5 Signs You Are A Good Friend To Others
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Date: 2023-08-20
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divuhh
i have a friend (lets call her A) thats really awesome. i cherish her dearly and I think she is really amazing. we share similar interests like kpop, drawing, belief in God, etc. but there's one slight problem. she doesn't listen. its like whenever we are having a supposed conversation, it feels so one sided. most of the times when we are together I just let her ramble on because I know if I speak she wont even remember half of what I said. i'd say I'm a pretty observant person, and i realise she does this with our other friends aswell. she also talks over people aloooooot, for instance, we have this very shy friend, shes a lil weird but whenever she speaks we all quiet down and listen to her. but A doesn't. she speaks over her or maybe butts into the conversation to switch to a different topic, it gets so annoying that i want to lash out on her but i know that she is very sensitive and cries for the simplest things, so I'm not sure how to approach it. the theory i have as to why she acts this way is because she has a lot of siblings. and she is the second youngest. my mind is telling me that she isn't really paid attention to at home and comes to school and projects that. she feels as if shes in a race to convey her thoughts and ideas or else she will be forgotten, but in the end she just invalidates everyone else. i love her dearly and idk what to dooooooo, i want to tell her that her thoughts matter but she needs to realise so does other peoples thoughts aswell
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i have a friend (lets call her A) thats really awesome. i cherish her dearly and I think she is really amazing. we share similar interests like kpop, drawing, belief in God, etc. but there's one slight problem. she doesn't listen. its like whenever we are having a supposed conversation, it feels so one sided. most of the times when we are together I just let her ramble on because I know if I speak she wont even remember half of what I said. i'd say I'm a pretty observant person, and i realise she does this with our other friends aswell. she also talks over people aloooooot, for instance, we have this very shy friend, shes a lil weird but whenever she speaks we all quiet down and listen to her. but A doesn't. she speaks over her or maybe butts into the conversation to switch to a different topic, it gets so annoying that i want to lash out on her but i know that she is very sensitive and cries for the simplest things, so I'm not sure how to approach it. the theory i have as to why she acts this way is because she has a lot of siblings. and she is the second youngest. my mind is telling me that she isn't really paid attention to at home and comes to school and projects that. she feels as if shes in a race to convey her thoughts and ideas or else she will be forgotten, but in the end she just invalidates everyone else. i love her dearly and idk what to dooooooo, i want to tell her that her thoughts matter but she needs to realise so does other peoples thoughts aswell
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Anonymous
What if you and your friends have different opinions about what friendship is all about. What if you require different amount of things. What if they require more than what you can give, and you require less than what they give. Can a friendship still work out then? I've tried it, but it was exhausting for me and draining for them. I had to adapt to their habits and they had to anticipate my habits, because I was never honest to them about how I felt, until now. Mainly because I, myself, didn't know what I felt and how I worked as a person. To give you an insight of how it was: they wanted to hang out more than what I wanted. They wanted to talk more than what I wanted. For me, a friendship is about give and take, but what if you give less than what they give because that's how you are, what if you take more, even though you haven't asked for it. They will see you as a selfish person. A friendship for me is about always being there for each other. Even though I know it's not going to work out between me and my friends, I know that I'll always be there for them when they need me. I don't have to hang out with them every day or talk every day to feel this. I would really appreciate it if you posted your comments on this issue. It would help me see different aspects.
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What if you and your friends have different opinions about what friendship is all about. What if you require different amount of things. What if they require more than what you can give, and you require less than what they give. Can a friendship still work out then? I've tried it, but it was exhausting for me and draining for them. I had to adapt to their habits and they had to anticipate my habits, because I was never honest to them about how I felt, until now. Mainly because I, myself, didn't know what I felt and how I worked as a person. To give you an insight of how it was: they wanted to hang out more than what I wanted. They wanted to talk more than what I wanted. For me, a friendship is about give and take, but what if you give less than what they give because that's how you are, what if you take more, even though you haven't asked for it. They will see you as a selfish person. A friendship for me is about always being there for each other. Even though I know it's not going to work out between me and my friends, I know that I'll always be there for them when they need me. I don't have to hang out with them every day or talk every day to feel this. I would really appreciate it if you posted your comments on this issue. It would help me see different aspects.
