5 Levels of Friendships
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Ulker
throughout my life I've had specific criteria of a BFF. I've switched from tons of people to others, but still had to stop every single friendship because no one commited but me. I had a very close friend who I knew for 3 years and who knows me perfectly upside down, but recently she started severely ignoring me and being to selfish not only in my address but everyone around. I understand those things as a clinical level of depression but friendship is not about this at all. it's not like I dumped her or sth, no. she just denied the fact that she needs help, she never used my advices and always preferred to stay a victim of her own. She stopped her evolution, she slowed down, while I still wanted to rock. The period of break up was hard and subtle, as she still didn't care, but I had to move on. Plus, it didn't touch her at all. She would not text me for a year and still be alright with the fact that she neglected me on such a deep level.
I am an empath and I can't stand insensitivity. My ex BF was emotional and I felt a very deep connection with her on emotional level. But I couldn't stand the other things that she did to me, assuming that the world is rounding around her.
Meanwhile, I met a girl, the most insensitive and careless girl I've ever had in my life. (in the best means of this description. It was easy for her to let things go and move on from EXTREMELY stressful situation. I am a complete opposite of her: I can stress out of a simple silly thing no one cares about. In the beginning we had misunderstandings. She told me she feels herself near me like a grandpa with a kid (i am the kid. She told that her rude jokes are just the part of her personality and they don't mean to hurt anyone. I needed some time to come to senses and start using sanity as a tool. I understood that I don't befriend emotions, I befriend people. Regardless of how insensitive she may seem or behave, she's a small cute kitten. I love her. I accepted her sarcastic dark humor and she accepted my childlike character. We are great now. She tells me anything without hiding things, being honest and direct. She is the first person I appeal and the best choice to address when I need to share something. My disability to share thoughts flowed into a craving to tell every single detail to my lovely friend. We even have paired jewelries Yin and Yang as a signifier of how different but still great-matching we are. I feel totally understood and fully heard with her. Even though she's insensitive, it doesn't mean she is incapable of feeling. She's ready to kill anyone who hurt her loved ones.
I've recently gotten a concern in my life when my crush has been told a slander about me from her best friend who is my coursemate. As if she asked her BF about me, and her BF, out of jealousy, told endless lies about me and we fought. My heart has been broken. I told things to my mom, to my psychologist. Seemed as if it helped, but not completely. I felt I needed another kind of support which I've gotten from my lovely friend - the friend I talked about throughout this comment. She told me the best things I've ever heard in my life, she found the rightest words even though she was in hurry on her way to exhibition. After her 3 minutes of talking I feel a sudden relief in my heart. Things didn't hurt as much as before. I felt fulfilled I felt loved, because I saw I have someone who will never believe any lie told about me behind my back. No point to suffer of loss - you'd better notice the best. So did I.
Never have I written such a huge comment. I devote it to my friend, my lovely Yin friend. I love her
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throughout my life I've had specific criteria of a BFF. I've switched from tons of people to others, but still had to stop every single friendship because no one commited but me. I had a very close friend who I knew for 3 years and who knows me perfectly upside down, but recently she started severely ignoring me and being to selfish not only in my address but everyone around. I understand those things as a clinical level of depression but friendship is not about this at all. it's not like I dumped her or sth, no. she just denied the fact that she needs help, she never used my advices and always preferred to stay a victim of her own. She stopped her evolution, she slowed down, while I still wanted to rock. The period of break up was hard and subtle, as she still didn't care, but I had to move on. Plus, it didn't touch her at all. She would not text me for a year and still be alright with the fact that she neglected me on such a deep level.
I am an empath and I can't stand insensitivity. My ex BF was emotional and I felt a very deep connection with her on emotional level. But I couldn't stand the other things that she did to me, assuming that the world is rounding around her.
