7 Signs of Anxiety Caused by Your Childhood
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Absutoth
My father has a bad temper. He would scream, threaten. and put down my brother and I a lot. My brother has disabilities and he still lives with my dad. At 43 I notice he doesnt criticize me as much as he use to. However he still yells and threatens my 40 year old brother. Anytime I'm out with them I get anxiety that my dad is going to yell at my brother. I recently went on vacation at the beach with him and my brother. Sadly my father drove us down there. So I didn't have control on driving around the city. Otherwise I'd get my brother out of the hotel room to give him a breather anytime my dad's temper was triggered. I pretty much went down there to spread my mom's ashes in the ocean which was her wish and against my dad's who kept telling me the tiny bit of ashes I had would be toxic to the ocean. My dad is a big control freak. Also both parents were helicopter parents through college and my post-graduate education.
However I'm doing much better since my mom died from cancer. As stated before I still get anxiety around my dad when he's angry at my brother. I also have started living my life according to me instead of my parents. Loosing my mom felt like I had one less person controlling me and I could live my real life. I'm transitioning mtf and I'm starting to feel happier.
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My father has a bad temper. He would scream, threaten. and put down my brother and I a lot. My brother has disabilities and he still lives with my dad. At 43 I notice he doesnt criticize me as much as he use to. However he still yells and threatens my 40 year old brother. Anytime I'm out with them I get anxiety that my dad is going to yell at my brother. I recently went on vacation at the beach with him and my brother. Sadly my father drove us down there. So I didn't have control on driving around the city. Otherwise I'd get my brother out of the hotel room to give him a breather anytime my dad's temper was triggered. I pretty much went down there to spread my mom's ashes in the ocean which was her wish and against my dad's who kept telling me the tiny bit of ashes I had would be toxic to the ocean. My dad is a big control freak. Also both parents were helicopter parents through college and my post-graduate education.
However I'm doing much better since my mom died from cancer. As stated before I still get anxiety around my dad when he's angry at my brother. I also have started living my life according to me instead of my parents. Loosing my mom felt like I had one less person controlling me and I could live my real life. I'm transitioning mtf and I'm starting to feel happier.
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Nada
Mother:
You are not normal.
You are too sensitive.
I say this to your siblings they dont cry but I say them to you and you get sensitive.
You are so problematic and bring me so much pain
Siblings:
Shut up your school stories are so childish and boring
cut me off in the middle of me talking because they werent paying attention in the first place
Siblings and Parents:
You are too young for these things.
Dont say this to your older siblings.
Dont sit with the grownups go sit in the kids table
Youre younger so you get the worst seat in the car. This also applies to beds on family vacations.
Youre younger no one wants to watch the dumb kid shows you want to watch
Me:
Feels absolutely worthless 24/7 and gets surprised when someone not in my household is actually interested in what I have to say. Gets withdrawn and self sufficient.
Gets called a weirdo and a sad loner just because I prefer it that way.
And then in the end, I still am the problem. I am too sensitive. I am the one who pushes people away and doesnt let them in. Poor them, I am just holding grudges for no reason.
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Mother:
You are not normal.
You are too sensitive.
I say this to your siblings they dont cry but I say them to you and you get sensitive.
You are so problematic and bring me so much pain
Siblings:
Shut up your school stories are so childish and boring
cut me off in the middle of me talking because they werent paying attention in the first place
Siblings and Parents:
You are too young for these things.
Dont say this to your older siblings.
Dont sit with the grownups go sit in the kids table
Youre younger so you get the worst seat in the car. This also applies to beds on family vacations.
Youre younger no one wants to watch the dumb kid shows you want to watch
Me:
Feels absolutely worthless 24/7 and gets surprised when someone not in my household is actually interested in what I have to say. Gets withdrawn and self sufficient.
Gets called a weirdo and a sad loner just because I prefer it that way.
And then in the end, I still am the problem. I am too sensitive. I am the one who pushes people away and doesnt let them in. Poor them, I am just holding grudges for no reason.
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GAAYIKA
My dad was short tempered and I lived my entire life fearing him. My father and mother never had a healthy relationship with each other ( The reason was my brother being autistic and they both blamed each other ). Back home from school, I always saw my father shouting at my mom. I used to cry in the bathroom without anyone knowing. Eventhough both my parents were good to me, I never felt happy. It felt like they were living together for the sake of their children. We never used to go out or sit happily together. Me, being skinny, was constantly bullied at school. I never said anything back to then and used to cry it out in the bathroom. It felt like there was no place that would keep me happy. I don't even know if all these things affected me. Now I just fear and panick when I have people around me and cry even for the silliest thing. I just don't know what I should do.
