7 Things Manipulative People Say
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Date: 2023-08-20
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My mother, my sister and my father all of them said those exact words to me through years of my life. 22 years of life. Been manipulated, lied to, yelled at, felt scared, blamed for things i didn't even do, been laughed at, bullied, pushed around, felt very hurt, lonely, full of hatred for those people. A year ago, i was very depressed, i stayed in the house for 2 months and never left the house once during those 2 months. I had suicidal thoughts, self hatred, self criticism, felt a lot of pain in my chest because of the stress. I tried to kill myself with scissors but i couldn't do it. Fell in love with a woman who didn't feel the same way about me. I had a slight drinking problem but i stopped a long time ago. I numbed myself a lot for a long time. I felt nothing and my mind was blank. I began feeling again, i was yelled at again and again by my mother, my sister and my by father. I was becoming numb again but this time i pinched myself and i did some push ups and i was feeling again. I felt warm and alive. I am still struggling these days but i am better compared to the way i felt a year ago. For a whole year. And i'm not going to give up on myself. And one day, possibly pretty soon, i'm going to cut off all contact with my parents and my sister for good and never be bothered by them ever again and simply make my own happiness in every way. For those people who have struggled with similar things, i'm sorry about that and i hope that you guys are a lot better these days. And for those who are still going through that, do what's best for you. Whether you choose to let go of those people completely or want to be a family again, that is entirely up to you. I wish all of you peace, love, kindness, respect, joy, happiness and strength. Never give up and never surrender.
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My mother, my sister and my father all of them said those exact words to me through years of my life. 22 years of life. Been manipulated, lied to, yelled at, felt scared, blamed for things i didn't even do, been laughed at, bullied, pushed around, felt very hurt, lonely, full of hatred for those people. A year ago, i was very depressed, i stayed in the house for 2 months and never left the house once during those 2 months. I had suicidal thoughts, self hatred, self criticism, felt a lot of pain in my chest because of the stress. I tried to kill myself with scissors but i couldn't do it. Fell in love with a woman who didn't feel the same way about me. I had a slight drinking problem but i stopped a long time ago. I numbed myself a lot for a long time. I felt nothing and my mind was blank. I began feeling again, i was yelled at again and again by my mother, my sister and my by father. I was becoming numb again but this time i pinched myself and i did some push ups and i was feeling again. I felt warm and alive. I am still struggling these days but i am better compared to the way i felt a year ago. For a whole year. And i'm not going to give up on myself. And one day, possibly pretty soon, i'm going to cut off all contact with my parents and my sister for good and never be bothered by them ever again and simply make my own happiness in every way. For those people who have struggled with similar things, i'm sorry about that and i hope that you guys are a lot better these days. And for those who are still going through that, do what's best for you. Whether you choose to let go of those people completely or want to be a family again, that is entirely up to you. I wish all of you peace, love, kindness, respect, joy, happiness and strength. Never give up and never surrender.
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Astrixzx
for me, I was in a relationship for someone for a little while who justified their trauma for everything and ANYTHING, especially for emotionally hurting me very badly which made me think I was overreacting (even typing this makes me feel like I am overreaction right now-)
For everytime I got mad in the slightest for an understandable reason, they played victim.
But I think the reason why I didn't notice I was being manipulated for so long was because of them either saying it in a way that they were hurt so badly by me that made me feel sympathy, the last reason mentioned in the video, or they expressed some of these ways listed here through actions and not directly through the words here. So yeah, manipulators can often do it in indirect ways or even be a manipulator without realizing it
either way, I feel much much happier now that I cut them out, these videos make me feel better in knowing what to avoid next time until I fully heal from them haha
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for me, I was in a relationship for someone for a little while who justified their trauma for everything and ANYTHING, especially for emotionally hurting me very badly which made me think I was overreacting (even typing this makes me feel like I am overreaction right now-)
For everytime I got mad in the slightest for an understandable reason, they played victim.