Meanwhile, I met a girl, the most insensitive and careless girl I've ever had in my life. (in the best means of this description. It was easy for her to let things go and move on from EXTREMELY stressful situation. I am a complete opposite of her: I can stress out of a simple silly thing no one cares about. In the beginning we had misunderstandings. She told me she feels herself near me like a grandpa with a kid (i am the kid. She told that her rude jokes are just the part of her personality and they don't mean to hurt anyone. I needed some time to come to senses and start using sanity as a tool. I understood that I don't befriend emotions, I befriend people. Regardless of how insensitive she may seem or behave, she's a small cute kitten. I love her. I accepted her sarcastic dark humor and she accepted my childlike character. We are great now. She tells me anything without hiding things, being honest and direct. She is the first person I appeal and the best choice to address when I need to share something. My disability to share thoughts flowed into a craving to tell every single detail to my lovely friend. We even have paired jewelries Yin and Yang as a signifier of how different but still great-matching we are. I feel totally understood and fully heard with her. Even though she's insensitive, it doesn't mean she is incapable of feeling. She's ready to kill anyone who hurt her loved ones.
I've recently gotten a concern in my life when my crush has been told a slander about me from her best friend who is my coursemate. As if she asked her BF about me, and her BF, out of jealousy, told endless lies about me and we fought. My heart has been broken. I told things to my mom, to my psychologist. Seemed as if it helped, but not completely. I felt I needed another kind of support which I've gotten from my lovely friend - the friend I talked about throughout this comment. She told me the best things I've ever heard in my life, she found the rightest words even though she was in hurry on her way to exhibition. After her 3 minutes of talking I feel a sudden relief in my heart. Things didn't hurt as much as before. I felt fulfilled I felt loved, because I saw I have someone who will never believe any lie told about me behind my back. No point to suffer of loss - you'd better notice the best. So did I.
Never have I written such a huge comment. I devote it to my friend, my lovely Yin friend. I love her
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Son
Yesterday got a call. 2 of my friends from abroad came back and we met them in the same bar we all used to hang out at. It's sorta coincidence it happened yesterday out of all days. and it's funny how we just started goin back to the bar 2 weeks ago. I felt like it must be a sign or whatever and so I told em about a derpy and stubborn girl i am meeting sometimes. I left out a lot of facts to not expose her ID too much. They werent too happy at first and thought she is judging me based on the wrong means of communication. so she ends up reacting and causing herself and me more suffering than was needed. It wont change the fact i made careless mistakes ofc.
My friends know me well. i wouldnt cause intentional pain to anyone after all. And they know i tend to let people use me. Yet regardless of their judgment on this girl, I managed to convince them that i knew what i was doing. That i trusted her to be a good person, regardless of any sus issues or perhaps even recent public humiliation for reasons that weren't always rooted in the truth.
I have friends who i dearly love. I am introverted so i need a lot of recharging sometimes. I only let individuals join my circles once i can feel they are a good match. And i told them because i am hopeless enough to believe this girl would fit my friend circle one day. Because i never felt such a joy in being around someone like her. Feels almost like i always looked for a friend like her. We are similar in many ways. I just wish she could take a deep breath sometimes and not jump too fast to conclusions. I understand the more we care for someone the more hurt we are if sth goes south. And i am sorry for hurting you. I wish you had asked me why i do certain things instead of assuming i would ever withhold any type of love from you. i could never do that. In fact. i am desperate to give u and others some affection. I just dont wanna hurt anyone.
My friends seem to see my side at least. cuz they know me in person. If u dont believe me, plz at least believe them. Cuz I know they are good and honest people.
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Yesterday got a call. 2 of my friends from abroad came back and we met them in the same bar we all used to hang out at. It's sorta coincidence it happened yesterday out of all days. and it's funny how we just started goin back to the bar 2 weeks ago. I felt like it must be a sign or whatever and so I told em about a derpy and stubborn girl i am meeting sometimes. I left out a lot of facts to not expose her ID too much. They werent too happy at first and thought she is judging me based on the wrong means of communication. so she ends up reacting and causing herself and me more suffering than was needed. It wont change the fact i made careless mistakes ofc.
My friends know me well. i wouldnt cause intentional pain to anyone after all. And they know i tend to let people use me. Yet regardless of their judgment on this girl, I managed to convince them that i knew what i was doing. That i trusted her to be a good person, regardless of any sus issues or perhaps even recent public humiliation for reasons that weren't always rooted in the truth.
