6 Signs It's Not Anxiety, It's Secondary Trauma
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Bailey-San
I have something close to this.
To put it shortly, i was groomed since i was around 8, and it stopped not that many moths ago. I never have flasbacks of THOSE events but i'll often have weird dreams of me and those i actually care about dying, me dying, or them dying and me living on. All the dreams are way to real, often making me close up, and feel physically exhousted, cause the action and the terrors are so real to me i always feel like something could qctually happen. I always try to go to the store with my mom to the point i sometimes just feel like i might pass out, even though my voice and additude is hyper, wich, conbined with the dreams, causes some very. weird? Odd? Odd, things to happen. Such as this morning, i was simply walking with my mom, when suddenly my chest just felt like it was being pulled down to the ground, and my, at first, very hyper behaviour turned into what one could describe as on the edge of sleepwalking, yet able to respond well, and still be aware of the surroundings. A few minutes later, i was back to normal, almost forgetting it even happened, untill i came back home, ans realised if i was any less talkative to my mom, i would've probably woken up in the hospital.
My mom and i are VERY close and she's made sure i'm getting proper help and care, letring me sleep out as long as i cna in the weekends, ans rarely asking me for anything, wich is annoying, but i know she knows overwoeking for me is the same as productive people being ''lazy'' (aka doing basic tasks like walking in the mall for more then 1 hour (wich btw i did yesterday and i'm still tired) or talking to multiple people at a time for a sertain amount of time. It's somwthing i'll adress to a therapist i'm gonna see somewhere next week.
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I have something close to this.
To put it shortly, i was groomed since i was around 8, and it stopped not that many moths ago. I never have flasbacks of THOSE events but i'll often have weird dreams of me and those i actually care about dying, me dying, or them dying and me living on. All the dreams are way to real, often making me close up, and feel physically exhousted, cause the action and the terrors are so real to me i always feel like something could qctually happen. I always try to go to the store with my mom to the point i sometimes just feel like i might pass out, even though my voice and additude is hyper, wich, conbined with the dreams, causes some very. weird? Odd? Odd, things to happen. Such as this morning, i was simply walking with my mom, when suddenly my chest just felt like it was being pulled down to the ground, and my, at first, very hyper behaviour turned into what one could describe as on the edge of sleepwalking, yet able to respond well, and still be aware of the surroundings. A few minutes later, i was back to normal, almost forgetting it even happened, untill i came back home, ans realised if i was any less talkative to my mom, i would've probably woken up in the hospital.
My mom and i are VERY close and she's made sure i'm getting proper help and care, letring me sleep out as long as i cna in the weekends, ans rarely asking me for anything, wich is annoying, but i know she knows overwoeking for me is the same as productive people being ''lazy'' (aka doing basic tasks like walking in the mall for more then 1 hour (wich btw i did yesterday and i'm still tired) or talking to multiple people at a time for a sertain amount of time. It's somwthing i'll adress to a therapist i'm gonna see somewhere next week.
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anophoria
My therapist told me i might have secondary trauma, because I'm still stuck and looped into the stages of grief of some girl who got shot 7 years ago. she was a singer and I had never even met her, yet my brain tried to make sense of the senseless by looking at crime scene photos and listening to witness statements (I was 13 or 14 when this happened. I had nightmares, really weird ones and I cant help but blame myself and feel survivers guilt, even though my brain knows somewhere that theres nothing i could've done, I cant seem to process that shes just gone.
Though its not like I'm thinking about this every day, it hits me every few weeks or months and then it lasts for a few weeks. Its really weird. Compared to someone of my family passing away, this was something else. And whenever I try to talk about it, people just say I'm sick. Maybe I am but thats no reason to insult me tho?
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My therapist told me i might have secondary trauma, because I'm still stuck and looped into the stages of grief of some girl who got shot 7 years ago. she was a singer and I had never even met her, yet my brain tried to make sense of the senseless by looking at crime scene photos and listening to witness statements (I was 13 or 14 when this happened. I had nightmares, really weird ones and I cant help but blame myself and feel survivers guilt, even though my brain knows somewhere that theres nothing i could've done, I cant seem to process that shes just gone.
Though its not like I'm thinking about this every day, it hits me every few weeks or months and then it lasts for a few weeks. Its really weird. Compared to someone of my family passing away, this was something else. And whenever I try to talk about it, people just say I'm sick. Maybe I am but thats no reason to insult me tho?
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QueerSkiesAhead
I relate to it all sadly. I grew up with my mothers mental illness and later became a therapist. I was so excited to get my job at first, but soon resented it. I stayed in a very unhealthy work environment for 4 years because I felt I couldn't leave my clients. I ended up having a complete breakdown and was in inpaitient treatment as well as daily outpatient for months. I only left the job because I became completely unable to function. I never even got to say goodbye to any of my clients because of the circumstances and 7 years later it still bothers me because I can imagine the trauma I caused them by abruptly leaving. I put my degree into a freeze status and don't plan on ever going back to the field which is somewhat sad, but also speaks to my choosing my sanity.
