8 Weird Texting Habits Of A Manipulator, Not Genuine Love
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Date: 2024-08-22
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Angieeeeeeee
I like when you all put out more context and nuance to your explanations. Some (if not most) of these can be learned behavior that never got addressed. I learned that thats possible for majority of people. It could be for a number of reasons that they are unaware that what they have learned, hurts people. Could there be an additional video guiding people to more check-ins for these behaviors and introduce the need we all have to become better communicators than whats been taught or learned from different relationship experiences Id like to consider that there will be different people listening to this and defensiveness might be triggered with the thought of aligning with manipulators and not relate to the core of ths information. Also manipulation. Ive yet to come across words like manipulation not being suported by something like, harmful manipulation. Manipulation would be interesting to dissect a bit more. Theres stigma surrounding words like manipulation. I personally always went straight to seeing it as something to be ashamed for. If you believe in things like science, we need manipulation to acheive what we have discovered in chemistry, alchemy for me. I could go on. I appreciate how we have evolved opening conversations like this because if someone does know that they are harmfully manipulating someone, thats unsafe but hopefully could help people be aware what theyre experiencing or we all hope that this could check some people to address it. If someone was taught these socially or is justifying surviving off these tactics, its just as harmful, so i get why the video is set up this way. But we do recognize time and again that we evolve with questioning, even critic, judgement. It just doesn have to come from a brute place or a need to be right place but suggestions, these are all suggestions and to consider whats being shared. Fuk its hard to be vulnerable snd share thoughts. Humans struggle and are learning to tap into their triggers. i wish you well.
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I like when you all put out more context and nuance to your explanations. Some (if not most) of these can be learned behavior that never got addressed. I learned that thats possible for majority of people. It could be for a number of reasons that they are unaware that what they have learned, hurts people. Could there be an additional video guiding people to more check-ins for these behaviors and introduce the need we all have to become better communicators than whats been taught or learned from different relationship experiences Id like to consider that there will be different people listening to this and defensiveness might be triggered with the thought of aligning with manipulators and not relate to the core of ths information. Also manipulation. Ive yet to come across words like manipulation not being suported by something like, harmful manipulation. Manipulation would be interesting to dissect a bit more. Theres stigma surrounding words like manipulation. I personally always went straight to seeing it as something to be ashamed for. If you believe in things like science, we need manipulation to acheive what we have discovered in chemistry, alchemy for me. I could go on. I appreciate how we have evolved opening conversations like this because if someone does know that they are harmfully manipulating someone, thats unsafe but hopefully could help people be aware what theyre experiencing or we all hope that this could check some people to address it. If someone was taught these socially or is justifying surviving off these tactics, its just as harmful, so i get why the video is set up this way. But we do recognize time and again that we evolve with questioning, even critic, judgement. It just doesn have to come from a brute place or a need to be right place but suggestions, these are all suggestions and to consider whats being shared. Fuk its hard to be vulnerable snd share thoughts. Humans struggle and are learning to tap into their triggers. i wish you well.
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joshuahhodges2532
So texts during confrontation---here's where it gets tricky for me.
Just for a bit of context, I had recently been broken up with by my ex-fiancee. A friend of hers who I was forbidden by her to have contact with independent of her--that is, without her in the conversation--reached out to me shortly thereafter, seemingly out of nowhere. Although I didn't get confirmation until months later, I immediately suspected (based on prior history with my now-ex's other feuds) that she was having this friend maintain contact by proxy for her so that she could get information at my expense and feed that back to other friends of mine.
Initially I tried to set a boundary of no texting or voice clipping, only live chatting or phone calling, because in the first conversation this friend of hers let it slip (in writing) that she had my ex on the phone or video chat (it wasn't clear which) at that moment. Every time I tried to reestablish that boundary she continued to sidestep it with one excuse acter another--bad phone signals, bad internet, bad weather, loud environment, etc--before eventually settling on a boundary of her own, no live talking in any capacity. The explanation was that her anxiety was so bad she would seize up (the freeze alternative to a fight or flight response) and followed that explanation with an unsolicited promise to delete messages that I send her.
Of it didn't occur to anyone, including me, that I would later! be able to use these text messages as a way to hold them both accountable for what my shrink says amounted to hoovering by proxy.