I have friends who i dearly love. I am introverted so i need a lot of recharging sometimes. I only let individuals join my circles once i can feel they are a good match. And i told them because i am hopeless enough to believe this girl would fit my friend circle one day. Because i never felt such a joy in being around someone like her. Feels almost like i always looked for a friend like her. We are similar in many ways. I just wish she could take a deep breath sometimes and not jump too fast to conclusions. I understand the more we care for someone the more hurt we are if sth goes south. And i am sorry for hurting you. I wish you had asked me why i do certain things instead of assuming i would ever withhold any type of love from you. i could never do that. In fact. i am desperate to give u and others some affection. I just dont wanna hurt anyone.
My friends seem to see my side at least. cuz they know me in person. If u dont believe me, plz at least believe them. Cuz I know they are good and honest people.
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Dabbler
Good friends are good. Flaky people are not.
You met someone new. Watch for these, early on:
1. Call-before you come over un-announced. Show up on time.
2. Dont block my car in the driveway
3. When you come in, don't walk in with a half-eaten Burger and fries and the sack they were in and continue at my place. I didnt invite you over to dump your garbage here.
4. When you call and I tell you to come on over, I meant just you, NOT ALSO yer buddy from work, kids in diapers or your dog.
5. No smoking.
6. Dont ask me to lend you money. I wont, either.
7. Dont bring over some bunch of papers and ask me to help you fill them out.
8. No, you cant borrow my laptop, tablet, phone, computer, camera, saw, axe, wrenches, blender or lawn-mower. BUY your own.
9. Dont bring over any Gifts (translation: junk items you no longer want. I dont want them either) Especially, half-spoiled fruits or veggies, or old gift shop knick-knacks or trinkets. (yes, some people do that.
10. Don't bring over any small appliances or gadgets and want me to repair/fix them.
11. Don't come over and give me some sales-pitch or try to get me to JOIN anything, or sign up for anything. Not to join the Rotarty club, or the Elks lodge, or attend a PTA meeting, or donate money to any cause, or buy anything, or become a member of anything.
If you've made it this far, Congratulations, on being a responsible and non-needy Adult. Maybe there's hope. Now, let's go do something FUN!
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Good friends are good. Flaky people are not.
You met someone new. Watch for these, early on:
1. Call-before you come over un-announced. Show up on time.
2. Dont block my car in the driveway
3. When you come in, don't walk in with a half-eaten Burger and fries and the sack they were in and continue at my place. I didnt invite you over to dump your garbage here.
4. When you call and I tell you to come on over, I meant just you, NOT ALSO yer buddy from work, kids in diapers or your dog.
5. No smoking.
6. Dont ask me to lend you money. I wont, either.
7. Dont bring over some bunch of papers and ask me to help you fill them out.
8. No, you cant borrow my laptop, tablet, phone, computer, camera, saw, axe, wrenches, blender or lawn-mower. BUY your own.
9. Dont bring over any Gifts (translation: junk items you no longer want. I dont want them either) Especially, half-spoiled fruits or veggies, or old gift shop knick-knacks or trinkets. (yes, some people do that.
10. Don't bring over any small appliances or gadgets and want me to repair/fix them.
11. Don't come over and give me some sales-pitch or try to get me to JOIN anything, or sign up for anything. Not to join the Rotarty club, or the Elks lodge, or attend a PTA meeting, or donate money to any cause, or buy anything, or become a member of anything.
If you've made it this far, Congratulations, on being a responsible and non-needy Adult. Maybe there's hope. Now, let's go do something FUN!
