8 Signs It’s Rejection Dysphoria in ADHD (Not Too Sensitive)
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Date: 2024-08-08
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Normalaatsra
You might not succeed to learn to manage the preceding emotions in CBT, but you can learn to resolve the aftermath. My biggest peeve is being the social scapegoat whether it's true that I was in the wrong or not. I've become excellent in interpersonal conflict communication nowadays, yet my last relapse made me bottle such intense emotions that I ruined my night out by crying hysterically and angrily on the way to the hangout.
But I'm thankful for CBT for teaching me that nothing is truly negative. I asked the person who I thought pinned me into this situation to clarify what their real thoughts were, and as expected they are disconnected from that negative thinking world I had, and I was absolutely relieved. Woke up the next day with very little pain from the day before, which is an ADHD thing to forget everything after waking anyway. And I was able to move on.
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You might not succeed to learn to manage the preceding emotions in CBT, but you can learn to resolve the aftermath. My biggest peeve is being the social scapegoat whether it's true that I was in the wrong or not. I've become excellent in interpersonal conflict communication nowadays, yet my last relapse made me bottle such intense emotions that I ruined my night out by crying hysterically and angrily on the way to the hangout.
But I'm thankful for CBT for teaching me that nothing is truly negative. I asked the person who I thought pinned me into this situation to clarify what their real thoughts were, and as expected they are disconnected from that negative thinking world I had, and I was absolutely relieved. Woke up the next day with very little pain from the day before, which is an ADHD thing to forget everything after waking anyway. And I was able to move on.
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Sabretoothsquirrel
I had problems in elementary school and eventually got diagnosed with mild ADHD. It got easier to navigate school and I did fairly well in high school and further studies to a point where I thought I had sort of outgrown or learned to manage my ADHD well enough to not be affected by it anymore.
Fast forward about ten years to today. Just in the last couple of days I've found several videos about RSD and I've realized there might be a reason why I've been so miserable for most of my adult life! I recognize myself so much in the descriptions of RSD. The low self esteem, the intense fear of rejection and failure that I didn't realize I had. It's been eye opening. My ADHD is definitely still affecting my life!
I'm going to seek professional help to understand more about it and hopefully learn to be happier with myself.
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I had problems in elementary school and eventually got diagnosed with mild ADHD. It got easier to navigate school and I did fairly well in high school and further studies to a point where I thought I had sort of outgrown or learned to manage my ADHD well enough to not be affected by it anymore.
Fast forward about ten years to today. Just in the last couple of days I've found several videos about RSD and I've realized there might be a reason why I've been so miserable for most of my adult life! I recognize myself so much in the descriptions of RSD. The low self esteem, the intense fear of rejection and failure that I didn't realize I had. It's been eye opening. My ADHD is definitely still affecting my life!
I'm going to seek professional help to understand more about it and hopefully learn to be happier with myself.
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psych2go
Yep. I’m autistic, with A. D. D and I have all these symptoms. Though I am doing as much as I can to compensate and improve my self esteem.
And that can sometimes lead to me boasting about my skills and abilities, though I still end up under selling, which can lead to people getting mad because I’m bragging, which gives affirmation to my low self esteem, spiraling me further into self loathing.
And while I’ve come to not value the approval of others (but I still value constructive criticism) it still hurts when I’m ostracized.
(So I mostly hide in my room focusing on my autistic topics of obsession, and using my skills to dominate in video games)
My family see and know my positive traits, and value me as a good person. As do those who stick around and get to know me.
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Yep. I’m autistic, with A. D. D and I have all these symptoms. Though I am doing as much as I can to compensate and improve my self esteem.
And that can sometimes lead to me boasting about my skills and abilities, though I still end up under selling, which can lead to people getting mad because I’m bragging, which gives affirmation to my low self esteem, spiraling me further into self loathing.
And while I’ve come to not value the approval of others (but I still value constructive criticism) it still hurts when I’m ostracized.
(So I mostly hide in my room focusing on my autistic topics of obsession, and using my skills to dominate in video games)
My family see and know my positive traits, and value me as a good person. As do those who stick around and get to know me.