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Sun_Ghost
I forgave her. I forgave her for something she had done wrong. She didn't. She didn't forgive me for something that she has never told me. She never tells me when i do something wrong. We used to be bestfriends, told us evrything, had hour long conversations about the weirdest stuff. Now she comes to me for venting, one sided conversations and tips and tricks on how to use computers and apps. We went through tough times and yet we always united. Then that day came. She started walking away when we saw eachother. Was i not good enough? Was i not pretty enough for her? Was not smart enough? What did i do wrong? I never knew and will never know. Yet i still have a little crush on her, she doesn't. I'd cut off my hand for her, but i'd hesitate.
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I forgave her. I forgave her for something she had done wrong. She didn't. She didn't forgive me for something that she has never told me. She never tells me when i do something wrong. We used to be bestfriends, told us evrything, had hour long conversations about the weirdest stuff. Now she comes to me for venting, one sided conversations and tips and tricks on how to use computers and apps. We went through tough times and yet we always united. Then that day came. She started walking away when we saw eachother. Was i not good enough? Was i not pretty enough for her? Was not smart enough? What did i do wrong? I never knew and will never know. Yet i still have a little crush on her, she doesn't. I'd cut off my hand for her, but i'd hesitate.
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Ashi
Question: should I forgive this one friend who only talks about herself isnt honest ditches me 24/7 for new friends manipulates me and when another friend and I got into a fight had the nerves to say Im sorry I sided with him not you you just always forgive me and I dont want to lose his friendship a friend who bullied me for a year a friend who caused more pain and fear then happiness a friend who made me move schools and turned the whole school against me a friend who recently said I already explained this. I dont like you. True, I dont like most people, but I especially dislike you. I could start my own religion based on how much I dislike you. Oh btw wait you already know this dont think we can be friends anymore bye?
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Question: should I forgive this one friend who only talks about herself isnt honest ditches me 24/7 for new friends manipulates me and when another friend and I got into a fight had the nerves to say Im sorry I sided with him not you you just always forgive me and I dont want to lose his friendship a friend who bullied me for a year a friend who caused more pain and fear then happiness a friend who made me move schools and turned the whole school against me a friend who recently said I already explained this. I dont like you. True, I dont like most people, but I especially dislike you. I could start my own religion based on how much I dislike you. Oh btw wait you already know this dont think we can be friends anymore bye?
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Random
Just needed to point this out. Being a good friend doesn't always mean saying YES to everything. Trust me, I've done that. I always thought that I'd be a bad friend if I didn't help them out. And it's partially true. You gotta help your friends. But, you gotta know when to say no. If you keep on saying yes, they will take advantage of you. This doesn't necessarily mean they are a bad friend and it's not usually because they want to take advantage of you, but it's because you gave them a chance to take advantage of yourself. So say yes to your friends but always know when to say no.
TL; DR: Don't always be a people pleaser
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Just needed to point this out. Being a good friend doesn't always mean saying YES to everything. Trust me, I've done that. I always thought that I'd be a bad friend if I didn't help them out. And it's partially true. You gotta help your friends. But, you gotta know when to say no. If you keep on saying yes, they will take advantage of you. This doesn't necessarily mean they are a bad friend and it's not usually because they want to take advantage of you, but it's because you gave them a chance to take advantage of yourself. So say yes to your friends but always know when to say no.
