The Problem With Self Help
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Zdawg
We use words to add up thoughts in our heads, emotions are tied to our words which we turn into actions, its our acceptance to the reasons we give ourselves to feel these emotions, you wouldnt agree with me unless youve accepted a reason to agree with me, correct?
If theres more than one way at looking at every situation than why do we beat ourselves up over things we consider as negative?
Whats the point of beating yourselves up from past actions if you can just reject those thoughts and you can accept only positive thoughts.
Were constantly judging peoples opinions, correct? Thats you judging my opinion if you agree or disagree which means you accepted my opinion and chose to judge it in a positive or negative point of view You shouldnt have any more mental problems unless you agree that they are worth having anyways so this fixes any problems you thought you had, remember that if somethings a problem that means you accepted reason youve given yourselves to have those problems.
Look at the cup half full every time you judge a situation and youll never have another problem ever again
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We use words to add up thoughts in our heads, emotions are tied to our words which we turn into actions, its our acceptance to the reasons we give ourselves to feel these emotions, you wouldnt agree with me unless youve accepted a reason to agree with me, correct?
If theres more than one way at looking at every situation than why do we beat ourselves up over things we consider as negative?
Whats the point of beating yourselves up from past actions if you can just reject those thoughts and you can accept only positive thoughts.
Were constantly judging peoples opinions, correct? Thats you judging my opinion if you agree or disagree which means you accepted my opinion and chose to judge it in a positive or negative point of view You shouldnt have any more mental problems unless you agree that they are worth having anyways so this fixes any problems you thought you had, remember that if somethings a problem that means you accepted reason youve given yourselves to have those problems.
Look at the cup half full every time you judge a situation and youll never have another problem ever again
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Ghostly
The part of telling the difference between a person who wants to just hit the high dopamine and a person who wants to apply the good advice to their life hit me like a brick. I became to independent for self help but in unhealthy ways that I really was just looking for the dopamine of accomplishment instead of just trying to apply the advice Ive learned or have been given in my life.
And In turn its just become a mountain of unnecessary pressure, this need to be perfect because I am self improving when in reality I was simply looking at it from the wrong angle.
My self help strategy was either, using a journal to keep track of what im doing, venting, or just taking notes of advice what is being given to me that I find that I can apply it to myself, taking to a therapist, gratitude, prayer, spending time with others, or doing productive things (not 24/7 just in times where its far better than doing nothing)
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The part of telling the difference between a person who wants to just hit the high dopamine and a person who wants to apply the good advice to their life hit me like a brick. I became to independent for self help but in unhealthy ways that I really was just looking for the dopamine of accomplishment instead of just trying to apply the advice Ive learned or have been given in my life.
And In turn its just become a mountain of unnecessary pressure, this need to be perfect because I am self improving when in reality I was simply looking at it from the wrong angle.
My self help strategy was either, using a journal to keep track of what im doing, venting, or just taking notes of advice what is being given to me that I find that I can apply it to myself, taking to a therapist, gratitude, prayer, spending time with others, or doing productive things (not 24/7 just in times where its far better than doing nothing)
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mushyLOL
I am so happy someone made a video explaning this. Self help has become a big trend aswell as That girl and glowups. I am 15yo and i am obssesed with like lifestyles and slef help and improvment. I am the ok-great one tho. I have read 3 books on self help (the mountin is you, atomic habits) and they helped a little bit yeah! But i just used them to educate myself about things. I alredy mastered froming habits and having discipline. I did find myself falling into the hole of having a perfect body and clean face(i struggle with acne, but i slowly realised that it doesent relly matter. Like all those influencers and gurus send the same messege and evrybodey looks the same at the end. People are afraid to be different and for me the world is becoming boring. The industry and people are just striving for money i guess. Tho i think i still need to educate myself on that ofc.
