7 Signs You Might Be Dating a Sociopath
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Corey
Well the first sign may occur, depending on the sociopath. Though some sociopaths may be socialized to avoid outright breaking the law or overt aggressive behaviors. So it can depend. But because they don't have a conscience, they are much more prone to a higher probability of engaging in these behaviors. Deceptiveness is DEFINITELY a big sign. They're typically very capable of deceiving others in a variety of ways. They are even very interpersonally deceptive. For example, a Sociopath may date or even be married to someone who has absolutely no idea that his/her partner is a Sociopath. It's helpful to look at how they behave towards others, not just how they behave toward you. Sociopaths though, will often lie about what actually happened and have excuses. Yes irresponsible behaviors and/or wreckless, or thrill seeking may be more pronounced in sociopaths compared to neurotypical people. The first thing to look at, when dating someone is lack of genuine empathy. Sociopaths can be cognitively empathetic, but not actually relate to you. This usually will show up in the form of you feeling very alone much of the time in the relationship. They may not be as emotionally sympathetic, they may be emotionally negligent often times, they may be insensitive. Many people who talk about what it was like to date a sociopath said that they felt envious of other couples, who actually seemed to have a real connection. So even if the sociopath comes home to you, and you're in a long term relationship with one, you likely will still feel a very real sense of being alone somehow. This is due to lack of empathy. That's your first clue. Sociopaths may not be violent or abusive to you until or unless they have a goal that involves hurting you in some way. But then, they're dangerous.
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Well the first sign may occur, depending on the sociopath. Though some sociopaths may be socialized to avoid outright breaking the law or overt aggressive behaviors. So it can depend. But because they don't have a conscience, they are much more prone to a higher probability of engaging in these behaviors. Deceptiveness is DEFINITELY a big sign. They're typically very capable of deceiving others in a variety of ways. They are even very interpersonally deceptive. For example, a Sociopath may date or even be married to someone who has absolutely no idea that his/her partner is a Sociopath. It's helpful to look at how they behave towards others, not just how they behave toward you. Sociopaths though, will often lie about what actually happened and have excuses. Yes irresponsible behaviors and/or wreckless, or thrill seeking may be more pronounced in sociopaths compared to neurotypical people. The first thing to look at, when dating someone is lack of genuine empathy. Sociopaths can be cognitively empathetic, but not actually relate to you. This usually will show up in the form of you feeling very alone much of the time in the relationship. They may not be as emotionally sympathetic, they may be emotionally negligent often times, they may be insensitive. Many people who talk about what it was like to date a sociopath said that they felt envious of other couples, who actually seemed to have a real connection. So even if the sociopath comes home to you, and you're in a long term relationship with one, you likely will still feel a very real sense of being alone somehow. This is due to lack of empathy. That's your first clue. Sociopaths may not be violent or abusive to you until or unless they have a goal that involves hurting you in some way. But then, they're dangerous.
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Meanness
I immediately thought about one person who is a coordinator in a foundation. Yes. A person who joined a group of people helping others fits this perfectly. I wanted to be a volonteer to get money for the kid foundation is helping, earning something was just side effect and I spent everything on gifts for dad (ok, I bought some clothes and books for me too, also for cat and dog) but she kept talking about how much we can earn. Talking only about earning money, not mentioning the kid, only telling us to never tell we can earn money on it, told us that people will give more if we would say it all goes for the kid. She also never gave back things she borrowed. Also once we saw a ring just next to her and only after someone mentioned it she said someone could lose it. But she kept it next to her all the time. I was kicked out after I asked her how much money she really gives to foundation. She kept yelling that I should be grateful that she let me work for her because without her I wouldn't be able to buy meds (I bought meds with my dad's retirement money, I buy them every month) and I shouldn't accuse her for anything. Also when I collapsed first time at work she helped in front of everyone. But when I collapsed the second time she wasn't there (she should be, she should make sure we work) and only messaged me that I'm causing troubles. So only money mattered. Not the child. Not us. Nothing. Just money.
