Unhealthy Father Sons Relationships
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Webster
Can any son or daughter relate with me on this about my father where the father is non judgemental, open minded and even at times says the right stuff you need to hear when going through own life struggles. However the father you have has either allowed your own mother to do most of the rearing of you, he also does spend time with you but always with your mother, he never tries to give you that solid father and son/daughter relationship that especially sons need for vital masculine rearing.
In my familie's house, I am a 26 year old single guy living at my own place now where once a week I visit them for family gatherings. My mother died a year ago due to cancer. Throughout her life when she had me and my siblings her personality became our personalities in a way whilst having the same voice and facial features as our father whilst we would still have our mothers passionate personality. Ever since my mum died, my father even though he is a lovely man, his greatest flaws is his moral cowardiceness and lack of masculine authority over the family. In politics where today big upcoming conflicts are arising in Western civilisation my Boomer father acts in pathetic denialism of any issues I forwarn him about and he forbides me to mention politics to him as he knows I only overpower him warning him on what I, my sister brother will have to battle against in the troubling future that awaits us. My mother was the only religious and passionate member of the family household ever since her death, religion would immediately evacuate from the household, laziness and decadence in effort in my younger brother & sister would arise as my father would not authoritate or discipline it out of them, he still tolerates my younger sister's self centered behaviour by allowing her selfish ways unquestioned and he can still never say no to her demands, nor too my autistic brother too who needs that authority within my father to grow as a man. I on the other hand have to act as the Tryannical big brother in my family house hold where I always otherthrow my fathers authority of the family and they all end up scapegoating me as the stubborn villain that my sister and brother both detest and fear within me even though all I want is to stamp out their own decadent and toxic immature behaviours out of them that father has failed them on. In order to improve them as better people, (They both in their 20s for pete sake, my father has unfortunately kept them infantalised my mother was also to blame for this too sadly)
What I learned from my fathers failures is to stragetise valid time with your kids and really secure that 1to1 inspirational time that both you and your future wife will imprint into your future sons and daughters.
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Can any son or daughter relate with me on this about my father where the father is non judgemental, open minded and even at times says the right stuff you need to hear when going through own life struggles. However the father you have has either allowed your own mother to do most of the rearing of you, he also does spend time with you but always with your mother, he never tries to give you that solid father and son/daughter relationship that especially sons need for vital masculine rearing.
In my familie's house, I am a 26 year old single guy living at my own place now where once a week I visit them for family gatherings. My mother died a year ago due to cancer. Throughout her life when she had me and my siblings her personality became our personalities in a way whilst having the same voice and facial features as our father whilst we would still have our mothers passionate personality. Ever since my mum died, my father even though he is a lovely man, his greatest flaws is his moral cowardiceness and lack of masculine authority over the family. In politics where today big upcoming conflicts are arising in Western civilisation my Boomer father acts in pathetic denialism of any issues I forwarn him about and he forbides me to mention politics to him as he knows I only overpower him warning him on what I, my sister brother will have to battle against in the troubling future that awaits us. My mother was the only religious and passionate member of the family household ever since her death, religion would immediately evacuate from the household, laziness and decadence in effort in my younger brother & sister would arise as my father would not authoritate or discipline it out of them, he still tolerates my younger sister's self centered behaviour by allowing her selfish ways unquestioned and he can still never say no to her demands, nor too my autistic brother too who needs that authority within my father to grow as a man. I on the other hand have to act as the Tryannical big brother in my family house hold where I always otherthrow my fathers authority of the family and they all end up scapegoating me as the stubborn villain that my sister and brother both detest and fear within me even though all I want is to stamp out their own decadent and toxic immature behaviours out of them that father has failed them on. In order to improve them as better people, (They both in their 20s for pete sake, my father has unfortunately kept them infantalised my mother was also to blame for this too sadly)
What I learned from my fathers failures is to stragetise valid time with your kids and really secure that 1to1 inspirational time that both you and your future wife will imprint into your future sons and daughters.