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I am so happy someone made a video explaning this. Self help has become a big trend aswell as That girl and glowups. I am 15yo and i am obssesed with like lifestyles and slef help and improvment. I am the ok-great one tho. I have read 3 books on self help (the mountin is you, atomic habits) and they helped a little bit yeah! But i just used them to educate myself about things. I alredy mastered froming habits and having discipline. I did find myself falling into the hole of having a perfect body and clean face(i struggle with acne, but i slowly realised that it doesent relly matter. Like all those influencers and gurus send the same messege and evrybodey looks the same at the end. People are afraid to be different and for me the world is becoming boring. The industry and people are just striving for money i guess. Tho i think i still need to educate myself on that ofc.
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Catato
as someone who was wanted to become ok to great about a year ago, i tried to tred the journey alone and i didnt know which gut feeling, or voice inside of me to trust, and ended up taking all the wrong turns and tumbling really low till i went from ok to worse than bad and whenever i even try to improve my mental state or anything i tend to get super overwhelmed. im only 14 and ive tried therapy maybe 6-ish times, i live in a very toxic environment and my parents stopped sending me to therapy. in that time, my parents wanted to send me to therapy to fix me because i was also dealing with a lot of hormonal stuff internally and became much more easily irritated and emotional. therapy didnt do a thing and im really lost on where to begin knowing that im not well enough to tred alone without thorough advice and being unable to access something like therapy.
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as someone who was wanted to become ok to great about a year ago, i tried to tred the journey alone and i didnt know which gut feeling, or voice inside of me to trust, and ended up taking all the wrong turns and tumbling really low till i went from ok to worse than bad and whenever i even try to improve my mental state or anything i tend to get super overwhelmed. im only 14 and ive tried therapy maybe 6-ish times, i live in a very toxic environment and my parents stopped sending me to therapy. in that time, my parents wanted to send me to therapy to fix me because i was also dealing with a lot of hormonal stuff internally and became much more easily irritated and emotional. therapy didnt do a thing and im really lost on where to begin knowing that im not well enough to tred alone without thorough advice and being unable to access something like therapy.
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Edlyn
This was a great video! For someone who once had low self-esteem, I attribute my growth through self-help books. After a bad relationship that almost broke me, I decided to seek therapy and decided to make a change to my life. After reading two self-help books, I realized they all are about the same principle which is learn something new to improve yourself. For me, self-improvement is what I focus on; improving my knowledge on subjects through reading and learning new hobbies. I mostly do it when I'm too overwhelmed or stressed. I don't overindulge because anything being consumed too much can lead to addiction and/or toxic. I focus on days when I need more self-love. It's an ongoing journey, honesty. One really has to be motivated to change their life and mind or you'll lose all your progress, without consistent effort.
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This was a great video! For someone who once had low self-esteem, I attribute my growth through self-help books. After a bad relationship that almost broke me, I decided to seek therapy and decided to make a change to my life. After reading two self-help books, I realized they all are about the same principle which is learn something new to improve yourself. For me, self-improvement is what I focus on; improving my knowledge on subjects through reading and learning new hobbies. I mostly do it when I'm too overwhelmed or stressed. I don't overindulge because anything being consumed too much can lead to addiction and/or toxic. I focus on days when I need more self-love. It's an ongoing journey, honesty. One really has to be motivated to change their life and mind or you'll lose all your progress, without consistent effort.
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BT-7274
Make a vid on autistic burnout
Im not autistic but one of the symptoms of autistic burnout is loss of skills & thats something that keep happening me.
I lose my skills so often even though I practice close to constantly & i have to relearn them. Its getting boring
Skill loss is really hurting my mental health, its caused me to hate myself way more than I already do, i have a huge hatred toward people who are better than me & i no longer find enjoyment out of doing well at things because thats usually an early warning that im about to lose my skill.
I cant find a permanent solution to skill loss & anytime i ask this question i get ignored or people think im crazy or they say its normal & happens to everyone which it doesnt. I often spam questions about skill loss because im in need of a solution so badly.
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Make a vid on autistic burnout
Im not autistic but one of the symptoms of autistic burnout is loss of skills & thats something that keep happening me.