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My dad was short tempered and I lived my entire life fearing him. My father and mother never had a healthy relationship with each other ( The reason was my brother being autistic and they both blamed each other ). Back home from school, I always saw my father shouting at my mom. I used to cry in the bathroom without anyone knowing. Eventhough both my parents were good to me, I never felt happy. It felt like they were living together for the sake of their children. We never used to go out or sit happily together. Me, being skinny, was constantly bullied at school. I never said anything back to then and used to cry it out in the bathroom. It felt like there was no place that would keep me happy. I don't even know if all these things affected me. Now I just fear and panick when I have people around me and cry even for the silliest thing. I just don't know what I should do.
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Shyaaam
Very informative video. In life there are only 2 problems --mind and the body. . To feel better reduce negative thoughts [overthinking]. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Dont fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations when taking a walk, before sleep, in school, at work, when reading, etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media, take morning sunlight walks and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
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Very informative video. In life there are only 2 problems --mind and the body. . To feel better reduce negative thoughts [overthinking]. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Dont fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations when taking a walk, before sleep, in school, at work, when reading, etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media, take morning sunlight walks and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
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LS
Ya'know another thing could be that your parent is from the complete opposite cultural background, and they can't understand that there''s not only anger, that there is anxiety, impatience, frustration, etc. For example, when I try to say something to my mom and then I have trouble saying it She'd be like just say it then I'd be like I'm trying so then fearing she'd get annoyed or impatience I'd try to spit it out only that it goes horribly wrong with her reacting how dare you show your anger to me then I try to explain that i was frustrated at myself so it may have sounded angry and for some reason everytime when I try to explain that she end up so mad on how disrespectful I was. So yea this creates a nice way of feeling anxiety when just trying to say something to my mom. yay
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Ya'know another thing could be that your parent is from the complete opposite cultural background, and they can't understand that there''s not only anger, that there is anxiety, impatience, frustration, etc. For example, when I try to say something to my mom and then I have trouble saying it She'd be like just say it then I'd be like I'm trying so then fearing she'd get annoyed or impatience I'd try to spit it out only that it goes horribly wrong with her reacting how dare you show your anger to me then I try to explain that i was frustrated at myself so it may have sounded angry and for some reason everytime when I try to explain that she end up so mad on how disrespectful I was. So yea this creates a nice way of feeling anxiety when just trying to say something to my mom. yay
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xlGoldenlx
I relate to all of these but have none of the mentioned causes. For me, I strongly relate to being afraid of relationships because of how much I moved as a kid. Every time I went to a new house and school, I would be friends with everyone I could find. Then within the next two years I would end up moving again and losing everyone. I would start again and gain friends. And then we'd move. Around the third time this happened I just gave up. I tried making friends for a few more years but was usually rejected or could only manage to be friends with people who were overly controlling and used me. So now I just choose to isolate myself as I don't dark risk becoming attached again and having to lose someone.
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I relate to all of these but have none of the mentioned causes. For me, I strongly relate to being afraid of relationships because of how much I moved as a kid. Every time I went to a new house and school, I would be friends with everyone I could find. Then within the next two years I would end up moving again and losing everyone. I would start again and gain friends. And then we'd move. Around the third time this happened I just gave up. I tried making friends for a few more years but was usually rejected or could only manage to be friends with people who were overly controlling and used me. So now I just choose to isolate myself as I don't dark risk becoming attached again and having to lose someone.
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Dee
I did none of these things listed and yet my son is anxious, emotionally immature and lacks self confidence. Well I might have done number five because he was a sickly child with frequent hospitalizations. I really want to help him but Im not sure how I try to be understanding but sometime his dark moods and irrational fears irritate me because he seemed so happy as a child. Maybe its unresolved grief because his father died of cancer when he was 13. I got grief counseling but wasnt sufficient to help him. Maybe my divorce affected him more deeply than his siblings. I ruminate about this often. I know Im far from perfect but really was a loving supportive mom. Maybe we need family counseling/ therapy?
