3 Ways To INSTANTLY Respect Yourself More
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Lufty
Late last year, during the holidays, my older brother brought his baby mama and kids down to visit. They would alternate between staying at my house and my aunt's. What turned into a we're staying for a few weeks turned into a few months. So many times they'd say we're saving up to move into a place yet they'd be constantly eating out, buying frivolous things and going to theme parks. The longer they stayed, the more their manipulative and dishonest behavior started to become apparent. It would be after a trip out of town for New Year's, hanging out with actual good friends of mine, that I'd open up about what was happening at home and they gave me lots of much needed support. Not only did I have fun during my trip, but I had some time to reflect on what was happening.
That's when I realized my brother and BM were just trying to appease me to get a free ride, all while their kids were trashing my house and them trying to cover up everything behind my back. Shortly after I got home from my trip, I finally confronted them about everything, and they pretty much flipped out and tried to make me out to be the jerk for doing so. They tried to manipulate me again, and I almost fell for it, but my aunt saw the same patterns and stepped in. Both of us ended up simultaneously kicking them out from both our houses over all this, and I actually felt better about myself in the end. Realized by doing so that I had shown myself self respect by choosing to no longer put up with that bad behavior!
Oh, and after they got kicked out, they went to my cousin. (Who was sharing an apartment with two other roommates at the time) They took them in, and the exact same things happened over there. After a few months of that, I would talk with my cousin about how similar of a situation it was, give my two cents on the matter like my friends did for me, and ended up helping him and his roomies come up with an exit strategy. After they notified the landlord they were moving out of the old place, BM and the kids were forced to go back to where they came from, and that was also the moment I decided to cut my older brother out of my life entirely for doing this yet again to all of us. I also helped my cousin and roomies move into a new place shortly after.
TL; DR My older brother and baby mama were being dishonest and manipulative while staying at my home, I found self respect by kicking them out. Then my cousin went through the same thing and I helped him out with my newfound self respect and honest perspective on the matter.
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Late last year, during the holidays, my older brother brought his baby mama and kids down to visit. They would alternate between staying at my house and my aunt's. What turned into a we're staying for a few weeks turned into a few months. So many times they'd say we're saving up to move into a place yet they'd be constantly eating out, buying frivolous things and going to theme parks. The longer they stayed, the more their manipulative and dishonest behavior started to become apparent. It would be after a trip out of town for New Year's, hanging out with actual good friends of mine, that I'd open up about what was happening at home and they gave me lots of much needed support. Not only did I have fun during my trip, but I had some time to reflect on what was happening.
That's when I realized my brother and BM were just trying to appease me to get a free ride, all while their kids were trashing my house and them trying to cover up everything behind my back. Shortly after I got home from my trip, I finally confronted them about everything, and they pretty much flipped out and tried to make me out to be the jerk for doing so. They tried to manipulate me again, and I almost fell for it, but my aunt saw the same patterns and stepped in. Both of us ended up simultaneously kicking them out from both our houses over all this, and I actually felt better about myself in the end. Realized by doing so that I had shown myself self respect by choosing to no longer put up with that bad behavior!
Oh, and after they got kicked out, they went to my cousin. (Who was sharing an apartment with two other roommates at the time) They took them in, and the exact same things happened over there. After a few months of that, I would talk with my cousin about how similar of a situation it was, give my two cents on the matter like my friends did for me, and ended up helping him and his roomies come up with an exit strategy. After they notified the landlord they were moving out of the old place, BM and the kids were forced to go back to where they came from, and that was also the moment I decided to cut my older brother out of my life entirely for doing this yet again to all of us. I also helped my cousin and roomies move into a new place shortly after.
TL; DR My older brother and baby mama were being dishonest and manipulative while staying at my home, I found self respect by kicking them out. Then my cousin went through the same thing and I helped him out with my newfound self respect and honest perspective on the matter.
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Deven
I barely show myself any self respect other than good hygiene. I still beat myself down for events that happened years ago and I still can't let go of my former crush since I mistreated her and mismanged the whole situation so badly and chaotically. I happened to take all of daily life's frustrations out on my crush and didn't give her enough space and a chance to talk about her own feelings. The heartache and guilt that ensued afterwards has slowly but surely began to get better several years later but I feel like it will never go away completely because it hurts more than you'd think for hurting someone else that you loved and at least thought you cared about when in reality you treated them as an object and pretended that there were no boundaries and wanted to make everything about yourself (that was me at the time. I wish I could go back in time and treat her, others and myself better. I know I can only go forward from here, and the pain will only loom for as long as I let it. It's just easier said than done on actually gaining the will power to completely let go and move on once it has become an obsession and when you feel like there's no one else that can replace them.
