4 Signs You're NOT Messy, It's Your Trauma
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Date: 2023-09-08
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chanise
Growing up I still at times find myself doing a protective barrier around my bed from ptsd, childhood trauma, and sa I would surround myself with clothes around the bed and stuffed animals around me my so get upset at times with me but I try my best to clean I just find it so hard and difficult I do zone out but not as much as before but when I clean I feel anxious the mess protected me from people entering my safe zone and left me alone but at the same time I hate living in a mess so I do clean but I get anxious half the time even though I moved and I'm in a safe environment I still feel scared my s/o also sometimes forgets to lock the door when going to work at one point I woke up and had an episode because the house door was open the whole night someone or something could have came into my room or the house and i ended up crying and not sleeping for days also as a type 1 diabetic I didn't eat so fluids were pushed I was so scared I couldn't eat I still shake when thinking about it
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Growing up I still at times find myself doing a protective barrier around my bed from ptsd, childhood trauma, and sa I would surround myself with clothes around the bed and stuffed animals around me my so get upset at times with me but I try my best to clean I just find it so hard and difficult I do zone out but not as much as before but when I clean I feel anxious the mess protected me from people entering my safe zone and left me alone but at the same time I hate living in a mess so I do clean but I get anxious half the time even though I moved and I'm in a safe environment I still feel scared my s/o also sometimes forgets to lock the door when going to work at one point I woke up and had an episode because the house door was open the whole night someone or something could have came into my room or the house and i ended up crying and not sleeping for days also as a type 1 diabetic I didn't eat so fluids were pushed I was so scared I couldn't eat I still shake when thinking about it
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Karl
No wonder things that are around me are a bit messy, this video perfectly summed up what I'm currently experiencing. I got teary eyed as I watched the video because idk what went wrong with me suddenly as I'm feeling everything all at once. I feel like my friends are going their ways, I get sad by the slightest circumstance, I want to be with my girlfriend always, I feel like everyone dislikes me for no reason. and yeah, idk why I got suddenly like this. I was okay the last month and things took a 180 degree turn.
Feels like I have nobody, I want to do things alone like go out and eat, but at the same time it feels like it emphasizes my loneliness more. damn, life is hard. All of a sudden I am in solitude and now I get frustrated over the smallest things.
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No wonder things that are around me are a bit messy, this video perfectly summed up what I'm currently experiencing. I got teary eyed as I watched the video because idk what went wrong with me suddenly as I'm feeling everything all at once. I feel like my friends are going their ways, I get sad by the slightest circumstance, I want to be with my girlfriend always, I feel like everyone dislikes me for no reason. and yeah, idk why I got suddenly like this. I was okay the last month and things took a 180 degree turn.
Feels like I have nobody, I want to do things alone like go out and eat, but at the same time it feels like it emphasizes my loneliness more. damn, life is hard. All of a sudden I am in solitude and now I get frustrated over the smallest things.
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Claire
Omgoodness. I am going through this right now.
I've had 5 yrs with back to back surgeries or health issues. My home has gotten out of control. I'm too embarrassed to ask for help. I'm too exhausted to get anything done. Then a few months ago, I had a Dr. s appt. I was talking to my Wonderful PC; she had said I could possibly be ADD/ADHD! I had no idea what to think.
After much research and talking with a therapist. so much more understanding about ADD/ADHD.
I used to be able to keep my home clean and some what organized. However, I am not able to finish what I started. Either due to pain or getting distracted.
Thank you for this video. You have answered many questions for me. Blessings to you
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Omgoodness. I am going through this right now.
I've had 5 yrs with back to back surgeries or health issues. My home has gotten out of control. I'm too embarrassed to ask for help. I'm too exhausted to get anything done. Then a few months ago, I had a Dr. s appt. I was talking to my Wonderful PC; she had said I could possibly be ADD/ADHD! I had no idea what to think.
After much research and talking with a therapist. so much more understanding about ADD/ADHD.
I used to be able to keep my home clean and some what organized. However, I am not able to finish what I started. Either due to pain or getting distracted.
Thank you for this video. You have answered many questions for me. Blessings to you
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Orion
Whelp, that s a double whammy then, according to two different Psych2Go videos (I m messy because I m intelligent _and_ because I m still unpacking and healing from multiple forms of suppressed and/or repressed trauma.
Not that I m using it as an excuse, at least not intentionally; I d prefer to be at least a bit tidier and more organised, but it just feels so unnecessary and/or overwhelming at times, especially when other priorities come first.
Also, my mother s shaming and gaslighting each time I fail to do the dishes and/or cleaning to her standards (aka _every single frickin time)_ has a tendency to demotivate me from doing it, even when we re hundreds of kilometres apart
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Whelp, that s a double whammy then, according to two different Psych2Go videos (I m messy because I m intelligent _and_ because I m still unpacking and healing from multiple forms of suppressed and/or repressed trauma.
