8 Signs You Are Too Nice For Your Own Good
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Quill
I can actually relate to this since I say sorry way too much to a point where even my family and friends point it out, and that I don't really do well when it comes to conflict especially with my parents to a point where I get scared of their reaction. I feel like it's a result of how I was raised honestly, but it's also that I'm that one friend who is probably over-prepared with masks just in case my friends would need one-ish. But of course, I have my limits and I discovered to take myself a little bit more gently and easy back when I was in middle school and got taken advantage of one time, it was harassment. No, he didn't touch me, but he was suggesting it and I didn't know until my family told me, and I got scared that something bad would happen to the boy who said that to me, but it actually gave me a sense of wanting to protect myself and I'm glad I can notice the signs a lot more when I feel like I'm being too nice to someone, still working on it, but still. And there was even a time when being too nice led to a huge mistake that would've involved a lot of the sixth grade that I was in, it was funny now, but back then I didn't know what I was doing.
Moral of the story: there are limits to people, and it's our job to balance off of each other instead of letting it be just one or two people.
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I can actually relate to this since I say sorry way too much to a point where even my family and friends point it out, and that I don't really do well when it comes to conflict especially with my parents to a point where I get scared of their reaction. I feel like it's a result of how I was raised honestly, but it's also that I'm that one friend who is probably over-prepared with masks just in case my friends would need one-ish. But of course, I have my limits and I discovered to take myself a little bit more gently and easy back when I was in middle school and got taken advantage of one time, it was harassment. No, he didn't touch me, but he was suggesting it and I didn't know until my family told me, and I got scared that something bad would happen to the boy who said that to me, but it actually gave me a sense of wanting to protect myself and I'm glad I can notice the signs a lot more when I feel like I'm being too nice to someone, still working on it, but still. And there was even a time when being too nice led to a huge mistake that would've involved a lot of the sixth grade that I was in, it was funny now, but back then I didn't know what I was doing.
Moral of the story: there are limits to people, and it's our job to balance off of each other instead of letting it be just one or two people.
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Hello
Ive had a hint that im too nice to people. I always feel guilty when I make a person mad at me even if it really isnt my fault and when i realize it really isnt my fault, I find excuses for the other person that theyre right and im wrong. Its caused me a lot of self doubt. I guess its because I dont wanna be in trouble or that if I disagree, it will cause a conflict and I worry that I will drift apart from that person which is the last thing that I want. I've also been really hurt when i receive criticism and when people compliment me, I say thanks but I dont know if I really take in what theyre saying and I always long to be someone else because they have something I dont (not materialistic items, more of their amazing personality or that people always love them. It's probably because I always get compared to them which I dread. As a kid, I never told my parents what toys I wanted or the books I want because I would feel like Im a burden to them. To this day, noone has ever known this side of me. It was really hard to carry this weight on my shoulder with noone to share it with throughout my whole childhood. Thanks internet, the only place where Im comfortable sharing this information.
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Ive had a hint that im too nice to people. I always feel guilty when I make a person mad at me even if it really isnt my fault and when i realize it really isnt my fault, I find excuses for the other person that theyre right and im wrong. Its caused me a lot of self doubt. I guess its because I dont wanna be in trouble or that if I disagree, it will cause a conflict and I worry that I will drift apart from that person which is the last thing that I want. I've also been really hurt when i receive criticism and when people compliment me, I say thanks but I dont know if I really take in what theyre saying and I always long to be someone else because they have something I dont (not materialistic items, more of their amazing personality or that people always love them. It's probably because I always get compared to them which I dread. As a kid, I never told my parents what toys I wanted or the books I want because I would feel like Im a burden to them. To this day, noone has ever known this side of me. It was really hard to carry this weight on my shoulder with noone to share it with throughout my whole childhood. Thanks internet, the only place where Im comfortable sharing this information.
