5 Differences Between Crushing & Falling in Love
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I have avoidance attachment style. So i believe he deserves much better than me. Just wanna wish all good things for him.
Date: 2024-01-14
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nayumichan_desu
i have been so confused for the past years (i am crushing on him for like 5 years now. he's my classmate since grade 6 until grade 9, basically from elementary to junior high school. since it's pandemic (during grade 9, we don't see each other personally and was only able to talk through online. so i was really sad and i have out that he left our school during grade 10. since then, we no longer talk. now, i am about to go to college after this school year and he's still in my mind. i miss him and whenever i imagine seeing him again, it makes me happy. and whenever i think of reason why i still am crushing on him after all these years, even when i lost contact with him, i can't think of any reason. i have two theories in mind as to why i feel like this: first is we have no closure (not like the closure for break up); since he left our school when i didn't even get to say goodbye to him, i think it surprised me and i wasn't able to prepare myself for it. i just need to see him again in order to forget him (for proper closure. second, i really have fallen. while my friends keep insisting i am in love, i don't take that feeling too lightly that i immediately concluded that just because i feel this way. instead, i start saying that "i like him". probably "i like him" is also equal to havinf crush on him, but for me, it's just a level up term on how i feel about him since i can tell the feeling is way too intense for me to say that it's still a crush. and seeing him again may make my feelings grow more. so in short, i'm confused about how i feel. whether i should ignore it and go on with my life cause i have more important things to do other than thinking my love life given i'm still young and since a lot of people experience 10 years crush yet the feeling fades. maybe it's the same for me. i don't know, i also love romantic stuffs and i'm a big fan of romance genre so probably i'm need of romance shit in my life because ive had enough seeing people on screen having their lovey dovey moments that's why im feeling this.
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i have been so confused for the past years (i am crushing on him for like 5 years now. he's my classmate since grade 6 until grade 9, basically from elementary to junior high school. since it's pandemic (during grade 9, we don't see each other personally and was only able to talk through online. so i was really sad and i have out that he left our school during grade 10. since then, we no longer talk. now, i am about to go to college after this school year and he's still in my mind. i miss him and whenever i imagine seeing him again, it makes me happy. and whenever i think of reason why i still am crushing on him after all these years, even when i lost contact with him, i can't think of any reason. i have two theories in mind as to why i feel like this: first is we have no closure (not like the closure for break up); since he left our school when i didn't even get to say goodbye to him, i think it surprised me and i wasn't able to prepare myself for it. i just need to see him again in order to forget him (for proper closure. second, i really have fallen. while my friends keep insisting i am in love, i don't take that feeling too lightly that i immediately concluded that just because i feel this way. instead, i start saying that "i like him". probably "i like him" is also equal to havinf crush on him, but for me, it's just a level up term on how i feel about him since i can tell the feeling is way too intense for me to say that it's still a crush. and seeing him again may make my feelings grow more. so in short, i'm confused about how i feel. whether i should ignore it and go on with my life cause i have more important things to do other than thinking my love life given i'm still young and since a lot of people experience 10 years crush yet the feeling fades. maybe it's the same for me. i don't know, i also love romantic stuffs and i'm a big fan of romance genre so probably i'm need of romance shit in my life because ive had enough seeing people on screen having their lovey dovey moments that's why im feeling this.
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LauraLanford
I don't think I've ever been in love with someone else other than my previously established family members (mother, grandmother.
Had this huge crush in high school, he was a teacher, I had classes with him for one year only, but I really enjoyed even the sight of him and his classes were the best from the entire course. I think he even knew I was into him but we never talked to each other about things other than the classes themselves and so I graduated and never saw him ever again. I did not know what "being in love" or "crushing" was like back then, but as years went by, I never felt like that ever again. I think I tried dating other men like twice, the first ended the relationship because he wanted more than what I felt like giving, and the second one I stopped seeing him after I found out our interests were conflicting and it would never work out.
Sometimes I wish I felt like that crush period again. Nowadays, years later, I feel like that was how true love felt like, and that I lost my chance to confess to the only person who had my heart beat like that. I keep imagining what ifs and how different of a person I would turn out today if things had happened differently.
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I don't think I've ever been in love with someone else other than my previously established family members (mother, grandmother.