I lose my skills so often even though I practice close to constantly & i have to relearn them. Its getting boring
Skill loss is really hurting my mental health, its caused me to hate myself way more than I already do, i have a huge hatred toward people who are better than me & i no longer find enjoyment out of doing well at things because thats usually an early warning that im about to lose my skill.
I cant find a permanent solution to skill loss & anytime i ask this question i get ignored or people think im crazy or they say its normal & happens to everyone which it doesnt. I often spam questions about skill loss because im in need of a solution so badly.
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Wonderful
Hi so I know this video isnt about depression but I think Im having depression Im only 11 and I started having family problems in 3rd grade and other problems such as studies friendship love followed since I was ten i thought that I could bc I was really extreme extroverted kid but after all Im really introverted and I have another problems such as crying every night and being sensitive or angry over simple things stress and sleep disorders and sometimes feel like I wanna die and Im not loved. I cant reach out anyone else in my family or friends thats why I asked u bc ur videos always make solutions for my problems. Love ya hope u reply
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Hi so I know this video isnt about depression but I think Im having depression Im only 11 and I started having family problems in 3rd grade and other problems such as studies friendship love followed since I was ten i thought that I could bc I was really extreme extroverted kid but after all Im really introverted and I have another problems such as crying every night and being sensitive or angry over simple things stress and sleep disorders and sometimes feel like I wanna die and Im not loved. I cant reach out anyone else in my family or friends thats why I asked u bc ur videos always make solutions for my problems. Love ya hope u reply
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education
hey psych2go, i really need your help. my mental health has gotten even worse now and i think its because of bullying, unrealistic expectations from parents, friend troubles and then feeling stressed in school. I have done very small sh recently, but the main issue is i now constantly feel stressed and i don't even remember the last time ii didn't have stress in my mind. I need help, but my body physically won't let me because in my mind, my parents can't know and if i tell a teacher the will tell my parents. i really need your help
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hey psych2go, i really need your help. my mental health has gotten even worse now and i think its because of bullying, unrealistic expectations from parents, friend troubles and then feeling stressed in school. I have done very small sh recently, but the main issue is i now constantly feel stressed and i don't even remember the last time ii didn't have stress in my mind. I need help, but my body physically won't let me because in my mind, my parents can't know and if i tell a teacher the will tell my parents. i really need your help
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Pinkish
I no longer self help cuz nothing works. I keep messing it up. Sometimes on purpose.
Maybe I just really need someone to talk to but can't put it past feeling guilty of passing a burden of a thought to someone. I don't care if a therapist doesn't really care of everything I tell them, I just need to let it out and the guilt subsides knowing that I'm paying them to listen, so no guilt. Except I don't have money for therapy lol
I just accept that. this is it.
Whatever happens, happens.
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I no longer self help cuz nothing works. I keep messing it up. Sometimes on purpose.
Maybe I just really need someone to talk to but can't put it past feeling guilty of passing a burden of a thought to someone. I don't care if a therapist doesn't really care of everything I tell them, I just need to let it out and the guilt subsides knowing that I'm paying them to listen, so no guilt. Except I don't have money for therapy lol
I just accept that. this is it.
Whatever happens, happens.
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Brittany
I have self help books about Friendship Troubles because I worry about not getting along with my friends. I had a friend and we would always give each other the silent treatment and she would be mean to me like one time she blamed me for something I didn't do, she wouldn't let me say a word about it to anyone she didn't want to admit what she did or apologize to me because she thought I deserved to be treated that way after I read her diary. And it hurt my feelings
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I have self help books about Friendship Troubles because I worry about not getting along with my friends. I had a friend and we would always give each other the silent treatment and she would be mean to me like one time she blamed me for something I didn't do, she wouldn't let me say a word about it to anyone she didn't want to admit what she did or apologize to me because she thought I deserved to be treated that way after I read her diary. And it hurt my feelings
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Spencer
I think if you look hard enough youll find darkness everywhere.