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cobaltprime9467
Yeah this is me. I started off as a shy kid. And it just got worse over time. Every single one of these points is what I go thru.
Doesn’t help I was actually rejected many times. Friendzoned usually.
Now I’m almost 30, don’t have a gf because I’m tired of getting rejected, or even scammed. Lost touch with all my friends due to the pandemic. And now my perfectionism has gotten worse so I avoid anything new.
It’s a losing battle. A war with myself with no end. Only moments where I’ve distracted myself with something meaningless.
I’m writing this on a particularly down day. I’m not normally this depressing. I’m very tired.
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Yeah this is me. I started off as a shy kid. And it just got worse over time. Every single one of these points is what I go thru.
Doesn’t help I was actually rejected many times. Friendzoned usually.
Now I’m almost 30, don’t have a gf because I’m tired of getting rejected, or even scammed. Lost touch with all my friends due to the pandemic. And now my perfectionism has gotten worse so I avoid anything new.
It’s a losing battle. A war with myself with no end. Only moments where I’ve distracted myself with something meaningless.
I’m writing this on a particularly down day. I’m not normally this depressing. I’m very tired.
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Tofu_shrimp
this is off-topic but it’s my ex’s birthday in a few days. We broke up last month and we’ve been in no-contact ever since. We see each other at school everyday (though different classes) but he avoids me at all costs. Since saying happy birthday to him in person doesnt appear to be an option seeing how he keeps avoiding me, should i just text him a birthday wish Or would it be better if i asked his home room teacher to send him birthday wishes on my behalf I have no hard feelings towards him. I genuinely want to wish him a happy birthday but i dont know how to without making it awkward.
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this is off-topic but it’s my ex’s birthday in a few days. We broke up last month and we’ve been in no-contact ever since. We see each other at school everyday (though different classes) but he avoids me at all costs. Since saying happy birthday to him in person doesnt appear to be an option seeing how he keeps avoiding me, should i just text him a birthday wish Or would it be better if i asked his home room teacher to send him birthday wishes on my behalf I have no hard feelings towards him. I genuinely want to wish him a happy birthday but i dont know how to without making it awkward.
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Taurusboy07
I deal with this for sure. I learned this many years ago. It is unfortunate that many of us who are powerful empaths and are naturally sensitive or even hyper sensitive was abused to the core of our beings. Now we are left fighting through life and suffering in our relationships due to the inability to retire ourselves back to how we were before the abuse and in most cases consecutive abuse. My philosophy is, it takes people to severely disrupt our innate nature and it will take people to help reshape us back into believing, trusting, and wanting to be present with others.
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I deal with this for sure. I learned this many years ago. It is unfortunate that many of us who are powerful empaths and are naturally sensitive or even hyper sensitive was abused to the core of our beings. Now we are left fighting through life and suffering in our relationships due to the inability to retire ourselves back to how we were before the abuse and in most cases consecutive abuse. My philosophy is, it takes people to severely disrupt our innate nature and it will take people to help reshape us back into believing, trusting, and wanting to be present with others.
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littlescribe9214
In my case, it’s my ADHD diagnosis as a kid that made them hate me to the point where everybody mentally and emotionally abuses me growing up. Growing up as a scapegoat of the family, they always feel the need of comparing me to my siblings, to my cousins, to other people and to themselves. My parents use my ADHD as an excuse to treat me like trash. Someone insult me and stuff, then I always get the lectures even if I’m not even opening my mouth, someone insult me and stuff and my mom or my dad will just tell me to shut my mouth all the way
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In my case, it’s my ADHD diagnosis as a kid that made them hate me to the point where everybody mentally and emotionally abuses me growing up. Growing up as a scapegoat of the family, they always feel the need of comparing me to my siblings, to my cousins, to other people and to themselves. My parents use my ADHD as an excuse to treat me like trash. Someone insult me and stuff, then I always get the lectures even if I’m not even opening my mouth, someone insult me and stuff and my mom or my dad will just tell me to shut my mouth all the way
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alya9205
that's me.
over the years I got better at trusting my close one's to not to reject me (even though anxiety comes up when we're apart or I'm on my period lol) but I only recently got the chance to focus on how this fear affects me personally.
