5 Ways to Choose the Right Partner for You
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Pkmn
I think these 2-3 tips can help decide what you want in a relationship & partner
1: You can review your past relationships, both platonic & romantic, & pick out the qualities from those people you want & dont want in your partner & you can also pick out some helpful things from events that happened your relationship so far. For example, you can pick out specific qualities of your friends & family member you want & qualities that you dont want in your partner. Why them? Because you had personal experience of these people & their qualities so you KNOW what you like & dont like about them, you CAN make a rough checklist off of these qualities alone.
2: Prioritize what qualities are a MUST and which one you can live without. What do you WANT the most? Do you want them to be understanding? (Actually almost everyone wants that if u ask me) How strict are you about your morals & values? Do you want them to be the lead or let you take the lead more often? which things are you the most & least serious about? For ex. Are you very serious about stuff like culture & religion, or just go with the flow? Things like these are priorities. If you cant find anyone with everything you have in the list, just go with the person who has the most out of the prioritized qualities you listed.
3: BTW, its not that common, but many times, peoples ideal version of a partner ends up being a ideal version of themselves! So ask who you are & what you want to be, that can help.
Hope this helps.
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I think these 2-3 tips can help decide what you want in a relationship & partner
1: You can review your past relationships, both platonic & romantic, & pick out the qualities from those people you want & dont want in your partner & you can also pick out some helpful things from events that happened your relationship so far. For example, you can pick out specific qualities of your friends & family member you want & qualities that you dont want in your partner. Why them? Because you had personal experience of these people & their qualities so you KNOW what you like & dont like about them, you CAN make a rough checklist off of these qualities alone.
2: Prioritize what qualities are a MUST and which one you can live without. What do you WANT the most? Do you want them to be understanding? (Actually almost everyone wants that if u ask me) How strict are you about your morals & values? Do you want them to be the lead or let you take the lead more often? which things are you the most & least serious about? For ex. Are you very serious about stuff like culture & religion, or just go with the flow? Things like these are priorities. If you cant find anyone with everything you have in the list, just go with the person who has the most out of the prioritized qualities you listed.
3: BTW, its not that common, but many times, peoples ideal version of a partner ends up being a ideal version of themselves! So ask who you are & what you want to be, that can help.
Hope this helps.
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Ki
I always hated romance films where the couple got in fights and had a dramatic separation followed by a joyous reunion. I always wondered, if they really loved each other, they wouldn't have been able to split like that. The moment that happens, I lose all interest in the couple and they feel insincere to me. I always think, if you were able to leave them once, you're probably fine without them forever. I hear a lot of people give crap to codependent relationships but those are honestly the most realistic kind of romantic relationship. That's what you sign up for when you join together with another person and make the commitment to be with them for the rest of your life. If you aren't down for something like that, because you see it as sacrificing your own self and your independence, then you are not ready for a committed relationship. That's completely fine, some people don't have the personality to maintain a stable relationship and are better off being independent. I think having someone else in a romantic sense isn't the end-all, be-all of human existence.
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I always hated romance films where the couple got in fights and had a dramatic separation followed by a joyous reunion. I always wondered, if they really loved each other, they wouldn't have been able to split like that. The moment that happens, I lose all interest in the couple and they feel insincere to me. I always think, if you were able to leave them once, you're probably fine without them forever. I hear a lot of people give crap to codependent relationships but those are honestly the most realistic kind of romantic relationship. That's what you sign up for when you join together with another person and make the commitment to be with them for the rest of your life. If you aren't down for something like that, because you see it as sacrificing your own self and your independence, then you are not ready for a committed relationship. That's completely fine, some people don't have the personality to maintain a stable relationship and are better off being independent. I think having someone else in a romantic sense isn't the end-all, be-all of human existence.
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pistachiopiggy
I really need some serious advise someone help.
Currently I'm dating a guy (ldr) like we have so much in common but yes one thing he is older and had many bad relation experiences. while I'm actually rlly young and it's my first time but I'm committed to him. But I have problems opening up I always say he needs to get to know me more but he says he knows me enough and is tired of looking for love and he already planning marriage with me. once I rlly mind fd him said that we shall be frnds ig he reacted rlly badly said you want is to be fcking frnds? Then I dropped that idea he blocked me for that but I apologized and said I love him and I created this kinda I'm not good enough. u should know me more. I take time opening up kinda mess again then he is like he talked to his parents he wants us engaged asap he needs garranty I won't leave since i said all that. we love each other but idk what this is and he said if I say I need space let's be frnds or anything he will cut me off. and it's been 2 months only. that's why I'm saying get to know me
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I really need some serious advise someone help.