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I barely show myself any self respect other than good hygiene. I still beat myself down for events that happened years ago and I still can't let go of my former crush since I mistreated her and mismanged the whole situation so badly and chaotically. I happened to take all of daily life's frustrations out on my crush and didn't give her enough space and a chance to talk about her own feelings. The heartache and guilt that ensued afterwards has slowly but surely began to get better several years later but I feel like it will never go away completely because it hurts more than you'd think for hurting someone else that you loved and at least thought you cared about when in reality you treated them as an object and pretended that there were no boundaries and wanted to make everything about yourself (that was me at the time. I wish I could go back in time and treat her, others and myself better. I know I can only go forward from here, and the pain will only loom for as long as I let it. It's just easier said than done on actually gaining the will power to completely let go and move on once it has become an obsession and when you feel like there's no one else that can replace them.
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Dr.
i never experienced abuse or disrespect-
i did that to myself for absolutely no reason for over 8 years back in childhood and continued, after the primary damage was done, until now.
i basically managed on my own to delete every bit of selfrespect and selfhonor.
it all depends (cuz of my systematic thinking and processing) on external values.
if i dont see myself reaching those set values (high selfexpectations, then thats quite bad for my emotional wellbeing.
i recently discovered/came to the conclusion, that my broken self wont ever accept help from not accepted sources. those sources are real psychotherapists, my parents or family, coworkers and so on.
no its rather a very strange and unrealistic type of person which is improbable to ever come accross me. therefore, no help.
the kind of help i assigned for myself as positive would be seen by anyone else as selfdestructive and negative.
so yea. thanks for the video. i guess?
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i never experienced abuse or disrespect-
i did that to myself for absolutely no reason for over 8 years back in childhood and continued, after the primary damage was done, until now.
i basically managed on my own to delete every bit of selfrespect and selfhonor.
it all depends (cuz of my systematic thinking and processing) on external values.
if i dont see myself reaching those set values (high selfexpectations, then thats quite bad for my emotional wellbeing.
i recently discovered/came to the conclusion, that my broken self wont ever accept help from not accepted sources. those sources are real psychotherapists, my parents or family, coworkers and so on.
no its rather a very strange and unrealistic type of person which is improbable to ever come accross me. therefore, no help.
the kind of help i assigned for myself as positive would be seen by anyone else as selfdestructive and negative.
so yea. thanks for the video. i guess?
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220
Things we don't tolerate, you ask? Well. imposed pace.
When being lucky enough to do something on my own, I don't tolerate being forced to use someone else's speed. I mean, if it involves stakes that for some reasons demand a specific time and speed, basically if there are good reasons to rush, well I'll do it, I will adapt for the time being.
But without such stakes, if you want me to do something for you, just explain the task (clearly, please, give me the delivery time you want, and get out of my way. If I can't do it, I'll tell you right away. And it may even be a matter of negociation, but in the end, I am sole responsible for managing my time and I intend to stay that way. I don't go around imposing my own pace on people, this is disrespectful. So I expect this to be reciprocated.
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Things we don't tolerate, you ask? Well. imposed pace.
When being lucky enough to do something on my own, I don't tolerate being forced to use someone else's speed. I mean, if it involves stakes that for some reasons demand a specific time and speed, basically if there are good reasons to rush, well I'll do it, I will adapt for the time being.
But without such stakes, if you want me to do something for you, just explain the task (clearly, please, give me the delivery time you want, and get out of my way. If I can't do it, I'll tell you right away. And it may even be a matter of negociation, but in the end, I am sole responsible for managing my time and I intend to stay that way. I don't go around imposing my own pace on people, this is disrespectful. So I expect this to be reciprocated.
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Murr
This is why I have to terminate everything with toxic people and those who have wronged me in the past (especially some of those former high school and grade school classmates of mine who bullied me. People keep telling me that I am too sensitive, emotional and I have to ignore those who tease or wronged me. Because of this, I am just not talking to them (yet, I am judged for that again. I was also told that they have changed. I know, but still, I have to keep them away from my life.
To them: Why am I acting like that now? Because I used to be that person who reacts a lot to insults. You told me to ignore them? I am just doing what you told me to do, now you're gonna judge me? So be it.
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This is why I have to terminate everything with toxic people and those who have wronged me in the past (especially some of those former high school and grade school classmates of mine who bullied me. People keep telling me that I am too sensitive, emotional and I have to ignore those who tease or wronged me. Because of this, I am just not talking to them (yet, I am judged for that again. I was also told that they have changed. I know, but still, I have to keep them away from my life.
To them: Why am I acting like that now? Because I used to be that person who reacts a lot to insults. You told me to ignore them? I am just doing what you told me to do, now you're gonna judge me? So be it.
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Sebastiaan
If you 'feel' disrespected by someone, ask yourself who is that person? Do they even respect themselves?
How can you feel disrespected when that person can't even respect themselves - Unknown (from comment section Jocko Willink podcast, on the topic of alcoholics.
