinking she's this angel who came straight from Heaven to make the world a paradise.
Also, when I'm being 'annoying', they give me the silent treatment and until I apologize. It might not sound so bad from this short description of just a few of the things she's done, but the full story would take all day to write. This has been going on for almost 2 school years now, and I'm sick of it. My mental health has been going downhill ever since. It's getting so bad that now I'm considering suicide. Please, help me. I need some advice. And I'll be praying for anyone else who is going through the same thing as me.
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I have an extremely toxic, manipulative, and gaslighting ex-bestie. She does everything on this list and more, and she's literally ruining my life. She's turned everyone against me and just the thought of her makes me want to break a window. Then people say that I'm 'exaggerating' or 'changing the story'.
Once I wrote what was going on down in my vent notebook that I bring everywhere and I accidentally left it out and she and her toxic friends READ THROUGH IT, then got mad at me and said that I was writing sht about her and showing it to people even though I never share my vent notebook with anyone. Plus, even if I was showing it to other people, they have no proof at all.
I try to avoid her but she always comes up to me and starts being rude out of nowhere. She made fun of my mental disorder, threatened to k! ll herself because of me (but never did, and so much more, and now she's got all my friends thinking she's this angel who came straight from Heaven to make the world a paradise.
Also, when I'm being 'annoying', they give me the silent treatment and until I apologize. It might not sound so bad from this short description of just a few of the things she's done, but the full story would take all day to write. This has been going on for almost 2 school years now, and I'm sick of it. My mental health has been going downhill ever since. It's getting so bad that now I'm considering suicide. Please, help me. I need some advice. And I'll be praying for anyone else who is going through the same thing as me.
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Normal?
Hey, I just wanted to know if she was toxic for turning overstepping of boundaries into false accusations of rape especially after fixing said boundaries. I never tried to hurt them but I did and I accepted that but I apologized for the wrong thing. She has cptsd and I believe she may have had one without my knowledge and it is possible the way she feels could be based on a delusion. I however after our breakup did become toxic as I was really clingy and tried so hard to fix our relationship to the point of disrespecting her boundaries and I nearly took my life from it multiple times and I made it her problem which she didn't deserve to go through. But did I deserve to be labeled as the very thing I strived to never be why after so much care I put in does this person decide to say that to me. It traumatized me and I still believe that maybe I did do something because I still love her but I know I didn't because everyone tells me otherwise based on all the stuff I told them by memory (had to write them all down to keep me sane btw) I no longer trusted my own judgement anymore I felt detached from my own actions it didn't make sense to me but I accepted it at the time. Back then In my head and hers I was the villain I felt responsible for all of her pain and I didn't want to live with that.
Is she toxic or am I toxic or were we both toxic?
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Hey, I just wanted to know if she was toxic for turning overstepping of boundaries into false accusations of rape especially after fixing said boundaries. I never tried to hurt them but I did and I accepted that but I apologized for the wrong thing. She has cptsd and I believe she may have had one without my knowledge and it is possible the way she feels could be based on a delusion. I however after our breakup did become toxic as I was really clingy and tried so hard to fix our relationship to the point of disrespecting her boundaries and I nearly took my life from it multiple times and I made it her problem which she didn't deserve to go through. But did I deserve to be labeled as the very thing I strived to never be why after so much care I put in does this person decide to say that to me. It traumatized me and I still believe that maybe I did do something because I still love her but I know I didn't because everyone tells me otherwise based on all the stuff I told them by memory (had to write them all down to keep me sane btw) I no longer trusted my own judgement anymore I felt detached from my own actions it didn't make sense to me but I accepted it at the time. Back then In my head and hers I was the villain I felt responsible for all of her pain and I didn't want to live with that.
Is she toxic or am I toxic or were we both toxic?
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dodokuu
I used to have a friend like that before. She was so sincere at first, our conversations were funny we used to laugh a lot when we were together. I have loved her so much (ofc as a friend) my respect and love to her was beyond a normal friendship. but she was more shyer than me and she wasn't showing her love as much as i do.
then we started to high school and she started to act weirdly. she was never being kind to me and she despised me in front of her new friends. i felt so insecure. i have always been next to her whenever she needs me, i was caring, kind, helpful but she didn't do any of that to me. i decided to leave her. and she literally sticked onto me, like she's not the one who broke my heart and shattered my feelings. that was the FIRST time she ever apologied to me. but i didn't give her a second chance. we haven't talked since then and i am happier, my self esteem has been increased, i feel mentally better. she was a huge blackhole exploiting everyone next to her. i hope she's ok now. don't let them use you guys.