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I immediately thought about one person who is a coordinator in a foundation. Yes. A person who joined a group of people helping others fits this perfectly. I wanted to be a volonteer to get money for the kid foundation is helping, earning something was just side effect and I spent everything on gifts for dad (ok, I bought some clothes and books for me too, also for cat and dog) but she kept talking about how much we can earn. Talking only about earning money, not mentioning the kid, only telling us to never tell we can earn money on it, told us that people will give more if we would say it all goes for the kid. She also never gave back things she borrowed. Also once we saw a ring just next to her and only after someone mentioned it she said someone could lose it. But she kept it next to her all the time. I was kicked out after I asked her how much money she really gives to foundation. She kept yelling that I should be grateful that she let me work for her because without her I wouldn't be able to buy meds (I bought meds with my dad's retirement money, I buy them every month) and I shouldn't accuse her for anything. Also when I collapsed first time at work she helped in front of everyone. But when I collapsed the second time she wasn't there (she should be, she should make sure we work) and only messaged me that I'm causing troubles. So only money mattered. Not the child. Not us. Nothing. Just money.
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user-mz1wm
Im pretty sure I dated a sociopath a few years ago, but I dont know enough about sociopathy to be sure.
We dated for about a year and a half, and throughout it, there were certain red flags that continuously popped up but that I chose to ignore. For example, she told me that a couple years prior (she would have been about 14-15) she was mad at her sister and messed with her toothpaste to stain her mouth. Her parents would also tell me funny stories from when she was a young child such as that when she wanted something her sister had, she would trick her sister into believing that what she had was better and that they should trade. Pure manipulation from an early age. That incident was when she was really young, probably 7-8.
During our relationship and before it, she would steal money from her parents wallets and justify it by saying that they dont treat her well enough and would laugh it off. I tried to laugh it off but it really concerned me. However the worst was how she treated meconstantly getting mad at me for small things or things she believed I did. She would gaslight me and manipulate me. She treated me horribly and after a year and a half, I had finally had enough. This isnt everything that happened, but can anyone tell me if this is sociopathy? Ive been very curious about this since the idea popped into my head a few months back.
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Im pretty sure I dated a sociopath a few years ago, but I dont know enough about sociopathy to be sure.
We dated for about a year and a half, and throughout it, there were certain red flags that continuously popped up but that I chose to ignore. For example, she told me that a couple years prior (she would have been about 14-15) she was mad at her sister and messed with her toothpaste to stain her mouth. Her parents would also tell me funny stories from when she was a young child such as that when she wanted something her sister had, she would trick her sister into believing that what she had was better and that they should trade. Pure manipulation from an early age. That incident was when she was really young, probably 7-8.
During our relationship and before it, she would steal money from her parents wallets and justify it by saying that they dont treat her well enough and would laugh it off. I tried to laugh it off but it really concerned me. However the worst was how she treated meconstantly getting mad at me for small things or things she believed I did. She would gaslight me and manipulate me. She treated me horribly and after a year and a half, I had finally had enough. This isnt everything that happened, but can anyone tell me if this is sociopathy? Ive been very curious about this since the idea popped into my head a few months back.
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werewolfo
I actually engaged a (long distance) friendship with someone who still is unclear if he's a schizophrenic or sociopath. Being an Asperger, I always recognise them later. I counted the symptoms in this video. On 7 points, he scored 11 traits. The fact is: he seems to be nice to me any looking up to me when a problem comes out and since I like to help people I rarely say no to that.
Then he became to be time abusing (at the point he uses me all day long to ask even idiotic things) and if I try to detach he manipulate me. If I force myself to have a me time, else I will have a shutdown, he starts to be mean and insults me.
When I didn't agree with him he tried to manipulate reality and myself, telling me stop behaving so autistic and read what I wrote, you don't understand.
Two days ago he went to the psychiatrist and got an antipsychotic prescribed.
He told me an event of the past and we finished to verbally fight and what came out is a concentrate of this video.