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Earl
I'm being very literal when I say the only reason I am commenting is because you said please. Yeah, I know exactly how all of that works. I have been told that I am a nice person, and unfortunately my family only told me to rest when I told them that I was drained. I wanted them to notice, I wanted them to care enough to ask me and then ask again. I understand that maybe it was a trust thing, maybe I shouldn't have kept lying and saying I was ok, but I wanted to feel like they cared. Only one person has asked me to this extent, he is a good friend. I understand that a lot of people come from terrible families, but those who I am starting to trust have been telling me that my pain is still pain. So is yours. Whatever you are going through or have been through, don't ignore it, it is important, and you are important. And maybe you want to wait and see if they really care like I did, but you shouldn't do that. They do care, even if they don't show it. I hope you find this well
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I'm being very literal when I say the only reason I am commenting is because you said please. Yeah, I know exactly how all of that works. I have been told that I am a nice person, and unfortunately my family only told me to rest when I told them that I was drained. I wanted them to notice, I wanted them to care enough to ask me and then ask again. I understand that maybe it was a trust thing, maybe I shouldn't have kept lying and saying I was ok, but I wanted to feel like they cared. Only one person has asked me to this extent, he is a good friend. I understand that a lot of people come from terrible families, but those who I am starting to trust have been telling me that my pain is still pain. So is yours. Whatever you are going through or have been through, don't ignore it, it is important, and you are important. And maybe you want to wait and see if they really care like I did, but you shouldn't do that. They do care, even if they don't show it. I hope you find this well
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psych2go
I feel like the reason I want to be nice is because I feel as though have a job to make people happy and thats all my purpose is, so I prioritize their needs and wants to make them happy because when they are angry they take out their anger. I want to be nice but I feel selfish if I want to have people like me for being nice but I do wish that people would like me. I feel as though I need to have a unselfish reason to be nice or else Im just being a fake nice person but I cant tell whats selfish and whats not selfish. I want to show people that they matter to me because I want to feel that way too. Does anybody else feel this way?
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I feel like the reason I want to be nice is because I feel as though have a job to make people happy and thats all my purpose is, so I prioritize their needs and wants to make them happy because when they are angry they take out their anger. I want to be nice but I feel selfish if I want to have people like me for being nice but I do wish that people would like me. I feel as though I need to have a unselfish reason to be nice or else Im just being a fake nice person but I cant tell whats selfish and whats not selfish. I want to show people that they matter to me because I want to feel that way too. Does anybody else feel this way?
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Margaret
Relationships break down and the realisation that you have spent your life caring for everyone else but have never had the same in return. That youve always come last, been an afterthought and no one has ever really cared enough.
Realisation of sadness and regret and unhappiness. But a kind nature isnt something easily changed.
Just sad that people use your kindness when they need it but never know when youre in need yourself of a kind word or gesture. Then wonder why the kindness stops or the person changes towards them.
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Relationships break down and the realisation that you have spent your life caring for everyone else but have never had the same in return. That youve always come last, been an afterthought and no one has ever really cared enough.
Realisation of sadness and regret and unhappiness. But a kind nature isnt something easily changed.
Just sad that people use your kindness when they need it but never know when youre in need yourself of a kind word or gesture. Then wonder why the kindness stops or the person changes towards them.
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BrownBanana
Once upon a school, one boy really really liked this girl because she was very pretty and kind. He forced his kindness on everyone which made him super exhausted. He did this because he had a fear that she would hate him and tell her friends about his faults and gossip. The boy decided to ignore the gossip and bad talk and let it escape his mind.
That boy is me, and this actually happened really recently. Watching this video has cleared my mind a little, but I still feel bad about being so pessimistic
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Once upon a school, one boy really really liked this girl because she was very pretty and kind. He forced his kindness on everyone which made him super exhausted. He did this because he had a fear that she would hate him and tell her friends about his faults and gossip. The boy decided to ignore the gossip and bad talk and let it escape his mind.