But I think the reason why I didn't notice I was being manipulated for so long was because of them either saying it in a way that they were hurt so badly by me that made me feel sympathy, the last reason mentioned in the video, or they expressed some of these ways listed here through actions and not directly through the words here. So yeah, manipulators can often do it in indirect ways or even be a manipulator without realizing it
either way, I feel much much happier now that I cut them out, these videos make me feel better in knowing what to avoid next time until I fully heal from them haha
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education
My friend almost died because of a manipulator, and when she got out of this, she forgived them and they started being friends again. I can see that she is getting manipulated again, but I'm tired of warning her. I don't know if i should help her, I gave her a helping hand before but. Where I'm going with this is, I don't know if i should help, or make her learn another lesson cause as I said I'm tired
If there is a way to help without getting in a argument with the manipulator, It's really hard to talk to them and make them know that they are in the wrong
Also the manipulator took 0 consequences from that, witch I'm mad about for the adults to get manipulated so easly
I am counting on someone to help me solve this problem
And sorry if there is some grammar errors, english is not my first language
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My friend almost died because of a manipulator, and when she got out of this, she forgived them and they started being friends again. I can see that she is getting manipulated again, but I'm tired of warning her. I don't know if i should help her, I gave her a helping hand before but. Where I'm going with this is, I don't know if i should help, or make her learn another lesson cause as I said I'm tired
If there is a way to help without getting in a argument with the manipulator, It's really hard to talk to them and make them know that they are in the wrong
Also the manipulator took 0 consequences from that, witch I'm mad about for the adults to get manipulated so easly
I am counting on someone to help me solve this problem
And sorry if there is some grammar errors, english is not my first language
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WhiteSpatula
One particularly manipulative person in my past used to repeatedly bring up a disagreement wed had, knowing neither of us had had any change of heart, and when the conversation would inevitably reach that same familiar point of impasse, and I once again declared my final stance, hed dismissively say, How long are you gonna keep beating that dead horse? After several years, I finally replied, Until you get it the hell off my front porch! Ultimately I found myself a new front porch, and I never humor anyone who (figuratively. or literally, for that matter) would try to deposit an animal cadaver on it.
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One particularly manipulative person in my past used to repeatedly bring up a disagreement wed had, knowing neither of us had had any change of heart, and when the conversation would inevitably reach that same familiar point of impasse, and I once again declared my final stance, hed dismissively say, How long are you gonna keep beating that dead horse? After several years, I finally replied, Until you get it the hell off my front porch! Ultimately I found myself a new front porch, and I never humor anyone who (figuratively. or literally, for that matter) would try to deposit an animal cadaver on it.
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Drew
Manipulators tend to be about themselves and their values are the only important thing in the world. They dont try and say to listen to others or to ask to let you make your own decisions and find your own. They're pretty much No people a lot of the time. Not to say that's all, it's just what I personally have found manipulators to do often, they disguise themselves as always having a yes for you then they say no when they know they can exploit you instead of just offering you no as a choice.
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Manipulators tend to be about themselves and their values are the only important thing in the world. They dont try and say to listen to others or to ask to let you make your own decisions and find your own. They're pretty much No people a lot of the time. Not to say that's all, it's just what I personally have found manipulators to do often, they disguise themselves as always having a yes for you then they say no when they know they can exploit you instead of just offering you no as a choice.
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Dana
They play both ends against the middle, alienating you in the company of friends and the minute you leave, they vehemently hate on their friend and make you believe it's the same person that is causing all of the shady shit, the shit they have done, keeps you alienated where you can't get help, thing is you don't understand at the time, you end up questioning your own feelings, thoughts and mind.
I literally escaped hell!
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They play both ends against the middle, alienating you in the company of friends and the minute you leave, they vehemently hate on their friend and make you believe it's the same person that is causing all of the shady shit, the shit they have done, keeps you alienated where you can't get help, thing is you don't understand at the time, you end up questioning your own feelings, thoughts and mind.
I literally escaped hell!