Note that there is a difference between feeling disrespected and being disrespected (or experiencing behavior of, a feeling is neither right or wrong and it's your choice only how to deal with it. Don't waste your energy on those who want to make you feel bad. Remember: those who want to pull you down are already below you.
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If you 'feel' disrespected by someone, ask yourself who is that person? Do they even respect themselves?
How can you feel disrespected when that person can't even respect themselves - Unknown (from comment section Jocko Willink podcast, on the topic of alcoholics.
Note that there is a difference between feeling disrespected and being disrespected (or experiencing behavior of, a feeling is neither right or wrong and it's your choice only how to deal with it. Don't waste your energy on those who want to make you feel bad. Remember: those who want to pull you down are already below you.
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Kurt
I feel like my family and friendship group is eroding. I cant connect with them anymore. I feel they dont have my best interests in mind. I have been focusing more on myself and looking inward and trying to better myself. Im not sure where to turn to other than inward and I get so confused. The end of the video makes me sad as it suggests finding people to connect with that value you, but I am missing this element in my life. I dont want to wallow in my own pity. I help others. I journal. I do art. Yet, I feel unfulfilled.
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I feel like my family and friendship group is eroding. I cant connect with them anymore. I feel they dont have my best interests in mind. I have been focusing more on myself and looking inward and trying to better myself. Im not sure where to turn to other than inward and I get so confused. The end of the video makes me sad as it suggests finding people to connect with that value you, but I am missing this element in my life. I dont want to wallow in my own pity. I help others. I journal. I do art. Yet, I feel unfulfilled.
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Dm3qXY
i think one more point could have been added: understanding you don't always have to solve the problem; the tendency of solving a problem that might not be yours to solve comes from self quilt or maybe guilt tripping from others; respecting yourself would imply you understand the borders, your merits and you correctly identify your obligations; it might be enough from you to just point at the problem and ask / demand a resolution from someone else more appropriate to react with a solution. Psych2go
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i think one more point could have been added: understanding you don't always have to solve the problem; the tendency of solving a problem that might not be yours to solve comes from self quilt or maybe guilt tripping from others; respecting yourself would imply you understand the borders, your merits and you correctly identify your obligations; it might be enough from you to just point at the problem and ask / demand a resolution from someone else more appropriate to react with a solution. Psych2go
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An
I'm unwilling to deal with some ableist stuff after a point (I have Autism and Epilepsy, but most people I only inform on the Epilepsy. I get if people make a mistake and joke about Autism around me since they normally don't know, but I draw the line, at certain things Epilepsy related, like not taking some Accommodations in account when they make logical sense.
Literally why I quit Walmart and got petty revenge via Malicious Compliance. Worst Personal Manager Ever.
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I'm unwilling to deal with some ableist stuff after a point (I have Autism and Epilepsy, but most people I only inform on the Epilepsy. I get if people make a mistake and joke about Autism around me since they normally don't know, but I draw the line, at certain things Epilepsy related, like not taking some Accommodations in account when they make logical sense.
Literally why I quit Walmart and got petty revenge via Malicious Compliance. Worst Personal Manager Ever.
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Rose
I wish I had more self respect. Tonight I've been told to fckin shut up when I was talking about our relationship issue with my boyfriend who has adhd. He then backtracked and said he was saying it to himself even though I was the only one talking. He's told me to Go to hll before then back tracked and said he wasn't saying it to me. It's a phrase
I've never heard it being used as a random phrase before. feeling so upset tonight.
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I wish I had more self respect. Tonight I've been told to fckin shut up when I was talking about our relationship issue with my boyfriend who has adhd. He then backtracked and said he was saying it to himself even though I was the only one talking. He's told me to Go to hll before then back tracked and said he wasn't saying it to me. It's a phrase
I've never heard it being used as a random phrase before. feeling so upset tonight.
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Jessica
My trust in someone was shattered recently. I was friends with this person for 3 years. I really thought we could trust each other. He did eventually betray me. Stabbed me in the back. I just can't seem to get over it. It's so painful. I loved this person very much. I just still can't believe it. It's really made me not want to trust others. I feel I may never trust again.
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My trust in someone was shattered recently. I was friends with this person for 3 years. I really thought we could trust each other. He did eventually betray me. Stabbed me in the back. I just can't seem to get over it. It's so painful. I loved this person very much. I just still can't believe it. It's really made me not want to trust others. I feel I may never trust again.
