6 Signs Your Relationship is One-Sided
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Date: 2023-12-11
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blue-uv4mh
I fell for my psychiatrist s collegue. She isn t/wasn t responsable for me, but still needs to keep the distance since it s her workplace. She completly ignores me in the hallway, but if I talk to her, in a group setting or alone, she gets nervous, glances at me often or even blushes. Only to go back to ignoring me etc. That s why I keep asking myself if it s one-sided, or only because of the tricky setting.
Where I live, there needs to be an at least one year gap between therapy (including people that work with your therapist but not nescessarily with you directly) and meeting that person (platonically or romantically. I told her that I like her because I wanted her to know, but I knew from the start that because of the regulations here she isn t allowed to say yes and she didn t (and I m glad she didn t, I don t want her to loose her job. She would only be allowed to tell me after that one year. I m not sure if she would come up to me after that time since she s pretty shy, and if she has/had feelings if they would still be there. I find myself watching videos (like this one) to overanalyze, even though no video would be able to tell me anything.
But I have to say that even if I think about her frequently it s not all I think about, it doesn t consume me. It s just so absolutely frustrating to know that you have to wait so damn long for an honest answer (even no answer would be an answer, and can absolutly not do anything to speed up the process. I don t know if I want to wait for that long. At the same time I don t want to assume anything. Guess I ll find out how it ends/starts with time
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I fell for my psychiatrist s collegue. She isn t/wasn t responsable for me, but still needs to keep the distance since it s her workplace. She completly ignores me in the hallway, but if I talk to her, in a group setting or alone, she gets nervous, glances at me often or even blushes. Only to go back to ignoring me etc. That s why I keep asking myself if it s one-sided, or only because of the tricky setting.
Where I live, there needs to be an at least one year gap between therapy (including people that work with your therapist but not nescessarily with you directly) and meeting that person (platonically or romantically. I told her that I like her because I wanted her to know, but I knew from the start that because of the regulations here she isn t allowed to say yes and she didn t (and I m glad she didn t, I don t want her to loose her job. She would only be allowed to tell me after that one year. I m not sure if she would come up to me after that time since she s pretty shy, and if she has/had feelings if they would still be there. I find myself watching videos (like this one) to overanalyze, even though no video would be able to tell me anything.
But I have to say that even if I think about her frequently it s not all I think about, it doesn t consume me. It s just so absolutely frustrating to know that you have to wait so damn long for an honest answer (even no answer would be an answer, and can absolutly not do anything to speed up the process. I don t know if I want to wait for that long. At the same time I don t want to assume anything. Guess I ll find out how it ends/starts with time
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MannyRomo
I have my own Question Phych2Go if you don t mind? I have a issues that I believe to be tough. I am told by my parent that I am very addicted to being in a relationship no matter what type of person it is and to be honest, it s because of my own trama and feeling like I will be alone one day when you see that one old person that is all alone and has no one there. I Also have self hatred and disagreement with myself at times. Where I don t like who I am. I have always loved people and they are fun and cool but being in a school and having issues with relationships in the school lowers my confidence. I am seeing a therapist. But I was Ian a toxic relationship which caused me to become this over dramatic relationship person! It was a negative impact but I m better then I was before now. I would like some advise if you have any? I also feel I push my friends away and that hurts me. I have tried to get friends and to have them in my life and they seem to like having me in there life too, but I m always feeling that everything will be gone in no time. In short I feel that I ll be lonely forever and once I pass. All alone. If you have advise please comment back? Thanks and your videos help a ton
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I have my own Question Phych2Go if you don t mind? I have a issues that I believe to be tough. I am told by my parent that I am very addicted to being in a relationship no matter what type of person it is and to be honest, it s because of my own trama and feeling like I will be alone one day when you see that one old person that is all alone and has no one there. I Also have self hatred and disagreement with myself at times. Where I don t like who I am. I have always loved people and they are fun and cool but being in a school and having issues with relationships in the school lowers my confidence. I am seeing a therapist. But I was Ian a toxic relationship which caused me to become this over dramatic relationship person! It was a negative impact but I m better then I was before now. I would like some advise if you have any? I also feel I push my friends away and that hurts me. I have tried to get friends and to have them in my life and they seem to like having me in there life too, but I m always feeling that everything will be gone in no time. In short I feel that I ll be lonely forever and once I pass. All alone. If you have advise please comment back? Thanks and your videos help a ton
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RingKing-0
This is why I don't even bother trying to date anymore. I'm just abuse material. I've been abused growing up without even knowing it. By the time I realized it, the damage was already done. I struggle so much now. I do so much work just to keep myself and my siblings & mother afloat, and I have little free time. When I do get free time, I have to work even harder to make up for the lack of money.
