You Don't Lose People, You 'Return' Them
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Date: 2024-05-03
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nataliagarcia9972
this video comes at the right time for me. A few years ago I became an online friend with a guy from other country, and we've spent every single day since then talking and sharing everything, even planning things for when he will come to my country next year. But I've realised he spends more time time chatting with others now and he even let me know that he's tired of the way he treats me -greeting me every morning or saying goodnight when we're about to sleep or replying to me all the time (things that I never asked him to do but he got me used to. Also, he went through some trouble with his best friend, but even though she deliberately hurted him, he decided to forget it all and he's happy to have her closer to him again.
It's really hard for me to stand that I'm not an important friend any more, and the worst part is that he denies the way he's putting this distance between us, he blames me for everything, so he feels he didn't do anything wrong. So, I think I'd better stay out of his life. At this moment I feel so sad that I'm not even interested in meeting him next year when he'll come to my country. I don't feel him as my friend anymore, now he's just an aknowledge.
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this video comes at the right time for me. A few years ago I became an online friend with a guy from other country, and we've spent every single day since then talking and sharing everything, even planning things for when he will come to my country next year. But I've realised he spends more time time chatting with others now and he even let me know that he's tired of the way he treats me -greeting me every morning or saying goodnight when we're about to sleep or replying to me all the time (things that I never asked him to do but he got me used to. Also, he went through some trouble with his best friend, but even though she deliberately hurted him, he decided to forget it all and he's happy to have her closer to him again.
It's really hard for me to stand that I'm not an important friend any more, and the worst part is that he denies the way he's putting this distance between us, he blames me for everything, so he feels he didn't do anything wrong. So, I think I'd better stay out of his life. At this moment I feel so sad that I'm not even interested in meeting him next year when he'll come to my country. I don't feel him as my friend anymore, now he's just an aknowledge.
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yaari6680
I would like yo share a story here:
I have a friend. We are longdistance online friends. I love them, platniically and romantically. Lately they have pulled away from me more and more. I noticed it long before they ghosted me. I spoke to them about it, but they denied it.
I tried to get them to talk to me. They have ghosted me for 6 days now. I was crying a bit before I watched this video.
I will try to heal and just. let them go. Maybe they will come back, maybe not. I need to focus on my well being now and cherish the chapter we had.
I wish it happened after their birthday, because I already got a few things for them
I know there are people out there who feel the same/similar as I do. Alone, wondering what happened, questioning themselves and their actions and so on.
You will be okay. as will I
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I would like yo share a story here:
I have a friend. We are longdistance online friends. I love them, platniically and romantically. Lately they have pulled away from me more and more. I noticed it long before they ghosted me. I spoke to them about it, but they denied it.
I tried to get them to talk to me. They have ghosted me for 6 days now. I was crying a bit before I watched this video.
I will try to heal and just. let them go. Maybe they will come back, maybe not. I need to focus on my well being now and cherish the chapter we had.
I wish it happened after their birthday, because I already got a few things for them
I know there are people out there who feel the same/similar as I do. Alone, wondering what happened, questioning themselves and their actions and so on.
You will be okay. as will I
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PiercingArrow
I know this might be a bit off context but recently this girl I was friends with had a crush on me I never had anyone like me shes also one of the only girls i really talk to, we both friend zoned each other becuase i truely didnt liked her and it was complicated. She told me before people would stare at her, older people too becuase she had curves. Her ex's where pretty bad, I kinda wanted to help her and i also wanted someone to love since everyone else i know is getting someone while am still alone in my room and i might of like faked my self in believing i loved her. We are still friends and talk, but it feels different, and i felt really bad for it about days, but she just wants to leave it at that, so that's what I am doing.
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I know this might be a bit off context but recently this girl I was friends with had a crush on me I never had anyone like me shes also one of the only girls i really talk to, we both friend zoned each other becuase i truely didnt liked her and it was complicated. She told me before people would stare at her, older people too becuase she had curves. Her ex's where pretty bad, I kinda wanted to help her and i also wanted someone to love since everyone else i know is getting someone while am still alone in my room and i might of like faked my self in believing i loved her. We are still friends and talk, but it feels different, and i felt really bad for it about days, but she just wants to leave it at that, so that's what I am doing.