How can I now detach myself, even slowly, bringing back the balance there once were? He seems a good boy who had a bad past and who needs help. Or that is what he told me.
I don't know what to do.
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I actually engaged a (long distance) friendship with someone who still is unclear if he's a schizophrenic or sociopath. Being an Asperger, I always recognise them later. I counted the symptoms in this video. On 7 points, he scored 11 traits. The fact is: he seems to be nice to me any looking up to me when a problem comes out and since I like to help people I rarely say no to that.
Then he became to be time abusing (at the point he uses me all day long to ask even idiotic things) and if I try to detach he manipulate me. If I force myself to have a me time, else I will have a shutdown, he starts to be mean and insults me.
When I didn't agree with him he tried to manipulate reality and myself, telling me stop behaving so autistic and read what I wrote, you don't understand.
Two days ago he went to the psychiatrist and got an antipsychotic prescribed.
He told me an event of the past and we finished to verbally fight and what came out is a concentrate of this video.
How can I now detach myself, even slowly, bringing back the balance there once were? He seems a good boy who had a bad past and who needs help. Or that is what he told me.
I don't know what to do.
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WeLoveMusic1993
I believe I'm a sociopath. I'm 30, figured out i was different at a young age. I've attempted murders, but never suceeded (I can be reasoned with. I enjoy hurting people, i think about it everyday. For the most part, i stay in control of my actions that might make me stand out. Every once in while, a little part of me comes out, the side that is being repressed. My behavior gets worst with these outbursts. I know they get worst because my actions become impulsive to the point where cops would notice me. They haven't yet, an example of the most recent thing i've done was attempt a car to crash. They ended up smashing their front head light and bumper. I ran a red light to get away, drove to a busy parking lot to lay low. after 10 minutes or so, i drove home like it was any other day. No regrets. I shared this story with my co-worker, he was shocked. i found his reaction amusing.
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I believe I'm a sociopath. I'm 30, figured out i was different at a young age. I've attempted murders, but never suceeded (I can be reasoned with. I enjoy hurting people, i think about it everyday. For the most part, i stay in control of my actions that might make me stand out. Every once in while, a little part of me comes out, the side that is being repressed. My behavior gets worst with these outbursts. I know they get worst because my actions become impulsive to the point where cops would notice me. They haven't yet, an example of the most recent thing i've done was attempt a car to crash. They ended up smashing their front head light and bumper. I ran a red light to get away, drove to a busy parking lot to lay low. after 10 minutes or so, i drove home like it was any other day. No regrets. I shared this story with my co-worker, he was shocked. i found his reaction amusing.
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Missys
I stayed in a terrible relationship for years with a sociopath because I was weak. I finally got out, but those years with him had def taken their tole. It's now been almost 9 years since that time but I still sometimes hear his antagonizing vulgar hateful voice putting me down when I am struggling emotionally, which is quite often over this past year. He literally killed my self-esteem, slowly and with pleasure. I also had family members who didn't care about how he treated me because of the things he did for them financially. He was big on buying people's love. I still hold hurt feelings and resentments towards them for that. They don't even know I feel this way because I never told them. It's not worth confronting them or even telling them at this point. We'll just remain distant relatives who barely talk.
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I stayed in a terrible relationship for years with a sociopath because I was weak. I finally got out, but those years with him had def taken their tole. It's now been almost 9 years since that time but I still sometimes hear his antagonizing vulgar hateful voice putting me down when I am struggling emotionally, which is quite often over this past year. He literally killed my self-esteem, slowly and with pleasure. I also had family members who didn't care about how he treated me because of the things he did for them financially. He was big on buying people's love. I still hold hurt feelings and resentments towards them for that. They don't even know I feel this way because I never told them. It's not worth confronting them or even telling them at this point. We'll just remain distant relatives who barely talk.
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Never
I know someone who I think might be a sociopath, could someone abit more educated help me out abit?