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ImLujain
Ok, from this video, I'm sure none of my friends aren't intimate friends
Even though I had a friend who shared with her every detail in my day
Her as well
But lately, she started to have her own friends and us not having a lot in common
And she built a strong relationship with them, idk if she forgot abt me
Even though 4 me
I'm being in a trio, but as every year. I'm the extra
This rly makes me feel sick
Especially, the other tow are obsessed with each other
Imagine your friends are hugging and talking nice with each other while u to watching them with jealousy
I try to communicate with them but I can't
The first one I know her well but she is a casual friend or kind of more
I don't see my relationship with her is that strong bc she would throw me when the other one come
And abt the 2nd we're literally acquaintances or kinda casual friends
But the problem that she so quite and don't talk a lot so I can't communicate
I'm getting so tired from friendships and my anxiety is getting worse than ever
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Ok, from this video, I'm sure none of my friends aren't intimate friends
Even though I had a friend who shared with her every detail in my day
Her as well
But lately, she started to have her own friends and us not having a lot in common
And she built a strong relationship with them, idk if she forgot abt me
Even though 4 me
I'm being in a trio, but as every year. I'm the extra
This rly makes me feel sick
Especially, the other tow are obsessed with each other
Imagine your friends are hugging and talking nice with each other while u to watching them with jealousy
I try to communicate with them but I can't
The first one I know her well but she is a casual friend or kind of more
I don't see my relationship with her is that strong bc she would throw me when the other one come
And abt the 2nd we're literally acquaintances or kinda casual friends
But the problem that she so quite and don't talk a lot so I can't communicate
I'm getting so tired from friendships and my anxiety is getting worse than ever
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S_usa. n
I spend almost 6 years until I found a friend and all these years I was lonely with my thoughts everyone laughed about the thing am interested in it ( Ninjago)
But last year i finally met someone who is like me we even have alike illness ( lol )
She is the only one from my friends who is calling me and texting me lately while my other friends don't bother asking
I love her till the end of my life
She is the the only person I talk about my feelings and she actually help me ( before and till now i suffer from depression, she actually don't know but she nows whats inside me before i even talk ) she knows me more than my parents
I have waited soooooo long for a friend its not easy but its worth it in the end
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I spend almost 6 years until I found a friend and all these years I was lonely with my thoughts everyone laughed about the thing am interested in it ( Ninjago)
But last year i finally met someone who is like me we even have alike illness ( lol )
She is the only one from my friends who is calling me and texting me lately while my other friends don't bother asking
I love her till the end of my life
She is the the only person I talk about my feelings and she actually help me ( before and till now i suffer from depression, she actually don't know but she nows whats inside me before i even talk ) she knows me more than my parents
I have waited soooooo long for a friend its not easy but its worth it in the end
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The
I recently let someone become an intimate friend with me and they. dropped me like a ton of bricks the second their best friend got jealous of how close we were getting. That was the worst way to find out our friendship wasn't reciprocal. Be careful who you let in. It reopened a lot of old wounds and trust issues. The worst part is we're both artists forced to share a lot of the same spaces and I can't even tell anyone because it would start drama and the fallout would be. absolutely devastating; w;
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I recently let someone become an intimate friend with me and they. dropped me like a ton of bricks the second their best friend got jealous of how close we were getting. That was the worst way to find out our friendship wasn't reciprocal. Be careful who you let in. It reopened a lot of old wounds and trust issues. The worst part is we're both artists forced to share a lot of the same spaces and I can't even tell anyone because it would start drama and the fallout would be. absolutely devastating; w;
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SteveHDTV
I know how it is when you had a hard past but trust me, in the future there might come 1 or 2 people who will stay by your side whenever you need them.
In elememtry school i was getting bullied and the teachers done nothing against it so i changed the school, then i made it to the high school and there i met my friends and now i couldnt imagine to find ever someone like them again, they are the best friends i could imagine in my life.
Have a great day all
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I know how it is when you had a hard past but trust me, in the future there might come 1 or 2 people who will stay by your side whenever you need them.
In elememtry school i was getting bullied and the teachers done nothing against it so i changed the school, then i made it to the high school and there i met my friends and now i couldnt imagine to find ever someone like them again, they are the best friends i could imagine in my life.
Have a great day all
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Poisonberry
Everyone always talks about when your bast friend doesnt see you as a best friend, but Im in the opposite position here. My casual friend sees me as their best friend and I still am not ready to have them see me cry or vent with them but they are and Ive comforted them before. But there also best friends with my best friend and they have been there since I could barely walk, I dont feel ready to fully trust the friend but its separating me from my best friend.
