6 Reasons Why People Ghost You
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Marty
I feel that ghosting is a far too commonly used passive aggressive tool that is used by way more people in the digital age we are living now than ever before. Social media, phones and texting allow far greater access to others than at any time in human history and we have not had a chance to adapt our collective social evolution. It's not that hard to understand why so many people are depressed, lonely or just pissed off in our world. Unlike our tribal past where for millions of years the conflicts or dislikes of one person toward another were worked out or not during daily contact, in modern life we have a far greater tool for hurting others; ghosting. In tribal times for hundreds of thousands of years, there may have been 20, 50, 100 individual people in out tribe, but the way we dealt with conflict, avoidance, envy, hatred, not to mention infatuation, and love, were far different than our modern experience. Unfortunately, we need a software update. Anyway, my advice to others and myself is to accept that we are not quite evolved enough yet to know how to handle rejection in a digital world. Let them go! If you are like me it really sucks when you stop reaching out to the people who have ghosted you, or have been breadcrumbing you, but only then will you slowly and painfully gain back your self-worth and dignity. Those who place themselves above others for some reason or just don't really want to spend time with you for whatever reason should be careful to stop bread-crumbing the people who seek their attention. It is hurtful. Sadly, I have been ghosted and or bread-crumbed by friends for some reason my whole life. I have allowed it. It is my own fault, my weakness and results in self hatred, self-judgement and grief. I surrender!
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I feel that ghosting is a far too commonly used passive aggressive tool that is used by way more people in the digital age we are living now than ever before. Social media, phones and texting allow far greater access to others than at any time in human history and we have not had a chance to adapt our collective social evolution. It's not that hard to understand why so many people are depressed, lonely or just pissed off in our world. Unlike our tribal past where for millions of years the conflicts or dislikes of one person toward another were worked out or not during daily contact, in modern life we have a far greater tool for hurting others; ghosting. In tribal times for hundreds of thousands of years, there may have been 20, 50, 100 individual people in out tribe, but the way we dealt with conflict, avoidance, envy, hatred, not to mention infatuation, and love, were far different than our modern experience. Unfortunately, we need a software update. Anyway, my advice to others and myself is to accept that we are not quite evolved enough yet to know how to handle rejection in a digital world. Let them go! If you are like me it really sucks when you stop reaching out to the people who have ghosted you, or have been breadcrumbing you, but only then will you slowly and painfully gain back your self-worth and dignity. Those who place themselves above others for some reason or just don't really want to spend time with you for whatever reason should be careful to stop bread-crumbing the people who seek their attention. It is hurtful. Sadly, I have been ghosted and or bread-crumbed by friends for some reason my whole life. I have allowed it. It is my own fault, my weakness and results in self hatred, self-judgement and grief. I surrender!
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Hello
But what about if you felt that person is kinda not interested in you and you really wanted to meet up with that person but he always found excuses? So then it's ok to just ghost him? Just asking, cuz I ghosted him cuz I couldn't take it anymore. I was disappointed cuz I really liked him. But what happened was, when he realized I blocked him he wrote me on my cell and asked why I did that and that he found it sad. So I explained him why, but he denied everything and made me look like the bad person. Still no meeting from his side: / and he was pissed after all (I think for him it was just ego thing; he couldn't take that ghosting and not because he actually really liked me. So after that we both did the silent treatment. And 2 days ago he deleted me. I feel really sad cuz I think I fell in love and he was always the one who told me that he would love to see me but always made excuses. I felt that he was multidating cuz we both met on bumble and he is younger than me. any recommendations about that anyone?
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But what about if you felt that person is kinda not interested in you and you really wanted to meet up with that person but he always found excuses? So then it's ok to just ghost him? Just asking, cuz I ghosted him cuz I couldn't take it anymore. I was disappointed cuz I really liked him. But what happened was, when he realized I blocked him he wrote me on my cell and asked why I did that and that he found it sad. So I explained him why, but he denied everything and made me look like the bad person. Still no meeting from his side: / and he was pissed after all (I think for him it was just ego thing; he couldn't take that ghosting and not because he actually really liked me. So after that we both did the silent treatment. And 2 days ago he deleted me. I feel really sad cuz I think I fell in love and he was always the one who told me that he would love to see me but always made excuses. I felt that he was multidating cuz we both met on bumble and he is younger than me. any recommendations about that anyone?
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ANTHROPOCENE
Read following books: games people play, the laws of human nature, 48 laws of power, power of seduction by Robert Green. And basic psychology books. Be mentally strong. And don't read them to manipulate others but to protect yourself from being manipulated.