Currently I'm dating a guy (ldr) like we have so much in common but yes one thing he is older and had many bad relation experiences. while I'm actually rlly young and it's my first time but I'm committed to him. But I have problems opening up I always say he needs to get to know me more but he says he knows me enough and is tired of looking for love and he already planning marriage with me. once I rlly mind fd him said that we shall be frnds ig he reacted rlly badly said you want is to be fcking frnds? Then I dropped that idea he blocked me for that but I apologized and said I love him and I created this kinda I'm not good enough. u should know me more. I take time opening up kinda mess again then he is like he talked to his parents he wants us engaged asap he needs garranty I won't leave since i said all that. we love each other but idk what this is and he said if I say I need space let's be frnds or anything he will cut me off. and it's been 2 months only. that's why I'm saying get to know me
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Attia
I need some advice, I have a guy in mind who I had a crush on. We genuinely share a great sense of humour and he's friendly to me. I know his family and her mother and father are friends with my family. In fact, our parents are the closest compared to their other friends. His mother is really appreciative too. The problem is that I'm afraid that he won't support me after we get married and won't let me make the decisions like I won't be able to have some kind of freedom or not being supportive for our children in the future. Should I wait and see when he grows up he will change or should I give up? i thought of it like that since he doesn't care about his future or education. But his parents genuinely do. He's the only guy best friend I have all the rest are just more shiy. I'm in 9th grade btw
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I need some advice, I have a guy in mind who I had a crush on. We genuinely share a great sense of humour and he's friendly to me. I know his family and her mother and father are friends with my family. In fact, our parents are the closest compared to their other friends. His mother is really appreciative too. The problem is that I'm afraid that he won't support me after we get married and won't let me make the decisions like I won't be able to have some kind of freedom or not being supportive for our children in the future. Should I wait and see when he grows up he will change or should I give up? i thought of it like that since he doesn't care about his future or education. But his parents genuinely do. He's the only guy best friend I have all the rest are just more shiy. I'm in 9th grade btw
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Dreamseeker234
Wish I had seen this video 3 yrs ago when it was put up. If I had I could have broken up with my now ex girlfriend who was an emotional drunk after her parents passed away and though I tried to be as understanding and let her grieve in the way she felt best at the time (drinking) I also suggested counseling of many sorts that would have helped with her grief she refused and kept drinking and that made me feel bad a lot of the time, especially when she would drink and not care how it affected me even when I tried to tell her. 4 yrs later she leaves to go start a new life for herself because she can't put in the effort that I did in our relationship. it makes me feel like I should have ended it sooner and given that time to someone who was willing to also go the distance.
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Wish I had seen this video 3 yrs ago when it was put up. If I had I could have broken up with my now ex girlfriend who was an emotional drunk after her parents passed away and though I tried to be as understanding and let her grieve in the way she felt best at the time (drinking) I also suggested counseling of many sorts that would have helped with her grief she refused and kept drinking and that made me feel bad a lot of the time, especially when she would drink and not care how it affected me even when I tried to tell her. 4 yrs later she leaves to go start a new life for herself because she can't put in the effort that I did in our relationship. it makes me feel like I should have ended it sooner and given that time to someone who was willing to also go the distance.
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acidq
I have a girlfriend and she's too protective. I can't hang out with my friends, in fact, I can't even have friends at this point. She gets jealous as soon as I mention someone and It's getting on my nerves. She's really sweet to me but I think I should break up. Well recently I met someone and they like me. I do too but I still don't know who to choose. I've been dating my girlfriend over half a year and that is the thing that's stopping me. We had so much memories together and I'm happy when I'm with her. Although I'm supposed to answer him today morning (right now) but I don't know who to pick. My twin knows him and he told her he doesn't get enough sleep, thinking about me rejecting him. Now I'm even more confused. Who should I even choose.
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I have a girlfriend and she's too protective. I can't hang out with my friends, in fact, I can't even have friends at this point. She gets jealous as soon as I mention someone and It's getting on my nerves. She's really sweet to me but I think I should break up. Well recently I met someone and they like me. I do too but I still don't know who to choose. I've been dating my girlfriend over half a year and that is the thing that's stopping me. We had so much memories together and I'm happy when I'm with her. Although I'm supposed to answer him today morning (right now) but I don't know who to pick. My twin knows him and he told her he doesn't get enough sleep, thinking about me rejecting him. Now I'm even more confused. Who should I even choose.