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I relate to it all sadly. I grew up with my mothers mental illness and later became a therapist. I was so excited to get my job at first, but soon resented it. I stayed in a very unhealthy work environment for 4 years because I felt I couldn't leave my clients. I ended up having a complete breakdown and was in inpaitient treatment as well as daily outpatient for months. I only left the job because I became completely unable to function. I never even got to say goodbye to any of my clients because of the circumstances and 7 years later it still bothers me because I can imagine the trauma I caused them by abruptly leaving. I put my degree into a freeze status and don't plan on ever going back to the field which is somewhat sad, but also speaks to my choosing my sanity.
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Aarnilapsi
I recently read an literary studies article by Tonje Vold on the blogs documenting the Breivik massacre. It was mentioned that 911 was one of the first cases in which bystanders could experience the trauma as well.
Those reading the Breivik massacre's victims blogs were deeply affected by the stories. They encouraged the survivors to write, which also shaped the event's narrative and memory. A supportive community was born out of compassion between the people experiencing the trauma first-hand and those who witnessed it second-hand. The support born was similar to what happens in crises like earthquakes and the Corona virus. The effects on the psyche are so severe.
So, for those who experienced trauma through witnessing it, you're valuable and needed. :)
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I recently read an literary studies article by Tonje Vold on the blogs documenting the Breivik massacre. It was mentioned that 911 was one of the first cases in which bystanders could experience the trauma as well.
Those reading the Breivik massacre's victims blogs were deeply affected by the stories. They encouraged the survivors to write, which also shaped the event's narrative and memory. A supportive community was born out of compassion between the people experiencing the trauma first-hand and those who witnessed it second-hand. The support born was similar to what happens in crises like earthquakes and the Corona virus. The effects on the psyche are so severe.
So, for those who experienced trauma through witnessing it, you're valuable and needed. :)
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Skeletor_118
Man I've seen bystander guilt and overprotectiveness in myself.
For the latter, I'm glad my friends called me out on it and made me aware. It wasn't with a child, but rather my girlfriend when she came to visit. She'd told me of a lot of things that happened in her past, and I am a naturally protective person. And, being that it was her first time coming to visit me, I wanted the trip to go as well as possible - but I became overprotective, which did the opposite of what I was intending. Luckily, I have good friends who told me I was being an asshole about it and who are willing to help me not do it again.
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Man I've seen bystander guilt and overprotectiveness in myself.
For the latter, I'm glad my friends called me out on it and made me aware. It wasn't with a child, but rather my girlfriend when she came to visit. She'd told me of a lot of things that happened in her past, and I am a naturally protective person. And, being that it was her first time coming to visit me, I wanted the trip to go as well as possible - but I became overprotective, which did the opposite of what I was intending. Luckily, I have good friends who told me I was being an asshole about it and who are willing to help me not do it again.
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dabunny
psych2go this is true. I will tell you all that im schystzo autistic mix and ive have dealing with this secondary trauma and personal trauma most of my short life. Im 21 and im exhausted being alive.
Im tired, i barely function properly and im a huge addict trying to figure out how can someone like me survive in todays society.
I try to move foward from it, try to avoid it and try running from all the pain.
You guys need to make a video on an example of someone like me who struggles just to move on and move foward.
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psych2go this is true. I will tell you all that im schystzo autistic mix and ive have dealing with this secondary trauma and personal trauma most of my short life. Im 21 and im exhausted being alive.
Im tired, i barely function properly and im a huge addict trying to figure out how can someone like me survive in todays society.
I try to move foward from it, try to avoid it and try running from all the pain.
You guys need to make a video on an example of someone like me who struggles just to move on and move foward.
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Solisium
I work at a call center and they even have a free phycologist there. I hate the campaign because it's failure means that we get yelled at and it also affect our paycheck when customers blame us for the company's bad policies and fk ups. So FK all of you guys and the campaign. 14 positive ratings to make up for 1 bad one. turnover of just 2 months because we get screwed in all fronts.
i'm moving in with my dad and investing my money. I'll be quitting soon with a bird on each hand towards the company and society!
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I work at a call center and they even have a free phycologist there. I hate the campaign because it's failure means that we get yelled at and it also affect our paycheck when customers blame us for the company's bad policies and fk ups. So FK all of you guys and the campaign. 14 positive ratings to make up for 1 bad one. turnover of just 2 months because we get screwed in all fronts.
i'm moving in with my dad and investing my money. I'll be quitting soon with a bird on each hand towards the company and society!
