8 Signs You May Be Codependent
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Date: 2023-08-20
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Yu
A friend of mine is being so codependent. It all started when he started on another relationship and deep down I worried so much that it will change our friendship.
Of course as my instincts told me he wouldn't stop talking about his girlfriend whenever we talk about other things. Kept telling me how he can't go outside without his girlfriend being with him type of way. Then made a dumb example like this it's like losing a body part and you can't do anything without it.
Hearing this hurt so much it just meant that he only cared about his girlfriend no matter what despite it being only a few months. He started dating her around the end of February this year and while I get that it's how relationships works but there comes a time and place where one shouldn't completely ditch other important needs.
I told him about it yesterday and he thought codependency is a good thing. Clearly it's gone to a point where our friendship is on the bumpy road and I'm not sure what else to do anymore.
Having to accept the fact that I feel used and have been there for him during his down times while he gets his happiness just makes me feel like a fool for being a supporter for him in the first place
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A friend of mine is being so codependent. It all started when he started on another relationship and deep down I worried so much that it will change our friendship.
Of course as my instincts told me he wouldn't stop talking about his girlfriend whenever we talk about other things. Kept telling me how he can't go outside without his girlfriend being with him type of way. Then made a dumb example like this it's like losing a body part and you can't do anything without it.
Hearing this hurt so much it just meant that he only cared about his girlfriend no matter what despite it being only a few months. He started dating her around the end of February this year and while I get that it's how relationships works but there comes a time and place where one shouldn't completely ditch other important needs.
I told him about it yesterday and he thought codependency is a good thing. Clearly it's gone to a point where our friendship is on the bumpy road and I'm not sure what else to do anymore.
Having to accept the fact that I feel used and have been there for him during his down times while he gets his happiness just makes me feel like a fool for being a supporter for him in the first place
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Pony
My ex told me I was codependent and it ate him alive and that I was a horrible person bc of it. I tried everything to fix it, it made me hate myself. My now boyfriend is very very clearly codependent (while I'm not anymore, and I see absolutely nothing wrong with that. I love him. I have no problem reassuring him because I care for him. I try to make him understand he is loved and secure so he heals little by little but even if he doesn't, I don't care. I am happy by his sides, I love him.
If you are codependent, and you want to fix it, ask yourself why. If you want to do so, do it so your heart is healed, so you are loved by you, for you. Don't do it bc someone made you feel bad about it. You are not a bad person. You are just a person with emotional wounds that need patience and care to stop hurting.
Be gentle with you and your big heart because you are a 100% worthy of it.
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My ex told me I was codependent and it ate him alive and that I was a horrible person bc of it. I tried everything to fix it, it made me hate myself. My now boyfriend is very very clearly codependent (while I'm not anymore, and I see absolutely nothing wrong with that. I love him. I have no problem reassuring him because I care for him. I try to make him understand he is loved and secure so he heals little by little but even if he doesn't, I don't care. I am happy by his sides, I love him.
If you are codependent, and you want to fix it, ask yourself why. If you want to do so, do it so your heart is healed, so you are loved by you, for you. Don't do it bc someone made you feel bad about it. You are not a bad person. You are just a person with emotional wounds that need patience and care to stop hurting.
Be gentle with you and your big heart because you are a 100% worthy of it.
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MentalRebllion
Ill be honest, I clicked on this because I designed a dnd character that is codependent and is working on it. It was my way of alluding to him assuming he lost his twin in his past and this was one way he developed a trauma response to it. Sorry, just was trying to be honest on why I clicked this. I was wanting to make sure I did my research (this isnt my only resource Im looking at) about how to correctly portray this and also how it might change with the fact that his race is extremely long lived too. How much more self aware is he of certain habits and how much of this has he already worked hard on overcoming. I like to take healing as a serious development and arc for my characters and sometimes this manifests on me focusing on psych issues they want to overcome. Anyway, again, just wanted to be honest.