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psych2go
okay. so there's this guy and he is like perfect (he is smart, intelligent, eloquent, kind, has the prettiest smile, makes me laugh, always listens, our fav sport is basketball and everything else) but im scared to ask him out or open up about my feelings because he is like 25 cm smaller than me. and idk its not that important i know but what i know is that i will feel uncomfortable because of it and i dont know how to change it. we really comfort each other and try to become the best version of us but thats the only thing that makes me overthink it.
has anyone else experience of that topic or an advice?
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okay. so there's this guy and he is like perfect (he is smart, intelligent, eloquent, kind, has the prettiest smile, makes me laugh, always listens, our fav sport is basketball and everything else) but im scared to ask him out or open up about my feelings because he is like 25 cm smaller than me. and idk its not that important i know but what i know is that i will feel uncomfortable because of it and i dont know how to change it. we really comfort each other and try to become the best version of us but thats the only thing that makes me overthink it.
has anyone else experience of that topic or an advice?
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Chris
You can still have desires for the kind of persom you wish to be with. Having a checklist isnt always bad, it depends how perfectionist amd specific it is, especially when its about every aspect of the person. If you want a person that absolutely loves the same hobby as you, you can still look for that person, and hey, maybe you'll meet someone that doesnt do it, but you introduce them to it and they end up loving it and doing it with you because it becomes their thing too, naturally (not just because its your, but becasue they genuinely love it.
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You can still have desires for the kind of persom you wish to be with. Having a checklist isnt always bad, it depends how perfectionist amd specific it is, especially when its about every aspect of the person. If you want a person that absolutely loves the same hobby as you, you can still look for that person, and hey, maybe you'll meet someone that doesnt do it, but you introduce them to it and they end up loving it and doing it with you because it becomes their thing too, naturally (not just because its your, but becasue they genuinely love it.
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Lais
Nobody is probably gonna read this but, man I am so confused
I'm liking this guy and he definitely said he likes me back
But I don't feel we're ready to a relationship, which sounds weird even to me, but like, I'm just not sure I get him enough to know I'm not getting myself in trouble, and he's still quite getting over his ex
Also that would be my first relationship and I'm scared that I may be to much of a hopeless romantic, and also maybe too cautios
I hope time helps me figure out what I want to do
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Nobody is probably gonna read this but, man I am so confused
I'm liking this guy and he definitely said he likes me back
But I don't feel we're ready to a relationship, which sounds weird even to me, but like, I'm just not sure I get him enough to know I'm not getting myself in trouble, and he's still quite getting over his ex
Also that would be my first relationship and I'm scared that I may be to much of a hopeless romantic, and also maybe too cautios
I hope time helps me figure out what I want to do
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lorgnon1
My checklist:
- Human and a female
- someone who's genuinely kind
- someone who's soft in the heart
- someone who's caring
- someone who's honest
- someone who's very loyal
- someone who won't get bored around me
- someone who'll laugh with me
- someone who'll stay by my side until the end
- and finally, someone who'll love me for who I am
Am I Idealizing my partner too much? Let me know
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My checklist:
- Human and a female
- someone who's genuinely kind
- someone who's soft in the heart
- someone who's caring
- someone who's honest
- someone who's very loyal
- someone who won't get bored around me
- someone who'll laugh with me
- someone who'll stay by my side until the end
- and finally, someone who'll love me for who I am
Am I Idealizing my partner too much? Let me know
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She
Such helpful advice!
I won't be jumping into any relationships for a long time. This is my time to heal from the emotional damage from the last. It went on WAY too long because I didn't respect myself and because I didn't, it allowed him to not respect me either.
My next relationship will come to me naturally, without expectation and when it does, I plan to give it my absolute all, the very best of myself.
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Such helpful advice!
I won't be jumping into any relationships for a long time. This is my time to heal from the emotional damage from the last. It went on WAY too long because I didn't respect myself and because I didn't, it allowed him to not respect me either.
My next relationship will come to me naturally, without expectation and when it does, I plan to give it my absolute all, the very best of myself.
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education
Just do not fall into love with anyone. When they stop loving you, they change face super quickly to get rid of you. They would suddenly from being so considerate to you to being so careless for you.
Regards,
A guy that was being replaced and asked to move out of his bfs house because the new guy just sitting on the sofa with him wanted him to do so, causing him a permanent broken heart.
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Just do not fall into love with anyone. When they stop loving you, they change face super quickly to get rid of you. They would suddenly from being so considerate to you to being so careless for you.
Regards,
A guy that was being replaced and asked to move out of his bfs house because the new guy just sitting on the sofa with him wanted him to do so, causing him a permanent broken heart.