So they have had a history of being mistreated since birth and always told to toughen up (Ive read that nurture is a big thing? Im honestly not sure, I just want to make sure my friend gets the right help since I care) and they where really angry and aggressive since young too, like stabbing people, hitting, biting and whatnot while also consistently lying to get others in trouble for enjoyment, and never fitted in at school no matter what, Im pretty sure they also have a history of animal abuse, robbery, stalking and animal murder aswell
I know its abit tmi but Im quite worried and i just want to give as much info as I think might be helpful? And I know all this from their parents and sibling, Thank you
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I know someone who I think might be a sociopath, could someone abit more educated help me out abit?
So they have had a history of being mistreated since birth and always told to toughen up (Ive read that nurture is a big thing? Im honestly not sure, I just want to make sure my friend gets the right help since I care) and they where really angry and aggressive since young too, like stabbing people, hitting, biting and whatnot while also consistently lying to get others in trouble for enjoyment, and never fitted in at school no matter what, Im pretty sure they also have a history of animal abuse, robbery, stalking and animal murder aswell
I know its abit tmi but Im quite worried and i just want to give as much info as I think might be helpful? And I know all this from their parents and sibling, Thank you
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axs1905
Have you heard of something that I like to sort of call Empathic Sociopaths. And yeah that really exists, it's people who can both be able and ready to both brutally kill somebody one day if for whatever reason they had to or whatever, and then to probably just to go and do stuff such as going and talking about things like love and spirituality openly with a bunch of people the next and actually meaning every word of it too believe it or not, and I've seen it for myself. Seems like that would be the best of both worlds too, to have both the power to destroy a well as to heal, and it seems pretty rare that you ever really come across people like this in daily life. I'd even almost say that perhaps those empathic sociopaths are actually like the living gods amongst men.
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Have you heard of something that I like to sort of call Empathic Sociopaths. And yeah that really exists, it's people who can both be able and ready to both brutally kill somebody one day if for whatever reason they had to or whatever, and then to probably just to go and do stuff such as going and talking about things like love and spirituality openly with a bunch of people the next and actually meaning every word of it too believe it or not, and I've seen it for myself. Seems like that would be the best of both worlds too, to have both the power to destroy a well as to heal, and it seems pretty rare that you ever really come across people like this in daily life. I'd even almost say that perhaps those empathic sociopaths are actually like the living gods amongst men.
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George
My ex was like this, some days she was the sweetest thing alive and then some days I'd be walking on eggshells.
I'd always have to apologize for things I didn't do to prevent an argument, feel ashamed for showing affection, listen to her ranting about me and just agree with whatever it was.
She'd pick fights over nearly everything I did.
I devoted everything to her, I still love her if I'm honest. But she had been cheating with me for a while without my knowledge and then dumped me to be with him, of course telling me it was all my fault and she never really loved me anyway.
It's been half a year, I know she's never coming back, but she still talks to me occasionally, I still give her everything she asks, I still love her, I'm pathetic.
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My ex was like this, some days she was the sweetest thing alive and then some days I'd be walking on eggshells.
I'd always have to apologize for things I didn't do to prevent an argument, feel ashamed for showing affection, listen to her ranting about me and just agree with whatever it was.
She'd pick fights over nearly everything I did.
I devoted everything to her, I still love her if I'm honest. But she had been cheating with me for a while without my knowledge and then dumped me to be with him, of course telling me it was all my fault and she never really loved me anyway.
It's been half a year, I know she's never coming back, but she still talks to me occasionally, I still give her everything she asks, I still love her, I'm pathetic.
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Des
Not gonna lie, I suffer from a mood disorder. Some of these traits actually suit me. What I find to be ironic is how, Im very antisocial. As a matter of fact, the waiting in line and being impatient, described me. I get very irritable easily. For example, if I get startled, chances are, Ill jump and scream. Sometimes, Ill even yell or say WHATTT! Im not sure if I suffer from sociopathy, however, the traits do happen to suit me. Ill talk with my doctor about it. I mean. I have experienced these behaviors ever since I was a child.
