5 Signs to Leave a Relationship
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Me and my bf are long distance and on our third go around of dating after breaking up. He did things the first two times such as being manipulative and consistently breaking my trust and getting my hopes up, undermining me and slowly chipping away at my confidence- and things have been better this time but I cant forget those actions and I have almost zero trust in him. Hes brought back those old behaviors but they are less noticeable and I end up letting it slide bc he had a convenient excuse, but I can tell hes trying. Things were good for a while but we are going on a little over a month of long distance and its all starting to unravel. He does sweet things and does little things to show me hes thinking of me and tries to improve and goes out of his way sometimes, but its been so hard for me. I dont trust him and Im needing constant reassurance and f going to measures I dont feel as if I should have to if I was happy and felt secure. Ive developed the worst depression Ive experienced in my life during this time. I think I know what I want and need: to break up. But I am scared and cant get myself to do it. My family and friends dont seem to care enough to support me to leave which makes it hard for me too. I wish they would tell me to get out asap and never look back but all I get is do whatever you think is right which is good but I think I want validation in breaking it off. Im so lost right now
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Me and my bf are long distance and on our third go around of dating after breaking up. He did things the first two times such as being manipulative and consistently breaking my trust and getting my hopes up, undermining me and slowly chipping away at my confidence- and things have been better this time but I cant forget those actions and I have almost zero trust in him. Hes brought back those old behaviors but they are less noticeable and I end up letting it slide bc he had a convenient excuse, but I can tell hes trying. Things were good for a while but we are going on a little over a month of long distance and its all starting to unravel. He does sweet things and does little things to show me hes thinking of me and tries to improve and goes out of his way sometimes, but its been so hard for me. I dont trust him and Im needing constant reassurance and f going to measures I dont feel as if I should have to if I was happy and felt secure. Ive developed the worst depression Ive experienced in my life during this time. I think I know what I want and need: to break up. But I am scared and cant get myself to do it. My family and friends dont seem to care enough to support me to leave which makes it hard for me too. I wish they would tell me to get out asap and never look back but all I get is do whatever you think is right which is good but I think I want validation in breaking it off. Im so lost right now
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thatonegirlhope
Unfortunately my relationship shows a lot of these signs and worse to where she is physical with me and puts me in a difficult position she has a heart condition so I always have to be careful but she is always leaving bruises on me shes the only one with a job bc I could never get my schedule the way she wanted it I cant have friends unless she approves of them but she has friends she hates my father and step father we are always fighting about it I finally packed some of my things and went to my parents house and told her if she couldnt change I wouldnt be back but its only made the relationship worse this happened a few days ago I left because she wouldnt stop hurting me I have a way out that she doesnt know about but is it the right thing to do? Maybe this is my fault? When she gets frustrated mad or enraged it gets physical and she cant control herself but she says its my fault for not calming her down? Ive hurt her before most of the time in self defense but 2 years ago I started the physical abuse but ended it a long time ago like 1 year and a half ago I knew what I was doing was wrong and wasnt okay I never liked hurting her so I stopped she says when I leave shes going to kill herself I dont know what to do Im at my Breaking point thank god I have my parents to give me a way out but is it the right thing to take it?
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Unfortunately my relationship shows a lot of these signs and worse to where she is physical with me and puts me in a difficult position she has a heart condition so I always have to be careful but she is always leaving bruises on me shes the only one with a job bc I could never get my schedule the way she wanted it I cant have friends unless she approves of them but she has friends she hates my father and step father we are always fighting about it I finally packed some of my things and went to my parents house and told her if she couldnt change I wouldnt be back but its only made the relationship worse this happened a few days ago I left because she wouldnt stop hurting me I have a way out that she doesnt know about but is it the right thing to do? Maybe this is my fault? When she gets frustrated mad or enraged it gets physical and she cant control herself but she says its my fault for not calming her down? Ive hurt her before most of the time in self defense but 2 years ago I started the physical abuse but ended it a long time ago like 1 year and a half ago I knew what I was doing was wrong and wasnt okay I never liked hurting her so I stopped she says when I leave shes going to kill herself I dont know what to do Im at my Breaking point thank god I have my parents to give me a way out but is it the right thing to take it?