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ML
My dad. we have nothing in common, no chemistry whatsoever, he's very ignorant, spoiled, lack of teaching skills, boring, overly serious about things even if it's something small, dosen't support me at all, He lies often, dosen't appreciate the fact that I offer to help him with something or if I show him how to do something he'll yell and say not to help because he's embarrassed that he dosnet understand. He knows nothing about me. The only thing he brings up about me is past mistakes, chores, me spoiling him to get what he wants, and anything to do with work. He never asks anything about my goals or love life or Intrests. There's hardly communication, nothing but awkward silences and boredom. Even though he's my dad he's not a good father. More like a stranger with no father skills.
From here on out I bond with other close father figures n family /people that I have close chemistry with and I know for a fact that my dad is never gonna change so it is what is.
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My dad. we have nothing in common, no chemistry whatsoever, he's very ignorant, spoiled, lack of teaching skills, boring, overly serious about things even if it's something small, dosen't support me at all, He lies often, dosen't appreciate the fact that I offer to help him with something or if I show him how to do something he'll yell and say not to help because he's embarrassed that he dosnet understand. He knows nothing about me. The only thing he brings up about me is past mistakes, chores, me spoiling him to get what he wants, and anything to do with work. He never asks anything about my goals or love life or Intrests. There's hardly communication, nothing but awkward silences and boredom. Even though he's my dad he's not a good father. More like a stranger with no father skills.
From here on out I bond with other close father figures n family /people that I have close chemistry with and I know for a fact that my dad is never gonna change so it is what is.
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cam
The addict father summed up my life perfectly and i don't see many people in the comments talking about it surprisingly. I am still living and working with my dad at the moment and our relationship is very weird. Conversation is terrible, i feel i can't open up to him at all, we are on totally different wavelengths. But at the same time he's done so much for me, teaching me sports, vehicles, tools, money and everything which i am very grateful for and i love him. He's given me a great job opportunity but i constantly just dream about getting away from him so that i can actually have a personality. I'm stuck right now. I wish i could have both but it looks like its gonna be one or the other. Its very difficult for me to open up to anyone and form any kind of friendship or romantic relationship. I've felt completely and totally numb and emotionless for quite some time now. Hopefully there's someone that can relate to this and maybe give some advice.
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The addict father summed up my life perfectly and i don't see many people in the comments talking about it surprisingly. I am still living and working with my dad at the moment and our relationship is very weird. Conversation is terrible, i feel i can't open up to him at all, we are on totally different wavelengths. But at the same time he's done so much for me, teaching me sports, vehicles, tools, money and everything which i am very grateful for and i love him. He's given me a great job opportunity but i constantly just dream about getting away from him so that i can actually have a personality. I'm stuck right now. I wish i could have both but it looks like its gonna be one or the other. Its very difficult for me to open up to anyone and form any kind of friendship or romantic relationship. I've felt completely and totally numb and emotionless for quite some time now. Hopefully there's someone that can relate to this and maybe give some advice.
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Adam
My father is more like my son, and almost ruined the relationship with me and my brothers by me having to play the father role until my mid late 20s. He was never around when we were younger, then left us and my mother for another woman with 3 kids basically traded us in, then when she left him he came back but things never were the same, Im 35 now and have been pretty successful, I continue to try and form a relationship with him but apparently everything I do is wrong and nothing I do or say is valid until he physically verify what I say I sell my stores and try and open a family business, mind u he never owned his own and always worked for others but constantly tells me how everything I do is wrong and he knows best yet he has never made anything of himself and is in constant competition with me with everything I say and do even tho Im the one that made something of myself and he never did
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My father is more like my son, and almost ruined the relationship with me and my brothers by me having to play the father role until my mid late 20s. He was never around when we were younger, then left us and my mother for another woman with 3 kids basically traded us in, then when she left him he came back but things never were the same, Im 35 now and have been pretty successful, I continue to try and form a relationship with him but apparently everything I do is wrong and nothing I do or say is valid until he physically verify what I say I sell my stores and try and open a family business, mind u he never owned his own and always worked for others but constantly tells me how everything I do is wrong and he knows best yet he has never made anything of himself and is in constant competition with me with everything I say and do even tho Im the one that made something of myself and he never did