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Dead_shot_slayer
Well this was a very informative video. I tend to try and help where I can with other people and their problems etc. I let friends and other people complain to me ( I do try to help and advise in return) and always hear plenty of things on what happens. This makes more sense on why I'm a bit more jumpy or stressed out really. I never thought of secondary trauma even being a thing. That bystander guilt is probably the one I feel the most, overprotectiveness is another one.
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Well this was a very informative video. I tend to try and help where I can with other people and their problems etc. I let friends and other people complain to me ( I do try to help and advise in return) and always hear plenty of things on what happens. This makes more sense on why I'm a bit more jumpy or stressed out really. I never thought of secondary trauma even being a thing. That bystander guilt is probably the one I feel the most, overprotectiveness is another one.
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Ryan
Autonomic pitys o mixy signals whirrs so off put dat bys sensations whelming sorts conditionings skills issues not o dat proficiency yet ain't so ded inside o oot gotta takes times wits proximity shares sensations seeky desires demands development cycles ehh awkward wits team up uncanny we togethers even wits mine wilds impulses instincts awful oot put o different level from standards err oot match theys oot measures meh as idfk nya sojourneys
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Autonomic pitys o mixy signals whirrs so off put dat bys sensations whelming sorts conditionings skills issues not o dat proficiency yet ain't so ded inside o oot gotta takes times wits proximity shares sensations seeky desires demands development cycles ehh awkward wits team up uncanny we togethers even wits mine wilds impulses instincts awful oot put o different level from standards err oot match theys oot measures meh as idfk nya sojourneys
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RRR
Can anyone give me tips I jokingly say my freind to say something like my gf that I don't like her I try tell her it was a joke but she was so emotional I can't tell I taught telling her tommorow and after like 30 or 40 minute she propose a guy I want to tell her that I'm joking but I feel like she would be angry and disappointed for now I'm not talking to her I thunk after 1 2 weeks can someone tell me what should I do for now?
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Can anyone give me tips I jokingly say my freind to say something like my gf that I don't like her I try tell her it was a joke but she was so emotional I can't tell I taught telling her tommorow and after like 30 or 40 minute she propose a guy I want to tell her that I'm joking but I feel like she would be angry and disappointed for now I'm not talking to her I thunk after 1 2 weeks can someone tell me what should I do for now?
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Joel
I have what I call too much of a helper's trauma. What I mean is that, if I try to help someone do a task like teaching them to operate a phone, I have to remember every detail in my mind, or else I forget, and that makes me guilty on the inside, since I'm sometimes forgetful. I'm a very helper type of person, since I got it from my mother, and I'm learning how to say no to abusive and demanding vitriol.
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I have what I call too much of a helper's trauma. What I mean is that, if I try to help someone do a task like teaching them to operate a phone, I have to remember every detail in my mind, or else I forget, and that makes me guilty on the inside, since I'm sometimes forgetful. I'm a very helper type of person, since I got it from my mother, and I'm learning how to say no to abusive and demanding vitriol.
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John
Once again, information that would be helpful to me if anyone actually cared about mental health in this country. You can't see a therapist unless you have tons of ready cash (assuming they are even available where you live, but the doc is happy to prescribe these groovy pills to help you feel better. Yeah. Better living through chemistry. AKA Just shut up and get back to work.
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Once again, information that would be helpful to me if anyone actually cared about mental health in this country. You can't see a therapist unless you have tons of ready cash (assuming they are even available where you live, but the doc is happy to prescribe these groovy pills to help you feel better. Yeah. Better living through chemistry. AKA Just shut up and get back to work.
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Mr.
It's important to remember that setting boundaries to having others vent, especially if you are a sensitive or empathic person, is not a bad thing. I've found that after years of taking on other people's problems, thoughts like thank God that's not on my plate or not my issue to solve can be extremely liberating. Just know when and who to switch it off for.
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It's important to remember that setting boundaries to having others vent, especially if you are a sensitive or empathic person, is not a bad thing. I've found that after years of taking on other people's problems, thoughts like thank God that's not on my plate or not my issue to solve can be extremely liberating. Just know when and who to switch it off for.
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: //YFN
While I fell sad and emotions while i hear music and storys and have (day) dreams of fearful experiences in everyday life, i will get overwelmed with sadness randomly or get alot if axiety over everyday deadlines even if there not to serious. For these resons i think i could have both or something else but i dont know alot of stuff so idk.
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While I fell sad and emotions while i hear music and storys and have (day) dreams of fearful experiences in everyday life, i will get overwelmed with sadness randomly or get alot if axiety over everyday deadlines even if there not to serious. For these resons i think i could have both or something else but i dont know alot of stuff so idk.