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Ashlin
Can't talk to men, can't look at men, can't even work with them. Lost all friends (I use to be the popular girl in High school and had lots of friends and two very best friends for 6 years) I've lost all of that. Been with him two years and I love him more than I've ever loved before. But I'm lonely. I'm always anxious. But I can't leave. I've tried but it always hurts so physically bad I beg him to stay. He lives in another country and we've been together for 2 years and have spent 6 months together in person. If I want to see him in person again we need to get married. I'm lost. I've lost my since of self. I don't do the things I used to love. And I can't do anything that would involve being around any men. But I can't leave. I feel dumb but it's so easy to just keep going day by day being happy with him and not thinking about the rest.
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Can't talk to men, can't look at men, can't even work with them. Lost all friends (I use to be the popular girl in High school and had lots of friends and two very best friends for 6 years) I've lost all of that. Been with him two years and I love him more than I've ever loved before. But I'm lonely. I'm always anxious. But I can't leave. I've tried but it always hurts so physically bad I beg him to stay. He lives in another country and we've been together for 2 years and have spent 6 months together in person. If I want to see him in person again we need to get married. I'm lost. I've lost my since of self. I don't do the things I used to love. And I can't do anything that would involve being around any men. But I can't leave. I feel dumb but it's so easy to just keep going day by day being happy with him and not thinking about the rest.
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Voracious
Im going to just dump this here. Get a perspective. My gf and I have been together for for almost 3 years. Our personalities gel well together but I feel like were not on the same page. I want to buy a house, I have enough to make a deposit. Been my whole dream in life. She doesnt does work as a care worker but her workflow hasnt been concsitent lately. She studies a lot and a has a few degrees, but hasnt utilised those degrees at all. I really do love her and we get along. But I just dont want to be the one pushing the rock up the hill by myself. I cant do it all, Im very conflicted at the moment, and Ive tried in the past to communicate with her. Just ends up with us both crying. We reallly do get along but in the long term I dont want to spend the next twenty years doing everything by myself. I dont want to fall into that pit.
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Im going to just dump this here. Get a perspective. My gf and I have been together for for almost 3 years. Our personalities gel well together but I feel like were not on the same page. I want to buy a house, I have enough to make a deposit. Been my whole dream in life. She doesnt does work as a care worker but her workflow hasnt been concsitent lately. She studies a lot and a has a few degrees, but hasnt utilised those degrees at all. I really do love her and we get along. But I just dont want to be the one pushing the rock up the hill by myself. I cant do it all, Im very conflicted at the moment, and Ive tried in the past to communicate with her. Just ends up with us both crying. We reallly do get along but in the long term I dont want to spend the next twenty years doing everything by myself. I dont want to fall into that pit.
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william
A new post to an old, yet still relevant advice vid. I stayed in marriage HELL for 31 years until she died from cancer. Reasons 1-5 underlying how I saw her treating me. Mostly reasons # 1 & #4 and some of 2, 3, 5. Not sure how she would feel about these reasons since we didn't TALK much; Fight? Yes, A LOT. Difficult to reason/relate to an ADDICT; welcome to the Twilight Zone. I'd guess & say on her part that #1, 3, 4, & 5 applied to me. I will say that these 5 reasons would not apply to her cancer period--that was was a whole new can of worms.
Why did I stay? For 24 years I'd say I had no reason to, but was afraid to divorce her. After the last 7/8 years of our marriage & her life, and then 2 MORE YEARS after that, it FINALLY dawned on me that God was behind it ALL. No other reason(s) made sense.
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A new post to an old, yet still relevant advice vid. I stayed in marriage HELL for 31 years until she died from cancer. Reasons 1-5 underlying how I saw her treating me. Mostly reasons # 1 & #4 and some of 2, 3, 5. Not sure how she would feel about these reasons since we didn't TALK much; Fight? Yes, A LOT. Difficult to reason/relate to an ADDICT; welcome to the Twilight Zone. I'd guess & say on her part that #1, 3, 4, & 5 applied to me. I will say that these 5 reasons would not apply to her cancer period--that was was a whole new can of worms.
Why did I stay? For 24 years I'd say I had no reason to, but was afraid to divorce her. After the last 7/8 years of our marriage & her life, and then 2 MORE YEARS after that, it FINALLY dawned on me that God was behind it ALL. No other reason(s) made sense.