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Not gonna lie, I suffer from a mood disorder. Some of these traits actually suit me. What I find to be ironic is how, Im very antisocial. As a matter of fact, the waiting in line and being impatient, described me. I get very irritable easily. For example, if I get startled, chances are, Ill jump and scream. Sometimes, Ill even yell or say WHATTT! Im not sure if I suffer from sociopathy, however, the traits do happen to suit me. Ill talk with my doctor about it. I mean. I have experienced these behaviors ever since I was a child.
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Gene
Thank You all at Psych2Go. Not to over step bound's, Martha Stout has four books on sociopathic behavior. When I found out about them it made life less in the fact that society has begun to embrace these aberrant individuals. The repulsiveness I have felt being around them is very demeaning. The information at time's is not enough to purge this growing population of unconscionable people. And at time's does not relieve a person from the burden's and stress of their behavior's.
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Thank You all at Psych2Go. Not to over step bound's, Martha Stout has four books on sociopathic behavior. When I found out about them it made life less in the fact that society has begun to embrace these aberrant individuals. The repulsiveness I have felt being around them is very demeaning. The information at time's is not enough to purge this growing population of unconscionable people. And at time's does not relieve a person from the burden's and stress of their behavior's.
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Boogie
man, I never realized how truly vile my ex was until I cut ties with them and stepped back to see the grand picture. I was too infatuated to notice all the signs. they showed empathy but later theyd tell me that they did it out of pity and to keep the person from bugging them any more. They were also hella manipulative; they asked for money, favors and other things without ever giving back. And man, the guilt tripping and gaslighting. It was crazy.
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man, I never realized how truly vile my ex was until I cut ties with them and stepped back to see the grand picture. I was too infatuated to notice all the signs. they showed empathy but later theyd tell me that they did it out of pity and to keep the person from bugging them any more. They were also hella manipulative; they asked for money, favors and other things without ever giving back. And man, the guilt tripping and gaslighting. It was crazy.
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Alexandra
The thing about sociopaths is that they are not gonna stay in a relationship for too long cause sticking to their mask is tiring. Even if people encounter an allegedly reformed individual, they still do not feel remorse nor any attachment to a person whatsoever. They may seem to be nice at first glance but that's because they want to get to know you and choose the best way to use you.
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The thing about sociopaths is that they are not gonna stay in a relationship for too long cause sticking to their mask is tiring. Even if people encounter an allegedly reformed individual, they still do not feel remorse nor any attachment to a person whatsoever. They may seem to be nice at first glance but that's because they want to get to know you and choose the best way to use you.
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Ifigenia
Ofcouse I am dating a damn sociopath. Before that it was 5 narcissists & couple of fullblown psychopaths. I though I knew it all but no. this current one came across diferently, and now I get it, hes a sociopath. After I run from him and the whole threats/burning my things/agression/calling my poor dad to resque me - shagang is over, I AM NEVER LETTING A MAN NEAR ME AGAIN.
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Ofcouse I am dating a damn sociopath. Before that it was 5 narcissists & couple of fullblown psychopaths. I though I knew it all but no. this current one came across diferently, and now I get it, hes a sociopath. After I run from him and the whole threats/burning my things/agression/calling my poor dad to resque me - shagang is over, I AM NEVER LETTING A MAN NEAR ME AGAIN.
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Aurora
All those comments about tolerance and how misunderstood socipaths are sound nice, except dating one or having to coexist with them for long periods may destroy lives and harm seriously one's mental and emotional health. I have zero empathy for those kind of people, if they don't have empathy or interests in others, why shoud I have it for them? It's just that easy.
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All those comments about tolerance and how misunderstood socipaths are sound nice, except dating one or having to coexist with them for long periods may destroy lives and harm seriously one's mental and emotional health. I have zero empathy for those kind of people, if they don't have empathy or interests in others, why shoud I have it for them? It's just that easy.
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Egg2
I think I might be a sociopath, but I still can't help but to feel concern and care for others around me, is it just because I love the feeling of making them happy? Or am I just selfish and love hearing them telling me how much of a great person I am? I genuinely don't know. there are so many things I've yet to known about myself.