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I used to have a friend like that before. She was so sincere at first, our conversations were funny we used to laugh a lot when we were together. I have loved her so much (ofc as a friend) my respect and love to her was beyond a normal friendship. but she was more shyer than me and she wasn't showing her love as much as i do.
then we started to high school and she started to act weirdly. she was never being kind to me and she despised me in front of her new friends. i felt so insecure. i have always been next to her whenever she needs me, i was caring, kind, helpful but she didn't do any of that to me. i decided to leave her. and she literally sticked onto me, like she's not the one who broke my heart and shattered my feelings. that was the FIRST time she ever apologied to me. but i didn't give her a second chance. we haven't talked since then and i am happier, my self esteem has been increased, i feel mentally better. she was a huge blackhole exploiting everyone next to her. i hope she's ok now. don't let them use you guys.
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Dottore
I have a friend who always makes me practically beg for them to tell me anything. Theyre e like OMG SOMETHING GREAT HAPPENED! and Ill say, Oh what happened? And theyll always say, Noo I cant tell you! I say, please? They say no. It goes over a few times and by the end they have this huge smirk thing on their face and tell me half of it. Then they pause and Ill ask if theres more and theyll say yes. Then I have to beg all over again. This happens with almost everything. If I want to borrow something, this happens. And depending on the thing I only get it for a minute to half an hour. (Tbh I have no idea what I would get to keep for half an hour but Im sure something. Another thing is she is trying to turn everyone against my other friend bc my other friend accidentally told another person that she didnt know was the toxic persons secret. (It was what was in a bag. Do yea thats my toxic person striy
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I have a friend who always makes me practically beg for them to tell me anything. Theyre e like OMG SOMETHING GREAT HAPPENED! and Ill say, Oh what happened? And theyll always say, Noo I cant tell you! I say, please? They say no. It goes over a few times and by the end they have this huge smirk thing on their face and tell me half of it. Then they pause and Ill ask if theres more and theyll say yes. Then I have to beg all over again. This happens with almost everything. If I want to borrow something, this happens. And depending on the thing I only get it for a minute to half an hour. (Tbh I have no idea what I would get to keep for half an hour but Im sure something. Another thing is she is trying to turn everyone against my other friend bc my other friend accidentally told another person that she didnt know was the toxic persons secret. (It was what was in a bag. Do yea thats my toxic person striy
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Felicia
I struggle with boundaries. I'm not trying to be toxic. My problem is that I can't always tell where a specific person's boundaries are. One friend could be totally okay with me rushing over to their home when they are feeling down while another friend can be overwhelmed by it. I guess you learn as the relationship grows, but I always feel badly about crossing a boundary that was not clear, especially when I thought I was being helpful. I apologize repeatedly and usually start crying because I hate hurting people I love. Plus, I don't want people to view my caring without understanding as toxic. I'm not good with reading all social cues, so I need clarity. I need people to clearly let me know their boundaries and if they shift during our friendship/relationship.
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I struggle with boundaries. I'm not trying to be toxic. My problem is that I can't always tell where a specific person's boundaries are. One friend could be totally okay with me rushing over to their home when they are feeling down while another friend can be overwhelmed by it. I guess you learn as the relationship grows, but I always feel badly about crossing a boundary that was not clear, especially when I thought I was being helpful. I apologize repeatedly and usually start crying because I hate hurting people I love. Plus, I don't want people to view my caring without understanding as toxic. I'm not good with reading all social cues, so I need clarity. I need people to clearly let me know their boundaries and if they shift during our friendship/relationship.
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Ci
This reminds me of several people who upped and ditched me. wow/damn: . I made some mistakes with them myself as well here and there, but I'm still stuck in a state of denial. I'm still trying to falsely justify getting literally backstabbed pretty much, being told I'm a lot of things and that it's all my fault, and I'm trying to get over the fact that a threat one of them left me last-minute still bugs me. I literally see most if not all of these traits in several of those former 'friends', and. yeah. Least to say, I'm glad I'm with better people now that treat me much better. Thanks for giving me a little push in a more awake direction! Been loving these videos and the perspectives and intellect they offer.