TL; DR: Don't always be a people pleaser
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TimeScore
Again I'm asking myself why I seem to be the only one trying to support or try to be there while the other side is fed up after I've complained about something that really bothers me. Or they just don't apologize and can't take criticism when I'm trying to bring it up. Getting upset when I say no or don't react. And yet I'm always the one that apologize because I can't deal with the feeling of someone being mad at me, no matter if it's my fault or not. I just wish I wouldn't come across those people or had the chance to avoid them but no, I feel like I'm always being tested: )
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Again I'm asking myself why I seem to be the only one trying to support or try to be there while the other side is fed up after I've complained about something that really bothers me. Or they just don't apologize and can't take criticism when I'm trying to bring it up. Getting upset when I say no or don't react. And yet I'm always the one that apologize because I can't deal with the feeling of someone being mad at me, no matter if it's my fault or not. I just wish I wouldn't come across those people or had the chance to avoid them but no, I feel like I'm always being tested: )
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Manosh
None of my friends are like this except 2 I know I have been distancing my self from them they think I'm hanging out with other people when I'm in my classroom all by my self doing work but mostly fall asleep and when I came back they just pushed me back and started insulting me and they even made this game that was kinda like spreading germs but they said If I touch them I give them ferries like really they even do it in front of me it's because I have 6 dogs which I don't regret I love my Dogs more than my friends they are the only friends I have
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None of my friends are like this except 2 I know I have been distancing my self from them they think I'm hanging out with other people when I'm in my classroom all by my self doing work but mostly fall asleep and when I came back they just pushed me back and started insulting me and they even made this game that was kinda like spreading germs but they said If I touch them I give them ferries like really they even do it in front of me it's because I have 6 dogs which I don't regret I love my Dogs more than my friends they are the only friends I have
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education
I was once friends with a person with BPD. We had a really beautiful friendship until the day she lashed out on me and I had a terrible reaction. I panicked and felt overwhelmed by her attack. I told her I didn't want to speak to her again. I finally calmed down and we talked though it, but after that conversation, she vanished. I think we were both to blame, but I know it was for the better. The breakup made me value and cherish my other friendships more than ever. I am still angry with her and sad that she dumped me, but I forgive us both.
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I was once friends with a person with BPD. We had a really beautiful friendship until the day she lashed out on me and I had a terrible reaction. I panicked and felt overwhelmed by her attack. I told her I didn't want to speak to her again. I finally calmed down and we talked though it, but after that conversation, she vanished. I think we were both to blame, but I know it was for the better. The breakup made me value and cherish my other friendships more than ever. I am still angry with her and sad that she dumped me, but I forgive us both.
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education
Then why do my friends think im a bad friend? when i follow all this? Shows know matter what you do, doesnt matter. some people are impossible to please. Some people dont like honesty, know matter how nicely i try to explain something. I also try to be there always but i guess its not appreciated or remembered. Im the best listener but they wont remember that until they come across someone who isnt. im forgiving and dont bring up the past but sometimes they have trouble letting go of my past mistakes. :(
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Then why do my friends think im a bad friend? when i follow all this? Shows know matter what you do, doesnt matter. some people are impossible to please. Some people dont like honesty, know matter how nicely i try to explain something. I also try to be there always but i guess its not appreciated or remembered. Im the best listener but they wont remember that until they come across someone who isnt. im forgiving and dont bring up the past but sometimes they have trouble letting go of my past mistakes. :(
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Leo
I guess, I'm actually A good friend, but I'm an introvert, which is why I can't hang out with my friends all the time (I also used to be scared to ask people to hang out with me, but I'm not anymore. Plus, I have ADHD, which causes me to spend a Lot of time with my tasks and work (because I get distracted easily and because I procrastinate a lot) and since I'm a perfectionist, I need to make it perfect. Amongst all of this, I often forget my friends, while I could actually need their company.
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I guess, I'm actually A good friend, but I'm an introvert, which is why I can't hang out with my friends all the time (I also used to be scared to ask people to hang out with me, but I'm not anymore. Plus, I have ADHD, which causes me to spend a Lot of time with my tasks and work (because I get distracted easily and because I procrastinate a lot) and since I'm a perfectionist, I need to make it perfect. Amongst all of this, I often forget my friends, while I could actually need their company.