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Ill be honest, I clicked on this because I designed a dnd character that is codependent and is working on it. It was my way of alluding to him assuming he lost his twin in his past and this was one way he developed a trauma response to it. Sorry, just was trying to be honest on why I clicked this. I was wanting to make sure I did my research (this isnt my only resource Im looking at) about how to correctly portray this and also how it might change with the fact that his race is extremely long lived too. How much more self aware is he of certain habits and how much of this has he already worked hard on overcoming. I like to take healing as a serious development and arc for my characters and sometimes this manifests on me focusing on psych issues they want to overcome. Anyway, again, just wanted to be honest.
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mockeyize
Why my boyfriend and i just mutually broke up for now, im dependent and just realized and my mental health has sucked recently because of it. we love each other so much, and that's what hurts the most about this. we said we'd get back together if we make it there in the future and that this is just a pause. i dont know what to do and how to stop being dependent. he's still, ALWAYS, HERE FOR ME. he doesnt want me to be alone like i was in the past because he knows that hurt me a lot, but it hurts so much just not being able to be with each other. i hate this so much. im super codependent
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Why my boyfriend and i just mutually broke up for now, im dependent and just realized and my mental health has sucked recently because of it. we love each other so much, and that's what hurts the most about this. we said we'd get back together if we make it there in the future and that this is just a pause. i dont know what to do and how to stop being dependent. he's still, ALWAYS, HERE FOR ME. he doesnt want me to be alone like i was in the past because he knows that hurt me a lot, but it hurts so much just not being able to be with each other. i hate this so much. im super codependent
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mida
ive recently discovered that im codependent and I think its because of my childhood but i always thought it was just me being a nice person but no it isnt. Its like a person shows you attention and you get really emotionally attached to them. It can get so obsessive to the point you just get anxious seeing them happy without you. You end up forgetting about yourself and only prioritise that person. You just want them to be pleased with you, to reassure you, to take care of you and its just really bad.
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ive recently discovered that im codependent and I think its because of my childhood but i always thought it was just me being a nice person but no it isnt. Its like a person shows you attention and you get really emotionally attached to them. It can get so obsessive to the point you just get anxious seeing them happy without you. You end up forgetting about yourself and only prioritise that person. You just want them to be pleased with you, to reassure you, to take care of you and its just really bad.
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manya
Okay this hits close, I've been unlucky when it comes to having friends so most of the times I become insecure when they don't talk to me much often and my mood sometimes depends on if my friend talks to me or not. She is a really good friend of mine and she knows that too, it's just that I feel that she doesn't prioritize me as much as I prioritize her, or maybe I'm just overthinking this. I have done most of the things mentioned in the video here so I don't know what to do now
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Okay this hits close, I've been unlucky when it comes to having friends so most of the times I become insecure when they don't talk to me much often and my mood sometimes depends on if my friend talks to me or not. She is a really good friend of mine and she knows that too, it's just that I feel that she doesn't prioritize me as much as I prioritize her, or maybe I'm just overthinking this. I have done most of the things mentioned in the video here so I don't know what to do now
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Boo
After losing friends I put up with mega shit from for decades, and their ridiculous politics, just to keep the peace, they stabbed me in the back and dumped me during Trump/Plandemic.
It hurt at 1st, but now that they're all shot up, spun out & indoctrinated, I'm so damn glad I don't have to hear the suicidal bs til 1am, or threats of being dumped for telling the Go-da truth!
Good riddance! I now walk alone, and am staying that way till I die.
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After losing friends I put up with mega shit from for decades, and their ridiculous politics, just to keep the peace, they stabbed me in the back and dumped me during Trump/Plandemic.
It hurt at 1st, but now that they're all shot up, spun out & indoctrinated, I'm so damn glad I don't have to hear the suicidal bs til 1am, or threats of being dumped for telling the Go-da truth!
Good riddance! I now walk alone, and am staying that way till I die.