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Nerd
I already know I have secondary trauma. Its a part of my childhood trauma and has effected me a lot. My mom says its nothing and people have went through worse and my newer traumatic events through my eyes are seen as nothing. I am only 15 in seven days no one I repeat no one should have to go through somthing and be told its nothing.
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I already know I have secondary trauma. Its a part of my childhood trauma and has effected me a lot. My mom says its nothing and people have went through worse and my newer traumatic events through my eyes are seen as nothing. I am only 15 in seven days no one I repeat no one should have to go through somthing and be told its nothing.
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Amanda
I'm not sure if this is normal but I feel like my body literally won't let me listen to others' stories of traumatizing injuries, it causes intense physical discomfort- I've even passed out once. Its weird cuz its not like I've never been hurt, I definitely have, but its hearing others' physical pain that gets me.
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I'm not sure if this is normal but I feel like my body literally won't let me listen to others' stories of traumatizing injuries, it causes intense physical discomfort- I've even passed out once. Its weird cuz its not like I've never been hurt, I definitely have, but its hearing others' physical pain that gets me.
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Deanna
As a highly sensitive person, I get secondary trauma the moment I see something upseting to me like scary movies or anything with a lot of violence on tv and movies. I know I can't just look away from it but I would freak out and cry if I see something that upsets me and that I can't do anything about it.
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As a highly sensitive person, I get secondary trauma the moment I see something upseting to me like scary movies or anything with a lot of violence on tv and movies. I know I can't just look away from it but I would freak out and cry if I see something that upsets me and that I can't do anything about it.
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Joju
I relate to this so hard.
I'm 28 and I've been working security for 6 years. Seeing and doing things that regular people should never see has taken a severe toll on my mental health, and sometimes I'd prefer to isolate myself in my room rather than deal with the horrors of the real world.
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I relate to this so hard.
I'm 28 and I've been working security for 6 years. Seeing and doing things that regular people should never see has taken a severe toll on my mental health, and sometimes I'd prefer to isolate myself in my room rather than deal with the horrors of the real world.
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Puspam
Being very sad on seeing or hearing others getting hurt, is a problem I have been facing too much since my childhood. I love to hear stories and watching movies, but this problem sometime scare me away from an entire movie or story if it seems that it has got several sad moments.
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Being very sad on seeing or hearing others getting hurt, is a problem I have been facing too much since my childhood. I love to hear stories and watching movies, but this problem sometime scare me away from an entire movie or story if it seems that it has got several sad moments.
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Deadly
Timestamps
1. Discourage others 0: 52
2. Nightmares 1: 23
3. Bystander guilt 2: 06
4. Become resentful 2: 51
5. Overprotective 3: 33
6. Become cynical 4: 14
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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Timestamps
1. Discourage others 0: 52
2. Nightmares 1: 23
3. Bystander guilt 2: 06
4. Become resentful 2: 51
5. Overprotective 3: 33
6. Become cynical 4: 14
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.
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shay
This video gave me tears. i dont even know why. every time when i hear about traumatic storys, no matter who is this i always feel guily and bad that i couldnt do anything to help them. and every time when i have these thoughts i end up crying a lot.
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This video gave me tears. i dont even know why. every time when i hear about traumatic storys, no matter who is this i always feel guily and bad that i couldnt do anything to help them. and every time when i have these thoughts i end up crying a lot.
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DAVID. 2049
I'm the oldest of 7 siblings and was traumatized by my parents as a child and watched my others being traumatized 6 times over and over again.
I feel quite some guilt that I didn't inform anyone outside or couldn't protect my siblings.
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I'm the oldest of 7 siblings and was traumatized by my parents as a child and watched my others being traumatized 6 times over and over again.
I feel quite some guilt that I didn't inform anyone outside or couldn't protect my siblings.
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natersby
I would definitely include adviceline workers in that job list, as depending on the sector you'll hear about peoples worst moments in life, then it's right on to the next call. I've definitely seen a lot of compassion fatigue in colleagues.
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I would definitely include adviceline workers in that job list, as depending on the sector you'll hear about peoples worst moments in life, then it's right on to the next call. I've definitely seen a lot of compassion fatigue in colleagues.
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spacewolfcub
1: 53 Joker related flashbacks. Specifically Bruce seeing that written on the glass. I feel like it really drove home the point to me that trauma doesnt have to happen to you directly to leave a mark.
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1: 53 Joker related flashbacks. Specifically Bruce seeing that written on the glass. I feel like it really drove home the point to me that trauma doesnt have to happen to you directly to leave a mark.
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Cait
I love these, the amount of new things I learn about myself is amazing. Kinda sucks to add to the list of why my brain doesn't work right but that list is the first step to understanding and growth
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I love these, the amount of new things I learn about myself is amazing. Kinda sucks to add to the list of why my brain doesn't work right but that list is the first step to understanding and growth
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