5 Things You Shouldn’t Say to Someone on the Autism Spectrum by Brian Cham
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Date: 2025-03-24
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charlottelg5337
This was brilliant! Thank you for highlighting some of the comments that are sometimes said to people on the autism spectrum. As an autistic person myself, I will admit that I used to have a slightly limited view/understanding of autism and was thinking to myself 'how are they autistic too' but of course it is a spectrum and no two people (autistic and allistic) are the same. There is also the concept of a 'spiky profile' coined by Dr Damian Milton (who is on the autism spectrum himself) which talks about how someone on the autism spectrum might excel in certain areas and struggle in others and comparing multiple autistic people's spiky profiles would likely show that they were different. One example that comes to my mind is the ability to drive. Autism can have an effect on someone's ability to drive or learn to drive. I know many people on the autism spectrum with varying driving abilities with a couple of them being able to drive a manual car and a couple of them who cannot drive at all. My driving ability is sort of in the middle as I can drive, but only an automatic. I think driving a manual would be too much for me Of course there are some characteristics which someone would need to have in order to be on the autism spectrum but there certainly is a variety of people who are on the spectrum, and not all of us are amazingly good at maths or necessarily interested in maths.
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This was brilliant! Thank you for highlighting some of the comments that are sometimes said to people on the autism spectrum. As an autistic person myself, I will admit that I used to have a slightly limited view/understanding of autism and was thinking to myself 'how are they autistic too' but of course it is a spectrum and no two people (autistic and allistic) are the same. There is also the concept of a 'spiky profile' coined by Dr Damian Milton (who is on the autism spectrum himself) which talks about how someone on the autism spectrum might excel in certain areas and struggle in others and comparing multiple autistic people's spiky profiles would likely show that they were different. One example that comes to my mind is the ability to drive. Autism can have an effect on someone's ability to drive or learn to drive. I know many people on the autism spectrum with varying driving abilities with a couple of them being able to drive a manual car and a couple of them who cannot drive at all. My driving ability is sort of in the middle as I can drive, but only an automatic. I think driving a manual would be too much for me Of course there are some characteristics which someone would need to have in order to be on the autism spectrum but there certainly is a variety of people who are on the spectrum, and not all of us are amazingly good at maths or necessarily interested in maths.
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Quiet_Void
The fourth one depends on the context. I’ve had people ask me about the condition with the hopes of genuinely wanting to learn, or if they are having trouble understanding it.
I did a whole presentation in my grade 4 class, and I was so confident and eager to teach everyone that day.
Until then, I’m pretty sure that a lot of my kindergarten/elementary classmates wondered if I was ok, as I would rather sit in the corner and read to stuffed animals instead of playing with them, or that I would cry if things got too overwhelming, or because I basically moved into the school library.
No joke I would tell a support teacher that I’d go for a break, and go chill in the library for a while, only for the same support teacher to come over and say that there was a whole search party out for me.
(Ma’am I told you where I was going, and I’ve been here the whole time lmao)
I appreciate people coming to ask questions from someone that is actually on the spectrum, instead of just going from what awful stereotypes Hollywood keeps throwing at us.
And you’re right, it is all we’ve known, and may be a little difficult to explain, but I always try my best.
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The fourth one depends on the context. I’ve had people ask me about the condition with the hopes of genuinely wanting to learn, or if they are having trouble understanding it.
I did a whole presentation in my grade 4 class, and I was so confident and eager to teach everyone that day.
Until then, I’m pretty sure that a lot of my kindergarten/elementary classmates wondered if I was ok, as I would rather sit in the corner and read to stuffed animals instead of playing with them, or that I would cry if things got too overwhelming, or because I basically moved into the school library.
No joke I would tell a support teacher that I’d go for a break, and go chill in the library for a while, only for the same support teacher to come over and say that there was a whole search party out for me.
(Ma’am I told you where I was going, and I’ve been here the whole time lmao)
I appreciate people coming to ask questions from someone that is actually on the spectrum, instead of just going from what awful stereotypes Hollywood keeps throwing at us.