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Melanie
Irony: I was friends with a guy & had my eyes on for LONG time. He that decided to bring some of his belongs to my place after 2 weeks of us hanging out, told me all kinds of lies. Well, I told him to gtf out. When I asked him why he said & did certain things, Holy hell he flipped! Told me Im losing my mind. He never said that. I'm delusional, childish & need to shut up. #gladlysingle
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Irony: I was friends with a guy & had my eyes on for LONG time. He that decided to bring some of his belongs to my place after 2 weeks of us hanging out, told me all kinds of lies. Well, I told him to gtf out. When I asked him why he said & did certain things, Holy hell he flipped! Told me Im losing my mind. He never said that. I'm delusional, childish & need to shut up. #gladlysingle
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Lpsflowerlover
I had a friend who was like this
Accept she didnt say things like they are crazy
When I got mad at her and confronted her
She would start saying so you dont care about my friendship and say my phone was hacked
She made herself seem innocent
Also she would tell me
That a teacher said me and her couldnt be friends
I ended my friendship with her though
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I had a friend who was like this
Accept she didnt say things like they are crazy
When I got mad at her and confronted her
She would start saying so you dont care about my friendship and say my phone was hacked
She made herself seem innocent
Also she would tell me
That a teacher said me and her couldnt be friends
I ended my friendship with her though
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Ray
I felt on my skin some of those points years ago when I ended my last long relationship. I still remember the frustration when i had to go through points 1, 2, 3 and 7. And the 1 and 7 are the most damaging here I think. Anyway those are MY experiences. Many of people here probably had different ones. And thank you again for the valuable helpful episode dear psych2go.
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I felt on my skin some of those points years ago when I ended my last long relationship. I still remember the frustration when i had to go through points 1, 2, 3 and 7. And the 1 and 7 are the most damaging here I think. Anyway those are MY experiences. Many of people here probably had different ones. And thank you again for the valuable helpful episode dear psych2go.
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FamTheEvilCat
Hey, Psych2go! I have a friend with whom I feel drained all the time. They use a phrase that leaves me questioning everything.
It's, when you don't know anything, don't speak
It usually is to not make me say my opinion. Would you please clear it for me? Maybe I can understand if they are manipulative or maybe I can understand their point of view.
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Hey, Psych2go! I have a friend with whom I feel drained all the time. They use a phrase that leaves me questioning everything.
It's, when you don't know anything, don't speak
It usually is to not make me say my opinion. Would you please clear it for me? Maybe I can understand if they are manipulative or maybe I can understand their point of view.
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education
When he forgot to greet me on my birthday and then blame me for it
When he gets jealous when I talk to my male coworkers & told me its not the same when he talks to his female coworkers
When he can have female friends but I can't have male friends
When he told me to change my attitude because of his health but doesn't bother going to the doctor
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When he forgot to greet me on my birthday and then blame me for it
When he gets jealous when I talk to my male coworkers & told me its not the same when he talks to his female coworkers
When he can have female friends but I can't have male friends
When he told me to change my attitude because of his health but doesn't bother going to the doctor
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Catsarelovely
I hate the fact that I used to be like this. In 2020 I was in a relationship and I would always be so manipulative toward the poor girl: ( The fact that I cause her so much trauma hurts me so much. But I ended up getting therapy for it and I've changed. I'm really glad I did, I'm now in a healthy polyam relationship and it's going really well!
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I hate the fact that I used to be like this. In 2020 I was in a relationship and I would always be so manipulative toward the poor girl: ( The fact that I cause her so much trauma hurts me so much. But I ended up getting therapy for it and I've changed. I'm really glad I did, I'm now in a healthy polyam relationship and it's going really well!
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Wendy
It's important to remember that my feelings about another person are my own, and are not directly related to that person's feelings toward me. I am perfectly comfortable saying that I love someone, while still being glad that the relationship is over. I hope this helps someone else who may be struggling with conflicting emotions.
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It's important to remember that my feelings about another person are my own, and are not directly related to that person's feelings toward me. I am perfectly comfortable saying that I love someone, while still being glad that the relationship is over. I hope this helps someone else who may be struggling with conflicting emotions.
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Gerbrial
for 2, i actually dont want to argue bc arguing every single day is draining my life force
for 3, i think its pretty extra to say im a guilt tripper, manipulator, narcissist, gas-lighter etc
for 5, they need a lot of context most of the time to understand one thing
but now im starting to think i am a manipulator.
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for 2, i actually dont want to argue bc arguing every single day is draining my life force
for 3, i think its pretty extra to say im a guilt tripper, manipulator, narcissist, gas-lighter etc
for 5, they need a lot of context most of the time to understand one thing
but now im starting to think i am a manipulator.