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kenny
summary:
1. Constant reassurance seeking 0: 44
2. Feeling responsible for problem solving 1: 12
3. You cant say no 1: 41
4. You need to avoid conflict 2: 17
5. Youll do anything to hold on to the relationship 3: 18
6. You only feel valued when youre needed 3: 50
7. Too concerned with others feelings and needs 4: 25
8. Struggling to identify your own needs and emotions 5: 05
Recommend watching to learn more
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summary:
1. Constant reassurance seeking 0: 44
2. Feeling responsible for problem solving 1: 12
3. You cant say no 1: 41
4. You need to avoid conflict 2: 17
5. Youll do anything to hold on to the relationship 3: 18
6. You only feel valued when youre needed 3: 50
7. Too concerned with others feelings and needs 4: 25
8. Struggling to identify your own needs and emotions 5: 05
Recommend watching to learn more
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Rotondwa
Im currently in a relationship and Ive known that Im codependent. Im thinking of leaving now because Im drained emotionally. I always apologise, always get anxious when I dont get a good morning text. I often feel like I need to walk on eggshells to avoid making my partner angry. Its scary because I feel like hes used to me always apologising and hardly ever tries to be the bigger person whenever we have a fight. Im just tired
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Im currently in a relationship and Ive known that Im codependent. Im thinking of leaving now because Im drained emotionally. I always apologise, always get anxious when I dont get a good morning text. I often feel like I need to walk on eggshells to avoid making my partner angry. Its scary because I feel like hes used to me always apologising and hardly ever tries to be the bigger person whenever we have a fight. Im just tired
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Clayton
This is not the actual definition of codependency, and is contributing to confusion and misinformation around it.
Codependency is not neediness.
Codependency is an addiction to enabling or supporting someone with a mental illness or substance abuse problem.
It is fundamentally about addiction to an unhealthy relationship.
What you describe here are self worth issues; not all dependence is codependency
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This is not the actual definition of codependency, and is contributing to confusion and misinformation around it.
Codependency is not neediness.
Codependency is an addiction to enabling or supporting someone with a mental illness or substance abuse problem.
It is fundamentally about addiction to an unhealthy relationship.
What you describe here are self worth issues; not all dependence is codependency
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Alex
Its just so hard because shes my best friend. I have been in the honeymoon phase for the past 3 years and we recently went long distance and its really hard. I feel like a burden on her and im afraid that shell find some guy where she is and drop me no matter how many times she tells me im the one and only. She makes me feel really happy and I just really dont know what Id do if I lost her.
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Its just so hard because shes my best friend. I have been in the honeymoon phase for the past 3 years and we recently went long distance and its really hard. I feel like a burden on her and im afraid that shell find some guy where she is and drop me no matter how many times she tells me im the one and only. She makes me feel really happy and I just really dont know what Id do if I lost her.
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Yuujikon
how does codependacy work in terms of childhood trauma and autism and adhd, im currently noticing i have an issue where i feel like i get clingy (if not something like it when i get even the smallest ammount of attention/affection/interest) is it even codependacy when it comes to being related to childhood trauma? ;o; i need hellp with understanding this!
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how does codependacy work in terms of childhood trauma and autism and adhd, im currently noticing i have an issue where i feel like i get clingy (if not something like it when i get even the smallest ammount of attention/affection/interest) is it even codependacy when it comes to being related to childhood trauma? ;o; i need hellp with understanding this!
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Jack
Ive struggled with 4 BAAAD for a long time and am still trying to unlearn this behavior. I would bring up thing that may come up in the future and try to solve them even tho it has not happened yet. Its actually the reason my long term relationship burned out. Had no idea i was creating a problem, which is why im doing my best to remove this problem.
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Ive struggled with 4 BAAAD for a long time and am still trying to unlearn this behavior. I would bring up thing that may come up in the future and try to solve them even tho it has not happened yet. Its actually the reason my long term relationship burned out. Had no idea i was creating a problem, which is why im doing my best to remove this problem.
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education
uhhh. i guess i dont need this, i dont even have a relationship, i mean relationship like a partner. if this is about partners? i really have no clue, since im just done with everything. i just wanna know what the personality traits they have. i dont even know if i am a super empath all along.
