Dealing With Childhood Trauma & Emotional Neglect
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Date: 2024-06-18
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thelasttellurian
When I was reading that book I felt like it was written about me. It's like Where are the cameras in my home and my brain while I grew up But be warned, for me the understanding of what happened to me made me take another look at everyone in my life, and it made me realize no one really cares about me, never had - not even me. It's been 3 years since that, I went to therapy and spent all that time learning everything I could about human psychology and how the world really works - and everything I learned since just made me want even less connection with other people. I'm sure some people were able to recover from their childhood, but for me it ruined my life. I kinda wish now that I never read it, as they say - ignorance is bliss. So be warned - if you don't have someone close to you who can help you heal, it can cause more damage than help you.
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When I was reading that book I felt like it was written about me. It's like Where are the cameras in my home and my brain while I grew up But be warned, for me the understanding of what happened to me made me take another look at everyone in my life, and it made me realize no one really cares about me, never had - not even me. It's been 3 years since that, I went to therapy and spent all that time learning everything I could about human psychology and how the world really works - and everything I learned since just made me want even less connection with other people. I'm sure some people were able to recover from their childhood, but for me it ruined my life. I kinda wish now that I never read it, as they say - ignorance is bliss. So be warned - if you don't have someone close to you who can help you heal, it can cause more damage than help you.
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masternate2567
The devalidation of my emotions was a big one, or feeling like I cant do anything I want. So I stopped caring in my adult life, which has become a big problem I now discovered. emotions may not be logical or triggered on purpose, and that suppressing the feeling that they are not valid hurts or itself is childish behavior. It got to a point of when I bottled my emotions until I have a panic attack, but writing now helps me a lot. I wrote a quote down one day that stays on my mind. live free with care, not a care-free life. I want to feel free with what I take care in, not devoid of the ability to care or be free from it. Caring is not a Burden, but the necessity of choice.
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The devalidation of my emotions was a big one, or feeling like I cant do anything I want. So I stopped caring in my adult life, which has become a big problem I now discovered. emotions may not be logical or triggered on purpose, and that suppressing the feeling that they are not valid hurts or itself is childish behavior. It got to a point of when I bottled my emotions until I have a panic attack, but writing now helps me a lot. I wrote a quote down one day that stays on my mind. live free with care, not a care-free life. I want to feel free with what I take care in, not devoid of the ability to care or be free from it. Caring is not a Burden, but the necessity of choice.
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psych2go
I am numb to others emotions towards me and have been in such a funk because I can't understand what or why they feel the way they do towards me. Sometimes I'm even put off or get extremely uncomfortable when someone shows me any positive feelings or tries to connect in an emotionally positive way to me. I was told it was a symptom of emotional neglect and I've been trying to understand it better and figure out how to heal. I'm so tried of being numb and unable to feel anything towards or from the people closest to me. Are there any more books on this subject I really need the help.
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I am numb to others emotions towards me and have been in such a funk because I can't understand what or why they feel the way they do towards me. Sometimes I'm even put off or get extremely uncomfortable when someone shows me any positive feelings or tries to connect in an emotionally positive way to me. I was told it was a symptom of emotional neglect and I've been trying to understand it better and figure out how to heal. I'm so tried of being numb and unable to feel anything towards or from the people closest to me. Are there any more books on this subject I really need the help.
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Nobody-lk9iw
When I was a kid I was always emotionally neglected if that wasn't enough if anything bad happened it somehow always ended up being my fault even when I had nothing to do with it and when I tried to make them understand somehow they always became the victim and I was the bad guy in that situation I tried therapy it didn't work every day I have to wake up thinking why am I alive because my parents did not accept no as an answer now I have hard time saying no to anything sorry for the long comment I felt like I needed to say something to someone that understands
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When I was a kid I was always emotionally neglected if that wasn't enough if anything bad happened it somehow always ended up being my fault even when I had nothing to do with it and when I tried to make them understand somehow they always became the victim and I was the bad guy in that situation I tried therapy it didn't work every day I have to wake up thinking why am I alive because my parents did not accept no as an answer now I have hard time saying no to anything sorry for the long comment I felt like I needed to say something to someone that understands
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adeebakhan9474
Nobody wronged me in my 17 years of life
Still I feel hollow and aimless in the inside
I feel like no one is there for me when I need someone but if we look into it I never have to go through something in which I would need somebody to be with me I am not interested in doing anything I wanted to become an independent person in the future but now that I think I am not studying or I have no hobby or I have no talent whenever I think about it it just made me feel depressed my anxiety is always on the peek I don't know how it feels to be literally happy
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Nobody wronged me in my 17 years of life
Still I feel hollow and aimless in the inside
I feel like no one is there for me when I need someone but if we look into it I never have to go through something in which I would need somebody to be with me I am not interested in doing anything I wanted to become an independent person in the future but now that I think I am not studying or I have no hobby or I have no talent whenever I think about it it just made me feel depressed my anxiety is always on the peek I don't know how it feels to be literally happy
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FluffinHeck
I was diagnosed with CPTSD and Chronic Depression a few years ago from C. E. N. as well as one of the worst years of my life. I lost my best friend to Leukemia, my young cousin found a gun, was playing with it and. I also had to let go of the only person I have ever truly had feelings for. All within 6 months.