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Entirelypsycho
One of the ways I was manipulated was by being in a situation with someone where I physically could not leave even if I wanted to and they made sure to make life hell for me if i didnt do whatever they said. They also acted as if we were dating when in reality I hated her because she constantly assaulted me
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One of the ways I was manipulated was by being in a situation with someone where I physically could not leave even if I wanted to and they made sure to make life hell for me if i didnt do whatever they said. They also acted as if we were dating when in reality I hated her because she constantly assaulted me
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Clvsidy
I have to admit I was a manipulator. I used to gaslight them into thinking its their fault and then gain pleasure off them being hurt because of me. I knew I was one, but it only made my desire to manipulate become greater. Im starting to stop these toxic behaviours, its been 1 year but Im learning: )
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I have to admit I was a manipulator. I used to gaslight them into thinking its their fault and then gain pleasure off them being hurt because of me. I knew I was one, but it only made my desire to manipulate become greater. Im starting to stop these toxic behaviours, its been 1 year but Im learning: )
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Spam
One of the most disturbing things for me is when you're aware that they're not conscious of what they're doing and genuinely believe everything they did and said were true. But when you try to point this out, they get defensive or try to turn it on you
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One of the most disturbing things for me is when you're aware that they're not conscious of what they're doing and genuinely believe everything they did and said were true. But when you try to point this out, they get defensive or try to turn it on you
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Derek
This video kind of messed me up Im with this lady that means the world to me and things are said to me about the lady Im with from people I know and when I confront her about this stuff I get told all the phrases here in this video
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This video kind of messed me up Im with this lady that means the world to me and things are said to me about the lady Im with from people I know and when I confront her about this stuff I get told all the phrases here in this video
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Kai
I've experienced this and I've turned into a blind eye for 3 years. Watching this makes me remember all of the shit she told me and I'm so happy i finally broke our relationship. She's trying to get me back bye harassing me.
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I've experienced this and I've turned into a blind eye for 3 years. Watching this makes me remember all of the shit she told me and I'm so happy i finally broke our relationship. She's trying to get me back bye harassing me.
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-Normal_x4vier-
Ok so basically my class and I watched one of your relationship vid but it turns out to be for older people
What we were supposed to watch is about like how to have a nice relationship with your friends
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Ok so basically my class and I watched one of your relationship vid but it turns out to be for older people
What we were supposed to watch is about like how to have a nice relationship with your friends
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lucky
youre over reacting
Bro we have been friends for 6 years and you never heard i overeact? Ive told you i have a soft heart so many times in youre life
Him: whatever what does this have to do with anything?
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youre over reacting
Bro we have been friends for 6 years and you never heard i overeact? Ive told you i have a soft heart so many times in youre life
Him: whatever what does this have to do with anything?
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Undercover
Manipulative people are always tough to deal with and they can be so draining! The worst part is that they operate ever so subtly and you might not notice the signs until it has gone full blown. Sad.
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Manipulative people are always tough to deal with and they can be so draining! The worst part is that they operate ever so subtly and you might not notice the signs until it has gone full blown. Sad.
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Psych2Go
What are other things do manipulative people say that aren't mentioned in this video? As always, thank you for your support and believing in our mission to create awareness on all mental health topics.
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What are other things do manipulative people say that aren't mentioned in this video? As always, thank you for your support and believing in our mission to create awareness on all mental health topics.
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Lionheart
My ex 100%. Took me a while to get that it wasn't love. Lots of yelling for example over something unimportant, me crying as a result and then he said don't be upset you know I love you. Classic abuse
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My ex 100%. Took me a while to get that it wasn't love. Lots of yelling for example over something unimportant, me crying as a result and then he said don't be upset you know I love you. Classic abuse
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Jose
_its not my fault_
_And if it was, then it wasn't that bad, _
_And if it was, then i didn't mean it_
_And if I did, then __YOU__ deserved it_
-The Narcissists prayer
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_its not my fault_
_And if it was, then it wasn't that bad, _
_And if it was, then i didn't mean it_
_And if I did, then __YOU__ deserved it_
-The Narcissists prayer
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