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Everyone always talks about when your bast friend doesnt see you as a best friend, but Im in the opposite position here. My casual friend sees me as their best friend and I still am not ready to have them see me cry or vent with them but they are and Ive comforted them before. But there also best friends with my best friend and they have been there since I could barely walk, I dont feel ready to fully trust the friend but its separating me from my best friend.
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Shaun
Sometimes someone may say that you are their friend but they don't really regard you or treat you like someone they care about. Friendship and communication has to be mutual. If someone do not wish to communicate or put in effort, there is no way to progress the friendship if it is one sided. There are also people who do not wish to communicate as they are super selective. But it is an irony when someone say you are their friend but actions wise is not at all.
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Sometimes someone may say that you are their friend but they don't really regard you or treat you like someone they care about. Friendship and communication has to be mutual. If someone do not wish to communicate or put in effort, there is no way to progress the friendship if it is one sided. There are also people who do not wish to communicate as they are super selective. But it is an irony when someone say you are their friend but actions wise is not at all.
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Chloe
All my potential bffs always already have another bff
Im 25 and Ive honestly had no bffs my whole life. Rooting from my parents always moving me from city to city and state to state. Im finding that Im having to learn to be more present in order to form more meaningful bonds with others in my life. Although Im learning late as hell Im happy I was able to recognize why a lot of people may still feel alone even with a group around them. Myself included.
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All my potential bffs always already have another bff
Im 25 and Ive honestly had no bffs my whole life. Rooting from my parents always moving me from city to city and state to state. Im finding that Im having to learn to be more present in order to form more meaningful bonds with others in my life. Although Im learning late as hell Im happy I was able to recognize why a lot of people may still feel alone even with a group around them. Myself included.
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Alona
I'm someone who have little need or care for someone that seem lower then best friend in this video XD
I get stranger, then acquaintance, then the second you are friends I won't hide who I am. Then again I never hide who I am in the first place. Sooooo yep! I either keep it with distance or deep connection. Casual only would hurt you when you realize they don't care about you the same way you do them.
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I'm someone who have little need or care for someone that seem lower then best friend in this video XD
I get stranger, then acquaintance, then the second you are friends I won't hide who I am. Then again I never hide who I am in the first place. Sooooo yep! I either keep it with distance or deep connection. Casual only would hurt you when you realize they don't care about you the same way you do them.
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SxmplyCocoA
This makes me want to cry
Recently one of my best friends left me for another girl called alice, we were really good friends and all that, but apperently I was not good enough, I once showed my anger because of some trolling they did to me in a game and now they won't talk to me. What should I do now?
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This makes me want to cry
Recently one of my best friends left me for another girl called alice, we were really good friends and all that, but apperently I was not good enough, I once showed my anger because of some trolling they did to me in a game and now they won't talk to me. What should I do now?
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G16
Good evening! I am glad to see this video. I would say that even though I am unsure of a lot of things, this video helped me kind of weigh some things and see the value, like if things should be hold onto or if there is more I would have to do or even let go of. Thank you and I hope you have a nice day!
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Good evening! I am glad to see this video. I would say that even though I am unsure of a lot of things, this video helped me kind of weigh some things and see the value, like if things should be hold onto or if there is more I would have to do or even let go of. Thank you and I hope you have a nice day!
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WaitAMinute
Me realising all of my friends I thought were casual friends are all aquaintences and my best friend ticks none of the boxes for close or intimate friends and ticks all the boxes for casual friends. No wonder I always stay up at night pondering if I have no one in this blue trapped bubble
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Me realising all of my friends I thought were casual friends are all aquaintences and my best friend ticks none of the boxes for close or intimate friends and ticks all the boxes for casual friends. No wonder I always stay up at night pondering if I have no one in this blue trapped bubble
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Light
Its interesting one of my friends feels really intimate with me but i wouldnot say i feel extremely intimate with them, i just dont feel comfortable sharing things at as deep of a level as they do and i dont trust them nearly as much either. We're still friends but its really awkward sometimes
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Its interesting one of my friends feels really intimate with me but i wouldnot say i feel extremely intimate with them, i just dont feel comfortable sharing things at as deep of a level as they do and i dont trust them nearly as much either. We're still friends but its really awkward sometimes
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Leah
Me and my best friend just clicked the first time we met! I was pretty lonely in school before she transferred and so was she on her own school. Were best friends now and weve known each other for over hath of our lives
And now its started to be a little bit more than best friends
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Me and my best friend just clicked the first time we met! I was pretty lonely in school before she transferred and so was she on her own school. Were best friends now and weve known each other for over hath of our lives
And now its started to be a little bit more than best friends
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BeATifIc0
I have a best friend, maybe she used to be my best friend, we first met in grade 1 elementary school, we were always in the same grade until grade 7, I thought we were friends, but apparently behind me, she likes to tell bad things about me and now we're not that close anymore.