Even if I could get a girlfriend now (I can't because I'm that unattractive and pathetic, she'd just abuse or leave me once she finds out I'm a weak male. It happened in high school, at least. Asked a girl out because we were getting along for the last few weeks in school. She agreed to go out and as I made plans to take her out to lunch. she ghosted me.
Of course after that, that's when my family fued happened. and then my friends betrayed me, and then I was broke for a long time. and then I worked from nothing to a bit of something and my family is not happy where they are. I am a disappointment. No money despite working, no high status, and no big house for my mother and siblings. I am supposed to be an adult and I can't provide. I shouldn't be alive.
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This is why I don't even bother trying to date anymore. I'm just abuse material. I've been abused growing up without even knowing it. By the time I realized it, the damage was already done. I struggle so much now. I do so much work just to keep myself and my siblings & mother afloat, and I have little free time. When I do get free time, I have to work even harder to make up for the lack of money.
Even if I could get a girlfriend now (I can't because I'm that unattractive and pathetic, she'd just abuse or leave me once she finds out I'm a weak male. It happened in high school, at least. Asked a girl out because we were getting along for the last few weeks in school. She agreed to go out and as I made plans to take her out to lunch. she ghosted me.
Of course after that, that's when my family fued happened. and then my friends betrayed me, and then I was broke for a long time. and then I worked from nothing to a bit of something and my family is not happy where they are. I am a disappointment. No money despite working, no high status, and no big house for my mother and siblings. I am supposed to be an adult and I can't provide. I shouldn't be alive.
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bobthreetimes2286
My last (and first) relationship was just like this, literally everything said in the video happened to me. And what sucks is that I thought I really loved this girl, and I had a lot of hope going into the relationship. And when she got distant I just chucked it up to be that maybe she wasn t doing so good mentally so just didn t want to interact with anyone. And yes I did ask how she was doing mentally during this, just to be meet with something like yeah fine, just been busy. And now that I m out of that relationship I m not even sad, I m just kinda pissed at how little effort she was putting into the relationship. And the thing was I had a crush on this girl for a while and really thought that she might have been the one, or at least would have a long lasting relationship with her. But now I m just kinda glad that I realized that she just simply isn t.
TLDR: last (and first) relationship, had mega hope for it. Just to be the only one making plans or texting first or anything. Glad I m finally out of that and finally realized that she wasn t nearly as good as I thought a relationship with her would be
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My last (and first) relationship was just like this, literally everything said in the video happened to me. And what sucks is that I thought I really loved this girl, and I had a lot of hope going into the relationship. And when she got distant I just chucked it up to be that maybe she wasn t doing so good mentally so just didn t want to interact with anyone. And yes I did ask how she was doing mentally during this, just to be meet with something like yeah fine, just been busy. And now that I m out of that relationship I m not even sad, I m just kinda pissed at how little effort she was putting into the relationship. And the thing was I had a crush on this girl for a while and really thought that she might have been the one, or at least would have a long lasting relationship with her. But now I m just kinda glad that I realized that she just simply isn t.