And you’re right, it is all we’ve known, and may be a little difficult to explain, but I always try my best.
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TechnoNRune
(as someone who got diagnosed with HFA) its hard living life with autism, the assumptions made about autism, the glorifacation of it from studios make people like us out to be total idiots who are neglectful of others, i mean take sheldon from big bang theory, he has autism but they present it in a terrible way, but I can't fully criticize how the logic goes, as i know some others in the autism spectrum who do the same things, but in other cases, autism can be taken very well, like the early seasons of SpongeBob. In Seasons 1-3, although SpongeBob is a bit naive, he just wants to make friends and isn't fully aware of what goes on around him. And as someone who has autism, that is a great representation of how Autism really is, and although most shows take on the accountability of autism being a one and done thing, autism is a whole globe of things, like really good at english, but will never be able to kick a ball. Like if you take a look, nobody is the same on the spectrum. And that's what i like about autism, the puzzle pieces that connect and create who you are, you are your own person and nobody can stop you. And if you read this far, then i am impressed.
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(as someone who got diagnosed with HFA) its hard living life with autism, the assumptions made about autism, the glorifacation of it from studios make people like us out to be total idiots who are neglectful of others, i mean take sheldon from big bang theory, he has autism but they present it in a terrible way, but I can't fully criticize how the logic goes, as i know some others in the autism spectrum who do the same things, but in other cases, autism can be taken very well, like the early seasons of SpongeBob. In Seasons 1-3, although SpongeBob is a bit naive, he just wants to make friends and isn't fully aware of what goes on around him. And as someone who has autism, that is a great representation of how Autism really is, and although most shows take on the accountability of autism being a one and done thing, autism is a whole globe of things, like really good at english, but will never be able to kick a ball. Like if you take a look, nobody is the same on the spectrum. And that's what i like about autism, the puzzle pieces that connect and create who you are, you are your own person and nobody can stop you. And if you read this far, then i am impressed.
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Demowan
I've often heard the 'You can't possibly be autistic remark. I've even been mocked by people who claimed I was just using it as an excuse to justify failures, relationship difficulties, or the fact that I'm lonely. It used to make me so angry every time.
Another misconception I've often encountered is being perceived as pretentious because of the way I speakusing uncommon words or complex sentence structures.
It's hurtful because most of the time, I'm just trying to connect or feel like I belong in the group. But people often exclude me unconsciously for being the 'weird guy'and I can feel it.
On the other hand, it sometimes helped me, like at school, when I was struggling with my accounting classes. Yet, some schoolmates would say things like, 'He already looks like the top student. He just pretends to be worried about the upcoming examsthere's no way he can fail. '
In reality, I was terrified because I'm terrible at anything math-relatedit makes me so anxious. I even took private lessons just to pass some exams. And succeed I did, but not without working hard.
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I've often heard the 'You can't possibly be autistic remark. I've even been mocked by people who claimed I was just using it as an excuse to justify failures, relationship difficulties, or the fact that I'm lonely. It used to make me so angry every time.
Another misconception I've often encountered is being perceived as pretentious because of the way I speakusing uncommon words or complex sentence structures.
It's hurtful because most of the time, I'm just trying to connect or feel like I belong in the group. But people often exclude me unconsciously for being the 'weird guy'and I can feel it.
On the other hand, it sometimes helped me, like at school, when I was struggling with my accounting classes. Yet, some schoolmates would say things like, 'He already looks like the top student. He just pretends to be worried about the upcoming examsthere's no way he can fail. '
In reality, I was terrified because I'm terrible at anything math-relatedit makes me so anxious. I even took private lessons just to pass some exams. And succeed I did, but not without working hard.
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psych2go
The job center I was stuck in for 13 years thought I was good at math. I tried to explain I am not. I have dyscalculia AND autism.
Once I got hurt and had to ride an ambulance to the hospital. I thought it a good idea to tell the paramedic I am autistic and his answer was how can such a pretty girl like you be autistic. Through my pain and anxiety I had to teach a fully grown, well educated person that you can be pretty AND autistic.