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No
I may not be in a relationship right now, but this would help me big time if I found one.
Thank you for this Ma'am!
For someone who's experiencing this, I know very well how it feels like to be in that heartbreak episode of your life, it's okay to be on that state of hurting, that way, it'll improve your tolerance once you've learned the lesson.
I know you can do it! There are other people out there who's experiencing the same thing as yours, atleast think of it right now, your feelings are valid, but don't be a prisoner of it! Remember that strong people experience hurtful situations first before they will be considered to be a strong person, because smooth sailing don't make a great sailor!
Hope this would help you!
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I may not be in a relationship right now, but this would help me big time if I found one.
Thank you for this Ma'am!
For someone who's experiencing this, I know very well how it feels like to be in that heartbreak episode of your life, it's okay to be on that state of hurting, that way, it'll improve your tolerance once you've learned the lesson.
I know you can do it! There are other people out there who's experiencing the same thing as yours, atleast think of it right now, your feelings are valid, but don't be a prisoner of it! Remember that strong people experience hurtful situations first before they will be considered to be a strong person, because smooth sailing don't make a great sailor!
Hope this would help you!
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Punyata
We have been married for 5 years but my partner is emotionally detached. We dont share anything or communicate to each other. We have a child together and I dont want my child to grow up seeing that it's ok for a couple not to be loving to each other. I grew up with parents who couldn't live without each other so for me love was my topmost priority but it's sad that it's not the same for my husband. I tried to talk and explain to him about our situation several times, he seems to change for a few days but just when I am back to being happy, he switches back to being the selfish loner. And the biggest problem is that I really loved him and still do. I dont know what to do. Why am I letting him control me? I need help.
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We have been married for 5 years but my partner is emotionally detached. We dont share anything or communicate to each other. We have a child together and I dont want my child to grow up seeing that it's ok for a couple not to be loving to each other. I grew up with parents who couldn't live without each other so for me love was my topmost priority but it's sad that it's not the same for my husband. I tried to talk and explain to him about our situation several times, he seems to change for a few days but just when I am back to being happy, he switches back to being the selfish loner. And the biggest problem is that I really loved him and still do. I dont know what to do. Why am I letting him control me? I need help.
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Creator
We are 19 and since 4 years together. This relationship makes me so sad, because he barely shows interest in a way I feel loved. I just want that he asks questions and that we can be silly together, but he always says that he is too introverted. But what broke my heart is that he do all the things I ever wished for in a relationship with his best friend(laughting, texting, asking randomly what's going on in ur life) So I am the problem? I have come to the point where I cry several times in a week. I am overreacting? My mind goes crazy to imagine being my whole life with someone together who can barely communicate with me. But the loving part in me has still hope.
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We are 19 and since 4 years together. This relationship makes me so sad, because he barely shows interest in a way I feel loved. I just want that he asks questions and that we can be silly together, but he always says that he is too introverted. But what broke my heart is that he do all the things I ever wished for in a relationship with his best friend(laughting, texting, asking randomly what's going on in ur life) So I am the problem? I have come to the point where I cry several times in a week. I am overreacting? My mind goes crazy to imagine being my whole life with someone together who can barely communicate with me. But the loving part in me has still hope.
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Jessica
I love my boyfriend so much and he loves me also because I DO feel it he is very loving with me gives me lots of cuddles. But he plays video games waaay too much and he doesnt have initiative or a drive for success. He opened up a business but hes always home on the video games and drinking beers. While I work and when I come home hes done nothing in the house hes been playing all day. He only does things if I leave him a list. But Im tired of telling him what to do. He should know by now. He does small changes but they are small. Im so stuck and dont know what to do I love him so much but he has no motivation or discipline in his life
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I love my boyfriend so much and he loves me also because I DO feel it he is very loving with me gives me lots of cuddles. But he plays video games waaay too much and he doesnt have initiative or a drive for success. He opened up a business but hes always home on the video games and drinking beers. While I work and when I come home hes done nothing in the house hes been playing all day. He only does things if I leave him a list. But Im tired of telling him what to do. He should know by now. He does small changes but they are small. Im so stuck and dont know what to do I love him so much but he has no motivation or discipline in his life
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alex
ive been with my partner for a long time and even before we got together we was always best friends but now im realising she isnt co-operating with me or shes never respecting my needs (Ive always respected hers no matter what) and she started drinking which has led to an addiction which really scares me seeming the smell and actions of somebody whos drunk really overwhelms me. and she used im crying please do it to try make me leave some of my best friends which i lost 4 to, im just so stuck on what to do: (
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ive been with my partner for a long time and even before we got together we was always best friends but now im realising she isnt co-operating with me or shes never respecting my needs (Ive always respected hers no matter what) and she started drinking which has led to an addiction which really scares me seeming the smell and actions of somebody whos drunk really overwhelms me. and she used im crying please do it to try make me leave some of my best friends which i lost 4 to, im just so stuck on what to do: (
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Lene
I didn't think I could be capable to say to my boyfriend that I wanted to break up, but after watching this video and other videos I decided that i couldn't do it anymore.