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phantom_plays7715
This is why Life is so mesmerizing because it constantly changes you learn to appreciate life because of it and although letting go of people you value may be the hardest thing it's also the most eye-opening thing that will happen in your life because it shows that life is everywhere the weather, the land, evolution is the biggest clue because although we go through different phases of our lives we always leave a part of ourselves no matter what happens we will always change for better or worse because change mean growth and growth means you're the same person but better because you learned that change is just the world saying You are going to become someone incredible just hold my hand and follow me
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This is why Life is so mesmerizing because it constantly changes you learn to appreciate life because of it and although letting go of people you value may be the hardest thing it's also the most eye-opening thing that will happen in your life because it shows that life is everywhere the weather, the land, evolution is the biggest clue because although we go through different phases of our lives we always leave a part of ourselves no matter what happens we will always change for better or worse because change mean growth and growth means you're the same person but better because you learned that change is just the world saying You are going to become someone incredible just hold my hand and follow me
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Cherrycreamsoda1
I think my issue is I don't get attached to people any more because I can't form close relationships to them. They just move on and forget me really quickly. I get numb to my feelings for people and it's horrible. I was wishing I had anyone in my life to care about. Then maybe I realised it was better to try and work on the relationships with those closest to me, my immediate family, because I know they'll always be there for me through thick and thin, even if we've been dysfunctional in the past, it all takes work. In the end I didn't have to look far to be loved, I just had to put a bit more effort in closer to home and not take my loved ones for granted.
thank you for the video
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I think my issue is I don't get attached to people any more because I can't form close relationships to them. They just move on and forget me really quickly. I get numb to my feelings for people and it's horrible. I was wishing I had anyone in my life to care about. Then maybe I realised it was better to try and work on the relationships with those closest to me, my immediate family, because I know they'll always be there for me through thick and thin, even if we've been dysfunctional in the past, it all takes work. In the end I didn't have to look far to be loved, I just had to put a bit more effort in closer to home and not take my loved ones for granted.
thank you for the video
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superking100
I kind of disagree that having people leave your life (excepting death) is normal. Sure it is normal in today's society, but in pre-historic times if someone left they would have to physically move to a different tribe. This would have happened occasionally, but not even close to the extent that we have it today. I think that a lot is lost by not prioritizing connections with other people. Sure, we have to deal with this in today's society, but I think a lot of people let a connection go without realizing its positive impact, without considering how they can modify it so the connection still exists as much as it can positively.
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I kind of disagree that having people leave your life (excepting death) is normal. Sure it is normal in today's society, but in pre-historic times if someone left they would have to physically move to a different tribe. This would have happened occasionally, but not even close to the extent that we have it today. I think that a lot is lost by not prioritizing connections with other people. Sure, we have to deal with this in today's society, but I think a lot of people let a connection go without realizing its positive impact, without considering how they can modify it so the connection still exists as much as it can positively.
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ryanricks318
Did i alter them so much jus by merely observations theys so wilds furs meh so let em back to wilds ago let em have ever which ways n let em loose also this process has meh letting minezelf go as progression thru spime I'm not actually the same being once was even atomic structurely theys bonds tough to holds o ood moments we has furs alls the sharing possible even awkward superpositional phenomenonal dat being when wot whrrrs as us ever so choatic courses so wild itty furs the betters so hopefuls n b yonds go on git nya sojourneys
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Did i alter them so much jus by merely observations theys so wilds furs meh so let em back to wilds ago let em have ever which ways n let em loose also this process has meh letting minezelf go as progression thru spime I'm not actually the same being once was even atomic structurely theys bonds tough to holds o ood moments we has furs alls the sharing possible even awkward superpositional phenomenonal dat being when wot whrrrs as us ever so choatic courses so wild itty furs the betters so hopefuls n b yonds go on git nya sojourneys
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finalninjadog
I struggle with letting go of people who threaten my wellbeing. I find myself replaying events, reflecting on my decisions, questioning if I should have done them, imagining what would happen if I see them again.