That boy is me, and this actually happened really recently. Watching this video has cleared my mind a little, but I still feel bad about being so pessimistic
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Sam
This is me in one video and lately like now for instants I'm really having a hard time because I've been nice to people for almost 2 year's and got nothing in return, they just sit there and watch how I'm being devoured by insecurities and fear. I was to blind to see they were using me all along. Now I think I know how to deal with it and make it stop so they can do their own stuff and leave me to do mine. Thx for the vid, this really helped me to see things clearly
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This is me in one video and lately like now for instants I'm really having a hard time because I've been nice to people for almost 2 year's and got nothing in return, they just sit there and watch how I'm being devoured by insecurities and fear. I was to blind to see they were using me all along. Now I think I know how to deal with it and make it stop so they can do their own stuff and leave me to do mine. Thx for the vid, this really helped me to see things clearly
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Gam3rtag(s)
I don't know if I'm too nice for my own good. Please help, here is what happened; My girlfriend turned out to be polyamourous and already had a boyfriend, so once I found out I started feeling really bad for taking away attention that he deserves, so I told her how I felt about it and let us go so he got more attention, after all he was with her first. I felt really bad for it. I still do. But I did really love her, and I think she loved me.
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I don't know if I'm too nice for my own good. Please help, here is what happened; My girlfriend turned out to be polyamourous and already had a boyfriend, so once I found out I started feeling really bad for taking away attention that he deserves, so I told her how I felt about it and let us go so he got more attention, after all he was with her first. I felt really bad for it. I still do. But I did really love her, and I think she loved me.
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kenneth
I'm 67 years old and have been this way since I was a child. My mother guilted me and killed any self-confidence I had. I always put friends needs before mine and if someone asked for help I never said no. I recently needed a hand with work on my home and friend said no they were busy with their buddy. That caused something to break inside of me and there will be no more Mr. Nice Guy.
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I'm 67 years old and have been this way since I was a child. My mother guilted me and killed any self-confidence I had. I always put friends needs before mine and if someone asked for help I never said no. I recently needed a hand with work on my home and friend said no they were busy with their buddy. That caused something to break inside of me and there will be no more Mr. Nice Guy.
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bored
Me being nice to a few friends in my friend group. and suddenly I became the nicest and kindest person in my class. literally every person asks me to do stuff which they can easily either find and do by themselves or ask someone else if i say no, but then, Bro u were so nice to xyz, am i not ur friend? and then they get me do the work. and now here I am, having all the 8 signs.
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Me being nice to a few friends in my friend group. and suddenly I became the nicest and kindest person in my class. literally every person asks me to do stuff which they can easily either find and do by themselves or ask someone else if i say no, but then, Bro u were so nice to xyz, am i not ur friend? and then they get me do the work. and now here I am, having all the 8 signs.
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education
I can say that no matter how nice you are you are still going to meet people who dispise you in everyway not everyone is accepting nice or truthful, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't be nice to them yes you can be nice but also make sure to not be TOO NICE cause in anytime they could start taking advantage of you
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I can say that no matter how nice you are you are still going to meet people who dispise you in everyway not everyone is accepting nice or truthful, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't be nice to them yes you can be nice but also make sure to not be TOO NICE cause in anytime they could start taking advantage of you
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square
i think being nice is often a survival tactic that a lot of people learn. Especially in dysfunctional families. It's not a character flaw, in my opinion it's a learned behavior. Being assertive is a skill, which means anybody can learn it.
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i think being nice is often a survival tactic that a lot of people learn. Especially in dysfunctional families. It's not a character flaw, in my opinion it's a learned behavior. Being assertive is a skill, which means anybody can learn it.
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Marleen
What a great video! I fit most of them and agree that people take advantage of me often and I get angry. I've discovered this trait earlier am working to make myself happier. Thank you for reminding me how to say no and be stronger.
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What a great video! I fit most of them and agree that people take advantage of me often and I get angry. I've discovered this trait earlier am working to make myself happier. Thank you for reminding me how to say no and be stronger.