When I first got diagnosed, at 24, my older sister's only respond was NO. And up to this day she still practice the aren't we all a little autistic tactic. She cannot see that she can work a full time job, have a child and aiming for one more, drives a car and go out and socialise, while I can hardly keep a clean house and go grocery shopping. Makes me feel like such a failure. (Bonus sister tactic: Whenever I am anxious or have a full blown anxiety attack, her way of helping is telling me there is nothing to be afraid of)
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The job center I was stuck in for 13 years thought I was good at math. I tried to explain I am not. I have dyscalculia AND autism.
Once I got hurt and had to ride an ambulance to the hospital. I thought it a good idea to tell the paramedic I am autistic and his answer was how can such a pretty girl like you be autistic. Through my pain and anxiety I had to teach a fully grown, well educated person that you can be pretty AND autistic.
When I first got diagnosed, at 24, my older sister's only respond was NO. And up to this day she still practice the aren't we all a little autistic tactic. She cannot see that she can work a full time job, have a child and aiming for one more, drives a car and go out and socialise, while I can hardly keep a clean house and go grocery shopping. Makes me feel like such a failure. (Bonus sister tactic: Whenever I am anxious or have a full blown anxiety attack, her way of helping is telling me there is nothing to be afraid of)
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MechaboiYT
I have a friend that ive been friends with for a while who anytime i mention that i think i might be autistic(i still havent gotten tested) that and i quote U cant possibly be autistic, i know plenty of autistic people and u dont act anything like them which is just makes me really angry at him mainly because its a spectrum for a reason and he acts like everyone with autism acts the same. He is also only saying that cuz i do good in school which apparently autistic people cant be according to him which just makes me want to throw him out a window. He also likes to make fun of me anytime i mention something serious going on with my life like how when i was younger i didnt feel like i was anything or didnt matter to anyone and instead of being a good friend by comforting me he just said oh im insert my name im so depressed i dont feel like i exist oh boo hoo i swear im on the actual verge of just dropping our friendship which has already been sunk
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I have a friend that ive been friends with for a while who anytime i mention that i think i might be autistic(i still havent gotten tested) that and i quote U cant possibly be autistic, i know plenty of autistic people and u dont act anything like them which is just makes me really angry at him mainly because its a spectrum for a reason and he acts like everyone with autism acts the same. He is also only saying that cuz i do good in school which apparently autistic people cant be according to him which just makes me want to throw him out a window. He also likes to make fun of me anytime i mention something serious going on with my life like how when i was younger i didnt feel like i was anything or didnt matter to anyone and instead of being a good friend by comforting me he just said oh im insert my name im so depressed i dont feel like i exist oh boo hoo i swear im on the actual verge of just dropping our friendship which has already been sunk
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Nebulous0_o
I was diagnosed with Aspergers at the age of 13. The symptoms observed were lack of interest in socializing, a preference for routines, obsessing over minor details during conversations, insolence, rich vocabulary, and an above average interest and ability in mathematics.
Telling people you have Aspergers as a matter of course, is something I would advise against.
Co-workers tend to avoid contact unless absolutely necessary.
Neighbors leave me alone (which I like.
I have no friends to speak of (by that I mean I n e v e r make plans with anyone nor do I get calls or texts to hang out.
I don’t care.
Sometimes I wonder if I’m missing out, but I doubt it.
Many new people I meet professionally are surprised when they find out. I’m often referred to as the guy with no filters’.
When they do find out, they do a 180.
Keep it to yourself and learn to mask (it’s exhausting) if you must.
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I was diagnosed with Aspergers at the age of 13. The symptoms observed were lack of interest in socializing, a preference for routines, obsessing over minor details during conversations, insolence, rich vocabulary, and an above average interest and ability in mathematics.
Telling people you have Aspergers as a matter of course, is something I would advise against.
Co-workers tend to avoid contact unless absolutely necessary.
Neighbors leave me alone (which I like.
I have no friends to speak of (by that I mean I n e v e r make plans with anyone nor do I get calls or texts to hang out.
I don’t care.
Sometimes I wonder if I’m missing out, but I doubt it.