Not that I m using it as an excuse, at least not intentionally; I d prefer to be at least a bit tidier and more organised, but it just feels so unnecessary and/or overwhelming at times, especially when other priorities come first.
Also, my mother s shaming and gaslighting each time I fail to do the dishes and/or cleaning to her standards (aka _every single frickin time)_ has a tendency to demotivate me from doing it, even when we re hundreds of kilometres apart
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Hisato
The past few months I have noticed that I am not myself anymore. One of the things that I noticed is that I no longer clean the house, tidy up the kitchen, and when I do so it takes a lot of courage to even put away a single dish. I m not fond of cleaning but seeing a clean house makes me feel motivated, however nowadays I can t even stand to see a clean spot. The good news is I know what s causing my mental health to spiral downwards and I even know how to fix it, bad news is I also can t bring myself to do so. It is my final obstacle from leading a happy life but it s also the hardest and most painful one yet and it hurts so much.
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The past few months I have noticed that I am not myself anymore. One of the things that I noticed is that I no longer clean the house, tidy up the kitchen, and when I do so it takes a lot of courage to even put away a single dish. I m not fond of cleaning but seeing a clean house makes me feel motivated, however nowadays I can t even stand to see a clean spot. The good news is I know what s causing my mental health to spiral downwards and I even know how to fix it, bad news is I also can t bring myself to do so. It is my final obstacle from leading a happy life but it s also the hardest and most painful one yet and it hurts so much.
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Dandelions
Gosh, I needed this so much. My place is a little messy right now. I try to clean bits here and there every day, but it's always untidy, unorganised.
Tomorrow I will designate storage containers/bags for stuff I have not used/worn in a while and needs to go. And beauty products I need to use up or throw away before buying more products.
It mightn't be tidy on day one, but it will be progress.
Going through grief of losing someone you know is tough. There's a feeling like I don't have control of where my life is going. But I'll get through this, it's only temporary and this struggle will pass.
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Gosh, I needed this so much. My place is a little messy right now. I try to clean bits here and there every day, but it's always untidy, unorganised.
Tomorrow I will designate storage containers/bags for stuff I have not used/worn in a while and needs to go. And beauty products I need to use up or throw away before buying more products.
It mightn't be tidy on day one, but it will be progress.
Going through grief of losing someone you know is tough. There's a feeling like I don't have control of where my life is going. But I'll get through this, it's only temporary and this struggle will pass.
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Corbet
I think the harder thing is handling judgment and others who think they know better. From a certain perspective I'm messy things clutter my space and some things aren't accessible. From my perspective i have my own way of organizing things and know where things are. How you think things should be set up is harmful to me because even though my perspectives not wrong and I'm glad to help you clean things up to meet your needs i know how things should work in my space better than you do. I'm adaptable but not enough to neglect a sense of who i am.
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I think the harder thing is handling judgment and others who think they know better. From a certain perspective I'm messy things clutter my space and some things aren't accessible. From my perspective i have my own way of organizing things and know where things are. How you think things should be set up is harmful to me because even though my perspectives not wrong and I'm glad to help you clean things up to meet your needs i know how things should work in my space better than you do. I'm adaptable but not enough to neglect a sense of who i am.
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Sir
As a person with C Ptsd, I really relate to this video. I live alone, so my apartment is extremely messy, cluttered.
I really want it to be uncluttered, but I find comfort in the look. I feel that it reflects my mind frame.
As I heal, and I deal with my memories and feelings, I find it easier to clean, and reclaim my living space!
Thank you for this video!
Stay safe, stay sane, stay strong!
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As a person with C Ptsd, I really relate to this video. I live alone, so my apartment is extremely messy, cluttered.
I really want it to be uncluttered, but I find comfort in the look. I feel that it reflects my mind frame.
As I heal, and I deal with my memories and feelings, I find it easier to clean, and reclaim my living space!
Thank you for this video!
Stay safe, stay sane, stay strong!
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Zephyrus
I had never thought about it being linked to control, I fully expected to come. out of. this video solely blaming my laziness, and I still think thats theajprity reason, but I'll have to think more on the link to control, its a big part of my life, not something Id write off so quickly when i do tend to end up with an especially messy bedroom every so often.
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I had never thought about it being linked to control, I fully expected to come. out of. this video solely blaming my laziness, and I still think thats theajprity reason, but I'll have to think more on the link to control, its a big part of my life, not something Id write off so quickly when i do tend to end up with an especially messy bedroom every so often.
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C. B.