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Julien
This is hard to say but I have a friend that I like but my other friend does to and I get sad or mad because I feel like hes going to get the person I like and I just get anxiety then I get really sad because I think she likes me and him but if she does like him should I give up trying to get her or should I not stop? By the way Im tired so if I messed up grammar thats why
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This is hard to say but I have a friend that I like but my other friend does to and I get sad or mad because I feel like hes going to get the person I like and I just get anxiety then I get really sad because I think she likes me and him but if she does like him should I give up trying to get her or should I not stop? By the way Im tired so if I messed up grammar thats why
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tmannintendo
Don't join the military, they will do all 3 to you. You are literally signing your life away. And if you decide to do so anyway. Serve somewhere you can report mistreatment to a higher up and if they do nothing to the next higher up and so on. So do not serve on a submarine or somewhere similar where you are physically stuck and cannot escape.
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Don't join the military, they will do all 3 to you. You are literally signing your life away. And if you decide to do so anyway. Serve somewhere you can report mistreatment to a higher up and if they do nothing to the next higher up and so on. So do not serve on a submarine or somewhere similar where you are physically stuck and cannot escape.
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Aiswarya
I wish someone have told me these things in my teenage. My life would be better. Less trauma and trust issues. I am sure i m a much better person now. But the past wounds hold me back. low self esteem and desperate for love and affection ruined my mental health totally.
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I wish someone have told me these things in my teenage. My life would be better. Less trauma and trust issues. I am sure i m a much better person now. But the past wounds hold me back. low self esteem and desperate for love and affection ruined my mental health totally.
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Eliscia
This is something I feel as though I have been going through for a bit now, and I have allowed myself to fall for it all. A so-called trusted individual betrayed me in many ways that now am changing many thoughts on how I go about things. (Real Eliscia)
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This is something I feel as though I have been going through for a bit now, and I have allowed myself to fall for it all. A so-called trusted individual betrayed me in many ways that now am changing many thoughts on how I go about things. (Real Eliscia)
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ErrorXD
I have always hated myself ever since i found out my parents werent so kind and emotionally healthy as i expected. And the fact that my comments has always gotten ignored i feel like theres no point in typing this comment.
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I have always hated myself ever since i found out my parents werent so kind and emotionally healthy as i expected. And the fact that my comments has always gotten ignored i feel like theres no point in typing this comment.
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Deadly
Timestamps
1. Disrespectful or abusive behaviour 0: 36
2. Manipulation and control 1: 31
3. Dishonesty and betrayal 2: 56
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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Timestamps
1. Disrespectful or abusive behaviour 0: 36
2. Manipulation and control 1: 31
3. Dishonesty and betrayal 2: 56
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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Miss
Henry Cloud wrote in one of his books that no is a complete sentence that doesn't have to be explained. I often have to remind myself of that when my family tries to talk me into doing something for them.
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Henry Cloud wrote in one of his books that no is a complete sentence that doesn't have to be explained. I often have to remind myself of that when my family tries to talk me into doing something for them.
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Outcast
I have nothing to respect myself for. I am a lazy, weak, self-deprecating creature. Barely even a person. And worst of all - I don't seem to do anything about it. There's nothing worth of respecting.
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I have nothing to respect myself for. I am a lazy, weak, self-deprecating creature. Barely even a person. And worst of all - I don't seem to do anything about it. There's nothing worth of respecting.
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Smlands
I watch this as I'm picked on in school because I dress differently, idk what to do when school starts again, I maybe will be able to change school after a while but it's unclear, what should I do?
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I watch this as I'm picked on in school because I dress differently, idk what to do when school starts again, I maybe will be able to change school after a while but it's unclear, what should I do?
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UsagiRoxie
Healing is not a linear path, but overall I feel better now that I cut ties with narcissists and other toxic people. I only want to share my time and passions with kind and genuine people. :3
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Healing is not a linear path, but overall I feel better now that I cut ties with narcissists and other toxic people. I only want to share my time and passions with kind and genuine people. :3
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KatiTheButcher
More needs to be done to stop child abuse and neglect, I wouldn't even know where to begin. Often it is the people that can help the most that choose to keep it quiet!
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More needs to be done to stop child abuse and neglect, I wouldn't even know where to begin. Often it is the people that can help the most that choose to keep it quiet!
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Dragon-Chan
I think I am an introvert, but I love being around people and I get extremely bored fast during quiet/alone time. Is anyone else like this or could that just be my ADHD?
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I think I am an introvert, but I love being around people and I get extremely bored fast during quiet/alone time. Is anyone else like this or could that just be my ADHD?
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NSolares25
Never tolerate disrespect, however dont disrespect others without provocation. One must respect others & oneself, but stand up for yourself when necessary, without fear
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Never tolerate disrespect, however dont disrespect others without provocation. One must respect others & oneself, but stand up for yourself when necessary, without fear
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Belle
#Psych2go can you do a video about signs that someone is trying to overstep your boundaries?
Keep up the amazing work, all the staff and animators at Psych2go!
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#Psych2go can you do a video about signs that someone is trying to overstep your boundaries?
Keep up the amazing work, all the staff and animators at Psych2go!
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