Many new people I meet professionally are surprised when they find out. I’m often referred to as the guy with no filters’.
When they do find out, they do a 180.
Keep it to yourself and learn to mask (it’s exhausting) if you must.
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zZmoodlleZz
As an autistic person, these all do truly hurt to hear! I remember just a few months ago I was talking to my grandmother about how I may be low functioning though I was diagnosed with mild functioning, and my sister butted in and said something along the lines of Well that one kid from last year in school was autistic, right And he’s nothing like you, so I don’t think you are. Hearing this left me shocked for a moment, as I hadn’t expected my own sister who knows I was diagnosed with autism is stoop so low. Then after regaining my composure I went on telling her how saying that to someone with autism is offensive. And after I told her this I could immediately sense negative energy coming from her as if she was mad. I think I might recall her apologizing but I’m not sure if it was genuine. Anyways my bad for yapping in here I just feel comfortable in the psych2comment sections to trauma dump
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As an autistic person, these all do truly hurt to hear! I remember just a few months ago I was talking to my grandmother about how I may be low functioning though I was diagnosed with mild functioning, and my sister butted in and said something along the lines of Well that one kid from last year in school was autistic, right And he’s nothing like you, so I don’t think you are. Hearing this left me shocked for a moment, as I hadn’t expected my own sister who knows I was diagnosed with autism is stoop so low. Then after regaining my composure I went on telling her how saying that to someone with autism is offensive. And after I told her this I could immediately sense negative energy coming from her as if she was mad. I think I might recall her apologizing but I’m not sure if it was genuine. Anyways my bad for yapping in here I just feel comfortable in the psych2comment sections to trauma dump
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psych2go
More people nowadays are more aware of autism than ever, but i think that some of the general issue are:
1. People base their understanding of autism/autistic people based on fictional characters, and that can be very harmful as most autistic characters are super gifted and unemotional characters and that obviously doesn’t apply to everyone on the spectrum, speaking of with
2. People don’t realize that it’s an spectrum that you can have 1 trade and not the other, that one person can be both independent and have an easier time understanding a specific subject (or more) and another person needs way more support but both still have the same condition
3. It’s not something that defines who you are, every person is their own person with their personality, history, cultural background etc, one part of who you are should not be your ONLY quality, every person is their own individual
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More people nowadays are more aware of autism than ever, but i think that some of the general issue are:
1. People base their understanding of autism/autistic people based on fictional characters, and that can be very harmful as most autistic characters are super gifted and unemotional characters and that obviously doesn’t apply to everyone on the spectrum, speaking of with
2. People don’t realize that it’s an spectrum that you can have 1 trade and not the other, that one person can be both independent and have an easier time understanding a specific subject (or more) and another person needs way more support but both still have the same condition
3. It’s not something that defines who you are, every person is their own person with their personality, history, cultural background etc, one part of who you are should not be your ONLY quality, every person is their own individual
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psych2go
Truly. As intellect goes, something allistics often fail to realise is that being highly intelligent for one isn’t all media cracks it up to be, (existential crisis, anyone) and two, intelligence is not a one size fits all:
I may have immense knowledge of certain sciences and uncanny deduction skills, but most algebra is not in my programming, and it’s tricky to try to view things from a perspective as alien as that of allistic singlets, from the perspective of an AuDHDer plurality.
Lastly, concurred; There’s a reason why it’s called neuroDIVERSITY: we are not clones, for one, and comorbidity is both highly existent and makes a world of difference.
Finally, of number four, we agree, and to be frank, I don’t think allistics could even fully comprehend what it’s like to be us, owing to how relatively simpler and quite different their existence seems to be.
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Truly. As intellect goes, something allistics often fail to realise is that being highly intelligent for one isn’t all media cracks it up to be, (existential crisis, anyone) and two, intelligence is not a one size fits all:
I may have immense knowledge of certain sciences and uncanny deduction skills, but most algebra is not in my programming, and it’s tricky to try to view things from a perspective as alien as that of allistic singlets, from the perspective of an AuDHDer plurality.
Lastly, concurred; There’s a reason why it’s called neuroDIVERSITY: we are not clones, for one, and comorbidity is both highly existent and makes a world of difference.