I’ve done a lot of research about how to gracefully let go’ as this video puts it and stop overthinking and replaying things, but this video certainly speaks to me more than the other guides I’ve come across. I think I needed this, and that I need to watch it over and let the messages sink in. Thankyou
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I struggle with letting go of people who threaten my wellbeing. I find myself replaying events, reflecting on my decisions, questioning if I should have done them, imagining what would happen if I see them again.
I’ve done a lot of research about how to gracefully let go’ as this video puts it and stop overthinking and replaying things, but this video certainly speaks to me more than the other guides I’ve come across. I think I needed this, and that I need to watch it over and let the messages sink in. Thankyou
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psych2go
I really get affected when people I used to be close with just grow apart and fade away, returning to strangers once again. I've first felt this loss during high school, when after graduation the people I'm close to just have straight up become strangers. This theme has recurred in every stage in my life. What I've learned is that you really should try to build deeper relationships with others and hopefully, some will stick with you for longer of if fortunate, till the end.
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I really get affected when people I used to be close with just grow apart and fade away, returning to strangers once again. I've first felt this loss during high school, when after graduation the people I'm close to just have straight up become strangers. This theme has recurred in every stage in my life. What I've learned is that you really should try to build deeper relationships with others and hopefully, some will stick with you for longer of if fortunate, till the end.
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gypsyfiresign1064
I love this video! I’ve been actively mourning the loss of one of my bff’s/extended family. She didn’t pass on, she divorced her abusive husband & had to move away. I’m a big proponent of Stoicism’s focus on only what you can do to for yourself, but I miss our great closeness. I’ve been battling mental illness for the past 25 years & change is so difficult at times, but I’ve learned to trust the Universe. Thank you for all of your informative vids.
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I love this video! I’ve been actively mourning the loss of one of my bff’s/extended family. She didn’t pass on, she divorced her abusive husband & had to move away. I’m a big proponent of Stoicism’s focus on only what you can do to for yourself, but I miss our great closeness. I’ve been battling mental illness for the past 25 years & change is so difficult at times, but I’ve learned to trust the Universe. Thank you for all of your informative vids.
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HG58058
Any love they made you to feel is yours to keep because you created that
Broke up from a 7 year relationship a month ago. The first love. The love of my life. My everything. I thought I'll never be able to love someone because all the love I had, I gave it to him. Now there's no love left for another person. But the quote made me realise I might be wrong.
The transfer of love from one person to another maybe difficult. But the love is still there.
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Any love they made you to feel is yours to keep because you created that
Broke up from a 7 year relationship a month ago. The first love. The love of my life. My everything. I thought I'll never be able to love someone because all the love I had, I gave it to him. Now there's no love left for another person. But the quote made me realise I might be wrong.
The transfer of love from one person to another maybe difficult. But the love is still there.
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chisuku
I lost someone very dear to me and it was my fault. It took a long time to realize the damage I did to them. I've grown over the years and if you really love someone, you love them no matter how many years are passing by. i don't know if I will ever see them again, but the love we shared shall forever live on in my memories. This person is free to go wherever he wants to, I hope one day we will see each other again
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I lost someone very dear to me and it was my fault. It took a long time to realize the damage I did to them. I've grown over the years and if you really love someone, you love them no matter how many years are passing by. i don't know if I will ever see them again, but the love we shared shall forever live on in my memories. This person is free to go wherever he wants to, I hope one day we will see each other again
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ifureaddisugay
I met a girl who i really liked, i found out she liked me back, i dont mean this as a little highschool crush either, this is the only time ive ever felt true love. Sadly, i had to move away and we came to the conclusion a long distance relationship wouldnt work.
We're still sorta in contact as friends but it hurts still, even almost 7 months later, ill probably always wonder what could have been.