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This reminds me of several people who upped and ditched me. wow/damn: . I made some mistakes with them myself as well here and there, but I'm still stuck in a state of denial. I'm still trying to falsely justify getting literally backstabbed pretty much, being told I'm a lot of things and that it's all my fault, and I'm trying to get over the fact that a threat one of them left me last-minute still bugs me. I literally see most if not all of these traits in several of those former 'friends', and. yeah. Least to say, I'm glad I'm with better people now that treat me much better. Thanks for giving me a little push in a more awake direction! Been loving these videos and the perspectives and intellect they offer.
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Saphire
Its hard to tell if the person Im thinking of is toxic or not cuz the relationship is online but she barely talks to me and (please if youre just gonna be judgmental dont read any further or at least dont comment I really dont want others negative opinions) so basically imin an open relationship with her but theres barely any communication and she never tells me who shes with and she barely talks to me and when I bring it up she always comes up with something like Ive been stressed with school Ive been sick my pet died my friend died and I can never tell whats real and whats not since half the time she never brings it back up and she often leaves me mid conversation without any reasoning
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Its hard to tell if the person Im thinking of is toxic or not cuz the relationship is online but she barely talks to me and (please if youre just gonna be judgmental dont read any further or at least dont comment I really dont want others negative opinions) so basically imin an open relationship with her but theres barely any communication and she never tells me who shes with and she barely talks to me and when I bring it up she always comes up with something like Ive been stressed with school Ive been sick my pet died my friend died and I can never tell whats real and whats not since half the time she never brings it back up and she often leaves me mid conversation without any reasoning
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David
I would always wash my Exs dishes after she got off of work so she could rest immediately. I would also was her dishes before she went to work so that she wouldnt have to rush. But I didnt like to wash her dishes when she was just sitting around lounging about. In my mind, it made me feel like she wasnt doing her part. Anyways, we got into a fight about the dishes where she had the nerve to say well you always do the dishes and you never told me to wash my dishes AFTER I told her why I wash her dishes in the first place. I then broke it off with her after seeing how toxic, manipulative and irresponsible she was. Took away a year of my Fing life.
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I would always wash my Exs dishes after she got off of work so she could rest immediately. I would also was her dishes before she went to work so that she wouldnt have to rush. But I didnt like to wash her dishes when she was just sitting around lounging about. In my mind, it made me feel like she wasnt doing her part. Anyways, we got into a fight about the dishes where she had the nerve to say well you always do the dishes and you never told me to wash my dishes AFTER I told her why I wash her dishes in the first place. I then broke it off with her after seeing how toxic, manipulative and irresponsible she was. Took away a year of my Fing life.
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Shrek
My ex best friend was a very toxic person. She manipulated my feelings and emotions, never apologized to me and she also kinda forced me into the friendship. One evening I was so drained from talking to her/having to deal with her and I finally told my parents about her toxicness ) and I have cried more than I ever have before. (She even caused me to sh but I luckily recovered) Anyways shes still friends with my friends but we both have no contact anymore. Were not even talking anymore and all the teachers at our school know about this whole thing. And, from what I have heard from others, I can say that shes still talking shit about me: /
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My ex best friend was a very toxic person. She manipulated my feelings and emotions, never apologized to me and she also kinda forced me into the friendship. One evening I was so drained from talking to her/having to deal with her and I finally told my parents about her toxicness ) and I have cried more than I ever have before. (She even caused me to sh but I luckily recovered) Anyways shes still friends with my friends but we both have no contact anymore. Were not even talking anymore and all the teachers at our school know about this whole thing. And, from what I have heard from others, I can say that shes still talking shit about me: /
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RIZZO
I cut off a toxic friend recently she had all but one of these traits, and I'm so glad I did especially because of how she acted after I cut her off, she basically talked to our mutuals about the situation (which I didn't want to do because I thought it was a thing between us) and I lost my best friend of 6 years in the process, I could have cut her off better probably to not lead to that but like its been so nice and so much better without her in my life. Note to anyone out there, if you need a full day to recover from hanging out with a person because they give you headaches or panic attacks the day after then they aren't good for you
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I cut off a toxic friend recently she had all but one of these traits, and I'm so glad I did especially because of how she acted after I cut her off, she basically talked to our mutuals about the situation (which I didn't want to do because I thought it was a thing between us) and I lost my best friend of 6 years in the process, I could have cut her off better probably to not lead to that but like its been so nice and so much better without her in my life. Note to anyone out there, if you need a full day to recover from hanging out with a person because they give you headaches or panic attacks the day after then they aren't good for you