TLDR: last (and first) relationship, had mega hope for it. Just to be the only one making plans or texting first or anything. Glad I m finally out of that and finally realized that she wasn t nearly as good as I thought a relationship with her would be
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psych2go
its been 2 years since my one and only relationship(three years) had came to an end, and i still struggle to come to terms with my previous relationship. a lot of your recent videos have really hit home to me. afraid of falling in love, and this one in particular come to mind. even when the relationship was still going i saw all of the red flags but found ways to convince myself they werent real. even now im just barely to the point of accepting what really happened, and might be able to move on in life.
but, in learning to cope with what happened ive found to always look at the bright side of things. while it certainly caused more pain than it should have, at the time they were the best years of my life(atleast in my blinded mind at the time. and in my free time in moving on i found myself pushing forward to better myself harder than i had in the past.
To anyone struggling it does get better, listen to the red flags and talk about them with your partner. you shouldnt have to excuse their actions, and if they cant TAKE A STEP BACK and re-evaluate even if you may not think it necessary.
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its been 2 years since my one and only relationship(three years) had came to an end, and i still struggle to come to terms with my previous relationship. a lot of your recent videos have really hit home to me. afraid of falling in love, and this one in particular come to mind. even when the relationship was still going i saw all of the red flags but found ways to convince myself they werent real. even now im just barely to the point of accepting what really happened, and might be able to move on in life.
but, in learning to cope with what happened ive found to always look at the bright side of things. while it certainly caused more pain than it should have, at the time they were the best years of my life(atleast in my blinded mind at the time. and in my free time in moving on i found myself pushing forward to better myself harder than i had in the past.
To anyone struggling it does get better, listen to the red flags and talk about them with your partner. you shouldnt have to excuse their actions, and if they cant TAKE A STEP BACK and re-evaluate even if you may not think it necessary.
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SilverPsychic
My sister, she simply won t listen. She while hurt me multiple ways but when I repeat the same actions to her, it s somehow different and not ok. Yet even when nothing is different, because she is the one being the victim it suddenly isn t ok. So I ve had to avoid her. I don t want to have a relationship with someone who hurts me but it s ok because I m hurt, when they are hurt it s not ok because it s them. I don t want any ties with her because when I verbalize all my issues, she shuts me down and walks away or says how I feel is all my fault. It s hurting me and pushing me away, she won t listen or attempt to be better despite her words, she makes no changes. So the only thing I can do is to avoid her. I d tried every other tactic, but it s no use. I know she is my sister, but I don t see any use in trying to mend this when every time I try, I m only a toy for her games. The only way I can be heathy mentally and physically is without her.
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My sister, she simply won t listen. She while hurt me multiple ways but when I repeat the same actions to her, it s somehow different and not ok. Yet even when nothing is different, because she is the one being the victim it suddenly isn t ok. So I ve had to avoid her. I don t want to have a relationship with someone who hurts me but it s ok because I m hurt, when they are hurt it s not ok because it s them. I don t want any ties with her because when I verbalize all my issues, she shuts me down and walks away or says how I feel is all my fault. It s hurting me and pushing me away, she won t listen or attempt to be better despite her words, she makes no changes. So the only thing I can do is to avoid her. I d tried every other tactic, but it s no use. I know she is my sister, but I don t see any use in trying to mend this when every time I try, I m only a toy for her games. The only way I can be heathy mentally and physically is without her.
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peepiss
honesty it s funny this shows up now. I just had a talk with my parent about a person I was having issues with and it really made it clear that they weren t good for me. I was still unsure but I think this is a clear sign of some kind.
a question though
If you re dating someone who is autistic and aromantic, would this behavior be excusable? Often, this person I m with would say our intimacy/communication issues were because of them. We ve been friends for 6 years and dated for almost a full year and I thought we had made progress on talking about problems, but they would ghost me for weeks on end regardless. When I asked them about it, they always told me they were tired or they were busy, but they were always talking to other people.
I keep thinking that it s cruel of me to feel this way because I may be expecting too much, but even when I voiced my concerns to them, nothing changes.
Is it wrong of me to feel this way?