Finally, of number four, we agree, and to be frank, I don’t think allistics could even fully comprehend what it’s like to be us, owing to how relatively simpler and quite different their existence seems to be.
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Yulises
I’ve been told told by someone who disclosed to me that they were autistic that I demonstrate signs as someone who is autistic.
However, I have never been formally diagnosed, nor shared with anyone that I want to identified in this way.
Unfortunately I did not know how to communicate this because I did not want to invalidate the feelings or experiences of this person.
But in doing so, I also enabled them to label me in this manner.
Regardless of whether or not I am autistic. I am not comfortable with this label because I can’t speak on behalf of someone who is, and has been formally diagnosed.
I think moving forward, it would be in my benefit to communicate this boundary.
I would be particularly interested in a future Psych2Go video on how to communicate boundaries with peers.
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I’ve been told told by someone who disclosed to me that they were autistic that I demonstrate signs as someone who is autistic.
However, I have never been formally diagnosed, nor shared with anyone that I want to identified in this way.
Unfortunately I did not know how to communicate this because I did not want to invalidate the feelings or experiences of this person.
But in doing so, I also enabled them to label me in this manner.
Regardless of whether or not I am autistic. I am not comfortable with this label because I can’t speak on behalf of someone who is, and has been formally diagnosed.
I think moving forward, it would be in my benefit to communicate this boundary.
I would be particularly interested in a future Psych2Go video on how to communicate boundaries with peers.
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PardusRain
Never heard one of these and it's kind of amusing as someone on the spectrum if someone asked me what it is like I would tell them how it can be for me, life gave me a tired brain hamster it is not like the ADHD hamster that seeming wants to bolt around the wheel till it combusts then recharge to repeat.
I am also always thinking, pretty much to the point I will mentally disassemble it in to its parts essentially applied overthinking, it can also feel like having a broken form of OCD at times due to having a sharp pattern recognition.
But to most I just live my life and follow the objective we all do survival.
One of my interests is looking at peoples thought processes honestly if most people do not introspect I would say you are missing out on self learning.
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Never heard one of these and it's kind of amusing as someone on the spectrum if someone asked me what it is like I would tell them how it can be for me, life gave me a tired brain hamster it is not like the ADHD hamster that seeming wants to bolt around the wheel till it combusts then recharge to repeat.
I am also always thinking, pretty much to the point I will mentally disassemble it in to its parts essentially applied overthinking, it can also feel like having a broken form of OCD at times due to having a sharp pattern recognition.
But to most I just live my life and follow the objective we all do survival.
One of my interests is looking at peoples thought processes honestly if most people do not introspect I would say you are missing out on self learning.
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hannahmetzger4880
As an autistic person, I have certain traits that label me as autistic. For example, while I am _not_ really good with most of the sciences (except the ones I'm interested in, like the scientific study of rocks and _especially_ space) and _especially_ am not good at math, I _am_ good at more _creative_ pursuits, such as storytelling, writing and drawing. I have a _BIG, BIIIIGGG_ imagination, so I prefer more creative pursuits. I have PDD-NOS, Pervasive Developmental Disorder - Not Otherwise Specified. Also, I'm _pretty_ sure that I'm more on the 'high functioning' (or whatever we're calling it nowadays) side of the autism spectrum. As I said, I am (IMHO, _VERY_ good at things like storytelling, creative writing and drawing, especially the former two. :3.
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As an autistic person, I have certain traits that label me as autistic. For example, while I am _not_ really good with most of the sciences (except the ones I'm interested in, like the scientific study of rocks and _especially_ space) and _especially_ am not good at math, I _am_ good at more _creative_ pursuits, such as storytelling, writing and drawing. I have a _BIG, BIIIIGGG_ imagination, so I prefer more creative pursuits. I have PDD-NOS, Pervasive Developmental Disorder - Not Otherwise Specified. Also, I'm _pretty_ sure that I'm more on the 'high functioning' (or whatever we're calling it nowadays) side of the autism spectrum. As I said, I am (IMHO, _VERY_ good at things like storytelling, creative writing and drawing, especially the former two. :3.
