Why Are We Selfish And How To Stop
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Ryan
Idfk whys theys thrive wits popular demands so meany measures sensation lowly totem pole takes err picky possibly ehh flunky development passes off pleasure gains crowds pushy forceful pleading no lo contendre tally tilt oot measures gonna discover rounds wilds too close furs comfort zones too disruptive to influencer process wants them access progression idfk kinda feels ood oot guessing games wot truely activation paranoia err threatened wilds tension mine proximity wot binding deal telly must compliance conflated wits projections confusion constructs applicability measures slighted jilted gypted gud greef instantaneously gratification needy sensation others awkward position neglectful ugh mood tood standards delivery loopy n ded err dust awful curious sorts moments sufficiently satisfactory autonomic buggy features weirdness sensation something owes meh rent running loopy rounds mine dome kinda warped oot splitsville scene cya lost derailed taps oot idfk err n zounds happens impulses instincts craving mixy signals painfully discomfort dismissed degenerate defective unfit furs dutys can't halt surroundings progression hectic pitys paces worn oot forgiveness seeking takings to nap feels needs doing ood timings eventfuls mine zelf n itty yearn dreamings wot itty needs takes discovery improvement moments laters mores needs to shares wits us surplus possibilities den takes cares gud nites wot is tiring idfk gotty deals wits dat whoms made growth hectic damn popular twas nap lunch trips off campus favorite subject schooling longest time wished naptime carried over to the higher grades well alls grades wot would itty have been had dat possible err trouble avoided iff wasn't caught sneaky snooze tuff crowds control values popular pity poor err loopy behavior ood happens pobody's nerfect unlikely others details off uncanny valley wot nya sojourneys
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Idfk whys theys thrive wits popular demands so meany measures sensation lowly totem pole takes err picky possibly ehh flunky development passes off pleasure gains crowds pushy forceful pleading no lo contendre tally tilt oot measures gonna discover rounds wilds too close furs comfort zones too disruptive to influencer process wants them access progression idfk kinda feels ood oot guessing games wot truely activation paranoia err threatened wilds tension mine proximity wot binding deal telly must compliance conflated wits projections confusion constructs applicability measures slighted jilted gypted gud greef instantaneously gratification needy sensation others awkward position neglectful ugh mood tood standards delivery loopy n ded err dust awful curious sorts moments sufficiently satisfactory autonomic buggy features weirdness sensation something owes meh rent running loopy rounds mine dome kinda warped oot splitsville scene cya lost derailed taps oot idfk err n zounds happens impulses instincts craving mixy signals painfully discomfort dismissed degenerate defective unfit furs dutys can't halt surroundings progression hectic pitys paces worn oot forgiveness seeking takings to nap feels needs doing ood timings eventfuls mine zelf n itty yearn dreamings wot itty needs takes discovery improvement moments laters mores needs to shares wits us surplus possibilities den takes cares gud nites wot is tiring idfk gotty deals wits dat whoms made growth hectic damn popular twas nap lunch trips off campus favorite subject schooling longest time wished naptime carried over to the higher grades well alls grades wot would itty have been had dat possible err trouble avoided iff wasn't caught sneaky snooze tuff crowds control values popular pity poor err loopy behavior ood happens pobody's nerfect unlikely others details off uncanny valley wot nya sojourneys
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mikage
honestly, when watching a show, i tend to find characters who are both selfish and selfless at the same time more likeable than the ones who are totally selfless. its because theyre imperfect, and i tend to gravitate towards imperfect characters because they make me feel safe for my own imperfections, and remind me that no one is totally selfless or perfect, yet we still can be great people, as those imperfect characters actually put in a lot of effort to accomplish things yet can still do so much morally good things. also they feel way more realistic than the perfect ones. its okay to be selfish, youre not perfect, yet dont be excessively selfish. its also okay to not be completely selfless, even if you just show a little bit of altruism, even if you just try to show some, thats already enough. no human is completely bad or good
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honestly, when watching a show, i tend to find characters who are both selfish and selfless at the same time more likeable than the ones who are totally selfless. its because theyre imperfect, and i tend to gravitate towards imperfect characters because they make me feel safe for my own imperfections, and remind me that no one is totally selfless or perfect, yet we still can be great people, as those imperfect characters actually put in a lot of effort to accomplish things yet can still do so much morally good things. also they feel way more realistic than the perfect ones. its okay to be selfish, youre not perfect, yet dont be excessively selfish. its also okay to not be completely selfless, even if you just show a little bit of altruism, even if you just try to show some, thats already enough. no human is completely bad or good
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Melody
I've been a people pleaser for practically my entire life.