But im the kind of person who will take good lessons no matter the source and apply them to my own life as needed.
Sometimes I need to be told that I am, in fact, the problem, the weakest link or that im not doing A B C in order to get D E F. It's just the reality.
So while a lot of the self help mantras can be kind of one size fits all, I think some of it is valuable.
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I think if you look hard enough youll find darkness everywhere.
But im the kind of person who will take good lessons no matter the source and apply them to my own life as needed.
Sometimes I need to be told that I am, in fact, the problem, the weakest link or that im not doing A B C in order to get D E F. It's just the reality.
So while a lot of the self help mantras can be kind of one size fits all, I think some of it is valuable.
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education
Hey psych2go! Im not sure if youll see this but Im a 14 year old who is struggling with some stuff rn and I really just want someone to talk to about it (so basically a therapist. But I dont want to ask my parents about it because then Id have to tell them about my issues and it would be awkward. Do u have a recommendations for finding someone I can talk to that is preferably a professional? Tysm I love your videos
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Hey psych2go! Im not sure if youll see this but Im a 14 year old who is struggling with some stuff rn and I really just want someone to talk to about it (so basically a therapist. But I dont want to ask my parents about it because then Id have to tell them about my issues and it would be awkward. Do u have a recommendations for finding someone I can talk to that is preferably a professional? Tysm I love your videos
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gabi
Hey psych2go! i was wondering if u could make a video of parents punishing u for showing emotion. my parents often got mad at me or were upset because i had a lot of panic attacks in school. even if i didnt have panic attacks i wasnt allowed to show my emotions like anger and sadness. i would get disciplined for only feeling how i feel. to this day i am scared i get punished for showing my feelings.
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Hey psych2go! i was wondering if u could make a video of parents punishing u for showing emotion. my parents often got mad at me or were upset because i had a lot of panic attacks in school. even if i didnt have panic attacks i wasnt allowed to show my emotions like anger and sadness. i would get disciplined for only feeling how i feel. to this day i am scared i get punished for showing my feelings.
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Shattered
For me. Finding time to actually do a self improvement day has been hard but rewarding. I say rewarding because Ive gotten a lot of shifts done at my job. But one day I just want a day to relax, maybe play my guitar a little bit and just enjoy a day off. Its even harder when I get called lazy for wanting these types of days by my mother so she takes me out every day I have off to run errands.
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For me. Finding time to actually do a self improvement day has been hard but rewarding. I say rewarding because Ive gotten a lot of shifts done at my job. But one day I just want a day to relax, maybe play my guitar a little bit and just enjoy a day off. Its even harder when I get called lazy for wanting these types of days by my mother so she takes me out every day I have off to run errands.
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Kayla
Am trans mtf our issue is waiting list to even buy hrt meds legally in uk are years long so have been buying hrt over internet for almost 3 years and have not been getting blood test because of money and health service will not do them because it is illegal for them to help someone who is self medicating. Would prefer to be dead then stop so think self medicating is the healthyest option.
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Am trans mtf our issue is waiting list to even buy hrt meds legally in uk are years long so have been buying hrt over internet for almost 3 years and have not been getting blood test because of money and health service will not do them because it is illegal for them to help someone who is self medicating. Would prefer to be dead then stop so think self medicating is the healthyest option.
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Coffee_Beans
I feel like a lot of people who follow influencers and gurus who advocate self care and stuff have unrealistic standards and expectations. The only way you will benefit is if you find what works for you and not what works for someone else. I, for example am Christian and found happiness and self esteem in my religion along with working out and spending more understanding myself.
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I feel like a lot of people who follow influencers and gurus who advocate self care and stuff have unrealistic standards and expectations. The only way you will benefit is if you find what works for you and not what works for someone else. I, for example am Christian and found happiness and self esteem in my religion along with working out and spending more understanding myself.