And there is no as such thing as love and affection in nature, but they are only evolutionary means adapted by our brain in order to passon our genes.
Everything is struggle for survival and reproduction.
Educate and empower yourself.
Spaking by experience to go through all breakup and ghosting stuff was difficult untill i accepted the fact that i am suffering and tried to find out reasons causes for the same. At the end i ended up mentally strong.
Never let anyone take you for granted. Have self respect. Love yourself, your mental health.
These relationships are all illusion and never get attached.
Be self dependent self relaible self sustaining.
more. powerto you all my fellow homo sapiens.
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Read following books: games people play, the laws of human nature, 48 laws of power, power of seduction by Robert Green. And basic psychology books. Be mentally strong. And don't read them to manipulate others but to protect yourself from being manipulated.
And there is no as such thing as love and affection in nature, but they are only evolutionary means adapted by our brain in order to passon our genes.
Everything is struggle for survival and reproduction.
Educate and empower yourself.
Spaking by experience to go through all breakup and ghosting stuff was difficult untill i accepted the fact that i am suffering and tried to find out reasons causes for the same. At the end i ended up mentally strong.
Never let anyone take you for granted. Have self respect. Love yourself, your mental health.
These relationships are all illusion and never get attached.
Be self dependent self relaible self sustaining.
more. powerto you all my fellow homo sapiens.
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Ziggy
I think ghosting can be good sometimes. I ghosted a friend last year. It was always very difficult to talk to him because he would never give me a chance to actually talk and if I did talked, he would always cut me off by interrupting me and made everything about him. He was pretending to be someone hes not. He would visit me at work sometimes cuz he lived near the job I was working at that time and well he knew I was having some problems at work with a co worker, well he ended up telling that co worker about what I had told him, because of him, this coworker would bully me more than before. I blocked him because after that he still kept telling all of my co workers personal stuff about me thats not even work related. He crossed the line and I wasnt going to try to explain to him why his actions are wrong because there wasnt a point in explaining since hell just cut me off like he always does. I was just tired at that time of being cut off by not letting me talk
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I think ghosting can be good sometimes. I ghosted a friend last year. It was always very difficult to talk to him because he would never give me a chance to actually talk and if I did talked, he would always cut me off by interrupting me and made everything about him. He was pretending to be someone hes not. He would visit me at work sometimes cuz he lived near the job I was working at that time and well he knew I was having some problems at work with a co worker, well he ended up telling that co worker about what I had told him, because of him, this coworker would bully me more than before. I blocked him because after that he still kept telling all of my co workers personal stuff about me thats not even work related. He crossed the line and I wasnt going to try to explain to him why his actions are wrong because there wasnt a point in explaining since hell just cut me off like he always does. I was just tired at that time of being cut off by not letting me talk
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Tb
I ghost my friends bc i be in a phase where i feel like they're just putting up with me for the sake of the old times, or because they're attached to me for the same reason.
Some of them bc i feel like the friendship is going downhill and we're drifting away, and some of them its bc im the one who's putting up for the sake of old times, as for some i don't rlly feel a connection.
Im aware that im being selfish and toxic but i can't help but feeling drained the more i talk to them and it shows on me thru text, confronting them won't do either bc i'm already gloomy enough and i don't wanna cause drama, getting new friends won't do either i tried but the same thing just happens.
Ghosting is really the only way i could feel a bit better or recharge energy to be able to talk to them. I guess im just not made to have friends but i can't really live alone.
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I ghost my friends bc i be in a phase where i feel like they're just putting up with me for the sake of the old times, or because they're attached to me for the same reason.
Some of them bc i feel like the friendship is going downhill and we're drifting away, and some of them its bc im the one who's putting up for the sake of old times, as for some i don't rlly feel a connection.
Im aware that im being selfish and toxic but i can't help but feeling drained the more i talk to them and it shows on me thru text, confronting them won't do either bc i'm already gloomy enough and i don't wanna cause drama, getting new friends won't do either i tried but the same thing just happens.
Ghosting is really the only way i could feel a bit better or recharge energy to be able to talk to them. I guess im just not made to have friends but i can't really live alone.
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Rainbow
Sadly I've been a victim of this and sometimes I have regrettably and foolishly done the same, so the next part I'm going to share probably sounds like a healthy dose of karma, depending which way you look at it.
A makeup artist who promised to help me get started with cosplay back in 2017 suddenly ghosted me.
Same goes for these investigators who promised earlier this year they'd help me settle my side of things and help me trace my family tree. Again no reply from them since.