The hardest lesson to learn is It's Not My Fault. Some days I still struggle with this.
between yesterday's How to unfk your life and this one, let me just say Thank You, Amanda.
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I was diagnosed with CPTSD and Chronic Depression a few years ago from C. E. N. as well as one of the worst years of my life. I lost my best friend to Leukemia, my young cousin found a gun, was playing with it and. I also had to let go of the only person I have ever truly had feelings for. All within 6 months.
The hardest lesson to learn is It's Not My Fault. Some days I still struggle with this.
between yesterday's How to unfk your life and this one, let me just say Thank You, Amanda.
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politeburger
I'm an adult still living with my toxic abusive parents because I can't find a job. I'm trying each day, but they never leave a chance to pull me down and belittle me in every way possible. I've given up on love as I don't think anyone will be able to understand and realise how Traumatised and scared I am. I feel like giving up but I'm surviving my days somehow. I hope things better because I don't know how long can I continue doing this.
Please help me
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I'm an adult still living with my toxic abusive parents because I can't find a job. I'm trying each day, but they never leave a chance to pull me down and belittle me in every way possible. I've given up on love as I don't think anyone will be able to understand and realise how Traumatised and scared I am. I feel like giving up but I'm surviving my days somehow. I hope things better because I don't know how long can I continue doing this.
Please help me
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QGBlox
What if the trauma is happening. How do I cope. How do I control myself. I sleep at 4 am everyday because of hallucinating faces in walls and items I am a child and it's not for example people are a glass and one wrong step and shatter in pieces. For me I've as always shattered into confusion and sadness. I've always been happy and always smiling but when I stop for a second to think I can't get my mind off my parents goddammit
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What if the trauma is happening. How do I cope. How do I control myself. I sleep at 4 am everyday because of hallucinating faces in walls and items I am a child and it's not for example people are a glass and one wrong step and shatter in pieces. For me I've as always shattered into confusion and sadness. I've always been happy and always smiling but when I stop for a second to think I can't get my mind off my parents goddammit
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PancakeRights
TIMESTAMPS
0: 38 Realise it's not your fault
1: 22 Welcome your emotions
2: 08 Recognise and identify your emotions
2: 43 Keep track of your emotions
3: 42 Find ways to self soothe
Step 1 Make a list of possible strategies
Step 2 Emotions charts and identifying your emotions will come in handy here
Step 3 Try out different strategies and pay attention to what works and what doesn't work
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TIMESTAMPS
0: 38 Realise it's not your fault
1: 22 Welcome your emotions
2: 08 Recognise and identify your emotions
2: 43 Keep track of your emotions
3: 42 Find ways to self soothe
Step 1 Make a list of possible strategies
Step 2 Emotions charts and identifying your emotions will come in handy here
Step 3 Try out different strategies and pay attention to what works and what doesn't work
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kateashby3066
I have BPD as a result of my childhood trauma and I got sober at age 31 after hitting a brutal bottom. I didn’t want to get sober, I just didn’t have a choice anymore because the alternative was ending myself. I was NOT prepared for life without my coping mechanism (numbing out. 13 years later I’m still managing my trauma but I’ve come FAR. Have faith and just keep putting one foot in front of the other.
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I have BPD as a result of my childhood trauma and I got sober at age 31 after hitting a brutal bottom. I didn’t want to get sober, I just didn’t have a choice anymore because the alternative was ending myself. I was NOT prepared for life without my coping mechanism (numbing out. 13 years later I’m still managing my trauma but I’ve come FAR. Have faith and just keep putting one foot in front of the other.