After hyper-analyzing myself through my desires and ambitions, I couldn't help myself but believe I'm selfish. Less so my actions but more so my thoughts. I consider myself wise enough to not act on certain impulses, emotions, and desires.
Although now my close friends occasionally bring up concern of my issues with self-love.
It's hard to describe just exactly how my brain and thought processes don't allow me to act upon selfish desires. I'm not sure if my brain assumes the worst outcomes, but many times I think of the repercussions of actions that I'd take for just myself. It's much less I don't know what's good for myself/ what I deserve and moreso The act of pursuing such wants and desires provides greeting risk and consequences and I'd rather play it safe
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I've been a people pleaser for practically my entire life.
After hyper-analyzing myself through my desires and ambitions, I couldn't help myself but believe I'm selfish. Less so my actions but more so my thoughts. I consider myself wise enough to not act on certain impulses, emotions, and desires.
Although now my close friends occasionally bring up concern of my issues with self-love.
It's hard to describe just exactly how my brain and thought processes don't allow me to act upon selfish desires. I'm not sure if my brain assumes the worst outcomes, but many times I think of the repercussions of actions that I'd take for just myself. It's much less I don't know what's good for myself/ what I deserve and moreso The act of pursuing such wants and desires provides greeting risk and consequences and I'd rather play it safe
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Melody
I think the subject matter here is wayyyy too brief to explain the layers of selfishness and selflessness. I was taught to be selfless in so many ways from a young age as a pastors daughter and I completely lost myself. I didnt understand how selfishness is a tool for self growth and is a practice of saying NO when you can sense something wont serve you. We as humans have LIMITED ENERGY - constantly trying to be perceived as selfless will leave you with none to give to yourself. Be selfish, everyone else is just worried about themselves as well and good for them! We only have ourselves at the end of the day, as long as we live. You can still be empathic but be selfish. Selfish doesnt mean you dont account anyones feelings or desires, it means you fully examine it and determine where thee the outcome could serve you or not.
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I think the subject matter here is wayyyy too brief to explain the layers of selfishness and selflessness. I was taught to be selfless in so many ways from a young age as a pastors daughter and I completely lost myself. I didnt understand how selfishness is a tool for self growth and is a practice of saying NO when you can sense something wont serve you. We as humans have LIMITED ENERGY - constantly trying to be perceived as selfless will leave you with none to give to yourself. Be selfish, everyone else is just worried about themselves as well and good for them! We only have ourselves at the end of the day, as long as we live. You can still be empathic but be selfish. Selfish doesnt mean you dont account anyones feelings or desires, it means you fully examine it and determine where thee the outcome could serve you or not.
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Uchiha
My whole life I thought I was being good by trying to help others but when I was at the time of need, not a single soul came to my aid. That's when I realised why it is important to be selfish. people will only talk about you for being selfish, cold and heartless but they will never remember you for one act of kindness, I don't blame them for it is human nature and it is encoded in our DNA to be selfish. so these days I laugh when people complain about others being selfish. I say to them, he/she is only being human. it is human to disappoint and it is human to take advantage of kindness and try to maximise it. not that I support it but I can understand clearly why things are the way they are. Lol you can't cry about humans for being selfish, that is our true nature. Thank you all for coming out Adios
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My whole life I thought I was being good by trying to help others but when I was at the time of need, not a single soul came to my aid. That's when I realised why it is important to be selfish. people will only talk about you for being selfish, cold and heartless but they will never remember you for one act of kindness, I don't blame them for it is human nature and it is encoded in our DNA to be selfish. so these days I laugh when people complain about others being selfish. I say to them, he/she is only being human. it is human to disappoint and it is human to take advantage of kindness and try to maximise it. not that I support it but I can understand clearly why things are the way they are. Lol you can't cry about humans for being selfish, that is our true nature. Thank you all for coming out Adios
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Blasco
I believe that a strong connection with other people gives us a greater amount of happiness than what we get from objects, money and social status.
The happiness that we take the longest and the most difficult to achieve is the one that lasts the longest, but we are used to achieving instant happiness based on day-to-day entertainment.