I sat down with him today, and told him I couldn't do this anymore, we have been together almost 2 years, he was/is my best friend, that's because I've been afraid to say something, I'm afraid I'm going to lose him.
But when I sat down with him, he said:
I've been afraid to say something to you, because I feel exactly the same
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I didn't think I could be capable to say to my boyfriend that I wanted to break up, but after watching this video and other videos I decided that i couldn't do it anymore.
I sat down with him today, and told him I couldn't do this anymore, we have been together almost 2 years, he was/is my best friend, that's because I've been afraid to say something, I'm afraid I'm going to lose him.
But when I sat down with him, he said:
I've been afraid to say something to you, because I feel exactly the same
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Joaosousacf
It's very painful to end a relationship. We were together for 8 years and have a son in common. However, if deep inside you feel you are not 100% happy or that your partner doesn't support you or love you for who you are, don't force an unhealthy relationship. Over time will be even more damaging to your emotional wellbeing. It's been 1 month, I am now starting to feel slightly better. You are not alone in this. Your life starts now, stay strong everyone who is going through this.
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It's very painful to end a relationship. We were together for 8 years and have a son in common. However, if deep inside you feel you are not 100% happy or that your partner doesn't support you or love you for who you are, don't force an unhealthy relationship. Over time will be even more damaging to your emotional wellbeing. It's been 1 month, I am now starting to feel slightly better. You are not alone in this. Your life starts now, stay strong everyone who is going through this.
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Lala
I'm an overthinker, I'm afraid when I'll see him in the future with someone else I'd be wrecked cause I really love him. But staying with him right now ends up always with huge arguments and temporary break ups, and then I give him a cgance again, I feel like if we continue this it will be an endless cycle, but in the other hand I really love him I always end up messing him after few days, he loves me aswell but I feel like he don't give his all in this. Help
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I'm an overthinker, I'm afraid when I'll see him in the future with someone else I'd be wrecked cause I really love him. But staying with him right now ends up always with huge arguments and temporary break ups, and then I give him a cgance again, I feel like if we continue this it will be an endless cycle, but in the other hand I really love him I always end up messing him after few days, he loves me aswell but I feel like he don't give his all in this. Help
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E-Buns
I don't see any strong hint of these signs in particular, but I still want to leave my relationship. I feel like I'm making the wrong decision at times or that I'm impulsive for not having any big red flags. My bf did do something to overstep one of my core boundaries. I feel like I'm being selfish for going with my gut and wanting to leave.
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I don't see any strong hint of these signs in particular, but I still want to leave my relationship. I feel like I'm making the wrong decision at times or that I'm impulsive for not having any big red flags. My bf did do something to overstep one of my core boundaries. I feel like I'm being selfish for going with my gut and wanting to leave.
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Jacob
In the worst 4 year relationship u can imagine I'm the only one that works pays all the bills cook clean wash my clothes this woman is the worst woman u can encounter 31 can't cook doesn't clean or work and shows no signs of wanting too the next time I'm single I'll make sure to enjoy it don't rush into anything and get myself back on track
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In the worst 4 year relationship u can imagine I'm the only one that works pays all the bills cook clean wash my clothes this woman is the worst woman u can encounter 31 can't cook doesn't clean or work and shows no signs of wanting too the next time I'm single I'll make sure to enjoy it don't rush into anything and get myself back on track
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stylowy
my ex boyfriend abused me emotionally and hurt me many times, he damaged my mental health and the relationship gave me trauma I'm still healing of
it might looked innocent in others eyes, but inside our relationship was a distracting mess for me, i struggled a lot with breaking up with him, but after almost 2 and half years I did it
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my ex boyfriend abused me emotionally and hurt me many times, he damaged my mental health and the relationship gave me trauma I'm still healing of
it might looked innocent in others eyes, but inside our relationship was a distracting mess for me, i struggled a lot with breaking up with him, but after almost 2 and half years I did it
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Yasundi
Even we know it is not worthy
When we addicted to our partner it impossible to leave.