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GrayLish
Can someone help me with my siruation
I am writing this like 15 mins after what happened
I fear alot my father he is very strict and can slap me without hesitation
Just a little ago i had a little problem with my french teacher at school
I did something but the teacher wrote on the notebook (book for teachers to talk with parents)
And she completely exagerated
When i got home tonight i showed to my dad, i told him the teacher lied and its not the truth but instead he insulted me and slapped me. I even told him you trust a stranger more than your own son. Now i only want to go to college to be far away from him
I am literally crying when writing this
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Can someone help me with my siruation
I am writing this like 15 mins after what happened
I fear alot my father he is very strict and can slap me without hesitation
Just a little ago i had a little problem with my french teacher at school
I did something but the teacher wrote on the notebook (book for teachers to talk with parents)
And she completely exagerated
When i got home tonight i showed to my dad, i told him the teacher lied and its not the truth but instead he insulted me and slapped me. I even told him you trust a stranger more than your own son. Now i only want to go to college to be far away from him
I am literally crying when writing this
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Kenny
I have a toxic, unstable, harsh (like example #3, performing (like sample #4, passive (like example #5, chauvinistic, insensitive, and bossy father. I hate our relationship and theres not a day that goes by that I dont get at LEAST a feeling of anticipation around him. Im still living with him and I CANNOT wait to graduate and move to Orlando to live with my Grandparents. I ALWAYS feel like Im the problem, and the thing is his arguments are actually reasonable and plausible. I feel like becoming a cutter and always get so frustrated that I want to commit suicide. Am just a kid who wants to make his parents proud. But no matter how hard I try, I DONT GET ANYWHERE!
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I have a toxic, unstable, harsh (like example #3, performing (like sample #4, passive (like example #5, chauvinistic, insensitive, and bossy father. I hate our relationship and theres not a day that goes by that I dont get at LEAST a feeling of anticipation around him. Im still living with him and I CANNOT wait to graduate and move to Orlando to live with my Grandparents. I ALWAYS feel like Im the problem, and the thing is his arguments are actually reasonable and plausible. I feel like becoming a cutter and always get so frustrated that I want to commit suicide. Am just a kid who wants to make his parents proud. But no matter how hard I try, I DONT GET ANYWHERE!
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Nex
My dad is always comparing me to other people, saying mean words to me like I said I kind of what to enjoy myself he said for me to shut up and when im mad I cant control so I snatched something out of his hand and he said he will spank me if I dont stop, he always likes my sister but me. Always telling me why arent you more like your sister. Whenever I do something he makes a big deal about it. But not when my sister does something big. I always have a thought in my head to kill myself or to kill my dad
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My dad is always comparing me to other people, saying mean words to me like I said I kind of what to enjoy myself he said for me to shut up and when im mad I cant control so I snatched something out of his hand and he said he will spank me if I dont stop, he always likes my sister but me. Always telling me why arent you more like your sister. Whenever I do something he makes a big deal about it. But not when my sister does something big. I always have a thought in my head to kill myself or to kill my dad
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KingofTheCrows
My dad was abandoned by his father when he was 11 years old and was basically the man of the house from that point on. It's miraculous how someone who could come from such a horrible situation, could take that horror, and learn to rise above it. I love my dad so much, he's my hero. He's not perfect and he's definitely got his baggage. I don't care if he chooses to never open it but I'm ready for the day he wants to talk to me. I've always been someone he can talk to.
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My dad was abandoned by his father when he was 11 years old and was basically the man of the house from that point on. It's miraculous how someone who could come from such a horrible situation, could take that horror, and learn to rise above it. I love my dad so much, he's my hero. He's not perfect and he's definitely got his baggage. I don't care if he chooses to never open it but I'm ready for the day he wants to talk to me. I've always been someone he can talk to.
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ICEcold
My father is a harsh father, I already knew that btw but after watching this video I can 100% relate to it
1. he is religious
2. I am scared of him since my childhood
3. he wants everyone in the household to follow his rules and regulations
4. I get scold hard if I bring less marks in exams
5. he threatens me that he will withdraw me from school if I bring less marks
And much more
What should I do? plz help!