To be honest, as a messy person, I never thought for what I had is trauma
The real problem for me is whenever I m aware that I need to clean the room, I tried to explain my mother the reason why it s a mess, she doesn t seem to care to understand and it s not because I m lazy (not sure if it s trauma but I don t believe I m in term lazy)
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To be honest, as a messy person, I never thought for what I had is trauma
The real problem for me is whenever I m aware that I need to clean the room, I tried to explain my mother the reason why it s a mess, she doesn t seem to care to understand and it s not because I m lazy (not sure if it s trauma but I don t believe I m in term lazy)
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robotrix
Can someone explain this to all offices of Section 8 inspectors around the country? People who act like if there's any sign that a person lives in your home when they come that you're a hoarder or a slob? Or act like cardboard boxes used for storage pose a danger of spontaneous combustion?
Every year it's the same crap.
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Can someone explain this to all offices of Section 8 inspectors around the country? People who act like if there's any sign that a person lives in your home when they come that you're a hoarder or a slob? Or act like cardboard boxes used for storage pose a danger of spontaneous combustion?
Every year it's the same crap.
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Nic
The mess, in my case, is also a consequence of cleaning-related trauma. Coming home from school to a tidy bedroom meant things of mine were thrown out or given away without my consent, and I didn't feel safe in my room if it was tidy.
Two guesses if that gets in the way of being organized and the first one doesn't count.
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The mess, in my case, is also a consequence of cleaning-related trauma. Coming home from school to a tidy bedroom meant things of mine were thrown out or given away without my consent, and I didn't feel safe in my room if it was tidy.
Two guesses if that gets in the way of being organized and the first one doesn't count.
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sulcusulnaris
I often read UFO books as a child and was afraid of being abducted by aliens while I sleep. My solution was a messy room where the aliens would stumble across it in the dark and I could wake up in time from the noise and run away. Today already very ridiculous, untidy I remained.
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I often read UFO books as a child and was afraid of being abducted by aliens while I sleep. My solution was a messy room where the aliens would stumble across it in the dark and I could wake up in time from the noise and run away. Today already very ridiculous, untidy I remained.
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waterfall
i looked at what i do everyday and i noticed how messy i do things i am currently pretty sick so i guess of dirty my things are really helped with getting me sick. I m going to take a bath now to have some time to think about this more and to hopefully fix this mental issue I m in.
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i looked at what i do everyday and i noticed how messy i do things i am currently pretty sick so i guess of dirty my things are really helped with getting me sick. I m going to take a bath now to have some time to think about this more and to hopefully fix this mental issue I m in.
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NemFX
Sometimes clutter can feel like a protective barrier
Ma'am. I assure you. My clutter IS a protective barrier. In the event of zombies, I'm safer than most, cause most people wouldn't be able to get to me. Drop their intelligence to zombie levels, and they have no chance.
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Sometimes clutter can feel like a protective barrier
Ma'am. I assure you. My clutter IS a protective barrier. In the event of zombies, I'm safer than most, cause most people wouldn't be able to get to me. Drop their intelligence to zombie levels, and they have no chance.
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Christopher
Great vid! I heard somewhere that messiness (or even just leaving a soda can in the sink instead of putting it into the recycling) could be a subconscious feeling that you lack the agency to take care of it in the moment, something like that
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Great vid! I heard somewhere that messiness (or even just leaving a soda can in the sink instead of putting it into the recycling) could be a subconscious feeling that you lack the agency to take care of it in the moment, something like that
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IT'S
HEYYYYYYYYY PSYCH2GO,
You are a good soul. your videos save so many lives. you give the right content about mental behaviour. it helps people to recognise more about themselves and I've also learnt about so many things thanks.
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HEYYYYYYYYY PSYCH2GO,
You are a good soul. your videos save so many lives. you give the right content about mental behaviour. it helps people to recognise more about themselves and I've also learnt about so many things thanks.
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Buggus
Jordan Peterson sorta has a point when he says to clean your room. Creating physical order in the environment allows for everything else to fall into place mentally. Tends to work for those of us who have very traumatic jobs.
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Jordan Peterson sorta has a point when he says to clean your room. Creating physical order in the environment allows for everything else to fall into place mentally. Tends to work for those of us who have very traumatic jobs.
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Deadly
Timestamps
1. Protective barrier 0: 31
2. A needed distraction 1: 00
3. Your brain 1: 35
4. Losing control 2: 13
5. Not alone 2: 48
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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Timestamps
1. Protective barrier 0: 31
2. A needed distraction 1: 00
3. Your brain 1: 35
4. Losing control 2: 13
5. Not alone 2: 48
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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Ana
I always thought I was the only one feeling this way, then get more depressed because my husband calls me lazy thank you for sharing this video with us, I m going to start looking for help for mental issues ( I am Bipolar)
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I always thought I was the only one feeling this way, then get more depressed because my husband calls me lazy thank you for sharing this video with us, I m going to start looking for help for mental issues ( I am Bipolar)
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