6 Reasons Why You're Addicted to Sadness
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Eve's
Here is my experience to sadness: -
So for me sadness began this year when I lost my best friend. Actually it's not her or my fault of being separated. In my school my teacher changed our seats just so that we don't talk during class times. But then she started talking to the girl who she sat with, and didn't talk with me much, whenever I try to talk to her she always ignore me. So I also gave up on her and I started talking to my bench mate. But later our seats again got changed and I was sitting alone in the last bench, I didn't have anyone to talk with me, so I had a habit of talking to myself and singing songs when writing to comfort myself. Now I only have 2 friends in my french tuition, the school bathroom was my favourite place of the school. Like 2 weeks back I saw a video called 6 sighs to leave a best friend so I promised myself to never have a best friend in my life cause it's so heart breaking when a friend leaves u. If u do have a best friend u r very VERY lucky to have one, cause few of the world don't have a best friend. Do make sure they do not hurt u in the future.
Do not follow what I did but I had no choice but to do! t. I hope u have a happy life
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Here is my experience to sadness: -
So for me sadness began this year when I lost my best friend. Actually it's not her or my fault of being separated. In my school my teacher changed our seats just so that we don't talk during class times. But then she started talking to the girl who she sat with, and didn't talk with me much, whenever I try to talk to her she always ignore me. So I also gave up on her and I started talking to my bench mate. But later our seats again got changed and I was sitting alone in the last bench, I didn't have anyone to talk with me, so I had a habit of talking to myself and singing songs when writing to comfort myself. Now I only have 2 friends in my french tuition, the school bathroom was my favourite place of the school. Like 2 weeks back I saw a video called 6 sighs to leave a best friend so I promised myself to never have a best friend in my life cause it's so heart breaking when a friend leaves u. If u do have a best friend u r very VERY lucky to have one, cause few of the world don't have a best friend. Do make sure they do not hurt u in the future.
Do not follow what I did but I had no choice but to do! t. I hope u have a happy life
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Ted
For me the issue has always been, damned if I do, damned if I don't. My family had (most are now gone, only my Mom is still alive) been very old-school, European in their outlook. You never talk to anyone about family issues or anything private which is pretty much anything they believe would make them look bad. Then, there is that gem of regardless of what your parents did to you, they are your parents and deserving, entitled to full respect from you. So, if I become the person I want to be, I am a horrible son. If I do as I was taught, I am miserable. Either way is a bad choice. I actually hold a masters degree in psychology so I know the issues and problems, the difficulty is in the prisoners dilemma a person is faced with under such circumstance. All the psychologists in the world can tell me it's my life and I should live it as I choose, however, reality tells me I would have to live with my Mom's disappointment and loathing until I shuffle off this mortal coil. The guilt itself would be debilitating. Good news is with my step-kids I am always encouraging them to be their genuine self and not give a wit what others think.
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For me the issue has always been, damned if I do, damned if I don't. My family had (most are now gone, only my Mom is still alive) been very old-school, European in their outlook. You never talk to anyone about family issues or anything private which is pretty much anything they believe would make them look bad. Then, there is that gem of regardless of what your parents did to you, they are your parents and deserving, entitled to full respect from you. So, if I become the person I want to be, I am a horrible son. If I do as I was taught, I am miserable. Either way is a bad choice. I actually hold a masters degree in psychology so I know the issues and problems, the difficulty is in the prisoners dilemma a person is faced with under such circumstance. All the psychologists in the world can tell me it's my life and I should live it as I choose, however, reality tells me I would have to live with my Mom's disappointment and loathing until I shuffle off this mortal coil. The guilt itself would be debilitating. Good news is with my step-kids I am always encouraging them to be their genuine self and not give a wit what others think.
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Ayaa
I really see myself in this video, except number 2.
I feel like why im addicted to sadness is because it gives me comfort. Its an emotion i have know for the biggest part of my life. I dont like feeling like that, but i also do like feeling like that. Even if i keep crying over nothing or things that happened, it feels like the comfort im getting from it makes me feel relieved. Its kind of makes me happy because its the thing that always there. I know this sounds a bit weird and not really healthy but for me its normal.
I have been feeling alot better since this year. Im happier then i have ever been and im still working on myself. I will feel sad alot of times but i finally have hope and i see a future. I still have alot to learn and alot to work on because i have alot of other things. This sadness will always be a part of me but its not the biggest thing in my life anymore. Though i have to admit, being happy out of nowhere still suprises me and feels weird but im glad its there.
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I really see myself in this video, except number 2.
I feel like why im addicted to sadness is because it gives me comfort. Its an emotion i have know for the biggest part of my life. I dont like feeling like that, but i also do like feeling like that. Even if i keep crying over nothing or things that happened, it feels like the comfort im getting from it makes me feel relieved. Its kind of makes me happy because its the thing that always there. I know this sounds a bit weird and not really healthy but for me its normal.