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uhhh. i guess i dont need this, i dont even have a relationship, i mean relationship like a partner. if this is about partners? i really have no clue, since im just done with everything. i just wanna know what the personality traits they have. i dont even know if i am a super empath all along.
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Johnny
Try having CPTSD. I have done more inner-work than the Dalai Lama and no matter how much I heal, and psychologically understand why I feel the way I do, it doesn't prevent my body from keeping the score. Getting into relationships is constant discomfort and anxiety.
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Try having CPTSD. I have done more inner-work than the Dalai Lama and no matter how much I heal, and psychologically understand why I feel the way I do, it doesn't prevent my body from keeping the score. Getting into relationships is constant discomfort and anxiety.
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Legend
I think my father and mother miss my whole life up since a child they didnt know what to do and a lot of financial things and Ive been working since 15 now four years old and it really messed me up I think this is what it basically is
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I think my father and mother miss my whole life up since a child they didnt know what to do and a lot of financial things and Ive been working since 15 now four years old and it really messed me up I think this is what it basically is
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Alyson
But once you try to stop being codependent, how much attachment is too much? We're in a relationship and stuff so we still have to emotionally connect to keep it going. How much time can you spend together before the limit overshot?
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But once you try to stop being codependent, how much attachment is too much? We're in a relationship and stuff so we still have to emotionally connect to keep it going. How much time can you spend together before the limit overshot?
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BallDestroyer3000
My ex and I were both codependent in the worst way possible. It was miserable. But then again if we never entered that relationship we would never have learned anything about this. So I'm still thankful for that.
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My ex and I were both codependent in the worst way possible. It was miserable. But then again if we never entered that relationship we would never have learned anything about this. So I'm still thankful for that.
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AAABIRDMAN
I've looked at a lot of psych2go videos, but I've never related to one so heavily before! I'm pretty sure I fit every sign of codependency, which is relieving because know I can work through it now! Thanks for that!
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I've looked at a lot of psych2go videos, but I've never related to one so heavily before! I'm pretty sure I fit every sign of codependency, which is relieving because know I can work through it now! Thanks for that!
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Rachaella
This is Rachella I am Bipolar and Depressed right now now I have my own demons and I have Better Brain and I don't have disbiality at all This is Rachella. I am angel girl and angel eyes too This is Rachella.
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This is Rachella I am Bipolar and Depressed right now now I have my own demons and I have Better Brain and I don't have disbiality at all This is Rachella. I am angel girl and angel eyes too This is Rachella.
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MAREX
My codependency is so bad that I get suicide thoughts when some one isn't 100 invested in me, dating is so hard, when i get blue ticked for a few hours my entire day is ruined, my ex had Bpd so that was fun
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My codependency is so bad that I get suicide thoughts when some one isn't 100 invested in me, dating is so hard, when i get blue ticked for a few hours my entire day is ruined, my ex had Bpd so that was fun
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Imagined
So how am I supposed to feel then if I love someone who still love me and want space. Do I stop loving? Do I give space? How is it that I'm hurting so much from this but she's just fine
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So how am I supposed to feel then if I love someone who still love me and want space. Do I stop loving? Do I give space? How is it that I'm hurting so much from this but she's just fine
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Macongula
I think there was a point in time where I could have been co dependent but instead just embraced loneliness and found my self feeling happier alone than with someone else
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I think there was a point in time where I could have been co dependent but instead just embraced loneliness and found my self feeling happier alone than with someone else
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MsStephanieJane31
I share some of these traits; more then not. What should I do? I do worry if my partner really loves me a lot and I hate starting arguments even when its needed
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I share some of these traits; more then not. What should I do? I do worry if my partner really loves me a lot and I hate starting arguments even when its needed
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Donal
You had me at: 30. I don't openly ask for reassurances. But I suffer to the point of depression without it.
As I continue to watch. How long have you known me?
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You had me at: 30. I don't openly ask for reassurances. But I suffer to the point of depression without it.
As I continue to watch. How long have you known me?
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