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smoothcriminal2142
Alright! I too have the 'tism so let's see if you can redeem yourselves for that disgraceful video on what not to say to people with suicidal thoughts.
1: is fair. Whether or not someone is autistic is for the doctors to decide and not random people comparing individual cases.
2: Can't comment on this one personally and what's said is sensible so we're 2/2.
3: Also fair.
4: Also fair! And if the description you try to give doesn't match their understanding of what autism is they loop back around to point #1.
5: That is a silly thing to say. Not everyone has a disorder, no. That's like saying everyone's blind.
Well shit, you guys went 5/5 this time. Much as I abhor pop psychology these were actually solid. Credit where it's due.
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Alright! I too have the 'tism so let's see if you can redeem yourselves for that disgraceful video on what not to say to people with suicidal thoughts.
1: is fair. Whether or not someone is autistic is for the doctors to decide and not random people comparing individual cases.
2: Can't comment on this one personally and what's said is sensible so we're 2/2.
3: Also fair.
4: Also fair! And if the description you try to give doesn't match their understanding of what autism is they loop back around to point #1.
5: That is a silly thing to say. Not everyone has a disorder, no. That's like saying everyone's blind.
Well shit, you guys went 5/5 this time. Much as I abhor pop psychology these were actually solid. Credit where it's due.
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TheSaneHatter
Weirdly, I haven’t heard many of these remarks at all; most people have accepted what I tell them.
I’ve only heard #1 from Internet trolls, trying to get under my skin, usually by pulling the I have an autistic child trick in order to discredit what I have to say. These are invariably sociopaths behind fake profiles, and they’re lucky if I bother to laugh at them, before I block and ignore them.
#3, I’ve actually heard once. From another autistic. He found me to be so high masking that someone had to tell him I was autistic before he picked up on it. Ironically, the therapist who diagnosed me (who was presumably Neurotypical, since you can’t specialize in your own condition) had me pegged as soon as I walked in the door of his office.
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Weirdly, I haven’t heard many of these remarks at all; most people have accepted what I tell them.
I’ve only heard #1 from Internet trolls, trying to get under my skin, usually by pulling the I have an autistic child trick in order to discredit what I have to say. These are invariably sociopaths behind fake profiles, and they’re lucky if I bother to laugh at them, before I block and ignore them.
#3, I’ve actually heard once. From another autistic. He found me to be so high masking that someone had to tell him I was autistic before he picked up on it. Ironically, the therapist who diagnosed me (who was presumably Neurotypical, since you can’t specialize in your own condition) had me pegged as soon as I walked in the door of his office.
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EpsilonBlue-c7b
I don’t think I'm autistic, but I've always been a social outcast due to many people thinking that there's only one possible way people think and act, and anyone who doesn’t conform to societal standards and social norms is considered weird or wrong inherently. I've had to deal with that all my life. I've heard the word weird applied to me hundreds of times, and those people dismiss my very existence because of it. Please make a video for the weird people that just don't fit in. I'm an INTJ personality type and also resemble a sigma male type as well. I just wasn't meant to fit in, and I'm sure some people are still at a point where they need to hear that there's nothing inherently wrong about being a different person.
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I don’t think I'm autistic, but I've always been a social outcast due to many people thinking that there's only one possible way people think and act, and anyone who doesn’t conform to societal standards and social norms is considered weird or wrong inherently. I've had to deal with that all my life. I've heard the word weird applied to me hundreds of times, and those people dismiss my very existence because of it. Please make a video for the weird people that just don't fit in. I'm an INTJ personality type and also resemble a sigma male type as well. I just wasn't meant to fit in, and I'm sure some people are still at a point where they need to hear that there's nothing inherently wrong about being a different person.
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MegaManNeo
Not in the spectrum but still very interesting to watch since - as you put it in the video with different words - we should just treat people in the spectrum individually just like we would tread anyone else. It too sounds like these misconceptions overlap big time with false compliments or opinions people in the LBGTQ group may get, or in my case as having mainly learning disabilities but who keeps a casual look - also disabled people. Since we humans also shape our world with the meaning of language, I feel like it'd be a smart thing to think for another word but normal when forming a sentence in mind, as _normal_ is very difficult to pin point in general and rather works in a mathematical scenario, with numbers.