I have been feeling alot better since this year. Im happier then i have ever been and im still working on myself. I will feel sad alot of times but i finally have hope and i see a future. I still have alot to learn and alot to work on because i have alot of other things. This sadness will always be a part of me but its not the biggest thing in my life anymore. Though i have to admit, being happy out of nowhere still suprises me and feels weird but im glad its there.
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Nugget
None of those are true for me. For me. I can become addicted to sadness in order to run away from anger (my normal state. I am usually just angry all the time. I can fake happiness. But I cannot force true happiness to happen. True happiness does not happen by force. And welll if you think about it. Force = Anger. Anger is our emotion of POWER, of STRENGTH. Anger = Power. Can I make happiness with anger? I don't know? I mean I certainly feel pleasure in fighting. So anger can bring pleasure. But it's not joy, not happiness. I don't think we can choose to be happy. I think we can choose between anger and sadness. I go with sadness whenever I think I'm powerless. And I go with anger whenever I'm feeling POWERFULLLLL!
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None of those are true for me. For me. I can become addicted to sadness in order to run away from anger (my normal state. I am usually just angry all the time. I can fake happiness. But I cannot force true happiness to happen. True happiness does not happen by force. And welll if you think about it. Force = Anger. Anger is our emotion of POWER, of STRENGTH. Anger = Power. Can I make happiness with anger? I don't know? I mean I certainly feel pleasure in fighting. So anger can bring pleasure. But it's not joy, not happiness. I don't think we can choose to be happy. I think we can choose between anger and sadness. I go with sadness whenever I think I'm powerless. And I go with anger whenever I'm feeling POWERFULLLLL!
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Mikooki
I'm addicted to pain because pleasure distracts from getting better that's why theres hospitals plus temptation is why there's hospitals cause this world is tempting pleasure distracts from healing that's why hospitals have to be boring and because I'm used to it plus happiness does not last forever my happiness didnt I feel nothing now no emotions for me I don't care about anything anymore truth is everyone wants pleasure except me I act like I don't care what people think of me but deep down I love that they hate me cause good I don't need worthless shits to like me anyway
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I'm addicted to pain because pleasure distracts from getting better that's why theres hospitals plus temptation is why there's hospitals cause this world is tempting pleasure distracts from healing that's why hospitals have to be boring and because I'm used to it plus happiness does not last forever my happiness didnt I feel nothing now no emotions for me I don't care about anything anymore truth is everyone wants pleasure except me I act like I don't care what people think of me but deep down I love that they hate me cause good I don't need worthless shits to like me anyway
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Ominous
I'm not addicted to it. Sure I enjoy to cry to the saddest music ever. But I'm actually getting better. Despite I think your content is of high value and helped me and others going through a rough patch, I've started avoiding your video's. Why? Because I don't want to make or keep myself sad, in trauma, or depressed, by repeating the symptoms of sadness, trauma or loneliness over and over again. So, me avoiding your video's is actually a very good thing. A sign that I'm healing. And a good result of all that you do.
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I'm not addicted to it. Sure I enjoy to cry to the saddest music ever. But I'm actually getting better. Despite I think your content is of high value and helped me and others going through a rough patch, I've started avoiding your video's. Why? Because I don't want to make or keep myself sad, in trauma, or depressed, by repeating the symptoms of sadness, trauma or loneliness over and over again. So, me avoiding your video's is actually a very good thing. A sign that I'm healing. And a good result of all that you do.
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For
Everyone should practice the philosophy of antinatalism. Do not birth potential victims and criminals into this evil, corrupt world. I know that a lot of people in general and a lot of authorities in mental health are stoic, but stoicism won't fix or prevent mental illness, evil people, and wasted suffering. Allow people to have the right to die and preventing unnecessary risk through antinatalism will solve the world's suffering. Anybody who disagrees can gladly accept all the negative that life has to offer.
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Everyone should practice the philosophy of antinatalism. Do not birth potential victims and criminals into this evil, corrupt world. I know that a lot of people in general and a lot of authorities in mental health are stoic, but stoicism won't fix or prevent mental illness, evil people, and wasted suffering. Allow people to have the right to die and preventing unnecessary risk through antinatalism will solve the world's suffering. Anybody who disagrees can gladly accept all the negative that life has to offer.
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Kilvieo
I've been overcoming my sadness from Political Correctness. There's so many people out there who have taken what I say out of context, labeled me as something I'm not, and make me feel like a horrible worthless peice of crap who can't do or say anything right.
My mental health has been improving ever since I cut myself away from those people. But it's so hard not to give in and sacrifice everything about myself just so I'll fit into what's socially acceptable.