We just waiting for other one without any limits
Happy when he happy
Dream as his dream
. i love him more than anything in my life
But he didn't care even we had very close relationships some days in previous
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Even we know it is not worthy
When we addicted to our partner it impossible to leave.
We just waiting for other one without any limits
Happy when he happy
Dream as his dream
. i love him more than anything in my life
But he didn't care even we had very close relationships some days in previous
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Sinner
We dont talk anymore. I send them a text every single morning to say good owning or night but
We haven't talked for a whole while now becuase they don't put effort in to talk to me it's like it's a one sided love, I know they have depression and might feel to tired or something but I don't know what to do.
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We dont talk anymore. I send them a text every single morning to say good owning or night but
We haven't talked for a whole while now becuase they don't put effort in to talk to me it's like it's a one sided love, I know they have depression and might feel to tired or something but I don't know what to do.
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Most
She makes me so happy when Im with her but when im by myself im more depressed than Ive ever been in my whole life, she just says little things one minute that make me sad and then types a whole paragraph about how much she loves me a few minutes later. Its a constant roller coaster of emotions tbh.
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She makes me so happy when Im with her but when im by myself im more depressed than Ive ever been in my whole life, she just says little things one minute that make me sad and then types a whole paragraph about how much she loves me a few minutes later. Its a constant roller coaster of emotions tbh.
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Ans
I have all those signs except the different paths one and been through it for years giving him chances. I know Im not perfect too but I know I dont deserve all this. What do I do? I have a 1 year old with him and we live with his parents. Leaving doesnt seem as easy as everyone says to do.
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I have all those signs except the different paths one and been through it for years giving him chances. I know Im not perfect too but I know I dont deserve all this. What do I do? I have a 1 year old with him and we live with his parents. Leaving doesnt seem as easy as everyone says to do.
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Luci
I left because I could feel how I was losing him and myself. I want to become a better woman for myself. I never want to hurt the one I love again. God do I miss him though. God is it painful to realize I messed everything up with my insecurities and lack of self love.
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I left because I could feel how I was losing him and myself. I want to become a better woman for myself. I never want to hurt the one I love again. God do I miss him though. God is it painful to realize I messed everything up with my insecurities and lack of self love.
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Elysian
I know i probobly wont be replied to but back when me and my bf were just bffs, i ended up in a hospitial and when i was there due to being in a physc section i wasnt allowed electronics. I just found out he talked shit and he has hid this from me. idk what to do.
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I know i probobly wont be replied to but back when me and my bf were just bffs, i ended up in a hospitial and when i was there due to being in a physc section i wasnt allowed electronics. I just found out he talked shit and he has hid this from me. idk what to do.
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Dr
I have 1, 2 and 5. I love my partner but ive lost trust and when that occured my feelings for her has diminished a bit. We grow apart in some cases aswell. I love to workout and my gf doesnt. I would love to have a gf that loves exercise just like me.
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I have 1, 2 and 5. I love my partner but ive lost trust and when that occured my feelings for her has diminished a bit. We grow apart in some cases aswell. I love to workout and my gf doesnt. I would love to have a gf that loves exercise just like me.
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Doctor
I was married for 10 years and had 2 kids and I stayed for the kids for the last 4 years of the marriage before enough was enough. Even though life isn't all rainbows, my kids and I are better off.
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I was married for 10 years and had 2 kids and I stayed for the kids for the last 4 years of the marriage before enough was enough. Even though life isn't all rainbows, my kids and I are better off.
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Clementineeeeeee
1. I dont feel appreciated
2. Although we get along so well, we have different goals
3. :(
4. :(
5. He never trusted me at all even before I denied something at first
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1. I dont feel appreciated
2. Although we get along so well, we have different goals
3. :(
4. :(
5. He never trusted me at all even before I denied something at first
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