I don't take any new chances out of fear of failure, don't want to see doctors in case they'll judge me and often come to the brink of burnout because of perfectionism.
But now that I recognized the problem, I promise myself I'll work on it.
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that's me.
over the years I got better at trusting my close one's to not to reject me (even though anxiety comes up when we're apart or I'm on my period lol) but I only recently got the chance to focus on how this fear affects me personally.
I don't take any new chances out of fear of failure, don't want to see doctors in case they'll judge me and often come to the brink of burnout because of perfectionism.
But now that I recognized the problem, I promise myself I'll work on it.
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LukasWeeke
I feel the same, but the opposite: I'm diagnosed with ADD (decreased activity level instead of increased) and MDD. I have a fear of commitment and so am afraid of not being rejected. I am a perfectionist, but rather for myself. I usually don't care what others think of my achievements, but as my depression grows and I'm barely able to do anything, the things I am able to do have to be done at least great.
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I feel the same, but the opposite: I'm diagnosed with ADD (decreased activity level instead of increased) and MDD. I have a fear of commitment and so am afraid of not being rejected. I am a perfectionist, but rather for myself. I usually don't care what others think of my achievements, but as my depression grows and I'm barely able to do anything, the things I am able to do have to be done at least great.
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MemoryLaneCentral
It’s not even that, but I tend to overthink to the point where I am mortified of Rejection Euphoria.
Not necassarily that I have been rejected yet, but I can get so anxious and upset over the fear of even being rejected.
But that would make sense because I have been supsected with ADHD, and resonate with many symptoms.
This whole video really hit home for me so far.
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It’s not even that, but I tend to overthink to the point where I am mortified of Rejection Euphoria.
Not necassarily that I have been rejected yet, but I can get so anxious and upset over the fear of even being rejected.
But that would make sense because I have been supsected with ADHD, and resonate with many symptoms.
This whole video really hit home for me so far.
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A55a551n
Timestamps
1. Embarassment and self-consciousness 0: 48
2. A crisis in confidence 1: 13
3. Overwhelming emotions when rejected 1: 40
4. Overthinking and self-blame 2: 06
5. People-pleasing out of fear 2: 29
6. Avoiding failure 2: 52
7. Compensatory perfectionism 3: 15
8. Negative perceptions 3: 46
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day.
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Timestamps
1. Embarassment and self-consciousness 0: 48
2. A crisis in confidence 1: 13
3. Overwhelming emotions when rejected 1: 40
4. Overthinking and self-blame 2: 06
5. People-pleasing out of fear 2: 29
6. Avoiding failure 2: 52
7. Compensatory perfectionism 3: 15
8. Negative perceptions 3: 46
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day.
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LordBrittish
I met a girl on Match. Met for coffee and fell hard for her.
She wanted to just be friends, but doesn’t put much effort into even that.
The metaphorical arrow to the heart was real. Not that I really expected a friendship or anything. I fell into a bit of a funk, and stopped going to my weekly game night for like 6 months for some weird reason.
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I met a girl on Match. Met for coffee and fell hard for her.
She wanted to just be friends, but doesn’t put much effort into even that.
The metaphorical arrow to the heart was real. Not that I really expected a friendship or anything. I fell into a bit of a funk, and stopped going to my weekly game night for like 6 months for some weird reason.
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girlvoid
A friend of mine once told me: no one cares about what you do as much as you think they do. They're too busy with their own lives.
I'm glad he said that to me, cause it helped a lot to remind myself that whenever I feel self-conscious about mundane things. Doesn't work all the time, but most of the time, it does and has also has an accumulative effect.
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A friend of mine once told me: no one cares about what you do as much as you think they do. They're too busy with their own lives.
I'm glad he said that to me, cause it helped a lot to remind myself that whenever I feel self-conscious about mundane things. Doesn't work all the time, but most of the time, it does and has also has an accumulative effect.
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noobzito2
Did someone say ADHD
Anyway, here's the timestamp!
-0: 49 Embarassment & self-consciousness
-1: 14 A crisis and confidence
-1: 41 Overwhelming emotions when rejected
-2: 07 Overthinking & self-blame
-2: 30 People-pleasing out of fear
-2: 52 Avoiding failure
-3: 16 Compensatory perfectionism
-3: 46 Negative perceptions
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Did someone say ADHD
Anyway, here's the timestamp!