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honesty it s funny this shows up now. I just had a talk with my parent about a person I was having issues with and it really made it clear that they weren t good for me. I was still unsure but I think this is a clear sign of some kind.
a question though
If you re dating someone who is autistic and aromantic, would this behavior be excusable? Often, this person I m with would say our intimacy/communication issues were because of them. We ve been friends for 6 years and dated for almost a full year and I thought we had made progress on talking about problems, but they would ghost me for weeks on end regardless. When I asked them about it, they always told me they were tired or they were busy, but they were always talking to other people.
I keep thinking that it s cruel of me to feel this way because I may be expecting too much, but even when I voiced my concerns to them, nothing changes.
Is it wrong of me to feel this way?
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pondereyes
I really wanna say I m friends with this one girl. She was everything to me and provided so much love and support. I then messed up, and feel like she s not one to forgive easily after what she s been through. After apologizing and giving her some space, I strive to stay in her life, but it feels like she doesn t feel the same and the signs are there. I wanted us to move forward together, and she said we could, slowly yea. What she said gave me hope, but recently, she s been ghosting me and not putting in effort to slowly make our relationship better. I don t want to believe it, but it feels like we are slowly becoming strangers again and it hurts me.
I know I can t force her to talk to me let alone forgive me. And I m trying to work on myself at the same time taking accountability of what I want out of this relationship. But it seems like she doesn t care anymore.
I m open to suggestions and comments.
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I really wanna say I m friends with this one girl. She was everything to me and provided so much love and support. I then messed up, and feel like she s not one to forgive easily after what she s been through. After apologizing and giving her some space, I strive to stay in her life, but it feels like she doesn t feel the same and the signs are there. I wanted us to move forward together, and she said we could, slowly yea. What she said gave me hope, but recently, she s been ghosting me and not putting in effort to slowly make our relationship better. I don t want to believe it, but it feels like we are slowly becoming strangers again and it hurts me.
I know I can t force her to talk to me let alone forgive me. And I m trying to work on myself at the same time taking accountability of what I want out of this relationship. But it seems like she doesn t care anymore.
I m open to suggestions and comments.
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Kmws46news
Yeah that was online relationships were you in relationships in general. I was saying in general I am willing to more than willing to talk about anything but yet they get mad at me when I talk about certain subjects but yeah I told them what do you want to talk about they don't have much to talk about so I'm like how can you expect from me not talking about much of anything about the stuff I do it all but you don't have nothing to talk about. Or. When I try to talk to people I'm the one that's supposed to initiate a conversation I don't like that. . I don't like it when I'm being forced to do something that more than what I agree. But yet they expect for used to take care of them.
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Yeah that was online relationships were you in relationships in general. I was saying in general I am willing to more than willing to talk about anything but yet they get mad at me when I talk about certain subjects but yeah I told them what do you want to talk about they don't have much to talk about so I'm like how can you expect from me not talking about much of anything about the stuff I do it all but you don't have nothing to talk about. Or. When I try to talk to people I'm the one that's supposed to initiate a conversation I don't like that. . I don't like it when I'm being forced to do something that more than what I agree. But yet they expect for used to take care of them.
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BCSchmerker
+Psych2GoTv As of 10 December 2023, without co-workers and immediate family, I _have_ no friends. Thanks anyway for the list o' symptoms:
0: 24 1. One Does All the Planning: _Have_ to.
0: 51 2. Leave-outs at expense of one: THE RULE as of 10 December 2023 I _have_ no involvements.
1: 41 3. Lack of emotional support: THE RULE as of 10 December 2023 I _have_ no involvements.
2: 07 4. Comments met with annoyances: An UNRULE as of 10 December 2023 I _have_ no involvements.
2: 35 5. Excuses for Other's behaviors: Again, an UNRULE.
3: 06 6. Actions don't match words: Not applicable as of 10 December 2023 I _have_ no involvements.
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+Psych2GoTv As of 10 December 2023, without co-workers and immediate family, I _have_ no friends. Thanks anyway for the list o' symptoms:
0: 24 1. One Does All the Planning: _Have_ to.
0: 51 2. Leave-outs at expense of one: THE RULE as of 10 December 2023 I _have_ no involvements.