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Michael
Being a good friend requires someone to enjoy silence, have gratitude for themselves and their friend. I think what makes an excellent friend is to be honest, making an effort to reconcile and see them at their best, and also to be independent too. Being indepedent and loving your own company is a fantastic way to be a great friend. & a really excellent friend will never make you prove how great you are as a friend. I am enough as a friend, and jsut being myself is enough.
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Being a good friend requires someone to enjoy silence, have gratitude for themselves and their friend. I think what makes an excellent friend is to be honest, making an effort to reconcile and see them at their best, and also to be independent too. Being indepedent and loving your own company is a fantastic way to be a great friend. & a really excellent friend will never make you prove how great you are as a friend. I am enough as a friend, and jsut being myself is enough.
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Holeshot
You are ignoring the very existence of the New York Accent. It almost requires interruption. The meaning of that interruption is: I understand what you are saying deeply and completely. Now it is time to move this conversation to its next point Please don't repeat your last point again. and again. and again. Lets move on to your next point, but not your last point over and over, again and again. This happens in many cultures that converse quickly.
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You are ignoring the very existence of the New York Accent. It almost requires interruption. The meaning of that interruption is: I understand what you are saying deeply and completely. Now it is time to move this conversation to its next point Please don't repeat your last point again. and again. and again. Lets move on to your next point, but not your last point over and over, again and again. This happens in many cultures that converse quickly.
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Diego
I try to be a good friend i may not be the best person in the world but I try all my best to make my friends feel comfortable around me and do anything i can to make them smile and happy and always will always remind them they can always come to me for support and love. I may not be popular or have 100 friends but i at least have a heart fot everyone thats in need of a support buddy for them and thats what matters.
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I try to be a good friend i may not be the best person in the world but I try all my best to make my friends feel comfortable around me and do anything i can to make them smile and happy and always will always remind them they can always come to me for support and love. I may not be popular or have 100 friends but i at least have a heart fot everyone thats in need of a support buddy for them and thats what matters.
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Chastity
Im glad I watched video because the other day I was just thinking about Am I a good friend and the more I thought about it the more anxious I got about if I did anything wrong or Im not supportive enough Im not there enough just a lot of small things i question and I had a mini panic attack on the verge of crying that was in front of people thank God for masks but thank you for your video help me
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Im glad I watched video because the other day I was just thinking about Am I a good friend and the more I thought about it the more anxious I got about if I did anything wrong or Im not supportive enough Im not there enough just a lot of small things i question and I had a mini panic attack on the verge of crying that was in front of people thank God for masks but thank you for your video help me
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deeyorn
As a person who thinks I'm a bad person all together I find this hard to believe some of my friends have said I overreact over apologize and ask if they still care too much I made a joke and upset them before and I have felt like this for a while but now I feel even worse
Edit: I as well forgive others too easily yet I never forgive myself
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As a person who thinks I'm a bad person all together I find this hard to believe some of my friends have said I overreact over apologize and ask if they still care too much I made a joke and upset them before and I have felt like this for a while but now I feel even worse
Edit: I as well forgive others too easily yet I never forgive myself
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Angel
I was having doubts over how good of a friend I am since I never had anyone I was truly close to, until recently. This puts my thoughts at ease in a sense, since Ive always strived to do these things. But also is quite sad to think about since it made me realize no ones ever really been a good friend to me. .
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I was having doubts over how good of a friend I am since I never had anyone I was truly close to, until recently. This puts my thoughts at ease in a sense, since Ive always strived to do these things. But also is quite sad to think about since it made me realize no ones ever really been a good friend to me. .
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Love
I ended a friendship a few months ago and though I think generally it was the best choice for both of us (being unhappy in the friendship wasn't making me a very good friend, and I'd brought my own hang ups and issues to the friendship) it still hurts. This video reminds me of what is important - thank you.