We distance other people too much from our happiness that we no longer need to feel anything about each other, feelings of empathy are being lost because we don't need to feel a connection with anyone to be happy, because now we have objects replacing the happiness given by others, making our connection with other people numb and making us not care for their emotions.
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I believe that a strong connection with other people gives us a greater amount of happiness than what we get from objects, money and social status.
The happiness that we take the longest and the most difficult to achieve is the one that lasts the longest, but we are used to achieving instant happiness based on day-to-day entertainment.
We distance other people too much from our happiness that we no longer need to feel anything about each other, feelings of empathy are being lost because we don't need to feel a connection with anyone to be happy, because now we have objects replacing the happiness given by others, making our connection with other people numb and making us not care for their emotions.
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Nick
Regarding the Prisoner's Paradox, I feel that one critical question needs to be addressed: did I (the prisoner) do it? If not, then HELL NO, I'm not confessing, deals be damned! Not only is it a matter of principle, not only can LEOs renege on these promises, but it runs against my supposed self-interest because you can actually be prosecuted for making a false confession, even if you're exonerated! Self-interest does not exist in a void (false confession lets the guilty go free, as wel as imprisoning the innocent, and it's far more complicated than short-term gratification. Me, I'll keep my honor, thank you very much, and the cops can keep their deals.
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Regarding the Prisoner's Paradox, I feel that one critical question needs to be addressed: did I (the prisoner) do it? If not, then HELL NO, I'm not confessing, deals be damned! Not only is it a matter of principle, not only can LEOs renege on these promises, but it runs against my supposed self-interest because you can actually be prosecuted for making a false confession, even if you're exonerated! Self-interest does not exist in a void (false confession lets the guilty go free, as wel as imprisoning the innocent, and it's far more complicated than short-term gratification. Me, I'll keep my honor, thank you very much, and the cops can keep their deals.
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Max
Sometimes the self rests instead of growing. This is not stagnation, though these pauses are inevitable and exist for the same reasons you are not always breathing in fresh air: you must also breathe out to repeat the process. The reward is not a snapshot in time but something much greater and more durable.
But when the self cannot grow, this is the real sign something is wrong, whether by constriction, conflict, or death.
We must learn to tell the difference between real threats and imagined threats. When our immune system fails to do this we call it an allergy. Be wary and watchful, but watch those hair triggers - especially our own.
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Sometimes the self rests instead of growing. This is not stagnation, though these pauses are inevitable and exist for the same reasons you are not always breathing in fresh air: you must also breathe out to repeat the process. The reward is not a snapshot in time but something much greater and more durable.
But when the self cannot grow, this is the real sign something is wrong, whether by constriction, conflict, or death.
We must learn to tell the difference between real threats and imagined threats. When our immune system fails to do this we call it an allergy. Be wary and watchful, but watch those hair triggers - especially our own.
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Evans
I watch many of these videos. I appreciate another perspective and collective enlightenment on social skills. I think this video paints selfishness in a bad light. Like anything, modesty is key no? Are there others who have been taken advantage of because of their lack of selfishness? Healthy boundaries is selfish. Sleep is selfish. Healthy diet is selfish. Is it safe or collectively beneficial to have these things? Some may not agree, though in my opinion, well-being is the foundation of all areas of success. If you maintain a modest level of selfishness, you are better able to help others with fresh eyes and good health.
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I watch many of these videos. I appreciate another perspective and collective enlightenment on social skills. I think this video paints selfishness in a bad light. Like anything, modesty is key no? Are there others who have been taken advantage of because of their lack of selfishness? Healthy boundaries is selfish. Sleep is selfish. Healthy diet is selfish. Is it safe or collectively beneficial to have these things? Some may not agree, though in my opinion, well-being is the foundation of all areas of success. If you maintain a modest level of selfishness, you are better able to help others with fresh eyes and good health.
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Amy
Selfishness and selflessness is a very difficult task to balance out in my experiences. I was taught to believe that being nice and polite will get you far, and while I still try to live like that to some extent, certain situations can leave me feeling dissatisfied or in a lack mindset for various reasons. I'll admit that I'm far from perfect. I'm not the most tolerant person sometimes, and it's not easy for me to let my guard down. You'd think that at this point in my life that letting things be what they are would just come naturally to me. this video just proves to me that a lot of things in life involve constant effort
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Selfishness and selflessness is a very difficult task to balance out in my experiences. I was taught to believe that being nice and polite will get you far, and while I still try to live like that to some extent, certain situations can leave me feeling dissatisfied or in a lack mindset for various reasons. I'll admit that I'm far from perfect. I'm not the most tolerant person sometimes, and it's not easy for me to let my guard down. You'd think that at this point in my life that letting things be what they are would just come naturally to me. this video just proves to me that a lot of things in life involve constant effort
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Laika
Ask yourself, do I have relaxation built into my day? This will take different forms for different people. It will even take different forms on different days for you. The key is choosing something that you know is deeply good for you.