Had this huge crush in high school, he was a teacher, I had classes with him for one year only, but I really enjoyed even the sight of him and his classes were the best from the entire course. I think he even knew I was into him but we never talked to each other about things other than the classes themselves and so I graduated and never saw him ever again. I did not know what "being in love" or "crushing" was like back then, but as years went by, I never felt like that ever again. I think I tried dating other men like twice, the first ended the relationship because he wanted more than what I felt like giving, and the second one I stopped seeing him after I found out our interests were conflicting and it would never work out.
Sometimes I wish I felt like that crush period again. Nowadays, years later, I feel like that was how true love felt like, and that I lost my chance to confess to the only person who had my heart beat like that. I keep imagining what ifs and how different of a person I would turn out today if things had happened differently.
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psych2go
Can anyone help me on this one
I'm not a guy who has crushes frequently, I'm 15, and I've only liked in a romantic way 2 girls, one which didn't feel the same way and it was some years ago and this one which I currently am looking to have a relationship with.
I'll just call her M here. So, me an M have met 2 years ago and I could say that we are best friends, we've laughed together, cried together (over some characters deaths on TV) and she said to me once that I'm not like other boys.
The thing is, one year ago, she discovered I liked her through some of our friends, and she said she liked me but wasn't ready for a serious relationship.
All I wanna know is if I could have a relationship with her in the future (sorry for the long text.
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Can anyone help me on this one
I'm not a guy who has crushes frequently, I'm 15, and I've only liked in a romantic way 2 girls, one which didn't feel the same way and it was some years ago and this one which I currently am looking to have a relationship with.
I'll just call her M here. So, me an M have met 2 years ago and I could say that we are best friends, we've laughed together, cried together (over some characters deaths on TV) and she said to me once that I'm not like other boys.
The thing is, one year ago, she discovered I liked her through some of our friends, and she said she liked me but wasn't ready for a serious relationship.
All I wanna know is if I could have a relationship with her in the future (sorry for the long text.
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Lucyj248
I’ve liked this guys for about 5 months and we’ve become really good friends, at first it was definitely just a crush, but as I’ve gotten to know him on the deeper level like my mental health and his anxiety and those things. Recently he confessed that he does feel the same way and we’re both waiting until next year to date so we’re 17 and I’m not sure if I’m in love with him or if I just have a crush. Getting to know him on this deeper level and opening up and being more vulnerable with him than anyone else has truly been a blessing friendship and overall an amazing experience to have someone to lean on
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I’ve liked this guys for about 5 months and we’ve become really good friends, at first it was definitely just a crush, but as I’ve gotten to know him on the deeper level like my mental health and his anxiety and those things. Recently he confessed that he does feel the same way and we’re both waiting until next year to date so we’re 17 and I’m not sure if I’m in love with him or if I just have a crush. Getting to know him on this deeper level and opening up and being more vulnerable with him than anyone else has truly been a blessing friendship and overall an amazing experience to have someone to lean on
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BlackieNuff
I'm over 50 and still don't know what either of these actually look like.
I'm "crushing" on someone now (or rather, I have been for many many months, but sometimes think it's becoming more - and completely one-way (which is not healthy, considering the facts and circumstances.
Lack of opportunities for experience all my life pretty much left me with arrested development on this front, so I'm pretty much screwed. No one wants someone of advanced years to still have all the (in)experience of a tween.
It's "creepy & weird", which I'm sure many will call it.
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I'm over 50 and still don't know what either of these actually look like.
I'm "crushing" on someone now (or rather, I have been for many many months, but sometimes think it's becoming more - and completely one-way (which is not healthy, considering the facts and circumstances.
Lack of opportunities for experience all my life pretty much left me with arrested development on this front, so I'm pretty much screwed. No one wants someone of advanced years to still have all the (in)experience of a tween.
It's "creepy & weird", which I'm sure many will call it.