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I've been overcoming my sadness from Political Correctness. There's so many people out there who have taken what I say out of context, labeled me as something I'm not, and make me feel like a horrible worthless peice of crap who can't do or say anything right.
My mental health has been improving ever since I cut myself away from those people. But it's so hard not to give in and sacrifice everything about myself just so I'll fit into what's socially acceptable.
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Parn
Almost all of these resonate with me but I'm trying to be productive and not let sadness take over my being.
I know I can choose how I feel. I used to enjoy being sad and cry all nights, but I'm done with that now. Doesn't mean I won't ever cry, but I won't find solace in crying. I'll cry only when things become too overwhelming and that appears to be the only way to express myself even to my own self, and to come to terms with my emotions
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Almost all of these resonate with me but I'm trying to be productive and not let sadness take over my being.
I know I can choose how I feel. I used to enjoy being sad and cry all nights, but I'm done with that now. Doesn't mean I won't ever cry, but I won't find solace in crying. I'll cry only when things become too overwhelming and that appears to be the only way to express myself even to my own self, and to come to terms with my emotions
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That
I tried to tell my mom that I think I might have depression, I tried asking for help. She told me it was probably just hormones and growing up, and totally disregarded everything I told her. I honestly dont think normal heathy teenagers cry them self to sleep every night and think about un aliveing themselves almost everyday I guess Im wrong, I guess she knows why more then me because shes the adult with more life experience
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I tried to tell my mom that I think I might have depression, I tried asking for help. She told me it was probably just hormones and growing up, and totally disregarded everything I told her. I honestly dont think normal heathy teenagers cry them self to sleep every night and think about un aliveing themselves almost everyday I guess Im wrong, I guess she knows why more then me because shes the adult with more life experience
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Justin
If you're addicted to sadness maybe you just havent actually experienced that ground zero feeling of sadness yet mostly by traumatic events or anything. that you dont want to be in that place anymore. To be exposed in that kind of sadness, pushes you to be mature enough to strive for happiness and running away from that situation again. Intentionally dwelling in your sadness is so immature, and an ignorant move
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If you're addicted to sadness maybe you just havent actually experienced that ground zero feeling of sadness yet mostly by traumatic events or anything. that you dont want to be in that place anymore. To be exposed in that kind of sadness, pushes you to be mature enough to strive for happiness and running away from that situation again. Intentionally dwelling in your sadness is so immature, and an ignorant move
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Magical
But here's the thing I'm not sad I want to be sad I want to feel helpless and awful and I know its bad but when I'm sad it feels good I don't think as much I don't care as much and I'm less me and I love that I don't like feeling worried or scared but when your sad your empty and don't have to go through those emotions life is simple and I don't have to be stuck in my head all the time
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But here's the thing I'm not sad I want to be sad I want to feel helpless and awful and I know its bad but when I'm sad it feels good I don't think as much I don't care as much and I'm less me and I love that I don't like feeling worried or scared but when your sad your empty and don't have to go through those emotions life is simple and I don't have to be stuck in my head all the time
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Murilo
I believe that Gotye, in his classic masterpiece Somebody That I Used to Know, summed it up perfectly in this line:
You can get addicted to a certain kind of sadness.
That line stuck with me back when I was struggling with an abusive, toxic relationship. A relationship that I kept going for 7 years, because the fear of change was greater than the misery I felt every day.
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I believe that Gotye, in his classic masterpiece Somebody That I Used to Know, summed it up perfectly in this line:
You can get addicted to a certain kind of sadness.
That line stuck with me back when I was struggling with an abusive, toxic relationship. A relationship that I kept going for 7 years, because the fear of change was greater than the misery I felt every day.
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Venus
Addiction to sadness is a habit from the culture too. Growing up people love talking about sad events like the news too. As if its weird to talk about the good and happy things going on in life or the world. There should be more support gtoups whose goal is to talk about the good and happy things going on in life only. switch the negative sad habit of majority of people.
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Addiction to sadness is a habit from the culture too. Growing up people love talking about sad events like the news too. As if its weird to talk about the good and happy things going on in life or the world. There should be more support gtoups whose goal is to talk about the good and happy things going on in life only. switch the negative sad habit of majority of people.
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FReakisH
I guess I'm addicted to sadness because I'm a catastrophe thinker. I always believe if I get something happy the worst possible thing will happen to it (it has happened so many times to me that it's hardwired in my head) and it will go away
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I just listen to my favorite songs(mostly sad songs or meaningful songs I like to believe) to deal with it
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I guess I'm addicted to sadness because I'm a catastrophe thinker. I always believe if I get something happy the worst possible thing will happen to it (it has happened so many times to me that it's hardwired in my head) and it will go away
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I just listen to my favorite songs(mostly sad songs or meaningful songs I like to believe) to deal with it
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Julian
Yeah i got hospitalized against my will for opening up, and lost friends doing the same. I honestly live out of spite and happiness is fleeting and very difficult to maintain. Life is brutal and its best not to desire for it to be any other way. Just build yourself into something that can survive and forget all things that are lost in the process.