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stereoplexus
I've been trying really hard to repair my relationship with my fiance. She has bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder, so I try my best not to hold some things against her. Things have gotten bad. She tells me I'm a monster and I'm evil and controlling for trying to set boundaries or tell her how I feel. she says I'm manipulating her whenever I try to stand up for myself. She even sent me this video to try to prove to me that I'm a piece of crap. I love her a lot and idk what to do and idk if I'm toxic I'm trying my hardest not to be and to act like an adult
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I've been trying really hard to repair my relationship with my fiance. She has bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder, so I try my best not to hold some things against her. Things have gotten bad. She tells me I'm a monster and I'm evil and controlling for trying to set boundaries or tell her how I feel. she says I'm manipulating her whenever I try to stand up for myself. She even sent me this video to try to prove to me that I'm a piece of crap. I love her a lot and idk what to do and idk if I'm toxic I'm trying my hardest not to be and to act like an adult
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Reese
my brothers are toxic. I love them but there behaviors match with everything in the video. Im emotionally drained and im tired, they constintlly make themselves look like the victim and they manipulate the situations and gaslight by adding in things that were never said. Its pointless to agrue with them. In the end it always hurts me and never them because they think there never wrong. There is never a real apology from them, people have to tell them to apologize and they then say a fake sorry like what was described in the video.
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my brothers are toxic. I love them but there behaviors match with everything in the video. Im emotionally drained and im tired, they constintlly make themselves look like the victim and they manipulate the situations and gaslight by adding in things that were never said. Its pointless to agrue with them. In the end it always hurts me and never them because they think there never wrong. There is never a real apology from them, people have to tell them to apologize and they then say a fake sorry like what was described in the video.
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Fairy
Today I started crying and my mother got kinda mad cause she thought I was crying became She saif I couldn't play on my pc while we were eating and that I always played. But I have not had any time to relax, and we weren't even eating yet. I said to her that no matter what I did I couldn't get it right, that I never did enough and could never etc. But then she said I was just like my grandmother and was victimising myself, making her the bad guy and that she couldn't open her mouth. I said sorry tho. Am I toxic?
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Today I started crying and my mother got kinda mad cause she thought I was crying became She saif I couldn't play on my pc while we were eating and that I always played. But I have not had any time to relax, and we weren't even eating yet. I said to her that no matter what I did I couldn't get it right, that I never did enough and could never etc. But then she said I was just like my grandmother and was victimising myself, making her the bad guy and that she couldn't open her mouth. I said sorry tho. Am I toxic?
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Meo
My mom is exactly like that, I always feel drained of energy when shes around. Its like holding hands or hugging someone thats made of posin and you cant escape it cuz they manipulate you and tell you that without them youd be homeless and on the streets. Even my dad is the same way. They even tell me to do so much labor much more than the rest of the household. I cant even work yet due to my fractured ankle. The environment I live in is completely toxic. And I dont feel happy at all.
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My mom is exactly like that, I always feel drained of energy when shes around. Its like holding hands or hugging someone thats made of posin and you cant escape it cuz they manipulate you and tell you that without them youd be homeless and on the streets. Even my dad is the same way. They even tell me to do so much labor much more than the rest of the household. I cant even work yet due to my fractured ankle. The environment I live in is completely toxic. And I dont feel happy at all.
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Parth
My friend has made me force to do things and puts pressure on Me he created this gang which we both came up with and it was made as a society. that you need to befriend on of us but he put it to the next level and if you anger him 3 times then you could not talk to him and the members of the gang. l have stood in fear of him ever since he had created the gang. he makes me feel like I am in prisen envy time I am with him
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My friend has made me force to do things and puts pressure on Me he created this gang which we both came up with and it was made as a society. that you need to befriend on of us but he put it to the next level and if you anger him 3 times then you could not talk to him and the members of the gang. l have stood in fear of him ever since he had created the gang. he makes me feel like I am in prisen envy time I am with him
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Raevman
All of these points. fit perfectly in on my wife, whom I'm divorcing because I can't stand her psychological and physical abuse against me. and she is currently, in the middle of discussing custody over our son. accusing me of being the violent one and that I have raped her. on top of for years, telling someone she knew from her home country (Croatia, that she will do ANYTHING to win custody over our son.