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psych2go
It seems silly to say this, but I finally started to understand what love is, I saw these videos before and I was sure that those old "loves" were perfect, that it was love, I was fooling myself, I convinced myself that it was that same. There's no point explaining here, just living to understand that this confusion is not something small or simple. I came to understand what true love is when I finally made true friends. they taught me about life, about them and about myself, they taught me to love and respect myself
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It seems silly to say this, but I finally started to understand what love is, I saw these videos before and I was sure that those old "loves" were perfect, that it was love, I was fooling myself, I convinced myself that it was that same. There's no point explaining here, just living to understand that this confusion is not something small or simple. I came to understand what true love is when I finally made true friends. they taught me about life, about them and about myself, they taught me to love and respect myself
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belkisquiroga6007
Is it wrong that I have both someone I'm in love woth, and a crush I do not want a relationship woth my crush because it's not stable or what I'm looking for but I can't control whether or not I have a crush on them. I've been feeling bad for having both at a time and if I coukd I would not have a crush on someone when I'm already in love. Cause I don't really enjoy interacting woth my crush, it makes me insecure and anxious, while with my boyfriend I feel in peace, loved, pretty and safe
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Is it wrong that I have both someone I'm in love woth, and a crush I do not want a relationship woth my crush because it's not stable or what I'm looking for but I can't control whether or not I have a crush on them. I've been feeling bad for having both at a time and if I coukd I would not have a crush on someone when I'm already in love. Cause I don't really enjoy interacting woth my crush, it makes me insecure and anxious, while with my boyfriend I feel in peace, loved, pretty and safe
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Jooney91
This is really beautiful. However love can seem like crushing for trauma survivors. What I mean is, trauma survivors who haven't figured it out often fall in love with someone who's behaviour feels familiar (but is toxic.
Once you heal yourself enough, love is exactly as described in video. Calm, trusting, respecting. It's a deep connection and safe place. It can be confusing that it doesn't hurt, but that's actually right way. I hope you all find your soulmate
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This is really beautiful. However love can seem like crushing for trauma survivors. What I mean is, trauma survivors who haven't figured it out often fall in love with someone who's behaviour feels familiar (but is toxic.
Once you heal yourself enough, love is exactly as described in video. Calm, trusting, respecting. It's a deep connection and safe place. It can be confusing that it doesn't hurt, but that's actually right way. I hope you all find your soulmate
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psych2go
You know what
Imma say it
For the first time in my 26 years I seem to have developed a crush on someone
She got me sighing AND silly smiling every time I happen to see her
It's so bizarre, I didn't even thought I was capable of feeling like that
I feel like a scientist observing the fascinating behaviors of a little critter
Except I am the little critter
I'm watching myself doing something not thought possible before
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You know what
Imma say it
For the first time in my 26 years I seem to have developed a crush on someone
She got me sighing AND silly smiling every time I happen to see her
It's so bizarre, I didn't even thought I was capable of feeling like that
I feel like a scientist observing the fascinating behaviors of a little critter
Except I am the little critter
I'm watching myself doing something not thought possible before
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violet9530
I am almost 90% sure now that I am absolutely in love with mah crush. Makes sense since i got a crush on him 2nd grade, but didn't see him again since the classes are so far apart, but still had a crush. Then I switched schools in 5th grade, and though i would never see him again, so I kinda subdued him just a little. Then he transferred to MY school in 6th grade, so all those slighty subdued feelings came rushing back. So. yeah.
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I am almost 90% sure now that I am absolutely in love with mah crush. Makes sense since i got a crush on him 2nd grade, but didn't see him again since the classes are so far apart, but still had a crush. Then I switched schools in 5th grade, and though i would never see him again, so I kinda subdued him just a little. Then he transferred to MY school in 6th grade, so all those slighty subdued feelings came rushing back. So. yeah.
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parkervemon
Can we fall in love without even talking to that person in the first place She's 1 year junior to me. I don't know whenever I see her my heart kinda slows down suddenly, I feel like I love her. I want to talk to her so much but I'm a next level introvert. I don't think I can ever approach her.
At first, I thought that feeling would go away soon, but it's been almost a year and I still love her.
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Can we fall in love without even talking to that person in the first place She's 1 year junior to me. I don't know whenever I see her my heart kinda slows down suddenly, I feel like I love her. I want to talk to her so much but I'm a next level introvert. I don't think I can ever approach her.
At first, I thought that feeling would go away soon, but it's been almost a year and I still love her.