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I met a girl who i really liked, i found out she liked me back, i dont mean this as a little highschool crush either, this is the only time ive ever felt true love. Sadly, i had to move away and we came to the conclusion a long distance relationship wouldnt work.
We're still sorta in contact as friends but it hurts still, even almost 7 months later, ill probably always wonder what could have been.
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psych2go
Yea, I'll probably never learn this. when someone very important leaves me, I feel like a part of me has died and all memories of that person bring more pain than joy. I can't make sense of something that's over and enjoy the memories. Due to these constant changes, I cannot identify myself, define myself. I no longer know who or what I am.
But yea, maybe in another life.
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Yea, I'll probably never learn this. when someone very important leaves me, I feel like a part of me has died and all memories of that person bring more pain than joy. I can't make sense of something that's over and enjoy the memories. Due to these constant changes, I cannot identify myself, define myself. I no longer know who or what I am.
But yea, maybe in another life.
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Soothsounds4U
This resonated so well with me. I recently let go of a 6-year long friendship. The reason is simple enoughour values changed and so did we. When opinions began to get in the way of listening, trust was broken. I’ve made a gratitude list to remember our love and friendship (along with pictures) In the process of letting go with grace and looking forward.
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This resonated so well with me. I recently let go of a 6-year long friendship. The reason is simple enoughour values changed and so did we. When opinions began to get in the way of listening, trust was broken. I’ve made a gratitude list to remember our love and friendship (along with pictures) In the process of letting go with grace and looking forward.
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MLGconcrete
they always says breakups are hard, I can attest since I was once put in that conundrum, however, I say parting friendships are even harder cause they actually last longer and sometimes lead to said relationships, it'd be difficult to look at ending friendships as farewells vs losing them, but that is all indeed relatable
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they always says breakups are hard, I can attest since I was once put in that conundrum, however, I say parting friendships are even harder cause they actually last longer and sometimes lead to said relationships, it'd be difficult to look at ending friendships as farewells vs losing them, but that is all indeed relatable
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SylistheButcherr
I’ve noticed there’s a pattern in narcissists they go from admiring the person, to devaluing the person to discard the person, i seen something about it on the internet and now i see it in my everyday life, it’s so very true that all narcissists think the same and therefore should be returned smh!
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I’ve noticed there’s a pattern in narcissists they go from admiring the person, to devaluing the person to discard the person, i seen something about it on the internet and now i see it in my everyday life, it’s so very true that all narcissists think the same and therefore should be returned smh!
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d00mOfTheLiving
This video / philosophy assumes that new people are coming into your life. How does it work if you’re just constantly losing people Every video like this keeps saying remember, you’re not alone. But when that is EXACTLY what you are, what are you supposed to do then I’m sorry but I don’t get it.
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This video / philosophy assumes that new people are coming into your life. How does it work if you’re just constantly losing people Every video like this keeps saying remember, you’re not alone. But when that is EXACTLY what you are, what are you supposed to do then I’m sorry but I don’t get it.
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shadinz
Developed feelings in the last few years for a girl that is a long time friend of mine (17 years. Unfortunately when I confessed it was not mutual or she ''wasn't ready'' as she said.
I don't want to loose this friendship either, it hurts so bad to pretend I can just turn the page on those feelings for her.
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Developed feelings in the last few years for a girl that is a long time friend of mine (17 years. Unfortunately when I confessed it was not mutual or she ''wasn't ready'' as she said.
I don't want to loose this friendship either, it hurts so bad to pretend I can just turn the page on those feelings for her.
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Timestamps
1. Rethinking farewells 1: 09
2. The treasures of shared moments 1: 43
3. Navigating the winds of change 2: 15
4. New hellos and beginnings 2: 51
5. Returning to ourselves 3: 28
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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Timestamps
1. Rethinking farewells 1: 09
2. The treasures of shared moments 1: 43
3. Navigating the winds of change 2: 15
4. New hellos and beginnings 2: 51
5. Returning to ourselves 3: 28
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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