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Michelle
I noticed I used to say yes right away like the video said a lot but then the people that I said yes to would say no a lot more than they would say yes to me. It's funny how unfair that really is when you think about it
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I noticed I used to say yes right away like the video said a lot but then the people that I said yes to would say no a lot more than they would say yes to me. It's funny how unfair that really is when you think about it
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Betsy
I totally relate to#2 &for3through6depeds what it is &deffinemtly#8. expressing tre feelings usually if not always got e&few others extremely hated dispised ruined idiculed &thrown clean away &blame for everything by most.
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I totally relate to#2 &for3through6depeds what it is &deffinemtly#8. expressing tre feelings usually if not always got e&few others extremely hated dispised ruined idiculed &thrown clean away &blame for everything by most.
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Ziel
Well, choosing for yourself feels like selfish to me, i do not want to be selfish, on a bar from ego my brother says i have negative ego because i am too nice, but well, like i said, choosing for myself feels like selfish
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Well, choosing for yourself feels like selfish to me, i do not want to be selfish, on a bar from ego my brother says i have negative ego because i am too nice, but well, like i said, choosing for myself feels like selfish
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education
I don't love my parents l hated them too much because they are not the good friends with me and they don't disrespect me.
But l fight for my own good and life
I love you all and I hope you to have a good day
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I don't love my parents l hated them too much because they are not the good friends with me and they don't disrespect me.
But l fight for my own good and life
I love you all and I hope you to have a good day
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My
I am to nice for my own good and I am a people pleaser I think its mostly because of my need to be liked. Almost every you I know has noticed that I have noticed I being taken advantage of but I cant say anything but yes.
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I am to nice for my own good and I am a people pleaser I think its mostly because of my need to be liked. Almost every you I know has noticed that I have noticed I being taken advantage of but I cant say anything but yes.
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Tiwari
Love you psych2go literally all things here is same. How to overcome it. I'm crying. Nobody to heal. but if any call comes from anyone I'm available for them
Why? Sometimes might this may contain suicidal thoughts
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Love you psych2go literally all things here is same. How to overcome it. I'm crying. Nobody to heal. but if any call comes from anyone I'm available for them
Why? Sometimes might this may contain suicidal thoughts
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Gangstaboyjosh
My brother and my friends say that im to good for my own good but i think being nice is just a perk i mean, you get to make the people you care about happy whats bad about that?
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My brother and my friends say that im to good for my own good but i think being nice is just a perk i mean, you get to make the people you care about happy whats bad about that?
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Naruto
All of these fit me. I love helping out people and I really truly care and love my friends. I hate seeing people sad. But I always feel like I get hurt, and betrayed
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All of these fit me. I love helping out people and I really truly care and love my friends. I hate seeing people sad. But I always feel like I get hurt, and betrayed
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Cloudyfoxes
I think that I might do this but one thing to add is that if you are to nice for your own good you often feel like you are being annoying and feel even worse
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I think that I might do this but one thing to add is that if you are to nice for your own good you often feel like you are being annoying and feel even worse
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Nigel
Yep, thanks for a great video. I have all eight. .. How do I change? It is so much easier said than done! Yours, anxious and stressed at the thought of changing.
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Yep, thanks for a great video. I have all eight. .. How do I change? It is so much easier said than done! Yours, anxious and stressed at the thought of changing.
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Yandisa
I relate to almost all of these, it really sucks and annoying because nobody takes me seriously and and ignore me like dirt. It's really tiring and the worst.
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I relate to almost all of these, it really sucks and annoying because nobody takes me seriously and and ignore me like dirt. It's really tiring and the worst.
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Eirini
But I am the sea; I can be as kind, I have plenty of energy on me- and if they try to manipulate me theyll drown, if not Ill keep giving them some of my beauty
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But I am the sea; I can be as kind, I have plenty of energy on me- and if they try to manipulate me theyll drown, if not Ill keep giving them some of my beauty
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