There's no doubt in my mind that my boundary against texting or voice clipping, so as to prevent a known 3rd party to manipulate the content or context of the conversation, was legitimate. But would it have been legitimate or manipulative if I didn't know or suspect that any of this was going on behind my back (Or the spy's back, for all I care)
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So texts during confrontation---here's where it gets tricky for me.
Just for a bit of context, I had recently been broken up with by my ex-fiancee. A friend of hers who I was forbidden by her to have contact with independent of her--that is, without her in the conversation--reached out to me shortly thereafter, seemingly out of nowhere. Although I didn't get confirmation until months later, I immediately suspected (based on prior history with my now-ex's other feuds) that she was having this friend maintain contact by proxy for her so that she could get information at my expense and feed that back to other friends of mine.
Initially I tried to set a boundary of no texting or voice clipping, only live chatting or phone calling, because in the first conversation this friend of hers let it slip (in writing) that she had my ex on the phone or video chat (it wasn't clear which) at that moment. Every time I tried to reestablish that boundary she continued to sidestep it with one excuse acter another--bad phone signals, bad internet, bad weather, loud environment, etc--before eventually settling on a boundary of her own, no live talking in any capacity. The explanation was that her anxiety was so bad she would seize up (the freeze alternative to a fight or flight response) and followed that explanation with an unsolicited promise to delete messages that I send her.
Of it didn't occur to anyone, including me, that I would later! be able to use these text messages as a way to hold them both accountable for what my shrink says amounted to hoovering by proxy.
There's no doubt in my mind that my boundary against texting or voice clipping, so as to prevent a known 3rd party to manipulate the content or context of the conversation, was legitimate. But would it have been legitimate or manipulative if I didn't know or suspect that any of this was going on behind my back (Or the spy's back, for all I care)
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imcherylynn
While a lot of these are true, some of these can also be misinterpreted. For instance if I know someone is busy, not responding, or if they need spaceI will probably say that I’ll let them be and talk to them later. I generally don’t like to be a bother to peopleever. And even if I’m talking to someone constantly, I always ask if they need space from me or ask if they’re busy so I can figure out if I need to slow down.
Or if I prefer to speak in person (or just verbally) about something specific, that’s not necessarily manipulation - it’s just because text alone doesn’t translate well for me in terms of tone and emotions. If you don’t know how I communicate in person, you’re likely to misunderstand how I text. I over think, over explain, then over explain why I’ve over explained. But over text, it can look different if you don’t know my communication or even anxious thinking style.
I find that as helpful as this can be, it can ALSO lead to a lot of miscommunication. If you’re communicating with someone solely through text, I don’t advise using all of this as a way to know if you’re being manipulated or not. Unless you’ve communicated with this person in other ways. I understand a lot of these aren’t meant to all be taken 100% as gospel, but I know some people would.
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While a lot of these are true, some of these can also be misinterpreted. For instance if I know someone is busy, not responding, or if they need spaceI will probably say that I’ll let them be and talk to them later. I generally don’t like to be a bother to peopleever. And even if I’m talking to someone constantly, I always ask if they need space from me or ask if they’re busy so I can figure out if I need to slow down.
Or if I prefer to speak in person (or just verbally) about something specific, that’s not necessarily manipulation - it’s just because text alone doesn’t translate well for me in terms of tone and emotions. If you don’t know how I communicate in person, you’re likely to misunderstand how I text. I over think, over explain, then over explain why I’ve over explained. But over text, it can look different if you don’t know my communication or even anxious thinking style.
I find that as helpful as this can be, it can ALSO lead to a lot of miscommunication. If you’re communicating with someone solely through text, I don’t advise using all of this as a way to know if you’re being manipulated or not. Unless you’ve communicated with this person in other ways. I understand a lot of these aren’t meant to all be taken 100% as gospel, but I know some people would.
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ArtairMcKinley
This might be a circumstantial thing but I partially disagree with the avoiding texts during confrontation segment. Myself personally, I prefer in person conversations as opposed to messages because I’m neurodivergent and have a hard time understanding tone. I’d also like my tone to be correctly understood so there’s no room for confusion or miscommunication. Additionally, in person conversations held in a safe space with minimal distractions allows for effective communication and attentive listening.
I don’t have a problem with texting because I have a secure attachment style and know that conflict is a normal part of any relationship as long as it’s healthy, but because I’m very thorough in communicating concerns I know some people can feel overwhelmed receiving walls and walls of texts so I think a bit of nuance should be provided in this context.