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Not in the spectrum but still very interesting to watch since - as you put it in the video with different words - we should just treat people in the spectrum individually just like we would tread anyone else. It too sounds like these misconceptions overlap big time with false compliments or opinions people in the LBGTQ group may get, or in my case as having mainly learning disabilities but who keeps a casual look - also disabled people. Since we humans also shape our world with the meaning of language, I feel like it'd be a smart thing to think for another word but normal when forming a sentence in mind, as _normal_ is very difficult to pin point in general and rather works in a mathematical scenario, with numbers.
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SanderBastiaans
What many people don’t get is that autism is not an disorder.
Its an umbrella name for neuro developmental disorders.
For someone to be diagnosed with autism however, there specifically needs to be a significant impact on ones socialisation which includes non verbal language, empathy and understanding social cues. Neuro developmental disorders are broad and include OCD, ODD, SPD, ADHD and autism. Autism being the one that specifically impacts ones social abilities.
If someone is very social naturally, he/she may not have autism but rather a cluster of atypical behaviours rooted in childhood trauma which causes a malfunction in the development of our limbic brain aka our mammal/social brain.
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What many people don’t get is that autism is not an disorder.
Its an umbrella name for neuro developmental disorders.
For someone to be diagnosed with autism however, there specifically needs to be a significant impact on ones socialisation which includes non verbal language, empathy and understanding social cues. Neuro developmental disorders are broad and include OCD, ODD, SPD, ADHD and autism. Autism being the one that specifically impacts ones social abilities.
If someone is very social naturally, he/she may not have autism but rather a cluster of atypical behaviours rooted in childhood trauma which causes a malfunction in the development of our limbic brain aka our mammal/social brain.
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ThatUnfunnyYoke
Because I am the least biased and most humble person in existence I thought I should mention that there is a nuance to being annoyed by people saying What is it like to be autistic
I have found this to be the case with my autistic friends too but it is more annoying if it is a shallow small talk point from someone that I don't have a good rapport with.
If a friend asks this in an environment that is conducive of an in-depth conversation regarding the autistic experience then I wouldn't mind. However a large portion of autistic fellows don't like small talk so if this is asked in passing or as shallow question then it comes across as tokenistic/ virtue signaling and annoying
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Because I am the least biased and most humble person in existence I thought I should mention that there is a nuance to being annoyed by people saying What is it like to be autistic
I have found this to be the case with my autistic friends too but it is more annoying if it is a shallow small talk point from someone that I don't have a good rapport with.
If a friend asks this in an environment that is conducive of an in-depth conversation regarding the autistic experience then I wouldn't mind. However a large portion of autistic fellows don't like small talk so if this is asked in passing or as shallow question then it comes across as tokenistic/ virtue signaling and annoying
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AimeeFrizzyAnime
Oh my gosh that last one! My husband has been learning about autism ever since I was diagnosed and it has made our lives so much easier and he's actually stopped saying that. When I was diagnosed, my psychiatrist said I was a success story because I had friends, a family, and a job. I have level 1 autism and I was constantly burned out and self critical. Since learning about it, I found jobs that were better suited for me, been able to ground myself or self isolate when I feel myself getting overstimulated which has reduced the amount of times I've blown up over small things. This has been such an enlightening journey for me and I'm glad more research is being done to help it.
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Oh my gosh that last one! My husband has been learning about autism ever since I was diagnosed and it has made our lives so much easier and he's actually stopped saying that. When I was diagnosed, my psychiatrist said I was a success story because I had friends, a family, and a job. I have level 1 autism and I was constantly burned out and self critical. Since learning about it, I found jobs that were better suited for me, been able to ground myself or self isolate when I feel myself getting overstimulated which has reduced the amount of times I've blown up over small things. This has been such an enlightening journey for me and I'm glad more research is being done to help it.
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