1: 41 3. Lack of emotional support: THE RULE as of 10 December 2023 I _have_ no involvements.
2: 07 4. Comments met with annoyances: An UNRULE as of 10 December 2023 I _have_ no involvements.
2: 35 5. Excuses for Other's behaviors: Again, an UNRULE.
3: 06 6. Actions don't match words: Not applicable as of 10 December 2023 I _have_ no involvements.
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ryanricks318
Meh feeling o acceptance o theys warts n all ood behaviorisms mentality patterns o how theys differs are so cute but alas such distance theys fathoms oot o mine leagues whom am i to disagree n disruption theys seeking engagement mores wits rythems o blursed blackbox baka dancing to hum thrum feedback loopy o instantaneously gratification manipulation crowds o lonely dat oot measures meh so yeah buddy gud guessing bouts ours pitys n theys excuses o alls in the makings whrrrs oon mine passions patience idfk jus hows to allows affections theys effections n itty proper due course o nya sojourneys
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Meh feeling o acceptance o theys warts n all ood behaviorisms mentality patterns o how theys differs are so cute but alas such distance theys fathoms oot o mine leagues whom am i to disagree n disruption theys seeking engagement mores wits rythems o blursed blackbox baka dancing to hum thrum feedback loopy o instantaneously gratification manipulation crowds o lonely dat oot measures meh so yeah buddy gud guessing bouts ours pitys n theys excuses o alls in the makings whrrrs oon mine passions patience idfk jus hows to allows affections theys effections n itty proper due course o nya sojourneys
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user-hy6sl9xn9l
Yea. I wish my boyfriend could see that I m trying to be a safe space for him to talk and get to know me every time I try to just talk to him he doesn t want to talk to me even though I m still in school and he s not, I still make time for him, but sometimes he forgets that he has my number and I forgive him for that because I forget I have his number sometimes too but sometimes he never really makes the time to talk to me and even if he does, it s not very long. (i m in an online relationship and it s kind of hard to keep up with it if he doesn t make that effort to try and talk to me)
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Yea. I wish my boyfriend could see that I m trying to be a safe space for him to talk and get to know me every time I try to just talk to him he doesn t want to talk to me even though I m still in school and he s not, I still make time for him, but sometimes he forgets that he has my number and I forgive him for that because I forget I have his number sometimes too but sometimes he never really makes the time to talk to me and even if he does, it s not very long. (i m in an online relationship and it s kind of hard to keep up with it if he doesn t make that effort to try and talk to me)
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ic7846
Reading all these comments makes me scared about my current relationship. I love her deeply and she has shown me at times how much effort she can put in like for my birthday present she made the most beautiful picture book I ever received and she is also traveling to my country for the first time. But when it comes to planning or initiating conversation it can feel one sided sometimes. My therapist told me I shouldn't worry too much and that she clearly cares about me. But it's hard to judge sometimes. Maybe it's just in my head.
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Reading all these comments makes me scared about my current relationship. I love her deeply and she has shown me at times how much effort she can put in like for my birthday present she made the most beautiful picture book I ever received and she is also traveling to my country for the first time. But when it comes to planning or initiating conversation it can feel one sided sometimes. My therapist told me I shouldn't worry too much and that she clearly cares about me. But it's hard to judge sometimes. Maybe it's just in my head.
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amyhicks7717
Absolutely! I have been in one for 12 years. And 2024 is when it ends. I been married to someone who hit every single one of these signs I will tell you guys right now, if you are in a relationship like this, get out as soon as you can because it is a waste of time and will drain you emotionally. I m not joking. I am filing for a divorce, because I cannot do it anymore and the saddest thing is he shrugs his shoulders and walks away like it doesn t even matter. Don t waste your time with these types of people!
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Absolutely! I have been in one for 12 years. And 2024 is when it ends. I been married to someone who hit every single one of these signs I will tell you guys right now, if you are in a relationship like this, get out as soon as you can because it is a waste of time and will drain you emotionally. I m not joking. I am filing for a divorce, because I cannot do it anymore and the saddest thing is he shrugs his shoulders and walks away like it doesn t even matter. Don t waste your time with these types of people!