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This might be a circumstantial thing but I partially disagree with the avoiding texts during confrontation segment. Myself personally, I prefer in person conversations as opposed to messages because I’m neurodivergent and have a hard time understanding tone. I’d also like my tone to be correctly understood so there’s no room for confusion or miscommunication. Additionally, in person conversations held in a safe space with minimal distractions allows for effective communication and attentive listening.
I don’t have a problem with texting because I have a secure attachment style and know that conflict is a normal part of any relationship as long as it’s healthy, but because I’m very thorough in communicating concerns I know some people can feel overwhelmed receiving walls and walls of texts so I think a bit of nuance should be provided in this context.
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Ak_kwe
1. I always shower my bestie with compliments almost everyday. like whenever I see a cute post about besties I share it with her.
2. Sometimes when I'm angry I also say guess u have more important friends than me as a joke.
3. I don't need to ask my bestie how was she cuz she always send photos/texts about how her day was and I share how mine was.
4. Sometimes when my bestie sends me paragraphs about her new crush I don't really read all that and just say nice cuz unless about crushes or forwarded messages, she doesn't rlly send me long texts.
I've never been confused about my relationship with my bestie this much before.
I'm sure if I send this to her she will reply with a why th are u watching relationship vids at 2am
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1. I always shower my bestie with compliments almost everyday. like whenever I see a cute post about besties I share it with her.
2. Sometimes when I'm angry I also say guess u have more important friends than me as a joke.
3. I don't need to ask my bestie how was she cuz she always send photos/texts about how her day was and I share how mine was.
4. Sometimes when my bestie sends me paragraphs about her new crush I don't really read all that and just say nice cuz unless about crushes or forwarded messages, she doesn't rlly send me long texts.
I've never been confused about my relationship with my bestie this much before.
I'm sure if I send this to her she will reply with a why th are u watching relationship vids at 2am
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lorettarosy63
I'm being hard on myself because I mistreated someone by making a discussion about me because I've been frustrated these past days, meaning I wasn't doing okay. I lost my smile to wrong job choices, and I felt like. I could just speak to the person first so I could push the negativity away, but I ended up ruining everything because I didn't let the person speak first, so I ended up making them angry. I didn't mean to. I mostly got angry with myself more than I had got with the person, like I always am getting angry with myself for most of the time. I beat myself hard by saying I don't deserve them, and all I do is just ruin everything and everyone.
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I'm being hard on myself because I mistreated someone by making a discussion about me because I've been frustrated these past days, meaning I wasn't doing okay. I lost my smile to wrong job choices, and I felt like. I could just speak to the person first so I could push the negativity away, but I ended up ruining everything because I didn't let the person speak first, so I ended up making them angry. I didn't mean to. I mostly got angry with myself more than I had got with the person, like I always am getting angry with myself for most of the time. I beat myself hard by saying I don't deserve them, and all I do is just ruin everything and everyone.
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benbovard9579
I think that confrontations over text are actually more manipulative than ones that are face to face. There's no way to gauge how someone is feeling or their tone of voice or body language, and they can text any words they wish to placate and manipulate the conversation to turn it their way. You more often get to the real truth when people are stuck in the same room as you. Much easier to lie over text than lie to my face.
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I think that confrontations over text are actually more manipulative than ones that are face to face. There's no way to gauge how someone is feeling or their tone of voice or body language, and they can text any words they wish to placate and manipulate the conversation to turn it their way. You more often get to the real truth when people are stuck in the same room as you. Much easier to lie over text than lie to my face.
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moreliatapoc971
8 Weird Texting Habits of Manipulators
1. 0: 36 Too fast, too soon.
2. 1: 06 Two-faced texts
3. 1: 34 They need something
4. 1: 58 Manipulative Breadcrumbing
5. 2: 28 Word Salads
6. 3: 06 Threats
7. 3: 28 Not reading the entire message
8. 3: 53 Avoiding texts during confrontations
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8 Weird Texting Habits of Manipulators
1. 0: 36 Too fast, too soon.