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All of these points. fit perfectly in on my wife, whom I'm divorcing because I can't stand her psychological and physical abuse against me. and she is currently, in the middle of discussing custody over our son. accusing me of being the violent one and that I have raped her. on top of for years, telling someone she knew from her home country (Croatia, that she will do ANYTHING to win custody over our son.
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Xem
My friend had ex bsf, she always get mad at her for little things like not saving her in game or being late do something. She also never give out a good apologize. She will say i cant be mad at u forever like no pages or at least say im sorry for hurting your feelings, now hearing how u feel I understand i will do better now. My friend always had to apologize when it was not her fault.
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My friend had ex bsf, she always get mad at her for little things like not saving her in game or being late do something. She also never give out a good apologize. She will say i cant be mad at u forever like no pages or at least say im sorry for hurting your feelings, now hearing how u feel I understand i will do better now. My friend always had to apologize when it was not her fault.
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maria_acefans
Its because of how bad they are affecting me which is exactly what is causing me to affect others, yk? Like I just always seem to bring the mood down and can never relate to others because of that feeling of being trapped that I just cant make friends or keep friends. I dont know how to talk to others and Im scared I may hurt them.
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Its because of how bad they are affecting me which is exactly what is causing me to affect others, yk? Like I just always seem to bring the mood down and can never relate to others because of that feeling of being trapped that I just cant make friends or keep friends. I dont know how to talk to others and Im scared I may hurt them.
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J.
I've been married 23 years. Marriage is hard work. My wife and I each exhibit 1 or more of these traits at different times. I feel that this video is not accurate because it describes things in black/white terms, but most couples aren't a clear victim/perpetrator dynamic, but both partners have attributes they need to work on and improve.
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I've been married 23 years. Marriage is hard work. My wife and I each exhibit 1 or more of these traits at different times. I feel that this video is not accurate because it describes things in black/white terms, but most couples aren't a clear victim/perpetrator dynamic, but both partners have attributes they need to work on and improve.
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Daisy
Sometimes people say Im toxic and mean, rude, bad and heartless this video makes me have some hope Im not the toxic one and I know sometimes I mess up in communicating. but the one about personal space describes me look I may sometimes just keep looking through their bag as a joke but this actually make me like really toxic?
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Sometimes people say Im toxic and mean, rude, bad and heartless this video makes me have some hope Im not the toxic one and I know sometimes I mess up in communicating. but the one about personal space describes me look I may sometimes just keep looking through their bag as a joke but this actually make me like really toxic?
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Fengari
I've had some issues with a pair of toxic friends who hung out with my arch-nemesis, but I've broken away from them. I still felt like I was the one in the wrong even after posting my story on AITA (it got deleted, but this came in just in time to help reassure me! Thank you for being the best mind readers!
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I've had some issues with a pair of toxic friends who hung out with my arch-nemesis, but I've broken away from them. I still felt like I was the one in the wrong even after posting my story on AITA (it got deleted, but this came in just in time to help reassure me! Thank you for being the best mind readers!
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Rickless
My best advice Don't let overconfident get to you because they know alot sarcastically way how they imagining about you with sarcastic. That how cruel way because they still love to be $$hole so don't let overconfident hurt your feeling they still thoughtless as $h! t.
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My best advice Don't let overconfident get to you because they know alot sarcastically way how they imagining about you with sarcastic. That how cruel way because they still love to be $$hole so don't let overconfident hurt your feeling they still thoughtless as $h! t.
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CMB3000
You know what the worst kind of toxic person is
The kind that your stuck with and can't walk from. Because maybe it's a family member or someone your working with for legal reasons.
It's so irritating
Why can't people just be respectful towards one another
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You know what the worst kind of toxic person is
The kind that your stuck with and can't walk from. Because maybe it's a family member or someone your working with for legal reasons.
It's so irritating
Why can't people just be respectful towards one another
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poltergeist
My friend since I was 5 yrs old has at least 3/5 of these traits and I used to think I didn't like her friend but now I realize that I don't like her but I can't get out because I won't have any other friends and our parents are friends so I have no choice
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My friend since I was 5 yrs old has at least 3/5 of these traits and I used to think I didn't like her friend but now I realize that I don't like her but I can't get out because I won't have any other friends and our parents are friends so I have no choice
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