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I ended a friendship a few months ago and though I think generally it was the best choice for both of us (being unhappy in the friendship wasn't making me a very good friend, and I'd brought my own hang ups and issues to the friendship) it still hurts. This video reminds me of what is important - thank you.
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Kate
I have a question: I think for the most part I am a good friend, but I super jealous of their successes. Mostly its because I have body dysmorphia I think and Im jealous that their skinny, but I need to over come this. I dont let my jealousy show through but its still feels terrible on the inside.
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I have a question: I think for the most part I am a good friend, but I super jealous of their successes. Mostly its because I have body dysmorphia I think and Im jealous that their skinny, but I need to over come this. I dont let my jealousy show through but its still feels terrible on the inside.
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education
I'm always being a good friend to my bestie but. I feel I'm the one always trying to maintain the friendship, and i feel stressed around her. She's qlways sad, she wouldn't tell me why. She chooses to talk to a boy rathr than me she laughs with the boy than me.
Pls. I. Need. Help.
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I'm always being a good friend to my bestie but. I feel I'm the one always trying to maintain the friendship, and i feel stressed around her. She's qlways sad, she wouldn't tell me why. She chooses to talk to a boy rathr than me she laughs with the boy than me.
Pls. I. Need. Help.
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Seyphie123
A good friend won't make you guess whether you are important to them. A good way to gauge a friendship. Good friends you know you have each others backs, a bad friend you are unsure whether you can trust them. That can be very painful if you mistakenly put trust in them before.
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A good friend won't make you guess whether you are important to them. A good way to gauge a friendship. Good friends you know you have each others backs, a bad friend you are unsure whether you can trust them. That can be very painful if you mistakenly put trust in them before.
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Chisaten
Other people say they appreciate my friendship, but I feel like I can easily be a bad friend. If something goes wrong like them telling other people what I confided in them, that has me feel pain and also fear when interacting with them, which basically has me cut them off.
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Other people say they appreciate my friendship, but I feel like I can easily be a bad friend. If something goes wrong like them telling other people what I confided in them, that has me feel pain and also fear when interacting with them, which basically has me cut them off.
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Rosie
I do listen to them and pay full attention to what they say but I can't comfort and they just assume that I'm not there for them and I've told them I'm always paying attention but it's more like my fault since I just silent nod and stuff so but I literally dk how to comfort
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I do listen to them and pay full attention to what they say but I can't comfort and they just assume that I'm not there for them and I've told them I'm always paying attention but it's more like my fault since I just silent nod and stuff so but I literally dk how to comfort
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Katie
I need help, I want to be a better friend to my friends! Please give me advice on how to be a better friend and keep my friendships with my friends. lately, I being needy and a spoiled brat and bugging my friend and stress them out. please help me. I don't know what to do.
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I need help, I want to be a better friend to my friends! Please give me advice on how to be a better friend and keep my friendships with my friends. lately, I being needy and a spoiled brat and bugging my friend and stress them out. please help me. I don't know what to do.
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Spiren
I'm still not sure if I'm a 'good' friend. I know I try my best to be there and listen to others, and I always forgive them even if I shouldn't. However the other stuff, I struggle with, I know it but when I try to do the other stuff I get hurt and left to isolation.
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I'm still not sure if I'm a 'good' friend. I know I try my best to be there and listen to others, and I always forgive them even if I shouldn't. However the other stuff, I struggle with, I know it but when I try to do the other stuff I get hurt and left to isolation.
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ur
And you try to see things from their perspective
Haha naurr I don't I start blaming myself for not being able to offer enough comfort to my friend, which makes my deluded brain think that if I had been a better friend my friend would still be at least a little happy-
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And you try to see things from their perspective
Haha naurr I don't I start blaming myself for not being able to offer enough comfort to my friend, which makes my deluded brain think that if I had been a better friend my friend would still be at least a little happy-
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