2. 1: 06 Two-faced texts
3. 1: 34 They need something
4. 1: 58 Manipulative Breadcrumbing
5. 2: 28 Word Salads
6. 3: 06 Threats
7. 3: 28 Not reading the entire message
8. 3: 53 Avoiding texts during confrontations
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minniemoon2423
I was in a relationship with someone and he was so toxic, but i was too dumb to notice because i thought that was love, he made me feel like he was the only man who would ever love me, i broke up with him on Friday and he started calling me a B and that he would kil me if he has too
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I was in a relationship with someone and he was so toxic, but i was too dumb to notice because i thought that was love, he made me feel like he was the only man who would ever love me, i broke up with him on Friday and he started calling me a B and that he would kil me if he has too
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psych2go
When we're an open and kind person we have this experience with a manipulator/ghost/gaslighter etc. My approch to this situations: we're learning. And if we noticed it's no progress the best option it's to STOP to talk. I stopped. Now I don't waste my time to talk to unwanted contacts.
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When we're an open and kind person we have this experience with a manipulator/ghost/gaslighter etc. My approch to this situations: we're learning. And if we noticed it's no progress the best option it's to STOP to talk. I stopped. Now I don't waste my time to talk to unwanted contacts.
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AcidGubba
I have often experienced manipulation from borderline women. I would never enter into a relationship again if I knew that she had a borderline disorder. Many of them don't even manipulate consciously, but the damage is enormous and they threaten self-harm if you want to break up.
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I have often experienced manipulation from borderline women. I would never enter into a relationship again if I knew that she had a borderline disorder. Many of them don't even manipulate consciously, but the damage is enormous and they threaten self-harm if you want to break up.
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Atsv1610
I used to manipulate my mom this way I would write paragraphs Abt how I would do better just telling her what she wants to hear. And It would work but then caught onto it. Don worry I'm working on my lying now and I don't manipulate as much anymore
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I used to manipulate my mom this way I would write paragraphs Abt how I would do better just telling her what she wants to hear. And It would work but then caught onto it. Don worry I'm working on my lying now and I don't manipulate as much anymore
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psikirbygamer6536
0: 37 Too fast too soon
1: 07 Two-Faced Texts
1: 34 They need something
1: 59 Manipulative Breadcrumbing
2: 29 Word Salads
3: 07 Threats
3: 29 Not reading the entire message
3: 54 Avoiding texts during confrontation
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0: 37 Too fast too soon
1: 07 Two-Faced Texts
1: 34 They need something
1: 59 Manipulative Breadcrumbing
2: 29 Word Salads
3: 07 Threats
3: 29 Not reading the entire message
3: 54 Avoiding texts during confrontation
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BongaTheeBongs
Ey Psych2Go
Can you make a video about survival mode and those who wants to enjoy their life. Like kinda a personality inspection and how this two kinds of people can never understand each other
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Ey Psych2Go
Can you make a video about survival mode and those who wants to enjoy their life. Like kinda a personality inspection and how this two kinds of people can never understand each other
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laurasohn8332
A certain guy I met would ask me how my nights were and Then bombshell me with a request that Really made for grounds as a pig butchering situation. That's something that's happened to me
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A certain guy I met would ask me how my nights were and Then bombshell me with a request that Really made for grounds as a pig butchering situation. That's something that's happened to me
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unforgettable-f2f
Hello! I’m an introvert and I have been struggling with it. even when I talk to people I stutter. I want to change! I want to be an extrovert! Can you make a video about it
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Hello! I’m an introvert and I have been struggling with it. even when I talk to people I stutter. I want to change! I want to be an extrovert! Can you make a video about it
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Introvert_Girl3
The too fast, too soon is the typical behaviour on dating sites. They are in love and can't live without you in the first day of conversation. Its pathetic and so obvious fake.
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The too fast, too soon is the typical behaviour on dating sites. They are in love and can't live without you in the first day of conversation. Its pathetic and so obvious fake.
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SoulDigester
i think i encountered someone trying to manipulate me or just trick me into dating them but i talked with a good friend about it and they recommended grey rocking them
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i think i encountered someone trying to manipulate me or just trick me into dating them but i talked with a good friend about it and they recommended grey rocking them
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jgoodloe4986
What if they keep texting or calling you everyday even if you're busy or not, and keep asking for money or keep being dramatic about things and keeps guilt tripping
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What if they keep texting or calling you everyday even if you're busy or not, and keep asking for money or keep being dramatic about things and keeps guilt tripping
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Hello_world224
I clicked this vid just to make sure I wasn't a manipulative texter but it seems I just know how they think but I don't do this things. Great to know
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I clicked this vid just to make sure I wasn't a manipulative texter but it seems I just know how they think but I don't do this things. Great to know
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