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arodoeseverything
write down a few affirmations to help you. The more you say them the more you believe them the more mentally healthy you will be. You can use mine:
I'm doing great.
I have talent.
I'm making progress.
People like me.
I deserve my forgiveness.
I need to keep going.
It takes some time
Things are usually not as scary as you think
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write down a few affirmations to help you. The more you say them the more you believe them the more mentally healthy you will be. You can use mine:
I'm doing great.
I have talent.
I'm making progress.
People like me.
I deserve my forgiveness.
I need to keep going.
It takes some time
Things are usually not as scary as you think
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miNx2. 1
thanks a lot, I really need this today. Self sooth in my case is like switching with my other nonchalant version I created to survive and her only goal and motto in life was to comfort me and to remind me that despite how people says it's my fault, it wasn't really because they didn't know what really happened 15 years ago and how truly horrible they're
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thanks a lot, I really need this today. Self sooth in my case is like switching with my other nonchalant version I created to survive and her only goal and motto in life was to comfort me and to remind me that despite how people says it's my fault, it wasn't really because they didn't know what really happened 15 years ago and how truly horrible they're
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RIGman0497
I never imagined having childhood trauma until I started counseling and my counselor pointed it out to me. Turns out my VERY rough experience in middle school (nearly 15 years ago) has stuck with me all this time and made me into quite a recluse. I even have a hard time reaching out to good friends!
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I never imagined having childhood trauma until I started counseling and my counselor pointed it out to me. Turns out my VERY rough experience in middle school (nearly 15 years ago) has stuck with me all this time and made me into quite a recluse. I even have a hard time reaching out to good friends!
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wildcard5616
Childhood trauma is nots fun
In combination with other stuff, the truama left me with a huge hole where my chdhood should be, aside from select negitive memories.
Ive kinda been learning how to adult with no instruction manual, but so far i think ive been doing well
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Childhood trauma is nots fun
In combination with other stuff, the truama left me with a huge hole where my chdhood should be, aside from select negitive memories.
Ive kinda been learning how to adult with no instruction manual, but so far i think ive been doing well
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davids2096
Unfortunately, some people experience trauma throughout their lives! Whatever the case, good luck to everyone because we all need help of some kind at some point, and hopefully there will be someone there to pick you up! I wish a happy ending for everyone! Goodbye!
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Unfortunately, some people experience trauma throughout their lives! Whatever the case, good luck to everyone because we all need help of some kind at some point, and hopefully there will be someone there to pick you up! I wish a happy ending for everyone! Goodbye!
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goontheracoon
Heal Bix you find it in evey bottle. just gotta drink it fast enough because that shit evaporate if you sit on it.
I deserve this, and im happy for it. my self hate is the funniest thing I've felt, it's a deeper feeling than love or anything else.
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Heal Bix you find it in evey bottle. just gotta drink it fast enough because that shit evaporate if you sit on it.
I deserve this, and im happy for it. my self hate is the funniest thing I've felt, it's a deeper feeling than love or anything else.
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babyloklok
Growing up with my parents that didn’t know how to love me makes me feel that I don’t deserve love from others. Have been meeting therapist for 10 years but still cannot get rid of my depression Have been trying so hard to survive
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Growing up with my parents that didn’t know how to love me makes me feel that I don’t deserve love from others. Have been meeting therapist for 10 years but still cannot get rid of my depression Have been trying so hard to survive
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chisaten
Could some videos about trauma which doesn't happen in childhood be done I had a wonderful childhood with supportive and caring parents. It was going to university and other stuff after that which trashed me mentally and emotionally.
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Could some videos about trauma which doesn't happen in childhood be done I had a wonderful childhood with supportive and caring parents. It was going to university and other stuff after that which trashed me mentally and emotionally.
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tiredgacha_artist
I have tried to understand how to feel my emotions, my therapist just says to do it and it isnt hard, but it is. I can cry, but i never feel sad at all. And that goes with many other things.
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I have tried to understand how to feel my emotions, my therapist just says to do it and it isnt hard, but it is. I can cry, but i never feel sad at all. And that goes with many other things.
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Reptilianway
Needed this. Due to my dads alcoholism, and a lot of fights with my mom because of it I've developed ptsd, and the other night it triggered really badly. Glad this video came to be
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Needed this. Due to my dads alcoholism, and a lot of fights with my mom because of it I've developed ptsd, and the other night it triggered really badly. Glad this video came to be
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