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I did none of these things listed and yet my son is anxious, emotionally immature and lacks self confidence. Well I might have done number five because he was a sickly child with frequent hospitalizations. I really want to help him but Im not sure how I try to be understanding but sometime his dark moods and irrational fears irritate me because he seemed so happy as a child. Maybe its unresolved grief because his father died of cancer when he was 13. I got grief counseling but wasnt sufficient to help him. Maybe my divorce affected him more deeply than his siblings. I ruminate about this often. I know Im far from perfect but really was a loving supportive mom. Maybe we need family counseling/ therapy?
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Kim
its not my parents, its my aunts and the rest of my family. ever since I was younger id be compared to those older and prettier than me, id be told if i wasnt skinny no would date me. if i didnt get high marks id be a failure, so by the time i was maybe 9 i was self conscious about my looks and smarts. maybe some of it does come down to my parents since they were separated and argued a lot but i was judged based off of their relationship by my older family members.
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its not my parents, its my aunts and the rest of my family. ever since I was younger id be compared to those older and prettier than me, id be told if i wasnt skinny no would date me. if i didnt get high marks id be a failure, so by the time i was maybe 9 i was self conscious about my looks and smarts. maybe some of it does come down to my parents since they were separated and argued a lot but i was judged based off of their relationship by my older family members.
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Sorbet
I wish I could send this to my parents. I've deduced all of these, except for number 7, as reasons I have social anxiety right now. It's really difficult to open up about my feelings towards them because they somehow turn it back onto me and kept asking me What's so wrong about what we're doing when we're just concerned? As of right now I'm mustering up the courage to ask them if I could get counselling for it (and maybe they could recommend family counseling)
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I wish I could send this to my parents. I've deduced all of these, except for number 7, as reasons I have social anxiety right now. It's really difficult to open up about my feelings towards them because they somehow turn it back onto me and kept asking me What's so wrong about what we're doing when we're just concerned? As of right now I'm mustering up the courage to ask them if I could get counselling for it (and maybe they could recommend family counseling)
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Absutoth
I was called fat even when I looked fit, kept being put in athletics that I had no talent in, my dad constantly yelled and still does, and my mom guilt tripped me and still does til she's dead. Yeah I've been working on myself to leave free from my parents and the anxiety I developed. So happy I have a therapist, learning positive self-reflection, and meditation. In my early 40s I'm learning I'm the one who makes my own path not my parents.
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I was called fat even when I looked fit, kept being put in athletics that I had no talent in, my dad constantly yelled and still does, and my mom guilt tripped me and still does til she's dead. Yeah I've been working on myself to leave free from my parents and the anxiety I developed. So happy I have a therapist, learning positive self-reflection, and meditation. In my early 40s I'm learning I'm the one who makes my own path not my parents.
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Daniel
I relate to the majority of this but the one that sticks out the most is about relationships and having trouble forming relationships because Im afraid that I will be rejected and that my parents were overly critical of me and no matter how good I did something, it was never enough. .. Or they didnt care enough. Now as an adult, being almost 30. I struggle to connect on an intimate level out of fear due to my parents upbringing of me
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I relate to the majority of this but the one that sticks out the most is about relationships and having trouble forming relationships because Im afraid that I will be rejected and that my parents were overly critical of me and no matter how good I did something, it was never enough. .. Or they didnt care enough. Now as an adult, being almost 30. I struggle to connect on an intimate level out of fear due to my parents upbringing of me
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NxghtmrishFozy
Mhm now am afraid of being made fun of bc my brother and. COUSINS and aunt and uncle keep doing it to make me stressed, and I don't like it, it's not that funny at all, usually my uncle would get a wet towel and use it as a belt, and we never get in trouble at all, he just does it bc it's fun, but in reality that's not fun that's a punishment, also I try to get out of it but I can't bc he wants me to be in it, and I hate it
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Mhm now am afraid of being made fun of bc my brother and. COUSINS and aunt and uncle keep doing it to make me stressed, and I don't like it, it's not that funny at all, usually my uncle would get a wet towel and use it as a belt, and we never get in trouble at all, he just does it bc it's fun, but in reality that's not fun that's a punishment, also I try to get out of it but I can't bc he wants me to be in it, and I hate it
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Sunny
I have these but I dont remember my parents being critical towards me, rather towards my older siblings. I remember not getting enough attention from any of them and feeling like Im not worth being listened to. So unfortunate that it can leave you suffering your whole life. If only I could twist that in my brain to the right direction.
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I have these but I dont remember my parents being critical towards me, rather towards my older siblings. I remember not getting enough attention from any of them and feeling like Im not worth being listened to. So unfortunate that it can leave you suffering your whole life. If only I could twist that in my brain to the right direction.