Blending relaxation into your weeks, month after month, year after year, will add up. This balance will actually keep you healthier and stave off depression and anxiety over time.
So find some joy today. Repeat tomorrow, and watch that balance seep into your months and years. Get ready to look back on a life well spent.
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Ask yourself, do I have relaxation built into my day? This will take different forms for different people. It will even take different forms on different days for you. The key is choosing something that you know is deeply good for you.
Blending relaxation into your weeks, month after month, year after year, will add up. This balance will actually keep you healthier and stave off depression and anxiety over time.
So find some joy today. Repeat tomorrow, and watch that balance seep into your months and years. Get ready to look back on a life well spent.
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SleppySnek
I've always wondered why altruism is considered selfless. Is altruism not something people do because they feel good about doing it, even if it's to their detriment?
Calling it selfish is maybe too strong of a word, but I feel like it's only because people feel good about it that they do it. So to me that makes it sound like an act of self-interest, because if it didn't feel good, they wouldn't do it (assuming they are not pressured into it.
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I've always wondered why altruism is considered selfless. Is altruism not something people do because they feel good about doing it, even if it's to their detriment?
Calling it selfish is maybe too strong of a word, but I feel like it's only because people feel good about it that they do it. So to me that makes it sound like an act of self-interest, because if it didn't feel good, they wouldn't do it (assuming they are not pressured into it.
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Profit
Sharing is caring, right? I'm not sure. There's a combination of selflessness and selfishness. I say combination, but it's usually one or the other. Which one is exhibited can depend on someone's mood, feelings, and beliefs as well as stimuli and settings like the environment, situations, people, etc. I'm not going to say which one should or shouldn't be emitted because they both have pros and cons that can make things better or worse.
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Sharing is caring, right? I'm not sure. There's a combination of selflessness and selfishness. I say combination, but it's usually one or the other. Which one is exhibited can depend on someone's mood, feelings, and beliefs as well as stimuli and settings like the environment, situations, people, etc. I'm not going to say which one should or shouldn't be emitted because they both have pros and cons that can make things better or worse.
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DOODADOF
MY relational ship type is Altruism. remove your ego and you will make the right choice every time. boomers selfish most people in america selfish. we don't take kind ness seriously because it's a discipline and egocentrics hate being discipline. so when your nice to them they laugh at you. that is why you have to crack them in the head till they look like glen from walking dead and then be nice. discipline there dad never gave them.
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MY relational ship type is Altruism. remove your ego and you will make the right choice every time. boomers selfish most people in america selfish. we don't take kind ness seriously because it's a discipline and egocentrics hate being discipline. so when your nice to them they laugh at you. that is why you have to crack them in the head till they look like glen from walking dead and then be nice. discipline there dad never gave them.
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lerneanlion
We humans are inherently selfish and naturally evil. So as long as we humans existed, the world itself will always be awful. But if we humans are gone, the world will become a better place. Either that or the Jedi teachings reached all humanity without the hypocrisy of the Jedi Council got tagged along with said teachings. But personally, I preferred the first option because the second option sounds very unrealistic.
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We humans are inherently selfish and naturally evil. So as long as we humans existed, the world itself will always be awful. But if we humans are gone, the world will become a better place. Either that or the Jedi teachings reached all humanity without the hypocrisy of the Jedi Council got tagged along with said teachings. But personally, I preferred the first option because the second option sounds very unrealistic.
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xxCrapNamexx
Don't help people, they need to do things themselves.
Even being selfless is done with a selfish solipsistic intent because you want to feel good about yourself. Like the video said, altruism is a holdover survival mechanic which is why all the worst things in human history happened with good intentions for the 'greater good' and for people to be part of something bigger than themselves.
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Don't help people, they need to do things themselves.
Even being selfless is done with a selfish solipsistic intent because you want to feel good about yourself. Like the video said, altruism is a holdover survival mechanic which is why all the worst things in human history happened with good intentions for the 'greater good' and for people to be part of something bigger than themselves.