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TasteTheRainbow
i watched this video because i have too pick between too people because they both want me to date them and i like them both but ive known them both since we all were 3-5 and all three of us r best friends and I don't want either of them to get hurt and i am like thinking so much about this so can someone pls give me some advise I really need it rn
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i watched this video because i have too pick between too people because they both want me to date them and i like them both but ive known them both since we all were 3-5 and all three of us r best friends and I don't want either of them to get hurt and i am like thinking so much about this so can someone pls give me some advise I really need it rn
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HeavenSlay2020
Do yall know that when your single you feel more lightweight then when you were in a relationship like when I was single I really wanted a relationship but now that Ive experienced this I realize this a full time job that wont end and sometimes you have to quit the job. Because its whats best for you all I can say is good luck guys
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Do yall know that when your single you feel more lightweight then when you were in a relationship like when I was single I really wanted a relationship but now that Ive experienced this I realize this a full time job that wont end and sometimes you have to quit the job. Because its whats best for you all I can say is good luck guys
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education
If you can identify your personal hang ups, family dysfunctional patterns and resolve them to move forward. first and foremost and don't go with someone that reproduces the same abuse or dysfunctions you were raised in if you had that in your early years.
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If you can identify your personal hang ups, family dysfunctional patterns and resolve them to move forward. first and foremost and don't go with someone that reproduces the same abuse or dysfunctions you were raised in if you had that in your early years.
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Attia
My checklist:
- Human and a male
- someone who would love me
- someone who I can trust
- someone who can support
- someone who isn't strict
I myself am like this lol, so if my partner would be similar, our love would be so great
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My checklist:
- Human and a male
- someone who would love me
- someone who I can trust
- someone who can support
- someone who isn't strict
I myself am like this lol, so if my partner would be similar, our love would be so great
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Frog
I do value aestetic attraction, but I dont want to be seen as shallow, because obviously personality matters more. Just a certain level of aestetic attraction may be essensial for me to fall in love, is that shallow? I dont really mean for it to be.
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I do value aestetic attraction, but I dont want to be seen as shallow, because obviously personality matters more. Just a certain level of aestetic attraction may be essensial for me to fall in love, is that shallow? I dont really mean for it to be.
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Craft
One way to find the right partner - date different people!
I've known many friends who just keep jumping in with the same type of person because they use a check list to date with. Just date. Just have fun. Obviously watch out for parasites.
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One way to find the right partner - date different people!
I've known many friends who just keep jumping in with the same type of person because they use a check list to date with. Just date. Just have fun. Obviously watch out for parasites.
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Kristy
I found people don't know themselves well enough and don't know what their own boundaries are before entering a relationship. Then after being one they realize this and start to project their own insecurities onto their partner.
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I found people don't know themselves well enough and don't know what their own boundaries are before entering a relationship. Then after being one they realize this and start to project their own insecurities onto their partner.
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Nimbus
1 i argee with i fear that any guy that pops into my life i have to hold onto because they came in my life for a reason so i feel like i have to keep fighting because its gunna take me years to find another
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1 i argee with i fear that any guy that pops into my life i have to hold onto because they came in my life for a reason so i feel like i have to keep fighting because its gunna take me years to find another
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Rasmus
I disagree with the rollearcoaster. Sure It shouldn't continue but it usually get's into one at the start when there are insecurities that gets triggered and removed if they talk about it and communicates.
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I disagree with the rollearcoaster. Sure It shouldn't continue but it usually get's into one at the start when there are insecurities that gets triggered and removed if they talk about it and communicates.
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MajorLinkGaming
This video really helped me reflect on what I wanted in my 20s, and I came to realize.
I really need to start over, but those ludicrous high standards are no more for me. I'm done with that.
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This video really helped me reflect on what I wanted in my 20s, and I came to realize.
I really need to start over, but those ludicrous high standards are no more for me. I'm done with that.
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Fuck
I messed up big time and have two girlfriends now, expect 1 isn't on board with the other so now I have to decide which one I'm willing to part with. this is horrible but I'm getting what I truly deserve.
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I messed up big time and have two girlfriends now, expect 1 isn't on board with the other so now I have to decide which one I'm willing to part with. this is horrible but I'm getting what I truly deserve.
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Alex
Why is the whole video literally Don't do this but don't do that either? This is like Choose between these two pills. The red one is bad, but the blue one is also bad, this isn't going anywhere
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Why is the whole video literally Don't do this but don't do that either? This is like Choose between these two pills. The red one is bad, but the blue one is also bad, this isn't going anywhere
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Danisia
I know my bf for almost a year i havent meet his family nor Friends i talk to him about it now i say he Will should i go for it i dont no i just dont know.
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I know my bf for almost a year i havent meet his family nor Friends i talk to him about it now i say he Will should i go for it i dont no i just dont know.
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