And finally three famous mind readers who failed to fulfill their promises of helping me describe thoughts that are bothering me that are hard to put into words.
Ffs yes I'm in the wrong and no saint, but at least I'm doing my best to mend any errors I made in the past.
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Sadly I've been a victim of this and sometimes I have regrettably and foolishly done the same, so the next part I'm going to share probably sounds like a healthy dose of karma, depending which way you look at it.
A makeup artist who promised to help me get started with cosplay back in 2017 suddenly ghosted me.
Same goes for these investigators who promised earlier this year they'd help me settle my side of things and help me trace my family tree. Again no reply from them since.
And finally three famous mind readers who failed to fulfill their promises of helping me describe thoughts that are bothering me that are hard to put into words.
Ffs yes I'm in the wrong and no saint, but at least I'm doing my best to mend any errors I made in the past.
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Adrian
Ghosting is one of the most cruel and heinous psychological mind fks one human being can inflict on another and should only ever be used against someone who is abusive or violent. I was ghosted by my best friend of 39 years and it really hurt, I was lucky eventually I got an explanation of sorts and although it was a crappy explanation reading between the lines it was pretty obvious the issue had absolutely nothing to do with me, I suspect my former friend has either relationship issues with their spouse or mental health issues perhaps even both. If you've been ghosted and rejected my advice is take as long as you need to recover, give yourself permission to be sad and to grieve and ignore those who try to minimise or play down your feelings.
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Ghosting is one of the most cruel and heinous psychological mind fks one human being can inflict on another and should only ever be used against someone who is abusive or violent. I was ghosted by my best friend of 39 years and it really hurt, I was lucky eventually I got an explanation of sorts and although it was a crappy explanation reading between the lines it was pretty obvious the issue had absolutely nothing to do with me, I suspect my former friend has either relationship issues with their spouse or mental health issues perhaps even both. If you've been ghosted and rejected my advice is take as long as you need to recover, give yourself permission to be sad and to grieve and ignore those who try to minimise or play down your feelings.
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Mya
I feel fundamentally broke when I pick low quality people because that's all I seem to attract, and of course they ghost eventually once they've satisfied their quota and are too chicken and low quality to have an actual adult conversation and take accountability. What is wrong with my picker? Yes I've ghosted, but only with people I barely knew. I would never think to be such a parasitic gutless human that would ghost someone who they've known longer and mooched off MY loving energy, without proper explanation. It's immature and extremely selfish. How do I always en up being the overburdened, hard working, overly caring one that gets nothing in return but no clear way out either?
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I feel fundamentally broke when I pick low quality people because that's all I seem to attract, and of course they ghost eventually once they've satisfied their quota and are too chicken and low quality to have an actual adult conversation and take accountability. What is wrong with my picker? Yes I've ghosted, but only with people I barely knew. I would never think to be such a parasitic gutless human that would ghost someone who they've known longer and mooched off MY loving energy, without proper explanation. It's immature and extremely selfish. How do I always en up being the overburdened, hard working, overly caring one that gets nothing in return but no clear way out either?
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ems
There should be a distinction with types of ghosting. Never texting someone back that you matched with on a dating site but never met in person, isn't really a big deal. It might sting a little, but you forget about it fast.
Now, if you're dating someone you have known for years and then one day, you text them a few times, and your messages don't say delivered, only for you to call and it goes straight to voicemail, and it hits you that this person decided to cut you off with no closure. that is the ultimate betrayal and will leave you questioning yourself, your self worth, what you could've done differently, for months.
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There should be a distinction with types of ghosting. Never texting someone back that you matched with on a dating site but never met in person, isn't really a big deal. It might sting a little, but you forget about it fast.
Now, if you're dating someone you have known for years and then one day, you text them a few times, and your messages don't say delivered, only for you to call and it goes straight to voicemail, and it hits you that this person decided to cut you off with no closure. that is the ultimate betrayal and will leave you questioning yourself, your self worth, what you could've done differently, for months.
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Allebasai
Honestly. ghosting is so immature and mean! I always try to answer even when I'm busy, I'm literally occupied 24/7 but if I have the time to answer texts while I'm taking a crap, I will! And I will always clarify that I didn't have time and that's why I'm answering late, or if I'm not emotionally available I ask them to give me time or tell them I'll answer to them later in the day or tomorrow. THIS IS JUST BASIC. You really have no excuse. if you don't want to be around the person you're talking to, SAY IT!