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baylendupree
Hello, how are you Your video helped me a lot in my situation and made me happy. It helped a lot of people as well. I am sorry that I took your video without your permission. I reported it and I am sorry again for violating copyrights. But you help people and this made me happy. Thank you again and accept my apologies. Because I have no right to take something that does not belong to me
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Hello, how are you Your video helped me a lot in my situation and made me happy. It helped a lot of people as well. I am sorry that I took your video without your permission. I reported it and I am sorry again for violating copyrights. But you help people and this made me happy. Thank you again and accept my apologies. Because I have no right to take something that does not belong to me
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Hegysguitar
I am the type of person that crush either develops like super fast in one day and I am falling more and more for the person to the point of me finding myself completly fallen for them and even more falling deeper than the bottom of the ocean, I am so deeply in love whitin 1 month if not faster
And I basicly fell for a "stranger" from forrbiden group
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I am the type of person that crush either develops like super fast in one day and I am falling more and more for the person to the point of me finding myself completly fallen for them and even more falling deeper than the bottom of the ocean, I am so deeply in love whitin 1 month if not faster
And I basicly fell for a "stranger" from forrbiden group
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psych2go
I have a good friend that I've known for 8 years now. We are great friends. She makes me very happy and makes me feel warmth and comfortable. We have great trust. I've had a crush on her before, it comes and goes.
She just makes me very happy, and sometimes i think to myself, there will never be another friend, woman like her again in my life
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I have a good friend that I've known for 8 years now. We are great friends. She makes me very happy and makes me feel warmth and comfortable. We have great trust. I've had a crush on her before, it comes and goes.
She just makes me very happy, and sometimes i think to myself, there will never be another friend, woman like her again in my life
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Miobellus
Timestamp:
0: 25 - A crush develops fast, while love grows over time.
0: 58 - A crush forms from the basics, while love thrives from deep connections.
1: 34 - A crush might feel insecure while love is stems from trust.
1: 57 - A crush feels new while love feels familiar.
2: 19 - A crush is reckless while love is mature.
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Timestamp:
0: 25 - A crush develops fast, while love grows over time.
0: 58 - A crush forms from the basics, while love thrives from deep connections.
1: 34 - A crush might feel insecure while love is stems from trust.
1: 57 - A crush feels new while love feels familiar.
2: 19 - A crush is reckless while love is mature.
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psych2go
I have a tendency to feel a mix of both at times or fluctuate between the two. It feels a little lonely and insecuring since it feels like I have to force myself to conform to the standard of having one over the other, or that the crush phase is supposedly shallow when for me, it doesn’t feel that way. Again, it feels like a mix of both.
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I have a tendency to feel a mix of both at times or fluctuate between the two. It feels a little lonely and insecuring since it feels like I have to force myself to conform to the standard of having one over the other, or that the crush phase is supposedly shallow when for me, it doesn’t feel that way. Again, it feels like a mix of both.
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psych2go
It's hard to keep yourself patient while waiting for love to form, I want to keep waiting and keep connecting, but she is making it really hard to get to know eachother, and form a bond. It's not like she doesn't want to, we just don't see eachother more then once a month. I'll keep waiting tho
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It's hard to keep yourself patient while waiting for love to form, I want to keep waiting and keep connecting, but she is making it really hard to get to know eachother, and form a bond. It's not like she doesn't want to, we just don't see eachother more then once a month. I'll keep waiting tho
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coggymilk
I havent loved a girl in like a year and i wonder if ill ever find anyone who likes me back genuinely (i got played)
I sorta forgot what its like to have a crush / be in love so this video might be useful in the future if i somehow find someone or if someone finds me
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I havent loved a girl in like a year and i wonder if ill ever find anyone who likes me back genuinely (i got played)
I sorta forgot what its like to have a crush / be in love so this video might be useful in the future if i somehow find someone or if someone finds me
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flamegamer3424
Now I understand the difference between crushing and falling in love. I had crushes on girls and it started to develop as soon as I saw them for the first time. Some of them didn’t and I looked back and wonder why I had a crush on them in the first place.
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Now I understand the difference between crushing and falling in love. I had crushes on girls and it started to develop as soon as I saw them for the first time. Some of them didn’t and I looked back and wonder why I had a crush on them in the first place.
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