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mittali
It's very easy to become selfish it's really hard to become selfless if we look in this century people are loosing their humanity and in this world someone is selfless we should cherish them with respect and honour because they teach how to be giving in nature and they are always ready to even give their lives and cherish every dear one's with respect which selfish people don't do
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It's very easy to become selfish it's really hard to become selfless if we look in this century people are loosing their humanity and in this world someone is selfless we should cherish them with respect and honour because they teach how to be giving in nature and they are always ready to even give their lives and cherish every dear one's with respect which selfish people don't do
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Deanna
As far as the Prisoner's Dilema goes, it's advantagious to be silent and the other party would also be aware of how advantagious it would be to also stay silent. There's an entire chart detailing all of this and the most optimal way is to stay silent because if you stay silent there's more than a 50% chance that the other prisoner would also stay silent for that very reason.
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As far as the Prisoner's Dilema goes, it's advantagious to be silent and the other party would also be aware of how advantagious it would be to also stay silent. There's an entire chart detailing all of this and the most optimal way is to stay silent because if you stay silent there's more than a 50% chance that the other prisoner would also stay silent for that very reason.
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Igor
The problem of being too kind is that people will take advantage of you. Being a little selfish is good for self improvement, being too kind could impact on your self improvement in a negative way.
A healthy way of being selfish is not doing for others what they can do by themselves. That way we could focus more on our goals and they could be more autonomous.
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The problem of being too kind is that people will take advantage of you. Being a little selfish is good for self improvement, being too kind could impact on your self improvement in a negative way.
A healthy way of being selfish is not doing for others what they can do by themselves. That way we could focus more on our goals and they could be more autonomous.
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Alona
Look around.
Selfish people is all there is. The selfless people are most of the time after a certain age, completely broken and don't mix with others anymore.
People wonder why it's hard to connect with each other. Well the second you realize that nobody will truly care about you for selfless reasons, then why bother. b
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Look around.
Selfish people is all there is. The selfless people are most of the time after a certain age, completely broken and don't mix with others anymore.
People wonder why it's hard to connect with each other. Well the second you realize that nobody will truly care about you for selfless reasons, then why bother. b
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Van
I have been selfless. Dont do it. Be selfish. Its created me to be selfish. And alone.
Self centered. Take and take and take. They have no limit. Up to you to stop it. And when you do. Get rid of them. Focus on you. Its lonely. But I practically was in the street helping other. No more good nature.
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I have been selfless. Dont do it. Be selfish. Its created me to be selfish. And alone.
Self centered. Take and take and take. They have no limit. Up to you to stop it. And when you do. Get rid of them. Focus on you. Its lonely. But I practically was in the street helping other. No more good nature.
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Dino
When i was young i used to have a clear picture of what selfishness was, but the older i got the more the definition started getting lost on me because many things can be written off as many other things, so as long as i aint hurting anyone, i dont really care if im being a bit selfish or not
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When i was young i used to have a clear picture of what selfishness was, but the older i got the more the definition started getting lost on me because many things can be written off as many other things, so as long as i aint hurting anyone, i dont really care if im being a bit selfish or not
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Wit
Its not selfish to put your needs before others. Thats self care. Selfishness occurs when you totally disregard other peoples feelings. Its not your responsibility to make others happy, but its better to acknowledge their disappointment. Agree to disagree and keep it moving.
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Its not selfish to put your needs before others. Thats self care. Selfishness occurs when you totally disregard other peoples feelings. Its not your responsibility to make others happy, but its better to acknowledge their disappointment. Agree to disagree and keep it moving.
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Emil
Some of my friends put themselves infront of others, but I've come to terms with that. I also think about helping out and sharing and just doing stuff for myself and just keeping stuff for myself, I sort of make a mix of caring about others and myself.
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Some of my friends put themselves infront of others, but I've come to terms with that. I also think about helping out and sharing and just doing stuff for myself and just keeping stuff for myself, I sort of make a mix of caring about others and myself.
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BadWolf77
Reason #1 people have become increasingly selfish: Theres no good in helping anyone anymore. Doing so gets you sued, arrested, insulted, publicly shamed. Youre better off serving your own needs and letting everyone else do their own thing.
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Reason #1 people have become increasingly selfish: Theres no good in helping anyone anymore. Doing so gets you sued, arrested, insulted, publicly shamed. Youre better off serving your own needs and letting everyone else do their own thing.
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