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Honestly. ghosting is so immature and mean! I always try to answer even when I'm busy, I'm literally occupied 24/7 but if I have the time to answer texts while I'm taking a crap, I will! And I will always clarify that I didn't have time and that's why I'm answering late, or if I'm not emotionally available I ask them to give me time or tell them I'll answer to them later in the day or tomorrow. THIS IS JUST BASIC. You really have no excuse. if you don't want to be around the person you're talking to, SAY IT!
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kitty
can somebody help me I ghost everybody my bff my family school friends. etc I just ghost them cuz they drain me, it is not that i am afraid or i want to end the relationship it is just they drain me and after like 3m-1y i talk to them again, it is unhealthy, i am 15 too so prob cuz of hormones, and prob for another reason, I wasn't given lots of attention nor lots of love, i was used most of my life, so i think subconsciously I am ghosting them for my own safety ig, thb idk can somebody help me
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can somebody help me I ghost everybody my bff my family school friends. etc I just ghost them cuz they drain me, it is not that i am afraid or i want to end the relationship it is just they drain me and after like 3m-1y i talk to them again, it is unhealthy, i am 15 too so prob cuz of hormones, and prob for another reason, I wasn't given lots of attention nor lots of love, i was used most of my life, so i think subconsciously I am ghosting them for my own safety ig, thb idk can somebody help me
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Centrist
There are only 2 valid excuses I can think of for ghosting:
1) the 'ghoster' feels further communication puts them in danger
2) the ghoster has been in a serious accident/is seriously ill and literally can't communicate
NOTHING else is justifiable to just cut off someone that cared about you?
Personal problems? Family tragedy? No connection? There are ways to explain all those things. Even a little white lie is better than ghosting.
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There are only 2 valid excuses I can think of for ghosting:
1) the 'ghoster' feels further communication puts them in danger
2) the ghoster has been in a serious accident/is seriously ill and literally can't communicate
NOTHING else is justifiable to just cut off someone that cared about you?
Personal problems? Family tragedy? No connection? There are ways to explain all those things. Even a little white lie is better than ghosting.
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ERSatz,
I lost someone very close to my heart last month. the day after my birthday. I'm in the absolute deepest depression of my life and I'm sad to admit that I've ghosted just about everyone I care about. I feel so guilty but I just don't want to be alve anymore and all the love I had has been pouring out of me with every tear and the tears just aren't stopping. I wish I didn't do that but idk what to do anymore
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I lost someone very close to my heart last month. the day after my birthday. I'm in the absolute deepest depression of my life and I'm sad to admit that I've ghosted just about everyone I care about. I feel so guilty but I just don't want to be alve anymore and all the love I had has been pouring out of me with every tear and the tears just aren't stopping. I wish I didn't do that but idk what to do anymore
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Blood
I grew up in a small town and im still stuck here, Im tired of people running their mouths behind my back, blocking/ghosting multiple times, and the fact that people NEVER forgive for ANYTHING even though ive apologized and tried to make things right.
I've changed a LOT in ten years, and I need to get out of here because I attract toxic people who simply dont care and are selfish by nature.
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I grew up in a small town and im still stuck here, Im tired of people running their mouths behind my back, blocking/ghosting multiple times, and the fact that people NEVER forgive for ANYTHING even though ive apologized and tried to make things right.
I've changed a LOT in ten years, and I need to get out of here because I attract toxic people who simply dont care and are selfish by nature.
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Centrist
BECAUSE THEY ARE IMMATURE COWARDS
Let's be clear. Ghosting is not rejecting someone and they can't take no for an answer
Ghosting is selfishly saying nothing and leaving the other person in a limbo - no argument, no rejection 9and therefore no obvious reason) their hopes shattered
I have been going through this shit over the last month and it is a horrible feeling
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BECAUSE THEY ARE IMMATURE COWARDS
Let's be clear. Ghosting is not rejecting someone and they can't take no for an answer
Ghosting is selfishly saying nothing and leaving the other person in a limbo - no argument, no rejection 9and therefore no obvious reason) their hopes shattered
I have been going through this shit over the last month and it is a horrible feeling
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MRS
I keep asking people simple questions and its like 5 people in a month. It seems petty and cruel. I had a meltdown after reaching out to an old friend that I really cared about and they did the same. It's frustrating when you're just asking how someone is. It builds this sense of isolation when I'm becoming more afraid of reaching out because of this repeated response.
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I keep asking people simple questions and its like 5 people in a month. It seems petty and cruel. I had a meltdown after reaching out to an old friend that I really cared about and they did the same. It's frustrating when you're just asking how someone is. It builds this sense of isolation when I'm becoming more afraid of reaching out because of this repeated response.