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cheesuboru5841
Now I feel like our relationship really is one-sided, although our relationship doesn't have any labels yet it feels like I'm the only one putting effort and keeping up so that we can make it official once she is ready. I really don't want it to be this way but I can't stop myself on pursuing her, I've fallen in love already and I somehow can't let go cus' I doubt that there'd be someone like her that I deserve, I don't deserve her but I can't let go.
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Now I feel like our relationship really is one-sided, although our relationship doesn't have any labels yet it feels like I'm the only one putting effort and keeping up so that we can make it official once she is ready. I really don't want it to be this way but I can't stop myself on pursuing her, I've fallen in love already and I somehow can't let go cus' I doubt that there'd be someone like her that I deserve, I don't deserve her but I can't let go.
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mr. slowhands8016
Thanks for this, it just hit me right now that I only really have one true friend, he's the only one to initiate conversation and vice versa, everyone else just seem to forget I exist unless I'm right in front of them, I reach out but they always seem too busy or reply hours later. It's been a year since I've contacted anyone, lo and behold my bro is the only one to reach out to hang. Worth more than gold.
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Thanks for this, it just hit me right now that I only really have one true friend, he's the only one to initiate conversation and vice versa, everyone else just seem to forget I exist unless I'm right in front of them, I reach out but they always seem too busy or reply hours later. It's been a year since I've contacted anyone, lo and behold my bro is the only one to reach out to hang. Worth more than gold.
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A55a551n
Timestamps
1. You're the one who does all the planning 0: 24
2. They find time for others, but not for you 0: 51
3. You're missing the emotional support 1: 41
4. Your comments are met with annoyance 2: 06
5. You make excuses for their behaviour 2: 35
6. They say they'll try harder, but they never do 3: 06
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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Timestamps
1. You're the one who does all the planning 0: 24
2. They find time for others, but not for you 0: 51
3. You're missing the emotional support 1: 41
4. Your comments are met with annoyance 2: 06
5. You make excuses for their behaviour 2: 35
6. They say they'll try harder, but they never do 3: 06
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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PapajusLtu
not a relationship, but long friendship felt like this to me. Several years friendship went well, then one year it started being colder and colder and it met all of the points shown. Eventually just blocked to not hurt anymore which even sounded more of a way to run away
Long period of coldness lessen the feeling so it didn't hurt as much but still feels sad from time to time
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not a relationship, but long friendship felt like this to me. Several years friendship went well, then one year it started being colder and colder and it met all of the points shown. Eventually just blocked to not hurt anymore which even sounded more of a way to run away
Long period of coldness lessen the feeling so it didn't hurt as much but still feels sad from time to time
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HikaruYamamoto
I had a painful one sided relationship that lasted a year. I was the one who finally had to cut it off. Watching him later being with someone else and bending over backwards to give all his love to her just cut me even deeper. His excuse before when we dated was that this was just how he was and that I should accept it. But now I see it was a big lie.
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I had a painful one sided relationship that lasted a year. I was the one who finally had to cut it off. Watching him later being with someone else and bending over backwards to give all his love to her just cut me even deeper. His excuse before when we dated was that this was just how he was and that I should accept it. But now I see it was a big lie.
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feufeu000
1- You re the one who does all the planning 0: 24
2- They find time for others but not for you 0: 53
3- You re missing the emotional support 1: 43
4- Your comments are met with annoyance 2: 08
5- You make excuses for their behavior 2: 37
6- They say they ll try harder, but they never do 3: 08
Edit: wow that s a big time travel
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1- You re the one who does all the planning 0: 24
2- They find time for others but not for you 0: 53
3- You re missing the emotional support 1: 43
4- Your comments are met with annoyance 2: 08
5- You make excuses for their behavior 2: 37
6- They say they ll try harder, but they never do 3: 08
Edit: wow that s a big time travel
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