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Yeah i got hospitalized against my will for opening up, and lost friends doing the same. I honestly live out of spite and happiness is fleeting and very difficult to maintain. Life is brutal and its best not to desire for it to be any other way. Just build yourself into something that can survive and forget all things that are lost in the process.
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White
This video made me realize that I do have some unresolved issues and guilt. I do tend to punish myself by refusing simple things that I know would make me happy. And if I do end up accepting them, I feel guilty that I did. Can you please make a video on why people become unable to make progress and achieve things, even if they try their hardest?
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This video made me realize that I do have some unresolved issues and guilt. I do tend to punish myself by refusing simple things that I know would make me happy. And if I do end up accepting them, I feel guilty that I did. Can you please make a video on why people become unable to make progress and achieve things, even if they try their hardest?
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Daniel
1: 24 the comment on the bottom of the screen. I kinda get where the person is coming from that the sadness is annoying and hurts but it's a comfort zone. when I'm having moments when I'm not so consumed by the sadness it doesn't feel right I feel like I don't deserve it like why do I deserve to feel good I didn't do anything to deserve it
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1: 24 the comment on the bottom of the screen. I kinda get where the person is coming from that the sadness is annoying and hurts but it's a comfort zone. when I'm having moments when I'm not so consumed by the sadness it doesn't feel right I feel like I don't deserve it like why do I deserve to feel good I didn't do anything to deserve it
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Alouette
I guess in my case, i want to feel sad because i just feel so small compared to anyone actually having ''real'' problems. Sometimes i feel guilty for being happy because i don't think i deserve it. And yes i do have traumatic events which may affect me more than the others for being such an HSP.
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I guess in my case, i want to feel sad because i just feel so small compared to anyone actually having ''real'' problems. Sometimes i feel guilty for being happy because i don't think i deserve it. And yes i do have traumatic events which may affect me more than the others for being such an HSP.
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AP
I'd rather cry my eyes out than feel hollow. It's basically a defensive mechanism for me. This is not rooted in experimentation, of course, so it cannot really be trusted. Just my experience. South Park nailed this idea in the episode Raisins. Recommend it for anyone going through a breakup like I am.
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I'd rather cry my eyes out than feel hollow. It's basically a defensive mechanism for me. This is not rooted in experimentation, of course, so it cannot really be trusted. Just my experience. South Park nailed this idea in the episode Raisins. Recommend it for anyone going through a breakup like I am.
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Marvel
This is very interesting. I go back to sadness because it feels like home to me. I feel like I forcefully use it in a while if my happiness does not really satisfy me and I feel nothing. I felt it was better to feel sadness rather than happiness which feels like emptiness.
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This is very interesting. I go back to sadness because it feels like home to me. I feel like I forcefully use it in a while if my happiness does not really satisfy me and I feel nothing. I felt it was better to feel sadness rather than happiness which feels like emptiness.
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Aldebaran
The ending of The Hunger Games: Mockingjay comes to mind on why Im kinda afraid to be happy: I'll tell them that on bad mornings, it feels impossible to take pleasure in anything because I'm afraid it could be taken away. That line resonates with me
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The ending of The Hunger Games: Mockingjay comes to mind on why Im kinda afraid to be happy: I'll tell them that on bad mornings, it feels impossible to take pleasure in anything because I'm afraid it could be taken away. That line resonates with me
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Bao
This topic is truly relate to my wondering for a really long time that im prefer sadness to happiness and it has become a part of me. And i felt a little ease to know that therere pp like me out there, and relatable from the reason mentioned in the video
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This topic is truly relate to my wondering for a really long time that im prefer sadness to happiness and it has become a part of me. And i felt a little ease to know that therere pp like me out there, and relatable from the reason mentioned in the video
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Foxy
I have solved my own depression a while ago, including my other mental illnesses thst have been undiagosed. I see so many people sad and can't fix themselves or let others try and help, so this video helps a lot with my explaining, thank you!
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I have solved my own depression a while ago, including my other mental illnesses thst have been undiagosed. I see so many people sad and can't fix themselves or let others try and help, so this video helps a lot with my explaining, thank you!
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Balabhadra
I would say, in my own experience with bipolar, having a diagnosed mental health issue can cause a sadness that seems to be impossible to recover from. Even with, and sometimes especially because of, pharmaceutical medication.
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I would say, in my own experience with bipolar, having a diagnosed mental health issue can cause a sadness that seems to be impossible to recover from. Even with, and sometimes especially because of, pharmaceutical medication.
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