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I think I might be a sociopath, but I still can't help but to feel concern and care for others around me, is it just because I love the feeling of making them happy? Or am I just selfish and love hearing them telling me how much of a great person I am? I genuinely don't know. there are so many things I've yet to known about myself.
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WhatTheCharms
My boyfriend is a sociopath and I've known this ever since I've met him. And to be honest, I love him regardless. They hurt really bad when he does things to me but I understand that he cant help it. However, does anybody here know any uhmm. advice? For dating someone like this?
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My boyfriend is a sociopath and I've known this ever since I've met him. And to be honest, I love him regardless. They hurt really bad when he does things to me but I understand that he cant help it. However, does anybody here know any uhmm. advice? For dating someone like this?
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Maddox
I watched this video because Ive had some concerns for myself I have pretty much done all these things on the list but I always just thought everyone does it too every once in a while Ive had a rough childhood and choose to block my true feelings and it leads to this is can I fix it?
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I watched this video because Ive had some concerns for myself I have pretty much done all these things on the list but I always just thought everyone does it too every once in a while Ive had a rough childhood and choose to block my true feelings and it leads to this is can I fix it?
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Unknown
I dunno but I feel like I'm a sociopath: cc I easily got upset about something and my bf is the one who's suffering: c I won't be surprised if he will leave me. He is my greatest love and I'm trying my very best way to be better, not just for him but most especially for myself.
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I dunno but I feel like I'm a sociopath: cc I easily got upset about something and my bf is the one who's suffering: c I won't be surprised if he will leave me. He is my greatest love and I'm trying my very best way to be better, not just for him but most especially for myself.
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Anon
Yep. My boyfriend is a sociopath. A lot to process rn. Thank you for making this information accessible
edit: he's not diagnosed with it. I'm just assuming. Because it answers a lot of questions and ties together a lot of scary behaviours he's covered up.
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Yep. My boyfriend is a sociopath. A lot to process rn. Thank you for making this information accessible
edit: he's not diagnosed with it. I'm just assuming. Because it answers a lot of questions and ties together a lot of scary behaviours he's covered up.
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Shashaping
I just care for the people who's close to me, but I don't really feel anything for other people, sometimes I can be also manipulative and dishonest, but at least I don't easily get irritated, I'm usually calm, so maybe I'm still safe?
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I just care for the people who's close to me, but I don't really feel anything for other people, sometimes I can be also manipulative and dishonest, but at least I don't easily get irritated, I'm usually calm, so maybe I'm still safe?
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Dilanger
My wife is Sociopath, and I love her. When one of the these traits come out, I point it out. They are not all bad when they recognize the problem and wants to improve. There is no such thing as good and evil it is us that make it so.
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My wife is Sociopath, and I love her. When one of the these traits come out, I point it out. They are not all bad when they recognize the problem and wants to improve. There is no such thing as good and evil it is us that make it so.
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education
was in a relationship with a sociopath, and this video explained a lot of what he was like. I'm still trying to get back on track with my life without thinking about the harm he caused right before I ended us.
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was in a relationship with a sociopath, and this video explained a lot of what he was like. I'm still trying to get back on track with my life without thinking about the harm he caused right before I ended us.
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Why
Up until one minute in exactly,
I sound like a sociopath.
Im just a good actor guys, trust me, I feel like shit.
I seem uncaring, but I literally can barely read your face without focusing intensely.
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Up until one minute in exactly,
I sound like a sociopath.
Im just a good actor guys, trust me, I feel like shit.
I seem uncaring, but I literally can barely read your face without focusing intensely.
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Drek-moon
The guy I was with overheard me listening to this and angrily told me to Shut it off! (but not when I was listening to music) tells me he knew it describes his behaviors toward me but he couldn't face it.
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The guy I was with overheard me listening to this and angrily told me to Shut it off! (but not when I was listening to music) tells me he knew it describes his behaviors toward me but he couldn't face it.
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