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drowning
Hi Ive been talking with someone for many months now but now its been 11 days idk if Im the one who changed or if he just loosing interest in me and Ive been feelings constant feeling of pain like physically pain for years but now its worse than before my suicidal thoughts r not there but I feel extreme pain its like it was burning my inside
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Hi Ive been talking with someone for many months now but now its been 11 days idk if Im the one who changed or if he just loosing interest in me and Ive been feelings constant feeling of pain like physically pain for years but now its worse than before my suicidal thoughts r not there but I feel extreme pain its like it was burning my inside
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satire
hii p2g! can your team maybe make a video on 'how to stop procrastination. ' the thing is, i go through a cycle: 1- say you'll do it later 2- watch videos and say it's for 5 mins but it goes on for hours 3- go into a breakdown about how no one understands your work. 4- repeat
: : this cycle is really hard to get out of, any tips anyone? :D
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hii p2g! can your team maybe make a video on 'how to stop procrastination. ' the thing is, i go through a cycle: 1- say you'll do it later 2- watch videos and say it's for 5 mins but it goes on for hours 3- go into a breakdown about how no one understands your work. 4- repeat
: : this cycle is really hard to get out of, any tips anyone? :D
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innocentrage1
Self help doesn't help. In 09 I got into the whole pick up artist thing. Studied pick up lines, watched videos, even went to a boot camp and read books like Mark mansons models. None of it helped. 15 years later I'm still single and worst off in dating than I ever was. Online dating killed dating.
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Self help doesn't help. In 09 I got into the whole pick up artist thing. Studied pick up lines, watched videos, even went to a boot camp and read books like Mark mansons models. None of it helped. 15 years later I'm still single and worst off in dating than I ever was. Online dating killed dating.
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MegaSkookum
I don't get why so many people who claim to have, or act like they have the answers, are so threatened by people's REAL problems? Can your philosophy truly handle the power of the dark side, or maybe your feeble skills are no match for the power of the dark side
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I don't get why so many people who claim to have, or act like they have the answers, are so threatened by people's REAL problems? Can your philosophy truly handle the power of the dark side, or maybe your feeble skills are no match for the power of the dark side
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JVNG
I'm in a position where I'm neither ready to watch self help videos nor accept myself as I am. I don't know even I can comment this here, sorry if it's irrelevant. Moreover, I too watched these self help videos, which, instead of helping me, made me feel worse.
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I'm in a position where I'm neither ready to watch self help videos nor accept myself as I am. I don't know even I can comment this here, sorry if it's irrelevant. Moreover, I too watched these self help videos, which, instead of helping me, made me feel worse.
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Miki
Psych2go could you do a theme about people who were born normal but went completely insane from something that ocurred. And it's not just classical ptsd. About people who really lost their minds through torture or something else. And why and how it happens?
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Psych2go could you do a theme about people who were born normal but went completely insane from something that ocurred. And it's not just classical ptsd. About people who really lost their minds through torture or something else. And why and how it happens?
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education
this might just be something that only i relate to, but yesterday i had to reject someone but i still want to be friends with that person, do you know anything i could do to stay friends but not signal that i want to be in a relationship with them?
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this might just be something that only i relate to, but yesterday i had to reject someone but i still want to be friends with that person, do you know anything i could do to stay friends but not signal that i want to be in a relationship with them?
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Muze
Think the WORST frauds in self help are one one's that use psychological information and act like they are a licensed professional or authority in the subject, when they just did research on it and not know the context or understand what they found.
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Think the WORST frauds in self help are one one's that use psychological information and act like they are a licensed professional or authority in the subject, when they just did research on it and not know the context or understand what they found.
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SuperShana97
Thank you for addressing this! I think Self-Help books are great if you want to improve yourself and your life but. sometimes not all of them helps depending on your personal preferences. I would recommend finding a book that fits to you.
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Thank you for addressing this! I think Self-Help books are great if you want to improve yourself and your life but. sometimes not all of them helps depending on your personal preferences. I would recommend finding a book that fits to you.
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