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Rex
This video cheered me up. My best friend is not attracted to me because Im fat. And every time she hooks up with some muscle bound doochebag she ghosts me but after a few days I hear back from her. Honestly I wish she was attracted to me. And Im tired of being ghosted. If the gym can save me from this mental hell so be it Ill get it done.
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This video cheered me up. My best friend is not attracted to me because Im fat. And every time she hooks up with some muscle bound doochebag she ghosts me but after a few days I hear back from her. Honestly I wish she was attracted to me. And Im tired of being ghosted. If the gym can save me from this mental hell so be it Ill get it done.
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Grace
I got ghosted when I tried to confess to my crush. What's even worse is that I considered him a close friend. He probably caught on about what I was going to say, so he ghosted me. I would 100% be happier if he rejected me than what he actually did. I've lost all my respect for him. It's so selfish to just leave me confused and hurt.
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I got ghosted when I tried to confess to my crush. What's even worse is that I considered him a close friend. He probably caught on about what I was going to say, so he ghosted me. I would 100% be happier if he rejected me than what he actually did. I've lost all my respect for him. It's so selfish to just leave me confused and hurt.
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Matt
I've been ghosted in almost every friendship and relationship I've had the past year or so. Being the type of person that appreciates and strives for open and honest communication I lack the ability to understand why a person couldn't just end it with a short explanation but this video has given me a bit of perspective at least!
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I've been ghosted in almost every friendship and relationship I've had the past year or so. Being the type of person that appreciates and strives for open and honest communication I lack the ability to understand why a person couldn't just end it with a short explanation but this video has given me a bit of perspective at least!
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Fabio
I met this nice girl in summer school, and we loved chatting till one day on my b-day (2 months ago almost 3 now) she wished me a happy b-day then I never heard from her ever again no wonder how many times I texted her. I'm really worried and overthinking a lot I never did anything wrong I treated her with respect.
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I met this nice girl in summer school, and we loved chatting till one day on my b-day (2 months ago almost 3 now) she wished me a happy b-day then I never heard from her ever again no wonder how many times I texted her. I'm really worried and overthinking a lot I never did anything wrong I treated her with respect.
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Centrist
Unless someone has been in a serious accident, their entire internet and phone connection has been cut off or there has been a family tragedy that has really distracted them - there is no valid excuse
We all face difficulties in life, but it is no excuse to screw with other people's mental health
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Unless someone has been in a serious accident, their entire internet and phone connection has been cut off or there has been a family tragedy that has really distracted them - there is no valid excuse
We all face difficulties in life, but it is no excuse to screw with other people's mental health
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Elisa
People mostly think the others are ghosting because they are tired of the person and dont give a f to answer but i get it more as when someone is scared to reply too fast so they seem like desperate OR they clearly jst dont have time to answer atm but it dosent mean the person dislikes u or smth.
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People mostly think the others are ghosting because they are tired of the person and dont give a f to answer but i get it more as when someone is scared to reply too fast so they seem like desperate OR they clearly jst dont have time to answer atm but it dosent mean the person dislikes u or smth.
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Alex333
Ghosting is also for people who let you down over and over and want attention but not anything else. The ghoster finally gets fed up and walks away. Look in the mirror and ask yourself why that person is gone. You prob know why dont you. people dont just go away unless your track record sux.
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Ghosting is also for people who let you down over and over and want attention but not anything else. The ghoster finally gets fed up and walks away. Look in the mirror and ask yourself why that person is gone. You prob know why dont you. people dont just go away unless your track record sux.
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The
I kinda ghosted a friend and i hate it sm but it was due to circumstances and life but like k couldve sent some few messages uk but i didnt and i hate it sm i dont wanna lose this friend i rly wanna talk to them again but idk how would they respond to me or what would i say i feel so ashamed tbh
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I kinda ghosted a friend and i hate it sm but it was due to circumstances and life but like k couldve sent some few messages uk but i didnt and i hate it sm i dont wanna lose this friend i rly wanna talk to them again but idk how would they respond to me or what would i say i feel so ashamed tbh
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Kyo
I ghosted someone due to their talk of communication and investment in our relationship no matter what I said or talked about they would only send me minimal if at all messages not all ghosting is bad it was my time to let go bc I had no more words I still loved them but we are not compatible
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I ghosted someone due to their talk of communication and investment in our relationship no matter what I said or talked about they would only send me minimal if at all messages not all ghosting is bad it was my time to let go bc I had no more words I still loved them but we are not compatible
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