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My father is a harsh father, I already knew that btw but after watching this video I can 100% relate to it
1. he is religious
2. I am scared of him since my childhood
3. he wants everyone in the household to follow his rules and regulations
4. I get scold hard if I bring less marks in exams
5. he threatens me that he will withdraw me from school if I bring less marks
And much more
What should I do? plz help!
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Broski
I don't know what to think of my father. I am 18 years old and. On one hand, he was never there for me, opting to spend more time with my younger brother. He was always harsh on me, yelling at me for any slightest mistake throughout my life. But on the other hand, he gave me some life lessons, introduced me to sport, supports me financially and I see glimpses of him caring for me but showing it in a weird way. I really don't know.
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I don't know what to think of my father. I am 18 years old and. On one hand, he was never there for me, opting to spend more time with my younger brother. He was always harsh on me, yelling at me for any slightest mistake throughout my life. But on the other hand, he gave me some life lessons, introduced me to sport, supports me financially and I see glimpses of him caring for me but showing it in a weird way. I really don't know.
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Bronson
While my father was always there for me and tried to give me a normal upbringing, he always judges the shortcomings of others, and often insults and puts people down. I (24) decided recently that I had had enough, and sent him a letter (despite living 10 minutes from him) saying that I needed some space away from him. I genuinely don't know if I made the right decision, or if we will ever get back on good speaking terms.
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While my father was always there for me and tried to give me a normal upbringing, he always judges the shortcomings of others, and often insults and puts people down. I (24) decided recently that I had had enough, and sent him a letter (despite living 10 minutes from him) saying that I needed some space away from him. I genuinely don't know if I made the right decision, or if we will ever get back on good speaking terms.
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AK47_51
Mine is a mix of a couple of these. It doesnt help that my father is more or less inconsistent. Because of this I have problems kinda all over. Im not verbally abused but when it comes to my dad being angry at me or something I did insults get thrown by them. They also did a mix of coddling me yet also neglecting me at various points in my life which left me with lots of issues dealing with both.
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Mine is a mix of a couple of these. It doesnt help that my father is more or less inconsistent. Because of this I have problems kinda all over. Im not verbally abused but when it comes to my dad being angry at me or something I did insults get thrown by them. They also did a mix of coddling me yet also neglecting me at various points in my life which left me with lots of issues dealing with both.
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BMC
I never had a dad. I haven't had a father in my life for 35 years. I was 3 the last time he existed. My mom raised my brothers and I. My relationship with my mom is pretty messed up. And it's cold. My dad never was there in person period. He took off to another part of the country. He never sent a card. He never called. He never visited. He never paid child support. We were impoverished.
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I never had a dad. I haven't had a father in my life for 35 years. I was 3 the last time he existed. My mom raised my brothers and I. My relationship with my mom is pretty messed up. And it's cold. My dad never was there in person period. He took off to another part of the country. He never sent a card. He never called. He never visited. He never paid child support. We were impoverished.
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Jenel
Over protective father father that yells allot and father that smokes and father that is abusive uhhhhh this is just whack hes so scared of people that sometimes he locks the windows and turn of the lights. He allways umberesed me and just a whack dad im a filipino and i whoud not expect from a filipino dad i hope everything will be ok bru my mom suffers this allot
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Over protective father father that yells allot and father that smokes and father that is abusive uhhhhh this is just whack hes so scared of people that sometimes he locks the windows and turn of the lights. He allways umberesed me and just a whack dad im a filipino and i whoud not expect from a filipino dad i hope everything will be ok bru my mom suffers this allot
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No
I have a mix of harsh and passive father. Its like trying to make it across a field of land mines when he is around, nothing happens when I dont step on a mine, when once it does, a chain reaction occurs. He dont talk but he sighs when Im near, and I know he is unhappy doing any house duty because you can hear the frustration the banging of cupboards.
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I have a mix of harsh and passive father. Its like trying to make it across a field of land mines when he is around, nothing happens when I dont step on a mine, when once it does, a chain reaction occurs. He dont talk but he sighs when Im near, and I know he is unhappy doing any house duty because you can hear the frustration the banging of cupboards.