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I have a best friend, maybe she used to be my best friend, we first met in grade 1 elementary school, we were always in the same grade until grade 7, I thought we were friends, but apparently behind me, she likes to tell bad things about me and now we're not that close anymore.
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Med_zone
Yeah I have a causal friend I wanna make her my close friend I already have an intimate friend. and my casual frnd also have an intimate frnd. I hope we'll be close frndz. I'm a first year med student and I've no interest in my old frndz group. I wanna leave that group for her
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Yeah I have a causal friend I wanna make her my close friend I already have an intimate friend. and my casual frnd also have an intimate frnd. I hope we'll be close frndz. I'm a first year med student and I've no interest in my old frndz group. I wanna leave that group for her
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Ellen
Levels of friendship. Friendship is not about being just there when everything is good, but also when everything is not good. Friendships are a huge impact on life. You do not need to have a lot of friendships. A few real good-hearted authentic empath friends are good friends.
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Levels of friendship. Friendship is not about being just there when everything is good, but also when everything is not good. Friendships are a huge impact on life. You do not need to have a lot of friendships. A few real good-hearted authentic empath friends are good friends.
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Marcin
It takes a lot of time and effort for me to get to the acquaintances stage. I need to be sure that people want to spend time with me and are not malicious.
Never in my life reached intimnate friends stage. Or close friends stage, unless my brothers count.
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It takes a lot of time and effort for me to get to the acquaintances stage. I need to be sure that people want to spend time with me and are not malicious.
Never in my life reached intimnate friends stage. Or close friends stage, unless my brothers count.
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Strawberry
I became friends with the quiet kid and within a couple months we became best friends. Neither of us would have expected to like each other this much especially since we had just met that year and didint even know of each other before then
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I became friends with the quiet kid and within a couple months we became best friends. Neither of us would have expected to like each other this much especially since we had just met that year and didint even know of each other before then
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Mao
If anything it really depends on there boundaries. I been friends who are very close with me and some that are not really close. If you want to find a true friend or one that might be for you maybe do a little interview of there boundaries first
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If anything it really depends on there boundaries. I been friends who are very close with me and some that are not really close. If you want to find a true friend or one that might be for you maybe do a little interview of there boundaries first
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Pragyan
When i was in 5th grade i met this girl in my class, its been 3 years, we know so much about eacth other, we trust each other, we are close friends, but yet for some reason, i would still call her between friendship and close friends
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When i was in 5th grade i met this girl in my class, its been 3 years, we know so much about eacth other, we trust each other, we are close friends, but yet for some reason, i would still call her between friendship and close friends
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Uwe
I do not have any best Friends. _.
Most peopel don't realy like me. I am often levt alone. Most of my so cald Frinds only talke to me if thy need anything. If i need them they vanish in to thin air.
Well atlest i don't get bulid
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I do not have any best Friends. _.
Most peopel don't realy like me. I am often levt alone. Most of my so cald Frinds only talke to me if thy need anything. If i need them they vanish in to thin air.
Well atlest i don't get bulid
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NotASpyReally
it's interesting that all my friendships start directly at level 3 (casual friendship) cause all my friends are online lol
another interesting thing is that intimate friends can revert back to just close friends.
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it's interesting that all my friendships start directly at level 3 (casual friendship) cause all my friends are online lol
another interesting thing is that intimate friends can revert back to just close friends.
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