-0: 49 Embarassment & self-consciousness
-1: 14 A crisis and confidence
-1: 41 Overwhelming emotions when rejected
-2: 07 Overthinking & self-blame
-2: 30 People-pleasing out of fear
-2: 52 Avoiding failure
-3: 16 Compensatory perfectionism
-3: 46 Negative perceptions
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paulczubryt8644
I definitely deal with RSD, but I've not been diagnosed with ADHD. I know I deal with childhood trauma issues - I'm more than pretty sure I have cPTSD and CEN. Rejection hits me really hard. My second divorce hit me very, very hard. I feel like someone without RSD could've dealt with it better. I feel like I'm still recovering from it.
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I definitely deal with RSD, but I've not been diagnosed with ADHD. I know I deal with childhood trauma issues - I'm more than pretty sure I have cPTSD and CEN. Rejection hits me really hard. My second divorce hit me very, very hard. I feel like someone without RSD could've dealt with it better. I feel like I'm still recovering from it.
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Zero0Zero0000
1-4: Me: Oh, okay, I have these but I don't think it's so bad, is it I'm okay, I do have adhd, but I'm definitely not-
5: People pleasing out of fear: OH GOD I NEED HELP! I literally can't say no to almost anything even at the expense of my own livelihood. my mental and physical health have gone to ish cos of doing this.
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1-4: Me: Oh, okay, I have these but I don't think it's so bad, is it I'm okay, I do have adhd, but I'm definitely not-
5: People pleasing out of fear: OH GOD I NEED HELP! I literally can't say no to almost anything even at the expense of my own livelihood. my mental and physical health have gone to ish cos of doing this.
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Kkizma567G
TIMESTAMPS
0: 49 1. Embarrassment & self-consciousness
1: 13 2. A crisis in confidence
1: 41 3. Overwhelming emotions when rejected
2: 07 4. Overthinking & self-blame
2: 30 5. People-pleasing out of fear
2: 52 6. Avoiding failure
3: 15 7. Compensatory perfectionism
3: 46 8. Negative perceptions
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TIMESTAMPS
0: 49 1. Embarrassment & self-consciousness
1: 13 2. A crisis in confidence
1: 41 3. Overwhelming emotions when rejected
2: 07 4. Overthinking & self-blame
2: 30 5. People-pleasing out of fear
2: 52 6. Avoiding failure
3: 15 7. Compensatory perfectionism
3: 46 8. Negative perceptions
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Pika999
I am autistic and have RSD. It's not just an ADHD thing, it's common in autism and neurodivergence in general, and personally, it has me in a chokehold I can never escape from. All eight points in this video are literally things I have to deal with every day. It sucks and I HATE it!
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I am autistic and have RSD. It's not just an ADHD thing, it's common in autism and neurodivergence in general, and personally, it has me in a chokehold I can never escape from. All eight points in this video are literally things I have to deal with every day. It sucks and I HATE it!
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psych2go
Bro this is crazy. Im strong af then. I did so much to overcome my sensitivity throughout my life. Its so damn difficult but going to therapy helped me so much. I had a hard time with all of that and family made it worse. I had to learn how to keep that shit to my inner world.
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Bro this is crazy. Im strong af then. I did so much to overcome my sensitivity throughout my life. Its so damn difficult but going to therapy helped me so much. I had a hard time with all of that and family made it worse. I had to learn how to keep that shit to my inner world.
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psych2go
1. Embarrassment and Self-Consciousness
2. A crisis in confidence
3. Overwhelming emotions when rejected.
4. Overthinking and self-blame.
5. People pleasing out of fear.
6. Avoiding failure
7. Compensatory perfectionism.
8. Negative perceptions.
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1. Embarrassment and Self-Consciousness
2. A crisis in confidence
3. Overwhelming emotions when rejected.
4. Overthinking and self-blame.
5. People pleasing out of fear.
6. Avoiding failure
7. Compensatory perfectionism.
8. Negative perceptions.
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