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Frogs
my grandfather was very abusive to the point where he would beat my dad every day and my father grown to be also abusive to an extent, it doesnt happen every day like it used to be with him but it happens a lot when i dont feel emotionally and sometimes even physically like today safe around him and rarely exit my room
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my grandfather was very abusive to the point where he would beat my dad every day and my father grown to be also abusive to an extent, it doesnt happen every day like it used to be with him but it happens a lot when i dont feel emotionally and sometimes even physically like today safe around him and rarely exit my room
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JokingBlorgnath
My dad left me when I was barely a year old, then my adoptive father died of cancer, basically had to watch him die. I know he tried to be different for my brother and I then how he was with his own kids, but yeah. I remember he tried to be encouraging and supportive with us and protective when needed
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My dad left me when I was barely a year old, then my adoptive father died of cancer, basically had to watch him die. I know he tried to be different for my brother and I then how he was with his own kids, but yeah. I remember he tried to be encouraging and supportive with us and protective when needed
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CrystalOtaku93
I wanna say this: there is a HUGE difference between strict dads & abusive dads.
Strict dads make, explain, and enforce rules and makes sure the potential punishments meet the offense.
Abusive dads are all about control however they can.
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I wanna say this: there is a HUGE difference between strict dads & abusive dads.
Strict dads make, explain, and enforce rules and makes sure the potential punishments meet the offense.
Abusive dads are all about control however they can.
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Sophia
Please help me out. If anybody can tell me how The strict father can start to mend his relationship with his son please let me know. My dad and brother have a relationship just like this and I dont know how they can start to mend their relationship.
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Please help me out. If anybody can tell me how The strict father can start to mend his relationship with his son please let me know. My dad and brother have a relationship just like this and I dont know how they can start to mend their relationship.
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Kyle
My dad and I were never really emotionally connected, I know he cared for me deep down but eventually as I became older I realized that my dad and I would never bond in any sort of matter which is something I just have to learn to accept.
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My dad and I were never really emotionally connected, I know he cared for me deep down but eventually as I became older I realized that my dad and I would never bond in any sort of matter which is something I just have to learn to accept.
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Mohit
well im growing up with a harsh and abusive father and just last night i was scolded again i mean i cant even say anything back as he wrong so many times ad just wants work done his way like all i want rn is to get away from him
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well im growing up with a harsh and abusive father and just last night i was scolded again i mean i cant even say anything back as he wrong so many times ad just wants work done his way like all i want rn is to get away from him
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Nonbiren
My biological father: My daugh- I mean child is amazing
Also him: YOU WILL NEVER ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING! YOU CANT DO ANYTHING RIGHT!
Also also him: follow your dreams
Me: what dreams? You crushed them when I was five!
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My biological father: My daugh- I mean child is amazing
Also him: YOU WILL NEVER ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING! YOU CANT DO ANYTHING RIGHT!
Also also him: follow your dreams
Me: what dreams? You crushed them when I was five!
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ColombianFavorite
My father used to have an adiction of gambling and it would make sense because I think I struggle with social anxiety and he used to beat me with a belt many times, I don't if that's pretty unhealthy.
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My father used to have an adiction of gambling and it would make sense because I think I struggle with social anxiety and he used to beat me with a belt many times, I don't if that's pretty unhealthy.
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Thijs
I got the harsh father and passive father combo deal. He used to be the harsh father untill I got bigger and stronger then him and started talking and scaring him back. Then he became the passive father
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I got the harsh father and passive father combo deal. He used to be the harsh father untill I got bigger and stronger then him and started talking and scaring him back. Then he became the passive father
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CupcakKe
00: 48 1. Absent Father
01: 56 2. Addict Father
02: 44 3. Harsh Father
03: 25 4. Performing Father
04: 18 5. Passive Father
05: 00 6. Abusive Father
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00: 48 1. Absent Father
01: 56 2. Addict Father
02: 44 3. Harsh Father
03: 25 4. Performing Father
04: 18 5. Passive Father
05: 00 6. Abusive Father
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