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Dark
Me before having siblings: I love my parents, they are strict but they still love me
Also me after my siblings are borned (well the problem is my sister): I take back what I said before, my father loves my younger sister most and always wanting me to be the perfect older sister, but my brother is chill and he loves me
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Me before having siblings: I love my parents, they are strict but they still love me
Also me after my siblings are borned (well the problem is my sister): I take back what I said before, my father loves my younger sister most and always wanting me to be the perfect older sister, but my brother is chill and he loves me
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Cupsoup
At a young age I not only had a judgemental father but since he nor my mother were around I had consistent family members aunts uncles grandparents always doing this to me and watching this video really did make me realize that alot of my issues didn't stem from just Me. Great video really opened my eyes.
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At a young age I not only had a judgemental father but since he nor my mother were around I had consistent family members aunts uncles grandparents always doing this to me and watching this video really did make me realize that alot of my issues didn't stem from just Me. Great video really opened my eyes.
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JourneytoTruth
I was having family problems and I was being bullied for my genetics (looks. I feel abandoned, lonely (because I am with no true friends, low self esteem, no personality, 28 still live at home with parents where the repressed memories just came up.
I hate my life and want to die.
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I was having family problems and I was being bullied for my genetics (looks. I feel abandoned, lonely (because I am with no true friends, low self esteem, no personality, 28 still live at home with parents where the repressed memories just came up.
I hate my life and want to die.
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chris
i have all of these except the fear of relationships ( just fear of people lol. My home life wasnt critical just fearful of future trauma. mom on high alert. of ex hubby. and I seem to have passed my own problems to my child. social situations are a no go for us. lol sad
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i have all of these except the fear of relationships ( just fear of people lol. My home life wasnt critical just fearful of future trauma. mom on high alert. of ex hubby. and I seem to have passed my own problems to my child. social situations are a no go for us. lol sad
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boocchi
I love my mother, but as a child she used to scold me. Go eat bit of shit of my cousins every time i got my results. she said it will make me smart. till this day i think i am not smart enough in any thing. i work very hard but chicken out at last movement
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I love my mother, but as a child she used to scold me. Go eat bit of shit of my cousins every time i got my results. she said it will make me smart. till this day i think i am not smart enough in any thing. i work very hard but chicken out at last movement
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Psych2Go
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Do you guys recognize this animation /art style? It's in fact from our very first animator Joy Zhang. We manage to invite her back for another project. If you like to see more from her, leave a like or comment below so she knows: )
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Rick
All of the items listed were my childhood. Now I'm trying to get rid of this stuff in my head. This is proving to be a lifetime challenge. I still feel like digging my dad up from his grave and kicking his ass. Not a good look.
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All of the items listed were my childhood. Now I'm trying to get rid of this stuff in my head. This is proving to be a lifetime challenge. I still feel like digging my dad up from his grave and kicking his ass. Not a good look.
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Kii
Still today my parents always think about the worst thing which can happen. So when I'm thinking to open my restaurant then they'll say what if you have no costumer. What if you can not manage what if this and that
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Still today my parents always think about the worst thing which can happen. So when I'm thinking to open my restaurant then they'll say what if you have no costumer. What if you can not manage what if this and that
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Jessica
people forget it sometimes happen you end up with 1 parent. and different stephdads along the way. who are abusive, and you always have stress. 24/7 what this does to you in combination with neglegence
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people forget it sometimes happen you end up with 1 parent. and different stephdads along the way. who are abusive, and you always have stress. 24/7 what this does to you in combination with neglegence
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Shelby
My mom always makes me feel like I cant do anything just because I have a disability second I cant stand the way she yells at everyone I get anxiety because of her I dont know what to do?
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My mom always makes me feel like I cant do anything just because I have a disability second I cant stand the way she yells at everyone I get anxiety because of her I dont know what to do?
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Secret
Even after relating to every single point. I feel like I'm just pretending to have anxiety. and I'm blaming my parents for my anxiety who are doing so much for me. maybe it's just me.
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Even after relating to every single point. I feel like I'm just pretending to have anxiety. and I'm blaming my parents for my anxiety who are doing so much for me. maybe it's just me.
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education
as the number flows, it's all true, it always negative, everything going negatives with my mom and my sister, radical acceptance, radical acceptance, radical acceptance.
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as the number flows, it's all true, it always negative, everything going negatives with my mom and my sister, radical acceptance, radical acceptance, radical acceptance.
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